Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today.

episode one of season six. Wow, I'm so excited

to be launching this new season every season has, yeah, its own

touch. And let's see what the season is going to be about and

how it's going to serve you. Help you heal, recover, let go.

Move on.

Yes, all of the above.

I want to create a space for you where you can rest and recharge

your batteries and reconnect to yourself and be stronger, more

resilient. In the video, a person that is driven by love

and compassion

with an open mind and open heart,

men and women

all together in this.

And I must say my main focus is actually to

better the relationship between men and women and to address the

tensions that I can feel

in society right now.

Today, I want to talk about how you can heal your relationship

to women.

And you don't necessarily have to be a man who was heartbroken.

Like disappointed by a woman once you can be a girl who was

heard by girlfriends or disappointed by their mom or

grandma.

It doesn't actually matter which gender you are,

how you identify because we both

not we both but we have both energies within us and bear with

me, I'm not gonna get too spiritual. But

this is for me, the easiest way to describe it, there is a

driven force of force that longs for structure that pushes

forward

roaming within us. And then there is a force that is very

nurturing and receptive, intuitive.

And I just like to describe, or to label these energies as

masculine and feminine.

And again, it doesn't matter

in which body you were born, we have both energies

and lots of more energies

roaming inside of us, but those two energies is what I want to

talk about today. So you will see women and society who are

very driven very heavy, very

you know, elbow II

they are

yeah, sometimes even aggressive. Is it

active aggression or passive aggression.

And these women, I want to say have learned that they have to

adapt to the masculine in order to survive and society in order

to get shit done.

But those women aren't necessarily happier than other

women who choose to stay in their feminine and choose to

live a life of nurturing and receiving and creating. And I'll

get don't get me wrong, these power driven people also get

lots done. But I want to talk about the people who are out of

balance who neglect their feminine side, and I pulled out

this first example because it happens in both in men and then

women and more and more. We drift into, yeah, this masculine

energy, where we're only pushing forward

And we're proud of being exhausted, we're proud of

hitting burnout, we're proud of achieving and accomplishing so

much. And to be emotional, to be intuitive, to be quiet, is not

as valued as you would think it is.

When we feel our emotions when we have our mood swings,

especially as women who are

on their natural cycle, we see that as inconvenience.

And same goes for men, when men are

reacting in an emotional way.

When men are expressing themselves.

Like on a more feely level, we see it as a weakness instead of

strength. And there is a beautiful shift happening right

now. And I just want to keep pushing for that beautiful

shift.

Because I feel it is very important for all of us, to come

back to our intuition and to feel what is right and to learn

to distinguish what is not so good for us and what is good for

us. And that is what your intuitive side is here for.

Now, when we want to talk about how to heal your relationship

with women,

it's not a surprise for you, maybe if you have listened to my

podcast, for a little while now, it starts with you

know, how does it start with you because those women are outside

of yourself. They might be even not really in your life at the

moment because you still resent them, you cut them out of your

life and you don't want nothing to do with them.

But what I mean by

when I say

it starts with you

is that you have to start to forgive yourself. You have to

start and sit with your emotions, when you feel

something, nobody else is gonna do it for you. You have to do it

for yourself.

Because if you live a life of constant masculinity, you know

pushy energy, chances are that your relationships with women

with really feminine women is difficult as well because you're

not going to accept their femininity, if they start

expressing themselves as if they start to be intuitive,

sensitive,

you know, very sensual,

you will want to abuse that you will want to suppress it,

because it is something that you not allowing in yourself.

So how can we become

more at peace with a feminine energy?

I think

we just have to learn and take ourselves more seriously.

And what I mean by that is that we look at ourselves and start

accepting all parts.

We stop rejecting ourselves.

When we look into the mirror, for instance, or when we feel

emotions come up and it's an inconvenient point in life.

We started accepting that life is like the ocean you know it

comes and goes there's tidal waves, there's the tide.

There is all kinds of movements and change and adaptation.

Life is a flow

and not a stagnant pond.

You know life is like clouds. Like a river it floats by and

changes.

It's never the same from one second to the other. There's

always change happening and the feminine energy is very moody

and changes and that's why it also needs

The masculine to keep each other in check. And this is what I

emphasize in my podcast in my videos is that we need each

other. Of course you can all of a sudden become these super

emotional,

intuitive moods, swingy

personality, you need to keep yourself in check, but I feel

most of us, we keep ourselves too much and check. And we don't

allow playfulness, intuition.

Feelings to arise, we don't like this, we want to function we

want to be productive, we want to be effective. But it comes

with a cost, your soul will become sick of that.

If you take too much to an extreme.

You see, when I have my personal training clients or my coaching

clients,

I often realize that they're a little bit stuck

in the accomplishment, go goal driven energy. And I just need

to pull them a little bit further to the self care corner

to the corner where we allow flowing in movement and thoughts

and perception

and playfulness.

And most of the time, if not all of the time, those people are

being helped a lot already.

Yeah. So once you learn to accept yourself, and embrace

all the little bits that back in the day, you would have seen as

failures, you are making peace with your internal feminine.

And in doing so you will heal your relationships with the

women in your life.

Now, of course, if the women in your life are very heavy, and

masculine driven,

it will be tough because now all of a sudden you gotta be

challenging them. But that challenge is a good one for

them, I believe because it's going to inspire them to go a

similar path.

And when I say making peace with the women in your life, I don't

mean that you might get back with your ex or completely heal

your relationships with them. Because it is still their choice

and their decision. But for yourself for your own sake. You

will find peace

and your chest within yourself

you Yeah.

I think that was it for today.

I was at war with my feminine for the longest time. Many of

you know that I was raped when I was in my 20s and after that

I excessively worked out I was yeah, in relationships with men

but always managed to manipulate myself out to not really show up

as myself because

I was hurt back then I was abused and I was

now scared and felt I had to defend myself or it was all of

the time.

And that thinking

turned me into this more than necessary masculine woman.

And I kept driving my partner's away instead of towards me.

And once I've learned to embrace my feminine side, again, my

sensitive side and to be vulnerable again.

To respect my

intuition, to allow feelings to come up.

To know that I don't have to be strong all the time. I can be

soft and playful.

That was the time when I started healing.

And not only started healing from the inside, but I healed my

relay

ships with my girlfriends

and with the men in my life, my dad, my brother,

my guy friends.

And I was then able to start a beautiful nurturing relationship

with my boyfriend I have today.

So it is a really

valuable journey to address and to be on.

Because it's going to make your life

so much easier. In the end, it will be tough at times to be

vulnerable again, and to be sensitive and to show up as your

true self. Don't get me wrong, it's it's a lot of time you're

like, oh my god, what is this shit. So I thought it was an

easy path to surrender and to heal. But it is not. But it is

so worth it.

So I hope I was able to deliver this episode in a way that was

easy to understand and broad lots of

value to your life. Maybe a little bit of a new perspective

on on healing and approaching self care.

I would love to hear your comments. I would love to hear

what you think and where are you add I

am on your journey to recovery and healing.

Healing Your relationship with women.

Thank you so much for listening. I appreciate you so much.

And yeah, I'm very excited to be with you on this journey. If

ever you feel the need to. Yeah, talk to me personally and to

have someone hear you out and ask for advice or

have a different like perspective given then never

hesitate to contact me and we'll have a 60 minute coach call,

which is entirely free.

The first session is on me. And I bow down to your courage and

your willingness to change and to look at yourself and see what

potential is in there that we together can bring out.

Alright, until next time. Bye bye