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Welcome to the Peak Revival Podcast.

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My name is Vesna.

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Today I'm gonna talk about the winner effect explained and

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why acknowledging your wins makes a huge difference to

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the results that you create.

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Now, I've been.

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Following this for years, unknowingly.

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And I recently picked up a book which talked about it

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and I thought, oh yes, that makes total sense for me.

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That absolutely works.

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And so sometimes, you know, we look for the right

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strategy, having the right mindset and something.

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It can be as simple as

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acknowledging your wins

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that has a huge impact on your results, and quite often what

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we look for is the results first to then, you know, be

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happy about our progress.

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But it's kind of backwards, right?

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I'm gonna explain why.

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So how often do you achieve something, something good

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happens in your life and you literally go, oh yeah, that's

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great, and you brush it off and you forget about it.

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But if something's going wrong or something could

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go wrong, you focus on it, you obsess about it, or

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you overthink it, right?

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And it's on your mind.

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You can't let it go.

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It's interesting, right?

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The things that.

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Bring us joy and that we were working towards and that, make

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us feel good, like something that's a good result.

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We don't really give it much time to focus on, we just

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focus on the negative, right?

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We focus on the gap.

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What's the potential problem ahead?

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What we don't have, right?

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That's where our mind gets stuck.

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Duck.

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I noticed this with my work many years ago with clients

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that, if you were left to your own accord to track how

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you were feeling, you would say that you don't feel any

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different, or maybe you feel a little bit different, right?

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Sleep, energy, appetite, whatever it is.

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when someone is tracking you.

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You really see the big leaps and bounds that you've

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made in your progress.

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That is hard to identify because we have trained

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ourselves to not look for these things.

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We have trained ourselves to look for the negative,

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and I'll explain more.

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So our brain has this default setting.

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So we have the amygdala part of our brain, which is the

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tiny, tiny little center that activates the fight or

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flight response, creates the downstream effect of stress.

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Cortisol disrupts our hormones, breaks down

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our gut causes insulin resistance belly.

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And so much more, right?

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But that little amygdala is a threat detection

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system so it is constantly scanning your environment

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automatically for threats.

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and this is your brain's filter, and this is what?

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Gets your attention.

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And so the RAs or the reticular activating

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system doesn't distinguish between what you want

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and what you don't want.

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It simply looks for what you focus on, right?

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So the amygdala's out there scanning for threats.

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You are habitually trained and programmed yourself.

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To look for what could go wrong?

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What is wrong?

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Where's the gap?

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What don't I have right now?

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And so the reticular activating system is

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looking for that, right?

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So you've got the amygdala at work, you've got the RA

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system at work, and you're not focused on anything

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that is for a long period of time, I should say, not

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focus on the good for a long period of time, but you'll

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spend a lot more of your thinking process stuck on.

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The bad, the negative, right?

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And so these two systems are working together as a default

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setting, looking for all the negative things, right?

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And the unfortunate thing is that plays a big role

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on our mood

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on our brain chemistry

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and even our results.

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So the RAs, this reticular activating system

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highlights more problems.

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It's a, it's called a confirmation bias.

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You literally see more of what you're looking for.

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So a really good example is, you know, you're

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thinking of buying a red car or a blue car, right?

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You don't see them anywhere or a particular type

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of car, like, I'm gonna get this Honda, or I'm

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gonna get this Mercedes, and you don't see it.

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And then all of a sudden when you want to buy it

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or you want that car for yourself, you see it.

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Everywhere.

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Right?

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And that's called a confirmation bias.

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And so that's that system at play, basically

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bringing your attention.

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So you're literally seeing more of what

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you're looking for.

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So I, I found this book recently called The Winner

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Effect by Ian Robertson, and he talked about how when

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we have success, it changes our brain chemistry and

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it makes us more focused.

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It makes us more smarter, it makes us confident,

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it increases our hormones as well, like it's as

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powerful as any drug.

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And so he said, successful people or winners understand

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this, and they use it to their advantage.

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So for example, instead of looking at the negative,

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instead of looking.

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What you don't have right now, or comparing

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yourself to others or what went wrong, right?

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But really searching in your day to find what went right?

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What's good about my life?

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What am I happy about?

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What did I achieve today?

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What are the little micro wins that I have today?

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And actually spending time enjoying that, like actually

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going into that and bringing up those feelings of.

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I'm pretty proud of myself.

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That was pretty good.

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It's micro little win, but it's a really good win.

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Right.

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That's really great.

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I actually would've loved to have that win so much,

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probably a year ago, and now it's like a, it's like

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a micro win now, right?

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So really get into it, get excited about it.

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Right.

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And what that does.

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It changes your brain chemistry.

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And as Eden Robertson said, it's more

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powerful than any drug.

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And And what it does, I kind of look at it

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like a staircase, right?

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So as you create that acknowledgement of that

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win, and you really bathe in it, right?

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You kind of go up the next step of the staircase, right?

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And then you see more opportunities of things that.

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Are working well for you, more opportunities

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come your way, right?

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It's a funny thing.

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And then as you bathe in that a little bit more,

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you go up another step.

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And as you continue to do that, more opportunities, more

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good luck, more things happen your way and you're enjoying

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that process more, and you keep going up another step and

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another step and another step until you reach a completely

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new level where you are.

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Finding success is much easier for you.

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And when I talk about success, I'm not talking about business

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success or career success.

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I'm talking about relationship success, weight loss

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success, health success, money success, right?

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So all different areas because if you start

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to focus on your wins.

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You're going to find more wins.

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You're going to create more wins, which will open you

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up to more opportunity.

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But there is a biochemical shift that happens

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in the body as well.

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So your brain literally becomes upgraded.

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You start disconnecting from all that negative stuff that

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you're focused on, and you start to see the positive.

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And so it's really about retraining the brain.

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And I think, you know, when I look at my work with clients,

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so I've been using this effect for many, many years because

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when I speak to clients.

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And I'm gonna talk about what we do in our programs too.

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But when I speak to my clients, you know, I

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will always ask them, where's your energy at?

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Like, how did you say how, how's your sleep

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been over the last week?

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And I will use their words, their language.

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I'll write it down, right?

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So in the beginning, when I first see them, after a

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week or two weeks, whatever, I check in with them.

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I'll ask them the same questions.

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I'll ask them like, how you been going?

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Yeah, okay.

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You know, or, yeah, great.

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But yeah.

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Okay.

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All right.

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So let's, let's have a look.

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So what about.

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You know, last time I spoke to you, you said like, you

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know, in the afternoon, like your, your energy was

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crashing at like two 3:00 PM.

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And they're like, oh, I don't even have that anymore.

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That is so funny.

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Oh my gosh.

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I didn't even realize I don't have that.

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I have not had that at all.

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Right.

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And then you talk about something about stress,

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about sleep or, or cravings, and they're like, no,

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that, that is crazy.

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That is so much better.

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But they don't notice it.

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Right?

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So I, I literally use their words.

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I write it down and then I repeat that back to

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them when I see them.

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And it does so much to upgrade the brain

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that they go, yes, I'm.

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Actually getting great results here, which they

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did not notice themselves.

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And it's really powerful because it helps them

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to create confidence.

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It obviously changes their brain chemistry, but

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they create confidence.

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they find the next step a lot easier, right?

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So we keep building upon that, right?

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So that the end, they've had great success and they

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feel amazing and they're very proud of themselves.

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But it's a very important part of the process.

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I do that in our program.

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So I, I ask people every week to acknowledge their wins

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and some do and some don't.

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And sometimes it looks like, oh, that's a

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nice to have exercise.

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But it's literally upgrading your brain and it's

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literally changing that reticular activating system

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to find more wins, which is leading you to move.

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Another step up that staircase to this point where you become

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at another level, you become at a much higher level than

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you were at the beginning.

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So you're like elevating your state, you're elevating

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your mood, your, your mental energy sharpens.

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You see possibilities that you couldn't see before.

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You have a confidence that you didn't have before.

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when you are operating at a different level,

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you have different opportunities available

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to you at that level.

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And that's the whole idea of, all right, and that's

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the whole idea of the Winning Effect book that

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EED Robertson talked about is that successful people.

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Understand this, they ride the wave of the

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winds no matter how small.

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They stack those wind and they keep riding them, and the

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more they feel good, the more opportunities come to them.

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The more they can create better results.

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They keep stacking those wins.

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They ride that wave, and then the next, and then the next.

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Right.

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It kind of makes sense as I'm describing it,

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but how often honestly, do you sit and think.

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Yeah, but I still have so much weight to lose or you

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know, I'm still don't have the money that I wanna have,

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or my business is not in the place that I want it to be,

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or whatever it is, right?

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How often are you thinking that rather than, actually

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I did do really well, right?

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This is, this is a win.

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This is a great win, and really sit in it

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and enjoy it, right?

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Stretch it out, bathe in it, like really enjoy that moment.

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So it has that biochemical shift in your body, so it does

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start to retrain the brain.

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So looking for wins can literally be your fuel

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to the next level of success in whatever your

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goals are right now.

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Okay?

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Can be personal, can be health, can be business,

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can be anything.

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So this, using this as your strategy.

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To fuel your success without willpower, without trying to

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force yourself or discipline.

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Right?

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It's very simple.

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There is, I guess, some discipline because you

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have to keep refocusing.

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You have to keep reminding yourself, oh, hold on.

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I am looking for wins today.

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Right?

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And so the question isn't whether you're

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making progress.

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the question is are you looking for it?

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Are you looking forward in what you're doing right now?

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'cause I promise you, as you see the progress, you

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start to feel better and it just becomes more enjoyable

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to continue that process.

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if you are in one of my programs, please

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acknowledge your wins when we ask for them.

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And if you are doing anything else on your own,

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it would be a really good time to start listing out

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at the end of the day, what are my wins for today?

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And really start to enjoy them.

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I'd love to hear your comments below this video.