Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And how are you doing with your acknowledgments and gratitudes?

Now, if you're having trouble with acknowledgments, that means you have a tendency to blame yourself and not give yourself credit where credit is due.

And if you have a hard time with gratitudes, it means you have a tendency to blame the world.

So which one's harder for you, acknowledgements or gratitudes?

Now, for some of us, gratitudes are very difficult.

We see just what we're not getting, not what we are getting.

We see what we've been denied rather than what we've received.

So practice.

If you're having a difficult time with gratitude, say to yourself, okay, where am I blaming the world for my life?

Where am I blaming the world for not getting what I think I need, Right?

Ask yourself those tough questions if you're having a difficult time with acknowledgments.

You probably, and this is the norm here at Fearless Living, because we attract people who have a tendency to be over responsible, which means if you're over responsible, that means you have a tendency to blame yourself.

And another thing that happens with acknowledgments is most people start off writing big giant acknowledgements, right?

Like, today I acknowledge myself for remodeling my house.

That's a big giant acknowledgement.

That's awesome.

Like, yeah, you right, except that acknowledgement could be broken down into 10 acknowledgments.

Maybe 20, maybe 15, maybe three.

Every single time you had to make a decision about something that was at any way a stretch, risk or die, acknowledge yourself.

So maybe even making the decision to remodel your house is an acknowledgement.

Maybe finding and doing research on the architect or the builder or the contractor, whoever you decided to hire, if you were at all sweating it out, you know, concerned about it, worried about it, but then you finally did decide.

That's an acknowledgement.

If you freaked out about which tile you were going to pick or what flooring, and maybe you got some support, maybe you looked at some Pinterest photos, but then you finally decided, acknowledge yourself.

See, I want you to be thinking about any time you're outside your comfort zone, anytime it takes you some effort, anytime it takes a moment of you to be more awake, anytime that you're stretching, risking, or dying outside your comfort zone.

So, no, an acknowledgement is not eating Doritos on the couch, watching a movie, unless of course, you are a workaholic.

And the fact that you stopped and are eating Doritos and watching a movie is a miracle, then yes, acknowledge yourself.

So I want you to look at the last year of your life and I want you to start breaking it up.

Acknowledgments, stretch, risk or die and gratitudes.

Where have people attempted to support you?

Where has the world opened up for you?

Where has synchronicity happened?

Where did somebody give you a smile that you could have that you really needed at that moment?

Or maybe you didn't need it, but they smiled anyway and it was a stranger and it just felt good to connect.

See, you can be grateful every day for so many things.

So be conscientious.

Be awake to the fact that our brain, that lovely wheel of fear, wants our acknowledgments and gratitudes to be big and glorious and amazing.

When in fact those things aren't.

What changes aren't the things that change our lives.

It's the small things, it's the daily things.

It's the moments that you own that you take back, that you say, yes, this is my moment, this is my time, this is my decision.

And then doing the work in order to release what you think should happen, to listen to what could happen.

So how you doing with those acknowledging gratitudes?

Come on now.

I can't wait for you to share some.

I can't wait to see your acknowledgments and gratitudes because I can't wait to hear all the glorious things that you've experienced.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.