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If you can stick with me and you can understand the

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science behind what we're going to talk about, it is applicable to

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every human. And we're going to specifically talk about the

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fact that erectile dysfunction by itself is

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an independent risk factor for having a major

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adverse cardiac event. Holy sh t.

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So even if you have no family history of heart disease, if

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you exercise, you don't smoke, you don't drink, if you're having a

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little problem in the bedroom, attaining an erection or

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maintaining an erection, it could indicate that you might be

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at higher risk of having a major cardiac event in the next

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three years. Welcome to open Heart Surgery with Boots,

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where this February we're going below the

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belt. That's right, we're diving into the

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surprisingly connected world of heart surgery and

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pelvic floor health in this five part series.

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Join me and our special guest expert, Dr. Kelly

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Sudakis as we talk about everything you're too embarrassed

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to ask your cardiologist. From what makes a happy

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pelvis to getting your groove back after surgery,

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to yes, even the great post op poop

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debate. With candid conversations, practical

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advice and plenty of laughs, we're exploring the

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ups and downs of recovery because let's face it,

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healing happens from top to bottom. So

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buckle up for some real talk about the parts of recovery nobody

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warned you about. Hello, Boots Knighton

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here with open heart surgery with Boots. And Kelly

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Sudakis is back for episode two

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of our heart and pelvis series.

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Wow. I hope if you're just now finding us, I hope you'll go back and

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listen to the first episode because it really does help

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set you up for understanding all things

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pelvis. I asked Kelly to start us off

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with 101 pelvic health. What it looks

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like, feels like, how it should operate and then what

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happens when it goes arai. And so that now brings

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us to our second installment, which is

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erectile dysfunction. Hey, we get to talk

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about penises.

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This is important because. Hi, I'm Dr. Kelly

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Sadowskis, double board certified pelvic physical therapist. If you didn't meet me in the

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first episode, and my goal in life is

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to break down barriers that are preventing you

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from understanding your body and the bodies of the people you love

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love. So most likely you either have a penis

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or you love someone with a penis. So this is going to be

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very important information. Boots and I were chatting a little bit and

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she's like, well, is this erectile dysfunction in men and women?

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Which is a very valid question because yes, the

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we ladies, we actually have like Little. Our clitorises are actually little,

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tiny penises. They arose from the same

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embryonic tissue as a male penis. So we can still

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also have erectile dysfunction. But guess

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what? This will not shock you. We don't study erectile

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dysfunction in ladies. And we being the scientific community at

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large, because we don't study anything in women, because hormones.

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And that's bull crap. But that is the reason

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that most of the studies and the things that I'm going to talk to you

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about today are a little bit more leaning towards

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male anatomy, people with penises. But. But if

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you can stick with me and you can understand the science

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behind what we're going to talk about, it is applicable to every

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human. And we're going to specifically talk about the fact that

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erectile dysfunction by itself is an

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independent risk factor for having a major

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adverse cardiac event. Holy shit.

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So even if you have no family history of heart disease, if

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you exercise, you don't smoke, you don't drink, if you're having

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a little problems in the bedroom, attaining an erection or

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maintaining an erection, it could indicate that you might be

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at higher risk of having a major cardiac event in the next

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three years. So you got to get your cute pelvis, or if this is your

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loved one, get their cute pelvis into a cardiologist for some

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primary preventative screening. Okay. All right, that

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being said, let's dive into what is an

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erection and what is erectile dysfunction? So, okay, so

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you just talked about why we should care, but let's go even more

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basic than that. Like, why is sexual health

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important? Why should we even be talking about this?

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I know about the cardiac risk factors, but just for the

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overall, like, picture of health and

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thriving as a Homo sapien. Oh, my gosh, that is

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a fabulous question. Like, so, first and foremost, even at, like,

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the most basic level, why do we care about sexual function?

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Even before I talk about, you know, the risk factors of that erectile dysfunction,

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Sexual function can be an important part

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of any human's life journey,

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right? There are legitimately some individuals that it is not a

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priority. And that's fine. If it's not a priority for

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you, you're not alone. But more, I would say a

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greater percentage of people start to lose interest

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in sexual activity because it becomes either painful

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or challenging to do physically, either because the actual pelvic

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parts are no longer up to snuff, or orthopedically,

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perhaps we have back pain or hip pain, and we don't know about how to

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change positions. Ladies and people with vaginas,

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as we age, our hormones change. That

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can be one part of a puzzle that makes intimate functions

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a little painful or less enjoyable. And so we might tend, rather than

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trying to fix the problem and make them just as enjoyable as they

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were in our younger years, we might tend to not do that anymore.

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And why that matters is

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sexual function could be something that you can enjoy again. And when

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you can enjoy it, it is a powerful bonding experience

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between you and your partner. It's good exercise, whether

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you're with a partner or by yourself. And it

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involves a release of endorphins that is good for overall

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mental health and pain management. So the

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ability to achieve an enjoyable

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climax. It's kind of a litmus

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test, so to speak, as far as how the whole system

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is working the brain, body connection for that sexual

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response, the physical health of the muscles around the pelvic floor to

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have that appropriate sexual response regardless of your

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anatomy. And if we can't do that, then maybe it's a

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sign that, ooh, this is an opportunity for us to get a little

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bit better. And then, and then we look at the science of

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specifically erectile dysfunction. Being able to potentially

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be a risk factor for heart problems down the road.

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Ooh, now that's interesting. And if we do have open

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heart surgery, the recovery of that sexual function, that's

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another piece that sometimes is overlooked in your cardiac

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rehab. Right. And so we want to, in later segments, actually dive into that.

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About sex is a endurance event. How do. Is your heart ready for it?

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Is your pelvic floor ready for it? Okay, yeah.

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So that. Thank you. Yeah, that sets the scene because I think it's just

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so important to have buy in, especially for those who may,

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like you said there. And no, feel no shame if, like, this isn't a

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topic that maybe is super passionate for you.

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But. And I. That's fine. But it, it, it is. It's

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okay to go through the emotions,

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feel all that you need to feel. There is. You're all are welcome

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here. And this is a safe place. And I know

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Kelly personally, and I can't think of another person

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that you can safely explore this topic with.

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Oh, thank you, Boots. Thank you. And, you know, the topic's

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important because, you know, if we look at, for a

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number of reasons, the, the prevalence. Oh, so what

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is erectile dysfunction? Right. Let's make one more step back. So,

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hey, here's Peter the pelvis or Philip the pelvis. Hi,

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We. We met Patty and Randy the rectum in the last

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segment. Here is a pelvis with traditionally

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male anatomy Right. In the last segment, you met Patty.

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The pelvis, which showed you all the cool bony rings

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and the muscles that exist

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to form the base of your pelvis. And we talked about how

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those muscles worked along with other body functions

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to control a basic pee and poop

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functions. Now, intimate functions in someone with a

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penis. Usually the penis is nice and relaxed down here, like

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so what is an erection?

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What an erection is, is there are these cool little pelvic floor

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muscles at the base of the penis. They look the. I'm

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blocking this hole because I can't find my male pelvic floor right now. But it's

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pretty much the same as this right here. But there's these little muscles at the

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base of the penis that when we are sexually

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aroused or during key times of hormonal

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changes, sometimes for no reason whatsoever, these

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muscles at the base of the penis will constrict. And

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when they constrict, they are preventing blood from

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leaving the penis so it will engorge and form.

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Ready? Ready, Ready? Oh, can I do it? I think. Oh, I don't

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want to break it. And it

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was point upwards. Hello. And the funny thing is, is

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like everybody's different, right? So please,

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whatever you look like, whether you're circumcised or not, or your partner's circumcised or not,

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everybody looks different. Sometimes erections are pointed straight,

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sometimes they're a little hooked to the side, sometimes totally fine. You

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are normal, I promise. Okay? If you ever have a

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pain free lump or a painful lump that feels

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like a little raisin in your testicles, then we want to get that checked out

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right away. But when you have an erection, it might look like this

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straight soldier or it might be a little to one side or the other and

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you're fine. And I want you to know that because we don't as with everything,

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pelvic health, we don't talk about this stuff enough. So

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that's what an erection is, is an engorgement of these blood vessels within the penis

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to trap blood in there and then make the soldier stand tall

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and proud. That is a muscular

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effort, right? For these muscles.

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I just. And this

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is Kelly everyone. And you know when you. I'm a

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doctor, you've got to follow her on Instagram

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because it's like this all the time.

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Really. I think one of my first posts about penises,

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I like trouble raising the main sale.

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And it's not funny. I don't wish eating anyone but

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my God, let's have a little fun while we're at it. God, we have

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to. We have to. Because you know what, Boots? Like I am

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reaching. Like we are reaching people because we can talk about this and have this

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conversation if we just talk so scientifically we make it uncomfortable and

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we lose that chance to help someone. So that's, you

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know. Yeah. This muscular effort of these pelvic floor

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muscles, again, specifically in the penis. And yes, it also happens to a lesser degree

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in the clitoris. They are going to constrict at the base of the penis and

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cause this to engorge. Okay. To then potentially allow

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for penis in vagina or penis and something else. Penetration

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and then stimulation of all the amazing nerves that go

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along with that happen. Magic happens. And we

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can have this beautiful, fulfilling climax that typically is going to

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result in ejaculation. If you've had a type of prostate surgery, sometimes

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it's called a dry ejaculate. Again, that's a little too in depth for this

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talk. But we have a beautiful, fulfilling climax. Everything

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relaxes back and cycle resets for

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the next time. Erectile dysfunction is the

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inability to attain or

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maintain that erection for the

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task at hand, so to speak. There

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are some puns I think possible in there. And if you were around

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for the first talk, we talked about how these pelvic floor muscles are

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like a hammock at the base of your pelvis. And,

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and they're like an elevator. An elevator and a hammock. So they're a hammock at

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the bottom of the pelvis and have an elevator like function. And they're

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meant to actually live on the ground floor of a four

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story building and kind of move up and down depending on the task at

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hand. But always come back to rest and even be able to

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relax into the sub basement to have a good poop and then come back to

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rest. If these pelvic floor muscles are

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resting on the third or the fourth floors. And we talk

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in the last, we talked in the last segment about why that can happen.

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That can contribute to PE leaks or poop problems. But from a sexual

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perspective, if they're always working, if they're always

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clenching on this third floor and then the

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time occurs or the mood occurs where you need them to do a

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little bit more work to get this erection, they might not be

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able to because they're tired. You know, we use a

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wall sit analogy. If I boots, if I ask you to go and run up

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the stairs right now, you could, what if I put you in a wall sit

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for six hours and then ask you to Run up the stairs. You're not running

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anywhere. And that's what can happen in these muscles in

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the pelvic floor. They're too tired from being tight all the time, so they don't

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have the energy to constrict further to cause this

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erection. And then when we build,

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so. So we get the erection in either the clitoris or the penis,

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and then there's this building, this period of excitement before we have the release and

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the climax. So it's the climb and then the climax. The climb

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requires healthy nerves. If all of the pelvic

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muscles are tight all the time, they can irritate the

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nerves and make the climb hard or impossible.

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And then to actually climax is a plyometric

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contraction of your pelvic floor. I bet you didn't know that.

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So that means it's. It's a really fast dynamic. Contract and relax.

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Contract and relax to have this climax feeling. If

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your muscles are not healthy enough to do that, you can't have a

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climax. Oh, my gosh. Or you can, but it hurts.

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So, wow. Like, that's all of the parts that are

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required for a normal erection. And then, like, any difficulty

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with any of that is considered erectile dysfunction. Long

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road to get why we care on the Open Heart

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Surgery with Boots podcast. Heart

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disease. The same changes in our

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arterial systems that can lead to ischemic heart disease, that

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can lead to stroke, that can lead to coronary artery

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blockages. Guess what? Those coronary arteries, how big are

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they? Okay, brain arteries,

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pelvic floor arteries, and those of you that are

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just listening, I'm showing the relative size. Coronary

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arteries are big. Brain arteries are a little smaller.

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Pelvic floor arteries are tiny. So they're like our little

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canaries in the gold mine. And the same

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changes in life that are going to lead to some of this

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atherosclerotic change, stiffening of arteries, blockage

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of arteries. They're going to present in these little tiny arteries

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first. It's so powerful. And

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what evidence has shown is that the presence of

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this erectile dysfunction in a man, yes,

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it can be due to a lot of factors, but it can be that hypertonicity

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of the pelvic floor, but it also can be a

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primary change in the pliability of these arteries. And

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as such, it is an independent risk factor for

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a future major adverse cardiac event.

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And even in the absence of any other risk factors

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of family members having heart disease, you can exercise, you can eat well,

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drink well. If you're starting to have problems hoisting the Main

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sail. We need to get everything checked out because this could be an issue

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with your underlying circulation and we might just save your life.

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So. Wow, it's crazy pants. And

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now if you have this erectile dysfunction and some

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diabetes and some family history of heart disease, or

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you're a smoker or you occasionally have some alcohol or have

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alcohol a lot. Holy shit, friend. We gotta change some

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stuff or you're not gonna be around four years from

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now to be enjoying this beautiful life. So, like, it's a.

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It's a cool thing to be aware of because we actually can

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save lives when we get people to the right spot. So

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if you haven't been doing regular wellness checks,

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or maybe you have because you're watching this podcast, but maybe your best

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friend Bill doesn't go to the doctors. And Bill

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and you are talking about, oh, things aren't going so well in the bedroom.

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Yeah, Bill could go to pelvic pt, but if they're a good pelvic pt,

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they're going to ask Bill if he's been to his primary care provider, and if

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he hasn't, they're not gonna treat his erectile dysfunction until he goes and

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gets his heart checked because of this. And if you have been

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going to a pelvic PT for ED and it's getting better, but you

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haven't had your heart checked, you need to. It is exquisitely

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important. And I think earlier I might have said. But I don't

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remember. Cause I say a lot. The prevalence of this

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erectile dysfunction has doubled in the

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last 30 years. And perhaps some

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of that is more normal reporting.

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But what's happening with colorectal cancer

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rates? It's shooting through,

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skyrocketing. Okay, what things are

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associated with colorectal cancer? Reduced fiber intake.

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Right. Dietary changes. All. Increased stress

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in the world. Perhaps a more sedentary lifestyle, especially

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since pandemics. Right. So all of these same things that

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are just killing our overall holistic

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health, they're the same things that might contribute to

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higher rates of erectile dysfunction, but, you know,

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underneath that, contributing to reduced health of our

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circulatory system, which then is, you know, erectile

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sexual dysfunction, then possibly stroke or heart attack. So we

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need to be talking about this. It's not just about getting jiggy in the

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bedroom. It's about not dying three years from

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now. So, like, that's. It's so powerful, right?

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Yeah. Where I sit and just. I try not to

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watch commercials. I don't really watch TV anymore. But in the past, I mean,

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a classic commercial UC Is for Viagra.

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Right. And. And in the bathtub.

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Yeah. You think it's just about that. And they don't. They don't

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talk about any of this background you just gave and,

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like, all these other things you need to be thinking about. Totally. Well, do

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you know Viagra was a blood pressure medicine? Like, that's a whole. Like, nobody

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knows this. Or. You might, but, like, it's hilarious. It's like, oh, we found this

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amazing drug to help with your hypertension and small side effect. You're gonna get

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a giant boner for four hours.

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Really? Let me. Let's talk more about that. Like, that's

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amazing. Like, but again, if

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that's the only thing. If you go in and you. Well, we

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won't even get into the difference between males and females when we

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report sexual dysfunction. Well, yeah, I will.

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I will. If, you know, we go in and, like, say a dude is like,

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oh, I'm having trouble with an erection. The. If the doctor's

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not educated about the. This research. Right. And that study, I

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think it's from 05 Montorsi. I'll get

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you all links to it in 05. That found that the

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ED could pre exist before a major

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cardiac event. Three years. If the doctor doesn't know that study.

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If they are all in, they're the best cardiac doctor in the

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world. They honestly might just be looking at the heart. And that doesn't

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make them a bad doctor. Right. Like, maybe they never even learned about pelvic

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floor in medical school. They might not know about all of

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those parts. So we need to educate you to take the primary

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steps. I got a little off tangentially right there. I kind of lost my. No,

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you're. We're citing studies and then talking. Talking about men versus women

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and. Oh, men versus women. Thank you. Thank you. But I just wanted to

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mention. Make sure. Just a timeout. If you haven't already, be

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sure to go in the show notes to sign up for my newsletter

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because. Oh, yeah, I will be linking to and I'll have

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things in the show notes for you also listeners. But

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if you sign up for my newsletter and also sign up for Kelly's,

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you will get these studies and there will be more

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in the newsletter each of these weeks talking about why you need

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to care about your pelvic floor. Oh, totally. Time in,

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Boots. Thank you. Time out. Time in. Thank you, Boots. So. So

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if I'm a man and I come in to my doctor and I say, oh,

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I'm having trouble with sexual function, that doctor might not know

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about this important correlation. And if you look healthy,

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they might just prescribe you something like Viagra. And that

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might help this small piece of the puzzle in the short term. But

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you do need a cardiac workup to make sure that things are okay to keep

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you good in the long run. If I'm a woman and I come in and

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I report sexual dysfunction, I'm not even gonna lie, you will be

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told to just relax, have a glass of wine, which is a

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neurotoxin. Thanks, doc. And that's about it.

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Usually, like, if your doctor's very aware, you'll be prescribed pelvic floor

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pt. But there's this huge kind of difference in

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how everyone, you know, males versus females, are treated in

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this realm. But it's important for everyone that we address

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and what we can do about it. There's

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actual things that you know, if this is present and

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we know that this is, can be an independent risk factor

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for future heart issues. If

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we're post heart surgery, guess what, like, and you're having erectile

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dysfunction, this is still indicate indicative that things

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aren't 100% awesome. So, so let's work

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holistically on the whole system. You're going to

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love this, everyone. It's the classic sleep,

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diet, exercise, and now

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awareness of your pelvic floor. Pelvic floor relaxation, pelvic floor,

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general health and well being can make

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positive changes to improve this erectile function, the sexual

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function, which then we have lowered our risk

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factor for that future adverse cardiac event by

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improving this one function, which is great. You don't have to be

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Chris Helmsworth, right? Like in the gym 20 hours a day. I think one

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of the studies in 2018, 40 minutes of

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moderate physical activity four times

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a week, within six months it reduced

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erectile dysfunction. So you can read that a different way. If we don't

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care about the erection function, 40 minutes of moderate

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exercise four times a week for six months improves your

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overall cardiovascular system and reduces your risk of heart attack

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and stroke. And that's doable, right? And I'm

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such a geek. I love what I do. I do a ton of teaching. I

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also have a new online program called Dr. Kelly's Treasure Chest that has

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workouts there for you. Right? And I started off with 40 to 60 minute

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workouts. Nobody watched them. It's hilarious when you look at like the data.

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Everybody was watching the 10 minute workouts. And you know what? A 10 minute

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workout done is way better than nothing. And you could do that

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one workout and get proficient at it and do it twice. In a row for

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20 minutes. Like something is better than nothing.

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Diet and exercise, right? I don't like the word diet. I like lifestyle food

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choices, generally. A Mediterranean

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diet, fruits and vegetables, heart, healthy fats,

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boots. You had the whole nutritional segment, right? So

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they can go back and look at that. Hugely important

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for arterial health, heart health. So, and that's

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not just for today. That's like a lifestyle change.

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And it's nothing that we have to do, but it's something we want to do

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because we feel so much better. And then if you

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do smoke, stop. Don't be an asshole, idiot, stop.

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There's nothing good about it. Stop. If you drink

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alcohol, try to stop, please. It is just as bad for you as

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smoking. There's no safe amount of alcohol. It's a neurotoxin and it

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causes mental health issues. Nothing to be good from that,

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okay? So just stop, please. We are going to be

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amazed when we look back 10, 15 years from now at how

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normalized alcohol consumption was in the world right

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now. And so to help you be healthy, pre heart surgery,

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post heart surgery, eat real food, not too much

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exercise, and don't smoke or drink. Okay? I think

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if you need help with all of that, go back and

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listen to my episode in December of

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2024 with Dr. Laura

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Suarez Pardo. She is a cardiac

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psychiatrist at the Mayo Clinic. And I

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asked her, treat me like, I just came into your

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office and I'm trying to stop a habit. Where

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do we start? And it was absolutely

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brilliant how she. It is. It is just

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so simple. Like, basic small

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changes every day that add up to big

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changes. And I, I just want to say, like,

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I see you, I hear you. Like, if you're listening and you smoke

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or you drink or, or have any habits that aren't healthy for the

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body, you know what, have you ever thought that maybe you're

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worthy of a vibrant, healthy life? You

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are. Amen. Deserve to be healthy

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and ask for help, ask for support. You deserve to

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have a healthy sexual

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lifestyle. You deserve to have a healthy

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pelvis. You are worthy of all of this. And

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I really think that a lot of people out there

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just really just say, I'm not worthy.

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Maybe not, like, consciously, but I want to be

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that person in your ears that say, you know what? Your heart deserves to

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thrive and so does your pelvis. Yes. And so

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many, so often those times when we are drinking or

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smoking, we're not doing it because we're trying to be bad. We're doing it because

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we're suffering and we're Using it as pain management.

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And we're using it to hide the feelings, to not feel the

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depression and the anxiety. And so

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addressing those underlying factoids can help.

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And removing that product, that

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chemical, can set the stage for you to finally love

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yourself again. So good. I'm so glad that you have that

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podcast. Another book I love is

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who I Forget Her Name. Oh, my gosh.

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Complete mind blank was like, it's like a woman's guide to not drinking

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or something. Do you know of that one? Oh.

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Oh, gosh. Okay. I'm going to have to put. I'm going to have to put

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the name of it in the show notes because I can't remember. Oh, quit like

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a woman. And doesn't matter if you're not a woman. It doesn't

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matter if you're, you know, trying to quit alcohol or cigarettes or just

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reducing because, again, yes, we do want you to stop completely, but.

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But even reducing can be beneficial. She

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talks all about that, about how. And she talks specifically how about

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like, AA didn't work for her. And it's. I think it's

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valuable because it talks about approaching these lifestyle changes from

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a position of love, like you just said, and not,

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oh, my gosh, you suck.

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And I think is really cool. So. Got a little tangential there, but

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awesome. Thank you. That's what I needed to do because I was

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depressed and, you know, not getting the most

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out of life and AA just for me just caused

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a shame spiral. It didn't work for me either. But you know

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what? Some of my really close friends, it works really

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well. So it. It's your own personal

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journey for what is right for your. Your

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history and what you need to heal. Just. Just

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try. Exactly. You deserve to try.

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Love yourself enough to try. Yeah. And I think, you know, in

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my journey. Yeah, in my journey, I stopped

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two. I was drinking very heavily during COVID times.

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Right. To cope. And I mean, recognized it, and then was like, oh, this

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is fine. It's just a coping mechanism. It's not fine. You

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know, and I recognized it and just cut

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way back and then have now stopped. And again, all

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things in my life coalesced to the point where I could make that rational

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decision. And I had the support that I needed to do that. But you recognize

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that not only do you drink, sometimes to. For me, it was to

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cover up anxiety that was undiagnosed for sure,

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and some depression that was then coming from that. But even on, like, just

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good days, it would be like, oh, like, this was already a great day. And

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like, why and my total turning point crux, as I

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was educating my kids, that, like, alcohol is really bad for you,

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and yet I was still having a couple glasses a month. And my son

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goes, well, why do grownups do it then? And

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I had no ration. There's no response to

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celebrate. Like, would I have a cigar or a cigarette in front of them to

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celebrate? Like, there was no good answer for me to give them. And that's what

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made me finally turn the corner to, like, cut it out. And so, yeah, that.

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That's interesting. And it's this whole other level of just pelvic health and overall health,

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but open heart surgery, alcohol and cigarettes, they're so

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inflammatory. They're not serving you to heal, and they're not serving you to show up.

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And so there are people there who can support you and love you. And if

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you go to try to help, you know, get help with these habits and you

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don't feel loved and it's not the right place for you, even if it's the

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right place for your bestie, that's fine. Go someplace else until you

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feel heartwarming.

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Podcast and of having like, heart stuff is. The

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opportunity for puns is endless. That's really,

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really. It is, dude. I'm here for the puns.

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All right, cool. But yeah, that is in a nutshell. That's why we want to

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talk about penises on the open heart surgery podcast.

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And if you don't have a penis, but you are noticing

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changes in sexual function,

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you know, they. This could be something to work on as a

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canary in the gold mine to improve your overall circulation. And if

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you are post heart surgery, especially if you're diabetic,

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the reduced blood flow to the pelvic floor can be a

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contributor to pee problems, poop problems, and sexual

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problems. So seeing a pelvic floor PT in person or

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online can be really help that part of your life. So please

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just don't think, oh, I've had heart surgery, my sex life's over. If it's something

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you're interested in or, oh, I'm just getting older, I guess it's normal that I

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pee my pants, right? Not true. There's help available. So

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I have a great blog with lots of information. You can work with me or

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one of my staff online. I have a blog about how to find a PT

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near you. You can reach out to Boots or me if you need

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help finding a PT near you. And like I said, my treasure chest really

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is a good trove. Literally a treasure chest of

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exercises to get yourself moving to improve

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this blood flow for not only better sexual health, but better

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overall health as well. Oh, and we're giving you guys a coupon.

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surgery 2025 will give you guys 25% off any of my online

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programs, including 25% off the first three

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months of that Treasures Trust subscription, which is already a killer

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deal. And that goes over how to connect and relax to your pelvic floor, as

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well as these exercises to help improve your blood flow. So I'm glad

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you're here. Boots. Thank you so much for this opportunity to talk about

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Peter the Pelvis and. Heidi the Pelvis and Randy the

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Rectum. If you missed the first installment, I'm

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telling you, you just. We were having so much fun during Heart Month

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and. And thank you, Kelly. All that you need will be in the

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show notes. Again, be sure to sign up for the newsletter. That's another way to

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stay in touch. And if you haven't, make sure you hit subscribe. And you know

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what will really make my day and my Heart month and

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my year would be as soon as you're done listening to this episode,

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do two things. Share this with a friend.

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Perhaps one with a penis or someone with a penis. And then

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secondly, leave a review. I would so

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appreciate that because that is how people find this podcast.

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So definitely. And ask us questions. Yep.

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Blow up the email, please. We love questions.

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But in case no one has told you today, I love you.

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You are loved. You are worthy of a thriving

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pelvis, healthy pelvis. And be sure to come back next

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week for more pelvic wisdom from Dr. Kelly. Bye.