If you can stick with me and you can understand the
Speaker:science behind what we're going to talk about, it is applicable to
Speaker:every human. And we're going to specifically talk about the
Speaker:fact that erectile dysfunction by itself is
Speaker:an independent risk factor for having a major
Speaker:adverse cardiac event. Holy sh t.
Speaker:So even if you have no family history of heart disease, if
Speaker:you exercise, you don't smoke, you don't drink, if you're having a
Speaker:little problem in the bedroom, attaining an erection or
Speaker:maintaining an erection, it could indicate that you might be
Speaker:at higher risk of having a major cardiac event in the next
Speaker:three years. Welcome to open Heart Surgery with Boots,
Speaker:where this February we're going below the
Speaker:belt. That's right, we're diving into the
Speaker:surprisingly connected world of heart surgery and
Speaker:pelvic floor health in this five part series.
Speaker:Join me and our special guest expert, Dr. Kelly
Speaker:Sudakis as we talk about everything you're too embarrassed
Speaker:to ask your cardiologist. From what makes a happy
Speaker:pelvis to getting your groove back after surgery,
Speaker:to yes, even the great post op poop
Speaker:debate. With candid conversations, practical
Speaker:advice and plenty of laughs, we're exploring the
Speaker:ups and downs of recovery because let's face it,
Speaker:healing happens from top to bottom. So
Speaker:buckle up for some real talk about the parts of recovery nobody
Speaker:warned you about. Hello, Boots Knighton
Speaker:here with open heart surgery with Boots. And Kelly
Speaker:Sudakis is back for episode two
Speaker:of our heart and pelvis series.
Speaker:Wow. I hope if you're just now finding us, I hope you'll go back and
Speaker:listen to the first episode because it really does help
Speaker:set you up for understanding all things
Speaker:pelvis. I asked Kelly to start us off
Speaker:with 101 pelvic health. What it looks
Speaker:like, feels like, how it should operate and then what
Speaker:happens when it goes arai. And so that now brings
Speaker:us to our second installment, which is
Speaker:erectile dysfunction. Hey, we get to talk
Speaker:about penises.
Speaker:This is important because. Hi, I'm Dr. Kelly
Speaker:Sadowskis, double board certified pelvic physical therapist. If you didn't meet me in the
Speaker:first episode, and my goal in life is
Speaker:to break down barriers that are preventing you
Speaker:from understanding your body and the bodies of the people you love
Speaker:love. So most likely you either have a penis
Speaker:or you love someone with a penis. So this is going to be
Speaker:very important information. Boots and I were chatting a little bit and
Speaker:she's like, well, is this erectile dysfunction in men and women?
Speaker:Which is a very valid question because yes, the
Speaker:we ladies, we actually have like Little. Our clitorises are actually little,
Speaker:tiny penises. They arose from the same
Speaker:embryonic tissue as a male penis. So we can still
Speaker:also have erectile dysfunction. But guess
Speaker:what? This will not shock you. We don't study erectile
Speaker:dysfunction in ladies. And we being the scientific community at
Speaker:large, because we don't study anything in women, because hormones.
Speaker:And that's bull crap. But that is the reason
Speaker:that most of the studies and the things that I'm going to talk to you
Speaker:about today are a little bit more leaning towards
Speaker:male anatomy, people with penises. But. But if
Speaker:you can stick with me and you can understand the science
Speaker:behind what we're going to talk about, it is applicable to every
Speaker:human. And we're going to specifically talk about the fact that
Speaker:erectile dysfunction by itself is an
Speaker:independent risk factor for having a major
Speaker:adverse cardiac event. Holy shit.
Speaker:So even if you have no family history of heart disease, if
Speaker:you exercise, you don't smoke, you don't drink, if you're having
Speaker:a little problems in the bedroom, attaining an erection or
Speaker:maintaining an erection, it could indicate that you might be
Speaker:at higher risk of having a major cardiac event in the next
Speaker:three years. So you got to get your cute pelvis, or if this is your
Speaker:loved one, get their cute pelvis into a cardiologist for some
Speaker:primary preventative screening. Okay. All right, that
Speaker:being said, let's dive into what is an
Speaker:erection and what is erectile dysfunction? So, okay, so
Speaker:you just talked about why we should care, but let's go even more
Speaker:basic than that. Like, why is sexual health
Speaker:important? Why should we even be talking about this?
Speaker:I know about the cardiac risk factors, but just for the
Speaker:overall, like, picture of health and
Speaker:thriving as a Homo sapien. Oh, my gosh, that is
Speaker:a fabulous question. Like, so, first and foremost, even at, like,
Speaker:the most basic level, why do we care about sexual function?
Speaker:Even before I talk about, you know, the risk factors of that erectile dysfunction,
Speaker:Sexual function can be an important part
Speaker:of any human's life journey,
Speaker:right? There are legitimately some individuals that it is not a
Speaker:priority. And that's fine. If it's not a priority for
Speaker:you, you're not alone. But more, I would say a
Speaker:greater percentage of people start to lose interest
Speaker:in sexual activity because it becomes either painful
Speaker:or challenging to do physically, either because the actual pelvic
Speaker:parts are no longer up to snuff, or orthopedically,
Speaker:perhaps we have back pain or hip pain, and we don't know about how to
Speaker:change positions. Ladies and people with vaginas,
Speaker:as we age, our hormones change. That
Speaker:can be one part of a puzzle that makes intimate functions
Speaker:a little painful or less enjoyable. And so we might tend, rather than
Speaker:trying to fix the problem and make them just as enjoyable as they
Speaker:were in our younger years, we might tend to not do that anymore.
Speaker:And why that matters is
Speaker:sexual function could be something that you can enjoy again. And when
Speaker:you can enjoy it, it is a powerful bonding experience
Speaker:between you and your partner. It's good exercise, whether
Speaker:you're with a partner or by yourself. And it
Speaker:involves a release of endorphins that is good for overall
Speaker:mental health and pain management. So the
Speaker:ability to achieve an enjoyable
Speaker:climax. It's kind of a litmus
Speaker:test, so to speak, as far as how the whole system
Speaker:is working the brain, body connection for that sexual
Speaker:response, the physical health of the muscles around the pelvic floor to
Speaker:have that appropriate sexual response regardless of your
Speaker:anatomy. And if we can't do that, then maybe it's a
Speaker:sign that, ooh, this is an opportunity for us to get a little
Speaker:bit better. And then, and then we look at the science of
Speaker:specifically erectile dysfunction. Being able to potentially
Speaker:be a risk factor for heart problems down the road.
Speaker:Ooh, now that's interesting. And if we do have open
Speaker:heart surgery, the recovery of that sexual function, that's
Speaker:another piece that sometimes is overlooked in your cardiac
Speaker:rehab. Right. And so we want to, in later segments, actually dive into that.
Speaker:About sex is a endurance event. How do. Is your heart ready for it?
Speaker:Is your pelvic floor ready for it? Okay, yeah.
Speaker:So that. Thank you. Yeah, that sets the scene because I think it's just
Speaker:so important to have buy in, especially for those who may,
Speaker:like you said there. And no, feel no shame if, like, this isn't a
Speaker:topic that maybe is super passionate for you.
Speaker:But. And I. That's fine. But it, it, it is. It's
Speaker:okay to go through the emotions,
Speaker:feel all that you need to feel. There is. You're all are welcome
Speaker:here. And this is a safe place. And I know
Speaker:Kelly personally, and I can't think of another person
Speaker:that you can safely explore this topic with.
Speaker:Oh, thank you, Boots. Thank you. And, you know, the topic's
Speaker:important because, you know, if we look at, for a
Speaker:number of reasons, the, the prevalence. Oh, so what
Speaker:is erectile dysfunction? Right. Let's make one more step back. So,
Speaker:hey, here's Peter the pelvis or Philip the pelvis. Hi,
Speaker:We. We met Patty and Randy the rectum in the last
Speaker:segment. Here is a pelvis with traditionally
Speaker:male anatomy Right. In the last segment, you met Patty.
Speaker:The pelvis, which showed you all the cool bony rings
Speaker:and the muscles that exist
Speaker:to form the base of your pelvis. And we talked about how
Speaker:those muscles worked along with other body functions
Speaker:to control a basic pee and poop
Speaker:functions. Now, intimate functions in someone with a
Speaker:penis. Usually the penis is nice and relaxed down here, like
Speaker:so what is an erection?
Speaker:What an erection is, is there are these cool little pelvic floor
Speaker:muscles at the base of the penis. They look the. I'm
Speaker:blocking this hole because I can't find my male pelvic floor right now. But it's
Speaker:pretty much the same as this right here. But there's these little muscles at the
Speaker:base of the penis that when we are sexually
Speaker:aroused or during key times of hormonal
Speaker:changes, sometimes for no reason whatsoever, these
Speaker:muscles at the base of the penis will constrict. And
Speaker:when they constrict, they are preventing blood from
Speaker:leaving the penis so it will engorge and form.
Speaker:Ready? Ready, Ready? Oh, can I do it? I think. Oh, I don't
Speaker:want to break it. And it
Speaker:was point upwards. Hello. And the funny thing is, is
Speaker:like everybody's different, right? So please,
Speaker:whatever you look like, whether you're circumcised or not, or your partner's circumcised or not,
Speaker:everybody looks different. Sometimes erections are pointed straight,
Speaker:sometimes they're a little hooked to the side, sometimes totally fine. You
Speaker:are normal, I promise. Okay? If you ever have a
Speaker:pain free lump or a painful lump that feels
Speaker:like a little raisin in your testicles, then we want to get that checked out
Speaker:right away. But when you have an erection, it might look like this
Speaker:straight soldier or it might be a little to one side or the other and
Speaker:you're fine. And I want you to know that because we don't as with everything,
Speaker:pelvic health, we don't talk about this stuff enough. So
Speaker:that's what an erection is, is an engorgement of these blood vessels within the penis
Speaker:to trap blood in there and then make the soldier stand tall
Speaker:and proud. That is a muscular
Speaker:effort, right? For these muscles.
Speaker:I just. And this
Speaker:is Kelly everyone. And you know when you. I'm a
Speaker:doctor, you've got to follow her on Instagram
Speaker:because it's like this all the time.
Speaker:Really. I think one of my first posts about penises,
Speaker:I like trouble raising the main sale.
Speaker:And it's not funny. I don't wish eating anyone but
Speaker:my God, let's have a little fun while we're at it. God, we have
Speaker:to. We have to. Because you know what, Boots? Like I am
Speaker:reaching. Like we are reaching people because we can talk about this and have this
Speaker:conversation if we just talk so scientifically we make it uncomfortable and
Speaker:we lose that chance to help someone. So that's, you
Speaker:know. Yeah. This muscular effort of these pelvic floor
Speaker:muscles, again, specifically in the penis. And yes, it also happens to a lesser degree
Speaker:in the clitoris. They are going to constrict at the base of the penis and
Speaker:cause this to engorge. Okay. To then potentially allow
Speaker:for penis in vagina or penis and something else. Penetration
Speaker:and then stimulation of all the amazing nerves that go
Speaker:along with that happen. Magic happens. And we
Speaker:can have this beautiful, fulfilling climax that typically is going to
Speaker:result in ejaculation. If you've had a type of prostate surgery, sometimes
Speaker:it's called a dry ejaculate. Again, that's a little too in depth for this
Speaker:talk. But we have a beautiful, fulfilling climax. Everything
Speaker:relaxes back and cycle resets for
Speaker:the next time. Erectile dysfunction is the
Speaker:inability to attain or
Speaker:maintain that erection for the
Speaker:task at hand, so to speak. There
Speaker:are some puns I think possible in there. And if you were around
Speaker:for the first talk, we talked about how these pelvic floor muscles are
Speaker:like a hammock at the base of your pelvis. And,
Speaker:and they're like an elevator. An elevator and a hammock. So they're a hammock at
Speaker:the bottom of the pelvis and have an elevator like function. And they're
Speaker:meant to actually live on the ground floor of a four
Speaker:story building and kind of move up and down depending on the task at
Speaker:hand. But always come back to rest and even be able to
Speaker:relax into the sub basement to have a good poop and then come back to
Speaker:rest. If these pelvic floor muscles are
Speaker:resting on the third or the fourth floors. And we talk
Speaker:in the last, we talked in the last segment about why that can happen.
Speaker:That can contribute to PE leaks or poop problems. But from a sexual
Speaker:perspective, if they're always working, if they're always
Speaker:clenching on this third floor and then the
Speaker:time occurs or the mood occurs where you need them to do a
Speaker:little bit more work to get this erection, they might not be
Speaker:able to because they're tired. You know, we use a
Speaker:wall sit analogy. If I boots, if I ask you to go and run up
Speaker:the stairs right now, you could, what if I put you in a wall sit
Speaker:for six hours and then ask you to Run up the stairs. You're not running
Speaker:anywhere. And that's what can happen in these muscles in
Speaker:the pelvic floor. They're too tired from being tight all the time, so they don't
Speaker:have the energy to constrict further to cause this
Speaker:erection. And then when we build,
Speaker:so. So we get the erection in either the clitoris or the penis,
Speaker:and then there's this building, this period of excitement before we have the release and
Speaker:the climax. So it's the climb and then the climax. The climb
Speaker:requires healthy nerves. If all of the pelvic
Speaker:muscles are tight all the time, they can irritate the
Speaker:nerves and make the climb hard or impossible.
Speaker:And then to actually climax is a plyometric
Speaker:contraction of your pelvic floor. I bet you didn't know that.
Speaker:So that means it's. It's a really fast dynamic. Contract and relax.
Speaker:Contract and relax to have this climax feeling. If
Speaker:your muscles are not healthy enough to do that, you can't have a
Speaker:climax. Oh, my gosh. Or you can, but it hurts.
Speaker:So, wow. Like, that's all of the parts that are
Speaker:required for a normal erection. And then, like, any difficulty
Speaker:with any of that is considered erectile dysfunction. Long
Speaker:road to get why we care on the Open Heart
Speaker:Surgery with Boots podcast. Heart
Speaker:disease. The same changes in our
Speaker:arterial systems that can lead to ischemic heart disease, that
Speaker:can lead to stroke, that can lead to coronary artery
Speaker:blockages. Guess what? Those coronary arteries, how big are
Speaker:they? Okay, brain arteries,
Speaker:pelvic floor arteries, and those of you that are
Speaker:just listening, I'm showing the relative size. Coronary
Speaker:arteries are big. Brain arteries are a little smaller.
Speaker:Pelvic floor arteries are tiny. So they're like our little
Speaker:canaries in the gold mine. And the same
Speaker:changes in life that are going to lead to some of this
Speaker:atherosclerotic change, stiffening of arteries, blockage
Speaker:of arteries. They're going to present in these little tiny arteries
Speaker:first. It's so powerful. And
Speaker:what evidence has shown is that the presence of
Speaker:this erectile dysfunction in a man, yes,
Speaker:it can be due to a lot of factors, but it can be that hypertonicity
Speaker:of the pelvic floor, but it also can be a
Speaker:primary change in the pliability of these arteries. And
Speaker:as such, it is an independent risk factor for
Speaker:a future major adverse cardiac event.
Speaker:And even in the absence of any other risk factors
Speaker:of family members having heart disease, you can exercise, you can eat well,
Speaker:drink well. If you're starting to have problems hoisting the Main
Speaker:sail. We need to get everything checked out because this could be an issue
Speaker:with your underlying circulation and we might just save your life.
Speaker:So. Wow, it's crazy pants. And
Speaker:now if you have this erectile dysfunction and some
Speaker:diabetes and some family history of heart disease, or
Speaker:you're a smoker or you occasionally have some alcohol or have
Speaker:alcohol a lot. Holy shit, friend. We gotta change some
Speaker:stuff or you're not gonna be around four years from
Speaker:now to be enjoying this beautiful life. So, like, it's a.
Speaker:It's a cool thing to be aware of because we actually can
Speaker:save lives when we get people to the right spot. So
Speaker:if you haven't been doing regular wellness checks,
Speaker:or maybe you have because you're watching this podcast, but maybe your best
Speaker:friend Bill doesn't go to the doctors. And Bill
Speaker:and you are talking about, oh, things aren't going so well in the bedroom.
Speaker:Yeah, Bill could go to pelvic pt, but if they're a good pelvic pt,
Speaker:they're going to ask Bill if he's been to his primary care provider, and if
Speaker:he hasn't, they're not gonna treat his erectile dysfunction until he goes and
Speaker:gets his heart checked because of this. And if you have been
Speaker:going to a pelvic PT for ED and it's getting better, but you
Speaker:haven't had your heart checked, you need to. It is exquisitely
Speaker:important. And I think earlier I might have said. But I don't
Speaker:remember. Cause I say a lot. The prevalence of this
Speaker:erectile dysfunction has doubled in the
Speaker:last 30 years. And perhaps some
Speaker:of that is more normal reporting.
Speaker:But what's happening with colorectal cancer
Speaker:rates? It's shooting through,
Speaker:skyrocketing. Okay, what things are
Speaker:associated with colorectal cancer? Reduced fiber intake.
Speaker:Right. Dietary changes. All. Increased stress
Speaker:in the world. Perhaps a more sedentary lifestyle, especially
Speaker:since pandemics. Right. So all of these same things that
Speaker:are just killing our overall holistic
Speaker:health, they're the same things that might contribute to
Speaker:higher rates of erectile dysfunction, but, you know,
Speaker:underneath that, contributing to reduced health of our
Speaker:circulatory system, which then is, you know, erectile
Speaker:sexual dysfunction, then possibly stroke or heart attack. So we
Speaker:need to be talking about this. It's not just about getting jiggy in the
Speaker:bedroom. It's about not dying three years from
Speaker:now. So, like, that's. It's so powerful, right?
Speaker:Yeah. Where I sit and just. I try not to
Speaker:watch commercials. I don't really watch TV anymore. But in the past, I mean,
Speaker:a classic commercial UC Is for Viagra.
Speaker:Right. And. And in the bathtub.
Speaker:Yeah. You think it's just about that. And they don't. They don't
Speaker:talk about any of this background you just gave and,
Speaker:like, all these other things you need to be thinking about. Totally. Well, do
Speaker:you know Viagra was a blood pressure medicine? Like, that's a whole. Like, nobody
Speaker:knows this. Or. You might, but, like, it's hilarious. It's like, oh, we found this
Speaker:amazing drug to help with your hypertension and small side effect. You're gonna get
Speaker:a giant boner for four hours.
Speaker:Really? Let me. Let's talk more about that. Like, that's
Speaker:amazing. Like, but again, if
Speaker:that's the only thing. If you go in and you. Well, we
Speaker:won't even get into the difference between males and females when we
Speaker:report sexual dysfunction. Well, yeah, I will.
Speaker:I will. If, you know, we go in and, like, say a dude is like,
Speaker:oh, I'm having trouble with an erection. The. If the doctor's
Speaker:not educated about the. This research. Right. And that study, I
Speaker:think it's from 05 Montorsi. I'll get
Speaker:you all links to it in 05. That found that the
Speaker:ED could pre exist before a major
Speaker:cardiac event. Three years. If the doctor doesn't know that study.
Speaker:If they are all in, they're the best cardiac doctor in the
Speaker:world. They honestly might just be looking at the heart. And that doesn't
Speaker:make them a bad doctor. Right. Like, maybe they never even learned about pelvic
Speaker:floor in medical school. They might not know about all of
Speaker:those parts. So we need to educate you to take the primary
Speaker:steps. I got a little off tangentially right there. I kind of lost my. No,
Speaker:you're. We're citing studies and then talking. Talking about men versus women
Speaker:and. Oh, men versus women. Thank you. Thank you. But I just wanted to
Speaker:mention. Make sure. Just a timeout. If you haven't already, be
Speaker:sure to go in the show notes to sign up for my newsletter
Speaker:because. Oh, yeah, I will be linking to and I'll have
Speaker:things in the show notes for you also listeners. But
Speaker:if you sign up for my newsletter and also sign up for Kelly's,
Speaker:you will get these studies and there will be more
Speaker:in the newsletter each of these weeks talking about why you need
Speaker:to care about your pelvic floor. Oh, totally. Time in,
Speaker:Boots. Thank you. Time out. Time in. Thank you, Boots. So. So
Speaker:if I'm a man and I come in to my doctor and I say, oh,
Speaker:I'm having trouble with sexual function, that doctor might not know
Speaker:about this important correlation. And if you look healthy,
Speaker:they might just prescribe you something like Viagra. And that
Speaker:might help this small piece of the puzzle in the short term. But
Speaker:you do need a cardiac workup to make sure that things are okay to keep
Speaker:you good in the long run. If I'm a woman and I come in and
Speaker:I report sexual dysfunction, I'm not even gonna lie, you will be
Speaker:told to just relax, have a glass of wine, which is a
Speaker:neurotoxin. Thanks, doc. And that's about it.
Speaker:Usually, like, if your doctor's very aware, you'll be prescribed pelvic floor
Speaker:pt. But there's this huge kind of difference in
Speaker:how everyone, you know, males versus females, are treated in
Speaker:this realm. But it's important for everyone that we address
Speaker:and what we can do about it. There's
Speaker:actual things that you know, if this is present and
Speaker:we know that this is, can be an independent risk factor
Speaker:for future heart issues. If
Speaker:we're post heart surgery, guess what, like, and you're having erectile
Speaker:dysfunction, this is still indicate indicative that things
Speaker:aren't 100% awesome. So, so let's work
Speaker:holistically on the whole system. You're going to
Speaker:love this, everyone. It's the classic sleep,
Speaker:diet, exercise, and now
Speaker:awareness of your pelvic floor. Pelvic floor relaxation, pelvic floor,
Speaker:general health and well being can make
Speaker:positive changes to improve this erectile function, the sexual
Speaker:function, which then we have lowered our risk
Speaker:factor for that future adverse cardiac event by
Speaker:improving this one function, which is great. You don't have to be
Speaker:Chris Helmsworth, right? Like in the gym 20 hours a day. I think one
Speaker:of the studies in 2018, 40 minutes of
Speaker:moderate physical activity four times
Speaker:a week, within six months it reduced
Speaker:erectile dysfunction. So you can read that a different way. If we don't
Speaker:care about the erection function, 40 minutes of moderate
Speaker:exercise four times a week for six months improves your
Speaker:overall cardiovascular system and reduces your risk of heart attack
Speaker:and stroke. And that's doable, right? And I'm
Speaker:such a geek. I love what I do. I do a ton of teaching. I
Speaker:also have a new online program called Dr. Kelly's Treasure Chest that has
Speaker:workouts there for you. Right? And I started off with 40 to 60 minute
Speaker:workouts. Nobody watched them. It's hilarious when you look at like the data.
Speaker:Everybody was watching the 10 minute workouts. And you know what? A 10 minute
Speaker:workout done is way better than nothing. And you could do that
Speaker:one workout and get proficient at it and do it twice. In a row for
Speaker:20 minutes. Like something is better than nothing.
Speaker:Diet and exercise, right? I don't like the word diet. I like lifestyle food
Speaker:choices, generally. A Mediterranean
Speaker:diet, fruits and vegetables, heart, healthy fats,
Speaker:boots. You had the whole nutritional segment, right? So
Speaker:they can go back and look at that. Hugely important
Speaker:for arterial health, heart health. So, and that's
Speaker:not just for today. That's like a lifestyle change.
Speaker:And it's nothing that we have to do, but it's something we want to do
Speaker:because we feel so much better. And then if you
Speaker:do smoke, stop. Don't be an asshole, idiot, stop.
Speaker:There's nothing good about it. Stop. If you drink
Speaker:alcohol, try to stop, please. It is just as bad for you as
Speaker:smoking. There's no safe amount of alcohol. It's a neurotoxin and it
Speaker:causes mental health issues. Nothing to be good from that,
Speaker:okay? So just stop, please. We are going to be
Speaker:amazed when we look back 10, 15 years from now at how
Speaker:normalized alcohol consumption was in the world right
Speaker:now. And so to help you be healthy, pre heart surgery,
Speaker:post heart surgery, eat real food, not too much
Speaker:exercise, and don't smoke or drink. Okay? I think
Speaker:if you need help with all of that, go back and
Speaker:listen to my episode in December of
Speaker:2024 with Dr. Laura
Speaker:Suarez Pardo. She is a cardiac
Speaker:psychiatrist at the Mayo Clinic. And I
Speaker:asked her, treat me like, I just came into your
Speaker:office and I'm trying to stop a habit. Where
Speaker:do we start? And it was absolutely
Speaker:brilliant how she. It is. It is just
Speaker:so simple. Like, basic small
Speaker:changes every day that add up to big
Speaker:changes. And I, I just want to say, like,
Speaker:I see you, I hear you. Like, if you're listening and you smoke
Speaker:or you drink or, or have any habits that aren't healthy for the
Speaker:body, you know what, have you ever thought that maybe you're
Speaker:worthy of a vibrant, healthy life? You
Speaker:are. Amen. Deserve to be healthy
Speaker:and ask for help, ask for support. You deserve to
Speaker:have a healthy sexual
Speaker:lifestyle. You deserve to have a healthy
Speaker:pelvis. You are worthy of all of this. And
Speaker:I really think that a lot of people out there
Speaker:just really just say, I'm not worthy.
Speaker:Maybe not, like, consciously, but I want to be
Speaker:that person in your ears that say, you know what? Your heart deserves to
Speaker:thrive and so does your pelvis. Yes. And so
Speaker:many, so often those times when we are drinking or
Speaker:smoking, we're not doing it because we're trying to be bad. We're doing it because
Speaker:we're suffering and we're Using it as pain management.
Speaker:And we're using it to hide the feelings, to not feel the
Speaker:depression and the anxiety. And so
Speaker:addressing those underlying factoids can help.
Speaker:And removing that product, that
Speaker:chemical, can set the stage for you to finally love
Speaker:yourself again. So good. I'm so glad that you have that
Speaker:podcast. Another book I love is
Speaker:who I Forget Her Name. Oh, my gosh.
Speaker:Complete mind blank was like, it's like a woman's guide to not drinking
Speaker:or something. Do you know of that one? Oh.
Speaker:Oh, gosh. Okay. I'm going to have to put. I'm going to have to put
Speaker:the name of it in the show notes because I can't remember. Oh, quit like
Speaker:a woman. And doesn't matter if you're not a woman. It doesn't
Speaker:matter if you're, you know, trying to quit alcohol or cigarettes or just
Speaker:reducing because, again, yes, we do want you to stop completely, but.
Speaker:But even reducing can be beneficial. She
Speaker:talks all about that, about how. And she talks specifically how about
Speaker:like, AA didn't work for her. And it's. I think it's
Speaker:valuable because it talks about approaching these lifestyle changes from
Speaker:a position of love, like you just said, and not,
Speaker:oh, my gosh, you suck.
Speaker:And I think is really cool. So. Got a little tangential there, but
Speaker:awesome. Thank you. That's what I needed to do because I was
Speaker:depressed and, you know, not getting the most
Speaker:out of life and AA just for me just caused
Speaker:a shame spiral. It didn't work for me either. But you know
Speaker:what? Some of my really close friends, it works really
Speaker:well. So it. It's your own personal
Speaker:journey for what is right for your. Your
Speaker:history and what you need to heal. Just. Just
Speaker:try. Exactly. You deserve to try.
Speaker:Love yourself enough to try. Yeah. And I think, you know, in
Speaker:my journey. Yeah, in my journey, I stopped
Speaker:two. I was drinking very heavily during COVID times.
Speaker:Right. To cope. And I mean, recognized it, and then was like, oh, this
Speaker:is fine. It's just a coping mechanism. It's not fine. You
Speaker:know, and I recognized it and just cut
Speaker:way back and then have now stopped. And again, all
Speaker:things in my life coalesced to the point where I could make that rational
Speaker:decision. And I had the support that I needed to do that. But you recognize
Speaker:that not only do you drink, sometimes to. For me, it was to
Speaker:cover up anxiety that was undiagnosed for sure,
Speaker:and some depression that was then coming from that. But even on, like, just
Speaker:good days, it would be like, oh, like, this was already a great day. And
Speaker:like, why and my total turning point crux, as I
Speaker:was educating my kids, that, like, alcohol is really bad for you,
Speaker:and yet I was still having a couple glasses a month. And my son
Speaker:goes, well, why do grownups do it then? And
Speaker:I had no ration. There's no response to
Speaker:celebrate. Like, would I have a cigar or a cigarette in front of them to
Speaker:celebrate? Like, there was no good answer for me to give them. And that's what
Speaker:made me finally turn the corner to, like, cut it out. And so, yeah, that.
Speaker:That's interesting. And it's this whole other level of just pelvic health and overall health,
Speaker:but open heart surgery, alcohol and cigarettes, they're so
Speaker:inflammatory. They're not serving you to heal, and they're not serving you to show up.
Speaker:And so there are people there who can support you and love you. And if
Speaker:you go to try to help, you know, get help with these habits and you
Speaker:don't feel loved and it's not the right place for you, even if it's the
Speaker:right place for your bestie, that's fine. Go someplace else until you
Speaker:feel heartwarming.
Speaker:Podcast and of having like, heart stuff is. The
Speaker:opportunity for puns is endless. That's really,
Speaker:really. It is, dude. I'm here for the puns.
Speaker:All right, cool. But yeah, that is in a nutshell. That's why we want to
Speaker:talk about penises on the open heart surgery podcast.
Speaker:And if you don't have a penis, but you are noticing
Speaker:changes in sexual function,
Speaker:you know, they. This could be something to work on as a
Speaker:canary in the gold mine to improve your overall circulation. And if
Speaker:you are post heart surgery, especially if you're diabetic,
Speaker:the reduced blood flow to the pelvic floor can be a
Speaker:contributor to pee problems, poop problems, and sexual
Speaker:problems. So seeing a pelvic floor PT in person or
Speaker:online can be really help that part of your life. So please
Speaker:just don't think, oh, I've had heart surgery, my sex life's over. If it's something
Speaker:you're interested in or, oh, I'm just getting older, I guess it's normal that I
Speaker:pee my pants, right? Not true. There's help available. So
Speaker:I have a great blog with lots of information. You can work with me or
Speaker:one of my staff online. I have a blog about how to find a PT
Speaker:near you. You can reach out to Boots or me if you need
Speaker:help finding a PT near you. And like I said, my treasure chest really
Speaker:is a good trove. Literally a treasure chest of
Speaker:exercises to get yourself moving to improve
Speaker:this blood flow for not only better sexual health, but better
Speaker:overall health as well. Oh, and we're giving you guys a coupon.
Speaker:OHS 2025 open heart
Speaker:surgery 2025 will give you guys 25% off any of my online
Speaker:programs, including 25% off the first three
Speaker:months of that Treasures Trust subscription, which is already a killer
Speaker:deal. And that goes over how to connect and relax to your pelvic floor, as
Speaker:well as these exercises to help improve your blood flow. So I'm glad
Speaker:you're here. Boots. Thank you so much for this opportunity to talk about
Speaker:Peter the Pelvis and. Heidi the Pelvis and Randy the
Speaker:Rectum. If you missed the first installment, I'm
Speaker:telling you, you just. We were having so much fun during Heart Month
Speaker:and. And thank you, Kelly. All that you need will be in the
Speaker:show notes. Again, be sure to sign up for the newsletter. That's another way to
Speaker:stay in touch. And if you haven't, make sure you hit subscribe. And you know
Speaker:what will really make my day and my Heart month and
Speaker:my year would be as soon as you're done listening to this episode,
Speaker:do two things. Share this with a friend.
Speaker:Perhaps one with a penis or someone with a penis. And then
Speaker:secondly, leave a review. I would so
Speaker:appreciate that because that is how people find this podcast.
Speaker:So definitely. And ask us questions. Yep.
Speaker:Blow up the email, please. We love questions.
Speaker:But in case no one has told you today, I love you.
Speaker:You are loved. You are worthy of a thriving
Speaker:pelvis, healthy pelvis. And be sure to come back next
Speaker:week for more pelvic wisdom from Dr. Kelly. Bye.