Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience, we are

still right and I'm very happy to be spending some time with

you today. I'm currently still in Germany, visiting my family.

And yeah, I thought I was gonna make some time today and send

out a podcast episode for you what people will remember about

you, I feel it's an important thing to think about. Because

oftentimes we think we have to do a bunch of things, we have to

bend, we have to overly adapt, change our nature, do things

that we don't really want to do, in order to fit in in order to

touch people's hearts in order to be part of society, in order

to belong. And I'm here today to tell you that it is way easier

than you think, to be memorable, to have an impact on people's

lives.

Another thing I want to talk about today is the way we treat

each other right now, during those messy COVID times. And

now, that is very closely tied into how people will remember

you. I feel that a lot of people are very strongly opinionated

right now. And for good reason, we all feel that there is a big

change coming up, we all feel uncertain, we all feel fear

uncertainty together. And it's a lot, it's too much for most of

us, some of us lost our jobs, some of us are in deep distress.

And that is when reality circumstances bring out the

worst and people. And the way we treat each other, during those

times is going to have an impact of like on our future

relationships, because we're not quite as good as elephants, and

memorizing and remembering how people made us feel. But some of

us are really, really good at that. It's kind of protective

mechanism to right, like when someone treats you bad, you

remember because next time around, you want to avoid that

topic, that situation, maybe the person altogether. So first of

all, I want to raise awareness on how you approach the

situation right now and how radical you are with your views.

Because imagine from one day to another, this situation being

lifted, and all the stress gone. What is left over left over is

how we treated each other. And how we made each other feel the

things we said the things we've done. And we have to be aware of

that we can just be emotionally driven, or ego driven and

wanting to get our point across to every person with me in need.

And for people who are not on the same page as us. treating

them poorly, ignoring them, shutting them out, judging them,

maybe even hurting them verbally. And I really really

couldn't care less on which side you are right now. It doesn't

matter because we all have our own little realities, we all

have our own assumptions. We all have our own routines. We all

have our own perspective. And what's really important for me

is that we learn to see that every person has their own thing

going on. And we cannot force another person to think the same

way we do. I live in Canada, with my boyfriend, grandma and

mom. The only people who are really on the same page in my

life is my boyfriend, and then a couple of friends here in

Germany. And he in Germany, and the only person who has one

opinion. And it was really interesting for me to see that.

It's possible to not talk about the hot topics and to still get

along. And to know that Yeah, the other person is in a very

different page. But we focus on something else, we focus on

quality time, and other topics. And that's super, super awesome

that this is possible. And now back to the title, the original

topic of this episode. What are the things that people are going

to remember I do, and I can just emphasize this, I can't

emphasize this

enough that people are going to judge you people are going to

remember you on how you made them feel. Did you make people?

Did you make a person Sorry? feel inferior? Did you make a

person feel awesome and empowered? Did you question

their behavior to put them on a spot? To listen? Or were you the

one constantly talking and trying to educate? People will

remember that people will remember how you made them feel.

And nothing else. Because people are too busy with their own

lives. They're too busy with their thoughts. Yes, this odd

exception is people who can deeply connect with you and be

1,000%. present with you. But even those people have their own

lives, and they think of you. And then remember, how did that

person make me feel and it's not necessarily a conscious thought,

you know, conscious, again of wareness. But on an emotional

level of emotional bodies, so to say, Well remember how people

made us feel. And in the future, if you, for instance, take a

person who didn't make you feel good, and you still choose to

meet up with that person for other stronger reasons, your

body might react, and you might be sweating, you might be

nervous, you might have a slight headache right after, you might

have a stomach ache, or you might have backache or a stiff

neck, when you choose to not listen how a person made you

feel, and still meeting up with them. It's very interesting how

oftentimes we choose to go against our soul, against our

nature, in order to fit in in order to belong. And it is very

nice, very, like eye opening, mind opening, when you are aware

of how people made you feel in the past and how you interact

with them today. And so it goes with people you interact with. I

want to apologize for all the background noise here in

Germany, as I said, and there's just lots of people around here

just tried to find a most quiet spot for you, but it's still way

louder than when I'm back home in Canada. So how you make your

person feel when you meet up with a person do you think about

all the stuff you want to get out and share with them and you

want to get advice you want to see a reaction. You want to

Yeah, know what they think about your stuff? Or are you truly

interested in them in what they are accomplishing and how they

feel on a daily level and what their dreams are and and then

even going back to their childhood or family stories.

Again, here didn't live voice already that when you show

genuine interest in a person, they will not forget, they will

feel touched, you will be able to touch their heart. And people

don't forget about that. So, for the next couple of days until I

publish my next episode, I want you to be aware of how you

interact with people and how you make people feel. Because a lot

of times when we are navigating difficult times when we feel

lonely, when we feel life is tough, and people are being

annoying, and people are just assholes, right? When we start

being aware of how we interact with people and start noticing,

oh, shit, like, I'm actually being short, fused, very

impatient, hostile. And this is why my partner's rejecting me.

Or this is why my children throw one tantrum after another. And I

just very,

yeah, difficult to be around. If we start looking at ourselves,

and how we interact and what energy we put out there towards

people, we start seeing things and then we can change these

things. In the future, I want to talk about how we can change

things that we see about ourselves. But yeah, don't like

want to change and then how we can go about this. It is such a

beautiful journey to be on, when you become self aware of what

you put out into this world. And I'm very excited to be on this

journey with you. As I promised, I will be offering coaching

calls here soon where we can talk about your stuff. And no

matter where you're at in life, sometimes we feel stuck. And

sometimes it is nice to pour your heart out to a stranger and

then reorganize yourself and maybe even let go of beliefs,

patterns, happy habits, sorry. And steer the wheel of your life

into a different direction. I'm going to call my business monkey

mind coaching because I love that expression of the monkey

mind. And very at war with my monkey mind that at times and I

learned to accept it and make sense of it and befriended. And

it's a very fun journey sometimes even to be on. And

sometimes it's very tough. And then it's wonderful to have kind

of a wing woman next to you. Where, as I said, you can pour

your heart out as you can tell. Talk about your process and your

wins and your failures. things you want to do better in the

future. And from there, we can steer your wheel into the

direction that will help you reach your goals and get closer

to your dreams. Thank you endlessly for listening today.

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me. take really good care of yourself. Until next time, bye

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