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Welcome back to the elevated edit podcast.

Today's episode is going to be a little different.

We are going to try to stay on task, but it is not really our strong suit.

I have got a wonderful friend, a wife, a mom, an entrepreneur, and an all around amazing person on the podcast with me today.

I have Kayleigh Lambert and I am so excited to have her on today.

So just a little bit of backstory about our relationship.

Just our relationship today.

We've been together how many hours today?

Probably five.

Probably five.

And we've said, now, what were we talking about?

Probably 500 times.

Where was I going with that?

Where was that story supposed to.

Why did I start that story?

So if we get off track, you, if you are someone who is easily annoyed by people getting off track, you might want to just go ahead and skip this episode because that's what's going to happen on this one.

So anyway, haley, I'm so thankful that you are on the episode today.

Thank you for having me.

I would love for you to tell us a little bit about yourself.

I am hopeful that all of my audience already knows you, but I would love for those that don't to hear a little bit about you.

Hi, friends and new friends.

My name is kayleigh lambert and I am a born and raised south arkansas girl.

I am married to a very, very good guy.

His name is nick.

Patience of a saint.

We have two beautiful daughters.

Very beautiful daughters.

A little bit wild sometimes, but they're great and they are just the lights of my life.

She really does have the most beautiful children.

I am not ready to have children yet, so I like to love on my friends kids.

And hers were wonderful because they think I'm great and amazing and I can play with them and then give them back to her and go back to my house.

They're a little wild.

That's the best way to parent for me in this stage.

Okay, Kayla, that's great.

Yes.

So we were actually, we've had, like I said, we have been together for at least 5 hours today and we have talked about so many different things.

But earlier in the car, the topic of jealousy came up and what I was telling her was that in this season of life, I am no longer jealous about material items.

I am jealous when people have a wonderful family unit.

And Kaylee is very blessed, very lucky.

She has not only an amazing family on her mommy and dad's side, but on her husband's side as well.

So she's very blessed with family.

And I would love for you to talk a little bit about family and what it means to you and what it means to keep your focus and your priority on your family.

So family is a huge priority.

And my girls are the reason I went from, you know, a corporate office job to staying at home and then kind of doing some part time things because I wanted to be there with them.

But the priority of family and prioritizing family was instilled just from the very beginning.

I guess my grandparents have always stressed the importance of family, but not through words, just by showing us love.

And then, in turn, our parents.

And then now we saw that and can do it for our kids.

But, for example, like, my mimi still cooks Sunday lunch.

And it's not a you have to be there, but it's just, it's what she's always done.

And now she's got her great grandbabies coming.

It's something we look forward to.

She celebrates our birthdays when they come around by asking what we want and what we want for dessert.

And so it's just special.

And it's the little things like that that have made me realize, like, what is important and what I want my priorities to be.

And now we joke that we live on the compound because we live next to my first cousin and his wife, and they have two small children, and we swap out supper nights.

And across the street, you have Nick's first cousin and his aunt and uncle.

And then over one house, I've got a cousin.

My grandparents are building a house.

My brother lives next door, and then my aunt uncle are building a house behind that.

So we get to see and love on our people every day, and they love on us.

And it's just great.

I love it.

I feel like so few people, especially in this day and age, still have that, that family unit.

And like I said earlier, I am rarely jealous.

I'm not jealous if you drive a big car, if you, you have a big house.

But, like, when I see you with your family, I'm like, oh, wow.

Like, I love that.

And Kaylee is really good about setting boundaries around her children.

Like, if you are friends with her, you know that if she's with her baby, she might not text you back for hours.

It's not anything personal.

It's just where she sets her priorities.

So I would love if you would talk for a little bit about saying no and prioritizing what is important, because I know it's not always easy to say no.

And I think, especially as women, we carry a lot of guilt about saying no sometimes.

And I feel like from the outside at least, you were, like, very good at saying no.

I know you've had to, like, work your way up to that, but I would love for you to talk about, like, maybe like, an example of, like, okay, if you're in a situation where somebody asks you to do something and it's time with your babies, like, what kind of.

What your thought process is like, and, like, how you, like, kind of process those feelings and get through that, saying no.

So if it's something that means a lot to someone or I think is really important, if I don't have something scheduled with my girls or if it's not going to take away, because like I said, we have a great family system.

So if Nick's going to be home or if that's just an extra hour they get to spend with their grandparents or something, you know that I weigh that into it.

Of course that's good.

But if it's something that's just.

Just social, or I know my girls have something important, or they need me there, or maybe I wasn't there last night because I was doing something work related, I know, to put the time aside for them.

And at the end of the day, like, they are who I go home to, so.

And as far as I may not answer a text, I've always not been great about that.

And sometimes it's because I don't know where my phone is, but I do try to put things down so that I can spend the time I have at home with them and be in the moment.

Yeah, you're so.

So something else.

I'm going to make her blush for a little bit, but I think it's because you grew up with such a good family.

But Kaylee is a good friend, and I think that people who are friends with you can attest to that.

But, like, she is, like, I am not necessarily always a good friend.

I think I try to be, but, like, you were, like, genuinely you.

Yes, you.

Like, genuinely a good friend.

Like, you are very, like, caring from your heart.

Like, innately, like, just naturally.

You're like, a caring person.

And I think that might come from, you know, you having such a close family and having so much support that now you like, extend that to support to your friends too.

Even the guys in my family, like, you know, you think of warmth and like, nurturing.

Like, a lot of times you think of that being like a woman's role and what comes naturally to a mom or something of that sort or grandmother.

But the guys in my family are really good about caring and being nurturing and checking on you if they know you've had something going on or, you know, just little things like that.

And Nick is like that too.

So I'm very blessed in that sense.

But I.

I have had really good role models in that area on my life.

Yeah, you have.

So her dad, like, Kaylee text me last week.

And so we went to high school together just for reference.

And she texted me last week and she was like, my dad is listening to your podcast.

And, you know, just that.

I mean, like, my dad probably doesn't even not try it personal.

He probably doesn't have a podcast, you know, and so, like, to hear that, I'm like, wow, that genuinely a good man, which if anybody knows dad, he's literally the best person on the planet.

He is.

Yes, your mom is too.

But your dad is just.

If you think of a warm hug and then you think of a person that is Kayleigh's dad.

I mean, he really is just like a big warm hug.

And, I mean, he's just an incredible person.

And I'm gonna give one more shout out to a man in your life.

And I don't want him to listen to this and get a big ego, but I'm gonna shout out your husband because I feel like it is so common for, at least in the conversations that I hear for wives to have to, you know, it's very like the husband is babysitting the children.

And I don't feel like that's the dynamic in your house.

Like, I feel like Nick could just step in and he might not do it the way you want it done, but he's gonna step in and be dad.

And I don't think that is also seen a lot these days.

I said from the beginning, Nick is going to be the favorite parent.

He is going to be the best.

He's going to be the best parent because he's children have always been like naturally drawn to him.

He's just warm and plays with him and loves on him.

And our girls think he hung the moon.

Like, you can ask them at any time, who's your favorite?

And they're going to say, they're dad.

Unless they have, like, an off the wall answer.

Right.

But that's so good to, like, feel good about that.

And I think that probably gives you two the freedom to, like, be yourself a little bit more, because you do know that you can, you know, if you need to, like, today, like, if you need to go do a podcast or if you need to go run somewhere, like, you're not having to send him, like, this long, detailed list, like, Nick can just handle it.

Yeah.

The kids.

The girls might end up at school in camo, right.

With no hair bowden.

Maybe some crocs might be involved.

Same thing.

I sent Maggie to school today without a hair bow.

We were at the door, and I was like, that is good enough.

Hey, if you can get that girl out of the door, that might be all.

Her teeth were brushed, and she was excited to go to school, and that was a total win.

So this girl, first of all, she's beautiful on the outside, but she's one of those kids that, you know, is going to be, like, a CEO one day because she is not taking anything from anybody.

Yeah.

Like, she is a little powerhouse, for sure, a CEO.

And we hope it doesn't go in a wrong direction because she is a little powerhouse and a lot of bossy.

So, yeah, we're going to hope for, like, the CEO and just focus on the positive.

Don't think about, you know, strong, powerful woman.

Yes.

Strong, powerful woman.

Okay.

I love that.

So earlier we did well, we tried to do a little script.

Like I said, when we get together, we are just, like, earlier, we talked about, like, balance and the importance of filling up your cup and what success looks like to you might not look like success to other people.

And so I would love for you to talk about, at least in this season of your life, where you are with that and really kind of define what success looks like for you right now.

Balance.

Because I am a.

I thrive being at home with my babies now.

Whenever they get to about one and a half or two and they start, you can really start seeing a change where they're picking up on stuff and eager to learn and be with friends.

Like, that's when I also start having the desire to do something for myself as far as work goes.

And that worked out with my first child.

And then we just started.

Maggie just went to school, and so far, it's been really great.

I get to fill my cup with that during the day, they get interaction with their friends, and then we get to see each other when we get home and it's been really good.

But as far as success goes, I will never say it's harder or easier to work or be a stay at home mom, because that looks different to.

Everyone, and it probably looks different, too, depending on, I think, especially with their ages.

Depending on the month.

Yeah.

No, regardless, it's not easy.

Like, you're working.

Yeah.

So it's just different types of work.

And so where one person may want to go to work because they come home and they're a better mom.

And then when I thought about going to work, I was upset because I felt like my purpose was to be home with them.

That didn't make it any easier because I loved my job at the time, I loved it, but that's what I felt was important.

So I will never be one to say, like, what is more important in your life, like, as long as you are filling your cup and doing the very best you can do, like, I don't think anyone can define someone else's success.

Absolutely.

I feel like there's so much pressure on women from all different angles, no matter what stage you're in.

And I feel like social media has probably elevated this because people are only posting their 1%.

We're not seeing the 99%, but I feel like women feel such a pressure to, oh, well, I should be doing this, but it's like, no, just do what feels good for you.

Like, if this season of your life, you are barely hanging on and you get home at the end of the day and the dishes are stacked up and the laundry stacked up, but your babies are happy and they're safe and warm, then, like, that's what you know is super important.

And that's what I love about you, is that her house will never have dishes stacked up and the laundry will never be.

She's so clean.

She's like, okay, go ahead.

I have gotten a lot more relaxed, and it goes back to having, like, good people in my life.

My mimi told my mom and my aunt Terry when we were babies, the laundry can wait.

Hold your baby.

Whether it be like, my mom stayed at home with me.

My aunt Terry was a nurse and went back to work, and they both struggled with that.

Like, do my mom, here's her job, to be home with me during the day, and the laundry has to be done.

Aunt Terry goes to work, comes home, the laundry still has to be done.

But you've also got a baby.

Yeah.

And time goes by so fast and so.

And it's hard because I am one of those that wants my house to be a certain way.

And I thrive with a to do listen and a planner.

And I've kind of had to teach myself, too, to let some of that go so that other things can happen.

Yeah.

And I will, like, replay this in my head.

Like, one day there's going to be a time when the floor is clean and you're going to miss the toys being everywhere.

Yeah.

Oh, that makes me sad.

I know.

But just, like, when hard things happen and you think this won't last forever, you've got to think about that.

Like, the good stuff.

Yeah, that is true.

You've got to think about it from both sides.

Living so in the morning.

Yeah.

It will pass.

You will get through this, you know, just get through it.

Yeah.

But also the good moments and your kids seeing babies or when it's hard and they're screaming in the middle of the night, like, if you look at the good and the bad.

I try to do that.

Like, this is temporary, so do I want to soak it in?

And this is temporary.

Can I get through this?

Yeah.

Like, so it's just kind of.

I love that.

I'm trying.

I'm really trying.

I still think your definition of clean and mine are drastically different.

She also is like, you garden and you cook, and I love to cook.

Raises geese.

Do you still have the geese at your house?

They're turkeys.

We have tin list, and I'm pretty sure they are going to their new home.

So I pulled up her house one day and she.

We talked about the turkeys.

Yeah.

I've never.

I've never seen a turkey in real life.

And I think the intent was for them to be, like, a wild turkey.

And then they became pet turkeys.

I'm not joking, y'all.

Like, a flock of.

She's, like, clapping her hands, like.

Like, making.

I don't even know.

Remember your turkey noise?

She's making some kind of turkey noise.

And these.

These turkeys, like, waddled up to her and they were, like, looking at her like, well, that's the thing.

They never should have.

Like, once we got them, Nick wanted to just kind of, like, see how they would do and then put them at the deer camp and just see, like, if they went into the wild, if they stayed around.

Those birds have no, like, survival instinct at all.

Like, it has been so funny to watch because they think Nick is their mom and, like, they know the sound of his truck and, like, he will pull up, and then when we had ten or, you know, more than two and they were younger, he would pull up, and you would just see them all, like, running, running.

And they.

Turkeys are supposed to fly up in a tree and roast at night.

These turkeys like to fly up on the grill or the outside refrigerator or just chill on the porch and look in the window.

Like they, they have just been our pets.

Y'all know, you made your house so warm and inviting that, like, even the animals are like, oh, we don't want to be in the wild.

We don't.

We don't want to be part of that.

Or maybe they just feel at home because it's a little wild.

That's true.

Maybe that's it.

Yes.

Okay.

So you mentioned filling your cup, and this is with work, and so obviously, we're in a beautiful office.

We've got some color swatches behind us.

So I would love for you to talk about your new business venture.

I have already partaken in this business venture, and it has literally, fundamentally changed my life as far as my wardrobe.

So I would love for you to talk about your new business for a minute, kind of how you got started and how it's going so far.

I am so excited about it.

So color analysis, and you are at Kaylee Lambert styling in my studio.

You know, I was on TikTok, and I usually go to TikTok for, like, recipes or, like, makeup and fashion, like, just to see what all the good is, because I love girly stuff.

I'm a girly girl.

And one day I saw this video come on the screen, and it was about picking.

She had swatches, and she was telling this girl what her best colors were, and I could noticeably see a difference in the girl's skin and how she looked and how she just lit up.

And I was like, what is this?

I've got to know more.

So I just became obsessed with looking at the videos and just didn't really put a whole lot of thought into the business side of it, but was just like, I would love to do, this is so cool.

And then one day, we were on our way back from a trip, and I just started looking it up, and I was like, I'm going to do this, and did the certification, found an office, did the training, passed the training, and it's so cool.

And I get to do that every day with women, and you just get to see them light up whenever you pull one color from, like, not their best color to a good color.

Like, it's just, it's all the feel good, all the feel good and all the girly, and it's just I love it.

I feel like it's such a personality, because I feel like you're so good at making other people feel good.

Like, you're always one to give a compliment.

You're always one to be a cheerleader.

And I feel like with this job, it kind of takes your unique talents, and it let you use them very organically, because now with this job, you are able to, like, bring someone's, like, beautiful side out.

Obviously, you know, they always look beautiful, but, like, you're able to, like, bring that glow out.

And even, like, when she did my color analysis, like, I don't know.

I don't know what I was expecting when I went into it.

I guess.

Cause I didn't know enough about it.

Cause I'm kind of girly, but I'm not always great at everything.

But when she showed me my in colors and now that I am buying clothes that are in my color palette and, like, I dyed my hair so I had a complete live transformation after, but it is.

I mean, so now every time I pull a piece out of my closet, I'm like, oh, Kaylee.

Like, Kaylee's the reason that I own this piece.

And so I think that it takes your personality, and it really just, like, allows you to be your truest self.

And I think that you were, like, the perfect person for this because you are such a cheerleader for women.

Well, and everyone loves a compliment, but when you can actually see the change and just, like, what it does to your features.

So I use drapes of all different colors to first determine what season you're in based on your undertone of your skin.

Eye color kind of comes into effect or into play.

Hair color, natural hair color.

There's just a lot of different things.

I look at.

I look at what it does to your jawline, and if you have any blemishes or freckling, like, what it does to that.

Like, because the right colors enhance your natural beauty.

So you come in with no makeup on, and that.

That alone is kind of like a.

Ugh, very intimidating.

Even when I did it, I got in front of that mirror with no makeup on and that white tape, and you feel the opposite of what you feel like when you leave, because when you leave, you've got this whole refreshed idea of what you look like when you're wearing the right colors.

Like, nothing can stop you.

Like, I'm stopping right now.

And so I put the drapes on and first determine if you're cool or warm.

And then from that, the four seasons so you've got spring and autumn.

They're warm.

Summer and winter are cool.

And then what's really cool about our system is there are now subseasons.

So back in the day, you know, there were four.

This was very popular in the eighties, too, and there were four seasons.

Well, now it's expanded.

So you may be really good in spring, but also you may have some harmony with summer because your undertone is neutral.

So you would be a light spring.

Like, it's.

It's just really cool.

And you have.

You leave with fresh ideas and really, like, just a glow.

Like, you can just tell people are feeling better about themselves when they leave.

And that's just such a good feeling.

It is.

You're so good at it, too.

And I saw somebody make a post after they left, after they had an analysis done with you.

And in her post, she said, have you ever bought something and months later, it's still hanging in the closet?

You never wore it, and you wondered why.

And that was, like, such a light bulb moment for me.

And this was even after I'd had my color analysis done.

And I was like.

Cause I have, like, a section of things in my closet that they fit me, and theoretically, I should look good in them, but every time I try them on, I'm just like, something's off, you know?

Like, I just don't look good in this.

So I went to that section the other day after I had my color analysis done, and I tried it on, like, with my swatches.

And then, like, thinking back on when you did my color analysis, and I was like, that's it.

It's the colors.

It's not the fit.

It's not the anything else.

It is literally the colors like it.

And so now I can save time, money, and my confidence is going to be better because I'm not going to be trying things on and being like, why do I look so ugly in this?

It's because I'm a, x, y, or z.

You know, my body's not.

I'm, you know, fat or I'm too short or whatever.

It's just not my color.

Right.

Yeah.

And so I love it.

I love that you're, like, kind of opening that up for people.

And I was so guilty about, and I probably still will be if it's in my color palette.

But finding a shirt I liked and then saying, oh, I'm gonna get it in every color because I just thought it was great.

And then I got these other colors, and I would go to put them on, and it I would.

Again, question, like, what you were saying, the fit, or is it made different or something?

And now I can look back and it was totally the color.

Yeah.

Same shirt.

Bought it in three colors.

Only one of them worked, and that's why I didn't wear two.

It's crazy.

It really is.

So if someone is wanting to book a session, like, how would they go about that?

Are they.

How is kind of the reach out to you?

So I have a Facebook page.

Kaylee Lambert, styling.

Instagram and TikTok are the same.

Okay.

Kaylee Lambert styling.

And on those sites, you will find a link to book Facebook.

It's at the very top.

And I think Instagram it is too.

But, yeah, you just go and it's got all the options.

I can do parties one on one, offer it on the weekends, and you just click it, and you book, and it sends me a notification, and you're on my calendar.

I love that.

I love that you've made it so simple for people to book, because I feel like everything these days is so complex, and if something is a little bit too hard for me, I'm not inherently a lazy person, but if something is difficult, I'm like, I'm out.

I love that you made it so simple for people to book it.

I like simple, too.

Yes.

We're both.

We're both very simple.

Okay.

You might not think it looking at us, because we are.

I feel like the way we dress and the way we carry ourselves is such a juxtaposition to, like, our personalities.

Because if you saw me, you might be like, oh, she's very put together, and she's very blah, blah, blah.

And then I'm like, you know, like, earlier, I hadn't even, like, charged the microphones.

I mean, we were just kind of rolling in with it, but we make it work.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Because if you catch me at the compound at my house, hanging out with some people, leggings, t shirt, no makeup, probably my hair and a hat.

That's another thing about the color analysis, too, is, like, not only will the colors make you feel good about yourself, but Kaylee will make you feel good about yourself.

Like, I'm telling you, she's a natural cheerleader.

She's a girls girl.

I feel like it's so hard to find, like, true girls girls these days.

Like, a lot of people have an agenda or, you know, they have an end goal in mind, which is perfectly fine if that, you know, is how you want to conduct yourself.

But, like, I feel like you're just, like, a genuine.

A genuine good person.

It's just easy to be nice to people.

Yeah.

And like, for you, like, instead of.

I try, you know, you are nice.

You're very nice.

Way nicer than me, though.

I'm like kind of a secondary nice.

I'm like, oh, she.

Okay.

Would she get to know her?

She's really nice.

Secondary nice.

You know, you gotta, like, kind of.

You gotta ease in.

Like, you, like, walk in the room nice.

You're nice on the.

Your wholeness is nice.

My heart is nice, but maybe not the, you know, on the forefront.

Always.

You just keep your phone before.

That's okay.

That's true.

That's true.

That's okay.

Guard your heart.

Yep.

Okay.

We're.

Protect your peace.

I feel like going quickly into it.

Well, this is our problem is because we are so we have such good conversation is we can very quickly, like go on and like earlier we went down a rabbit hole.

I don't even remember what we talked about.

And Kaylee made the comment, she said, wow, we only talked for an hour.

Yeah.

Because normally when we go off on a tangent, like when we go like, to Shreveport or something together, I mean, we're just like.

And then you get home and you're like, what did we talk about tonight?

But we were together for 12 hours, so we obviously.

We didn't shut up.

So we obviously talked about something.

Yeah, but it filled my cup.

We're filling each other.

Yeah.

Okay.

We're doing it right now.

Okay.

I hope that y'all followed that ramble and I hope that you enjoyed this episode.

It was so.

I've been super excited for this episode because.

Me too.

I knew Kayleigh was gonna be a good guest.

I knew that you were gonna love her.

Like I said, she's very engaging.

She's so fun.

She's such a girls girl.

You absolutely need to come visit her.

If you're not from El Dorado, just make a girls trip and we can.

We can turn it into a fun thing.

We'll go grab a spot of wine and we'll have a party.

Turn it into a girl.

Always a party, always a good time.

Yes.

Okay.

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