Welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful journey called

life. If ever you feel like you are stuck, if ever, you can make

sense of a situation. If ever you feel desperate to understand

what's going on with your mind your heart, please don't

hesitate to reach out, I'm sure we could find a way to make you

feel better about yourself, the better you know yourself, the

stronger you can be, the more valuable and precious you are to

society. And that in turn, will make you feel incredibly

purposeful. To get to know yourself is a quest is a journey

that you have to embark on. And once you're ready for it, it's a

journey that will never end it will anchor you, it will approve

you, it will irritate you and agitate you, or make you feel

good. Or make you feel bad and will make you feel deeply who

will make you experience life on a different level. On a really

good level. Trust me on that. Hmm. Today is Valentine's Day.

And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you.

Because that day you can make it really special or you can make

it like any other day, a good day. But you can set an

intention. In fact, I recommend you setting an intention. For

each day, every time you wake up. I want you to set an

intention. What is it that you want to feel today? Who is it

you want to be today? Yeah, um, when it comes to Valentine's

Day, it's the other day that you're excited about your

restless to experience it excited to spend with your new

lover or with an old lover or with your companion. Or it's a

day where you choose to be totally depressed and feel more

lonely than on any other day. And I know I'm walking on thin

ice if I say you are choosing to feel lonely. But I strongly

believe that we create our own biggest suffering. And it is

okay to feel lonely it is okay to not accept where you're at

right now. That's perfectly fine. But where is it going to

get you to? Where does frustration and resistance and

nagging? Gonna get you to trust me when you are in a

relationship and you nag you always point out the things to

people to your partner specifically that you don't like

they will very quickly turn around and either reject you or

not listen to you anymore, or maybe even leave you because

nobody wants to be around that energy for an extended time. So

I encourage you to do the same with yourself. If you are in a

situation that you don't like that you cannot accept, then I

hope you do everything to change it. And that doesn't mean to be

active or desperate or restless each moment of your life to

change that situation. Sometimes we have to come to terms with

where we're at. Sometimes we have to accept where we're at in

order to Move on. If it is a place that you don't want to be

at, then I encourage you to write down on a piece of paper.

What are the things that you deeply despise right now and

that you don't like and can change in your life? And what

are the things that you don't like, but you cannot change. So

those, of course, will be the things that you will have to

accept, because you can change anything about it. But then if

you see a piece of paper and a list, the things that you can

change in your life, you can start taking action, you can

maybe wonder, what led you to make the decisions to get to

where you're at right now. Because you didn't just end up

here out of nowhere, you made decisions to be in the situation

you're in. And now you can rebel. And you can get angry,

and you can point a finger at me and get really agitated and tell

me no, this is not what you wanted. This is some external

circumstance that got you where you're at, and you had nothing

to do with that. It was an accident. It was other people.

It was some other stuff outside of you, that led you to be where

you're at right now and you can't stand it. Well, then my

friend, we have to start work on making you feel less like a

victim. And more like an empowered person who in the

future will make decisions for him or herself. Well, you're not

going to be able to blame anybody else outside of you. But

yourself. It is really important to find out where you're at and

to know what you want to change. Valentine's Day can be very

triggering can be very uncomfortable. Right Instagram

and Facebook, in general makes you feel inferior makes you feel

like other people have it all together. Other people have it

all, but you and this day can be the ultimate trigger, if you

want to spend it on social media, I get it. I was in that

position. But not for too long, because it got too

uncomfortable. When I started out my journey of self discovery

and self care, I realized the more I accept and care about

myself and my well being the more I attract people into my

life, who have very similar approach to well being and self

care and who are deeply nurturing and deeply sensitive

and deeply curious about life, such as like me. But it was only

then that I could see that I was actually surrounded by great

people. I just had to learn to accept myself a little more and

care a little bit more about who I was who I am, who I want to

be.

So if you are in a relationship if you are, you know totally

satisfied with your love life. I applaud you. You're wonderful,

you're deserving. And it's so cool to have you here and

knowing that you you still want to grow you still want to find

out more about yourself.

But if he is single and unhappy, very lonely. It doesn't mean

that something is wrong with you. It means that the time

might still not be right for a partner to step into your life.

You see every thing every stuff I was gonna say that you don't

address about you A self that you don't clear out that you

don't heal that you don't find closure with, you're going to

bring it into your relationship. And trust me, your relationship

is going to bring up any thing that you were trying to

suppress. And when you were single, you were able to

bullshit yourself to not look into the mirror, and to not be

aware of what are the things that you could declutter or

clean out or get rid of. And in a relationship, everything,

trust me, every little thing is going to come up and look you

dead in the eye that you did not address. This is what

relationships do for us. So if you are single right now, it

doesn't mean that you're incomplete, it doesn't mean that

you have tons of work to do. To get ready. But better to say,

and you can look a little bit deeper inside. What is the image

that you portray to the outside?

Are you being real with yourself? Are you being real?

With the people around you? Another big one, are you

trustworthy, trustworthiness becomes more and more important.

In a world of social media, and such.

And dating apps. Let's mention them for a little bit. It is

fascinating how we think that a picture, a profile with a couple

pictures, filled with a couple of words, is going to make you

trust a person and fall in love with a person. Yes, you can

create sexy vibes, you can create lust, you can maybe fall

a little bit in love with a person with what you see. But we

all miss out on sensitive information that you would

gather when you would meet the person in free range, their

behavior with other people the way they move, the way they

smell, the way they react to certain situations. I believe I

strongly believe we fall in love with features that you cannot

capture with any computer with any device, you have to

experience them. So all this to say, first, you need to get to

know yourself. First, you need to know what you're made of. And

second, you have to find out who would be a perfect match for

you. What is good for you, what do you need? What are you

craving? How can you give that to yourself first, and then

attract a partner into your life? Who enjoys the very same

things, for instance. But you got to do the work first you got

to know who you are, and start being yourself out there as

well. Not only in your head. And this is why it's so incredibly

valuable to work with a coach just like I did it not too long

ago because then you have not only an accountability, buddy,

but you have someone who asks the right questions. And who

helps you to find answers to questions that you had for so

long, who helps you to hear and reframe stories that I've heard

you so much in the past? I hope on this day, I was able to make

you feel empowered, and a little bit less lonely and hopeful for

the future. The time will be right for another person to step

into your life when you are ready and you will be ready

whenever you are. But until then every person who is going to

step into your life is either going to be a overcompensation,

a distraction or Somebody that you expect to do the work.

They're not there to rescue you. You cannot enter a nurturing

relationship, expecting your partner to rescue you, that is

simply not fair and will just end up in a disaster. Again, if

you are single and unhappy, please do not despair. You are

endlessly wersi Sometimes we're just meant to look inside, LOL

deeper first, to then be able to embrace another into our lives.

If you have any questions, if you want to reach out, please

never hold back and message me on Facebook are on my Facebook

page rora good coaching and we can start talking there and

start figuring out how I can help you. take really good care

of yourself and I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye