Oh

hello hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your

host Aurora, life coach.

Always here on Monday and Thursdays, I want to create a

space for you, where you can recharge your batteries,

reflect, and rest. And most importantly, reconnect to

yourself. Sometimes it's not so much about learning new things

and acquiring stuff, reading books.

Sometimes it's more about unlearning, and letting go of

things. And being reminded of who you are.

Remember who you were, when you were three years old, eight

years old, 10 years old.

It is a beautiful journey to be on. Sometimes it is very

painful, because we learned to engage in situations that make

us feel good in the moment. But then realize that feeling good,

should not always be the goal, the aim,

sometimes feeling good as they are to distract and to

guide us further away from who we are, because we think we have

to change we think to

overly adapt in order to feel comfortable with other people.

And that is good for some time. But you will reach a point where

you don't know who you are anymore.

And that's a scary place to be.

So once you go within and see that you steered away

for too long, too far off from your own path.

It can be very disturbing and sobering. And that's what you

know, people don't expect at times, they want change, they

want to feel better.

But they think it's going to be an easy path, they think it's

going to be fun, and that they be laughing. Others think it's

going to be way too hard and not worth it. And it's more

comfortable and easier and time effective to stay on the path.

So everybody has a very different view on change on

being authentic.

We're slowly but surely approaching the end of 2021. And

what I love to ask myself towards the end of the year is

what is it I want to stop doing?

What is it that I want to slowly? Let go off?

What is it that doesn't serve me anymore?

Second question would be what is it I want to start doing? What

is it I want more of in my life?

So take a moment and maybe you know already while I'm talking

what you want to embrace a little more in the future and

what you want to let go off.

And it is so important to try and envision yourself.

Who would you like to be down the road?

If you go a couple of weeks ahead a couple months ahead a

couple of years maybe even who's the person you would like to be?

What would be most sustainable for you.

But let's get back to what we want to stop doing and let go

most of the time, if not all of the time, what we're engaging in

and what we want to let go of in the future. We are doing

initially to make ourselves feel good

to make ourselves

like more functional and okay

It is not things that we just engage, and then yeah, we don't

like them anymore, we engage in addiction, we engage in certain

behaviors for a very, very specific reason. And that is to

feel better to be able to cope.

So to just stop doing that behavior is not gonna work, of

course, you could cold turkey it and just stop doing it. And some

people are very successful at that. But most people stopped

doing

something, I don't want to talk only about addictions, but

habits. And then slowly through the backdoor, that habit creeps

back in as soon as should go sideways. As soon as, yeah,

things become difficult. And we are being reminded of why we

initially started that behavior.

So again, it can be pretty much everything it can be alcohol,

video, gaming,

emotional eating, whatever you come up with, to distract from

your pain.

And this is so important to attempt to have a coach at your

side. Because with your coach, you explore why you initially

engaged in that behavior, and then you start your healing

journey.

And you just start replacing this behavior that you want to

change, get rid of, with a new behavior that is more

beneficial.

And what is it you want to see down the road? What is it that

you want to, you know, have more in your life? And how can you

keep your goal in mind? And vision it?

If not on a on a hourly, but on a daily? And what are the baby

steps that you can get?

Or that you can take towards your goal?

I think that is such an incredibly important question.

Because sometimes we have a goal. And then we see people on

Facebook, on Instagram, in our life that are there already we

feel like and then we feel discouraged. Or another example

is we set a goal. But we're not really making baby steps or any

steps towards our goal. And after a couple of weeks or

months, we just drop it because we feel there's no point

anyways.

So this again, is something that your coach will help you with is

to stay accountable, and to explore what kind of steps you

would like to take in order to get closer to your goals.

So

first of all, find out what is it you want more in your life?

is a joy, is it love is a connection? isn't money?

And what is it? You want less?

Is a drama? Is it confusion? Is it miscommunication? Is it

health issues, money issues?

Loneliness.

And then we can go from there and see

how we can reach these goals.

You can hear it in my voice already. I'm very calm, close to

being sleepy. But it is that time of year where you know the

days are really short here in North America. And you really go

within and reflect and allow this. I know our society here is

doing quite the opposite.

Which doesn't make any sense, but this is how it is. But if

you are aware that Mother Nature is actually wanting you to get

to go inside and to go a little slower. And yes, society around

us is going crazy and it's all about planning and controlling

and influencing and buying presents.

And that can drive some of us severely crazy.

So I encourage you to make time be it in the morning in the

evening. Or if possible in middle of the day for you too.

To be alone with yourself and reflect and enjoy your company.

And if you don't enjoy a company that you see, hey, what is it

that I want to change? If I don't really like being with

myself, if I don't like to look myself in the eyes in the

mirror, then I would suggest we need change.

And that is okay. Change can be very uncomfortable. Change is

not going to be the I feel good route all the time.

But the end goal is going to be so satisfying. To feel authentic

to feel you can be yourself is so incredibly precious. And all

the pain all the digging all the unfolding that needs to happen

before is totally worth it.

I hope you know how precious you are. And not only because you're

listening to my podcast, but because if you are listening to

my podcast, it means you are growth oriented. You like to

challenge yourself. He likes to make this place a better world.

And you are willing to look at yourself instead

doing the work instead of blaming and shaming the outside

world. So let me tell you, I'm incredibly proud of who you are.

And I'm so blessed to have you here on this journey.

If ever you feel ready, reach out to me and schedule a coach

call. I would love to support you. I would love to empower

you. And the people who have reached out so far are Yeah,

again such a blessing. I learned so much. And we grow together

and it's just an incredible way

of connecting with people.

I couldn't be happier when it comes to my job and the way I

can interact with people and meet people from around the

globe.

If you have a moment, please leave me a review or a rating.

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Alright

and if you want to connect with me on Facebook, Aurora Eggert or

Aurora Eggert coaching is where you can find me. Until next

time, take care. Bye bye