Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. First off, I am fighting

spring allergies. So please don't worry, I just didn't feel

the need to skip my episode with you today for you today. And

second, I want to Yeah, express my gratitude to you. I was on a

two week vacation, road tripping through Canada 3300 kilometers.

And yeah, I'm very happy to be back. I'm full of life full of

love, full of excitement. And I hope this will shine through and

my work for you. It's been an incredible trip. And I was happy

to pre record a couple of episodes for you before the trip

and to have episodes with interviews, as well. And I hope

you got a lot of value out of them, and enjoyed them learn

something new, or were able to keep an open mind and heart.

Whenever something was Yeah, triggering you. I feel that it's

very important nowadays that we know that people are very

different have very different views. And sometimes we don't

agree with them, but we can still see the human in them, and

maybe even be curious about their opinion and how their

opinion was formed by their life experiences. My last episode for

you was about your deathbed. And how you can live a life with

Yeah, the least amount of regrets and how you can feel

alive, make the right decisions, so that you don't regret towards

the end of your life. Of course, we never know when we're going

to die. But if you happen to be leaving the planet like my

grandfather did. This influenced my view on death quite a bit.

You will be Yeah, haunted by experiences that were not nice

and pain inflicted on to others by you. And I just want to make

sure that you live with awareness today that you are

aware of the steps that you're taking that you know the

consequences. And don't get me wrong, this doesn't mean that

you have to please people around you at all times. It's quite the

contrary actually. If you follow your call if you go walk on your

path, you might upset people. But the people who truly love

you will always understand your actions because your actions

will be driven by love by expansion by wanting to serve

others. And then there will be people who are not okay with

your decisions. But that's totally fine. That just means

that they're not aligned with your values. But to get there to

make the decisions that are right for you, you have to get

to know yourself. First you have to know what you're made of. You

have to know which experiences have shaped your core values

that you live by today. And sometimes we have to question

the assumptions that we made about ourselves or others or our

core values. It is very important to keep yourself in

check and to know that we change we adapt to certain

circumstances and situations. But sometimes the adaptation is

outdated. Right if you have been in an abuse have relationship,

you had to come up with ideas with values with coping

mechanisms that supported your survival. Now that you're not in

that relationship anymore, now that you're, you know, out and

about, again, maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship

values. You're not in survival mode anymore. You don't need to

protect yourself anymore, you can be open again. But some

people forget about this, they just keep living a life in

survival note mode and bring this attitude, this way of

living into their new relationship, and then wonder

why they keep having the same Shetty outcome. And it is not

the other person's fault, it is always easy to point at the

other person that is now your new partner and to blame them,

it is you who made the choice to be with that person, and to

relate to this person in the way that you did. And this is why

I'm here. This is why I'm constantly reminding you that

you need to be aware of your coping mechanisms of your

protective shield of the walls that you have built around your

heart and yourself while you were in pain. And be self aware,

I was gonna say, critical with yourself. But sometimes people

overdo it and become too judgmental with themselves. And

that's not not good either, but become more self aware. Another

thing that I want to talk about today is that when I talk about

making the right choices, the right decisions for yourself, we

might think that I'm talking about the big decisions, you

know, like to buy a house to propose to a partner, to move to

a new country, to buy a car to decide that you want to have

kids. But what I want to emphasize is that it is that

little decisions that you make on a daily basis, if not hourly

basis, that deeply influenced your life. And most people are

not aware of it. It is the attitude that you wake up with

in the morning, the first couple of thoughts that shoot through

your brain. When you wake up, it is the way you get dressed. It's

the way you have breakfast, it is the way you consume news or

information. Right, we're not only consuming food, and the

food becomes our blood, ourselves, our organs, our skin.

It is also the information that we consume on a daily, if not on

an hourly basis, that will form the way we think the way we feel

about the world. And those are the decisions that you make each

day, each hour of your life that will deeply influence your

bigger decisions, the way you feel about life and others. So I

also want to make you aware of this. How do you wake up in the

morning?

Do you feel rushed? Do you feel drained? Do you feel annoyed by

your alarm clock? Can we change this? Can you make can we make

you enjoy getting up in the morning?

Are you getting up for somebody else something else or are you

getting up for a nice little ritual? A hobby that you started

engaging it? Are you getting up for yourself? How do you eat? Do

you eat in the morning some people don't even eat in the

morning they skip. Some people are just not hungry. Some people

are intentionally engaging in intermittent fasting or full on

fasting. But how aware are you of the things that you put into

your body first thing in the morning? Is it water is it

coffee is a tea? Do you smoke first thing in the morning and

then we go on to social media or your phone in general. Some

people go to the bathroom first thing in the morning with their

phone So they start consuming with their mind already. How

aware? Are you of the stuff that you're consuming? How does it

make you feel? Do you learn? Do you expand? Or are you

judgmental and jealous of what you see? Next thing then is

interactions with people. How do you interact with people? Are

the interactions that you have with people positive? Mainly,

overall, be at the grocery clerk with the waitress, be at your

neighbor, be the person that you take a bus ride, like share a

bus ride with each morning? Do you make eye contact? Do you

look away? Do you speak to people? Or are you more of an

observer? And then your relationships, how good are

their relationships in your life? I want to say that life is

relationships, the way we relate to our environment, heavily

influences our physical health. But a lot of it is also

influencing our mental health. How stable are your

relationships? Do you interact with your friends and family?

With your partner on a daily basis? If yes, are these

interactions positive? Or are they draining? Do you decide to

resolve conflict? Or how do you manage difficult situations with

people? All this influences how you see yourself and the world

in general. And I cannot emphasize how important it is to

of course not over analyze yourself. But maybe once a week

week, check in with yourself and see, hey, what are the actions

I'm taking? Like, go into bird's perspective and watch yourself

for a day.

How do you show up? How do you show up for yourself? How do you

show up for your work? How do you show up for other people?

How do you show up for strangers? How do you show up

for your pets? Yeah, I think I think I got everything out that

I needed to get out for you today.

It is really important to be aware of how your body fields

you breathe. What a question right because of course you're

breathing, otherwise you'd be dead. But don't underestimate

the importance of breath. People who have a very shallow breath,

for instance, a very shallow, exhale, very short exhale, tend

to hold on to things in life, they can really let go and

accept their reality today. They're still trying to hold

things together to hold on to the past. That might have been

painful. If you know this about yourself, you need to go deeper.

You need to exhale more. You need to let go more accept more.

What about your inhale? Are you okay with your current

situation? Or are you trying to you know, push through, avoid,

resist, then your breath might be very short. And that's also

not good. Your breath deeply influences how you feel about

yourself, your mental health but also heavily your physical

health. It is through six proper deep breaths that you can

influence your heart rate, your blood pressure. Isn't that

amazing? Of course if you are dealing with Brett blood

pressure and heart issues, you have to consult a doctor and get

medication. I'm not a doctor, I'm not giving you medical

advice here. But I know for a fact that if you start breathing

properly, inhale fully exhale fully and let go. If you notice

the beginning the mid part and the ending of your breath you

can be on Very good path to better health, also mental

health. So watch yourself, pick a day of this week and watch

yourself, what are the actions that you take. And by observing

yourself already, you will change automatically, right?

It's just like when you work at a ad an office, and from one day

to the other, your boss tells you, hey, we're gonna put up a

camera now, because we want to watch it closely. Your behavior,

behavior will be changing if you want it or not. Same goes for

observing yourself, you don't have to think about major

changes that you need to make if you notice something is, you

know, a little bit off or something that you don't really

like about yourself. Noticing already, I want to say is way

more than 50%. It's 80%. And from there, you can naturally or

organically, sustainably, approach a change, not radically

radical, never really worked. Maybe for a week, but then it's

too much for your nervous system. Your nervous system is

what I want to talk about next on Thursday. Because sometimes

we want to make changes so radically so fast. But our

nervous system is not really ready to adapt to this change

already. And how can we ready ourselves to make the changes

that are right for us? I'm really passionate to talk about

this with you. As always, please give me feedback. Leave me a

review. You don't know how much it means to Yeah, just leave me

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want to make sure that I help as many people as possible on this

journey. And yeah, you have a heavy say in how successful

my work is being transpired into the world. Thank you so much for

being there. I deeply appreciate you and I will be out there on

Thursday for you. Bye bye.