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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What if midlife wasn't the beginning of decline, but the gateway to your most vibrant, powerful years? In this conversation, we'll explore how science and sacred feminism

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: feminine wisdom come together to transform how you feel, heal, and live, so you can thrive, not just survive. Hi, and welcome to the UWorld Order Showcase Podcast, where we feature life health transformational coaches and spiritual entrepreneurs who are stepping up to be the change they seek in the world.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm your host, Jill Hart, The Coach's Alchemist, on a mission to help coaches and entrepreneurs amplify their voice, monetize their mission, and get visible.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Today, we are chatting with Carla Wainwright. Carla is a holistic wellness coach, sexual awakening facilitator, and midlife alchemist.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: She supports women 40-plus to reclaim vitality, balance their hormones, and reconnect with pleasure and power through metabolic health, nervous system healing, and sensual embodiment. With a background in biology, homeopathy, and over 20 years in the healing arts, Carla bridges the science of the body with the sacredness of lived experience. She leads retreats, group programs, and one-on-one coaching

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to guide women through midlife as a rite of passage, helping them reawaken desire, embrace radiance, and embody lasting transformation. Welcome to the show, Carla. It's great to have you with us.

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Carla: Yeah, thrilled to be here, thank you.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Awesome. So, what's the most important or significant thing, in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going?

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Carla: Mmm, that's a beautiful question that has a lot of layers to it.

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Carla: And I think what comes up initially for me is… is… I think that if we want to create impact in the world, we actually have to really feel good in our bodies.

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Carla: And I think that we are, you know, right now in an epidemic of people really feeling poorly in their bodies, and disconnected from their bodies.

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Carla: And even though we may have this, you know, inside motivation and beautiful vision of making impact in the world, I think that's really heated by not really connecting with this incredible vessel that we're in. So I guess I would say that

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Carla: The most important thing we can do is start with ourselves, and really tend to this body, you know, I call it this, you know, incredible vessel. It's really a miracle, and just take better care of ourselves through whether that's lifestyle, whether that's connecting more with nature, whether that's connecting with loved ones, all the various facets of that, so that we really genuinely feel good within our bodies and our being, so that we can then go do

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Carla: That really important work of creating, you know.

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Carla: Beautiful and meaningful impact in the world.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we've gotten here, I've watched the process, where it's just, like, the… the… young is… young is, like, where it's at, you…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you need to be 20 eternally, and all the women problems that we experience, it's like, every stage of our lives gets medicalized in terms of, it's a medical crisis, you're becoming a woman.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So now we have to, like, help you with all of these planning for birth control, and I… it's just like…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And then when you hit menopause, it's like, oh, your life is over, go sit on the couch.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You're irrelevant.

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Carla: Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. That is, you know, as women, we continue to be, somewhat force-fed narratives about the various stages of our lives and, you know, our worthiness.

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Carla: At those various points, and there seems to be just a very small sliver of our entire life experience that's considered to be, you know, optimal or the most worthy, and 100% agree that

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Carla: That narrative of shutting things down as we get older is completely ridiculous, and nothing really could be further from the truth.

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Carla: you know, as you said in the introduction, I really do believe that women have this incredible rite of passage that we go through that really helps us move into the most powerful and potent time of our lives.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, and you've helped people with this, right?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What is… what is your coaching mainly focused towards?

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Carla: Yeah, so for many, many years, I was really, very much, supporting women with connecting with the energy of the Divine Feminine, and waking up that feminine energy, which for so many of us has really been suppressed,

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Carla: You know, for all kinds of reasons, society, culture, families, all of these things, and waking up that energy, because I really feel like there's… this is the generative power, this is the creatrix, the power that is really, so vital and so needed in our world. And…

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Carla: as I started to go through my own perimenopausal, and now I'm postmenopausal journey, I really realized that

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Carla: as important as it was to connect with our feminine essence, and so that would be our intuition, deep listening to the body, getting connected to the wisdom of the body, being able to feel energy in the body. As I said earlier, taking care of the physical vessel, I realized, is as important. They're not more important than each other, neither is more important, but they're equally important.

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Carla: What I support women with is what I term the sacred metabolism, which is really

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Carla: connecting with the physical, so how do we take care of this vessel, in terms of lifestyle? That can be, you know, what we eat, when we eat, circadian rhythms, sunshine, all of these things, and combining that with the sacred piece, of our metabolism, which is our energetic metabolism. And I really have found in my work, through my own experience and work with women, that when these

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Carla: two are addressed together. Women are able to step over that threshold into these wisdom years, the sacred spring, sorry, excuse me, the second spring, as it's known in the Taoist system, with just so much more vitality and vibrancy and capacity

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Carla: To become the wise person, the wise woman that she really is meant to be.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, and how does focusing on metabolic health actually help women in midlife reclaim vitality and clarity? And it shifts…

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Carla: It is so… excuse me. It's so, so important. So, there, you know, there are statistics that less than 10% of people are metabolically healthy, you know, probably in the Western world.

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Carla: So, we are really in a metabolic crisis right now, and it affects women in a very particular way, particularly as women enter that perimenopausal journey. So, because our hormones are shifting, we have less of the protective effects, particularly of estrogen, but also progesterone.

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Carla: And that makes us much more susceptible to stress. We all know, those of us who've been on this journey, how easy it is to be stressed, how easy it is to be dysregulated in our nervous systems. We really struggle, with our sleep, we can struggle with our moods, all of these things, and there is absolutely a metabolic component to this.

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Carla: So… Because so many of us,

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Carla: are what is known as insulin resistant, meaning that our blood sugar kind of is all over the map. That increases cortisol. Cortisol also increases insulin sensitivity, and it affects our sex hormones, it affects our thyroid hormone, and it affects every aspect of our lives.

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Carla: Addressing metabolic health so that we have the physical foundation to really feel good in our bodies, have better sleep, have better blood sugar control, feel just more vital, and have more energy day to day is so, so important, because if we're feeling completely stressed and depleted and a shell of ourselves in every way.

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Carla: how could we possibly create space to step into a more authentic and powerful version of ourselves, right? So the metabolic piece, I really do feel like we are in a crisis in our societies, where people are very unhealthy, whether they know that or not.

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Carla: And…

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Carla: I do want to frame that and say, though, the good news is, is it's all fixable, right? Like, it isn't that,

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Carla: long or hard to fix, you know, with the right knowledge and the right support. But it is really, really, foundational to a woman thriving. And I just want to add one more piece to this, is in a lot of my work.

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Carla: in all my work is very pleasure-focused, because pleasure is really this incredible…

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Carla: pathway, an antidote, that particularly women can use to access their wisdom and to really heal their bodies and beings. That said, women consistently choose stress over pleasure. We're hardwired, our biology has hardwired us to be like this, because if we go back, you know, hundreds of thousands of years, there was a survival component to that. We actually had to pay attention to

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Carla: The stress, so that we actually would survive.

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Carla: But the reality in our modern society is that we're continually, many, many, many times a day, choosing stress over pleasure. And then, if we're metabolically unhealthy, it becomes harder and harder to actually choose pleasure as the antidote to stress. So, there's this big layer of our metabolism, our physical metabolism, that we need to pair also with the sacred metabolism in order to be able to

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Carla: move, like I said, over this threshold into this powerful time in our lives.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the… It's so fascinating. I… I'm… I'm sitting here thinking about, yeah?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Doesn't that make sense?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I can relate to that, and I…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And then I was thinking about, I have… I have an orchard in my backyard, and this is the beautiful time of year where stuff is…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: getting ripe, and being out there with the trees and eating fruit off the trees, it's like a little sacred ritual I perform every day at this time of year, because you can't do it all year, but it just…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There's something about standing outside, in nature, among these trees that are my friends.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: that have a lot of… I've planted the fruit trees, but a lot of the rest of the trees are just volunteer trees that have grown in my yard. When we first moved here 5 years ago, there were no trees.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: In my backyard, and now there's over a hundred, probably, in various stages of growth, and it just, like, it feels good to be in that energy, and it's…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It helps regulate the, the, like, the pleasureness of… Of life for me.

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Carla: Absolutely. So, I, I, first of all, I love that. I'm a big gardener, I have fruit trees, I'm celebrating the apples on my tree, this week, actually. They're so incredible, so I really resonate with what you're sharing.

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Carla: And, yes, like, being in nature and just connecting in that way, and really slowing down and noticing, this is one of the most important practices that we can do as women, because, most of us are kind of… there's a term, rushing woman syndrome.

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Carla: I'm very guilty of that, too. You know, it's like, zip, zip, zip, always, to the next thing, to the next thing, to the next thing. And slowing down, and nature offers so many beautiful opportunities to do that, and just allow ourselves to be…

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Carla: connected to our senses very slowly is a very, very powerful reset. So I said earlier that pleasure is one of the first things to go whenever we're metabolically unhealthy. Paradoxically, pleasure is also the gateway that brings us back.

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Carla: Right? But we have to be intentional about it, so you just gave this beautiful example of.

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Carla: of going into your orchard and having a ritual. I'm all about rituals, they're so important. I think for humans, ritual speaks really deeply to our nervous system and our soul, to eat the apple and be in nature and appreciate the abundance and all of those various pieces. So that, in itself, what happens is there's a beautiful cascade that happens, so that experience

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Carla: produces oxytocin in your body. Oxytocin, we know, is like the love and connection hormone. It only has a very short half-life, it only lasts for 2 or 3 minutes, but it's so powerful. And what happens when we get oxytocin

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Carla: is that then begins to lower our cortisol levels, so we can calm down, we can feel more centered, we can feel more of what's happening within ourselves. When our cortisol lowers, our insulin…

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Carla: also lowers, we become more insulin sensitive, and then all of the other hormones underneath that, our sex hormones, our thyroid hormones, also get that beautiful bathing effect of, of all of the hormones that are upstream of that. So.

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Carla: The little ritual that you provided is so, so powerful, and I want to remind women who are listening to this that, you know, you can do this anywhere, it doesn't even have to be outside, but if you can slow down and pause for 2 or 3 minutes with something that gives you great delight and joy, you are…

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Carla: Doing this incredible healing, like, you are creating a beautiful inner alchemy of healing, a cascade of hormones, but also connecting into the sacred metabolism of deep feeling and intuition.

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Carla: That is so, so powerful. So I really thank you for giving that example, because it's a perfect visualization of what someone can do each and every day.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Another… I have a different, simple one that… can…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It can be a profound ritual, or it could just be something you do really quickly. But…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Lighting a candle.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you can take 5 minutes and really enjoy the process of lighting the candle, and just stand there and breathe and appreciate it, the light and the warmth. This is something that I like to do in the wintertime, especially early in the morning when I first wake up. It's just like…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It… it sets the tone for the day, that this is, like, it's a special space.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just little things that… Our listeners can do to…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To just get into developing some more habits that will serve them better, rather than just, like, the rushing through life, throw on all the lights in the morning when you get up, and…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's like, we really weren't designed to live an electric life. We were designed to live a…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: A process of… Greeting the day, and ending the day.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: By the sun, and the light, and…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I read somewhere that people used to wake up in the middle of the night. They would sleep for 4 hours, and they would get up for a couple hours in the middle of the night and do stuff.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And then they would go back to bed for another 4 hours or so, and then they would get up and do the daylight stuff, which I thought was really fascinating.

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Carla: Yeah, I've read that too.

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Carla: Yeah, I have read that too, but you are absolutely right. I mean, we are… there is a huge…

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Carla: physiological mismatch between our modern living and, you know, houses with light and computers and all of this, and our biology, which of course evolved over

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Carla: hundreds and hundreds of thousands of years, and so it does put an enormous amount of stress, because we're just not hardwired, even though our thinking mind, you know.

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Carla: manages and does all the things, our bodies, did not have the chance to evolutionarily adapt to this very short window. We're just talking about, you know, 100 years or so, particularly where there's been such a dramatic shift in our modern lifestyles.

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Carla: But to just come back to the ritual piece, I absolutely agree, and so it's the…

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Carla: the habitual ritual of slowing down, and again, I want to remind your listeners to really

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Carla: if they're… if they're new to this, to just maybe go through each of your senses, so if you're… as you're lighting a candle, you know, what is it that you see? Close your eyes, and then open your eyes, and then, you know, what's the sound of the match hitting the, the match,

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Carla: box, and then the crackling sound, maybe. You know, what is it that you, feel in your body, the heat, all of those things. So going through the senses can be really, really powerful. And all of these things are the small little antidotes to our modern living that we really, I feel, in some ways, almost have a duty to provide our bodies, because our bodies are just crying out for more regulation. They're crying out for more

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Carla: care, but we often tune that out, right? So these small, intentional practices, like, and you gave these beautiful two examples, woven through your day, they don't have to take long. They're like a couple of minutes. When they're done with consistency and care and

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Carla: And, you know, a deep intention.

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Carla: I 100% guarantee you will see powerful shifts happening in your life.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, how does your coaching look?

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Carla: Hmm. So…

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Carla: it is a little bit, variable in terms of what somebody comes to me for, because there's different things that, of course, that I can support someone with. But if we're looking at really diving into this idea of the sacred metabolism, I typically start with,

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Carla: going through how someone's feeling, ask, you know, there's some questionnaires around that, and just really sort of diving into the nitty-gritty, the more science-y stuff, because that's often where it feels a little bit easier for people to have as an entry point. So then they, they leave with specific.

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Carla: Things that they can do in various aspects of their life, whether it's from food, or lifestyle, or detoxing.

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Carla: Self-care, all of those pieces.

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Carla: And then, after we've had just a little bit of time with that, then I start to move into what's going on in this, you know, the deeper energetics. So, I love to do exploration, using a technique called somatic experiencing, which is really coming into the wisdom of the body and finding out where there are objections, or

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Carla: parts within ourselves that may feel reluctant or need some extra support. That is helping a woman really attuned to being able to listen and hear the wisdom of her body. I love to use breathwork practices, there's movement practices, and I also draw upon a lot of the sacred Qigong practices that, are extremely supportive for women to awaken

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Carla: sexual life force energy and circulate it in the body. So I love to do this kind of combination between the two, but of course, meeting every person exactly where they're at. I mean, coaches know this, right? We have to meet people where they're at, and then, help guide them, and, you know, gently, I love this concept of titration, of just moving a little bit into what's the unknown, or perhaps a little uncomfortable, but within the safe container, so that

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Carla: You're able to expand within that.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So you do most of your coaching one-on-one, or in groups, or both?

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Carla: I do… so that kind of deep coaching that I was just describing, I typically do one-on-one, but I do hold group programs.

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Carla: It's a different kind of container, but yes, I do hold group programs. I have one called Feel Great in Your Body, which is, basically a metabolic health program

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Carla: I bring the pleasure piece, I bring the feminine energy piece into it, but it's a really… it's a great program for women to embark on to start making some of those changes, in their lives.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, let me ask you, pleasure is often overlooked when it comes to health. How does embracing pleasure, both sexual and non-sexual, support hormonal health, resilience, and long-term well-being for women over 40?

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Carla: Yeah, so isn't that a shame? That pleasure is overlooked? I think it's one of the most important pieces. I really, I believe pleasure is your birthright, right? As human beings, we have this capacity to experience pleasure in so many ways. And I also think that pleasure…

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Carla: you know, sometimes we have to define it like this. We have to say, well, sexual or otherwise. Like, pleasure, of course, can be sexual pleasure, but it can be so many things. It can be looking at a sunrise, it can be, you know, feeling the warm water on your head in the shower, it could be having a loving conversation with somebody.

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Carla: So, you know, as I said earlier, why pleasure is so important is because it creates, within our bodies, this cascade of chemicals that actually helps to rewire our system.

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Carla: That allows us to be more resilient, to handle stress better, to be more insulin sensitive, so we don't have those big highs and lows from the things that we eat. And to help navigate, it really does help

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Carla: the sex hormone piece as we move through that perimenopausal journey, where there are so many waves. Like, there are going to be waves, of course, because we're going from being,

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Carla: menstruating and potentially fertile do not, right? And so, that's going to happen. That's not a bad thing, but it can be very challenging because of those waves. So, what pleasure does is it signals to the brain and the body to release this cascade of chemicals, starting with oxytocin.

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Carla: To really, soften and dampen some of those downstream effects that can be really, really challenging, which… whereas

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Carla: where most women really, suffer. And so, imagine if you went to the doctor's office, and instead of them giving you a prescription for antidepressants or whatever, which

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Carla: you're not going crazy, you just, you know, you just need support, and understanding and tools. They gave you a list of, you know, I want you to do 5 pleasurable things a day, and I want you to, at night before you go to bed, write those down so that you relive them again and create more pleasure in your body. I want you to go take a 3-day retreat, or, you know

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Carla: you know, go walk in the forest every day after work, or whatever that is. Like, imagine if we were taught from a young age that pleasure is one of the most powerful medicines that we could actually integrate into our lives. I mean, it would be radical.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It would be radical. I think a part of it is an awareness, has an awareness element to it, in that we… we tend, as women, to be trained to just

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Power through. Like, men's cycles are 12-hour cycles. Women's cycles are 28-day cycles. And a woman is not the same day to day. Month to month on the same…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: period, it might be, yeah. And this does not go away when you go over menopause. You just quit menstruating. But you still have cycles in your body.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: that maybe it's tuned to the moon, I don't know. But you do have times when you need to be…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: More circumspect, and other times you're just, like, full of energy, you're ready to go, go, go.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But it's not… it's not… every day does not look the same, and when we smush ourselves into these…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: channels where we have to, like, have to show up from to work, from whatever time to whatever time, and stay there, and be productive. Even when your body is screaming, no, what you need to do is go home and sleep.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Because it's working on something. Or… It just…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's just, like, we're taught to just ignore the signals our body's giving us.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I think that's why there's so much disease, you know, that and the poor food supply that we insist on eating.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We just… I… We're just not taking the time to appreciate the…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the beauty and the pleasurable things in our lives, which we all experience pleasure throughout our day, but usually we… we just, like, gloss over it. Oh, that was fun.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Or it's not significant. We're taught that, you know, you shouldn't be proud of stuff, and that's not really all that big of a deal, and we try to pick it apart for why it's not a great thing that we can celebrate, and we don't celebrate things, okay? It's just like…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Why… why is that?

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Carla: Well, I absolutely agree. Women are cyclical beings, and that absolutely does not stop once you, you know.

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Carla: finish menstruating. And I think that, you know, because we're cyclical beings trying to function in a world that is very linear, that is very masculinized, and we try to fit into boxes, and, you know what, I'm really tired, and I need to take a nap.

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Carla: We don't give ourselves permission, because we're trying to live this very, sort of, linear, masculized life. We are not many men, and it's…

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Carla: it's, you know, I think it's done, horrendous things to our health, not listening, and not feeling, worthy enough to be able to,

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Carla: you know, take that stand for ourselves. And that's one of the things that menopause does, is that we actually step more into claiming that space and feeling ready to say, actually, no, I'm not going to. I want a nap, I'm gonna take a nap, and that's just how it is, and everybody else can just deal with it. But I'm sorry, I actually forgot your question, like, why… why is it that…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Why is it that we just put up with all of this?

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Carla: Yeah, why is it that we put up with it? Well, I think that, I think the conversation is changing. I, I think that, you know, shows like yours, these conversations that are being had… I mean, if we think about our mother's generation and, and,

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Carla: what they, you know, and beyond that, the suffering that they went through, the invisibility that was kind of forced upon them, I think that that is changing. There's still so much work to do, and…

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Carla: I do believe, though, that there is this deep remembrance awakening within women of

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Carla: That there's something more, and that…

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Carla: I'm powerful, and I want to actually really connect and harness that power so that I can be, you know, I can be me, and I can be me in the fullest version of that in the world. So, I believe the seeds have been planted, and there is an awakening happening, but we have to

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Carla: we have to still take care of ourselves, we still have to have conversations, we have to support and uplift other women. All of these things are vital if we really want to get to the point where we're flourishing, our daughters are flourishing, and women are flourishing, in harmony with men, of course, right? But that we're not trying to be, like, junior males on this linear pathway that clearly does not work well for us.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's more like broken males. I think women for the last 120 years have been just, like, they've… men look at… looked at women, scientists primarily, and said, oh, they're just broken men. Let's fix them!

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we can… we could make it all better. And it really didn't need to be better. And I think, you know, the whole burn the witches at the stake thing.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Witchers were just… really intuitive women.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And often, they were landowners, and had a lot of knowledge about life and nature, and…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And that was, it made men uncomfortable.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I think that's how that whole thing

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Actually, probably King James is, like, the first to…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: He's the one that put it in the Bible, and

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Whether you're religious or not, it has had an impact on our history.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: How these things have moved along, and… and looking at women as, like, the weaker vessel, because we're broken men.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're… we're little broken men, and we need to be fixed, but we're not. We're… we're a different…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: genetic makeup, and we have different cycles, and we have different ways of expressing ourselves in the world. We are just one aspect.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: of… of a two-aspect component. You know, there's the male and the female, and it's not to say that there aren't other genders or whatever. I… because there's… there's the part where that mixes. I, you know, and it… it…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: People shouldn't be made to feel broken.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Anywhere… men or women, genetic or not, it's just, like, you should just be able to be accepted for who you are.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And be able to express yourself the way you came here to express yourself.

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Carla: Yeah, I absolutely agree. There's, you know.

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Carla: Healing from generations and generations and generations, that… that is really,

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Carla: has a profound impact on us. We may not think that, oh, well, you know, that happened so many hundreds of years ago in my family line. Absolutely. I mean, as you said, the witchers, they were the healers, they were the wise women, they had knowledge, sometimes land, sometimes all of these things, and so that was a threat.

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Carla: And what was the result of that? That just made women more silent, smaller, like, don't notice me, because noticing could be dangerous, right? So, we really have to be brave and step out of,

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Carla: the shadow of some of that history, even some of our own personal history. I mean, we've all had experiences where we've been shut down, minimized, made small. But I really encourage, you know, women to…

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Carla: Remember, at the core of who they are, even if it's just, you know, the smallest of remembrances of that, and then take those small, incremental steps towards really nourishing and supporting that part of you to become, really, all of you.

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Carla: Absolutely.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I love the movement towards a more holistic existence, whereas for a long time, it was just… everything was in your head.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Your head is just, like, a very small portion of your whole body.

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Carla: Yes, and then we have a pill for that.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes!

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Here, let's fix that. Never mind that it's gonna destroy, like, a bunch of other systems in your body that

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You know, and the whole one… one thing fits all…

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Carla: Solutions? Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I… yeah, no.

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Carla: The one other thing I'll say about that, too, because maybe a lot of people don't realize, but most medical studies are done on men. Very few medical studies are actually done on women, so, you know, the data is not, accurate, right? Because we are cyclical, and especially when we are menstruating, we have

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Carla: different phases and hormones, you know, hormones in different places, and so, yes, I think that there's a real shift that needs to happen that recognize that, you know, our bodies and beings are different.

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Carla: And need to be acknowledged and revered.

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Carla: For being different.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And trusted. You know, it's okay to trust your body, and that your body will tell you what it needs or doesn't need, and…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: sometimes we can use our mouth to express this to other people. We don't have to just, like.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'll give you an example. I went… I went to the doctor because I was having really bad headaches. Like, they would come on and they would be, like, really crushing it, so they did an MRI, and I got a copy of the test, and if you're gonna have tests in a medical facility, you need to get a copy of that test and look at it.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Whether it's a blood test, whatever it is.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And I'm here to say, I'm not a medical professional, but this has served me well, in that I look up all of the numbers that they put on there, and I see what they mean.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what they're measuring. You know, understanding these tests that you're paying hundreds and sometimes thousands of dollars for, it's your data. You have a right to it. You don't have to just depend on the person in the white coat, because they don't have a vested interest in your life. You do.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, you know, then you can have a conversation with them that this… A little more equal.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Anyway, I had this MRI done, and…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I have a collapsed patella, my pituitary gland is flat.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: where it's supposed to be around. And your pituitary gland is, like, responsible for, like, everything in your body, and try as I might, I…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I have… I have trouble finding out how that actually has impacted my body.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I've been working on… Blowing it up again, but it's like… it's a mental game for me.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: existential exercise. So, but the doctor, nobody ever mentioned it to me. The only reason I knew about it was because I got a copy of the test.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So, I… it…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think the lesson is that you need… you need to take personal responsibility for your health.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: what was causing the headaches was that… and I figured this out on my own, is the way I was holding my neck. If I hold my neck in a certain way, I've had so many injuries that it cuts off the blood supply, and I get these headaches because my…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Body is trying to tell me, hey, you're cutting off the blood supply to your brain, you need to do something different there.

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Carla: I'm glad you resolved that, and I totally agree. You know, if you get tests done, you should be asking for the results, and yeah, don't give your power away.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They're your test results. Ask for them.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, and they'll give them to you. Just most people don't know that you, A, can ask for them, and B, that they're willing to give them to you.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So…

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I know that you have a free vibrancy guide. Do you want to talk a little bit about that?

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Carla: Sure, so My Vibrancy Guide is this beautiful first step that women can take to really step into caring more for this sacred metabolism. So, I've put 5 steps in there, so incorporating various things from

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Carla: Yeah, reconnecting with your body through

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Carla: timing of eating, getting outside, pleasure practices, all of these various things. So they're very small, practical things that women can do right away to come into the space of creating a more healthy, sacred metabolism.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that. And you can find that at vibrancyReset.com.

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Carla: Exactly.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Okay.

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Carla: Yep, VibrancyReset.com.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Perfect. Thank you so much for joining me today, Carla.

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Carla: Yeah, it was a pleasure, I loved our conversation, thank you.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Me too.

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