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Kevin Lowe: What's the biggest opportunity you've missed out on in life?

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Kevin Lowe: Is it the job you never applied for? The person you never asked out?

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Kevin Lowe: Or was it maybe the dream you never pursued?

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Kevin Lowe: All because you only assumed you figured the answer would be no.

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Kevin Lowe: Inside of today's episode, I'm about to show you that your biggest enemy isn't rejection.

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Kevin Lowe: It isn't the word no. But instead, it's you never asking in the first place.

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Kevin Lowe: My hope is that by the end of today's episode, you will never hesitate again

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Kevin Lowe: in asking for what you want, for what you dream, what you desire.

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Kevin Lowe: Because, my friend, the worst thing you could possibly do is to never ask the question.

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Kevin Lowe: This is episode 389 of Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

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Kevin Lowe: I'm, of course, your host, Kevin Lowe, a guy on a mission to be sure that I

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Kevin Lowe: inspire you, I empower you, I encourage you to take advantage of every single

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Kevin Lowe: moment you're given on this planet because, my friend,

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Kevin Lowe: every day is a blessing, and I want to be sure that you make the most of every second of it.

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Kevin Lowe: And today, it all starts by you having the courage, the bravery,

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Kevin Lowe: the guts to ask the question.

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Kevin Lowe: The reason I bring up today's topic is because, well, I was living it out loud.

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Kevin Lowe: I was doing what I always do. I was drinking my morning smoothie,

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Kevin Lowe: hanging out in the kitchen, getting the day started while listening to one of

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Kevin Lowe: my favorite podcasts, The Ed Milet Show.

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Kevin Lowe: Yes, my friend, if you've been

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Kevin Lowe: listening to this podcast, you've heard me reference Ed's show before.

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Kevin Lowe: And Ed is the man when it comes to some powerful interviews.

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Kevin Lowe: Every interview he's ever done has been extraordinary.

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Kevin Lowe: But today's interview, the one I was listening to, it just hit different.

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Kevin Lowe: His guests had an amazing story, powerful story.

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Kevin Lowe: And he's today one of the most biggest in-demand, inspirational,

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Kevin Lowe: motivational speakers there are.

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Kevin Lowe: And while I was listening, though, there was a point in the interview when something just clicked.

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Kevin Lowe: Something that screamed to me, you got to reach out.

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Kevin Lowe: And now, again, when I'm talking about the Ed Milet show, Ed's show is huge.

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Kevin Lowe: The guests he have on are huge. And this guy was certainly no exception.

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Kevin Lowe: So if you want to talk about using that term out of my league,

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Kevin Lowe: you could say this guest was out of my league.

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Kevin Lowe: And yet, what did I do?

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Kevin Lowe: I went ahead and I pulled up his website. I'm sitting there on the laptop,

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Kevin Lowe: set the smoothie aside and started scrolling through his website.

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Kevin Lowe: Just to see what else did I need to know about this guy? What else did I need to learn?

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Kevin Lowe: And was there a way to reach out to him? And now, mind you, people like this,

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Kevin Lowe: they have a gatekeeper for the gatekeeper.

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Kevin Lowe: You want access to them? You got to go through somebody.

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Kevin Lowe: And in this case, it's probably going to be going through somebody who knows

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Kevin Lowe: somebody who's got somebody else's number.

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Kevin Lowe: But instead of letting any of that stop me, you know what I did?

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Kevin Lowe: I just asked the question.

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Kevin Lowe: I literally found a contact form, a simple contact form.

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Kevin Lowe: The very thing that everybody will tell you, never waste your time filling out.

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Kevin Lowe: Because most of the time, the contact form on a website goes to an email address

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Kevin Lowe: that isn't monitored, that's often forgot about, and it's nothing but spam.

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Kevin Lowe: But that was the one, the easiest way that I found that I could reach out to

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Kevin Lowe: this person. So I just thought, what the heck? Why not?

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Kevin Lowe: Why not just send a message and see what happens?

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Kevin Lowe: Now, I want to make this one important point before I continue.

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Kevin Lowe: When I sent this message, I didn't do so with any expectation.

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Kevin Lowe: If you want to say I had expectations, they were next to none.

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Kevin Lowe: They were extremely low.

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Kevin Lowe: So I just sent it like a one-on-one personable note.

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Kevin Lowe: Me, heart to heart, reaching out to a guy who I just listened to on the Ed Milet

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Kevin Lowe: show and was completely blown away. And what happened next?

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Kevin Lowe: Well, you're going to have to hold that thought because we're going to come back to that.

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Kevin Lowe: But before we get back to that, I want to be sure that this is applicable for

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Kevin Lowe: you so that you be sure that you do not make the mistake of never asking in the first place.

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Kevin Lowe: Because if you have been somebody who has failed to ask the question,

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Kevin Lowe: do you ever wonder why that is?

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Kevin Lowe: Well, I feel like it comes down to a couple of different points.

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Kevin Lowe: The first, of course, is the fear of rejection. If we get real and honest,

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Kevin Lowe: nobody likes to be told no.

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Kevin Lowe: Nobody likes the feeling of being rejected, to be led to believe that you're

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Kevin Lowe: less than or not equal to, that you're not deserving.

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Kevin Lowe: So oftentimes that fear of rejection, it keeps us quiet. It keeps us still.

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Kevin Lowe: But one important thing that we forget, and I believe it's something that I

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Kevin Lowe: hope that if the fear of rejection has been holding you back from ever asking,

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Kevin Lowe: is that when you're told no, nothing changes.

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Kevin Lowe: Because if you think about it, before you asked, you were already at no.

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Kevin Lowe: You didn't have what you wanted.

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Kevin Lowe: You asked, they say no.

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Kevin Lowe: Nothing gained, nothing lost. You're still just right where you were.

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Kevin Lowe: So just go ahead and ask the question. Or maybe are you the person who instead

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Kevin Lowe: of the fear of rejection, you just only assume the worst?

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Kevin Lowe: You have led yourself to believe that asking is going to lead to humiliation.

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Kevin Lowe: The person's going to think I'm an idiot.

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Kevin Lowe: They're going to think I'm so stupid. They're going to talk trash about me.

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Kevin Lowe: They're going to tell other people about me asking them out on a date.

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Kevin Lowe: Whatever it is, we have this idea of the worst case scenario.

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Kevin Lowe: But the fact is, is that in reality, that's rarely ever the case.

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Kevin Lowe: We just assume the worst.

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Kevin Lowe: But in actuality, it's oftentimes a much better outcome than we could ever believe.

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Kevin Lowe: Or maybe the third scenario, do you just straight up underestimate what is possible?

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Kevin Lowe: Some of the most successful people in this world are only where they are today

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Kevin Lowe: because they have the courage to just ask the question.

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Kevin Lowe: Because you never know what is possible when you just ask the question.

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Kevin Lowe: You might be wanting one thing, but what you get is something even bigger,

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Kevin Lowe: something even greater.

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Kevin Lowe: So my friend, again, I encourage you, just ask the question. Stop being held back.

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Kevin Lowe: Stop letting fear and anxiety and worry and doubt rob you of your opportunity to thrive in life.

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Kevin Lowe: You have a question. You have a desire.

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Kevin Lowe: My friend, ask the stinking question.

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Kevin Lowe: So with that said, let's get back to the story. What happened?

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Kevin Lowe: What happened after I pressed send on that contact form on this person's website?

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Kevin Lowe: Did I hear anything? Did I get a response at all?

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Kevin Lowe: Was I completely embarrassed because they responded with some mean response?

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Kevin Lowe: No, none of the sort. Instead, you know what happened? I got a reply.

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Kevin Lowe: Not a week later. That same day.

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Kevin Lowe: And here's the thing. You know who the reply came from?

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Kevin Lowe: It didn't come from a company, some big organization booking for this person.

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Kevin Lowe: No, it actually came from him, the person, the one who I heard on the Ed Milet show.

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Kevin Lowe: This big named person, top motivational, inspirational speaker in the world.

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Kevin Lowe: He's the one who responded to me in less than 24 hours.

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Kevin Lowe: His message was sincere. He read it. He understood what I meant.

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Kevin Lowe: And what he said, it just blew me away.

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Kevin Lowe: He recognized my own story, said that I inspired him, and that,

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Kevin Lowe: yes, he would love to be a guest on my show.

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Kevin Lowe: And again, it comes back to the point of today's episode. If I never asked,

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Kevin Lowe: then I never would have the opportunity to get a yes.

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Kevin Lowe: Because my friend, if you never ask, you'll never get a yes.

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Kevin Lowe: You'll constantly wonder, what if?

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Kevin Lowe: And if there is one thing that can rob you of joy faster than any other,

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Kevin Lowe: it is the question of what if.

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Kevin Lowe: So, my friend, today I encourage you to stop asking what if and start asking the question.

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Kevin Lowe: Now, who is this guest that I'm talking about?

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Kevin Lowe: Well, I'm going to keep you in anticipation because all you have to do is tune

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Kevin Lowe: in next week to episode 390 of this podcast.

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Kevin Lowe: So be sure that if you have not already hit that subscribe slash follow button

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Kevin Lowe: inside of the app that you love to listen on.

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Kevin Lowe: I'm talking about Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever else you love to listen to your podcasts.

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Kevin Lowe: My friend, be sure that you have clicked that follow button,

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Kevin Lowe: the subscribe button, so that you are notified next week, which will be on Tuesday,

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Kevin Lowe: when that interview drops.

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Kevin Lowe: I'm telling you, you do not want to miss it. One of the biggest interviews I've

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Kevin Lowe: ever done with one of the most amazing people I've ever met,

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Kevin Lowe: all here to share his insights, his amazing journey he's been on for your benefit.

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Kevin Lowe: So, my friend, I leave you with one final word of encouragement to wrap it all

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Kevin Lowe: up. If there's something on your heart, if there's something you desire,

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Kevin Lowe: that you want, don't be afraid to ask for it.

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Kevin Lowe: There is no harm, no foul in you simply asking the question.

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Kevin Lowe: Because remember, if you never ask, then you'll never get a yes.

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Kevin Lowe: Until next time, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe. And this, of course,

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Kevin Lowe: was another episode of Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

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