It doesn't matter what

you've experienced in life.

You have the ability to ask questions to

bring it back into balance and be able

to see it on the way, not in the

way, and be able to appreciate, love,

feel grateful, inspired,

enthused, certain, and present.

The transcendental state.

Have you ever had an evening when

you're trying to rest, going to sleep,

and you had something happen

that day that was highly

infatuating, highly exciting,

something that was really attractive?

Maybe you met somebody that was

super attractive or something.

And then you couldn't sleep because

you were preoccupied with this

kind of fantasy that you've created in

your mind about this individual that

you've now just met.

And anything that you really infatuate

occupies space and time in your mind and

runs you,

it's intrusive thoughts that come

into your mind and it's hard to sleep.

You can also be really

resentful to somebody or

despise or dislike somebody and

be really angry at somebody

and have the same thing,

have intrusive thoughts that occupies

space and time in your mind and run you.

And again, have difficulty sleeping. And,

and most people have had these

things distract their mind.

Anything that is highly

positive or highly negative,

that you're conscious of the upsides

and unconscious of the downside or

conscious of the downside, unconscious

of the upsides, activate the amygdala,

which assigns valency or emotional

charge to these perceptions and

stimuli and events,

and then takes that and stores that

information in episodic memories in the

amygdala and into the hippocampus.

And what it does is it allows us to

basically have these intrusive thoughts.

Now, the reason why we have these

intrusive thoughts is because,

one represents prey

that we want to consume,

when you're infatuated with

somebody you want to consume them,

and something you want to avoid

over here that you resent,

that represents prey and predator.

And so we don't want to forget

that because if it is prey,

we want to be able to capture it. And

if it's predator, we want to escape it.

So these are designed to distract your

mind and occupy space and time in your

mind and have intrusive thoughts,

and you're run by your imbalanced ratios

of perceptions of the world around you.

This is your survival self.

And anytime you have this to mild

or moderate or extreme degrees,

your mind is going to have extreme,

moderate or mild intrusions,

and you will not be present.

And you will be in a survival mode and

you'll be subjectively biased in your

interpretation of this

reality you have interpreted.

But there's a state that goes beyond that.

The Buddhist call it a

detached state, or unattached,

or the middle path, that

is not elated or depressed,

it's not infatuated or resentful,

it's not conscious of the upsides

and unconscious of the downsides,

or conscious of the downsides, unconscious

of the upsides. It's fully conscious,

it's fully aware. Immanuel Kant

called it the transcendent state.

It's got many names to it.

It's moksha, it's liberation,

it's enlightenment, it's

a spiritual cosmic state,

whatever you want to call it.

But it's also the most

extraordinary and authentic you.

When you have these things balanced.

I can take a situation that's

preoccupying your mind,

that you're resenting and having

difficulty sleeping at night,

and identify what specific trait,

action or inaction do you perceive this

individual displaying or demonstrating

that you despise, dislike, or hated most

that you're resenting, identify that,

have you go to the moment of the

perception, and ask, what's the upside?

Because you're conscious of the

downside, unconscious of the upside.

If I come up with the upside of that

and I have you keep looking for the

upsides because everything has got two

sides, and come up with the upsides,

this thing you think is terrible,

you discover the terrific in it.

The thing you think is terrible

or evil, you find the good in it,

whatever you want to call it. And

you balance out that equation,

the intrusive thought disappears,

and you enter into a altered state,

a middle path you might say,

where you're poised and present

and back on purpose and not

distracted. The same

thing on the other side.

If you're really infatuated with somebody,

I can have you identify

what specific trait,

action or inaction do you perceive this

individual displaying or demonstrating

that you admire most, that you look up

to most, that you think is positive most,

and then I ask you in that

moment, what are the downsides?

If I hold you accountable and make you

go through and identify the downsides

that are there,

and I've been doing this for 38 years

and I have yet to find somebody that

can't do it, they just

take the time to do it,

they don't want to do it

sometimes, but if they do it,

and I bring those back

into balance, there are no,

the intrusive thoughts disappear.

And what's interesting in the amygdala

and hippocampus, which has been,

used to be called the subconscious mind,

which is storing all those impulses and

instincts, seekings and avoidances, and

positives and negative perceptions,

the imbalanced ratios of perceptions

stores them, it liberates them.

The awareness that's

intrusive thoughts goes away.

And you're now present. You're

not storing those emotions.

You've integrated them.

You've transcended and

risen above the paradox,

as Einstein would call it. And you've

entered into a transcendent state.

Once those are in perfect balance,

you enter into a state of gratitude,

you realize there was nothing

out of order there. You know,

Claude Shannon in his work

on information theory,

said that anytime you have an

imbalanced ratio of perception,

you have a disorder.

You have a cyclothymic disorder

which means you have mood swings,

as you're going from one to the other.

But the second you bring those into

balance and ask the questions that your

intuition is trying to

whisper to you to get,

to try to bring you into

full consciousness, see

both sides simultaneously,

so you're not seeing things

as positive or negative,

you're seeing things as neutral,

the moment you do you

see the hidden order,

instead of disorder. You start to

feel gratitude for that hidden order.

You feel automatically what is called

in the brain, a gamma synchronicity,

an aha moment, a eureka moment.

Your autonomic nervous system

of seeking and avoiding,

parasympathetic and sympathetic come into

balance. You have the most resilience,

adaptability, and the most

order now. And you're present.

In that state you have

gratitude, you feel love,

because love is the synthesis

of all pairs of opposites.

You have inspiration because you've seen

the hidden order in what's going on and

instead of judging something that's

running you, you're now running you.

And you now realize that there was a

magnificence to that instead of something

that caused you infatuation or resentment.

Because infatuation resentment

is an incomplete awareness.

It's a subjective bias.

It's a distortion of

what's out there. You know,

when you infatuate with somebody you

think they're going to have you more

positives than negatives, but

over the next few weeks or months,

you find out it wasn't what you thought.

The same thing with things you resent,

you discover there was upsides to it,

and you may have not have

been aware of it immediately,

but you eventually see it.

So when you have the wisdom of the

ages without the aging process,

by looking and asking the

questions to see both sides,

you enter into a transcendent state.

And this is your most authentic self.

Because when you infatuate with

somebody, you'll minimize yourself.

And that's not you. When you resent

somebody, you'll exaggerate yourself,

by the law of contrast. That's not you.

But when you bring those into balance

and you just appreciate and love them,

don't put them on pedestals or

pits, but put them in your heart,

you have gratitude and love.

You're inspired. You have entheos,

enthusiasm. Entheos is not excitement

as some people misinterpret.

It's the divine within. It's the

perfection of the balance within.

You also have more certainty because

you're not having emotional wavering,

and you're present. Gratitude

and love of the heart.

Inspiration of the mind, enthusiasm

of the body, certainty of the mind,

and presence, is the transcendent state.

Now I've been teaching people

the Breakthrough Experience,

which is my signature program

now for, gosh, 35 years, almost,

34 and a half years. And I take people

through what I call the Demartini Method,

which is a series of very precise

questions that help you become aware

of what you're unconscious

of, so you're fully conscious,

and you balance out those

ratios of perceptions.

And I've taken literally over 125,000

people now through that process.

And each time when they balance it and

we hold them accountable till they do,

once they balance it and see the

things they overlooked initially,

they enter into this transcendental

state. There's tears of gratitude.

They have love for this individual.

They have inspiration about the

contribution that it's made.

They're enthused about what it's going

to do now once they understand that,

they're certain about it and they're

present with the individual and they have

feelings of love for them. And they

also love a part of themselves,

because we can't judge other people

without judging a part of ourself. Well,

whatever we resent in others

is a reflection of the

things we're ashamed of in

ourselves, but too proud to admit it.

And the things we admire in others

represents the thing we're too humble to

admit, even though we have it.

When we fully see both sides and have

reflective awareness and full conscious

awareness, you might say, and

we're mindful instead of mindless,

we enter into this transcendental state.

And this transcendental state brings

wellness, resilience, adaptability,

it gives creativity,

allows us to be inspired by our

life, we see the hidden order.

It trains us to see both sides

simultaneously instead of being fooled by

misinterpretations of reality,

and allows us to maximize our potential.

Our awareness, and our potential.

Because garbage in, garbage out,

as they say in computer language,

if you have a disordered perception,

you create disordered outcome,

a reaction. Your perceptions, decisions

and actions work in conjunction.

And if you perceive an imbalance, you're

going to respond according to that.

And what's interesting, if

you now perceive the balance,

you respond with the balance,

and your physiology comes into

homeostasis and wellness goes up.

And you have more, again, resilience.

Why? If you're infatuated,

you fear their loss. If you

resent them, you fear their gain.

If you have a perfectly balanced

state, you don't fear the gain or loss.

You live in a world of transformation

and you're adaptable and resilient and

your heart rate variability demonstrates

this, and after we do the method,

you can see it in heart rate variability.

So we show resilience and

adaptability. When we do,

we're most empowered and most

present, and most wellness,

if you want to use that

term, and we're most mindful.

And this has all been demonstrated in

many different studies to maximize our

potential. It is this

where we're most authentic.

This is the transcendental state.

And in this authenticity state

where we're not proud looking down,

or not shamed, looking up to people,

but open-hearted looking across,

we have equanimity within ourself,

and we have equity between ourselves

and others, we're not judging them,

we feel love for them.

As Empedocles said in sixth

century BC to fifth century BC,

that you know, there's love and strife.

We've gone from strife and judgment,

which is empty, to the fulfillment of

love, the moment we see both sides.

You know, when you infatuate

somebody, you don't really know them.

When you're resentful to somebody,

you really don't know them.

When you love them, you come to know them.

And the person you love has

things you both like and dislike,

positives and negatives.

But when you're infatuated and

you have intrusive thoughts,

you're designed to have intrusive

thoughts and be distracted with emotional

baggage and impulses and instincts,

whenever you have an imbalanced ratio

of perception it's there to let you know

you don't have a full conscious awareness,

you're not seeing things as they are,

you're seeing things as you

misinterpreted. You have a bias,

and you have a prejudice about them

personally. An in-group, outward bias,

possibly.

In the process of actually balancing and

holding yourself accountable to balance

it, which is what I teach people

in the Breakthrough Experience,

I show them specifically the

steps on exactly how to do that,

to take whatever's happening in your life,

it doesn't matter what

you've experienced in life,

you have the ability to ask questions to

bring it back into balance and be able

to see it on the way, not in the

way, and be able to appreciate, love,

feel grateful, inspired,

enthused, certain, and present.

The transcendental state. Now,

if we were to imagine that

in the terms of physics,

if we had a particle of light,

it can, a gamma photon of light,

a quantum of light can be divided

up into positive and negative,

positrons and electrons, if we put

those together, we make light again.

If we divide them out, we get

emotions, you might say. So,

it was Paul Dirac in his principles of

quantum mechanics that described that,

and I read that when I was 18.

And that inspired me to develop the

Demartini Method that I teach in the

Breakthrough Experience on

how to integrate the pairs

of opposites into a state

of enlightenment, or state of

mindfulness, a state of presence,

the middle path, whatever you

want to call it, the Daoist way.

There's many names for it. But

this state is our authentic state.

This is our transcendent state.

This is our full quantum state.

This is our enlightened state.

This is our most fulfilling state.

This is the pleroma of the gnostics.

This is the fulfillment of

self-actualization by Maslow.

Whatever the name, it's called Cosmic

Consciousness by Richard M Bucke.

The name of it has been

given different names,

but it's really the transcendental

self, that Immanuel Kant described.

So that's,

I wanted to take a few moments to go over

that because you have the capacity to

waken that state up. And

that's the authentic you.

And the magnificence of who you are

authentically is way greater than any

fantasies you'll impose on yourself.

And the reason why you get,

when you get infatuated or resentful,

you have those intrusive thoughts and

you can't sleep, that's not a flaw,

that's not a weakness.

That's the feedback of your body to try

to let you know you're not seeing things

fully. You're being blinded

by an infatuation, resentment.

And when you do, you're creating symptoms

in your body to try to guide you,

to ask new questions with your intuition,

to see the other side that you're

overlooking and to balance the equation,

the mathematical equation of your mind

and become enlightened and present again.

And to have the liberation and

the eastern mystical satori or

moksha as they call it, a spiritual state,

where you're truly inspired by the

awe and eureka moment of the gamma

synchronicity in the brain, if you will.

And this is the state of transcendence.

And this is the most authentic

you. And you have this capacity.

It doesn't matter what

you're going through or what

you've been through or what

you've experienced.

All of the things you've experienced

have the capacity to be transformed into

that state, if you ask the right question.

The quality of your life's based on

the quality of the questions you ask.

If you ask amazing questions,

you liberate yourself from

these embondaging emotions,

and you get to be free to be yourself.

So I just wanted to take a moment to talk

about this transcendent, full quantum,

enlightened, authentic

state, this integral state,

where you've integrated the pairs

of opposites and balanced them,

because that's real you. That's the part,

that's why I love teaching

the Breakthrough Experience

because I can show people

and take people through the

process, the Demarini Method,

and guarantee that outcome,

as long as they're willing to just stay

with it and just play with it and ask

the questions and answer the questions,

which is inspiring to do because

it's educational, it's informative,

it's amazing what happens. And you

come out on the other end of it,

you have tears of gratitude

for the way life actually is.

The magnificence of the

way life actually is,

is far greater than the

fantasies we impose on it.

We don't need facades in our life of

putting on pedestal or put ourselves on

pedestal or pits or put other

people in pits or pedestals.

It's just time to have

reflective awareness and see

that the world around you is

a reflection of the world inside

you. Balance the world's perception,

you balance yourself. Balance you,

you balance the world perception.

The authentic you, the transcendent you,

the full quantum you, the integral you,

the actually inspired you is worth

the effort. It's the thrival self,

not the survival self.

It's the one that activates the medial

prefrontal cortex and makes you awakened,

not asleep.

So I just wanted to take a moment to

share that and why I invite people to come

to the Breakthrough Experience, because

I teach people how to go and do that.

And I don't let people, you know,

go without getting that experience.

Everybody that comes in the

program gets that experience.

I want them to know how to

create that for their life.

So no matter what happens in their life,

they can transform it into something

they can be grateful for and feel love

about. We don't have to

be victims of history.

We become masters of destiny by

being masters of our own life.

So just wanted to take a moment on that.

I look forward to seeing you at the

Breakthrough Experience so I can share it

and actually have you go through the

experience so you know how to use that the

rest of your life no matter what happens,

no matter what your misperceptions

or distractions you have around you.