So Dr. Demartini the first question I've got for you is right now,
Speaker:there are many of our clients that are in the industries that has been affected
Speaker:with what has been happening and will take a while to come back again towards
Speaker:what they used to.
Speaker:How do we how does one filter the environment and see opportunities that is
Speaker:congruent with our values currently?
Speaker:Well, I cannot say,
Speaker:I wish I could be a prophet and tell you exactly what's going to happen at what
Speaker:day, I don't know.
Speaker:There's so much controversy on what they're going to do, and there's now,
Speaker:as you can see there's revolts going on and people wanting to go back to work.
Speaker:So,
Speaker:don't know if we're ever going to be exactly the way it was.
Speaker:I think that's going to be unrealistic. I think there's been a change.
Speaker:The vastness of people that are gone online and the businesses that are gone
Speaker:online are most likely going to move forward. I think that's technologically,
Speaker:this is catalyzed a technological step-up.
Speaker:So the old way may not be,
Speaker:holding onto the past may not be the wisest thing here. So,
Speaker:anytime you compare your current reality to a
Speaker:fantasy of how it should be,
Speaker:how you wish it would be, how it used to be,
Speaker:how you would fantasize you'd like it to be,
Speaker:you're not gonna appreciate your reality.
Speaker:And it's wiser to not compare your current reality to those fantasies because
Speaker:that's depressive,
Speaker:because you keep comparing what it is to what you wish it would be and you're
Speaker:not present in what it is. The wisest thing to do is to sit down and go,
Speaker:what is going on? What's the facts? Get as objective as you can,
Speaker:and now work from there. And as those facts change,
Speaker:keep working from there and ask yourself,
Speaker:how specifically is THIS situation, where I'm in now,
Speaker:how can I use this to the greatest advantage?
Speaker:How can I use this most effectively?
Speaker:I don't know when I'm going to be standing in another ballroom speaking.
Speaker:I don't know. Meantime I'm doing onlines.
Speaker:I've moved my things to the online world and believe it or not,
Speaker:there's been advantages to that, that are most likely going to be kept.
Speaker:Even if I go back to the other way,
Speaker:we're going to probably incorporate the two together.
Speaker:So there's an adaptation there.
Speaker:Stress is the inability to adapt to a changing environment or distress is.
Speaker:And we have the most inability to adapt when we're rigid
Speaker:with infatuations about how it should be or wish it would be,
Speaker:or how it used to be and resentments about how it is.
Speaker:So the more we resent something, the more we fear the gain of it.
Speaker:And the more we infatuate with something alternate to that the more we fear the
Speaker:loss of it. Whenever we we're in fear like that,
Speaker:we go into our amygdala and our amygdala skews things and exaggerates
Speaker:the fantasy and the nightmare that we're in.
Speaker:And we then are not as rational and we don't see opportunities because we're in
Speaker:our sub-cortical brain where we don't see opportunities.
Speaker:We don't see visions of possibilities,
Speaker:and we don't come up with strategic plans on how to take the current reality and
Speaker:use it to greatest advantage. So the wisest thing to do is to ask,
Speaker:what is the facts today? And take those facts today,
Speaker:be as objective as you can, and ask now with these facts,
Speaker:how can I use these to our greatest advantage?
Speaker:Because I don't know if we're going to ever have exactly the way it was.
Speaker:I can't guarantee that.
Speaker:I actually doubt that it's going to be exactly the way it was.
Speaker:It's going to be different. And if you're not able to do that,
Speaker:you're not able to change manage and you're holding onto rigid views,
Speaker:you're just adding to your own distress.
Speaker:It has nothing to do with what's going on out there.
Speaker:It's your attachment to fantasies and your detachment from
Speaker:current realities that causes your problem.
Speaker:Because that keeps you from coming up with creative solutions.
Speaker:The solutions to the so-called problem is always there,
Speaker:cause there's never a crisis without a blessing.
Speaker:So the wisest thing that I know to do is to take the current reality and ask,
Speaker:how specifically can I use this current reality to my greatest advantage,
Speaker:to fulfill the mission?
Speaker:If you lose sight of the mission of service,
Speaker:that's equitable with other people and you get focused on your narcissistic
Speaker:needs over them, all you're going to do is compound your problem.
Speaker:And if the other extreme, if you sacrifice you for them, again,
Speaker:another amygdala response, you're also going to perpetuate the problem.
Speaker:The only thing that's sustainable is some sort of fair exchange,
Speaker:so your objective is to go and figure out what are the needs
Speaker:today? It's interesting that some companies are booming right now.
Speaker:There was a little Chinese restaurant that was doing takeout service in
Speaker:Los Angeles when I was there at that hotel.
Speaker:And they had lines every six foot,
Speaker:they allowed a person to go in line and they were busy all day long.
Speaker:They had never had that much business in their history.
Speaker:So some businesses are booming. Some are declining.
Speaker:The ones that are meeting people's needs are booming.
Speaker:And the people's needs changed. If you can't congregate in a restaurant,
Speaker:takeout became possible. And then the people that did take out and delivery,
Speaker:they ended up booming because they met the needs.
Speaker:So I would encourage people to stop and look at what are the needs of the people
Speaker:you want to serve.
Speaker:And because if you meet those needs and you do it more effectively and
Speaker:efficiently than anybody else, you end up with a business.
Speaker:This forces you to become more effective and efficient at meeting people's needs
Speaker:and doing it in a way that is more efficient and
Speaker:you know, Inspiring and meeting those needs better than somebody else.
Speaker:So it forces you to be accountable. It forces you to be more proficient.
Speaker:It forces you to step up.
Speaker:It forces you to keep current with what's going on and not stagnate in the
Speaker:assumption that what was working is going to continue working,
Speaker:because it may not work, in the past, what was working in the past I mean,
Speaker:it may not work now, or as effectively.
Speaker:So I don't think it's wise to, you know, just hold on
Speaker:the fantasy that we're going to go back exactly the way it was,
Speaker:because I don't think that's going to happen.
Speaker:I think there's going to be some change to that. I know for myself,
Speaker:I'm sitting here now doing online. I'm doing them all day.
Speaker:I'm doing my research, I'm doing my writing and I'm doing
Speaker:podcasts and webinars and you know,
Speaker:finding how to adapt to that. It's actually been quite smooth.
Speaker:It hasn't been a major adaptation really. So you
Speaker:have to basically ask yourself now, how do I serve?
Speaker:I have many of my facilitators and students now,
Speaker:doing what they're doing and in a new form, it's now an online course,
Speaker:it's now an online consulting. It's now an online transactions.
Speaker:And they're now doing,
Speaker:finding people to deliver products and they're finding out different ways of
Speaker:doing it. And they're getting creative. When it does go similar to what it was,
Speaker:maybe not the same, some things open up again, you
Speaker:will now have these new resources that you didn't have,
Speaker:which will then like the Slingshot effect,
Speaker:it'll be tension and then when it releases,
Speaker:you'll have catalytic opportunities that you didn't have before.
Speaker:And the income that you think you lost possibly, which is another illusion,
Speaker:cause you just now put your genuine wealth into forms of relationship,
Speaker:creativity, new innovations, knowledge, online technology,
Speaker:you diversify temporarily your resources into new
Speaker:forms, which will then come back and bring you more income in the future.
Speaker:I've said for many decades that it's
Speaker:wise, those have been to my Prophecy program,
Speaker:it's wise to make sure that you have a minimum of three to six months worth of
Speaker:liquid capital. And I know that's now hindsight for some people,
Speaker:but if you didn't have that,
Speaker:you're stressed because you don't have working capital unless you're going out
Speaker:there and really meet people's needs. So this will teach
Speaker:those people that have not managed money wisely to open up a higher value on
Speaker:wealth management, so they're not put in that situation again. People get
Speaker:sloppy, they live beyond their means, they don't have a savings,
Speaker:they don't have any cushion, they don't have anything else.
Speaker:And they don't have any investment
Speaker:and they don't have passive income and they're foolish with money.
Speaker:And then as a result of it, this forces them to grow up and not be
Speaker:immediate, gratifying consumables, depreciating,
Speaker:living beyond their means and stressing themselves unnecessarily.
Speaker:So that's one of the benefits you're going to get it.
Speaker:And the benefit of that longterm, if you master that,
Speaker:when you manage money wisely, you receive more of your money to manage.
Speaker:So this Slingshot effect,
Speaker:this temporary setback is going to actually be a greatest catalyst.
Speaker:And what you think is Corona 19, you're going to call st. Corona in the future.
Speaker:You're going to go, thank God this occurred,
Speaker:or at least thank the virus for this occurring. So,
Speaker:or the Chinese Wuhan labs or whatever. The reality is,
Speaker:there is opportunity right now,
Speaker:but you got to get grounded in reality because the second you compare it to what
Speaker:it should be, what it ought to be,
Speaker:the most depressed people I see in my Breakthrough Experience are the people
Speaker:that are comparing their current reality to delusions, things about the past,
Speaker:the way it should have been, or would have been, could have been, had've been,
Speaker:why isn't it this way, or the future fantasy that they
Speaker:We are designed to suffer when we're pursuing that which is unobtainable and
Speaker:trying to avoid that which is unavoidable. We're designed to,
Speaker:as a feedback to wake us up to set real objectives and get grounded and
Speaker:start from reality. If you don't know where you are,
Speaker:you don't know where you want to go and you don't have a strategy,
Speaker:you're likely to be frustrated.
Speaker:So look at where you are right now.
Speaker:Get clear about what the mission is because if you
Speaker:is, it's time to get clear about it.
Speaker:That's one of the reasons I teach the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:One of the reasons I do all the programs I do,
Speaker:cause people that are clear about their mission, then ask,
Speaker:how is my current reality helping me fulfill that?
Speaker:And then they see things on the way, they don't see things in the way.
Speaker:So this is not a challenge,
Speaker:except to people who are perceiving it as a challenge.
Speaker:There's just as many opportunities if you take the time to ask how is what's
Speaker:happening right now, helping me get what I want to get.
Speaker:And then Dr. Demartini can you please explain what role does our values play
Speaker:in seeing opportunities in our environment?
Speaker:Well,
Speaker:every human being has a unique set of priorities or set of values that they're
Speaker:living by.
Speaker:And that's because of their unique vantage points and experiences and judgments
Speaker:that they've created voids with that determine these values.
Speaker:So no two people have the same set of values. If you meet anybody,
Speaker:they may say things that are somewhat common,
Speaker:they may all like sushi or something, but it may be different sushi.
Speaker:They may all like a certain religion or something,
Speaker:but there are different views inside that.
Speaker:It's called the law of similars and differences.
Speaker:So no two people have exactly the same set of values.
Speaker:The Pauli Exclusion Principle, which is a principle in physics,
Speaker:says that no two quantum particles that are fermions can ever occupy the same
Speaker:space and time and have the same quantum numbers. Well,
Speaker:the same thing with human values,
Speaker:because values are quantifiable fermionic states.
Speaker:So anytime we have a value system that's unique,
Speaker:we see life differently and filter things. And the way our brain is set up,
Speaker:the things that are highest on our values, we tend to filter out of our reality,
Speaker:we have a pulvinar nuclei in our thalamus,
Speaker:which is a subcortical region in the diencephalon, that basically filters
Speaker:and gates out information, because we'd be overwhelmed by infinity,
Speaker:all the data that's coming in would be overwhelming,
Speaker:we have to filter that out based on what we value.
Speaker:So a mother walking in a mall that's hightest values are children,
Speaker:she's going to spot children's clothes and health items and children's
Speaker:entertainment items and things of this nature, educational items.
Speaker:Where a husband who's maybe an entrepreneur who's
Speaker:mall, will not see any of that stuff.
Speaker:He'll see business and computers and suits and whatever he thinks is going to
Speaker:give him an advantage.
Speaker:So we filter our reality and look for things that give us more advantage than
Speaker:disadvantage to fulfill what we're trying to do,
Speaker:according to our highest values. Those values are also being projected onto
Speaker:the world, filtering the world. And since no two people have the same values,
Speaker:no two people see the same worlds. Even in
Speaker:Scientific American in September edition last year,
Speaker:they talked about everybody has their own hallucination of what's going on out
Speaker:there. And we're responsible for our own reality.
Speaker:Nobody else is creating it except us. Our perceptions, decisions,
Speaker:and actions are what we have control over and that's being filtered by our
Speaker:values. So our values determine what we perceive, what we decide,
Speaker:because we're looking for whatever gives us the greatest advantage over
Speaker:disadvantage, and the actions that we prioritize that we take.
Speaker:And the perceptions, decisions, and actions determines a human's destiny.
Speaker:You tell me what your perceptions, decisions,
Speaker:and actions are and tell me what you value and I'm gonna tell you where you're
Speaker:headed. I have a high value on teaching,
Speaker:my life points in the direction of teaching.
Speaker:So yeah, your values are dictating everything.
Speaker:And they're also dictating what you perceive to be
Speaker:yourself. The way the brain is set up in the sub-cortical areas of the brain,
Speaker:the inner brain segments, the inner nuclei, as they call them,
Speaker:they react just like an animal. They're sometimes called the more animal brain,
Speaker:and they've been given different names by Restak and MacLean,
Speaker:they gave them names like reptilian brain, mammalian brain and pre-
Speaker:amphibian brain,
Speaker:they gave those names because those areas of the brain are more highly
Speaker:developed. It's not that they don't,
Speaker:these other animals don't have all the areas of the brain.
Speaker:They just have more developed in that area so they've been associated with that.
Speaker:So what's interesting is that when we go into a distress mode and we
Speaker:perceive things interfering with our values,
Speaker:or are we go into a excess mode where we think elation is putting our
Speaker:values, the second we do, we go out of our rational mind,
Speaker:we go down into our amygdala and we go into distorting what is real.
Speaker:We distort the pain of something and exaggerate it,
Speaker:and we distort the pleasure of something and exaggerate that.
Speaker:And if we have a fantasy, we will distort the fantasy,
Speaker:which will then distort the nightmare we're in,
Speaker:because we're comparing our current reality to that fantasy.
Speaker:So our values are dictating this,
Speaker:and that's why if we don't live by highest values and we don't link whatever we
Speaker:do by our highest values, we create our own delusions and sufferings.
Speaker:It's nothing to do with the world outside us. William James, the
Speaker:father of modern psychology, 1895 or so said,
Speaker:that the greatest discovery of his generation was that human beings can alter
Speaker:their lives by altering their perceptions,
Speaker:decisions and attitudes and actions in life.
Speaker:And so we have the capacity. And most of us here might remember this,
Speaker:I don't know, maybe you haven't,
Speaker:but very probably you've had some situation where you're
Speaker:ranting and going on some emotionally about something, and you thought, man,
Speaker:I'm so frustrated and angry and everything else and all of a sudden,
Speaker:somebody knocks on a door on a doorbell and some friend comes to the door and
Speaker:you stop your mode and all of a sudden, 'Oh, hi,
Speaker:how's it going?' And you just put that behind you as you will.
Speaker:So you have the capacity at any one time to change exactly your state,
Speaker:totally up to you. And decide to change your perceptions and what you focus on,
Speaker:et cetera, based on what you value. So if you see things,
Speaker:whatever you perceive, that's not matching the fantasy,
Speaker:and therefore you're feeling is depressing
Speaker:and challenging and you've accentuated it because you've accentuated
Speaker:the fantasy of how it used to be, how good and how it's going to be,
Speaker:how I fantasized, you're going to make it more difficult for yourself.
Speaker:But if you ask whatever's going on,
Speaker:how specifically is it helping you fulfill your highest value,
Speaker:what is your mission, your inspiration,
Speaker:where you gain meaning where you gain purpose in life and you find meaning in
Speaker:it, it's like Viktor Frankl in the concentration camps.
Speaker:else was dying out and blaming things and comparing their situation of not
Speaker:having food and being tortured compared to the fantasy world they once
Speaker:had, or the fantasy that they're going to have,
Speaker:that they're going to get out and be free and all that,
Speaker:the ones that had those fantasies, died. They didn't have any resilience,
Speaker:no adaptation. He ended up taking it and asking himself,
Speaker:just like the movie shine, how specifically can I use this now?
Speaker:So he started making comedy out of it. He started using it as an acting time.
Speaker:He started turning it into opportunities that the other people couldn't do.
Speaker:They were sitting there comparing
Speaker:their current reality to fantasies of the past or future.
Speaker:Unless you're present and current and taking what's happening in
Speaker:reality, and using it to your greatest advantage,
Speaker:you're missing out on your potential in life.
Speaker:You won't get your peak potential living in pasts and futures,
Speaker:if they're not balanced, if there's distorted.
Speaker:And that's the problem with the amygdala, the amygdala is designed
Speaker:as a survival mechanism to distort reality and create overgeneralizations
Speaker:and distortions.
Speaker:I've had people in the Breakthrough Experience on many occasions,
Speaker:week after week, this last weekend too, where
Speaker:they've taken something and made something all good,
Speaker:that they once had and now they've lost it,
Speaker:and now they're depressed and they're, you know, suicidally depressed.
Speaker:So they've exaggerated this, which then exaggerates how bad their life was.
Speaker:So if I go in there and take this thing and I show them the downsides of the way
Speaker:it was and show them the upsides the way it is and balance it
Speaker:out, they're fine, they're centered.
Speaker:And their creative executive center comes online. And all of a sudden they see
Speaker:things on the way, not in the way.There's studies done,
Speaker:where when people actually are doing something that's truly inspiring
Speaker:to them, they don't see challenge, they see feedback.
Speaker:Failure is an amygdala response. Feedback is an executive center response.
Speaker:So people that see whatever happens to them as feedback,
Speaker:if you get cocky and you feel
Speaker:you're elated about the opportunities and you feel proud of what you're doing,
Speaker:that de-purposes you and lowers your priority list.
Speaker:If all of a sudden you feel like you're down and you feel like you're fear that
Speaker:repurposes you and puts you back on your purpose list,
Speaker:your highest priority list. Those are two mechanisms to get you centered,
Speaker:to not exaggerate, minimize yourself.
Speaker:And the same mechanisms are going on in your psychology when you're imagining
Speaker:these fantasies and feeling now nightmares. All of
Speaker:that you're choosing to make, it has nothing to do with the world outside you,
Speaker:it has everything to do with your decision of how you perceive it.
Speaker:Take command of your decision and ask yourself and extract meaning out of it.
Speaker:Extracting the mean, the mean, if you have a stock market that goes up and down,
Speaker:it averages with all the ups and downs a mean. Well, turn that upright.
Speaker:If you're elated or depressed, that's the up and down of the market.
Speaker:If you can find the upside when it's up and find the downside,
Speaker:the negatives in the up,
Speaker:And you can find the ups in the down and you can find the mean in
Speaker:it, you extract meaning out of your experience.
Speaker:That's what extracting meaning is.
Speaker:It's found the golden mean as Aristotle mentioned.
Speaker:And if the person can do that, they master their life.
Speaker:In the Breakthrough Experience, I'm teaching people that.
Speaker:So they can be resilient, so they can be focused, so they can be prioritized,
Speaker:so they can be empowered people with a purpose in life.
Speaker:It has nothing to do with the world on the outside,
Speaker:it has everything to do with what we decide to do with it.
Speaker:I know I'm harping on that, but it's just,
Speaker:cause people want to be victims of history. Well,
Speaker:one thing you want to remember. The masses, and I say the masses.
Speaker:Masses are people, and that includes me in moments.
Speaker:The masses are people who are living in the extrinsic world and the masters are
Speaker:the people that live on the intrinsic world. What does that mean?
Speaker:The ones that are masses, they basically blame things on the outside,
Speaker:look for solutions on the outside. They're externally oriented.
Speaker:Because they'll blamedthe virus and then they'll look for the hero doctor,
Speaker:the vaccine or something. But the master's the one that goes okay,
Speaker:if only 2%
Speaker:of the people are getting dying from this thing and really getting sick from
Speaker:this thing, that means there must not be the virus,
Speaker:it must be something to do with our immunity and something to do with our own
Speaker:power inside.
Speaker:And they're the ones that go inside and maximize their full potential and make
Speaker:sure that they're living by eustress, not distress,
Speaker:making sure they're wisely eating and using that as a stimulus to live wisely.
Speaker:And the wise individuals, the masters of life, they don't live extrinsically,
Speaker:you know, blaming this and looking for a major solution outside.
Speaker:It's not external oriented. The masses do that. They blame the devil.
Speaker:They look for a savior. They blame this, the hell and I think for about heaven,
Speaker:they live in a polarized fantasy world instead of get grounded and
Speaker:face the hero and villain out there is actually them.
Speaker:When you can embrace your hero and villain, you've mastered your life.
Speaker:But as long as you're looking externally, that it's all out there,
Speaker:that my problems are out there and my solutions are out there,
Speaker:you're going to end up exaggerating the problem and then paying money for
Speaker:solutions that aren't really the solutions.
Speaker:It's all about you mastering yourself. And that's the difference.
Speaker:And we have moments of mastery and have moments of illusion many times,
Speaker:but the moments of mastery is what catalyzes evolution and the moments of the
Speaker:illusion is what keeps us in revolution,
Speaker:keeps us stuck in a revolving door, our hamster wheel.
Speaker:Cause we just keep running the story that this stuff is out there that cause,
Speaker:all that energy being victim of history and running that story is absolutely the
Speaker:most inefficient use of your energy.
Speaker:Solution orientation and bringing yourself meaning and getting back in
Speaker:inspiration and using reality to get you forward is the thing that works.
Speaker:And Dr. Demartini you mentioned a bit about voids.
Speaker:So can you please explain what voids are and how do we use that to validate our
Speaker:values?
Speaker:Okay, well
Speaker:let's say that you grew up
Speaker:where your father or mother left at a very young age.
Speaker:Your mother died when you were six or so.
Speaker:And you then were taken on by your father and taken
Speaker:on by maybe his sister and maybe your
Speaker:grandmother. And they started taking out the mother's role.
Speaker:They took it on and you stepped up and took on a lot more accountability because
Speaker:you had to,
Speaker:your dad took on a little bit more feminine roles or
Speaker:and your grandmother stepped in. And so,
Speaker:but you end up having, you know,
Speaker:emotional irritations because you were infatuated with your mother and dependent
Speaker:on her, and as a result of it this now becomes a nightmare.
Speaker:Because you lost that which you infatuated with, that you depended on.
Speaker:Anything you depend on and infatuate with, you're going to feel the loss of,
Speaker:and if it leaves, you're going to feel grief. Now,
Speaker:grief has nothing to do with anything other than your attachment to that
Speaker:individual that you lost. Cause if you resented somebody and they leave,
Speaker:you don't feel grief, you feel relief.
Speaker:So it's your perception that leads to your grief.
Speaker:Now let's say that your parents don't know the Demartini Method and haven't been
Speaker:to the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:And so they see you are distraught by mommy's leaving and they feel guilty that
Speaker:they can't do anything about it, so they take you to shrink and
Speaker:the shrink then says, well, the reason you're you're screwed up is because your
Speaker:mommy left you and you're an abandoned child and here's the stats.
Speaker:And so you now get programmed this bullshit,
Speaker:that that's the reason why your problem is there. It's all externally happened.
Speaker:There's nothing you can do about it. Nothing to do with you,
Speaker:you're an innocent little child, little innocent victim.
Speaker:And it had something to do with that event. Well,
Speaker:you just fucked up your life there.
Speaker:You just basically gave this power away and blame this situation for how you
Speaker:feel. And it has nothing to do with that situation.
Speaker:But let's say that somebody comes along like myself and says, 'okay,
Speaker:at the moment your mommy died
Speaker:who became taking on all the roles of mommy?
Speaker:What did you miss about mommy first of all, who took on the roles?
Speaker:And then we identify quantitatively,
Speaker:everybody that took on all the roles and so nothing was not accounted for.
Speaker:You took on mom, grandma took some, dad took on,
Speaker:sister took something on and your teacher at school took some of it on.
Speaker:And then you realize, Oh, I didn't miss anything. There was no void there.
Speaker:It was in another form, but I still fantasize my mommy was a better form.
Speaker:So then I come along and I go,
Speaker:'what would have been the drawback if your mommy had done it?
Speaker:What were the drawbacks when your mommy did it?' 'Oh yeah.
Speaker:She tried to control me. I couldn't do this.' And you find the drawbacks, mommy.
Speaker:'Now what's the benefit to these new people taking it on?' Once the benefits of
Speaker:the new people taking on and the drawbacks are the old mama,
Speaker:the fantasy that you had about your mama is brought back and got grounded in
Speaker:reality, because you realize that there's benefits and drawbacks to all those.
Speaker:Once you end up doing that it's level and all of a sudden the entire story,
Speaker:the illusion that there's a void that there's something missing is gone.
Speaker:I didn't miss a mom. I had a transforming mom. And then when I
Speaker:grew up and moved out of the house, I had another form of a mom.
Speaker:And all my life I've had different players playing in a matrix of moms and
Speaker:nothing's ever been missing.
Speaker:The individual that realizes that nothing is ever missing is a liberated
Speaker:individual that's free to dance through life.
Speaker:But the individual that's basically, here's what it's supposed to look like,
Speaker:it's not there. I'm now holding
Speaker:onto my past with a fantasy instead of facing my current reality,
Speaker:looking at the magnificence of the current reality,
Speaker:I'm now going in there and I'm now thinking, 'Oh, I miss a mom.
Speaker:I missed out and I'm screwed up. And my therapist really got me thinking, well,
Speaker:that's the reason I've got all these
Speaker:problems in my life.' I would stay away from people that teach you things like
Speaker:that, because they're ignorant. They don't know how life works.
Speaker:It's a magnificent transformation going on all the time.
Speaker:So if you all of a sudden do it, and you grow up throughout your life. 'Oh,
Speaker:I missed mom. I have a void a mom.' Now what you're going to do,
Speaker:you're going to end up probably finding some guy to have a baby with.
Speaker:And you're now going to smother your child because, 'Oh my God,
Speaker:I would never want to leave my kids.' And everything you try to avoid,
Speaker:you run into,
Speaker:and everything you seek fantasy of you attract things to break that fantasy.
Speaker:So then you try to do it and then all of a sudden, 20 years later,
Speaker:30 years later, you realize, Oh my God,
Speaker:I'm now in a relationship that's unfulfilling and I
Speaker:have to have custody fights and my husband gets the kids and now I've abandoned
Speaker:my kids. And then you realize that you're here to,
Speaker:that's all designed to help you make sure you love your mom and realize the form
Speaker:that's there, not sit there and hold onto the fantasies.
Speaker:Nature won't let you escape what you've you've been deluded about.
Speaker:It's going to force you to face your stuff.
Speaker:So that was an artificial void based on not knowing how to ask the right
Speaker:questions to see it and left you with a judgment that was stored in your
Speaker:subconscious mind, that's now impacting your life whether you see it or not.
Speaker:And your subconscious mind stores all lopsided perceptions like that,
Speaker:anything that you saw,
Speaker:you're conscious of the upsides and unconscious of the downsides or anything
Speaker:you're conscious of downsides and unconscious of the upsides to,
Speaker:is going to be stored in there and it's going to create a void. Why?
Speaker:Cause if you infatuate with something you're too humble to admit what you see in
Speaker:them is inside you. You think it's external,
Speaker:that you're infatuated with and you're disowning that part in you.
Speaker:And that's a void.
Speaker:And if you're too proud and looking down on somebody and resenting somebody,
Speaker:you're too proud to admit what you see in them is inside you, and that's a void.
Speaker:And those voids want to be fulfilled until you own all of those parts and
Speaker:realize nothing's missing in you.
Speaker:And those determine your values and your highest value is the most
Speaker:effective and efficient pathway to neutralize that because it's the one
Speaker:that gives you the most objectivity, which allows you not to judge,
Speaker:allows you to see things more neutral,
Speaker:where you don't fear the loss of it or fear the gain of it.
Speaker:And so you transcend the illusions of philias and phobias,
Speaker:seekings and avoidings,
Speaker:which are the impulses and instincts of the amygdala and lower animal mind.
Speaker:You liberate yourself with moksha and liberation and satori and
Speaker:nirvana, or you want to call it,
Speaker:because you have the capacity to transcend those conscious blocks.
Speaker:And when you do, you have,
Speaker:your highest value is one of the most significant things.
Speaker:It's the accessing gateway to the transcendental awareness,
Speaker:where you see things neither good nor evil.
Speaker:And so you don't have the fear of loss of that which is good,
Speaker:and fear of gain of that which is evil because the entire moral construct that
Speaker:you're hypocritically trapped in is in delusion.
Speaker:Because if you try to get a one-sided magnet,
Speaker:try to get rid of the other side of the magnet, it's futile.
Speaker:The same thing with these cockamamie moral constructs that ignorant people
Speaker:impose on people as an exploitation of people that are living in that animal
Speaker:behavior, trap people in these things, which we call limiting beliefs.
Speaker:I'm just warming up.
Speaker:It sounds like you're just getting warmed up. And Dr. Demartini, what do we do,
Speaker:especially during these times,
Speaker:we're going to get presented with a lot of opportunities in terms of business
Speaker:and changing in business,
Speaker:but these opportunities is not congruent with our values as such,
Speaker:how do you think we should we look at that?
Speaker:It depends on the opportunity. I had a client this week.
Speaker:Well, it's been over the last two weeks, really.
Speaker:They had a great opportunity to make quite a bit of money,
Speaker:but it's doing something that could jeopardize their brand in the future.
Speaker:So they asked me, what do you think? Cause it's really substantial bit of money.
Speaker:They want to be involved in an advertisement, a
Speaker:And it's significant, large sums of money. And I
Speaker:said, well, let's take a look. And at first,
Speaker:they were enamored and blinded by the sum of money because right now they could
Speaker:use the sum of money. But then I said, well, right now,
Speaker:write all the benefits down. Had them write all the benefits down. And
Speaker:hen I said, now
Speaker:you need to come up with the same amount of drawbacks because life doesn't have
Speaker:one sidedness. So what are the drawbacks? When
Speaker:we actually started seeing the drawbacks,
Speaker:they realized that their infatuation with the money blinded them for what the
Speaker:consequences of who they were going to business with. So then when
Speaker:they started to see some of the downsides,
Speaker:they started doing further research on the internet and they found out that two
Speaker:of the people in the organization are criminals.
Speaker:That con people. And they caught that. And they go,
Speaker:I can't believe I would've missed that.
Speaker:And gone into this system and then been associated with it would probably create
Speaker:a fiasco and long term it would undermine my brand,
Speaker:because these individuals over here had been conning people and here's
Speaker:the next con that they're doing. They're taking advantage of people right now,
Speaker:with a con. And they
Speaker:didn't even have in the contract originally that
Speaker:upfront. So they were about to be conned. And it was, it was pretty interesting.
Speaker:So that one exercise of finding out what, all the benefits that you see,
Speaker:and then what's the downside. If you see way more benefits than drawbacks,
Speaker:you're blinded by some infatuation.
Speaker:Most everybody here has had a situation where
Speaker:they've run into a man or a woman or a woman, woman,
Speaker:or a man man or whatever
Speaker:we call it today because it could be anything and in-between and you're in a
Speaker:relationship and you you're infatuated with them and you don't see the downsides
Speaker:at first, you got a fatal attraction,
Speaker:kind of like Michael Douglas and Glenn Close.
Speaker:And at first you blind and then you get in
Speaker:and then you find out you've just destroyed your house,
Speaker:your marriage and everything else over this crazy person.
Speaker:So you didn't see it because you didn't look,
Speaker:you allowed your amygdala to skew things, to exaggerate the positives,
Speaker:to blind you to the negatives, to have a confirmation bias on the positives,
Speaker:a disconfirmation bias on the negatives,
Speaker:to have a false positive on the positives and a false negative on the negatives,
Speaker:and skew it out of proportion and then you blind yourself and then you make a
Speaker:decision.
Speaker:That's why making decisions out of the amygdala is almost guaranteed to get you
Speaker:smacked.
Speaker:But making decisions out of seeing both sides objectively makes you aware and
Speaker:have foresight. So if you get an opportunity,
Speaker:the first thing to do is to go and balance it. Cause the second you balance, it,
Speaker:it gets linked to your highest value cause your highest value is where
Speaker:everything is objective. So go and link it and balance it first.
Speaker:When you do, you will discover something,
Speaker:you'll discover that anything that you oversighted that was the downsides you
Speaker:became aware of, and you went, Oh shit, at least. And then you can
Speaker:look at that and you go,
Speaker:if I can handle all those downsides and I'm prepared for that and I can mitigate
Speaker:those and I can use those to my advantage,
Speaker:then I can move forward on the project.
Speaker:I'm fully aware of what I'm about to get into.
Speaker:The thing that makes us different than the animals is that we have the ability
Speaker:to extract meaning,
Speaker:bring things back into the mean and to be able to have foresight and
Speaker:to have, the animals have what they call teleonomics. They learn by
Speaker:trial and error, tinkering with things.
Speaker:Even Darwinian evolution has got problems, it's not a complete theory,
Speaker:by any means. In fact, it's got lots of flaws in it,
Speaker:cause it makes you assume that an animal survives and the one that survives
Speaker:continues and the one that doesn't, doesn't.
Speaker:But they've shown in in Chernobyl for instance, recently,
Speaker:they found out that animals and plants around the nuclear power plant within
Speaker:three generations, they had
Speaker:adaptations and now they're thriving and they're actually doing more thriving
Speaker:compared to the other animals and plants that
Speaker:didn't get all that radiation and they figured out that it's actually,
Speaker:there's a hormetic system that the challenge has actually upgraded them and
Speaker:they're now more resilient and there's an evolutionary process there that makes
Speaker:them more efficient for surviving the future. So they now realize that,
Speaker:wait a minute,
Speaker:that couldn't possibly be Darwinian evolution because Darwin evolution would
Speaker:have to take multiple generations to get that done.
Speaker:This happened in less than three generations.
Speaker:So now they know that there's epigenetic responses and there's some sort of
Speaker:homeostatic mechanism, a teleological foresight mechanism partly sitting there.
Speaker:Now humans really have that accentuated. It's not incipient.
Speaker:It's really accentuated.
Speaker:And we have the capacity to look with our mind, not imagination future,
Speaker:but actually go into our mind and see all the reactions and possible
Speaker:things that could occur and plan through those and mitigate anything that we
Speaker:think is going to be a hindrance to our life and come up with a strategy.
Speaker:And people who are strategically
Speaker:planning are the ones that accomplish the greatest achievements.
Speaker:You can't make it to the Mars with Elon Musk space X,
Speaker:unless you're doing planning,
Speaker:you can't make and build a massive structure without planning.
Speaker:You can't accomplish anything of magnitude without planning.
Speaker:And it's the people that have foresight. Alec MacKenzie,
Speaker:in The Time Trap show that the people at the forefront,
Speaker:the people that are leaders, the people that are at the things are functioning
Speaker:from their executive center and spending more of their time
Speaker:in vision and planning than the people who are just reacting.
Speaker:And the majority of people are just, they don't go anywhere
Speaker:In life because they just keep redundantly doing the same things,
Speaker:expecting different results and having to have cataclysmic change.
Speaker:In evolutionary theory we have what they call gradual hypothesis and cataclysmic
Speaker:hypothesis.
Speaker:And cataclysmic hypothesis is people that live by their lower values,
Speaker:rigidly polarize things, get attached to things and detached from things.
Speaker:Inftuate, resent,
Speaker:have high emotional states and then fear the loss of one and fear the gain of
Speaker:the other. And then it takes a cataclysm to finally get them to change.
Speaker:That's called hitting bottom in addiction.
Speaker:And the people that have gradual changes are constantly doing micro changes as
Speaker:Jim Collins says,
Speaker:that's the tinkering that keeps adapting and making micro changes to keep
Speaker:adapting. Right now,
Speaker:this is the perfect time to be doing micro changes and actually doing it because
Speaker:if you're holding onto the past and fantasies or future
Speaker:grounded right now, you're going to end up seeing this as a cataclysm.
Speaker:It's not a cataclysm, it's an opportunity.
Speaker:And Dr. Demartini that's beautiful, leads me into the next question.
Speaker:Let's say we're busy with the planning and we find out the market that we are
Speaker:interested in going into is a bit saturated, for example,
Speaker:coaching and online teaching and everybody's getting
Speaker:where the opportunity is. How do we get around that?
Speaker:Well, this is what differentiates people who are serious vs somebody who's just
Speaker:stepping in there and thinking, Oh, I better grab this.
Speaker:The people who are going to be doing well in any field are the
Speaker:people who have extremely high value on doing it and mastering it
Speaker:and doing it in a way that's fair to make a difference in people's lives.
Speaker:So if you sincerely find a niche that you're truly most inspired by that you
Speaker:know is a need out there and you target that,
Speaker:you'll be the one that rides and thrives.
Speaker:Just because thousands of people are doing coaching doesn't mean that
Speaker:everybody's going to do well. The people who are going to do well,
Speaker:the ones that are going to deliver the service.
Speaker:And they're goig to do it more effectively.
Speaker:So if you don't even believe that you can do it effectively,
Speaker:it's because you're comparing yourself to others instead of comparing your daily
Speaker:actions to your own highest values and what the needs of the highest values of
Speaker:your clients are.
Speaker:If you focus on the highest values of yourself and the highest values of your
Speaker:clients and stick to those, you will be the one that succeeds in that endeavor.
Speaker:You know, if you're trying to be second at being Elvis,
Speaker:you're not going to be first at being you.
Speaker:When I got asked to on a
Speaker:Vogue magazine interview one time, I had 17 questions that they asked me,
Speaker:it was a lovely young girl that was asking me these questions.
Speaker:And I think she was probably late twenties or something, a bit naive, I think.
Speaker:But she said, 'Well, Dr Demartini, the very last question says,
Speaker:if there's anybody in the world that you could be, who would you want to be?'
Speaker:And I looked at her and I thought, what a weird question. And I said, 'Well,
Speaker:ma'am, I have no desire to be anybody, but me.
Speaker:Why would I want to be anybody but me?' And she goes, 'Really?' Oh,
Speaker:people usually say, I want to be at the Kardashians,
Speaker:or I want to be this.' Why would I want to be somebody other than me? Because
Speaker:I can be my magnificent me, but I can't be second at being somebody else.
Speaker:And the thing is,
Speaker:I was in Tennessee, Nashville, Tennessee,
Speaker:and I was getting ready to do a Breakthrough Experience there.
Speaker:And the lady that was hosting me had a husband who was a PhD in
Speaker:psychology, very sharp guy. And
Speaker:I asked him what his PhD was on, he said it was on William James.
Speaker:I said 'So you did a PhD on William James?' 'Yeah.' He said,
Speaker:'I took a tiny portion
Speaker:of William James life and his teachings and I created
Speaker:my PhD around that one niche, that one of little topic.' I said,
Speaker:'So you basically spent
Speaker:additional four years studying one man's tiny portion of one man's life?' He
Speaker:goes, 'Yes.' 'Isn't it interesting. You got
Speaker:a PhD and people will look up to you with a PhD because you studied a tiny
Speaker:portion of one man's life.
Speaker:And yet people have a whole life that may not have been studied,
Speaker:but they have a whole life. And they somehow think that you're more ingenious
Speaker:because you have a PhD than they do in their life?' It's kind of irrational.
Speaker:We all have multiple PhDs in different aspects of our life. But if we
Speaker:compare what we're wanting to learn with somebody else's values and then not
Speaker:honoring what we know,
Speaker:we're going to think ourselves as idiots compared to them. As Einstein said,
Speaker:a cat, right, that expects to swim like a fish, is going to beat itself up.
Speaker:And a fish expects to climb like a cat is going to beat itself up.
Speaker:But a cat honoring its cat hood is going to do quite great in the cat industry.
Speaker:So, you got to
Speaker:find the industry that's truly inspiring to you that you can't wait to do.
Speaker:Don't try to go down a path of coaching on something you don't spontaneously
Speaker:love doing on a daily basis or you won't have the resilience and adaptability
Speaker:because it won't be your highest value. And the second you do,
Speaker:you'll be highly volatile in the market and want to blame things and want to
Speaker:give excuses. You'll procrastinate, hesitate and frustrate on those areas.
Speaker:If you're going to go into coaching and everything else,
Speaker:then find the niche that you can't wait to get up in the morning
Speaker:and do that people can't wait to get. And you got to care
Speaker:enough about the people to find out what their needs are to meet those needs.
Speaker:If you don't do that, you're not going to thrive in that business. And yes,
Speaker:there is a lot of business out there right now. And almost everybody,
Speaker:no matter what the situation has something that they have,
Speaker:that they have a need in. There's always a new need.
Speaker:If Bezos added a hundred thousand people to his business, Amazon right now,
Speaker:during the coronavirus, he obviously is meeting people's needs.
Speaker:He hired a hundred thousand people. That's the biggest hiring spree he ever had.
Speaker:So why is it that this man is thriving during this,
Speaker:is because of foresight and because everybody needs right now,
Speaker:online distribution, online purchases, online deliveries.
Speaker:So here's a guy that was at the cutting edge doing it.
Speaker:So what would happen if you came up with online coaching, online
Speaker:this and online deliveries, and who knows.
Speaker:But if you meet people's needs and you help them solve their problems,
Speaker:they'll be there. I don't know, I think we have 5,000 something,
Speaker:500 people or something on this thing today. If they're on there,
Speaker:there must be meeting some sort of need.
Speaker:Something I'm saying must be a value or they wouldn't want to take up their hour
Speaker:of their time to come on this line.
Speaker:So I have the responsibility to give you something of value. If I don't do it,
Speaker:you're not going to come back to me. You're going to go on to somebody else.
Speaker:And my job, my accountability,
Speaker:is to keep studying and keep learning and keep growing and keep delivering some
Speaker:sort of value. If I'm going to be a coach or teacher, that's my responsibility.
Speaker:You got to own that responsibility. And you got to be the master of it.
Speaker:You gotta go out there and put more into it than the guy next door.
Speaker:And if you do that, by the way, every relationship you have,
Speaker:whether it be a spouse, a kid, believe it or not, even your kids will leave you,
Speaker:a spouse, a kid, a client, or whatever, they're only going to stay with you,
Speaker:your own security has nothing to do with them,
Speaker:your security has everything to do with you meeting their needs. That's it. Now,
Speaker:if you can do that more effective than somebody else, you get the business.
Speaker:There's no escape from that. There's no shortcuts. There's just reality.
Speaker:So go and become the greatest at what you do, ask yourself, as Colin said,
Speaker:'What is it that I can be the greatest at?
Speaker:What is it that I would love to be the greatest step?
Speaker:What is it that I'm actually demonstrating the evidence that I'm moving towards
Speaker:that greatest at?
Speaker:And what can I do that will serve people with that greatest at?
Speaker:Thanks for that, Dr. Demartini and the next one is you know,
Speaker:what is the signs we can look out for if you are subordinating to somebody
Speaker:else's values or injecting somebody else's values into our lives?
Speaker:Just like on the Breakthrough Experience this weekend, we got to see it live.
Speaker:One of the signs that you've injected a value is you'll hear yourself inside
Speaker:your head or externally verbalized, you say,
Speaker:'I really should be doing this. I'm supposed to be doing this,
Speaker:but I don't seem to be doing it. I don't know why,
Speaker:but I just can't stay focused. I'm just not disciplined.
Speaker:I know I ought to be doing more of this, but I don't do it.
Speaker:I need to do this, but I just don't seem to get around to doing it.
Speaker:I gotta do this. I just gotta, I gotta change this. Got to, have to, must,
Speaker:need to, should, ought to, supposed to,
Speaker:are imperative languages that are injected values to people you subordinate
Speaker:to. And whenever you hear that,
Speaker:you hear this in religious people that are subordinating
Speaker:to dogma and irrational crap that's being taught them.
Speaker:You see this in political people,
Speaker:anybody that's stuck in moral constructs are going to be trapped in it.
Speaker:So that's a sign of trying to fit in to a mother, father, preacher, teacher,
Speaker:or some social group at some scale of society and not actually
Speaker:digging inside and finding out what you're inspired to do.
Speaker:I'm going to make a statement here that maybe shock some of you. I dunno.
Speaker:There are no rules out there other than the universal laws.
Speaker:There's just rules that people come up with to protect themselves from their own
Speaker:fears. Now think about this. Let's
Speaker:say I have a, there's a daughter,
Speaker:and let's say that daughter comes to me and says, 'daddy, daddy, daddy,
Speaker:I got on the honor roll this this month. And I've got to be prom queen.
Speaker:And I got to be voted as the student body president.
Speaker:And I just found out I got a scholarship to Harvard
Speaker:and I've been saving my money like you taught me.
Speaker:And I've now saved a certain amount of money.
Speaker:And I want to pay for my own school. And with the scholarship,
Speaker:I'm going to earn it my way. And by the way, I'm dating the most popular boy.
Speaker:And he looks just like you daddy.' And all of a sudden,
Speaker:she says things that really support your values. 'And daddy,
Speaker:is there any way I could borrow the car tonight?'
Speaker:When things support your values, you lacks the rules and you go, 'Sure.
Speaker:I'm proud of you.' By the way, anytime a parent's proud of a child,
Speaker:it's nothing to do with the child's action, because
Speaker:pride is what you think you did to lead to them doing it.
Speaker:So what happens is if you're proud of your child,
Speaker:that means that you're basically taking credit for their action and it matches
Speaker:your values. And you're actually thinking you made it happen,
Speaker:which is a delusion.
Speaker:So pride is automatically going to set you up for an illusion.
Speaker:They're going to end up humbling you.
Speaker:Then you're going to blame yourself for that same opposite behavior.
Speaker:But what happens if your daughter comes to you and says, 'daddy, daddy, daddy,
Speaker:I'm pregnant.
Speaker:And I don't know who the father was because I went
Speaker:20 men. And I don't know what it is.
Speaker:And by the time we were doing drugs and when I bought the drugs,
Speaker:I stole your credit card and the police are looking for your credit card and
Speaker:they may come take you. I don't know,
Speaker:they may blame you because I'm still under age. And anyway, when I did it,
Speaker:I stored it at the house. And I think they're on their way to the house,
Speaker:they may be searching the house.' And then she does a bunch of stuff.
Speaker:'And by the way, I dropped out of school and I owe a bunch of people money,
Speaker:and they're drug dealers.
Speaker:And I think they're going to come and try to get it and steal from the house.
Speaker:And daddy, can I borrow the car to leave the country?'
Speaker:Well, now all of a sudden, if his s values is challenged,
Speaker:he's going to tax those rules and put all the rigid autocratic behaviors in
Speaker:there. Cause whenever we end up with our values really challenged,
Speaker:we get autocratic. When our values are really supportive, we lax the rules,
Speaker:when our values are really challenged, we tax rules.
Speaker:Society has a set of rules and whoever has power in
Speaker:society sets them. And whoever has the least power in society,
Speaker:doodly follows them.
Speaker:And anybody down below who tries to interfere with the rules above is going to
Speaker:be squashed with automatic autocratic behaviors. Now,
Speaker:the fear of what's going to happen to that makes us subordinate.
Speaker:In the process of doing, we want to fit in like the sheep.
Speaker:Cause we're afraid to stand up against all the authority.
Speaker:And people that really like conspiracy theories that like to think and
Speaker:exaggerate authority and minimize their power are vulnerable to this. So
Speaker:the second you actually go in there and you realize that you're subordinating to
Speaker:that. You're going to go, 'I should be doing this. I need to be doing this.
Speaker:I gotta be doing this because otherwise I'm going to be rejected or I'm going to
Speaker:have consequences.' But really whoever has the power sets the rules.
Speaker:And if you empower yourself, you get to set them.
Speaker:And there's no boundaries on what those are. There's no ultimate rules.
Speaker:You know, in some countries, in South Africa,
Speaker:you have countries where that the president had nine
Speaker:you go to prison for that. It's called bigamy or polygamy.
Speaker:So you're not allowed to do it. So one place it's considered power
Speaker:and influence. And you've got a leader that way. Here you don't.
Speaker:And some countries you're allowed to do certain things.
Speaker:Other countries you're not.
Speaker:So the rules are not necessarily rules of the universe,
Speaker:unless they're universal laws. Those are the only ones that we all submit to.
Speaker:That's why I teach those in my Breakthrough programs and all my programs.
Speaker:I want you to know what are actual laws that nobody violates,
Speaker:instead of all subordination,
Speaker:all the little rules that just happened to be there. And as a result of that,
Speaker:we end up subordinating because we don't actually confront things.
Speaker:Albert Einstein, when he was about 18,
Speaker:19 years old was in a class with Philipp Lenard,
Speaker:who was a professor who was a Nobel prize winner at the time and was the
Speaker:authority. He had done the photoelectric effect.
Speaker:And he was the authority in the world.
Speaker:And Einstein found a flaw in his work and pointed it out in the
Speaker:class, in front of the whole class, which was
Speaker:absolutely not accepted at that time, because they're autocrats.
Speaker:This was in Germany and you just didn't do it. It was autocratic. And so he was
Speaker:chastised for that by the teacher.
Speaker:And the teacher spent many years trying to destroy Albert Einstein and he didn't
Speaker:get one of his Nobel prizes because of it.
Speaker:And he even was friends with Hitler and he basically went after and tried to get
Speaker:Hitler to assassinate Einstein. It's a very fascinating story.
Speaker:But Einstein stood up and he had the courage to stand up against the authority
Speaker:and say, 'Wait a minute now, I'm dedicated to truth.
Speaker:What you're saying is flawed. I'm going to stand. If you want to kill me,
Speaker:eventually it's going to be found out.
Speaker:And you're going to look foolish because you'd kill the person
Speaker:who had the true answer. So go ahead. And he says, and if for some reason, God's
Speaker:laws don't match the one I found,
Speaker:I feel sorry for God.' That's how confident he was because he really did his
Speaker:homework on it. The mathematics made sense.
Speaker:It turned out that he was accurate. He later got his Nobel prize for it.
Speaker:But it was suppressed for many years, and because of one guy. But the question
Speaker:is, do you have the courage to stand out?
Speaker:Do you have the courage to be an unborrowed visionary?
Speaker:Do you have the courage to get ridiculed,
Speaker:violently opposed and chastised by the herd by coming up with something
Speaker:new? And if you do, you're going to stand up.
Speaker:You're going to be the one that's going to get the corner of the market because
Speaker:eventually the new paradigm is born.
Speaker:I'm creating a new model out there in psychology.
Speaker:I'm building up a culture of people around the world that are now using it.
Speaker:Eventually those numbers are going to get pretty significant. And as a result,
Speaker:people are going to eventually go, 'Hey,
Speaker:this is a more efficient way than half the crap that's out there.' So,
Speaker:but I get ridiculed by the psychologists. Sure. That's part of the game.
Speaker:If you're not being crucified, you're probably not on purpose.
Speaker:And as Emerson said, to be great is to be misunderstood.
Speaker:So you've got to give yourself question.
Speaker:What's really the model I want to live my life by?
Speaker:You can create the model of your life, how you want it.
Speaker:There's no rules out there saying you have to do this or have to do that except
Speaker:the ones you buy into. You subordinate to them,
Speaker:you're stuck in the rules that you did otherwise you can create them,
Speaker:but just know that if you don't have the power to override those that have
Speaker:power, you're probably going to deal with resistance,
Speaker:but that's part of the game.
Speaker:So if you have something you're certain about and you want to get it out there,
Speaker:endure the resistance, the average leader that made a difference in the world,
Speaker:the polymath that did it, was usually 30 to 60 years of enduring that.
Speaker:And when they come out ahead, they changed history.
Speaker:You decide where you want to play in the game.
Speaker:You want to be part of a culture that's traditional and stagnant
Speaker:and keep the old way? Or do you want to be part of the solution for the future?
Speaker:It's up to you.
Speaker:Thanks for that Dr Demartini, and we come to our last question.
Speaker:Can you please explain the role that gratitude plays
Speaker:on opportunities that is in the marketplace and not to be swayed by other
Speaker:people's opinions?
Speaker:Well the majority of people are not going to live by their executive
Speaker:center. Not everybody's a Nobel prize winner,
Speaker:not everybody's the spiritual leader of the planet.
Speaker:Not everybody gives themself permission. I love what Abraham Maslow did.
Speaker:He had a group of 20 people in a room one time and he said, 'Okay,
Speaker:who here has plans to be the next president?
Speaker:Who's going to be the next spiritual leader?
Speaker:Who's going to be the next innovator in business?
Speaker:Who's going to be the next inventor?
Speaker:Who's going to be the next leader in sports?'
Speaker:And was trying to get them to ask the questions, instead of just assuming,
Speaker:'Well,
Speaker:that's for somebody else.' 'Why not me?' So when you
Speaker:start doing that, people started digging inside themselves and going,
Speaker:what is really the reason why I wouldn't give my self permission to do it? I
Speaker:think it's Marianne Williamson said, you know, are we here to shine or shrink?
Speaker:And most people shrink. So when they do,
Speaker:they're not going to be grateful for their life as much. Because basically,
Speaker:anytime you're not living by your highest values and walking your own unique
Speaker:path to make the great difference, because we all want to make a difference,
Speaker:we can't make a difference fitting in. If we don't take that path,
Speaker:we are automatically designed to beat ourselves up.
Speaker:One thing I'm certain about is that you will never escape criticism.
Speaker:And if you avoid it on the outside, you're going to live with it on the inside.
Speaker:And I'd rather have the whole world against me than my own soul.
Speaker:Because the criticism you have inside yourself is way more
Speaker:affecting you than the ones on the outside. That
Speaker:which circulates the most, it has the least value.
Speaker:I remember working with a lady in Calgary, Canada,
Speaker:who'd spent four years in a basement. Four years in a basement,
Speaker:a very large obese overeating woman, living in a basement,
Speaker:trying to protect herself from ridicule and criticism. So she refused to go out.
Speaker:And so the individuals there at the house asked me to come and try to work with
Speaker:her. It wasn't the most beautiful setting.
Speaker:It wasn't the most fragrant location to do work,
Speaker:but I went down there and I worked with her and I finally got a message across
Speaker:to her. And I had to go through and help her realize that,
Speaker:go to a moment when she was criticized and I showed her where she was praised,
Speaker:and that was an eye-opener to her.
Speaker:And then I showed her when every time she'd been criticized,
Speaker:if she tried to avoid it, she ended up doing it to herself.
Speaker:So now she's living with total internal self depreciation, sitting in there,
Speaker:hiding away from people for fear of criticism.
Speaker:You're not going to avoid criticism.
Speaker:You might as well go and get criticized from the outside world,
Speaker:instead of living with it inside,
Speaker:because anytime you're doing something that's high on your value and you get
Speaker:criticism for standing out, you're inspired by what you do,
Speaker:and you are able to have resilience,
Speaker:but anytime you're doing lower priority things by fitting in,
Speaker:your own self depreciation will be there 24 hours a day.
Speaker:And the little minor little micro bullies on the outside are actually your
Speaker:friends trying to get you out of that prison and get you out into something that
Speaker:inspires you. So you're not going to get away from it.
Speaker:And the people that finally realize that are the ones that are grateful for
Speaker:their lives, they have much to be grateful for,
Speaker:but people that have a fantasy of trying to get rid of the half of a magnet,
Speaker:the negative part of the magnet,
Speaker:and try to get only the positive pole of a magnet,
Speaker:those are the people the most ungrateful people. I gave up happiness,
Speaker:it made too sad, the joy of depression, I call it.
Speaker:Because people are addicted to happiness and always wanting peace and kind,
Speaker:one sided realities are the most depressed people that I've
Speaker:seen. The people that can embrace both sides of life are the ones that are most
Speaker:grateful, when you're grateful for what you got,
Speaker:you get more to be grateful for. That's why living by your highest values,
Speaker:where you're most resilient and objective,
Speaker:where you embrace both sides and you can be grateful because you're doing what
Speaker:you love and you're basically living by priority and having discipline,
Speaker:reliability and focus and waking up leadership.
Speaker:These are the people that have the most gratitude in life and achieve more
Speaker:because gratitude is another name for appreciation and you appreciate in value
Speaker:in the marketplace.
Speaker:Thank you very much for that, Dr. Demartini, we really appreciate your time.
Speaker:And for those of you, that's joining us on this live time.
Speaker:We have put together a phenomenal bundle for you.
Speaker:That's called the Demartini Clarity Bundle.
Speaker:So it helps you to get more clear on your values and how to use your values and
Speaker:to go forward with your values.
Speaker:Dr. Demartini can you just quickly walk us through what we have put together
Speaker:here. What you're seeing on your screen now is the bundle there,
Speaker:it's how to change your values,
Speaker:can you please just quickly walk us through that Dr. Demartini.
Speaker:Well, I'm going to start with the middle one there.
Speaker:The one is the Manifestation Formula. I'm really inspired by that.
Speaker:There's a new movie that's coming out this week called 'How Thoughts Become
Speaker:Things' and it's the sequel to The Secret. It's got some of the same people,
Speaker:including myself in it. And it's an upgrade from the secret.
Speaker:I think it's going to go well. And in there,
Speaker:there's a new book that's coming with it,
Speaker:which I created a whole chapter 20 page chapter,
Speaker:25 page chapter on the manifestation and what this is,
Speaker:is the step-by-step process on how to take an idea that
Speaker:inspires you and to actually put it through steps,
Speaker:to come out with a result that you want.
Speaker:So it's a manifestation formula that I've been using since I was 17,
Speaker:18 years old. Paul Bragg introduced me to the principles.
Speaker:I turned it into a formula and I've been using it ever since.
Speaker:Same thing I've been using all these years to create what I wanted in life.
Speaker:The second one. If you pull that back up,
Speaker:the second one on the left is how to change values. Now,
Speaker:in your life you may come across, you may be 30, 40, 50 years old,
Speaker:and all of a sudden, you're at a point where you go, you know what?
Speaker:I realize that I don't have a value on wealth building and no
Speaker:matter what I do, I can't seem to get ahead financially.
Speaker:And I'm always trying to get shortcuts because of it.
Speaker:And I'm not mastering money. And I'm working as a slave for money all my life.
Speaker:And I can't seem to get ahead. And no matter what I do,
Speaker:there's always some emergency that robs it. And it's frustrating.
Speaker:I'm beating myself up about it. So in there,
Speaker:I show people how to shift values because your values are shifting
Speaker:gradually or cataclysmically, but you can do it consciously.
Speaker:Now only reason I would ask people to do that is if they realize at a certain
Speaker:stage in their life,
Speaker:that the path that their values are taking them is going to not include certain
Speaker:aspects of their life.
Speaker:So if the person would like to incorporate wealth building for the first time in
Speaker:their life, so they can start getting ahead and have money work for them,
Speaker:instead of them working for it, I can show you how to change the value system.
Speaker:Or believe it or not, there's a whole lot of people, a lot of mainly women,
Speaker:but it could be men too, but I find it mostly women that come to me and said,
Speaker:'No matter what I do, I can't get a relationship. I can't get a relationship.
Speaker:I can't get a relationship.' And they don't realize that unconsciously they're
Speaker:manifesting their result and diversifying what they're looking for in a
Speaker:relationship,
Speaker:in a variety of men because of their values and because of the wounds of the
Speaker:past. So I can show you how to clear the wounds as I teach in the Breakthrough
Speaker:Experience.
Speaker:And I can also show you how to change the values so you increase the probability
Speaker:of manifesting the man.
Speaker:Cause it is not a lack of men out there or lack of women out there.
Speaker:It's simply you unconsciously making sure you don't see him and get him.
Speaker:And if you don't believe me, do the process, you'll blow your mind,
Speaker:what you can do with it.
Speaker:And the other one is the Application of Values for Achievement.
Speaker:Now that one is basically on how to empower all seven areas of your life
Speaker:by linking the action steps that are proven to help you empower those.
Speaker:And they're in this packet,
Speaker:I go through there and talk about how to empower your mind and wake up your
Speaker:genius and how to absorb and learn and retain information.
Speaker:I talk about how to become more fully engaged in the work that you're doing.
Speaker:I show you how to basically how to shift the values and how to engage yourself
Speaker:so you can actually make money and keep money and how to communicate more
Speaker:effectively in relationships and how to wake up your leader and how to balance
Speaker:out your physiology so you're not creating symptoms to have to get you to and
Speaker:how to be inspired in there. All based on values, very practical,
Speaker:very simple exercises and things you can immediately start doing that can make a
Speaker:difference in those seven areas.
Speaker:So all of those are a little packet to try to help you
Speaker:in manifesting what you want in life in the seven areas. And so yeah,
Speaker:that's that little clarity bundle.
Speaker:It helps you increase the probability of getting what you say you want.
Speaker:And if you're not clear about it, it helps you clarify it.
Speaker:Cause it's going to help you get clear about what the values are.
Speaker:And anytime you try to set a goal, that's not aligned with your highest values,
Speaker:you're designed to have uncertainty, waffling, hesitation,
Speaker:procrastination, frustration, you're designed to. There's
Speaker:You're just not clear about what it is you want. And many people,
Speaker:whoever has the clearest vision rules,
Speaker:those with a vision, flourish. Those without a vision perish.
Speaker:If you're not clear about your vision in life, time to get clear,
Speaker:this will help you.
Speaker:Thank you for that, Dr. Demartini.
Speaker:And if you would like to take up this offer that we have given you you'll see
Speaker:the current value of this office $365 and is currently going for
Speaker:in this group for $95. So please take up the opportunity.
Speaker:You'll see the link is going to be posted in the comment section.
Speaker:And also you'll see on the bottom of your screen, there is a link,
Speaker:you can put into a new tab demartini.ink/clarity.
Speaker:And that'll take you through to the page where you can take up this great offer
Speaker:where you'll be able to get this. And all these three offers is online modules.
Speaker:It's five hours that you get to spend with Dr. Demartini,
Speaker:that he will take you through the practical application
Speaker:products, How to Change your Values, Manifestation Formula,
Speaker:and the Application of Values for Achievement. Thank you for your time,
Speaker:Dr. Demartini. Have you got any last comments or any last words for us?
Speaker:Yeah. My students who have been listening over the years,
Speaker:I've received,
Speaker:I believe now 1700 upsides to the
Speaker:coronavirus.
Speaker:And the ones that took the time to write down the benefits of what's
Speaker:happening in the current reality have written me thank you letters for the
Speaker:knowledge of how to do that,
Speaker:the purpose of why to do that and creative insights on
Speaker:how they can use this time to their greatest advantage.
Speaker:Please take the time to do that because it pays off.
Speaker:You got to invest in your own mastery.
Speaker:Thank you. Thank you very much for that, Dr. Demartini.
Speaker:We really appreciate your time and we will bring you again in a week or so
Speaker:time to come and join us again in this group.
Speaker:But thanks for everything that you're doing and thank you for the clarity and
Speaker:the certainty that you're giving to the world during this times.
Speaker:Okay. Thank you so much.
Speaker:Thank you everybody who's listening in or wherever you are, whatever time it is.
Speaker:Thank you for joining me and spending some time to me today and helping me
Speaker:fulfill my mission of doing what I'm doing. So thank you.
Speaker:Enjoy your week and go do something extraordinary.