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So Dr. Demartini the first question I've got for you is right now,

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there are many of our clients that are in the industries that has been affected

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with what has been happening and will take a while to come back again towards

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what they used to.

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How do we how does one filter the environment and see opportunities that is

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congruent with our values currently?

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Well, I cannot say,

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I wish I could be a prophet and tell you exactly what's going to happen at what

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day, I don't know.

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There's so much controversy on what they're going to do, and there's now,

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as you can see there's revolts going on and people wanting to go back to work.

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So,

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don't know if we're ever going to be exactly the way it was.

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I think that's going to be unrealistic. I think there's been a change.

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The vastness of people that are gone online and the businesses that are gone

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online are most likely going to move forward. I think that's technologically,

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this is catalyzed a technological step-up.

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So the old way may not be,

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holding onto the past may not be the wisest thing here. So,

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anytime you compare your current reality to a

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fantasy of how it should be,

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how you wish it would be, how it used to be,

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how you would fantasize you'd like it to be,

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you're not gonna appreciate your reality.

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And it's wiser to not compare your current reality to those fantasies because

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that's depressive,

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because you keep comparing what it is to what you wish it would be and you're

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not present in what it is. The wisest thing to do is to sit down and go,

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what is going on? What's the facts? Get as objective as you can,

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and now work from there. And as those facts change,

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keep working from there and ask yourself,

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how specifically is THIS situation, where I'm in now,

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how can I use this to the greatest advantage?

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How can I use this most effectively?

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I don't know when I'm going to be standing in another ballroom speaking.

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I don't know. Meantime I'm doing onlines.

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I've moved my things to the online world and believe it or not,

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there's been advantages to that, that are most likely going to be kept.

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Even if I go back to the other way,

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we're going to probably incorporate the two together.

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So there's an adaptation there.

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Stress is the inability to adapt to a changing environment or distress is.

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And we have the most inability to adapt when we're rigid

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with infatuations about how it should be or wish it would be,

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or how it used to be and resentments about how it is.

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So the more we resent something, the more we fear the gain of it.

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And the more we infatuate with something alternate to that the more we fear the

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loss of it. Whenever we we're in fear like that,

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we go into our amygdala and our amygdala skews things and exaggerates

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the fantasy and the nightmare that we're in.

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And we then are not as rational and we don't see opportunities because we're in

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our sub-cortical brain where we don't see opportunities.

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We don't see visions of possibilities,

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and we don't come up with strategic plans on how to take the current reality and

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use it to greatest advantage. So the wisest thing to do is to ask,

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what is the facts today? And take those facts today,

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be as objective as you can, and ask now with these facts,

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how can I use these to our greatest advantage?

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Because I don't know if we're going to ever have exactly the way it was.

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I can't guarantee that.

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I actually doubt that it's going to be exactly the way it was.

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It's going to be different. And if you're not able to do that,

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you're not able to change manage and you're holding onto rigid views,

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you're just adding to your own distress.

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It has nothing to do with what's going on out there.

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It's your attachment to fantasies and your detachment from

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current realities that causes your problem.

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Because that keeps you from coming up with creative solutions.

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The solutions to the so-called problem is always there,

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cause there's never a crisis without a blessing.

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So the wisest thing that I know to do is to take the current reality and ask,

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how specifically can I use this current reality to my greatest advantage,

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to fulfill the mission?

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If you lose sight of the mission of service,

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that's equitable with other people and you get focused on your narcissistic

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needs over them, all you're going to do is compound your problem.

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And if the other extreme, if you sacrifice you for them, again,

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another amygdala response, you're also going to perpetuate the problem.

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The only thing that's sustainable is some sort of fair exchange,

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so your objective is to go and figure out what are the needs

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today? It's interesting that some companies are booming right now.

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There was a little Chinese restaurant that was doing takeout service in

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Los Angeles when I was there at that hotel.

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And they had lines every six foot,

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they allowed a person to go in line and they were busy all day long.

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They had never had that much business in their history.

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So some businesses are booming. Some are declining.

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The ones that are meeting people's needs are booming.

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And the people's needs changed. If you can't congregate in a restaurant,

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takeout became possible. And then the people that did take out and delivery,

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they ended up booming because they met the needs.

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So I would encourage people to stop and look at what are the needs of the people

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you want to serve.

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And because if you meet those needs and you do it more effectively and

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efficiently than anybody else, you end up with a business.

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This forces you to become more effective and efficient at meeting people's needs

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and doing it in a way that is more efficient and

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you know, Inspiring and meeting those needs better than somebody else.

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So it forces you to be accountable. It forces you to be more proficient.

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It forces you to step up.

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It forces you to keep current with what's going on and not stagnate in the

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assumption that what was working is going to continue working,

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because it may not work, in the past, what was working in the past I mean,

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it may not work now, or as effectively.

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So I don't think it's wise to, you know, just hold on

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the fantasy that we're going to go back exactly the way it was,

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because I don't think that's going to happen.

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I think there's going to be some change to that. I know for myself,

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I'm sitting here now doing online. I'm doing them all day.

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I'm doing my research, I'm doing my writing and I'm doing

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podcasts and webinars and you know,

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finding how to adapt to that. It's actually been quite smooth.

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It hasn't been a major adaptation really. So you

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have to basically ask yourself now, how do I serve?

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I have many of my facilitators and students now,

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doing what they're doing and in a new form, it's now an online course,

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it's now an online consulting. It's now an online transactions.

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And they're now doing,

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finding people to deliver products and they're finding out different ways of

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doing it. And they're getting creative. When it does go similar to what it was,

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maybe not the same, some things open up again, you

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will now have these new resources that you didn't have,

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which will then like the Slingshot effect,

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it'll be tension and then when it releases,

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you'll have catalytic opportunities that you didn't have before.

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And the income that you think you lost possibly, which is another illusion,

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cause you just now put your genuine wealth into forms of relationship,

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creativity, new innovations, knowledge, online technology,

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you diversify temporarily your resources into new

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forms, which will then come back and bring you more income in the future.

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I've said for many decades that it's

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wise, those have been to my Prophecy program,

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it's wise to make sure that you have a minimum of three to six months worth of

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liquid capital. And I know that's now hindsight for some people,

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but if you didn't have that,

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you're stressed because you don't have working capital unless you're going out

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there and really meet people's needs. So this will teach

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those people that have not managed money wisely to open up a higher value on

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wealth management, so they're not put in that situation again. People get

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sloppy, they live beyond their means, they don't have a savings,

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they don't have any cushion, they don't have anything else.

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And they don't have any investment

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and they don't have passive income and they're foolish with money.

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And then as a result of it, this forces them to grow up and not be

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immediate, gratifying consumables, depreciating,

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living beyond their means and stressing themselves unnecessarily.

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So that's one of the benefits you're going to get it.

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And the benefit of that longterm, if you master that,

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when you manage money wisely, you receive more of your money to manage.

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So this Slingshot effect,

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this temporary setback is going to actually be a greatest catalyst.

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And what you think is Corona 19, you're going to call st. Corona in the future.

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You're going to go, thank God this occurred,

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or at least thank the virus for this occurring. So,

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or the Chinese Wuhan labs or whatever. The reality is,

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there is opportunity right now,

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but you got to get grounded in reality because the second you compare it to what

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it should be, what it ought to be,

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the most depressed people I see in my Breakthrough Experience are the people

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that are comparing their current reality to delusions, things about the past,

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the way it should have been, or would have been, could have been, had've been,

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why isn't it this way, or the future fantasy that they

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We are designed to suffer when we're pursuing that which is unobtainable and

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trying to avoid that which is unavoidable. We're designed to,

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as a feedback to wake us up to set real objectives and get grounded and

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start from reality. If you don't know where you are,

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you don't know where you want to go and you don't have a strategy,

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you're likely to be frustrated.

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So look at where you are right now.

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Get clear about what the mission is because if you

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is, it's time to get clear about it.

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That's one of the reasons I teach the Breakthrough Experience.

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One of the reasons I do all the programs I do,

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cause people that are clear about their mission, then ask,

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how is my current reality helping me fulfill that?

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And then they see things on the way, they don't see things in the way.

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So this is not a challenge,

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except to people who are perceiving it as a challenge.

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There's just as many opportunities if you take the time to ask how is what's

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happening right now, helping me get what I want to get.

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And then Dr. Demartini can you please explain what role does our values play

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in seeing opportunities in our environment?

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Well,

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every human being has a unique set of priorities or set of values that they're

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living by.

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And that's because of their unique vantage points and experiences and judgments

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that they've created voids with that determine these values.

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So no two people have the same set of values. If you meet anybody,

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they may say things that are somewhat common,

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they may all like sushi or something, but it may be different sushi.

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They may all like a certain religion or something,

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but there are different views inside that.

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It's called the law of similars and differences.

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So no two people have exactly the same set of values.

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The Pauli Exclusion Principle, which is a principle in physics,

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says that no two quantum particles that are fermions can ever occupy the same

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space and time and have the same quantum numbers. Well,

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the same thing with human values,

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because values are quantifiable fermionic states.

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So anytime we have a value system that's unique,

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we see life differently and filter things. And the way our brain is set up,

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the things that are highest on our values, we tend to filter out of our reality,

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we have a pulvinar nuclei in our thalamus,

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which is a subcortical region in the diencephalon, that basically filters

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and gates out information, because we'd be overwhelmed by infinity,

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all the data that's coming in would be overwhelming,

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we have to filter that out based on what we value.

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So a mother walking in a mall that's hightest values are children,

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she's going to spot children's clothes and health items and children's

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entertainment items and things of this nature, educational items.

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Where a husband who's maybe an entrepreneur who's

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mall, will not see any of that stuff.

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He'll see business and computers and suits and whatever he thinks is going to

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give him an advantage.

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So we filter our reality and look for things that give us more advantage than

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disadvantage to fulfill what we're trying to do,

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according to our highest values. Those values are also being projected onto

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the world, filtering the world. And since no two people have the same values,

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no two people see the same worlds. Even in

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Scientific American in September edition last year,

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they talked about everybody has their own hallucination of what's going on out

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there. And we're responsible for our own reality.

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Nobody else is creating it except us. Our perceptions, decisions,

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and actions are what we have control over and that's being filtered by our

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values. So our values determine what we perceive, what we decide,

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because we're looking for whatever gives us the greatest advantage over

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disadvantage, and the actions that we prioritize that we take.

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And the perceptions, decisions, and actions determines a human's destiny.

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You tell me what your perceptions, decisions,

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and actions are and tell me what you value and I'm gonna tell you where you're

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headed. I have a high value on teaching,

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my life points in the direction of teaching.

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So yeah, your values are dictating everything.

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And they're also dictating what you perceive to be

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yourself. The way the brain is set up in the sub-cortical areas of the brain,

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the inner brain segments, the inner nuclei, as they call them,

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they react just like an animal. They're sometimes called the more animal brain,

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and they've been given different names by Restak and MacLean,

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they gave them names like reptilian brain, mammalian brain and pre-

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amphibian brain,

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they gave those names because those areas of the brain are more highly

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developed. It's not that they don't,

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these other animals don't have all the areas of the brain.

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They just have more developed in that area so they've been associated with that.

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So what's interesting is that when we go into a distress mode and we

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perceive things interfering with our values,

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or are we go into a excess mode where we think elation is putting our

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values, the second we do, we go out of our rational mind,

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we go down into our amygdala and we go into distorting what is real.

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We distort the pain of something and exaggerate it,

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and we distort the pleasure of something and exaggerate that.

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And if we have a fantasy, we will distort the fantasy,

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which will then distort the nightmare we're in,

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because we're comparing our current reality to that fantasy.

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So our values are dictating this,

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and that's why if we don't live by highest values and we don't link whatever we

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do by our highest values, we create our own delusions and sufferings.

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It's nothing to do with the world outside us. William James, the

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father of modern psychology, 1895 or so said,

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that the greatest discovery of his generation was that human beings can alter

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their lives by altering their perceptions,

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decisions and attitudes and actions in life.

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And so we have the capacity. And most of us here might remember this,

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I don't know, maybe you haven't,

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but very probably you've had some situation where you're

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ranting and going on some emotionally about something, and you thought, man,

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I'm so frustrated and angry and everything else and all of a sudden,

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somebody knocks on a door on a doorbell and some friend comes to the door and

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you stop your mode and all of a sudden, 'Oh, hi,

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how's it going?' And you just put that behind you as you will.

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So you have the capacity at any one time to change exactly your state,

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totally up to you. And decide to change your perceptions and what you focus on,

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et cetera, based on what you value. So if you see things,

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whatever you perceive, that's not matching the fantasy,

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and therefore you're feeling is depressing

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and challenging and you've accentuated it because you've accentuated

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the fantasy of how it used to be, how good and how it's going to be,

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how I fantasized, you're going to make it more difficult for yourself.

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But if you ask whatever's going on,

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how specifically is it helping you fulfill your highest value,

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what is your mission, your inspiration,

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where you gain meaning where you gain purpose in life and you find meaning in

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it, it's like Viktor Frankl in the concentration camps.

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else was dying out and blaming things and comparing their situation of not

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having food and being tortured compared to the fantasy world they once

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had, or the fantasy that they're going to have,

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that they're going to get out and be free and all that,

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the ones that had those fantasies, died. They didn't have any resilience,

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no adaptation. He ended up taking it and asking himself,

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just like the movie shine, how specifically can I use this now?

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So he started making comedy out of it. He started using it as an acting time.

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He started turning it into opportunities that the other people couldn't do.

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They were sitting there comparing

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their current reality to fantasies of the past or future.

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Unless you're present and current and taking what's happening in

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reality, and using it to your greatest advantage,

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you're missing out on your potential in life.

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You won't get your peak potential living in pasts and futures,

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if they're not balanced, if there's distorted.

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And that's the problem with the amygdala, the amygdala is designed

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as a survival mechanism to distort reality and create overgeneralizations

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and distortions.

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I've had people in the Breakthrough Experience on many occasions,

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week after week, this last weekend too, where

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they've taken something and made something all good,

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that they once had and now they've lost it,

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and now they're depressed and they're, you know, suicidally depressed.

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So they've exaggerated this, which then exaggerates how bad their life was.

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So if I go in there and take this thing and I show them the downsides of the way

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it was and show them the upsides the way it is and balance it

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out, they're fine, they're centered.

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And their creative executive center comes online. And all of a sudden they see

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things on the way, not in the way.There's studies done,

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where when people actually are doing something that's truly inspiring

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to them, they don't see challenge, they see feedback.

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Failure is an amygdala response. Feedback is an executive center response.

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So people that see whatever happens to them as feedback,

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if you get cocky and you feel

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you're elated about the opportunities and you feel proud of what you're doing,

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that de-purposes you and lowers your priority list.

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If all of a sudden you feel like you're down and you feel like you're fear that

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repurposes you and puts you back on your purpose list,

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your highest priority list. Those are two mechanisms to get you centered,

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to not exaggerate, minimize yourself.

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And the same mechanisms are going on in your psychology when you're imagining

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these fantasies and feeling now nightmares. All of

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that you're choosing to make, it has nothing to do with the world outside you,

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it has everything to do with your decision of how you perceive it.

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Take command of your decision and ask yourself and extract meaning out of it.

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Extracting the mean, the mean, if you have a stock market that goes up and down,

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it averages with all the ups and downs a mean. Well, turn that upright.

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If you're elated or depressed, that's the up and down of the market.

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If you can find the upside when it's up and find the downside,

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the negatives in the up,

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And you can find the ups in the down and you can find the mean in

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it, you extract meaning out of your experience.

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That's what extracting meaning is.

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It's found the golden mean as Aristotle mentioned.

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And if the person can do that, they master their life.

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In the Breakthrough Experience, I'm teaching people that.

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So they can be resilient, so they can be focused, so they can be prioritized,

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so they can be empowered people with a purpose in life.

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It has nothing to do with the world on the outside,

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it has everything to do with what we decide to do with it.

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I know I'm harping on that, but it's just,

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cause people want to be victims of history. Well,

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one thing you want to remember. The masses, and I say the masses.

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Masses are people, and that includes me in moments.

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The masses are people who are living in the extrinsic world and the masters are

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the people that live on the intrinsic world. What does that mean?

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The ones that are masses, they basically blame things on the outside,

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look for solutions on the outside. They're externally oriented.

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Because they'll blamedthe virus and then they'll look for the hero doctor,

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the vaccine or something. But the master's the one that goes okay,

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if only 2%

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of the people are getting dying from this thing and really getting sick from

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this thing, that means there must not be the virus,

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it must be something to do with our immunity and something to do with our own

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power inside.

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And they're the ones that go inside and maximize their full potential and make

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sure that they're living by eustress, not distress,

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making sure they're wisely eating and using that as a stimulus to live wisely.

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And the wise individuals, the masters of life, they don't live extrinsically,

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you know, blaming this and looking for a major solution outside.

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It's not external oriented. The masses do that. They blame the devil.

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They look for a savior. They blame this, the hell and I think for about heaven,

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they live in a polarized fantasy world instead of get grounded and

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face the hero and villain out there is actually them.

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When you can embrace your hero and villain, you've mastered your life.

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But as long as you're looking externally, that it's all out there,

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that my problems are out there and my solutions are out there,

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you're going to end up exaggerating the problem and then paying money for

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solutions that aren't really the solutions.

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It's all about you mastering yourself. And that's the difference.

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And we have moments of mastery and have moments of illusion many times,

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but the moments of mastery is what catalyzes evolution and the moments of the

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illusion is what keeps us in revolution,

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keeps us stuck in a revolving door, our hamster wheel.

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Cause we just keep running the story that this stuff is out there that cause,

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all that energy being victim of history and running that story is absolutely the

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most inefficient use of your energy.

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Solution orientation and bringing yourself meaning and getting back in

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inspiration and using reality to get you forward is the thing that works.

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And Dr. Demartini you mentioned a bit about voids.

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So can you please explain what voids are and how do we use that to validate our

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values?

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Okay, well

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let's say that you grew up

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where your father or mother left at a very young age.

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Your mother died when you were six or so.

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And you then were taken on by your father and taken

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on by maybe his sister and maybe your

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grandmother. And they started taking out the mother's role.

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They took it on and you stepped up and took on a lot more accountability because

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you had to,

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your dad took on a little bit more feminine roles or

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and your grandmother stepped in. And so,

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but you end up having, you know,

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emotional irritations because you were infatuated with your mother and dependent

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on her, and as a result of it this now becomes a nightmare.

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Because you lost that which you infatuated with, that you depended on.

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Anything you depend on and infatuate with, you're going to feel the loss of,

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and if it leaves, you're going to feel grief. Now,

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grief has nothing to do with anything other than your attachment to that

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individual that you lost. Cause if you resented somebody and they leave,

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you don't feel grief, you feel relief.

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So it's your perception that leads to your grief.

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Now let's say that your parents don't know the Demartini Method and haven't been

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to the Breakthrough Experience.

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And so they see you are distraught by mommy's leaving and they feel guilty that

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they can't do anything about it, so they take you to shrink and

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the shrink then says, well, the reason you're you're screwed up is because your

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mommy left you and you're an abandoned child and here's the stats.

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And so you now get programmed this bullshit,

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that that's the reason why your problem is there. It's all externally happened.

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There's nothing you can do about it. Nothing to do with you,

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you're an innocent little child, little innocent victim.

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And it had something to do with that event. Well,

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you just fucked up your life there.

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You just basically gave this power away and blame this situation for how you

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feel. And it has nothing to do with that situation.

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But let's say that somebody comes along like myself and says, 'okay,

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at the moment your mommy died

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who became taking on all the roles of mommy?

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What did you miss about mommy first of all, who took on the roles?

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And then we identify quantitatively,

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everybody that took on all the roles and so nothing was not accounted for.

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You took on mom, grandma took some, dad took on,

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sister took something on and your teacher at school took some of it on.

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And then you realize, Oh, I didn't miss anything. There was no void there.

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It was in another form, but I still fantasize my mommy was a better form.

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So then I come along and I go,

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'what would have been the drawback if your mommy had done it?

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What were the drawbacks when your mommy did it?' 'Oh yeah.

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She tried to control me. I couldn't do this.' And you find the drawbacks, mommy.

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'Now what's the benefit to these new people taking it on?' Once the benefits of

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the new people taking on and the drawbacks are the old mama,

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the fantasy that you had about your mama is brought back and got grounded in

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reality, because you realize that there's benefits and drawbacks to all those.

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Once you end up doing that it's level and all of a sudden the entire story,

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the illusion that there's a void that there's something missing is gone.

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I didn't miss a mom. I had a transforming mom. And then when I

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grew up and moved out of the house, I had another form of a mom.

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And all my life I've had different players playing in a matrix of moms and

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nothing's ever been missing.

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The individual that realizes that nothing is ever missing is a liberated

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individual that's free to dance through life.

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But the individual that's basically, here's what it's supposed to look like,

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it's not there. I'm now holding

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onto my past with a fantasy instead of facing my current reality,

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looking at the magnificence of the current reality,

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I'm now going in there and I'm now thinking, 'Oh, I miss a mom.

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I missed out and I'm screwed up. And my therapist really got me thinking, well,

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that's the reason I've got all these

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problems in my life.' I would stay away from people that teach you things like

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that, because they're ignorant. They don't know how life works.

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It's a magnificent transformation going on all the time.

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So if you all of a sudden do it, and you grow up throughout your life. 'Oh,

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I missed mom. I have a void a mom.' Now what you're going to do,

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you're going to end up probably finding some guy to have a baby with.

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And you're now going to smother your child because, 'Oh my God,

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I would never want to leave my kids.' And everything you try to avoid,

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you run into,

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and everything you seek fantasy of you attract things to break that fantasy.

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So then you try to do it and then all of a sudden, 20 years later,

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30 years later, you realize, Oh my God,

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I'm now in a relationship that's unfulfilling and I

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have to have custody fights and my husband gets the kids and now I've abandoned

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my kids. And then you realize that you're here to,

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that's all designed to help you make sure you love your mom and realize the form

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that's there, not sit there and hold onto the fantasies.

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Nature won't let you escape what you've you've been deluded about.

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It's going to force you to face your stuff.

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So that was an artificial void based on not knowing how to ask the right

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questions to see it and left you with a judgment that was stored in your

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subconscious mind, that's now impacting your life whether you see it or not.

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And your subconscious mind stores all lopsided perceptions like that,

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anything that you saw,

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you're conscious of the upsides and unconscious of the downsides or anything

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you're conscious of downsides and unconscious of the upsides to,

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is going to be stored in there and it's going to create a void. Why?

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Cause if you infatuate with something you're too humble to admit what you see in

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them is inside you. You think it's external,

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that you're infatuated with and you're disowning that part in you.

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And that's a void.

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And if you're too proud and looking down on somebody and resenting somebody,

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you're too proud to admit what you see in them is inside you, and that's a void.

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And those voids want to be fulfilled until you own all of those parts and

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realize nothing's missing in you.

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And those determine your values and your highest value is the most

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effective and efficient pathway to neutralize that because it's the one

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that gives you the most objectivity, which allows you not to judge,

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allows you to see things more neutral,

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where you don't fear the loss of it or fear the gain of it.

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And so you transcend the illusions of philias and phobias,

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seekings and avoidings,

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which are the impulses and instincts of the amygdala and lower animal mind.

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You liberate yourself with moksha and liberation and satori and

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nirvana, or you want to call it,

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because you have the capacity to transcend those conscious blocks.

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And when you do, you have,

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your highest value is one of the most significant things.

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It's the accessing gateway to the transcendental awareness,

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where you see things neither good nor evil.

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And so you don't have the fear of loss of that which is good,

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and fear of gain of that which is evil because the entire moral construct that

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you're hypocritically trapped in is in delusion.

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Because if you try to get a one-sided magnet,

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try to get rid of the other side of the magnet, it's futile.

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The same thing with these cockamamie moral constructs that ignorant people

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impose on people as an exploitation of people that are living in that animal

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behavior, trap people in these things, which we call limiting beliefs.

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I'm just warming up.

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It sounds like you're just getting warmed up. And Dr. Demartini, what do we do,

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especially during these times,

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we're going to get presented with a lot of opportunities in terms of business

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and changing in business,

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but these opportunities is not congruent with our values as such,

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how do you think we should we look at that?

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It depends on the opportunity. I had a client this week.

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Well, it's been over the last two weeks, really.

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They had a great opportunity to make quite a bit of money,

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but it's doing something that could jeopardize their brand in the future.

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So they asked me, what do you think? Cause it's really substantial bit of money.

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They want to be involved in an advertisement, a

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And it's significant, large sums of money. And I

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said, well, let's take a look. And at first,

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they were enamored and blinded by the sum of money because right now they could

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use the sum of money. But then I said, well, right now,

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write all the benefits down. Had them write all the benefits down. And

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hen I said, now

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you need to come up with the same amount of drawbacks because life doesn't have

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one sidedness. So what are the drawbacks? When

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we actually started seeing the drawbacks,

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they realized that their infatuation with the money blinded them for what the

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consequences of who they were going to business with. So then when

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they started to see some of the downsides,

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they started doing further research on the internet and they found out that two

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of the people in the organization are criminals.

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That con people. And they caught that. And they go,

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I can't believe I would've missed that.

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And gone into this system and then been associated with it would probably create

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a fiasco and long term it would undermine my brand,

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because these individuals over here had been conning people and here's

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the next con that they're doing. They're taking advantage of people right now,

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with a con. And they

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didn't even have in the contract originally that

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upfront. So they were about to be conned. And it was, it was pretty interesting.

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So that one exercise of finding out what, all the benefits that you see,

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and then what's the downside. If you see way more benefits than drawbacks,

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you're blinded by some infatuation.

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Most everybody here has had a situation where

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they've run into a man or a woman or a woman, woman,

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or a man man or whatever

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we call it today because it could be anything and in-between and you're in a

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relationship and you you're infatuated with them and you don't see the downsides

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at first, you got a fatal attraction,

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kind of like Michael Douglas and Glenn Close.

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And at first you blind and then you get in

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and then you find out you've just destroyed your house,

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your marriage and everything else over this crazy person.

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So you didn't see it because you didn't look,

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you allowed your amygdala to skew things, to exaggerate the positives,

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to blind you to the negatives, to have a confirmation bias on the positives,

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a disconfirmation bias on the negatives,

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to have a false positive on the positives and a false negative on the negatives,

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and skew it out of proportion and then you blind yourself and then you make a

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decision.

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That's why making decisions out of the amygdala is almost guaranteed to get you

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smacked.

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But making decisions out of seeing both sides objectively makes you aware and

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have foresight. So if you get an opportunity,

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the first thing to do is to go and balance it. Cause the second you balance, it,

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it gets linked to your highest value cause your highest value is where

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everything is objective. So go and link it and balance it first.

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When you do, you will discover something,

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you'll discover that anything that you oversighted that was the downsides you

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became aware of, and you went, Oh shit, at least. And then you can

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look at that and you go,

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if I can handle all those downsides and I'm prepared for that and I can mitigate

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those and I can use those to my advantage,

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then I can move forward on the project.

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I'm fully aware of what I'm about to get into.

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The thing that makes us different than the animals is that we have the ability

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to extract meaning,

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bring things back into the mean and to be able to have foresight and

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to have, the animals have what they call teleonomics. They learn by

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trial and error, tinkering with things.

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Even Darwinian evolution has got problems, it's not a complete theory,

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by any means. In fact, it's got lots of flaws in it,

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cause it makes you assume that an animal survives and the one that survives

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continues and the one that doesn't, doesn't.

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But they've shown in in Chernobyl for instance, recently,

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they found out that animals and plants around the nuclear power plant within

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three generations, they had

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adaptations and now they're thriving and they're actually doing more thriving

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compared to the other animals and plants that

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didn't get all that radiation and they figured out that it's actually,

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there's a hormetic system that the challenge has actually upgraded them and

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they're now more resilient and there's an evolutionary process there that makes

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them more efficient for surviving the future. So they now realize that,

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wait a minute,

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that couldn't possibly be Darwinian evolution because Darwin evolution would

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have to take multiple generations to get that done.

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This happened in less than three generations.

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So now they know that there's epigenetic responses and there's some sort of

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homeostatic mechanism, a teleological foresight mechanism partly sitting there.

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Now humans really have that accentuated. It's not incipient.

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It's really accentuated.

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And we have the capacity to look with our mind, not imagination future,

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but actually go into our mind and see all the reactions and possible

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things that could occur and plan through those and mitigate anything that we

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think is going to be a hindrance to our life and come up with a strategy.

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And people who are strategically

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planning are the ones that accomplish the greatest achievements.

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You can't make it to the Mars with Elon Musk space X,

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unless you're doing planning,

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you can't make and build a massive structure without planning.

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You can't accomplish anything of magnitude without planning.

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And it's the people that have foresight. Alec MacKenzie,

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in The Time Trap show that the people at the forefront,

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the people that are leaders, the people that are at the things are functioning

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from their executive center and spending more of their time

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in vision and planning than the people who are just reacting.

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And the majority of people are just, they don't go anywhere

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In life because they just keep redundantly doing the same things,

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expecting different results and having to have cataclysmic change.

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In evolutionary theory we have what they call gradual hypothesis and cataclysmic

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hypothesis.

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And cataclysmic hypothesis is people that live by their lower values,

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rigidly polarize things, get attached to things and detached from things.

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Inftuate, resent,

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have high emotional states and then fear the loss of one and fear the gain of

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the other. And then it takes a cataclysm to finally get them to change.

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That's called hitting bottom in addiction.

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And the people that have gradual changes are constantly doing micro changes as

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Jim Collins says,

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that's the tinkering that keeps adapting and making micro changes to keep

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adapting. Right now,

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this is the perfect time to be doing micro changes and actually doing it because

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if you're holding onto the past and fantasies or future

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grounded right now, you're going to end up seeing this as a cataclysm.

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It's not a cataclysm, it's an opportunity.

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And Dr. Demartini that's beautiful, leads me into the next question.

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Let's say we're busy with the planning and we find out the market that we are

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interested in going into is a bit saturated, for example,

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coaching and online teaching and everybody's getting

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where the opportunity is. How do we get around that?

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Well, this is what differentiates people who are serious vs somebody who's just

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stepping in there and thinking, Oh, I better grab this.

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The people who are going to be doing well in any field are the

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people who have extremely high value on doing it and mastering it

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and doing it in a way that's fair to make a difference in people's lives.

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So if you sincerely find a niche that you're truly most inspired by that you

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know is a need out there and you target that,

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you'll be the one that rides and thrives.

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Just because thousands of people are doing coaching doesn't mean that

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everybody's going to do well. The people who are going to do well,

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the ones that are going to deliver the service.

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And they're goig to do it more effectively.

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So if you don't even believe that you can do it effectively,

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it's because you're comparing yourself to others instead of comparing your daily

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actions to your own highest values and what the needs of the highest values of

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your clients are.

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If you focus on the highest values of yourself and the highest values of your

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clients and stick to those, you will be the one that succeeds in that endeavor.

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You know, if you're trying to be second at being Elvis,

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you're not going to be first at being you.

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When I got asked to on a

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Vogue magazine interview one time, I had 17 questions that they asked me,

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it was a lovely young girl that was asking me these questions.

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And I think she was probably late twenties or something, a bit naive, I think.

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But she said, 'Well, Dr Demartini, the very last question says,

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if there's anybody in the world that you could be, who would you want to be?'

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And I looked at her and I thought, what a weird question. And I said, 'Well,

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ma'am, I have no desire to be anybody, but me.

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Why would I want to be anybody but me?' And she goes, 'Really?' Oh,

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people usually say, I want to be at the Kardashians,

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or I want to be this.' Why would I want to be somebody other than me? Because

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I can be my magnificent me, but I can't be second at being somebody else.

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And the thing is,

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I was in Tennessee, Nashville, Tennessee,

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and I was getting ready to do a Breakthrough Experience there.

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And the lady that was hosting me had a husband who was a PhD in

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psychology, very sharp guy. And

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I asked him what his PhD was on, he said it was on William James.

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I said 'So you did a PhD on William James?' 'Yeah.' He said,

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'I took a tiny portion

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of William James life and his teachings and I created

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my PhD around that one niche, that one of little topic.' I said,

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'So you basically spent

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additional four years studying one man's tiny portion of one man's life?' He

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goes, 'Yes.' 'Isn't it interesting. You got

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a PhD and people will look up to you with a PhD because you studied a tiny

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portion of one man's life.

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And yet people have a whole life that may not have been studied,

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but they have a whole life. And they somehow think that you're more ingenious

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because you have a PhD than they do in their life?' It's kind of irrational.

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We all have multiple PhDs in different aspects of our life. But if we

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compare what we're wanting to learn with somebody else's values and then not

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honoring what we know,

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we're going to think ourselves as idiots compared to them. As Einstein said,

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a cat, right, that expects to swim like a fish, is going to beat itself up.

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And a fish expects to climb like a cat is going to beat itself up.

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But a cat honoring its cat hood is going to do quite great in the cat industry.

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So, you got to

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find the industry that's truly inspiring to you that you can't wait to do.

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Don't try to go down a path of coaching on something you don't spontaneously

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love doing on a daily basis or you won't have the resilience and adaptability

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because it won't be your highest value. And the second you do,

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you'll be highly volatile in the market and want to blame things and want to

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give excuses. You'll procrastinate, hesitate and frustrate on those areas.

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If you're going to go into coaching and everything else,

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then find the niche that you can't wait to get up in the morning

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and do that people can't wait to get. And you got to care

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enough about the people to find out what their needs are to meet those needs.

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If you don't do that, you're not going to thrive in that business. And yes,

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there is a lot of business out there right now. And almost everybody,

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no matter what the situation has something that they have,

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that they have a need in. There's always a new need.

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If Bezos added a hundred thousand people to his business, Amazon right now,

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during the coronavirus, he obviously is meeting people's needs.

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He hired a hundred thousand people. That's the biggest hiring spree he ever had.

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So why is it that this man is thriving during this,

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is because of foresight and because everybody needs right now,

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online distribution, online purchases, online deliveries.

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So here's a guy that was at the cutting edge doing it.

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So what would happen if you came up with online coaching, online

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this and online deliveries, and who knows.

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But if you meet people's needs and you help them solve their problems,

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they'll be there. I don't know, I think we have 5,000 something,

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500 people or something on this thing today. If they're on there,

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there must be meeting some sort of need.

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Something I'm saying must be a value or they wouldn't want to take up their hour

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of their time to come on this line.

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So I have the responsibility to give you something of value. If I don't do it,

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you're not going to come back to me. You're going to go on to somebody else.

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And my job, my accountability,

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is to keep studying and keep learning and keep growing and keep delivering some

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sort of value. If I'm going to be a coach or teacher, that's my responsibility.

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You got to own that responsibility. And you got to be the master of it.

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You gotta go out there and put more into it than the guy next door.

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And if you do that, by the way, every relationship you have,

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whether it be a spouse, a kid, believe it or not, even your kids will leave you,

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a spouse, a kid, a client, or whatever, they're only going to stay with you,

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your own security has nothing to do with them,

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your security has everything to do with you meeting their needs. That's it. Now,

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if you can do that more effective than somebody else, you get the business.

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There's no escape from that. There's no shortcuts. There's just reality.

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So go and become the greatest at what you do, ask yourself, as Colin said,

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'What is it that I can be the greatest at?

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What is it that I would love to be the greatest step?

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What is it that I'm actually demonstrating the evidence that I'm moving towards

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that greatest at?

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And what can I do that will serve people with that greatest at?

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Thanks for that, Dr. Demartini and the next one is you know,

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what is the signs we can look out for if you are subordinating to somebody

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else's values or injecting somebody else's values into our lives?

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Just like on the Breakthrough Experience this weekend, we got to see it live.

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One of the signs that you've injected a value is you'll hear yourself inside

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your head or externally verbalized, you say,

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'I really should be doing this. I'm supposed to be doing this,

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but I don't seem to be doing it. I don't know why,

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but I just can't stay focused. I'm just not disciplined.

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I know I ought to be doing more of this, but I don't do it.

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I need to do this, but I just don't seem to get around to doing it.

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I gotta do this. I just gotta, I gotta change this. Got to, have to, must,

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need to, should, ought to, supposed to,

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are imperative languages that are injected values to people you subordinate

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to. And whenever you hear that,

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you hear this in religious people that are subordinating

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to dogma and irrational crap that's being taught them.

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You see this in political people,

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anybody that's stuck in moral constructs are going to be trapped in it.

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So that's a sign of trying to fit in to a mother, father, preacher, teacher,

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or some social group at some scale of society and not actually

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digging inside and finding out what you're inspired to do.

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I'm going to make a statement here that maybe shock some of you. I dunno.

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There are no rules out there other than the universal laws.

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There's just rules that people come up with to protect themselves from their own

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fears. Now think about this. Let's

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say I have a, there's a daughter,

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and let's say that daughter comes to me and says, 'daddy, daddy, daddy,

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I got on the honor roll this this month. And I've got to be prom queen.

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And I got to be voted as the student body president.

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And I just found out I got a scholarship to Harvard

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and I've been saving my money like you taught me.

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And I've now saved a certain amount of money.

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And I want to pay for my own school. And with the scholarship,

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I'm going to earn it my way. And by the way, I'm dating the most popular boy.

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And he looks just like you daddy.' And all of a sudden,

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she says things that really support your values. 'And daddy,

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is there any way I could borrow the car tonight?'

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When things support your values, you lacks the rules and you go, 'Sure.

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I'm proud of you.' By the way, anytime a parent's proud of a child,

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it's nothing to do with the child's action, because

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pride is what you think you did to lead to them doing it.

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So what happens is if you're proud of your child,

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that means that you're basically taking credit for their action and it matches

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your values. And you're actually thinking you made it happen,

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which is a delusion.

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So pride is automatically going to set you up for an illusion.

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They're going to end up humbling you.

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Then you're going to blame yourself for that same opposite behavior.

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But what happens if your daughter comes to you and says, 'daddy, daddy, daddy,

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I'm pregnant.

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And I don't know who the father was because I went

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20 men. And I don't know what it is.

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And by the time we were doing drugs and when I bought the drugs,

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I stole your credit card and the police are looking for your credit card and

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they may come take you. I don't know,

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they may blame you because I'm still under age. And anyway, when I did it,

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I stored it at the house. And I think they're on their way to the house,

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they may be searching the house.' And then she does a bunch of stuff.

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'And by the way, I dropped out of school and I owe a bunch of people money,

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and they're drug dealers.

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And I think they're going to come and try to get it and steal from the house.

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And daddy, can I borrow the car to leave the country?'

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Well, now all of a sudden, if his s values is challenged,

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he's going to tax those rules and put all the rigid autocratic behaviors in

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there. Cause whenever we end up with our values really challenged,

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we get autocratic. When our values are really supportive, we lax the rules,

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when our values are really challenged, we tax rules.

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Society has a set of rules and whoever has power in

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society sets them. And whoever has the least power in society,

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doodly follows them.

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And anybody down below who tries to interfere with the rules above is going to

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be squashed with automatic autocratic behaviors. Now,

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the fear of what's going to happen to that makes us subordinate.

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In the process of doing, we want to fit in like the sheep.

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Cause we're afraid to stand up against all the authority.

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And people that really like conspiracy theories that like to think and

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exaggerate authority and minimize their power are vulnerable to this. So

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the second you actually go in there and you realize that you're subordinating to

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that. You're going to go, 'I should be doing this. I need to be doing this.

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I gotta be doing this because otherwise I'm going to be rejected or I'm going to

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have consequences.' But really whoever has the power sets the rules.

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And if you empower yourself, you get to set them.

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And there's no boundaries on what those are. There's no ultimate rules.

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You know, in some countries, in South Africa,

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you have countries where that the president had nine

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you go to prison for that. It's called bigamy or polygamy.

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So you're not allowed to do it. So one place it's considered power

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and influence. And you've got a leader that way. Here you don't.

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And some countries you're allowed to do certain things.

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Other countries you're not.

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So the rules are not necessarily rules of the universe,

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unless they're universal laws. Those are the only ones that we all submit to.

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That's why I teach those in my Breakthrough programs and all my programs.

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I want you to know what are actual laws that nobody violates,

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instead of all subordination,

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all the little rules that just happened to be there. And as a result of that,

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we end up subordinating because we don't actually confront things.

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Albert Einstein, when he was about 18,

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19 years old was in a class with Philipp Lenard,

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who was a professor who was a Nobel prize winner at the time and was the

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authority. He had done the photoelectric effect.

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And he was the authority in the world.

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And Einstein found a flaw in his work and pointed it out in the

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class, in front of the whole class, which was

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absolutely not accepted at that time, because they're autocrats.

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This was in Germany and you just didn't do it. It was autocratic. And so he was

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chastised for that by the teacher.

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And the teacher spent many years trying to destroy Albert Einstein and he didn't

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get one of his Nobel prizes because of it.

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And he even was friends with Hitler and he basically went after and tried to get

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Hitler to assassinate Einstein. It's a very fascinating story.

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But Einstein stood up and he had the courage to stand up against the authority

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and say, 'Wait a minute now, I'm dedicated to truth.

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What you're saying is flawed. I'm going to stand. If you want to kill me,

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eventually it's going to be found out.

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And you're going to look foolish because you'd kill the person

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who had the true answer. So go ahead. And he says, and if for some reason, God's

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laws don't match the one I found,

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I feel sorry for God.' That's how confident he was because he really did his

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homework on it. The mathematics made sense.

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It turned out that he was accurate. He later got his Nobel prize for it.

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But it was suppressed for many years, and because of one guy. But the question

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is, do you have the courage to stand out?

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Do you have the courage to be an unborrowed visionary?

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Do you have the courage to get ridiculed,

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violently opposed and chastised by the herd by coming up with something

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new? And if you do, you're going to stand up.

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You're going to be the one that's going to get the corner of the market because

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eventually the new paradigm is born.

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I'm creating a new model out there in psychology.

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I'm building up a culture of people around the world that are now using it.

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Eventually those numbers are going to get pretty significant. And as a result,

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people are going to eventually go, 'Hey,

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this is a more efficient way than half the crap that's out there.' So,

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but I get ridiculed by the psychologists. Sure. That's part of the game.

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If you're not being crucified, you're probably not on purpose.

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And as Emerson said, to be great is to be misunderstood.

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So you've got to give yourself question.

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What's really the model I want to live my life by?

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You can create the model of your life, how you want it.

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There's no rules out there saying you have to do this or have to do that except

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the ones you buy into. You subordinate to them,

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you're stuck in the rules that you did otherwise you can create them,

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but just know that if you don't have the power to override those that have

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power, you're probably going to deal with resistance,

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but that's part of the game.

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So if you have something you're certain about and you want to get it out there,

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endure the resistance, the average leader that made a difference in the world,

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the polymath that did it, was usually 30 to 60 years of enduring that.

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And when they come out ahead, they changed history.

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You decide where you want to play in the game.

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You want to be part of a culture that's traditional and stagnant

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and keep the old way? Or do you want to be part of the solution for the future?

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It's up to you.

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Thanks for that Dr Demartini, and we come to our last question.

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Can you please explain the role that gratitude plays

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on opportunities that is in the marketplace and not to be swayed by other

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people's opinions?

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Well the majority of people are not going to live by their executive

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center. Not everybody's a Nobel prize winner,

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not everybody's the spiritual leader of the planet.

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Not everybody gives themself permission. I love what Abraham Maslow did.

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He had a group of 20 people in a room one time and he said, 'Okay,

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who here has plans to be the next president?

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Who's going to be the next spiritual leader?

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Who's going to be the next innovator in business?

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Who's going to be the next inventor?

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Who's going to be the next leader in sports?'

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And was trying to get them to ask the questions, instead of just assuming,

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'Well,

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that's for somebody else.' 'Why not me?' So when you

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start doing that, people started digging inside themselves and going,

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what is really the reason why I wouldn't give my self permission to do it? I

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think it's Marianne Williamson said, you know, are we here to shine or shrink?

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And most people shrink. So when they do,

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they're not going to be grateful for their life as much. Because basically,

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anytime you're not living by your highest values and walking your own unique

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path to make the great difference, because we all want to make a difference,

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we can't make a difference fitting in. If we don't take that path,

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we are automatically designed to beat ourselves up.

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One thing I'm certain about is that you will never escape criticism.

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And if you avoid it on the outside, you're going to live with it on the inside.

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And I'd rather have the whole world against me than my own soul.

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Because the criticism you have inside yourself is way more

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affecting you than the ones on the outside. That

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which circulates the most, it has the least value.

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I remember working with a lady in Calgary, Canada,

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who'd spent four years in a basement. Four years in a basement,

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a very large obese overeating woman, living in a basement,

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trying to protect herself from ridicule and criticism. So she refused to go out.

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And so the individuals there at the house asked me to come and try to work with

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her. It wasn't the most beautiful setting.

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It wasn't the most fragrant location to do work,

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but I went down there and I worked with her and I finally got a message across

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to her. And I had to go through and help her realize that,

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go to a moment when she was criticized and I showed her where she was praised,

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and that was an eye-opener to her.

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And then I showed her when every time she'd been criticized,

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if she tried to avoid it, she ended up doing it to herself.

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So now she's living with total internal self depreciation, sitting in there,

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hiding away from people for fear of criticism.

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You're not going to avoid criticism.

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You might as well go and get criticized from the outside world,

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instead of living with it inside,

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because anytime you're doing something that's high on your value and you get

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criticism for standing out, you're inspired by what you do,

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and you are able to have resilience,

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but anytime you're doing lower priority things by fitting in,

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your own self depreciation will be there 24 hours a day.

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And the little minor little micro bullies on the outside are actually your

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friends trying to get you out of that prison and get you out into something that

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inspires you. So you're not going to get away from it.

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And the people that finally realize that are the ones that are grateful for

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their lives, they have much to be grateful for,

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but people that have a fantasy of trying to get rid of the half of a magnet,

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the negative part of the magnet,

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and try to get only the positive pole of a magnet,

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those are the people the most ungrateful people. I gave up happiness,

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it made too sad, the joy of depression, I call it.

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Because people are addicted to happiness and always wanting peace and kind,

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one sided realities are the most depressed people that I've

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seen. The people that can embrace both sides of life are the ones that are most

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grateful, when you're grateful for what you got,

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you get more to be grateful for. That's why living by your highest values,

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where you're most resilient and objective,

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where you embrace both sides and you can be grateful because you're doing what

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you love and you're basically living by priority and having discipline,

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reliability and focus and waking up leadership.

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These are the people that have the most gratitude in life and achieve more

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because gratitude is another name for appreciation and you appreciate in value

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in the marketplace.

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Thank you very much for that, Dr. Demartini, we really appreciate your time.

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And for those of you, that's joining us on this live time.

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We have put together a phenomenal bundle for you.

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That's called the Demartini Clarity Bundle.

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So it helps you to get more clear on your values and how to use your values and

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to go forward with your values.

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Dr. Demartini can you just quickly walk us through what we have put together

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here. What you're seeing on your screen now is the bundle there,

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it's how to change your values,

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can you please just quickly walk us through that Dr. Demartini.

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Well, I'm going to start with the middle one there.

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The one is the Manifestation Formula. I'm really inspired by that.

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There's a new movie that's coming out this week called 'How Thoughts Become

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Things' and it's the sequel to The Secret. It's got some of the same people,

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including myself in it. And it's an upgrade from the secret.

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I think it's going to go well. And in there,

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there's a new book that's coming with it,

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which I created a whole chapter 20 page chapter,

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25 page chapter on the manifestation and what this is,

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is the step-by-step process on how to take an idea that

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inspires you and to actually put it through steps,

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to come out with a result that you want.

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So it's a manifestation formula that I've been using since I was 17,

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18 years old. Paul Bragg introduced me to the principles.

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I turned it into a formula and I've been using it ever since.

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Same thing I've been using all these years to create what I wanted in life.

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The second one. If you pull that back up,

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the second one on the left is how to change values. Now,

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in your life you may come across, you may be 30, 40, 50 years old,

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and all of a sudden, you're at a point where you go, you know what?

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I realize that I don't have a value on wealth building and no

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matter what I do, I can't seem to get ahead financially.

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And I'm always trying to get shortcuts because of it.

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And I'm not mastering money. And I'm working as a slave for money all my life.

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And I can't seem to get ahead. And no matter what I do,

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there's always some emergency that robs it. And it's frustrating.

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I'm beating myself up about it. So in there,

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I show people how to shift values because your values are shifting

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gradually or cataclysmically, but you can do it consciously.

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Now only reason I would ask people to do that is if they realize at a certain

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stage in their life,

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that the path that their values are taking them is going to not include certain

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aspects of their life.

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So if the person would like to incorporate wealth building for the first time in

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their life, so they can start getting ahead and have money work for them,

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instead of them working for it, I can show you how to change the value system.

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Or believe it or not, there's a whole lot of people, a lot of mainly women,

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but it could be men too, but I find it mostly women that come to me and said,

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'No matter what I do, I can't get a relationship. I can't get a relationship.

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I can't get a relationship.' And they don't realize that unconsciously they're

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manifesting their result and diversifying what they're looking for in a

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relationship,

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in a variety of men because of their values and because of the wounds of the

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past. So I can show you how to clear the wounds as I teach in the Breakthrough

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Experience.

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And I can also show you how to change the values so you increase the probability

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of manifesting the man.

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Cause it is not a lack of men out there or lack of women out there.

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It's simply you unconsciously making sure you don't see him and get him.

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And if you don't believe me, do the process, you'll blow your mind,

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what you can do with it.

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And the other one is the Application of Values for Achievement.

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Now that one is basically on how to empower all seven areas of your life

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by linking the action steps that are proven to help you empower those.

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And they're in this packet,

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I go through there and talk about how to empower your mind and wake up your

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genius and how to absorb and learn and retain information.

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I talk about how to become more fully engaged in the work that you're doing.

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I show you how to basically how to shift the values and how to engage yourself

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so you can actually make money and keep money and how to communicate more

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effectively in relationships and how to wake up your leader and how to balance

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out your physiology so you're not creating symptoms to have to get you to and

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how to be inspired in there. All based on values, very practical,

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very simple exercises and things you can immediately start doing that can make a

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difference in those seven areas.

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So all of those are a little packet to try to help you

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in manifesting what you want in life in the seven areas. And so yeah,

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that's that little clarity bundle.

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It helps you increase the probability of getting what you say you want.

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And if you're not clear about it, it helps you clarify it.

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Cause it's going to help you get clear about what the values are.

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And anytime you try to set a goal, that's not aligned with your highest values,

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you're designed to have uncertainty, waffling, hesitation,

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procrastination, frustration, you're designed to. There's

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You're just not clear about what it is you want. And many people,

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whoever has the clearest vision rules,

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those with a vision, flourish. Those without a vision perish.

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If you're not clear about your vision in life, time to get clear,

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this will help you.

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Thank you for that, Dr. Demartini.

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It's five hours that you get to spend with Dr. Demartini,

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products, How to Change your Values, Manifestation Formula,

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and the Application of Values for Achievement. Thank you for your time,

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Dr. Demartini. Have you got any last comments or any last words for us?

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Yeah. My students who have been listening over the years,

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I've received,

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I believe now 1700 upsides to the

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coronavirus.

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And the ones that took the time to write down the benefits of what's

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happening in the current reality have written me thank you letters for the

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knowledge of how to do that,

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the purpose of why to do that and creative insights on

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how they can use this time to their greatest advantage.

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Please take the time to do that because it pays off.

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You got to invest in your own mastery.

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Thank you. Thank you very much for that, Dr. Demartini.

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We really appreciate your time and we will bring you again in a week or so

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time to come and join us again in this group.

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But thanks for everything that you're doing and thank you for the clarity and

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the certainty that you're giving to the world during this times.

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Okay. Thank you so much.

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Thank you everybody who's listening in or wherever you are, whatever time it is.

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Thank you for joining me and spending some time to me today and helping me

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fulfill my mission of doing what I'm doing. So thank you.

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Enjoy your week and go do something extraordinary.