Welcome to the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast.
Speaker AI'm Kate Moore Youssef and I'm a wellbeing and lifestyle coach, EFT practitioner, mum to four kids and passionate about helping more women to understand and accept their amazing ADHD brains.
Speaker AAfter speaking to many women just like me and probably you, I know there is a need for more health and lifestyle support for women newly diagnosed with adhd.
Speaker AIn these conversations, you'll learn from insightful guests, hear new findings and discover powerful perspectives and lifestyle tools to enable you to live your most fulfilled, calm and purposeful life wherever you are on your ADHD journey.
Speaker AHere's today's episode.
Speaker AI am today investigating some very interesting, dangerous, different options for helping our ADHD symptoms, pain points, challenges, and this is an option that doesn't involve medication.
Speaker AIt's called neurofeedback.
Speaker AI've not used it myself, but I am very interested to learn more, ask more questions.
Speaker AAnd I have with me Natalie Baker and she is a licensed mental health counselor.
Speaker AShe's a certified neurofeedback trainer with over 25 years of experience in private practice.
Speaker AAnd she's also the founder of neurofeedback training company.
Speaker AShe specializes in the Neuro Optimal system, which is a non invasive approach to help regulate brain function and improve mental health.
Speaker AAnd Natalie has also been a longtime advocate for neurofeedback as a powerful tool for managing adhd, anxiety and other mental health challenges.
Speaker AAnd in addition to her clinical work, she's a brain health and wellness coach dedicated to empowering individuals, especially women and mums, to enhance their well being through neurofeedback and mindfulness practices.
Speaker ANatalie, welcome to the podcast.
Speaker BThank you so much for having me on.
Speaker BI'm excited to speak with you.
Speaker AYeah, absolutely.
Speaker AI mean, I said just before that I'm not familiar with neurofeedback.
Speaker AI've not used it myself, but I have been hearing more and more about it and actually I'm very intrigued to ask the questions and learn more because if I'm intrigued, I know that a lot of my listeners will.
Speaker ACan you tell us a little bit more about what it is if people don't know if they've never experienced it before?
Speaker BYeah, absolutely.
Speaker BSo neurofeedback is an extension of biofeedback.
Speaker BSo biofeedback is using our conscious awareness and monitoring a certain variable such as our heart rate or skin temperature.
Speaker BAnd when that changes, we get a signal to do something to intervene to lower our stress response.
Speaker BIt might be that our heart rate goes up and we become aware and we take a deep breath and that lowers our heart rate.
Speaker BThat's biofeedback.
Speaker BAs computers have become faster and cheaper, we then have the opportunity to measure not things that are like heart rate and skin temperature.
Speaker BNow we can measure and give feedback about the electrical communication of the brain.
Speaker BThe brain communicates, it performs function through two vehicles.
Speaker BOne is chemicals, neurotransmitters, and the other is electricity.
Speaker BSo with neurofeedback, we're measuring the electrical activity of the brain and we're giving feedback, but it's not feedback to our conscious selves because we all know that when we try to consciously affect brain function, it doesn't work because so much of our brain function is unconscious, it's automatic.
Speaker BAnd so neurofeedback is giving feedback about the brain's decisions, but directly to the brain through audio or visual feedback.
Speaker BAnd I can go into more detail about like how is that possible?
Speaker BBut I'll just kind of give that basic answer and I'll say in mental health, which is my background as a psychotherapist, you know, when someone comes in with anxiety, depression, adhd, part of our challenge is how do we get that brain to stop doing those maladaptive patterns.
Speaker BSo anxiety and depression are the brain being stuck in the fight flight, freeze response chronically.
Speaker BAnd we as part of our goal, we want to interrupt that.
Speaker BWe want the brain to see that it's doing the wrong thing to problem solve in the present moment, right?
Speaker BUsing the punch it run from it energy, which is anxiety or the collapsed, freeze, powerless depressive response to face life's challenges.
Speaker BThat's not effective and it's very frustrating.
Speaker BAnd, and so I think it's important as a foundation for us to understand that that's the automatic functioning brain that is in a habitual pattern without having the opportunity to recognize it's doing the wrong strategy to problem solve.
Speaker AOkay, so what I'm understanding is that it's sort of breaking patterns.
Speaker AIt's helping to break patterns.
Speaker AI trained in neuro linguistic programming, which is kind of what you're saying there.
Speaker AYours is obviously a bit more sophisticated.
Speaker ABut when we understand that we can rewire our brain pathways is the neural programming, it's very powerful.
Speaker ASo we can do that with sort of repetition and questioning like thoughts and all of that.
Speaker ASo is that kind of what is happening when we're wearing the headset?
Speaker ABecause I've seen the pictures and we've got like the wires, you know, stuck in our head.
Speaker AIs this sort of like Next, next level version of neuro linguistic programming.
Speaker BYeah, that's a great adjunct therapy.
Speaker BAnd there's lots of ways that we try to like emdr, you know, eye movement desensitization training is another example of we're trying to get that automatic functioning brain to reset.
Speaker BAnd so neurofeedback is a more sophisticated version because we're giving that feedback directly to the limbic brain.
Speaker BSo that reptilian brain of ours, that's in charge of our survival.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BSo that's a part of the brain that works independent of our prefrontal cortex, which is our thoughtful decider self.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BSo when we have adhd, you see, if you do a brain scan, you see that the prefrontal cortex is not as active as that limbic brain is, which is the impulsive, the scanning brain, the wanting to stay in go mode brain.
Speaker BAnd so neurofeedback gives that brain the opportunity to reset out of those patterns.
Speaker BAnd it really is brain training.
Speaker BSo we're all conditioned through the western medical model to really think about things in terms of like a, a pill, quote, unquote, that is going to be the thing that solves our problems.
Speaker BAnd one of the things that has happened for me as a psychotherapist in bringing neurofeedback into my practice is to really think about brain health and mental health, cognitive health, as being a holistic issue.
Speaker BAnd so how do we support optimal brain function as opposed to thinking about it purely as I have X condition, what is the one thing that I need to do to get rid of that X condition?
Speaker BAnd that, in my experience, is not the most effective approach.
Speaker BIt's really to think about, well, what are all of the supports?
Speaker BAnd then let's start with one knowing that as we create a good foundation, we can add other things such as looking at diet and lifestyle, the neurofeedback training, if there's some therapy, intervention, that's also going to be a good support, you know, and really thinking about a holistic approach to our health as opposed to having an X condition.
Speaker BAnd then how do I get rid of those symptoms?
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker ASo my question is, someone comes to you and someone's presenting with anxiety overwhelm, they're presenting with maybe disorganization, memory, there's task switching, especially with, let's say, you know, hone in on women, parenting, working, perimenopause.
Speaker AWe've got this whole sort of cascading waterfall of symptoms that are sort of drowning us at the moment.
Speaker AAnd we need help for our brains because we're not just sort of sitting at home and looking after ourselves.
Speaker AWe've got family, we've got teams, we've got partners, we've got relationships.
Speaker AAnd sometimes, I'm going to say sometimes, most of my community who are discovering they've got ADHD in midlife are being derailed by perimenopause as well.
Speaker ACan neurofeedback help with this array of symptoms I've just explained?
Speaker BSo what I tend to do, because the system that I use is really a system that is focusing on working on the global issue as opposed to specific symptoms.
Speaker BIt's not so much like, is this classic adhd, is this anxiety, is this actually trauma that's untreated, is this perimenopause?
Speaker BThe system I use doesn't care what it's doing is.
Speaker BIt is showing the brain millisecond by millisecond what its choices are.
Speaker BSo that brain decides what to do with the information.
Speaker BSo let's use the stress response as the example here.
Speaker BSo the brain goes into a certain kind of electrical dance right before it performs a function and shifts.
Speaker BAnd so the system I use takes 256 data points per second, looking for that change, just to pause for a second on that 250 six data points per second.
Speaker BThat is how fast the brain is making decisions.
Speaker BMillisecond by millisecond, when the system picks up on that change, that shift.
Speaker BSo the, the system uses auditory feedback to give the cue to the brain to pay attention.
Speaker BSo just to give you the visual, so you have sensors attached to your head, nothing goes into the brain.
Speaker BIt's just taking the electrical data from your scalp, it's feeding it into an amplifier, a little amplifier that changes it into numbers that the computer can read, the software can read.
Speaker BAnd it's looking for the electrical dance that signifies the shift.
Speaker BAnd in that millisecond, it interrupts music.
Speaker BSo the reason that it uses auditory feedback is because the brain uses auditory as a way to detect change in the environment.
Speaker BBecause we can listen even when we're asleep.
Speaker BAgain, this is part of our survival brain.
Speaker BIt's always scanning the environment for change.
Speaker BIn the millisecond that your brain's going into a state change, the music stops and it's as if it cues that automatic brain to pay attention.
Speaker BWhat it's going to take in is what it was about to do.
Speaker BWhether that was a good habit or a bad habit doesn't matter.
Speaker BThen the brain will naturally compare it to the environmental needs.
Speaker BWhat are our needs internally and what are the external environmental needs.
Speaker BNow let's use hypervigilance as the example.
Speaker BThat's part of the stress response, that's part of our survival fight flight energy.
Speaker BSo if the brain gets cued and it pays attention and it recognizes, oh, I'm going into fight flight or I'm in fight flight, right?
Speaker BI'm in hypervigilance.
Speaker BAnd it also takes in the environment and goes, oh, I'm in a safe room.
Speaker BWhy am I going into hypervigilance when I'm in an environment that's non threatening?
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BThat stress response is supposed to be used as my strategy when there's immediate danger.
Speaker BAnd the brain defines immediate danger as in less than a minute I am going to receive bodily harm.
Speaker BAnd so I have to scan for the bear, so to speak, because it could be on me in a second.
Speaker BThat's when we need our hypervigilant energy.
Speaker BSo again, going back to the neurofeedback session.
Speaker BSo the brain sitting there gets the opportunity to see I'm in hyper vigilance, but I'm sitting quietly in a room, why am I doing my hypervigilance?
Speaker BSo the brain then will use that data to pivot in the moment to be in alignment with the here and now.
Speaker BThe here and now is I'm in a safe environment.
Speaker BSo now I'm going to switch into my parasympathetic rest and digest regulated self because that's a good use of my energy and it's appropriate for the here and now.
Speaker BSo that's what happens sort of moment by moment during a session session which lasts 33 minutes.
Speaker BBut there's actually a more profound process taking place which is over your series of neurofeedback sessions.
Speaker BThe brain is learning something.
Speaker BThis is actually a learning device which is the brain is learning all the good information to be efficient with my use of energy and effective in my decision making is in the present moment.
Speaker BSo now it's getting that positive reward from the training as well because it's like, wow, I'm functioning better.
Speaker BSo it's like, well, I'm going to use this strategy even when I'm not hooked up to the system.
Speaker BI'm going to come into the present moment, right?
Speaker BOh, I have work in front of me, I need my focusing brainwaves, I'm safe, I don't need to use my scattered scanning brain waves because I see it's safe and there's work in front of me.
Speaker BAnd so then that brain pivots to that Focusing ability.
Speaker BAnd so it's like learning a new language, you could say.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BSo when the brain has really done this practice and typically like three months of neurofeedback sessions, although every brain is different unfortunately, so we have to be very broad in our expectations.
Speaker BBut typically within about three months, that brain has learned to do this practice.
Speaker BAnd so people start to notice in hindsight that they responded differently or better yet, that they didn't react and they actually had the opportunity.
Speaker BOpportunity to be responsive.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BSo when we're out of that reactive mode.
Speaker BAnd this is one of the things I love.
Speaker BSo going back to your question of like a woman is presenting with all these different issues, she can't get the house organized, her spouse is disappointed in her because she's not quote, unquote, performing well in all of her tasks.
Speaker BAnd why not?
Speaker BYou said you were going to meet me at 8 and then you showed up at 8:30, you know, like, and, and then there's the perimenopausal issues.
Speaker BSo with the neurofeedback, when someone is presenting to me with all these issues, I start them with the neurofeedback because I say, let's see what your brain can accomplish with good information and how much reorganization can happen for first.
Speaker BAnd then if they're still presenting with scatteredness, I just, I go into flooded mode when there's more than three tasks ahead of me.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BAnd we've done two months of neurofeedback, I'm like, okay, now I put on my investigator's hat and I'm like, what else is going on in this internal system or external environment that I'm not seeing the changes that I would expect.
Speaker BAnd so that's usually when I recommend people go and do a good blood panel.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BAnd I don't know what the, what happens in the uk, but in the United States, if you really want a thorough blood panel, unfortunately it's an out of pocket expense.
Speaker BPart of it will get covered, but part of it won't.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker BBut that information becomes essential for looking at what might be going on as an organic issue.
Speaker BSo if you think about it like an apple falling, Right.
Speaker BYou'll release an apple, it's going to fall to the ground because of the principle of gravity.
Speaker BAnd so we would expect that brain to be able to downshift and be able to focus.
Speaker BAnd so if it can't, then there's something that's creating a shelf.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BAnd the apple is landing on the shelf and it's not able to fall to the ground.
Speaker BAnd sometimes it might also be trauma.
Speaker BSo what I see in people who are doing the neurofeedback and they're having emotional upheaval that's repeating itself and it has a certain content to it, then if it sounds like trauma content, that's when I'll encourage them to go and do some very specific trauma therapy around that issue of it might be not being safe in the world.
Speaker BAgain, there could be all sorts of contributors, but the neurofeedback creates a good foundation.
Speaker BAnd then if there are things that are still re arising, then we'll do some deeper examination as to what are those pieces specifically about.
Speaker AYeah, I'm really glad that you mentioned that because I was thinking about, you know, when you talk about the.
Speaker AWith the neurofeedback dealing with the electricity of the brain, we know that with the chemicals and dopamine with adhd, and then again, we know that estrogen plays a big part with dopamine.
Speaker ASo a lot of neurodivergent women suffer much worse with their menstrual cycles.
Speaker AThey're more likely to have pmdd, postnatal depression, they're more likely to have an earlier and a more difficult perimenopause.
Speaker ASo even though we can do all the rewiring of the brain, we know that sort of like chemically, there's still something off.
Speaker AI'm glad that you said that because it's.
Speaker ASome of it's so beyond our control.
Speaker AWe need that kind of like topping up of the hormones.
Speaker AHow does it work then?
Speaker AI'm very sort of practical and I need like simplification and I kind of think, right, so you get the headset in the post and then you have it, you plug it into a laptop or what?
Speaker AHow does it work?
Speaker AYou plug it into its own little machine.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BSo basically it's like a little computer bag.
Speaker BSo the, the hardware that the software is installed in is a surface tablet, just like, you know, like an iPad tablet type thing.
Speaker BAnd then there is the little amplifier.
Speaker BAnd attached to the little amplifier are the leads.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BSo those are the sensors.
Speaker BYou put conductive paste on them and, and you stick them on the head and you clip them to the ears.
Speaker BAnd then on the tablet you open the program and then you just double click that person's name to start a session.
Speaker BSuper easy.
Speaker BAnd then for 33 minutes they're sitting there.
Speaker BAnd with kids, you know, I always say, like, make it something they enjoy.
Speaker BSo, you know, whatever is enjoyable for them to do with their eyeballs like, for some kids, it's playing a game on a separate device with the sound off so they can hear the music of the neurofeedback system.
Speaker BOthers, like my daughter, when she was little, she would do Lego.
Speaker BThat was something she liked to do.
Speaker BAnd then for 33 minutes, the music's playing, the interruptions are happening.
Speaker BYou don't have to pay attention to them, which is so great with neurodivergent kids.
Speaker BThey don't have to focus in order for this to work, which is a very important thing.
Speaker BThen you take the sensors off after the 33 minutes, and you close the program, and you want to do it consistently.
Speaker BSo every other day.
Speaker BOne of the challenges, I think, when you have an ADHD family is just getting those sessions in.
Speaker BI always say, let's not start with an overwhelming expectation.
Speaker BLet's start, like.
Speaker BLet's start with what's manageable, right?
Speaker BSo if it's manageable to train one child first, like twice a week, and just get into the rhythm of that, right, then maybe we can add ourselves.
Speaker BYou know, one of the challenges I find in ADHD families is that parents and moms are really invested in helping their kids get better, and they're not as invested in helping themselves.
Speaker BAnd so I always tell parents, you know, your child will do better with this training if you're also training.
Speaker BAnd so if you can't do it for your own benefit, do it for your child's benefit.
Speaker BBut to start with a manageable, consistent training schedule for one person and then add a second person.
Speaker BAnd if a parent, if a mom can start with themselves, sometimes that's better.
Speaker BBecause as soon as that brain starts to really get it and it starts to calm down and be able to focus, then we can start to really manage multiple schedules much easier.
Speaker BSo really, ideally, starting with, like, you know, like in the airplanes, you put on your own oxygen mask first and your child's.
Speaker BWith neurofeedback is a little bit like that.
Speaker BBut that's the basic setup and kind of the structure is like, put it at a time when you can set aside, like, 35, 40 minutes, and the person can be doing anything with their eyeballs.
Speaker AI mean, what's really interesting, I'm thinking from a very practical perspective.
Speaker ASo someone comes into your office.
Speaker AI know you can do it at home as well.
Speaker AWe'll talk about that in a minute.
Speaker ABut if someone's coming into your office and you say it's 33 minutes, and they sit there with the.
Speaker AWith the set on and the things on their, on their skull, what are they listening to?
Speaker AWhat is actually happening?
Speaker AIs it relaxing?
Speaker AIs it calming?
Speaker AIs it mindful?
Speaker AOr are they having to do something?
Speaker BYeah, that's a great question.
Speaker BSo because it's auditory feedback, people can do anything with their eyes.
Speaker BAnd because it's the unconscious brain, they don't have to be focusing on something in order for it to work.
Speaker BI always encourage people to use it as an opportunity to become better aware of their felt experience in their bodies.
Speaker BWe tend to be habituated to our thoughts, and that doesn't always give us good information about what our body's needs are.
Speaker BI encourage people to close their eyes, to focus on their breath.
Speaker BIf people are chronically sleep deprived, they'll often fall asleep because as soon as those brains register a safe environment and that they don't have to do anything, those brains tend to want to go to sleep.
Speaker BSo some people will fall asleep, which is totally fine because it's auditory.
Speaker BThe brain's still going to hear the feedback.
Speaker BEverybody is different in terms of what they notice.
Speaker BSo for some people, if they're sleep deprived, at the end of the session, they actually may feel really heavy in their bodies and like, what's this heavy feeling?
Speaker BAnd then I'll ask them, you know, well, how much sleep are you getting?
Speaker BYou know, it might be that your body is now communicating, wow, I am tired.
Speaker BCan you please get more sleep?
Speaker BSo one of the things I witness over and over again when people do neurofeedback is the line of communication, communication between that unconscious brain and our conscious selves gets clearer.
Speaker BAnd so what the needs are start to really come out.
Speaker BAnd sometimes people don't like that because they're like, but I can't get more sleep, right?
Speaker BAnd so that's kind of an inconvenient truth.
Speaker BAnd so, you know, when people ask me, well, what are the side effects?
Speaker BAnd I say to them, you know, sometimes the side effects are that we get information that we don't like, we have a judgment about.
Speaker BSo if you've been someone who's been repressing emotions for a long time and you start to do neurofeedback, you know, repression takes a lot of energy.
Speaker BSo when the brain registers I'm safe, and then it goes, wow, I'm repressing all these emotions, that is exhausting, right?
Speaker BThen guess what the brain's going to want to do?
Speaker BIt's going to want to start to lift off that lid of repression, and then you're going to start to feel right?
Speaker BAnd some People don't want to feel.
Speaker BThey don't want to feel their pain, they don't want to feel their sadness, they don't want to feel their frustration or whatever it is, or past trauma.
Speaker BAnd so then they're like, natalie, I'm having all these emotions.
Speaker BThis system isn't working because I wanted to just get calm.
Speaker ARight.
Speaker BCalm and focused.
Speaker BSo part of the process for me is education.
Speaker BI want people to understand what is health.
Speaker BAnd sometimes health is going through a process of bearing witness to.
Speaker BTo pain, to loss, to disappointment, you know, all sorts of things.
Speaker BSadness that we're scared to feel.
Speaker BBut that is the system wanting to work it through and then let it go.
Speaker BIt doesn't want to keep it in the system.
Speaker BAnd so that's kind of the slightly messy side of neurofeedback, and frankly, just getting healthier is that we have to trust ourselves, our brain, our bigger self, that it's going on a journey towards health.
Speaker BThe early stages, we may not like it because it feels slightly uncomfortable or unfamiliar.
Speaker BAnd so just trusting, going through that for other people, they don't go through that.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BAnd they just, you know, in general feel a little bit better.
Speaker BNotice they're focusing better, they're less scattered.
Speaker BTime management becomes easier.
Speaker BSo it varies person to person.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AI mean, it's kind of like you're unburdening this overload, isn't it?
Speaker ASo like you say, a lot of people have never gone there with their pain or maybe not even recognize it.
Speaker AAnd again, what I hear a lot is women who have been diagnosed later on in life, there's a lot of grief there of all that could have been and all the things that they missed out on and the potential that they knew they had but didn't understand why it was never fulfilled.
Speaker AAnd they look back and they think of different opportunities and possibilities that could have been relationships that may have worked if they'd known, if there was understanding there.
Speaker ASo for sure, I think there's a lot of grief and pain that people are holding onto.
Speaker AI work with EFT with Emotional freedom technique, and it's very similar with the tapping, is that it sounds like a similar kind of like, process because we are kind of rewiring the brain when we're doing the tapping and we're releasing stuck energy and stuck emotions.
Speaker AAnd a lot of people get quite shocked by how emotional they get and this physical feeling of the emotions moving through the body, especially when we can sort of feel it stuck in our throat or like in our chest or our Back or stomach.
Speaker AStomach or something.
Speaker ABut we always feel better after an EFT session because there's been a release.
Speaker AAnd then sometimes when we've gone through say 30 minutes of tapping on the one specific topic, by the end of the session we'll say, well, how does that feel now?
Speaker AAnd maybe they rated it at the beginning like a 10.
Speaker AAnd they'll go, actually, it's only a 3 now the intensity is gone.
Speaker AIt's because we've allowed it to kind of come up almost like a bit of a volcano.
Speaker AAllow.
Speaker AAllowed it to have its say and then erupt and then it kind of goes back down and settles.
Speaker AI guess there's similarities and it is.
Speaker AIt's all about allowing that subconscious part of our brain to have its say and release what it needs to release and then kind of find new neural pathways to reconnect.
Speaker AAnd if I've used the right, right wording there, what I'm really interested in is if someone's listening to this and they're thinking, I would love to do this, but I haven't got a neurofeedback clinic near me.
Speaker AI know you're based in New York.
Speaker AYou know what happens if someone says, I'd love to try this, love to try it at home.
Speaker ADo I need a practitioner with me?
Speaker AHow does it work?
Speaker BYeah, that's a great question.
Speaker BSo I started out just offering neurofeedback in my office.
Speaker BAnd then because the system is fully automated, right.
Speaker BSo it's just information full for that brain to optimize its own performance.
Speaker BThere's no trainer that's required to be setting protocols or tweaking anything session by session, because it's always real time feedback, which is different than.
Speaker BI'm going to make it a little more complicated here, which is the first generation of neurofeedback systems, which are called protocol or linear neurofeedback.
Speaker BThey were designed when computers weren't at the speed of the human brain so you couldn't give real time feedback.
Speaker BAnd so those are the ones that require like a brain map.
Speaker BAnd you have to do them in office and you have a trainer who sets protocols to basically try to create a bumper so that your brain waves stay in a certain range that is optimal for whatever you have.
Speaker BSo that kind of neurofeedback, you have to do it in office and you need an expert trainer.
Speaker BSo the neurofeedback that I use is fully automated.
Speaker BAnd so what we just organically grew was a rental program.
Speaker BSo we ship all across North America we even ship to Europe and the UK and then people can hook themselves up at home.
Speaker BIt's very easy to do.
Speaker BAnd they have a certified trainer who is there as a support for them while they're doing their home sessions.
Speaker BAnd really for people who want to try it, I always say to them, you know, this is about giving the brain the opportunity to improve its own functioning.
Speaker BSo it is about optimization as opposed to like treating a condition.
Speaker BAnd the other beautiful thing about training at home is that you can train family members as well.
Speaker BAnd I have just seen the most beautiful things happen when family members train together.
Speaker BThey go from reactive communication to responsive communication.
Speaker BSo what does that look like?
Speaker BWell, when the brain is caught in that fight, flight energy, right.
Speaker BWe tend to use irritability, impulsivity, freezing, going numb, not talking about things, fleeing the situation, right.
Speaker BAs the brain's just habitual strategies for having relationship.
Speaker BAnd so when we have multiple family members train, right, we have nervous systems are connected.
Speaker BAll of our nervous systems are reading each other, whether we pay attention to that or not.
Speaker BTypically we know when so and so comes in the house, whether they're in a good mood or a bad mood, right?
Speaker BThat's a connected nervous system.
Speaker BSo what happens is nervous systems re regulate into being open, sensing safety and security, being able to be responsive.
Speaker BSo what happens in the communication is now we can have pauses before we respond, we can just answer as opposed to using that emotional attack as the strategy to be powerful and have an impact.
Speaker BWe can pause and be thoughtful before we respond.
Speaker BWe can be open and loving.
Speaker BSo one of the common things I hear from men typically who are less self aware, less emotionally in attunement, more down in that kind of freeze response, right?
Speaker BKind of pushing down emotions when they're training.
Speaker BAnd I check in with them, if they're coming into the office after like the first month, I'll say like how are things going?
Speaker BAnd they'll typically respond with like, well, I don't know what's changed but boy, my partner loves that I'm doing this and wants me to continue.
Speaker BAnd so then I say, well that's interesting, what are they observing?
Speaker BAnd they're like, well they say that I'm like making eye contact and I'm asking questions more.
Speaker BAnd so this is an interesting thing to observe, that when the brain perceives safety, if you're down in that freeze response habit, it naturally starts to connect because we are connected social creatures.
Speaker BAnd so even when someone doesn't think that a there it's a problem, right?
Speaker BOr they're, they're not, you know, a good partner.
Speaker BTheir system just organically shifts to being more connected.
Speaker BSo that's another kind of, you know, feature of being able to do it at home is that you get the whole family system to be able to just organically improve and become more connected.
Speaker AI love that.
Speaker AAnd especially as we know that, you know, if we're parenting children and we're neurodivergent ourselves.
Speaker ASo I'll give you an example for myself.
Speaker AI was diagnosed at 40, my kids have got ADHD and I know my mum's got adhd, so my mum was parenting other kids with adhd.
Speaker AI have two brothers as well.
Speaker AAnd there would have been a lot of, there was a lot of chaos in the house and she didn't have the tools at the time to understand all of this, that there was a lot of reactivity, shouting, you know, all sorts going on.
Speaker AAnd so we're then parenting the way we've been parented unless we have awareness.
Speaker AAnd so what's happening here is you're sort of like breaking these cycles, aren't you, with the family?
Speaker ASo yes, it's amazing that we can do this with our kids, but actually if we are co regulating, like you say, that we are creating this environment of more calm and more regulation and less reactivity, how wonderful that even though everyone's got adhd, we're all finding ways, new tools and coping mechanisms.
Speaker AAnd I really love this, I really love the idea of everyone being able to use this, this system.
Speaker ASo yes, this has been really fascinating because I hear so much, honestly I've been spoken to hundreds of people and yes, you know, nutrition 100%, movement 100% and mindfulness meditation, cold water therapy, like this, they've got all these different places for helping calm our nervous systems and calm our brain and the cortisol and all the different components that sort of are part of our adhd.
Speaker ABut I really like this because when we're talking about brain health, we do know that ADHD impacts our brain.
Speaker AIt is very much brain and then it goes down through our body and it shows up in our nervous system, it shows up in autoimmune conditions and gut health and chronic pain and sleep and addiction.
Speaker AAnd we know that how it all filters, filters through.
Speaker AAnd so if we're working with this, that might have an impact on say our pain or maybe or adrenals or how we sleep, hypermobility, lots of different things.
Speaker ASo I'm really, really interested in this now.
Speaker AThe other thing I would like to say is that I know this is not cheap, I know this is still a privilege for a lot of people and I know because as it's a relatively new type of therapy and it's quite sort of sophisticated, I was looking at the different prices and so would you say the most affordable option is, is renting it?
Speaker ALike how, what would you say is the most sort of accessible way for people to use this?
Speaker BYeah, definitely.
Speaker BRenting it is the most affordable.
Speaker BAnd you know, I mean I chose this system because it's effective but the other reason I chose it is because people can use it at home, which makes the price point.
Speaker BAnd as you said, it is still expensive relative to filling a prescription.
Speaker BAnd that's not to say don't fill your prescription because for some people that's a very important part of working and supporting their adhd.
Speaker BAnd I should say you can do neurofeedback and still be on your medication so they can work together.
Speaker BBut yes, it is an investment and for some people it's not an investment that they can afford.
Speaker BBut I really want people to think about the cost if it's in the realm of possibility, to think about, well, what is the cost of not doing the training?
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BBecause you know, we, for those of us who do have disposable income, you know, how what are we, what's the goal of using that money?
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BIf we think about money as being the opportunity to make choices, what is the choice I'm making and why?
Speaker BAnd so really to think about, you know, our kids school performance over time, you know, and our health and how much if we help support our brain health now, what are we going to save in future costs because we re regulate and now all of a sudden exercise seems doable.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BAnd I see this over and over again.
Speaker BAddressing my diet now feels like approachable because I feel calmer, I feel more organized, I feel more resourced.
Speaker BSo I feel like I can take the risk, right, of looking at how much sugar I eat as example because I'm more regulated and what that saves us in health care costs in the future.
Speaker BSo yes, it is absolutely a financial investment.
Speaker BRenting is definitely the most cost effective.
Speaker BAnd you know, when you're training multiple family members, you know, it gets down to like in US dollars, like 10$20 a session, which is not expensive per session when you think about it in that way.
Speaker AYeah.
Speaker AI'm interested to know from a prevention perspective, is there any research that's coming out that it's good for dementia?
Speaker AAnd I'm thinking, you know, I'm 44 and if I can do anything to help prevent dementia.
Speaker AAnd I.
Speaker AThere is some research that's coming out, unfortunately, saying that we have a higher chance of getting dementia with adhd.
Speaker AAnd I just wondered if there is any sort of connection there.
Speaker BYes.
Speaker BI mean, one of the.
Speaker BOne of my favorite populations to work with, and this may seem unrelated, but it's connected, are people with head injuries.
Speaker BSo whether it is a concussion or multiple concussions, TBI or a stroke, a brain aneurysm, right?
Speaker BWhat the neurofeedback is doing is it's giving that brain the opportunity to see what still needs work, what's not functioning optimally.
Speaker BThe brain, again, it goes into habitual patterns.
Speaker BWhen you have a head injury, it does triage, it registers there has been an injury and it goes into a response, but then it becomes habitual again.
Speaker BIt doesn't see, doesn't take a fresh look at, well, how am I functioning now?
Speaker BWhen you think about dementia, prevention, cognitive decline, this is a support because it's constantly reminding that brain, hey, pay attention to the choices you're making.
Speaker BAre you making the best choices for your health, for your functioning?
Speaker BAnd so in the same way you think about exercising your body for optimal performance, really think about exercising your brain for optimal performance as you age.
Speaker BAnd that's.
Speaker BI mean, this is sort of the new frontier is brain health and how the brain, like, we're learning, right?
Speaker BLike, oh, wow, there's a big connection between now Alzheimer's and lifestyle, right?
Speaker BAnd so there is a lot we can do and we just have to educate ourselves a little bit on how do we support brain health, because that's not something we've really thought a lot about.
Speaker AYeah, absolutely.
Speaker AAnd I mean, what would be amazing to see is this being available on insurance as, like, psychiatrists will prescribe this, say you can do this instead of medication, or the way your ADHD shows up.
Speaker AI actually think that neurofeedback would be a better way because maybe you're not struggling with focus and concentration.
Speaker AIt presents so uniquely and so differently to everybody.
Speaker AAnd we know that one person's ADHD is very different to another.
Speaker AAnd I mean, we're just at the forefront of what, of this.
Speaker AAnd I think neurofeedback is.
Speaker AIs there.
Speaker AAnd that's why I was so interested to talk to you about it, because we need more of it.
Speaker AWe need more of it here in the uk.
Speaker AWe need more people doing it, we need more people talking about it.
Speaker AAnd I hope that it's going to become more accessible and it's not going to just be sort of for people that have, you know, disposable income, that there's a real option there for people.
Speaker ASo, Natalie, I just wanted to thank you so much for explaining it so beautifully, simplifying it, making it very practical so people can understand.
Speaker ABecause, you know, straight away they kind of think, oh, it sounds really complicated and all of that.
Speaker ABut I think the way you've explained it, it sounds like I can just do something really simple and easy and sit there, listen to something and, you know, do that once a week for three months and hopefully see some form of shift.
Speaker AAnd if we can do that for ourselves, we can do that for our kids.
Speaker AHow wonderful to be able to look back a year later and say, I can really see a difference.
Speaker AI can see that our environment and our home is calmer and it's more regulated and we are less reactive.
Speaker ASo tell me, you know, if someone's listening, we have a lot of listeners in the States, but if people who are, you know, outside of the states, like, what's the protocol?
Speaker AHow can they get in touch with you?
Speaker BYeah, so, I mean, they can go to my website.
Speaker BWe have a contact us page, neurofeedbacktraining.com and certainly, you know, we're here to, if it's not appropriate to ship you a system to rent, certainly to help you find, see if there's resources in the UK, my YouTube channel, Natalie Baker.
Speaker BI have tons of educational videos.
Speaker BSo I just find the people who have the best outcomes are educated.
Speaker BSo if people are curious, there's lots of educational resources.
Speaker BAnd yeah, we're here to kind of problem solve and figure out for people what's going to be good next steps for them.
Speaker AFantastic.
Speaker AWell, thank you so much.
Speaker AI'll make sure all the information's in the show notes.
Speaker AAnd yeah, I look forward to speaking to you again soon.
Speaker AI'd love to sort of catch up again and see what other new, new kind of things are out there, new findings that you're hearing.
Speaker ASo thank you so much.
Speaker BThank you.
Speaker BIt's been a wonderful conversation and I so appreciate your advocacy and passion for your community.
Speaker BSo thank you for all that you're doing.
Speaker AI really hope you enjoyed this week's episode.
Speaker AIf you did and it resonated with you, I would absolutely love it if you could share on your platform or maybe leave a review and a rating wherever you listen to your podcasts.
Speaker AAnd please do check out my website, ADHD womenswellbeing.co.uk for lots of free resources and paid for workshops.
Speaker AI'm uploading new things all the time and I would absolutely love to see you there.
Speaker ATake care and see you for the next episode.