There won't be any episodes for the next three to

four weeks in October.

We'll continue per usual with biweekly

new powerful episodes.

But as we have been talking a lot about the

awakened masculine and the awakened feminine, and

of course masculine and feminine dynamics, I want

to share with you some highlights of my previous

episodes over the years.

In this episode today, we're focusing on the highlights

about the awakened masculine.

What are the traits of an awakened man?

How does an awakened man show up in relationship and what is

required for an awakened man to truly connect and live from

his awakened masculine core?

Today's highlights will give deep answers for

both men and women.

Welcome to the Masculine and Feminine Dynamics podcast.

My name is Lorin Krenn and I'm a relationship coach.

I help you to embody your awakened masculine

and awakened feminine in relationships and life.

Let's dive in.

The relationship to our parents has an enormous

impact, the biggest impact in our intimate life later on.

And in this context, if the relationship to your father,

but you're a woman or a man was in any way traumatizing

or wound that's, then there's a hundred percent guarantee

that that is going to show up in your intimately.

I want to share a little bit about it with my own journey

of working through my father wounds, as this will help

you or help some of youm and lead into what's the first

foundational step in order to start your healing journey.

My father died of colon cancer in a three year battle, and

each year I saw him getting thinner and weaker, until he

eventually died in my arms.

Now, the more ill my father became and the more

emotionally unavailable thereby he became, of

course, because all his energy went into healing

and trying to overcome this illness, the more unsafe and

less secure I felt inside myself, inside my body.

Everyone who suffers from the father wound in any shape

or form feels unsafe and feels a lack of security and

trust inside their own body.

You see, if a father has done the deep work and feels

secure and safe in his own body, then he's presence

becomes so immensely healing.

And as a woman or as a man, as a child, you pick

this up, you feel this, and you'll take this on.

It gives you an immense trust in your life.

A trust in your body, uh, a safety inside yourself.

And this is invaluable.

This is invaluable in every single area of your life, and

especially in your intimate relationships, because for

instance, it couldn't be any easier to fall into toxic

and dysfunctional dynamics in your intimate life, if

you don't feel safe and secure in your own body.

Now, when we have a strong father wounds, as we don't

mention, we don't feel safe in our own body, one of the

number one reasons for that is that our awareness cannot

flow easily into our body.

The reason is, is because when you first try to connect

and bring your awareness into your body, is that

you are going to feel all these unresolved trauma, all

your unexpressed emotions.

They're going to be in the way of you

connecting to your body.

See it in this way.

You have left your home.

Let's say your body, your temple is a house with a

big garden, but if you have left that place for so many

years, weeds started to grow.

That garden became uncontrollable.

Branches started to build up and you don't even know

where the door is anymore into your home, into your body.

And this is this, this symbolizes that because

when it then first start to reconnect and bring

your awareness to your body, you start to first

go into that garden and you exp you don't even know

where to find that door.

All you see is confusion.

This is because now for the first time you're turning your

awareness to all this pain, to all this confusion, all this

anxiety that has been building up in most cases for decades

or many, many, many years.

Trauma is stored inside our body.

So anything that you can do, any trauma release

breathwork, any trauma release methods, anything

that your heart calls you, that your intuition guides

you towards, anything that has to do with somatic healing is

from my experience crucial.

And you just cannot get away from that in order to work

through these weeds, and all the things that have been

created, this first layer that your awareness has

to work through until it's able to enter your body.

Today I am going to talk about a specific

relationship dynamic that I've seen again and again.

I call this dynamic the woman with the father

wound and the man with the unworthiness wound.

This is the dynamic where seemingly, no matter how a

man shows up, no matter what it does, no matter how hard

he tries, nothing seems to be enough for the woman.

She seems to demand the impossible for him, from him.

And in response to this, he tries harder and

harder to please her, to meet her expectations.

Both end up feeling disappointed, both end

up feeling resentment, and both in this dynamic

end up feeling unworthy.

Here in this dynamic, the two wounds feed each other

perfectly and often the woman gets labeled as the one who

brings all the trauma, the woman with the dead issues.

However, a dynamic is always co-created.

In this dynamic, both are part of this dynamic, both

are feeding this dynamic and both are coming from

a place of wounding.

If a man embodies his awakened masculine core,

he would not find himself in such a dynamic.

Now the unique responsibility for the man here is to

set very clear boundaries.

This might sound like the following.

I am here for you when you need me.

I want to create safety for you.

But for instance, calling me names or talking to me in this

way is deeply disrespectful.

I want to be there for you, but I cannot if

you show up in this way.

Now, of course, speak your truth.

Don't just take these words, stand your ground.

Allow them to come from your deepest truth, not from a

place of, of your shadow, of being in a state of emotional

reactivity, but from your grounded power, from your

grounded presence, because this will be infinitely

amplified and infinitely powerful ultimately.

And of course, also be mindful of how your shadow might

use this then, um, Okay.

If you show up in this way, I can't be there for you.

That's not what I'm talking about, right?

That's why it's so subtle, these energy,

energy dynamics here.

But for instance, if she's calling you names, if she's

clearly deeply disrespecting you, then of course that is

not coming from her oracle.

And then you will set a very clear boundary, and you can

do this by standing in your power, by letting her know,

yes, I want to be there for you, but if you show up or

call me this way or show up in this disrespectful way, then

I cannot be there for you.

Like a really powerful, fiercely loving boundary.

Now you might ask, what if one party does not

take responsibility?

Let's go into this.

If the man doesn't take responsibility, and for

instance, the woman starts to shift by becoming

aware of where she, where you are coming from and

letting him in, rather than pushing him away and

setting him up for failure, you then will definitely

create more harmony.

But still, if the man does not work on his hero complex

or works on his pleaser, being the nice guy, um, then

you won't experience the strong intimacy and the depth

that you both deeply desire because there is clearly a

lack of dark masculine energy.

There is a lack of ability for, from him to stand his

ground, to speak his truth, to embody the warrior archetype.

And when you both take that responsibility, then

you can both shift the dynamic entirely because

you interrupt the pattern.

And now the wounds cannot feed from each other

anymore because you have interrupted a pattern

and you are now creating a new conscious, loving

reality for both of you.

The relationship that you both want to truly

deep down experience.

There are many traits that an awakened man embodies.

Number one trait, and this core trait is that

he lives with integrity.

He is in integrity with the feminine, with life, with

everything and everyone.

And as a man, if you're listening to this, Reclaiming

your integrity, that part of you that yearns to be in

integrity is the key thing in your spiritual journey.

The second trait that he embodies is

grounded spirituality.

One of the most common traps that men fall into is that

they step into, or they start doing the spiritual

work, but it just makes them lost more in their heads and

living from their heads and being in the clouds, instead

of actually being in their.

body Because at the end of the day, spirituality is about

being able to be in our body.

Because only when we set our roots deep into

the earth can we then actually start to elevate.

Now the third trait that a, an awakened man embodies is

that he is willing and open to receive the feminine oracle,

even if it is challenging.

This doesn't mean he will always jump around,

enjoy, or, or deeply enjoy the experience.

It might be extremely challenging At the same

time, he will also not blame you for it or project his

shadow on you and see you as the threat, instead he

will take responsibility, and he will, he will receive

you, and will, and will give his best to listen to you.

The fourth trait is that he is not a pushover.

He embodies fierce love.

Or we can say the wild man within him, the the

warrior archetype, right?

He's not passive, complacent.

He's not afraid to speak his truth, to set boundaries, to

truly stand for his truth.

So even though his practice is to receive your oracle,

he will also not be afraid to set boundaries and to

speak his truth, to stand in his truth when you as the

feminine, or when a woman projects her wounds onto you.

This is so crucial because if all the other things,

if they're there but then he puts the feminine on a

pedestal or you are passive and complacent, that is

also not going to lead to the intimate life that

you want to experience.

And to, and that is also not going to lead

to trust and safety and deeper connection and

intimacy with the feminine.

Most men have a wound around receiving the feminine heart.

Not because they don't want to feel the love or have an

issue, um, with receiving love from the feminine.

But receiving her heart often means getting in touch with

our own deepest emotions.

So if we are avoiding certain things and certain shame

and guilt and anger, then feeling her heart means we

cannot feel her heart without simultaneously feeling

our own deepest emotions.

And this is how you can always create safety

for the feminine.

Because it's not a performance, it's

not a script, it's not some bullshit.

It is you doing the deepest work of feeling into a

feminine, feeling into a body, and then responding from a

deeper intelligence within your, rather from your mind,

trying to fix it, trying to find some logical solutions

or anything like that.

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