Do you know what holds you back in life? Why you don't

really have what you want, or why you're still struggling with

anxiety and maybe feel in general stuck? Well, the reason

is not your circumstances you're in, or the people you're dealing

with, or your bad luck. The reason is that you're held back

by your beliefs, and especially your limiting core beliefs. Now,

beliefs in general, are a topic that I think is incredibly

important, but we usually don't talk about, and we usually don't

get taught what to do with beliefs. But beliefs are

ultimately the way the subconscious mind is defining

your personal universe. When you think about, you know how you

grew up, let's say you had some bad experiences, you know, you

sang in front of the class, and everyone was laughing, you had a

parent who always told you, well, you're not smart enough,

or you do things wrong. And maybe you had some friends that

all sudden ditched you and felt like, well, there are some other

people that are more interesting. Well, probably at

some point, you didn't feel very comfortable and very safe. And

that's a moment when the subconscious says, Oh, hold on

here, we have to do something. And that means we have to make

sense out of this so that you are not getting hurt. And this

is when beliefs start, they kind of gave the subconscious a

playbook on, what's the best way to navigate through this life,

and heart. And a limiting belief such as I am not good enough,

can come from those experiences. Now, a belief is like a really

huge filter, it's massive, because it really keeps out a

lot of the information. And lets in only the information that

makes sense to the belief Tobio Imagine yourself like, you know,

walking through life like this, you know, left and right, don't

see it, all you see is this little tunnel vision of the

things that your subconscious is highlighting. And when you don't

feel good enough, you probably have been highlighting every

fault. Everything that go went wrong, every person that has

rejected you throughout the years, because that fits in to

the belief that I personally have believed I'm not good

enough. So I know how one day I had to give a speech. And

afterwards, there was some evaluation and I got, you know,

28 good ones. And one was critical. While naturally I was

focusing only on the one that was critical. All the other ones

I completely ignored, didn't matter didn't really fit into my

system. So when you have a limiting belief, you usually

live under its guardianship, and you don't even know it, you just

have a distorted way of seeing the world and yourself. And for

anxiety, for example, the beliefs that keep us anxious are

the beliefs like I'm not good enough, or I'm not safe, I

cannot trust anyone, or I'm not lovable, I don't fit in. In my

practice, I find that these are the most common beliefs that

keep the anxiety fueled, because all we can see is there's just

more danger to get rejected or get ridiculed or harmed out

there. And so we either go into avoidance mode and try to stay

invisible, or we go into pleasing mode and try to get

approval from others.

So what are you gonna do with a belief? I mean, obviously, since

they come from way back, wouldn't it be nice if we could

just take a time machine, erase the past, and all would be good.

But there is actually something like a time machine. It's called

timeline therapy or pattern resolution process. And these

are things I'm working with and they do allow you on a

subconscious level, to literally go back and see your past from a

different perspective, resolve some of those old questions and

confusions that your subconscious has held on to and

literally rewrite history. The problem is, that doesn't

necessarily change your beliefs. Because if you have even though,

I mean, maybe you have done some work, maybe you have done a lot

of comedy counseling, and you really felt like I talked about

the past, and I work through it. And I feel like I don't have any

longer nightmares of what happened there. But you still

have that belief, you still don't feel safe, or you still

don't feel good enough. So you will still act accordingly. And

you will still see the world accordingly. And as it is, with

limiting beliefs, they are reinforcing themselves because

we are creating self fulfilling prophecies with them. As with

I'm not good enough, if you do feel you're not good enough,

let's say, for example, to have a relationship, well, chances

are that you're not really the best self at your first date. Or

that when you are in a relationship, that you somehow

is sabotaging it, so that in the end, the relationship gonna end

because you told yourself, well see, it's happening, what I

already predicted would happen, I am not good enough. And you're

not seeing that maybe you were just too needy or too closed

off. Or maybe you were not really fully invested. Because

you were thinking that this relationship doesn't work out

based on your belief. So limiting beliefs have a lot of

power than also just to keep themselves going. So if you

would just erase the past, the beliefs will still run your

life. If that's not enough, what about letting go the beliefs,

again, possible subconscious work is very much something you

can do. However, if you would wake up one morning, and you

would have all those limiting beliefs gone, no more, I'm not

lovable, I don't fit in, I don't measure up, while your

subconscious would have a crisis of identity because there would

be a huge void, there would be a huge sense of well, now what,

and lo and behold your subconscious, because it doesn't

like the unknown, the uncertainty, that's why your

subconscious doesn't like change, your subconscious would

go back to the old belief guy that's familiar, that's

something it can relate to. Again, letting go of the

limiting belief itself, is not enough either. So then the third

option would be actually to replace the limiting belief. And

that is exactly what you need to do in order to create a new

Owner's Manual of how you want to manifest how you want to

maneuver and navigate through life, and ultimately manifest

your reality. Now, there are five steps, and I just going to

quickly explain those five steps to you because I find they're so

important to have in your toolbox. The first step is that

you define a new belief, I believe that you really feel

like okay, this is what I want to replace the old one with.

Now, that new belief needs to be really, really relatable and

believable. So for example, if you would be, you know,

completely broke, and you would want to have a new belief that

says I'm a millionaire. Well, your mind would say, yes, you

are off the rocker, I don't believe a word and it would

still hold on to the old belief. But if you would say, I can get

out of debt, I have the inner resources to be more successful

or to be a good money manager, then your mind your subconscious

would say, okay, we can work with that.

I am not good enough. Well, maybe I am enough, isn't enough,

because it's not juicy enough. But if you would say, I believe

in my gifts and qualities to create the life that I want, or

for I am not lovable. You could say I appreciate and accept

myself for who I am. And new belief is really useful when

it's coming from an i statement I have or I am and it's defining

how you want to relate to yourself. So an old belief of, I

am not safe, you could turn into I am the source of my safety and

well being. So find your own words for a new belief, not too

long, fairly short, but again, it needs to be interesting and

believable. And you can look up at affirmations that are really

ultimately new positive belief systems that may resonate with

you. But as you will see in a moment, affirmations are not in

itself enough to reach the subconscious. Second step is

that You want to enliven this new belief. Remember, the old

belief, the limiting belief is pretty much telling you this

story of the distorted version of reality, and it has plenty of

ideas why you're not good enough or not safe or not lovable, or

any of those things. So you need to now juice up this new belief

with also evidence that says, oh, yeah, actually, now that I

look at it, I am good enough. Because I, let's say, I had

completed my driver's license, I did finish high school, I am

holding a job since a while and I actually have done really good

work, or I have been taking care of my ailing mother, and was

really very reliable and loyal there. And you don't have to

really, you know, invent the cure for cancer or find world

peace. It's just something that you can see, every day that

there is so much goodness, and there is so much pot, there are

so many positive qualities about you, that it should be easy for

you to realize I am actually good enough. I just never really

honored myself for this or saw myself as good enough, because

somehow, I always got distracted by this old belief. Same thing

with being lovable. I mean, you can even ask your friends, what

do you like about me? What do you think are qualities that are

really good about me. And that will also tell you then yeah,

you know what I can actually accept and appreciate myself. So

find evidence go through, you know, your life, your current

life, not only what you do, or what you did, but also who you

are compassionate, kind, courageous, resilient, all of

those qualities that can really give you a much better sense of

self. And then, the third step is that you are translating

these, this new belief with all its qualities, into the language

of the subconscious. And the language of the subconscious is

very simple. It's word I mean, it's not words. That's the

conscious, it's images. It's emotion sensations. And, you

know, in general, anything that feels like an experience. So

when you think about the, the subconscious language, and you

would have just an affirmation, now, something that would sound

really nice, but you don't feel anything about it, you cannot

visualize what that would look like, you don't have a sense of

what feel in your body. Your subconscious says, Well, this is

gibberish. To me, I

don't know what you're talking about. But I'm certainly not

taking this on. So that's why you want to translate this new

belief into something that subconscious can understand. So

think about it. If your new belief is I accept and

appreciate myself, think about when there was maybe a moment

where you felt acceptance or appreciation, maybe, you know,

there was something where you did really well. Or maybe even

someone gave you a pat on the back, that's totally fine. As

long as you felt good about yourself. And when you feel this

feeling, imagine then if you could really be this person,

what would you see? Or what would you hear? And what would

you taste? And how would your body posture be? So these are

all translations into the language of the subconscious.

And once you really see yourself and feel yourself in the new

belief, it may take a few minutes to get there, then put

the old belief next to you and really see then the difference

between the two. What is the old? What is in you? And that's

step number four, you are really imagining now, okay, so if I

have the old belief, I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable.

I'm not safe. And I imagine myself going through another

year, another five years in the future with this belief? How

does my life look like? What will happen and what will not

happen? Maybe I will never find really happiness. Maybe I will

never be in a happy relationship or have a family. Maybe I will

always struggle and always look over my shoulder and always

isolate myself or always do what others want me to do, and never

find my own voice. And then look at the other side, that new

belief and imagine how your life would evolve. If you in that new

belief will live another year of five years and what would

change? Well, maybe you would see yourself advancing in a new

country. rear, maybe you have that real loving relationship

that you've been looking for. Or maybe you are moving actually

away from the town you are and going somewhere else, fantasize,

dream it up. But make it realistic. I mean, don't come up

with you know, I gonna be an astronaut and live in a space

station that's not totally realistic. So get into a

framework that you can believe in that that is exciting and

motivating. So your subconscious now has two versions of your

life. And it has clear evidence from what you're showing your

subconscious, you're holding up to maps. And you say, well, this

map gets us to this place doesn't feel very good. And this

new map, a new belief gets us to another place. And that feels

actually really much more enticing and interesting, and it

still feels safe, because that is important for the

subconscious, that it's not something dangerous or reckless,

that potentially could really get you in trouble. So then you

have for your subconscious basically laid out what your

preference is. And there is a little trick you can do, which

is changing your inner representation, your internal

representation, which basically means that you are really

showing your subconscious from now on, we are going into this

new pattern. And so you are making this old belief self,

maybe you have seen that self you know already a little bit

hunched forward frown in the face, or, you know, just a

little bit smaller, because it feels smaller, you make that old

self small, small, small, small, dark, and far away from you.

Maybe even behind you as a symbol of,

it's in the past, it's not something I really want to hold

on to. And then you bring the new self, that person that you

want to be in front of you make that person bigger, brighter,

and really feel also that positive energy, almost like a

warmth or light coming from that knew you and feel that is the

person that I want to grow into. And that's what I will focus on

to become. So that is step number four. And in that step,

finish it by visualizing already how your day today or tomorrow

will be different. Think about situations that have triggered

you in the past, let's say someone was maybe a little bit,

uh, you know, critical to you or making a little joke about you?

How would you respond from that new belief place? Would you just

have a boundary and say, sorry, I don't find this funny? Would

you laugh with it? Because you could actually have a sense of

humor about yourself? How would you respond? What would be the

most resourceful way of living this new belief? And how would

you show that let's say you accept and appreciate yourself?

Would you just treat yourself again to bad foods and something

you know, that upsets your stomach at the end of the day,

so that you need to take some anti acid? Or would you actually

say no self appreciation,

actually also means I'm eating? Well, I'm asking my body what it

wants, and I'm going to make sure that I feel good throughout

the day. Or maybe this feeling of really believing in yourself

or believing in your resources and your strength and qualities,

can also mean that you will speak up a little bit more, and

you will show more, that you actually are capable and work or

you are reaching out to people that in the past, you felt a

little hesitant to reach out to because you always felt

intimidated. Whatever it is, look for moments throughout the

day that you can imagine will be different, and you will feel

different when you come from that new belief system. And the

fifth point, or the fifth step is then really living it

following through the and this is the problem with

affirmations. And most of our, you know, it tends to become

better. And I often hear people saying, well, I'm meditating 30

days, 30 minutes a day, and I'm saying all these affirmations.

But when I asked him so what do you do with all of this? They

say, Well, I'm pretty much living exactly how I used to

live waiting for a miracle to happen that makes me feel

different or that makes me act differently. But that's a

choice. It's a choice to step into this This new belief, and

actually pretend that you already have fully incorporated

it. So throughout the day, have your body in that maybe

confident or self appreciative posture, slight smile on your

face, and walk, talk, and dress and act, the way you feel is an

expression of this new belief. Show yourself and the world that

you can inhabit a more positive and empowering belief. And it's

not the belief that's going to change you, it's you to gather

with the belief that will change your life. So act as if, and

then during the day, just see that you have these moments of

choice, like a choice point where you're reaching this,

again, getting triggered, or this familiar habit to just go

back to what feels much more, you know, the normal you and you

can say, No, I'm not doing this, I will have a boundary when

someone just, again pushes me to do something I don't want to do

because I accept and appreciate myself. Or I will actually make

sure that I Ghana, not procrastinate but follow through

because I do believe in my strength and my inner qualities

to reach my goals. So just notice when you can already

through the day, make a difference, and do it. Because

otherwise, all this inner work will just be nice, packed, you

know, gift packages that have nothing in sight promises that

somehow never come true. And when you do promise to yourself,

and you are setting all these high intentions, and then you're

not really acting as if you're not really having that self

reliability. Well, your subconscious says, I don't trust

you, because you have let yourself down. So many times,

you have done the opposite of what you said you

would do in the opposite, that actually is good for you. So

I'll just going to go back and take leadership role. And if

your subconscious takes over, chances are it will just go back

to that what feels much more familiar and comfortable, which

are these old patterns and old beliefs. So make sure that you

are following through and then to put a little cherry on the

cake. Right in your journal. This is a difference I made

today. With my new belief, I gathered more evidence that the

belief is true. And that the belief truly is changing my life

that there is a difference. It may not be always like in earth

shattering. But it will certainly just be palpable

enough for you to get more and more motivated to live in this

bigger framework to get out of this sticky comfort zone of the

old belief and just widen yourself expand into your more

empowered and more self reliance self. And then also notice that

ultimately you realize one thing that you may have not really

realized before, but I believe that's the secret to happiness,

that you are the creator of your reality. You may have just

created your reality with a very old playbook. And now you're

choosing how you want to approach your reality. And that

is the ultimate sense of feeling empowered, and feeling that you