Hey, it's David Baer. Welcome back to A Changed Mind, a place designed to be a sanctuary for your human spirit, where I will remind you each and every episode of Certainty of Goodness Future. I am your host friend, your guide, David Baer. I am so excited about getting into this episode with you. I'm going to be throwing some things down, laying them down. You'll be picking them up around a very important topic, which is really the key to creation. And we get a lot of emails from people who request that I talk about a variety of different topics. And frankly, I was shocked how many people had requested me to go deep into this episode on clarity. Clarity does not feel like that exciting of a topic, but you know what? Now that I think about it, out of the thousands of coaching conversations that I've had and interactions with people at our live events or our clients, or just the communication that I have with people on a daily basis, even outside of our business, it seems like people want more clarity, more clarity around what vision for their life looks like, more clarity on purpose, more clarity around the type of relationship they want to have, more clarity around the business that they want to create. Not only clarity on what they want to create, but clarity on how to get there. And so I'm going to be breaking down clarity like you've never heard it broken down before. And if you have listened to one of my episodes before and you love them, or if you listened to this episode and you love it, do me a favor, subscribe to the podcast platform that you listen on. Leave me a review and a rating. I read all of them. If you're joining me on YouTube, got some questions or something resonates with you, drop me a comment, subscribe to the channel. We're going to get into something that is really the nucleus of creating any kind of change that you want to have in your life. It's at the core of everything the great teachers taught, everything we understand around neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and it is this topic of clarity. And I don't know about you, but I have had plenty of chapters in my life where I felt stuck. And if I really look at it, it's because I didn't have one thing and one thing only with clarity. If you are not clear on what it is that you want to create in your life or you don't have a plan, create change, whether money or healing body, or emanate anxiety or soulmate, or how to improve the relationship in the type of business that you want to start. If you want to start a business or how you actually grow the business that you're in, or maybe plateaued in your business, you feel stuck, don't you? I mean, if you really look at what is behind feeling stuck that we don't have clarity, how to move forward. And clarity is really fuel for our creative engine. In other words, what I mean is clarity is really the equivalent of vision, right? When you have a vision for your life, you're clear on what you want to create in your life. When you have a vision for your ship, your uncreated relationship, when you have a vision for your family, it is clarity that you have on what you want NAMIC of your family to look like in the future. Clarity is at the core of creation. It's almost like imagination, right? When you have clarity in the moment on something, you're imagining it. So you're starting to build neural networks in your brain. You're starting to build a memory of a future that has happened yet. Clarity is the engine that gets this whole creative process going. It allows you to tune in thought the ideas to start to alter your perception of the experiences that you're having. So you're paying attention to those things that are in alignment with clarity. And so the question is, how can we rewire our brains to be more clear? How can we be more clear on a consistent basis? How can we get superhuman clarity, right? Like if you were Dr. Xavier and you could read people's minds, what if you're like, forget that. I just want to have almost omnipotent, omniscient like clarity around what it is I'm meant to do and how I'm going to do it. That's what we're going to be talking about today. And the mistake that most people make whenever they're trying to get clear on something they're not clear on is the same mistake we make in the way that we're approached all things in our life. I think we have it out. I think we have hustle. We think we have grind. We think there's some like magic pill strategy for becoming more clarity or we start pairing ourselves. Other people who we think achieved or created, what we want to achieve or create in our life. We're like, well, let me just see what they're doing. And we end up designing this false egoic sort of image of what our life should be like because we're just borrowing it from our observation of others. And the key to having clarity is not actually figuring anything out. It's identifying what is creating the blockage side of you, that natural clarity that you are entitled to and that you have access to is not. I'm going to repeat that. If you want to have more clarity and my recommendation is you do. Clarity is the same vision and a fuel for whole creative and of creating an extraordinary life and achieving your full potential. It's about identifying what's blocking clarity. Clarity is naturally there. Now in different degrees, I'm going to get into that. We make a big mistake and one of the biggest blockages people have think they clear the biggest limiting beliefs. We don't have the level of clarity that we should, but being able to access more vision is about creating space inside of you so that you can receive the vision so that you can receive clarity. And this is a very, I've talked about the geocentric model versus the heliocentric model and other episodes, how up until the 1500s, we thought the earth was the center of solar system and so the mathematics was all, and then good old Copernicus came along and said, wait a minute, sun is the sense solar system. Now all the mathematics sense we've all been operating our lives according to this very bad mathematic geocentric model where we think we've got to go acquire something outside of us in order to move forward. And the truth is no, there's actually something inside of that's creating blockage, preventing you have more clarity. So we're going to take a look at what this resistance is that is the only way to prevent from having more clarity in your life. Generally there are two types of clarity people are looking for. One is clarity around what's so, oftentimes we become so addicted to this life path that is less than fulfilling that we don't really know what we want. We're not clear on, right? We're so focused on, I don't like my job, tired of being alone, don't like my relationship, I need more, I'm tired of financial security, I'm tired of not sleeping well, I'm tired of not experiencing vibrancy in health, wanting a body. We don't have clarity on what we do want, especially when we get into conversations around hurt or what we would call spirit division. And we're going to talk about how you can actually get clear on that too. So one is an abs clarity on what, another is how to actually achieve it, right? How clarity on the what clarity on when you don't have clarity feel, are you with me? So, um, I'll give you some examples. Maybe you would like to have a more joy bearing life, but you're not clear on, so you know that you're beard satisfied or overwhelmed. You want joy, but you're not clear on what that would look. And the fact that you're not clear on what that would look like pretty much 100% guarantees that you're not going to create, create it in your life, right? And so you end up maintaining the status quo of stress, anxiety, overwhelmed job. You don't love financial wafer and therefore not having a more joyful period. Or for example, you may want to be in an extraordinary relationship, but you don't actually have clarity on what the person looks. I can't tell you how many times when I asked people, what do you want? Say no. And then you may actually get clear on who your soul. I did that back in December, 2012, I made a decision that I was going to meet a beautiful, intelligent, entrepreneurial, uh, running mate who was a Colombian woman. And I was going to make in 10 days later. My wife. So I had the clarity, but I didn't know how. And oftentimes the moment we get clear on what we want, we're like, shit, how do I actually find a beautiful Colombian woman? Who's hella run, right? So those are the two areas. What do you want and how are you going to create? Um, and so I'm going to start with the biggest limiting belief or block that is preventing the clarity in those two areas, some area of your life where you want to get clear on what you want. And then maybe area where you're clear areas clear, but you don't have to create you now desire for your life. And that is this limiting belief that I hear so often when I ask people what they want and they say, I have beliefs are very, very powerful. Your brain is a goal achieving machine. And what tends to happen with this quirky species, human being you and I are, is that we have this idea that unless we've got God like insights in full color into every detail of either what it is we want or how we're going to create it, unless we have absolute, which by the way is unachievable omniscient omnipotent cleared around the thing, our default response is I have, I have no idea. I'm just not clear. And we end up hypnotizing ourself into confusion, into a lack clarity. In other words, like Henry Ford said, the man who thinks can and the man who can't both right. If you believe that you have no idea, even the thoughts and ideas that do reside within your consciousness will not become constantly available to you because you've decided. And the truth is that we never have no idea, right? You have some idea of what would improve life. You have some idea of change you're looking for right now. I'm just talking about what it is. One, I'd even argue that once you have an idea, for example, that you would like to discover what your purpose is or how to align the work you're doing in the world, some meaningful passion, right? One, one next level of clarity would be to say, uh, and I'd like it to provide me with financial, Oh, do you want to be broke doing your purpose? Or do you want to be abundant? But again, because oftentimes we don't have full from idea, every single detail or what we want. We default back. No, I, and that's a limiting belief. Simply not true. In fact, I don't believe that you can have an awareness that you even want change in your life without having some idea of what that change is. You wouldn't even desire a change you had. And the fact that you're motivated and inspired, create some change means that there's some level of clarity. And you're going to see here in a moment that establishing that clarity is what actually gives you access to the next level. So what is the number one thing that is blocking almost all of us from next level clarity and either what we want in our life or how we're going to create it. It's this limiting belief, this self hypnotic cantation that unless we're 100% clear, which by the way, we never are. Anyone who's ever achieved any level of success had to walk in part by some called faith through the unknown as clarity unfolded over time, we believe actually be clear on all of it. Otherwise we have. So that's the first step in rewiring your brain clarity and starting to remove blockages that are vending you from being able to have optic vision imagination into the next level of what is actually waiting for you. Your destiny, the change for is stop with this month of, I have replaced it with something like I got some, I got, and here's the now, once we remove the saran wrap of that, the blind of the limitation of this limiting belief that I have no idea as a result, some idea we have, we have Chris clear on everything. Either way, let's take a look at how you can use the experiences of your life right now to get even clearer on the first piece of clarity, which is what change that you want, the new creation that you want. Now, the reason why you might feel like you struggle with clarity or you say, I don't know, is just simply because you haven't flexed that muscle long, long. One of my early private coaching was a professional major league baseball. He played in the league 11 year. I caught him in the middle of 10th year, started working together. He decided in his 11th year, he was going to tire. And so he, and one of the things he wanted to support was my help get clear on what he was going to do at time. And so I said, look, Jamie, you know, you've had all of this George says stashed away, uh, this not giant nest egg of cash. Uh, you already live in your dream home. You've got an amazed family, so much doing.doing forward. Really the world is oyster. What are some ideas about now?" And he's you know, I really don't know. I don't really have an idea. And then when I said, well kind of what's in your vision? What is it you imagine doing after you retire from the league? And he got very emotional. He started crying. And I asked him, I said, hey what's making you so emotional? And he says, I feel so broke that I don't. So it's important to understand that it's normal to not know what you want. We can change and you can get clarity on what you want. I'm gonna give you a great strategy for that here in a moment. But again, the idea is let's take the pressure off. We don't have to have perfect clarity. So let's stop with this. And if you're feeling a little bit challenged or struggling with getting clear on what you want, that's okay. I remember when I was probably six months, maybe a year, drug, alcohol, pornography, addiction, and it was a Sunday afternoon. I'd gone to Sunday 12-step meeting in the morning. And then I had the whole afternoon ahead of me. I remember I had lunch with guys, 12-step meeting at home, and okay it's clock, a whole rest ahead of me. What do I want to do? And I ended up going home and having a mini break. I was emotional just like Jamie, the major league baseball because I thought I've got so many options of what I want. I don't know. And thought to myself, you know, I park, dog. At that time I was additional friends because I wasn't hanging out with people I used to hang out with. Hike, gym, beach, movie. But I had a very hard time. And the reason for that is because so many of when we were younger, when we were children, we didn't have sovereignty in choosing what we want to do. You know, oftentimes we were put in a, you know, sport or a training with a musical. And our parents who were well-meaning, right? Oftentimes, sometimes our parents weren't that too. But I can just speak from my own experiences. You know, oftentimes I would come to my parents and say, hey, I want to do this. And then they would sort of convince me I didn't want it. They'd say, no, you don't really want to do that. Let's do this instead. And so that childlike curiosity opens around desire, becomes neutered at a very early age. And then that just becomes reinforced through the industrialization school system and the educational system of workforce. And some of that is changing now, in particularly with alternative education system and so much of a migration or ship or intrapreneurship post five, but life support in you no longer flexing that muscle, knowing what you want. So it's not unusual as you get into this conversation, conversation of a change conversation, having a powerful living and having a more life that you go through this stage where you become aware. Wow, I don't, I don't, I'm not really sure how to. And so we can use our existing life as training to get back into desire and deciding, you know, I went from 10 years ago, not knowing even what I want to do on that Sunday afternoon, let alone what I do like or the type of relationship or the impact that I want to be. I started using what I didn't as a springboard for getting clear on what I did. And so this is one of the few times I'd recommend inventory what you're experiencing in your life right now that you don't like. Right. And then the opposite of that is truly what you want. If you don't like the experience of being on medications and anxiety, then what you want is to develop calmness and centeredness inside of yourself and get off of medication, right? If what you don't want is the constant friction and arguing, personal relationship, or a cycle of toxic relationships been in, then what you want is to have intimate passion, connect relationship with someone who shares your values, shares your, who's willing to work on it, right? If what you're experiencing right now is that your bank account is short at the end, then what you want is to have abundance, perhaps an opportunity to earn income inside of current job, potentially raise or different career opportunity. That's what you want. So one of the hack or strategies used as you strive to create more clarity around what it is you want in life, to look at the life you have and what you don't prefer about it, to use that as contract and to identify some form of the opposite comes your date. So, so often people say, yeah, you know, I really want to be in an intimate relationship with someone or a soulmate, but I don't really know what it looks like. Well, do an inventory of all the dates you've been on with people who you aren't your soulmate and just identify what opposite qualities of those people. So this is the way that we can establish more clarity around what it is we want. We use what we don't want that we've been experiencing that oftentimes we become addicted to paying attention because our desire must much easier to talk about what we use all of that material to get clear on. So then now that we have clarity on what we want, so we've got a destination, we can start charting course. And again, that's why clarity is important because how are you going to get to a destination? You're not even clear on it. The next piece is the how, and here's where it's important to give a little bit of space because the clarity around how is an unfolding takes place over time. By the way, the clarity on what meaning what you desire is also an unfolding takes place. The desires that I had in the clarity around it, you know, 10 years ago are very different desires I have today. So it's important to understand that this whole process is an unfold, but the how can be achieved by number one, asking powerful. And so who do I need be in order to attract a beautiful, talented woman and make my wife? And so I sat down and I started who I'd be. I needed to be somebody who was self-centered. I need a man to be with. I needed to be somebody who'd sell, right? I need a beautiful woman. I show up as a well presented and very different how showing if you're watching on YouTube, right? But I've already attracted so many. The rest of it is the window, right? Or asking questions around what might I be passionate about doing that also earned me a dish or maybe what you desire is to have a more relaxed experience. What are some things I can get off late so that I base self-care? Questions are very, very powerful because your brain is like search. And the quality of the question you ask is going to determine the quality of the answer you receive. When you ask a question, essentially what you're directing the brain to do is to search the database of all of your known experiences and come back with an answer, with a search. And so if you're asking yourself questions like why does it work out for other people never works out for me? You're going to get a shitty answer, right? Because other people have figured out how to do things that are better than you, than you are. You're not good enough and you're not as far along as you should be. But if you ask high-quality questions, this can begin to unpack additional clarity on the how, right? It becomes the bridge between the desire you have now, clarity around it, and the materialization into your... What's also important is to give it space. Clarity is like a fog. And so one of the things that I encourage people to do is don't pressure yourself to have clarity that doesn't exist for you right now, but be willing to establish clarity that does. So when you think about it, if you drive in a fog and you can see about 10 feet in front of you, what do you do to access more visual clarity? You move forward another 10 feet. Well, the same thing applies to clarity of mind. If you want to have more clarity than the clarity that you have right, establish clarity that exists. That then pushes you on to the leading edge of what you're clear about and the next 10 feet of clarity is available. So this is how over time it requires patience, right? You can't suffocate it. That you give the opportunity for the vision to unfold for you, for clarity to occur. And I think that's the mistake a lot of people make. As soon as you get clear on what it is you want, now all of a sudden we move into, but I don't know how, and we start pressuring it. We move into that hustle, that grind, that figuring it out. And if you just relax around it, you'll be able to access even more clarity. I talk about clarity is almost like a neighborhood cat, right? Like not an indoor cat, but an outdoor cat. And you'd like to develop a friendship with cat. Maybe not if you're not a cat person, but you'd like to develop a friendship. And so finally the cat comes up and allows you to pet it. That's clarity as it starts to unfold. And then you pressure the cat too much. You think now you've got a trust relationship, and then you scare the cat off, right? Too aggressive with your friendliness. That's sort of the same thing that we do with clarity. We pressure, when clarity starts to show up, clarity too much. That pressure is a tension. It moves us into a tracked state, and then we don't have the space available. So patience is very, very important. Questions are very, very important. And ask, right? Asking is like prayer. Desire for more clarity. If you don't have clarity, ask and you shall what? Receive. And so there were plenty of time in our business as Carol and I were building it that we got to a point where we didn't have clarity about either number one, what would be the next thing for us to do that felt blind purpose driven, or number two, strategically how to execute on. And so we would move into ask or prayer, right? I am open and available for more clarity insights around what we should do. I'm open and available for more clarity and insights how to achieve this goal or the outcome that I have clear on. And then you become patient. And again, this is not an encouragement to do nothing. As you start to have thoughts, ideas, as clarity starts to unfold, it's your responsibility to be a steward and instrument for the clarity via the mechanism act in order to materialize that has clear meaning vision or your nation into the but it needs to come from an inspired place, you can pressure your clarity to my clarity is on its own, especially when you have already removed the resists of I have no idea and you're utilizing these other cool order clear, looking at what you don't prefer in your experience, knowing opposite desire, ask power of questions. And now you're allowing this folding of clarity moving forward over with pace from an inspired pressure that you put on it will prevent clarity of curry. My grandfather had this little toy on his coffee table called the Chinese finger trap. It was a little straw device, put your fingers at both ends. And as a little kid, I'd start pulling to get fingers out and both ends tighten even more aggressively around gears. That's sort of what have cut yourself off, suffocate yourself from the clarity that's always available. And so we need to go back to the core principles, right? Relax, joy, have vision, allow vision, be open and faith. And when you do that, when you know that clarity is your birthright, it's something outside of all the concerns. And that if you want to have superhuman like clarity and rewire your brain clarity, it's about removing the resistance that there I guarantee no matter what it is, whether it's optic band life that you want to create, whether it's in health, relationship, wealth, business, most experienced life or your spiritual development purpose, not only knowing what you want, but how you're going to be able to create that is something that is just moment wave doesn't take a long time to get clear, but it can take a lifetime if you allow this to you. So that's the way to have superhuman clarity. Again, if you love this episode, if it's been helpful for you, if you've been wanting to get clear about something and no one's broken down clarity for you in a way that you framework stand and you enjoyed the episode is useful. Leave me a comment, leave me a review. I read all of them scribe to the channel and I will see you in the next one.