Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. And so happy to be

spending some time with you. And I'm so grateful to have you

here.

I hope you feel safe, I hope you feel relaxed outfit you feel

content. And if you don't, then I hope that this episode will

bring you peace and value and

you being able to recharge your batteries.

Relaxing, being able to relax, is going to become a very, very

highly prized activity here in the future, I have a feeling

if you don't know how to relax, if you don't know how to let go,

you will hold that tension you will build up

energy inside of you and

energy has to flow. And if it gets stuck inside of you, if you

can release it, then sickness can arise, or depression

or other stuff that you really don't want in your life. So it

is really important to find out ways on how you can relax best

in the most nurturing and beneficial way possible.

Today, I want to talk about you being 100% You feeling

attractive, you feeling confident, you just simply

feeling good about yourself.

All too often I see people and I just think to myself, hey, that

person really has good potential, hey, that person is

really attractive.

Hey, that person must be so confident with everything they

have accomplished.

And then you scratch a little bit at the surface and you you

know, get into a conversation, start asking questions, go

beyond small talk. And you find out that person is really not

happy with herself.

That person is super successful, but he's so judgmental and harsh

with himself.

Or this person over there is super attractive and is probably

super confident. She looks like she has it all and more than I

have.

But no, you ask her. And she doesn't feel that way. She

perceives herself very differently than how the

external world is perceiving her.

So this is why I want to talk about this today. And I'm going

to take a little break here now because the wind is really

picking up in the background.

And I want to make sure you can relax and not feel agitated by

this wind.

So the first thing I can say

to like a tool that truly works when it comes to feeling better

about yourself is to start

taking genuine care of your body. And what I mean by that is

that You are mindful and present with what you consume on a daily

basis.

Through your mouth, through your eyes, through your ears, through

sensations like physical touch

and how you consume it so not only

what you eat, for example, but how do you eat it. There's so

many health buffs out there and they talk about Yeah, you having

to drink more water you having to eat less chocolate, you

having to eat more greens, blah, blah, blah. We know all this

already. And if you want to look up health tips, there is so much

out there that could be the right thing for you. What is

important for me to talk about with you today is how we consume

it. So let's stay with food. The example of eating How do you

eat? How do you prepare the food? are you grateful for the

food that you eat?

shoved into your face or face. Or are you very mindful about

cooking it and preparing it. And then you make it really a

celebration of gratitude and nourishing experience for all

senses. You know, even the way I talk about it, now you can feel

and and hear that it is very different for your body for your

soul, if you just eat something on the go, or if you make the

time to sit down

with yourself or with a loved one, and to then celebrate your

meal, you will see such beautiful changes. Once you

become more mindful with how you eat,

it will affect your confidence, it will affect your health, it

will affect your relationships. And

now you can say what it's just about eating Yeah, I know, I

gotta eat three times a day or two times a day. But the way I

eat really has such a big impact on my life. Yes, it does. It is

the little things are the big things that we do on a daily

basis that will shape our mind that will shape our body that

truly and shape our relationships. It is from the

inside out that you want to be confident, right? You don't want

to be that chick who puts on tons of makeup and is like super

literate about

beauty tips and stuff. But on the inside, you feel hollow and

dead and super ugly. No, you don't want to be that chick. And

you also don't want to be that guy who runs to the gym five

times a week to have these awesome muscles and you look

great in the mirror. But when you go on a date, when you go

outside your little box

and mingle with people, you actually feel super awkward and

weird, and not good about yourself at all, even though you

look attractive.

So it is how you make your bed. It is how you brush your teeth.

It is how you have a shower

that will shape how you feel inside. You know if we do things

repetitively in a rash, without big consideration, and it has to

be done. I have to get this done because otherwise I'm not going

to function otherwise I'm going to fall apart.

It is the way we approach things that these things will either

turn into a must do. Or into a yes, I want to do this for

myself because I'm Absa fuckin lewdly worth it.

And again, in the tone of my voice, you can hear that a

person who is truly attractive truly content with her or

himself

is

feeling worthy.

Making the time

making the time to enjoy the little things.

And other things thing that will make you feel super attractive,

is if you find a hobby, even better if it's a job, but a

hobby is

awesome enough already, that you can totally immerse yourself

and.

And it can be everything that you can think of.

If you put your focus into it, if you have that drive to become

better if you have that passion, if you you know wake up in the

morning and it just lights you up to know that you can engage

in that activity. Again, this is the activity you should actively

pursue.

And another thing that I want to add to that is if that active

activity happened to serve a bigger purpose

if it happens to serve other people

right outside of your bubble,

or even humanity

if that activity is simply bigger than yourself, you know

on a day where you just feel like I have a headache or

today I don't really have a time the time for it.

But you could do it

anyways, this is an activity that you should cling on to with

your life.

You know, these videos who receive like over millions of

clicks on YouTube, of, you know, street sweepers or

people have McDonald's or, you know, jobs that people in

general look down

to.

But you see the people in the videos who are truly enjoying

themselves, and they, you know, they engage in the activity,

because they know, it serves a bigger purpose. They love what

they do so much because they know, it serves a bigger

purpose. And that is so incredibly attractive.

Another thing that is so beautiful to see and to watch is

when someone is in a state of flow, and again, it doesn't

matter what it is, is it a chess player? Is it a swimmer? Is it a

tree climber? Is it a tennis player? Is it a musician? Is it

a magician? Is it a mechanic,

I think you know what I mean. But

let's say it differently, that person is describing something

to you, or demonstrating something to you. And they have

this spark, they have this

electricity, they have that, you know, ecstatic feeling that

sparks over to you.

When they just talk about it, they're super excited about

something. And for you, as a listener, you either can totally

relate and you're like, Yeah, this is how I totally feel about

it, too. Or no, no, no, I don't fucking get why you can be so

excited about it. But I just love your energy about this. And

I want, I want that too, right. So this is super attractive,

when someone can be a super nerd about something, and so excited.

And again, if that's something that the person is excited

about, serves other people can help other people to do the

same, to heal, to grow to learn whatever it is, it is so

incredibly attractive.

So I want you to take a moment now

and to think about,

if you can apply what I'm saying here.

And I want you to close your eyes. Of course not. If you're

driving or operating machinery, please don't do that. But if

he's sitting on your couch,

I want you to think about this. Like,

do you really think that attractiveness is only how you

look like?

Don't you know that you have so much to offer and maybe you're

just not, you know, quite ready to share it with the world yet.

One sentence that I absolutely hate to hear

is you're not living up to your potential, you have so much to

offer to this world. Yet, you are not living up to your

potential. This is such

a crazy mean sentence. And I know people will say that mean

that good.

Intentions are awesome.

But some of the worst paths that people have worked, walked here

on planet earth were paved with good intentions.

If you are not ready to shine your light yet, if you have to

do some healing first, some forgiving first.

Then acceptance

is your best friend. And your most attractive tool. You know

to to know for yourself, hey, this is where I'm at right now.

I'm broke. I'm addicted. I'm

not taking good care of my body.

I'm not making time for my friends. I'm an asshole to my

relatives. This swim ad right now.

I see it. I accept it. But I don't want to sit in it for much

longer. I want to change it. I want to make a difference.

I want to feel better about myself.

Then this is so absolutely valid. And then you're going to

make baby steps.

towards betterment, you're going to slowly but surely, take

better care of yourself, because you will start to learn how

endlessly precious and worthy you are.

Another thing that is totally attractive

is boundaries, being able to set boundaries. And if you're the

absolute people pleaser, it will hurt at the beginning, it will

feel super awkward because you're so used to serving others

and pleasing others and all that jazz. But then also I can tell

you, you're probably that person who gets left for the hassle

down the street or for a person who is rarely, rarely, you know

certain about how they feel about themselves. What do you

communicate when you are an absolute people pleaser? Is that

Yeah, you are serving other people. But also, yeah, you can

get trampled all over and you are replaceable. Sorry to say

that, but this is what people make of it. And I'm sure that

you can nod

and say yes to what I just said to that harsh reality.

So a person

is being left for an asshole. And then yeah, look at the

person who left you. Sometimes they confuse someone being

confident and having boundaries with an asshole, which is their

problem. But when it comes to you, please know that for a

person who is getting to know you, or knows you better longer

to learn what your boundaries are to know what you're no is to

know what you absolutely yes, is so incredibly sexy.

Someone who tells you no is not someone who rejects you.

It is someone who tells you, hey, this is what I want to be.

And this is how I want to.

Sorry, not what I want to be, but this is how I want to be

treated. And I want to be in a relationship with you. But I

want you to respect this boundary.

Of course, there's compromises and all of that, but to know

where your limits are, is incredibly attractive, and is

going to attract people to you because this means that they

themselves are also allowed to set boundaries with you, and in

turn are able to be totally authentic. And this creates

trustworthiness. And trustworthiness is one of the

sexiest things that there is on planet Earth.

I quickly want to dive into a female's experience of life.

And this is just me and my experience. And it might apply

to many, many women out there as well. But I don't want to

generalize too much, although I love doing that.

A woman wants to feel safe. I want to want a woman wants to

know that she is with a man that is respected in society.

So if you can be trustworthy, if you can have you know your edges

if you can have your own hobby,

your focus, your determination

then you have everything to feel attractive for yourself. And

this will

shine through your eyes throughout the shine through

your movement. shine through your words and you can be your

most attractive version that you want to be that you can be

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come from, what your story is, what your experience is, and I

really hope you feel a little more attractive when you exit

this episode today.

Alright, take good care of yourself, and I will be out

there again on Thursday.

Bye bye