He's very self centered and just hasn't actually been in love. Like,
doesn't know how to had a woman on his arm or something. Different women.
Like, I'm pretty sure a challenge accepted was, can I sleep with
a woman on Every month or was it every week? I think it was Monday.
It was every day a different woman for a month. Rise
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Look at us just trucking along. This is kinda fun.
So today, we have a guest. And I'm really
excited. This is somebody that Sam has known
through a Facebook group for a while. And
when we first started the podcast, Sam, you came to
me and you were like, there's this girl. She's so cool.
She's so nice. She's nonjudgmental. I've never in my life been
in a drama free Facebook group. And
this is a drama free Facebook group. And it's called what's the name of
your group again, Lola? It is Not Your Mama's Mom group
Okay. On Facebook. Okay. And Lola, who,
is the creator of the Not Your Momma's Facebook group.
And tell us a little bit about that.
So I kinda started it when my son was maybe 6 months
old, like, 4 years ago almost now. That's your first
baby? Yes. My first baby. So I didn't really have, like,
a close community or, you know, friends and family to
kind of help me and get advice from. So
I and also all the other mom groups that I was
in were just so toxic, like, the drama and
Impressive. Yes. For no reason. Like, why are you coming at
me like that? We're all supposed to be, you know, knitted together,
helping each other. Like so I like
so many groups. The other mama groups are like, if you post,
hey. I'm having a hard time trying to make a
decision about, do I give my baby the COVID vaccine or
not? Then, like, another mom will jump in and be like, if you give your
child the COVID vaccine, you're a fucking idiot. Yeah. But then the other moms will
jump in and be like, oh, you all are gonna kill the population if
you don't. And it's like, woah. Woah. Woah. She just asked you to, like
you know, like, there's no need to attack somebody like that.
So after seeing that in so many of the groups, I just wanted to create
something that made me feel good and made other people feel good and
safe. And, you know, like, we're all in it together as a
community at the end of the day. You know? So so
I actually how did you get such a cool group of
people? Like, where did you start? Did you send it out to your not
must not have been your your where did you get people?
What did I do? I think I may have shared it with a couple of
my friends, and they just started inviting people. Like, the group
started in Lilburn, and that's where I'm from. And a lot of people
went to high school with me there. Yes. So, it's based out
in Lilburn. So a lot of people from Lilburn have joined, but also
other people, like from different states, different countries. We have
a couple people from the UK and Canada, Australia, stuff
like that. So, I mean, it gets shared pretty much everywhere. And the
more people that, other people invite, you know,
obviously, it starts to chain of, you know, the
in invites and stuff like that. It keeps everyone communicating in a
positive way. Mhmm. Because I I don't have kids. So I'm not trying to
make this about me right now, but I do well, I think I have a
lot of experience with moms and mom groups because I used to
nanny. I nannied for, like, 9 years. I'd
well, my babies suffer quite a few different families, but I,
I would have to say nanny because I was, Yeah. Nanny is a better word
anyway. Baby stat, just like you're sitting on baby, really?
So, anyway, I guess my point is, I remember
going to some of these groups and I'm I
I'm an outsider. I was sitting there watching all of the moms.
Right? I was the one that was watching other I I had brought
children to the group to play for playgroups and stuff, and,
most moms were really nice. I kinda feel like,
sitting back and watching everybody, there is a lot of there
was a lot of judgment. And I feel like for some reason,
we as women, it's easy to, like,
bond over attacking someone else. Does that make
sense? And I I don't love that. It makes me really
sad because when I'm looking at all these women, I feel like I could
see, oh, yeah. She's a little bit insecure in this aspect and
she's got issues in this aspect. But I think that's
more of what it is. Not like because that's not bonding. Jealous
over what you have, I think, is what that is.
Because anger has to send from somewhere else. It's gotta come
from somewhere else, you know? So I think most of the time
when moms in general see something, they're like, oh, I wish I had
that. But also, like, I'm gonna be rude to her because I don't have
that. And I have the privilege to be. It's like, what? Ew. Why? It is
it gives you something to work on for sure. And Melissa, that's a really great
point of view because these mom groups, that's an actually really valid
Mhmm. Point that, like, I
think that You see a lot of it, though. Yeah. Like, that makes a lot
of sense that you would join a mom group because when you're full
day long term taking care of a child, that's really valid.
Why would you not want that support as well to better learn
how to x y z? Like, constantly,
you know, communicate
sense. Right. Right. And I think a lot of times, we just want some
validation that what we're doing is okay, and we forget that
it's okay to say, hey. Well, I think also society
makes us so scared of failure, right, and messing up. Oh,
because either thing that you do is a failure to
someone. Yep. And it's like, you know what? I think that everybody's
just so afraid of just being judged that
they kind of, like, do the judging first, if that makes sense. I think that
happened so long. Yeah. But so I think it's amazing that you could start a
group. But I guess we've introduced Lola, so I was
thinking maybe we go into our topic of today? Yeah. What
is our topic today, fam? Today, our topic is our
top 6 favorite TV shows of all times.
Okay. Why did you decide to do this topic?
I chose this topic because, right now, I'm a stay at
home mom. I don't get to discuss anything with anyone. Like, it's
just the mundane, normal day to day conversations with
just my husband about how was your day? What did you do today?
And if I'm reading a book or if I'm watching a TV show that I've
never seen before, all my commentaries are just in my
head. Something about that TV show that just really,
really I felt really passionate about and really, really loved. I don't have anyone to
share it with. You're right. I can't get
my husband to watch the same shows as me. Exactly. And then we're,
like, we're both going different directions. Right? We're very busy. It's not that Mhmm. We
do have some shows that we watch together, but and it's like, I really wanna
talk to him about this. But, yeah, okay. They don't know what I'm talking about,
so they can't give me any feedback or their opinion on it. Yes. And so
the shows that I have felt something very
passionate about, like, I'll be this I'll be explaining it,
and, he'll be like, that sounds like a really weird thing to
feel passionate about. And I'm like, you just you would have to understand. You would
have to see what I'm talking about to understand why, like, it just feels so
passionate. I will say that we have one show that we,
like, have watched together. And at first, he told me absolutely not. Like, this is
gonna be dumb. But now it's become both of our comfort shows. So there is
one of those. So at least there's one. Are you gonna share?
What is the show? Yeah. So, it's actually
my top one. It's called How I Met Your Mother.
That one. Okay. Have you seen it, Melissa? I
have seen it. I did not get into watching it all the time, but I
have seen it. And it is funny. It's funny. It's cute. Yeah.
So that one is my favorite. It's my favorite go
to, like, if I'm just exhausted,
For those who've never seen it, what's the premise of that show? So that
show, it's about a group of friends, and it's basically just
their life together. The whole point is that the main character, Ted
Mosby, is explaining to his children how he met their
mother through, like, what, like, 8 seasons, 10 seasons? Like,
stories and stuff like that. Yeah. And it's just episodes about
that. Yeah. About And their friendship through along the way and stuff like that. The
ending is probably my favorite. Oh, I actually the ending The ending,
I have seen it. And I cried even though I'm didn't get invested into the
whole thing. Cry every time. It's the only only, only show
that makes me cry every time. But I think it's because it the
ending of that show actually makes me a little frustrated because you have
this long buildup of finding the mother and how he got to the mother and
how he got to his wife and just this, like, basically love story
of how he got to her. And they bring her
in in the last, like, season, so about, like, the last 4 or
5 episodes, honestly. Spoiler alert. Oh,
yes. Spoiler alert. And then so
you fall in love with with this mother and with his
wife, and they don't give you enough time to to
get to know her. They don't give you enough time to get to know her.
And before we know it, it just shows us that she dies. And
that's basically how it ends. And so for me, it's so
frustrating that you just fall in love with this character, and you just fall in
love with her. And then boom, over. She dead.
Yeah. No. That is
so sad. And then anything like where children don't have like a
parent like that just gets me. That's so hard for me. And then the
other but the but the part of the ending that I do love
is that I love very much, the, what's that
word called, the character change in Barney, his
progression, and how his character changes because
he goes from not ever wanting a family, not ever having
love, like, just not having that as well. Self
centered, right? He's very self centered and just hasn't actually
been in love. Like, doesn't know how to He always had a woman on his
arm or something. Different women. Like, I'm pretty sure a challenge
accepted was can I sleep with a woman on Okay? A
different day of the month. Every month or was every week? I think it was
Monday. It was every day a different woman for a month. Yeah.
That sounds like a lot. Yeah. And it ends with him having
a baby and finally having that connection of finding a true love. And it was
his little girl. Oh, I have a
baby. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It was so good. And
like, and that's just my favorite. That's my favorite go to
for a background television because it's just I know
exactly what's gonna happen. I can really laugh with it. I love their quotes and,
like, their inside jokes, and I I freaking use their inside jokes, like, in real
life all the time. So which one of you wanna go first?
What is your top favorite go to? So I have
a few shows that I have to choose a top. I don't think I can
do that. I just I've never been one of those people that can choose a
top, but I can choose, like, a top 5. Beautiful. But
I'll just give you guys a couple. I've got, like, the office, parks and rec,
the IT crowd. Do you guys know that one? I don't know that one. I've
actually never seen any of those. I know I'm, like, a minor of the group.
That's okay. And then New Girl, which I've been
doing now. New Girl. It's the best. The best. I am obsessed with
New Girl too. So oh, and then one more. Sorry. The Mindy Project.
I love The Mindy Project so much because have you ever
watched I've heard about it. Alright, girl. You're gonna have to pick 1. The Mindy
Project then. I'm gonna pick The Mindy Project. Okay.
She played Kelly in The Office, but, anyway Oh, I know
who you're talking about. Yeah. I think it's Mindy Kaling is her name. She
plays a gynecologist, who's, like, in her
twenties, late twenties, early thirties, and living in, like, New York. The
relatable. Trying to, like, date. And
I love it because she's kind of she's a very flawed
character. Very flawed. She's relatable,
but, like, she's also kind of a bitch. She's okay.
So she's not she's not always that nice, but,
she's kinda self centered. That's self reflection. Yes.
Does she at least progress into, like, a grown character? Like
it's like the episodes clearly show that it's not
a secret. Like, everybody knows she is, and I don't know. I feel like she
kinda works. I don't know. I think anything that could make you look at yourself,
like, am I like that too? Is a good is a good
thing. I wanna say yes. Yes.
She does. She ends up having a kid and kinda yeah. No. She
does. It's just very slow. And I don't know. For me, maybe it
was slow for me too. I'm 43, and I wanna say a lot of
the things I learned about my life, I didn't really learn till well into my
thirties. And so I don't know. Maybe
maybe that's another reason I kind of relate to her, and I like her. But
some of my favorite comedians are from that show. They're, like, they're knit.
Yeah. To add that to my list? Yeah. Yeah. It's it's it's
really good. She's just got all of these stereotypes in this show
too. Like, she has, like, the New York guy who's, like, super tough, and
he can't get in touch with his feminine side. And then, like, there's the other
male gynecologists that work upstairs from them that they have a rivalry
with. And they're super, like, holistic, and they don't believe
in natural or they only believe in natural medicine. And so
she's obviously, like, an MD doctor, and so there's,
like, a huge clash there. They just have all these
stereotypes in it, and I That's a real life stereotype, though. Yeah. That is a
real life clash. Mean. Right. So I don't,
I don't love stereotypes in real life, but I like being able to kinda pick
them out and see and be like, you know what? Just because they're being stereotyped
But that's exactly what we're here to talk about. It's like just because
you strictly believe in one aspect, one
one side, and someone else strictly believes in one side, it's
real life. And what we're trying to do here, Melissa, is we're trying to
get people to nicely see there are two sides to this coin. And
just because we don't agree, doesn't mean that we can't
be friends. That's or have a difference of opinion.
Yes. So it's really fun. I think I'm also someone who will
pick out those stereotypes also and be like, oh, that's interesting.
They're really ugly to each other. Note. Let's not do that,
Samantha. Like Right. Okay. I like that,
aspect, that point of view. Sounds good. So what's yours, Lola? What are
you gonna share with us? I think my top one is probably Grey's
Anatomy. Like, top, top, top because I've seen it about 10
times already. I think most people have. Wow. Most people I actually never have seen
it all the way through. It's amazing. I haven't seen it all the way through
all the new seasons because there's, like, 19 seasons now. Right. Yeah.
It's it'll take you, like, months. Like, probably.
Yeah. I think it would take me a year to watch it from beginning to
end, honestly. But, I mean, it's a great show. Formulaic, though. Right? Like, it's
not just, oh, there's, a sickness or a problem. We
have to find out what it is. Oh, no. No. No. No. No. No. No.
It's, like, based on the characters. Yes. Do you go through the family
characters' lives, like, what's happening in the offices and, like,
the doctors' offices and, like, there's so much drama
in it. And there's no drama in my life, so I need drama somewhere else.
You know? Like really valid. That's very I need it. I
crave it, but I don't want it in my life. You know? So I just
watch it somewhere else. Ever hear how, like, women are
a well, I say our age, but, women are addicted to, like,
the true crime and the serial killer podcast. Crime.
Yes.
And watching kids. I need some excitement. Yes. Yeah. That's, you know
very true. So it just it brings me out of my shell, and I'm
like, oh, yes. Let's let's watch someone else get into it.
Yes. For real. I love it. I don't have relationship problems, but oh my
god. Let me eat my popcorn, you know? So I think that's
I love that. It's something I crave, you know? If you
could tell me, like, those I think anything with a little
spice in it, like, like, all those books I read are spice. So
there's gotta be some type of spice or, like, you know, hotness in it.
Otherwise, it's just like That passionate, like, cooking. I
will say I'm not, like, a super spicy TV
watcher. See it. Yes. I don't want to see it. I
actually don't watch a lot of things with nudity. I don't either. So
the fact that Grey's Anatomy
has that spiciness without the, like, actual visual showing everything
because you don't have to do that to to enjoy spicy. True.
You don't. Just my personal opinion. I agree. I agree. Yeah. I don't wanna
see booty and titties anywhere. I no. I
don't, like, want to, but I ain't trying to stare. Don't mind. But you're
right. Sometimes it's just gratuitous. Right? Like, sometimes, like, what was the
point of that? Right. Did it even add anything? There's,
like, a part of me that's bright. That's, like, there just because and then there's,
like, a part of me that's, like, okay. At this point, I
have seen, like, 10 pairs of tits. Where's the dick? Literally.
Yes. Why are the men bodice? Yes. Every single time, I'm like,
what? I wanna see some man booty. Right. Not woman booty.
Right. Right. Like, I think if there's never Give us
give us both some. But the man and the women. Better. Right. And I
think that I am getting better at it. I think that for a long time,
there was also, like, a sense of, like, self consciousness in it of, like For
sure. Okay. I wanna look like that. Yeah. Right? Yeah. Exactly. And
now I'm just more confident in how I look. Mhmm. Yeah. Because I've had that
surgery. And so now it's You
don't have to say I'm confident in how I look because I've had that surgery.
You can just be like, I'm hot. I mean, now I feel hot. But You
are. You are hot. You are, girl. Yeah. Yikes. But now
it just takes away some of that insecurity and that jealousness. So now it pops
up on TV. Again, I don't I'm not gonna watch a long love scene
where there's nudity in it. It just makes me uncomfortable. Mhmm. But I
grew up very sheltered, and I kind of was taught to cringe.
Like, my parents would cover my eyes during kissing scenes,
and I don't I've kind of worked hard not to be like that. And
so there is a part of me that does feel uncomfortable when I watch those
scenes too. Just because it's engraved in your head. Yeah. But I don't wanna be
that way. I wanna be like, wait. This is just a this is our natural
body. But I do think it has to do with this it does need to
have to do with the story or else if it's just there for, like, clickbait
Just because. Yeah. That's not That is so funny because I don't
feel like I was sheltered. I'm just naturally, like, cringe about
it. And you were sheltered, so it makes sense that that's
programmed in your brain to, oh, I'm supposed to cringe. But I
also could see why that makes you feel like I shouldn't
be cringing. This is natural, and I'm gonna feel natural about this. Right. And
I feel like I should be too in a sense, but, like, I just can't
I can't bring myself to, like, sit there and watch it. Exactly. The same. I
have, for years, been like, this shouldn't make me cringe. Come on. Snap out of
it. Snap out of it. And so then finally, I was like, I think it
just makes me uncomfortable, and I think I can just accept that.
Like and, you know love that. I'll be respected for it. It's
fine. Right. If you have people around you that actually care about you, they're gonna
respect you. Like, there is this movie,
Leonardo DiCaprio movie. What was it? The wallflower movie. And
there's so much nudity in that. Is that, like, Wolf on Wall Street or
something? I think so. Okay. So much nudity in that. Yeah. I
haven't watched it. My husband literally turn it off, like, 2 minutes. I'm watching
it. No worries. Turn it off. Yeah. Oh. And it's with naked girls
everywhere. I'm like, what the Yeah. I have a question. Why? I
think I I feel like that would stress me out too. Because I feel
like they're trying to get a reaction for that. Yes. Right? Yes. It's
just been too many sensory overload too. Okay. I feel like we got off
topic. Lola, did you explain why
Grey's Anatomy makes you passionate? And I just need some kind of,
like, brain tingling reinforcements. Do you know?
That feeling like you're a Grey's Anatomy doctor. Like, oh, I know what I'm talking
about. Be a part of the team. Like, I'll be like, baby,
Let's go. New orthotics. Yes. Like, let me fix your boo
boos. You gotta know doctor. You gotta stab that pin into the
trachea. Yes. And then you gotta, like, put the little,
little thing down there and just yeah. The tube thank you. The trachea
tube, get the get the 4 on not the 409, but the, like, the
Fisler clips. You clip it off like any like, there's just
so many possibilities. I really wanna be an OB.
Who wants to go on topic number 2 or, show
number 2? I can. Shoot. Well, shoot. Do I choose something
because here's the thing. Something that
has me Something that just really has you
really feeling it and, like, why? Okay. It's Fargo.
I love all seasons of Fargo. Have you guys ever watched it?
No. Melissa, you are way more, like,
TV show knowledgeable than we are. I like this. I don't know. I don't know
about that. So Fargo is really
interesting to me because it's kind of like
watching a piece of art. The music is so good.
You're sometimes you're just like I was listening I was watching
it the other day, and I we have a roommate.
My husband and I have somebody that's staying renting a room from us,
and he has never seen Fargo. And I was imagining, what
does it sound like to him? Because there's long periods of just music
Oh. And you're watching things happen, but you're not bored.
You're it's very you're kind of feeling the anxiety and the tense
and this. And No. I really appreciate
you bringing that up because some of the other shows that, like, are on my
list, like, it's because of the emotion
that they make you feel because of Because I wanna cry today.
Because yes. Because of the art and because the way it's videoed because of
the way it's directed. Yeah. And that's like what you just explained is
like, you love it because of the way it's basically
directed and portrayed. Really cool shots and
Tell me what is it about. Fargo is an anthology
series, meaning that each season's a different
story, different time period. Oh. And it's basically
this weird murder that happened in this little tiny town. She's
pregnant. She's a police officer. And I love that they made,
I loved that there was, like, an odd woman.
She's kinda like but she's not stupid. She's smart, and
she figures things out and while being in the oddball. Yeah. And so
that first season kind of was based on that on the
on the TV on the movie, I mean. Well, actually, the other thing
I like about it too is because there's always multiple stories going on and how,
like, sometimes they intertwine and the people from this story have no idea that
something over here totally affected what happened to them. Oh.
Yeah. It's so fun, and it's so ironic too. Probably
happens in real life, honestly. For sure. It's just it's really too smart.
How aggressive is it? They call her the type
oh, like, do you mean aggressive. Like, trigger Abuse.
Abuse. Like, abuse? This this this season, I would say,
yes, maybe trigger warning. Yeah. This season, it was
really interesting, actually. So like I said, it's art. So when she
went back to, like, deal with her past, they did it in a way
where they showed it through a puppet show. And it
was kinda it was creepy, but it was also, like, I
was really glad they weren't showing real people because it was It would have
been graphic. Yeah. And if you've ever had had a situation, like, with
sexual abuse or anything like that, it could have it could have triggered you for
sure. Like, I was Okay. Well, that's good to know because there's definitely shows like
Outlander is a lot of people's, like, favorite show. And I can't get
past, like, the first and second episode because that's that's enough
trigger for me. Like, I can't get past it.
Okay. So So I think her topic really
reminded me of, Stranger Things just because there's so many
different things happening I love Stranger Things. The show. And then I
love it. And then, like, there's, in the
not chapters. I'm trying to Seasons. Books. In the, seasons. Thank
you. There's different, like, sceneries
and different places that the demogorgons are
taking over, you know. So it's like, it's not in the same spot, but it's
nest it's in the same, like, town. Mhmm. But
he he just goes to different places around the town. It's
like different dimensions? Yes. Right? Is that Yeah. Yeah. The
up and the down. Yeah. It's honestly so good, but I hate
waiting so long for the seasons. Mhmm. Because I think it's been
almost 2 years now. So what about stranger things,
like, makes it one of your go to shows? It's just how
interesting it is and all the characters. I really love the character, like, build
up and displays, the attachments that you
make too. There was one attachment, what's his name? The long
haired guy with the curly hair. Oh, Billy Billy?
Yes. Billy. He was really bad at first
Really? With his sister. Yeah. That's right. His
character development kind of changed to protecting the town
and doing all this stuff for the people of the town. So and he was
cute. I know. And so there's, you know, a plus. Yeah. He did do
some things to kind of redeem himself, and I was like, they're gonna try
to change him, and now I'm supposed to like him, but he's a bad guy.
He's such a he was so mean, but then they share his
history with his mom and you're crying, and you're like, damn
it. Mhmm. But then Yeah. Basically. Yeah. But
it's good because it kinda brings us back to what Sam said
earlier. Why do we why does everything have to be black and white?
Why? Mhmm. Like, things are not just one way. Like, there
are different ways to see the same side of the coin or off different money.
You know what I'm saying? Mhmm. And if you see someone
like, it's it's someone that you knew in high school and you just see
them as this person that they were in high school, that doesn't mean
that that's who they are at 30 years old. Right. Like,
I would hope that, you know, the same bully in
middle school or the same bully in high school is not that bad
person here at 30 years old. I would have hoped they had some kind
of change within themselves. You know? Right. You're
right. And, also, we don't even know what was happening to have them
act the way they were acting back then anyway. Right? What were they exposed
to? What were they like, something's always happening behind closed doors that we
don't know about. Always. Yes. Always. You know, now that we're older,
you know It's interesting. To the show point, like, you don't
you can change your mind because people change, and it just shows that people change.
And you don't have to treat them like they were before. Yeah. So
Billy, is he one of your favorites? Probably. And
then, what's her name? The girl that works at Chips Ahoy.
Oh, you're vegan, like Maya. Well, her real life. No. Is her real
life? No. That's her name in real life. Real life. Okay. I was like, I
don't know her name's in real life, but yeah. Yeah. The girl with the blonde
shirt hair, is that who it yeah. I love her. She is so funny and
she reminds me of me, like, her weirdness, quirkiness is like
Same. Oh, I love her. She's so cute and everything too. And, like, her
and Steve, their relationship was so cute. Best friends. Really is.
Oh my god. You if you haven't watched it yet I have watched it
because my husband's obsessed with it. It's the best. And, usually, I don't like
shows like that. It's not one of the ones. Not normally.
I'll read books about it, but I'm just now starting to get in,
like, my fantasy realm and stuff like that. So I'm kind of opening up
more to it. But I think when I started watching it, it
was when it first came out, and I was like, yo, what is
this? Like, I've never watched anything like this before. So it sucked me
in immediately. I was like, Brett, you have to watch this show. It's about
kids playing Dungeons and Dragons in the eighties. And he's like,
okay. Yeah. It was definitely the opposite for us. Simon's like, oh, I love it.
You gotta watch it. It's so good. And I'm like, but it's children.
Like, I don't I have enough children to watch. I mean,
most of them are, like, adult ish. Now I understand. Now I
understand why. It's it is a good it's a good take. Okay.
So my my show number 2, let's see. I think
we talked about Lola's. We talked about your show 2 number 2. My show number
2 that I just watch all the time well, not all the
time, but, like, when I just want something familiar, is Jane the Virgin.
And a lot of people look at me like I'm insane. Like, that show is
so stupid. But It's so cute.
It's very comical. It's very It's like an umbrella. It
is. It's a telenovela. Mhmm. And it's really Is it like ugly Betty
was? I never watched that. I haven't watched it either. It's very,
it's it's it's basically an Americanized telenovela. I said
that wrong. So it's things that would
typically not happen in real life. Mhmm. But
part of why, especially now, I appreciate that so much is
because my life is a telenovela. Like, things that are
happening,
And so it's just there's a lot of comedy in it. But then I also
really like the aspect of where it brings in
the challenges, and it really shows you the struggles of an
immigrant family that has moved into America and the
troubles that they go through and how they're treated. And, and
it's just like, I'm getting goosebumps thinking about it. It's just very,
like, it's nostalgic. It's
like, to me, it's giving you a different
perspective, like full body. Yes. Like you are experiencing
someone else's experience, and someone does experience that. There are
obviously people that that this that part, that aspect
is their life that we don't understand because we have not experienced
that. So I love that aspect of it. But I also can relate because
of my life experiences, especially currently, but also
the actors, no one else could play them. No one
else could. Yeah.
Gina Rodriguez, no one else could play that part. Like, it
had to have been her her mom I love her mom. Had to be her.
It could not have been anyone else. Her dad could not have been anyone else.
Like like when you watch it, I think you pick up yes. You learn
their characters. And it's like you understand, like, it could not have been played by
anyone else. They really know their character. They do. Like, they
have that body. Mhmm. And that is where my obsession and my
love for Gina Rodriguez has come from. I watch everything she's been.
I love her so much. I wanna be her friend. Okay. What's going on my
list? It's Jane the Virgin. It's really good. Super
cute. It is cute. But and I, like,
I like I don't mind watching shows that bounce back and forth from English to
Spanish. Mhmm. It's got, like, a commentary aspect to
it. So, that's also really funny. Like like, where they're
talking to the camera? Like a narrator person. That narrator in the
background that's speaking Jane is feeling very upset today because
Yes. I love it. Will she get over that feeling?
Yeah. And then it shows you like what and then obviously, it plays
out. And I don't know. I just it's one of
my shows that just makes me feel things. I was looking up
Gina Rodriguez to see what else she's in. Oh, she's in Not Dead
Yet. I've seen that a lot of it. That show, I just started
watching, and oh my god. I haven't watched the last episode
yet. My sister has prepared me to be disappointed, so I'm really
that's why I haven't finished it. It. I kinda stopped. Yes. Okay. I'm
gonna I'm gonna put both of those on my list then.
Okay. So, Lola, give us the number 3
show that you couldn't live without.
Probably Gilmore Girls, just because it's
so comforting to me. And, like, I like the fall seasons
in it, the winter seasons in it. Oh, it gives you all the seasons? All
the seasons. So you get to, like, experience the change and all the
characters, the change in the town, the change in, like, the whole, like,
scenery of it. And just I, to me,
can sit with a cup of coffee and just enjoy it. Feel like you're in
that season with them? That's so fun. Like, this is what I like
to hear about, like, the intense details of why someone likes the show. It's so
good. And just, like, Lorelei is probably one of my favorite just
because I wish I had a mom like that that was so headstrong. And,
like, she is not her daughter's mom, but she's also a friend to
her and teaches her, you know, right from wrong. But
also lets her have, you know, her freedom and what she wants
to write. So I also think though, because she
had her so young, I also feel like she doesn't know how to be a
proper mom and a proper authoritative figure. That's my opinion of
it. Though I could see depending on how you were raised,
that you wish you had a mom like that. So I could see both. For
me, I think it's a lot of irresponsibility and that she should be a
little bit better, of a mom. I just wish because my
parents were, like, they weren't strict, I would say, but
they also had, like, hella rules. You know what I'm saying? So I just
wanted a little bit more, like, honestly, where I could talk
to my parents and tell them, hey. This is how I'm here. I think in
that aspect, but not of, like, so much of the freedom letting me
do this and that, but I just wanted that closeness with my parents. To be
able to just be open with that without feeling Mhmm. Afraid to tell them
something. So it just makes me super uncomfortable. Like, I I or not
uncomfortable but comfortable and I wanna live that life and be in Rory's shoes and,
you know, experience her college aspects and,
you know, go through life with her and just her and Dean and then her
other boyfriend and stuff like that. It's just I just the part
that I see a lot of is that Rory's growing up
feeling like she's the mom and taking care of her mom, and that's something that
I just strongly hope that that is not what my family is like.
It definitely changes in the end for sure, I think. Mhmm. But
Laurel kind of wakes up. Have you seen Gilmore Girls?
So I actually, for the reasons that you're saying, thought that
I would love it because I love small towns. I love, like,
the little coffee shop on the corner with the fall and walking in a sweater
and but I couldn't get into it.
It was really hard. I felt like there was a lot of complaining about how
good their life is. It's a lot of complaining. Lorelei is a
very complacent person for sure, and she gets things handed to her and stuff
too. These are first world problems.
But I couldn't get into it, but
I feel like I the the feelings that you're saying it evokes for you
are is what I or what I expected that it would effervesce. I, I Yeah.
And there's some things obviously that I don't like about it. Like, it's kind of
a not I wouldn't say a slow burn, but,
it just it's really slow and the characters are just, like,
meh. You know, like, their conversations and stuff. Just like,
why are there so many pauses in between? You know, like, what are
we doing? There's some awkwardness. Yeah. It's so awkward. I
it's just one of those shows that I watched one time all the way through,
so I don't have this, like, engraved into my memory. Yeah. The more you watch
it, the more awkward I think it gets. Yeah. Because you just pick up on
all the stuff that you haven't, like, picked up on before. Annoying.
Yeah. Oh. Why? Why are we doing that? I think you brought up
another Yeah. This makes me feel so weird. Yeah. Like, I think you brought up
a good point actually about how you said the characters are meh. Like, I feel
like you're onto something. You kinda have to have, like, a passion
whether you intensely like or dislike one of them. And, again,
there's no black and white. I'm like, I'm not saying they have to either be
good or bad, but, I feel like there's
gotta be something to make you say feel strongly about them, I
guess. Mhmm. You want that? I think you're on to something because,
again, we grow from the first time we watch this show. So if we watch
this show for the first time when we are 19 years old, and now
we're 30 years old rewatching that show, probably what makes us
love and feel passionate about a character may make us different. It will
probably maybe make us cringe in our thirties of, like No internet. They
should not have been acting like that. They should not have said that. They should
not have, like, I would hope that I wouldn't be reacting like that at
their age. And I bet that as we grow
ourselves and as we age ourselves, that how we feel about a
topic and a character at one age is not how we feel later.
Yeah. That's right. Because I mean, for now, I could rewatch it now.
And then my feelings might, you know, be different. That's very possible. It
may have been like a favorite at one stage, otherwise. Because it was a while
ago when I first started it. So it's just boring to me
now. Yeah. So I'm just like, no. I love the
coziness of it. Obviously, just it's so so. Is it
still like your number 3 show? Probably. Just still to have it in the
background? Yeah. Because I'm so you see it, but hearing the noises and stuff
that goes on. So, like, comfort. Yeah. I just it's that
comfort. You know what to expect, and you can't be disappointed because you
already know what disappoints you and what. So it's
just either that or I put on something else that I have no interest in
and then end up changing it to something that I have, you know,
a comfort. That makes sense. That's because if I don't like it, I'm gonna change
it right back. Well, it reminded me of the phrase, the enemy, you know, is
sometimes just because you know, like, what to expect. So sometimes,
having something that you don't love on but you're comfortable with it is better than
having something new on that you're not sure even if you
objectively might say, oh, I kinda think that technically is a better show.
Well, who knows? There's so many things to rate shows, but but you know what
I'm saying. Mhmm. Like Yeah. Interesting. K.
Melissa, give us your next, like, must have show that you're just
passionate about. I guess I would say
office and parks and rec, comfort wise. They're just kinda
like they're just quirky, weird people that
I hate. Everyone's quirky and weird. Yeah. Yeah. I
love it. I have to say that I'm probably the odd one
out, and I have not watched either of them because something about the
filming of it, I can't I can't get into it. The
filming. The close ups The documentary style. Weird.
Yes. Which is so good. I love documentaries. It it
makes it it's so awkward. Well, maybe it's the
awkwardness. Right? I think that I think it you're right. I think I've seen,
like, 1 like, a couple of episodes, and then I'm like, oh, that's
cringy. Like, oh. Feel like that secondhand embarrassment for them
sometimes. It's intense, and I, like, I don't wanna feel I don't wanna feel
like that. Like, I'm already embarrassed in, like, anywhere. Watching it
happen. Yeah. Yeah. I feel that for myself enough.
Like, let's not. Okay. I can see that. Yeah. I
can see that. That's funny. But, you relate to, like, that kind of
quirkiness, and you enjoy
Oh, so maybe I should actually I am gonna throw another show with
that. It's the IT crowd. So
this one is British humor, and
it's about these 2 guys. They work in this
for this big corporation. They're the IT guys for this conglomerate of a,
like, Skyrise type office building, but they're in the
basement. And it's really funny just like
they're it's another world down there, and it's just them 2, and they're
both really weird. I love it. I love it so much.
Okay. You have to clarify. It's a whole another world as in, like, literally
another world or, like, they're just in their own little world? Their own
world down there in the basement is like I don't know how to
explain it. Okay. So it's those 2 guys, and then
the company decides they need someone down there managing them. So they
send down this woman who knows nothing about the IT
technical side of things. It's just funny because now she's, like,
thrust into their world. Right? So
they they it does have stories where they try to go out into the world
and, like, date or whatnot, and there's this whole episode where they take
out these prostitutes thinking that they Oh. They don't know they're
prostitutes. Like, they take them to the park Oh my god. And they're, like,
at the amusement park going on rides and stuff together and, like
That makes sense. I could see how that would be funny and, like, entertaining. It's
funny and cute. And one of my other favorite episodes is they have, like, this
underground fight club, but it's an actual spelling bee. What?
And so you know, it's so dumb. I know. So Moss goes
and he says and so they're, like, all in this parking lot
and they're, like, having, like, a throw down, right, with
words. And Moss goes, I came here to drink my milk and kick
some ass and I just finished my milk. And it's like it's so, like, stuff
that's not normal. Okay. This actually sounds enjoyable. Thank you. It's
just stupid. And it's kind of reminding me of Big Bang
feels. Big Bang Theory? A little bit. Yeah. Yeah.
But I would feel like and I think I might only say this
because, honestly, now that I think about it, Big Bang would be a really good,
like, background show. But I think that my next
top three right now is This Is Us. I
am watching it. I'm behind on times. I am watching it
for the first time right now. And I just know I
like I'm I don't commonly watch shows as they come out and
people get real intense into them. So right now,
it's kind of in the past. And so now I've decided to watch it. And,
oh, my god. I just the
the the way the story is played out, the way
this, like the stories are told and the way they intertwine.
Like, it's just I don't know that I've seen a show like that
on how it comes together. It's gonna make you want to cry. I actually know.
I know people who say it makes them cry every episode. And no, I've not
cried. I I got very upset. I mean, I I felt like a
little, like, gloomy after Jack dies. But
My mom, she would sit there and cry at every episode. So that's where I've
been, like No. You know? I think it just depends. I did. I
Aw. I did. It doesn't make me cry every episode, but it just makes me
go, like, and then, like, man, like, the
different perspective, like, you know, as siblings. Like,
you're gonna remember a story and a scenario and a situation one way,
but your sibling has a different glasses on,
basically, of how perspective of that situation. Yeah. What? And what it felt for
them, and they remember it differently. And I think that that's a very interesting,
thing to show because that is true. It is very true. I get that
with my brother all the time. Yeah. And I just I don't
know. I love it and the different paths that you end up taking and
just the love story of the mom and dad and, you know, the
love story that Randall ends up in. And it's just it's just very
cozy. And I just really enjoy watching it play out and how it plays
out and really enjoying it. And I'm sure that I would end up watching it
again. Well, then I'm gonna have to watch that. Mhmm. That's
cute. Yeah. For me, part of it is the nostalgia. Like, they literally are
born the same year I was born. Oh. Well, no. I think they were born
in 79. Either way, I was born in 80.
And so watching, like, all of the back flash flashback
episode, I'm like, oh my god. And you can see what
era you're in as it plays. I I do enjoy that aspect of
it too, and it's like because I laugh all the time. Like, Simon
is not enjoying the show at all. But, like, you know, if I've had a
rough day with the kids, I'm like, tough. I'm gonna watch it because it's gonna
soothe me. And I crack up every time it shows,
like, the time period of when she's got, like, that blue eye shadow, like, all
over her face. I'm like, that is not a good look. God. I remember that.
More blue eye shadow all the time, and she might still to this day. I'm
not sure. My mom still wears blue eye shadow. Oh, really? I swear to
God. That's the only color she will ever wear. It is so funny.
But in I think part of it that, like, I find interesting is
like so you can tell that they change in each season of their
life. And it reminds me of, like,
okay, so I've worn my makeup the same way since high school. And
then now that I just turned 30, like, literally, I'm like, I feel
like I need to, like, redesign myself. Oh, fun. I need to make a change.
I probably shouldn't wear my makeup the same way that I wore it in high
school. And so I've literally been playing with different, like, makeup setups to see, like,
okay, should I wear my eyes like this now? Should I wear my eyes like
that? And it's, like, I've been playing around with my makeup. And so it's just
really funny at my it wasn't that drastic as it is in the show. But
it's, like, to that point, like, where you start seeing a change in my makeup
now, in my clothing. Oh, yeah. And then maybe it'll come back around sometime soon.
Yeah. You know? It's true. It will. I remember when I was
little and my mom would be like, because when
I, not I say little, but when I was a teenager and
the clothes were what are happening now. And so
Mhmm. We wore everything, not just bootcut, but,
like, at and loose and big bootcut. Right? Just kinda like it is
now. But my mom, I remember her saying Oh, that's right. Yeah. I
will I will always wear skinny stones. Like it. But, And I
like the baggy stuff too just Yeah. I remember her saying,
oh, those are the same pants I wore in high school. And I was like,
not really. It's not the same. And No. But it now I'm
feeling the same. I'm like, no. It's literally the It's literally
the same thing. It's freaking old navy. And I'm like, no. Not the
knit spaghetti strap dresses. That is
so funny. That's like I want a whole another episode on that because I love
the generational changes and how people view them because that is like
The kids now are like, oh, it's new. It's like, no. I mean, we had
this back in the day. Flare jeans now with the high top and, like, I'm
you just know that, like, our, you know, another generation is like,
no, that was in when we were there. And now like, the skinny
was is like now like, it's interesting. Yeah. I
think that's that's a whole great another topic. So
what kind of brought this topic on was, I also
saw a, an article in The
Times about why it is that we have these same episodes that we watch
over and over again. And it really just as we were talking about
naturally, like, those topics came up. It was, why do we do this?
And it's, so because we
have, one, feeling like that sense of community
and, feeling like you have someone you
can relate to. And okay, so one of those reasons was it also
can make you feel more restored if you're sitting there scrolling
through, your Netflix or your Hulu and your
Prime and sometimes all of them because you just can't make a decision
because you're exhausted. It's the end of your day. You've already fought all
your children. You've already put out all of the work fires, and now it's just
your time to flop in bed, flop on the couch, and let me just watch
something that just makes me feel whole again and calm.
Yeah. In the article, she said something to the effect that we can Yes. We'll
link that article in case you wanna see where you align. It's nice to have
something familiar. Mhmm. Yes. And what I am struggling
with right now is that all the new episodes that are new
shows that I try, I find that I get hooked hooked hooked
into the show. Maybe lose a little bit of interest, but now I have to
know how it ends. Yeah. My example of this is Pretty Little Liars.
Like, I got hooked again. I'm late to the show. I just started it, like,
a couple of months ago. I'll have to watch that too. I I never did
see it. It it really wasn't worth all the time. Right. Because the ending was
so awful. Oh, okay. It was very disappointing. And then I'm
like, I wasted, like, a month What did you watching the show. Well,
spoiler alert for anyone, but, what did you hate about the ending so much?
It's so left field. Oh. Like, it completely kind of
changes. Like, it doesn't really make sense of
how it got there Okay. I guess? Yeah. Or how they got there?
It it starts with having to Didn't build to anything. It didn't.
No. I don't feel like Okay. I mean Basically, I think that they were
trying to keep up with the factor where you cannot guess.
Mhmm. Like, you the the like, you have to guess who this
person a is that's watching the group, basically. That's destroying
their lives and making it very miserable and very hard. So it
that's it keeps you locked in of, like, okay. Well, who is this person? Like,
let's get to the bottom line. Who is it? Okay. Yeah. But they're also based
on books, so the books may be a little better. Oh, that's probably.
Honestly. So I haven't read them yet. So I wouldn't know.
Yeah. But I would I would assume that books are better than the TV
shows. I would hope more detailed because it just literally goes boop boop
boop boop. Okay. Like, what happened? Okay.
Interesting. You know? Yeah. That's not that's not fulfilling. Right? Okay. So I
know that y'all, like, sneaked in a couple of extra TV shows, but I
think you can't forget to put in friends. Like, who does
not watch friends? Not. I love Friends. Is that not everyone's
backup show? So for Friends,
it Are you about to say that's not for you? Yeah. It
was kind of not really. Kind of. So when it came out,
it obviously, it was in the nineties. I was, like, 12 or 13, I
think. And, all
of my friends watched it, but I wasn't allowed to because it wasn't
like, it was probably in inappropriate, apparently.
Yeah. Looking back now for sure. Yeah. But I didn't want
I didn't so I didn't watch it until I was in my late twenties. And
I did get, like, sucked in, but part of me feels like
that maybe I got I just wanted to know what everybody else
loved so much, and so I watched all of them. And I haven't I
don't know. When I go back and watch them now, like you said, different stages
of our lives, I go whack and watch them now, and I'm like, I don't
know. Things make me cringe. But I could see that.
Yeah. I don't know. Something's wrong. So, like, there's a there was a
part of my a time in my life when it did fill, I guess, a
need because I felt like I was kind of, like, able to get in with
everybody else. That one is for sure. Train too. I would
watch this too. That is for sure the one that's, like, a sense of community,
a sense of being. You feel like they are your friends. Yes. I do. I
feel like I'm in the apartment next door. You know what I'm saying? I'm sure
that each of you have shows that are your comfort shows and your go
to shows. And I'm just curious. Do you are any of the shows
that we mentioned the ones that you guys find the comfort in and the ones
that you guys find the community in? We're gonna post this on our social
medias. Make sure you follow us on Facebook, on Instagram. You'll see
some behind the scene photos, some videos, and tell us Yeah.
What shows are not on our list that should be. I'd love to know because
I, for sure, can share my list Yeah. From the 2 shows I normally watch.
Yeah. I feel like this whole thing was a spoiler. But you know what?
That's okay. Because I feel like once we get into the show, you're not gonna
remember what we said. So You can spoil it. Go watch the shows. Alright,
guys. So we had Lola. Lola, thank you so much for joining us today. Having
me. I had so much fun. It was so fun. So Lola
is gonna be basically our pop in cohost from time
to time, because she has so much to add. And,
it's just fun to have another perspective, honestly. So and that's that's what
we want. So show her some love as well by following
her drama free mama's group. Not your mama's mom group.
Yes. And that will also be in our links. You can see it there.
And let me just say, Lola and I have not met before.
Okay. And she just was like, okay. Cool. I'm gonna go over to your house
and, yeah. Sure. I'll talk on a podcast with you. I think Look at
her. And it was like, honestly, I'm the most awkward person
in the world. I will not walk up to someone and start a conversation. Anxiety?
So much anxiety. I popped 2 anxiety pills before we hopped on here. I all
did. I mean, Lola what? Lola?
Lola. Lola just walked into my house, and it felt natural, and it felt
normal. And I was like, once we sat down in front of the mic, so
I just kinda looked at her and I was like This is it. I feel
like, we met before. Like, we've hung out so many times. This is normal. It
feels good. Right? Yeah. It does. Yeah. Because you never
hardly make friends like that. You have that in con in connection with. It's
like, oh. You know, refer to our, you know, last
episode. Right. Right. Making friends in your thirties.
Alright, guys. It's really nice to have y'all, and we will,
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