Jess Wolf

We launched sky with a community first approach.

Jess Wolf

We partnered with so House and Forbes and there was a fragmented, decentralized coaching market.

Jess Wolf

We're approached by a few really compelling leaders in the space across hr, tech and coaching itself and sounding for particularly, we really aligned with our mission to ensure that everyone had access to a coach that was right for them and one singular, easy to use platform.

Jess Wolf

Being transparent.

Jess Wolf

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Jess Wolf

Welcome back to Lead the Team with number one bestselling author and in demand corporate trainer Ben Fanning.

Jess Wolf

On this podcast, the world's most innovative senior leaders share their top success strategies to motivate your direct reports, cultivate your top leaders and accelerate your career.

Jess Wolf

Let's get started.

Jess Wolf

Here's Ben.

Ben Fanning

All right everybody, welcome back to lead the team.

Ben Fanning

Today I have for you Jess Wolf who is the co founder of sky, the executive coaching platform backed by venture capitalist firms including Stellation, Greylock, Insight and bam.

Ben Fanning

And she's actually also the recently exited CEO.

Ben Fanning

So she's got a fascinating journey and some big things that have happened recently.

Ben Fanning

She's going to share all this with us today.

Ben Fanning

And sky has exited to the sounding board.

Ben Fanning

Go check them out.

Ben Fanning

Jessica's got an incredible background.

Ben Fanning

Formerly head of the Forbes under 30 list and she ran community for Iconics.

Ben Fanning

Jess, welcome to lead the team.

Jess Wolf

Thank you.

Jess Wolf

So happy to be here and excited to be in this conversation.

Ben Fanning

So when you exit a company as CEO, what's the first thing you do?

Jess Wolf

The big question and one I'm getting a lot.

Jess Wolf

I think the advice I've gotten is to take a break.

Jess Wolf

People say you're almost like a soon to be emerging butterfly and so you have to go into the cocoon and reflect and think about what you really loved on your entrepreneurial journey and what you change and lean into.

Jess Wolf

I think your network understanding what other people are working on and what's exciting in their industries to potentially find the next spark for yourself.

Jess Wolf

So I think a little bit like staring into the abyss right now, but eager to, I think, just jump outside of what I've been doing every day.

Jess Wolf

When you're building a company, you're so narrowly focused, you forget about all the things that are happening in the world beyond you.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

There's probably like a crescendo of stress leading up.

Ben Fanning

Like we're trying to do all this.

Ben Fanning

It's so focused.

Ben Fanning

Like you say, we're kind of just so focused on that and then you can get to take a breath.

Ben Fanning

And I love the fact that y'all.

Ben Fanning

Did y'all notice she's asking herself very coaching related self reflection questions, which I am assuming has been ingrained in you throughout the years.

Ben Fanning

And I want to get into the M A, but I'm curious.

Jess Wolf

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

You know, you're relying on those coaching questions now.

Ben Fanning

Why get into coaching?

Ben Fanning

Why build sky in the first place?

Jess Wolf

Sure.

Jess Wolf

So my background's been in community development across a variety of industries, from hospitality to events to media to real estate.

Jess Wolf

And your role as a community builder, of course, is to support the marketing and events and sales related functions.

Jess Wolf

But at the heart of it is to ensure that people within your community are finding the most value possible and attaching that to your brand.

Jess Wolf

And I found that, you know, that's a very human, human role.

Jess Wolf

And so I was often speaking with community members and the things that they wanted at the end of the day were particularly around connection and feeling seen.

Jess Wolf

There's many ways that you can fulfill that.

Jess Wolf

Ultimately, community itself is about connection.

Jess Wolf

So you're offering that there.

Jess Wolf

But as I dove deeper, I realized, you know, the support that a lot of people were looking for existed a little bit within the therapeutic space, but I thought could be even stronger within the coaching arena.

Jess Wolf

And so launched a coaching platform, really to answer the calls I heard throughout my journey as a community builder.

Jess Wolf

And we launched sky with a community first approach.

Jess Wolf

And what I mean by that is our go to market strategy was entirely community driven.

Jess Wolf

And so we started out as a consumer platform supporting individuals and sort of their professional goals.

Jess Wolf

And what we did is we partnered with so House and Forbes to host live events featuring coaches who spoke on their expertise.

Jess Wolf

And this allowed people to get a taste of what coaching could be like for them and build, of course, you know, friendships and relationships, ultimately community.

Ben Fanning

And so, yeah, so really interesting, y'all.

Ben Fanning

So it's not like, hey, you know, Jess was a coach.

Ben Fanning

It's like, hey, I want to bring coaching to what it was.

Ben Fanning

Hey, I was serving communities and we saw this need and instead of Offering where my mind would be like, oh, well, so and so needs a coach, know, I'll, I'll step into that arena.

Ben Fanning

You're like, you know, let's build a, let's build these events and let's build a platform.

Ben Fanning

So that's the way your mind went.

Ben Fanning

Right.

Ben Fanning

Versus the opposite.

Ben Fanning

I think a lot of people say, hey, we're gonna start a coaching company.

Ben Fanning

But that's not where sky started.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, I think the market was also right for disruption.

Jess Wolf

There's fragmented, decentralized coaching market.

Jess Wolf

Not a lot of elements of trust.

Jess Wolf

The tooling was disparate.

Jess Wolf

And I think for coaches and as well as the other side of the market for leadership and HR buyers and leaders, a lot of options, but not necessarily the right options.

Jess Wolf

And so we had an opportunity to come in with something new and differentiated.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

Because the problem is, and I've, I'm ICF certified coach, I've been in that world for a while is, you know, you have executives who need coaches and, but they don't know where to start.

Ben Fanning

And maybe they have, they have their chro say, hey, I need some coaches.

Ben Fanning

And they're like, well, I work with so and so at this company or I saw this person's book or like I say it's very fragmented.

Ben Fanning

It's like a one on one negotiation with these coaches at these executive levels.

Jess Wolf

Absolutely.

Jess Wolf

Which makes it really hard for scale.

Jess Wolf

And so sky and Sounding Board's mission really was to ensure that everyone had access to a coach that was right for them and that the leaders of said organization had the ability to scale that coaching over time and in one singular, easy to use platform.

Ben Fanning

And working with Forbes on the.

Ben Fanning

Was it under 30 list?

Jess Wolf

Yes.

Ben Fanning

What is that like?

Ben Fanning

So the, this is like the superhuman list of people under 30 that are changing the world.

Ben Fanning

Is that, that's the list, right?

Jess Wolf

Yeah, it's.

Ben Fanning

How does one put this together?

Jess Wolf

You know, so I was on the community side and my good friend was running sort of the selection process of the list.

Jess Wolf

But my role is once, once you made the list prior to me coming on board, there wasn't a lot of opportunity for connection unless you decided you wanted to find the people on the list and reach out to them on LinkedIn.

Jess Wolf

And Forbes saw an opportunity to really, you know, leverage these, these leaders for a broader community that would of course, you know, best serve them in their business interests, but also support the Forbes brand and ecosystem.

Jess Wolf

And so we built a worldwide community with boards in all major cities, host about two events a month and tie into our or there now larger summits.

Jess Wolf

So it's a, it's a very tight knit community that's still running today.

Jess Wolf

I love jumping in and out and going to the events in San Francisco and New York.

Jess Wolf

My role was launching that and setting up the structure to ensure that could sustain.

Ben Fanning

So when did you realize in life or maybe the defining moment or a time when you realize I've got a knack for this.

Ben Fanning

Like were you the kid back in kindergarten who was like always having the parties at their house or getting people.

Jess Wolf

Together or, you know, I wasn't.

Jess Wolf

My first role I think really exposed me to the power of community.

Jess Wolf

I was running the first of its kind, ultra luxury co working space and I was their first membership or sales leader.

Jess Wolf

And ultra luxury, yes, it's beautiful in terms of luxury, I should say more creative in terms of design and the food that was served.

Jess Wolf

And I think it was very fashion forward.

Jess Wolf

And so that was kind of unique at the time to have an office that focused so much on the beauty and aesthetics of the space as a means of inspiring your work every day.

Jess Wolf

And they too were very community driven in the sense that they really fostered a connection among the members and encouraged people to meet and become friends and do business together.

Jess Wolf

But when I joined I, I was 22, didn't have a lot of experience and was selling, you know, desks and offices at this space that were maybe four times the amount that was on the market and nearby.

Jess Wolf

And so I quickly recognized that, you know, in order to complete these transactions and sales, not to make this too transactional, but I recognize that, you know, I had to be selling a lot more than just a desk and a chair, but the promise of the opportunity to meet people that might impact their world in some professional or personal way.

Jess Wolf

And so sort of leveraging that and leaning on that, I did end up the community that I think I'm happy to see.

Jess Wolf

There's been marriages that have come out of it and a lot of business partnerships.

Jess Wolf

And I'm still friends with many of the members that were there in the early days.

Jess Wolf

But we, we quickly filled the entire house and became kind of a wait listed membership.

Jess Wolf

And so from there I quickly recognized, you know, community isn't just a soft, fun, fuzzy thing to do, but really it can affect your bottom line dependent on kind of how you're driving community to support revenue.

Ben Fanning

Yes, people want to do business with people they know like and trust.

Ben Fanning

That's that old saying.

Ben Fanning

And clearly if you're building a community and it is more Expensive.

Ben Fanning

And you're saying, hey, yes, it's more expensive here, but we're.

Ben Fanning

Or not.

Ben Fanning

But we are.

Ben Fanning

And we are creating a community of people and there's value in that.

Ben Fanning

The people that are see the value are more likely to join and they're more likely to invest in the community because that's why they're there.

Jess Wolf

Exactly.

Ben Fanning

Self fulfilling, awesome experience.

Ben Fanning

I can see that.

Jess Wolf

Definitely.

Jess Wolf

Definitely.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

Wow.

Ben Fanning

And, and, oh, wow, that's cool.

Ben Fanning

So fast forward to today.

Ben Fanning

So you go through this and you, you see the opportunity, you start this.

Ben Fanning

You know, watch us through.

Ben Fanning

You started sky, when you started sky, were you thinking, hey, I want to build, like I see this opportunity, I want to build this business in a way that it will be attractive to outside, outside investors, other companies.

Ben Fanning

Or did you start it as more of a, hey, I want to create this business because I see the need and then eventually you kind of work towards that, that sales approach.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, great question.

Jess Wolf

So, you know, I created the business because I saw a gap, I saw an opportunity and I thought we had the tools and ability to fix it.

Jess Wolf

I saw an expand market in the coaching space.

Jess Wolf

I saw a lack of tools and like I said, a lack of centralization.

Jess Wolf

Particularly what we saw was the coaching platforms that existed were either really mass or on the flip side of the spectrum boutique and extraordinarily expensive.

Jess Wolf

And more importantly, I found that the coaches that existed on said platforms lacked industry and functional expertise.

Jess Wolf

And so what we did that was unique was ensure that a product leader was working with, you know, a former head of product from Pinterest or, you know, an engineer was working with the former director of engineering at Airbnb and be.

Jess Wolf

And so that context, what we called coaching with context, I thought was really relevant and important to a coaching engagement, which I think goes against a little bit of kind of the traditional ICF coaching model, which is, you know, more akin to powerful questioning and active listening rather than coaching slash strategic advisory.

Jess Wolf

So that's kind of where we differ and how we started to win some pretty big Fortune 500 in public companies.

Jess Wolf

But you know, when I, when I set out on this journey, that's kind of what, where I was.

Jess Wolf

But there's about three paths a founder could take, especially once they take on venture dollars.

Jess Wolf

And we raised and you know, you raise with the expectation that you can build the next billion dollar company.

Jess Wolf

And I think you go in, in there with a thesis of how you can do so, and then I think reality or the market or whatever it is can either accelerate you towards that or you can see, hey, there's, there's things that might not allow us to be that ginormous company.

Jess Wolf

And so what are the paths ahead of us?

Jess Wolf

So of course that one is becoming that billion dollar plus company and going public too is leaning into an acquisition and finding the right strategic or financial acquirer.

Jess Wolf

And then the last I think is probably turning to, I hate, I hate this word because I think it's the wrong word but more like a lifestyle or frankly a cash flowing business that could sustain over time.

Jess Wolf

The fourth option I don't like to talk about because that's a shutdown and no one likes to see that.

Jess Wolf

But of course that, that happens.

Jess Wolf

So three are typically like the most viable paths that you'd look out for.

Jess Wolf

But no, I don't think we set out to build a business that could be acquired.

Jess Wolf

I think we set out to build a business that we could continue to grow over time.

Jess Wolf

And we had some excellent models in the space who were a little bit different than us but had taken on that venture scale.

Jess Wolf

But we, you know, decided to go the M and A route because we were approached by a few really compelling leaders in the space across hr, tech and coaching itself.

Jess Wolf

And Sounding board particularly was really aligned with our mission.

Jess Wolf

And I recognize that Sounding Board could take our original, you know, dream for impact with much further.

Jess Wolf

I think having had more money, more people behind them and more resources than sky did as an early stage startup.

Ben Fanning

It sounds like sounding more from what I'm under, just my research, they're heavy on the technology side.

Ben Fanning

Right.

Ben Fanning

And you, and you all were heavier on the like coaching, higher level coaches, higher level relationships and companies.

Ben Fanning

Am I correct on that?

Ben Fanning

You guys kind of had the coaching.

Ben Fanning

Well maybe you explain it because they're not the same company.

Ben Fanning

Right.

Ben Fanning

You have different strengths.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, look, I think we were, I would like to think we were both, we leaned pretty heavily into our technology as well.

Jess Wolf

And so whole point was that we'd match you with a coach that was right for you, but our technology would manage the process over time to ensure like seamless interactions with your coach.

Jess Wolf

More importantly, data driven insights.

Jess Wolf

So you could actually tell like hey, is this coaching working?

Jess Wolf

What's actually like.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, which by the way is another huge gap in coaching.

Ben Fanning

Yes, it can feel good and you leave, but it's like, well what have I been doing the last couple months?

Jess Wolf

Right.

Jess Wolf

So I think technology and particularly with the admin of AI, there's going to be more and more ways to measure your growth.

Jess Wolf

But I would say Sounding board is very advanced on the technological front and has put a lot of, a lot of thought and effort into building a platform that I think is far beyond what sky has done on the technological front in terms of data and insights and serving customers with, you know, personalized journeys.

Jess Wolf

So, yes, I think our customers will find a lot in the, in the partnership.

Ben Fanning

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Ben Fanning

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Ben Fanning

I'm really curious on your approach with the employees, you know, with the team that you built.

Ben Fanning

Right.

Ben Fanning

Because you built this company from the bottom up and people probably been with you the longest time.

Ben Fanning

And when, when the news came out, like, hey y'all, yeah, Wired, I'm curious, like, what happened?

Ben Fanning

What did they.

Ben Fanning

Did they know my.

Ben Fanning

I didn't experience.

Ben Fanning

When I was in my younger, in my career, I was working for a very large sporting goods company and we found out that we'd been acquired.

Ben Fanning

But it was just like all the, all the executives got VPs, got called into a meeting one day.

Ben Fanning

I was not one of them.

Ben Fanning

And I'll they came out and they were like high fiving and all this stuff and I'm like, we're like, what happened?

Ben Fanning

And they're like, well.

Ben Fanning

And I felt, I'm sure some leaders handled it very well, but I had no idea what was happening.

Ben Fanning

I felt completely in the dark and it really messed with my sense of loyalty to the company after that because of the way.

Ben Fanning

And a part of it was me too because I just didn't get what was happening.

Ben Fanning

I had got.

Ben Fanning

I'd been to business school, but I didn't understand the real business.

Ben Fanning

You know, you only learn so much business school.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, of course.

Ben Fanning

So what was your approach?

Ben Fanning

Was a story, you know, how did you.

Ben Fanning

Well, what were the emotions of it and all that fun stuff.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, I actually think that was one of the hardest parts of the process was ensuring that I was keeping my team motivated and focused, but at the same time ensuring there was a sense of transparency.

Jess Wolf

I didn't want them to feel like we had hidden this from them.

Jess Wolf

Of course, it sounds like you are a much larger company.

Jess Wolf

You know, we were anywhere from seven to 14 people over our sky journey.

Jess Wolf

And that's, that's a small team and much easier to manage.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, because the coaches were basically contractors.

Ben Fanning

Right.

Ben Fanning

All of your, your coaching network, they were independent, they weren't hired coaches.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, exactly.

Jess Wolf

1099.

Jess Wolf

So we had to be thoughtful around our communications to our coaches and customers particularly as well.

Jess Wolf

But with the team, I think what we did is early on, I let them know that this.

Jess Wolf

I always kind of reiterated, you know, the outcomes for a startup.

Jess Wolf

And when, when they interviewed with us, I said, you know, there's, there's three potential outcomes for us and I'm going to pursue the one that I feel like is most lucrative and meaningful, impactful for our team.

Jess Wolf

And I hope you'll rely on me and trust in me as CEO to steer the ship in the right direction.

Jess Wolf

And so we had a strategy meeting every month and in that strategy meeting and give a very transparent update around.

Jess Wolf

Here's our Runway.

Jess Wolf

From a cash perspective, this is where we're leaning in terms of strategy.

Jess Wolf

This is what we have to do from a revenue point.

Jess Wolf

And so everyone was on the same page.

Jess Wolf

I think it was still hard in the end.

Jess Wolf

I think people still felt, oh my gosh, this major chapter in our lives is over.

Jess Wolf

And so it was bittersweet.

Jess Wolf

But I think being transparent along the whole way while risky because there was the risk of flight from some team members, which would have really hurt our business in the process.

Jess Wolf

I think overall created a lot of trust and kept the team with us through it.

Jess Wolf

So it was helpful.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, great.

Ben Fanning

Some great examples there.

Ben Fanning

One is not hiding it and being as transparent as you can and being upfront with them on, hey, this is.

Ben Fanning

You don't, you don't have to always say, hey, we're going to be acquired and this was going to happen.

Ben Fanning

But I like how you presented different scenarios to people and I think that's always, hey, this is possible, this is possible, this is possible.

Ben Fanning

And allow them to be on that journey.

Ben Fanning

And also I think that one of these that gets missed and I look back over that time period for me is no one said, ben, you need to be learning what this is like going through this experience.

Ben Fanning

This is like the best business school, advanced business school thing you can go through.

Ben Fanning

And then years later, I ended up working for Honeywell for over a decade where we made a lot of acquisitions as a company.

Ben Fanning

On the flip side, I wish I'd paid more attention to being the acquired company and.

Ben Fanning

But I didn't know how it felt.

Ben Fanning

And so when I was on that acquisition team, I often thought about, you know, what they were expecting, experiencing, you know, through that.

Jess Wolf

That's, that's good.

Jess Wolf

I think having a lot of empathy on the acquisition team, even though it is like an ex major milestone, but just recognizing that there's a lot of emotions and leaving behind a company you've built, I think is.

Jess Wolf

It's probably helps create a lot of trust between the acquirer and the team getting acquired.

Ben Fanning

Because the value of the company is not just your corporate contracts and your brand, your technology, it's the people.

Ben Fanning

Sure, yeah, that I've been there.

Ben Fanning

You know what, and this is a little bit divergent topic, but I'm really curious because you have a smaller team, they're remote, right?

Ben Fanning

A lot more remote.

Jess Wolf

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

Your customer, your clients are being coached remotely and your coaches are remote.

Ben Fanning

So you, and frankly, you live remote.

Ben Fanning

You live in different, you know, different places, right?

Ben Fanning

Coast to coast, you live New York, San Francisco.

Ben Fanning

How you.

Ben Fanning

You must be a ninja at managing our being a remote executive, leading a remote team, working with remote contractors and clients.

Ben Fanning

What's the, what's the secret saucer?

Jess Wolf

I think it all started with our core sky team and ensuring that there was a lot of trust built, which is ultimately done through really thoughtful communication.

Jess Wolf

We had a lot of structures in place to ensure that we were all aligned on what was happening with the business.

Jess Wolf

I'd say the one that was probably most important for us was our daily standup.

Jess Wolf

So every morning at 11am ET for 30 minutes, the team would come together and would walk through our essentially standup tracker.

Jess Wolf

And every leader had to input what they were going to accomplish that day.

Jess Wolf

And these were small, two large things with timelines, dates and a section like if you needed help, who you'd be asking help with, and then notes if something was delayed.

Jess Wolf

And we went through this every morning and I think people who are joining, you know, were nervous about this and thought this would be tedious and exhausting.

Jess Wolf

But we started with an icebreaker every morning so there was an element of connection.

Jess Wolf

And then we got into the details and this really helped me as an executive understand what every single person on my team was working on on a daily basis.

Jess Wolf

You know, what was getting kind of dropped and why, what people were prioritizing where I make adjustments into workload.

Jess Wolf

And then I could also take a temperature check on my culturally, how everyone was feeling emotionally as well.

Jess Wolf

And so this process of a daily standup really helped me ensure that I was being the most impactful leader I could be.

Jess Wolf

And then I Think, like I mentioned, we had our strategy meeting, we'd have our finance meeting, our weekly forecast meeting.

Jess Wolf

We had, we had meetings in place that were at the same time every week, sure that everyone prepared, that we were staying on top of what was necessary.

Jess Wolf

And then when we think about our broader community, we really did the same with both our coaches and customers.

Jess Wolf

Our coaches, you know, had Monday, every Monday office hours where they could drop in, ask questions about product, about the business, you know, had a extensive support library and team that they could turn to.

Jess Wolf

And then we built community for them as well.

Jess Wolf

So there was events and pods and a book club that they could be a part of.

Jess Wolf

And all these were ultimately avenues for connection, but really ways for us to ensure that we were in connection with our coaches and that they could turn to us when they needed us and that we could understand kind of how coaches were feeling about sky and feeling about their coaching engagements.

Jess Wolf

And lastly with our customers.

Jess Wolf

You know, a big part of our offering was, you know, insights and so in order to, you know, support in giving the most thoughtful insights on whether coaching was working for their teams or not, you know, we were in constant connection.

Jess Wolf

So we were providing data and having calls and we had a structure for how we engaged with HR team so that they felt really taken care of.

Jess Wolf

And then they also felt like they could come back to us with feedback at any time.

Jess Wolf

And I think being very present with your clients is critical.

Jess Wolf

And so we also made a lot of in person trips.

Jess Wolf

And this is all to say that, you know, in person often trumps everything.

Jess Wolf

And so we visited our clients a lot and our community for our people leaders was really robust.

Jess Wolf

We'd host about two dinners a month in our major cities.

Jess Wolf

And so there was always the opportunity for us as a team to connect with, you know, fellow coaches and clients in person.

Ben Fanning

So, most memorable community event or dinner that you had.

Ben Fanning

What, what was it and what made it so memorable?

Jess Wolf

Yeah, you know, I often think that the more intimate dinners are sometimes special, but we did have a full day long thought leadership conference, which really made me really proud.

Jess Wolf

We had about 10 different conversations with the president of Myers Briggs, our lead investor editor at Fortune, and a mix of leadership development experts and people who are just change makers in their industry.

Jess Wolf

And I think that the summit was directed all around professional development, which of course is what we stand for at Sky.

Jess Wolf

And so it was just an opportunity to really present, I think, all the learnings that we've had and all the relationships that we've built over the era and time at sky and we had about 200 plus people attend for the full day.

Jess Wolf

And it was.

Jess Wolf

It was really special.

Jess Wolf

It was great to see so many people in person and I feel like I learned so much.

Jess Wolf

So it was, I think, you know, a day we're really proud of.

Ben Fanning

Sounds like an amazing event.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

I read about Myers Briggs being so connected to sky and the company.

Ben Fanning

I'm an estj.

Ben Fanning

My daughter has.

Ben Fanning

Is the opposite of everything I am.

Ben Fanning

And I think my wife is also in terms of the.

Ben Fanning

So we have some interesting dialogue.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, they're.

Ben Fanning

That they put up with me.

Jess Wolf

I'm a huge fan of Myers Briggs.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Jess Wolf

Exciting announcement there with my involvement with the team in the.

Jess Wolf

I'll.

Jess Wolf

I'll save it.

Jess Wolf

I'm happy to say it.

Jess Wolf

I'm happy to say it now, but in the case that it's not released, we might have to wait.

Jess Wolf

But I'm joining Myers Briggs board, which I'm thrilled about.

Ben Fanning

Congratulations.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, we're big fans of it.

Jess Wolf

Good.

Jess Wolf

I'm glad to hear it.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, my daughter did it.

Ben Fanning

Took it it in her as an eighth grader for the first time just recently.

Jess Wolf

So powerful.

Ben Fanning

And.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

So I'm estj.

Ben Fanning

She's I n F.

Ben Fanning

I don't know.

Ben Fanning

I got whatever.

Ben Fanning

The opposite of infj.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

And it's interesting.

Ben Fanning

It's interesting.

Ben Fanning

And it really illuminated a lot for me about her and my wife and I used to kind of.

Ben Fanning

Was she an introvert or she an extrovert?

Ben Fanning

It wasn't.

Ben Fanning

I.

Ben Fanning

I know they can kind of happen on a spectrum in terms of, you know, you're extremely extroverted or extremely introverted or somewhere in between.

Ben Fanning

But anyway, we've really enjoyed that.

Ben Fanning

Those conversations.

Ben Fanning

So anyway, something for listeners to think about.

Jess Wolf

Definitely.

Jess Wolf

I think it helps you interact with your team members more effectively when you have a baseline understanding of where they're coming from and then what environments and what.

Jess Wolf

What types of communication.

Jess Wolf

I land best with them.

Jess Wolf

So, yeah, it's a powerful tool.

Ben Fanning

Got a couple of quick fire questions, please.

Ben Fanning

All right.

Ben Fanning

What makes a great intimate dinner from a community building standpoint?

Ben Fanning

You've done probably hundreds of these things.

Jess Wolf

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

What's.

Ben Fanning

What are.

Ben Fanning

What makes it good?

Jess Wolf

One of my favorite books on this is the Art of Gathering by Prieta Parker.

Jess Wolf

And what I think she does so well is she.

Jess Wolf

It essentially says that, you know, every gathering needs a very detailed framework.

Jess Wolf

I think often we think, you know, it's good people, it's good food, it's good music.

Jess Wolf

We'll bring everyone together and everyone will have a good time.

Jess Wolf

And often that's the case.

Jess Wolf

But I think to create a lot of intention behind a gathering can ensure people, you know, know why they're there and also can feel and leave feeling like, you know, they learned something or met someone or just felt a sense of really purposeful joy in that gathering.

Jess Wolf

And so I believe in structure for a dinner gathering.

Jess Wolf

I always ha.

Jess Wolf

I start with, you know, introductions of some kind, as cheesy as it might sound.

Jess Wolf

But I think I.

Jess Wolf

I think I make it sound.

Jess Wolf

I think I make it tasteful at the dinner, you know, some form of a get to know you question.

Jess Wolf

My husband has leaned into this, although I think he was embarrassed by it at first when we first hosted, but he now does a game at most of our dinners called long Short.

Jess Wolf

So you share something you're long on, something you're shorting.

Jess Wolf

It can be, you know, political or it can be cultural.

Jess Wolf

And this really can stoke a lot of arguments.

Jess Wolf

But I think that really helps you get beyond just that surface conversation, which ultimately I think is what creates, you know, deeper relationships.

Ben Fanning

They're sharing it to all the people or they're sharing it to one.

Ben Fanning

Okay.

Jess Wolf

You know, in group conversation.

Ben Fanning

And typically how many people would be at an intimate level of gathering?

Jess Wolf

We typically at our dinners, like to host anywhere from like 8 to 12.

Ben Fanning

8 to 12.

Ben Fanning

That's a good number.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, I think that's a really good number.

Jess Wolf

But I think it's also important to have a mix of that, like one on one conversation with your neighbor and then also ensuring that there are some group conversations.

Jess Wolf

You can bring the group together because you were intentional in who you invited in the first place.

Jess Wolf

You want to ensure all the minds can share and get to know each other and then, as Priya Parker always says, having some ultimate conclusion to the evening too.

Jess Wolf

So I highly recommend the book.

Jess Wolf

It's helpful.

Ben Fanning

Okay, very good.

Ben Fanning

Next quick fire question.

Ben Fanning

What is your favorite coaching question?

Jess Wolf

Wow, that's a hard one.

Jess Wolf

It's my favorite coaching question.

Ben Fanning

One of your favorite, I should say, I'm sure there.

Jess Wolf

I don't know if I have like a question in particular, but something my coach always does that I really appreciate is she asks me when I'm sharing a statement or a feeling.

Jess Wolf

She asked me is what you're saying, a, I should do that or is it a I must do that?

Jess Wolf

And so helping me differentiate between what, like, I feel like I, I should do for others or, you know, society is impacting that decision versus what I really want to Do.

Jess Wolf

And so detangling kind of the motives behind my actions.

Jess Wolf

Really powerful.

Ben Fanning

Yeah, I love that.

Ben Fanning

And sometimes that can reveal so much about your to do list.

Ben Fanning

Yes, these are my shoulds, but maybe they're kids.

Jess Wolf

Right.

Ben Fanning

And there's not really.

Ben Fanning

I'm sure there's probably a lot of that when you're going through exiting too to figure out what you need to be doing.

Ben Fanning

Then with like a never ending to do list.

Jess Wolf

Yeah, yeah.

Ben Fanning

You mentioned those daily standup meetings and you'd often start them off with a icebreaker.

Ben Fanning

What was your default?

Ben Fanning

Or you're like your go to icebreaker.

Jess Wolf

Well, I had to get really creative because we have many days, every day had to not do the same icebreaker every day.

Jess Wolf

But one I really love and I do often is your six word story.

Jess Wolf

So you take two minutes when you think about the six words that define your life.

Jess Wolf

Some people get really creative and do mostly a poem.

Jess Wolf

Others just choose words that, you know, stand for different chapters in their life.

Jess Wolf

And then you don't explain it why, you just share those six words with the group.

Jess Wolf

And I think, you know, often you're like, oh yeah, I totally get those words for you.

Jess Wolf

And other times you're like, oh, wow, that surprises me.

Jess Wolf

And that's something that you can discuss and build a, you know, connection on later with your coworker or friend.

Jess Wolf

But I really like that practice.

Ben Fanning

So you give us some really cool ones that could work in a.

Ben Fanning

I'm sure for like a dinner, like an elegant dinner.

Ben Fanning

Like six words could be a sentence.

Ben Fanning

It could be just random words.

Ben Fanning

And the long, short game is long being I'm.

Ben Fanning

This is what I'm into.

Ben Fanning

I'm really all in on.

Ben Fanning

And short meaning.

Ben Fanning

I'm selling it.

Ben Fanning

Like this idea.

Jess Wolf

Exactly.

Ben Fanning

I'm moving out of that.

Jess Wolf

Sure.

Jess Wolf

Like you could say I'm long the wellness movement.

Jess Wolf

I'm short remote work.

Ben Fanning

Yeah.

Ben Fanning

Love it, love it.

Ben Fanning

So good.

Ben Fanning

Man.

Ben Fanning

Jess, this has been so much fun today and it's just so cool to get the behind the scenes from someone who just exited their company and what that was like, how you built it, where the idea of the company came from and then what you're heading into now and behind the scenes on your operating system when you're working there and how you're building that out.

Ben Fanning

Really, really cool.

Ben Fanning

But with all that in mind, what's your parting thought for our listeners today?

Ben Fanning

Parting thought, any way you want to take it.

Ben Fanning

It could be six words.

Jess Wolf

My six words, my parting thought is there's never the right time or a good time to pursue what you're hoping to pursue.

Jess Wolf

I think you can save money and go back to business school and delay having children or whatever it is that you're putting off in your life to, to pursue something.

Jess Wolf

But I think there's never, there's never going to be the precise right moment.

Jess Wolf

So just from my own experience, I think, I think go for it.

Jess Wolf

If you're hoping to pursue something and you're, and you've had it like in the back of your head and you're very excited about it, don't wait for this perfect moment in time because it doesn't exist.

Ben Fanning

Love it.

Ben Fanning

Thanks for that.

Ben Fanning

Thanks for coming on the show today, Jess.

Ben Fanning

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