We launched sky with a community first approach.
Jess WolfWe partnered with so House and Forbes and there was a fragmented, decentralized coaching market.
Jess WolfWe're approached by a few really compelling leaders in the space across hr, tech and coaching itself and sounding for particularly, we really aligned with our mission to ensure that everyone had access to a coach that was right for them and one singular, easy to use platform.
Jess WolfBeing transparent.
Jess WolfAlong the whole way, we created a lot of trust and kept the team with us through it.
Ben FanningAre you looking to increase sales, grow your brand and share your leadership message?
Ben FanningThen check out our business podcast program.
Ben FanningEach week more people listen to podcasts than have Netflix accounts and one third of the US population listens to podcasts regularly.
Ben FanningSo your customers and team are already listening to podcasts.
Ben FanningIt should be yours.
Ben FanningDiscover our five step profitable podcast framework and what results you can expect for your company by setting up a 20 minute call with my team@BenLeads.com schedule.
Ben FanningThat's BeenLeads.com schedule.
Jess WolfWelcome back to Lead the Team with number one bestselling author and in demand corporate trainer Ben Fanning.
Jess WolfOn this podcast, the world's most innovative senior leaders share their top success strategies to motivate your direct reports, cultivate your top leaders and accelerate your career.
Jess WolfLet's get started.
Jess WolfHere's Ben.
Ben FanningAll right everybody, welcome back to lead the team.
Ben FanningToday I have for you Jess Wolf who is the co founder of sky, the executive coaching platform backed by venture capitalist firms including Stellation, Greylock, Insight and bam.
Ben FanningAnd she's actually also the recently exited CEO.
Ben FanningSo she's got a fascinating journey and some big things that have happened recently.
Ben FanningShe's going to share all this with us today.
Ben FanningAnd sky has exited to the sounding board.
Ben FanningGo check them out.
Ben FanningJessica's got an incredible background.
Ben FanningFormerly head of the Forbes under 30 list and she ran community for Iconics.
Ben FanningJess, welcome to lead the team.
Jess WolfThank you.
Jess WolfSo happy to be here and excited to be in this conversation.
Ben FanningSo when you exit a company as CEO, what's the first thing you do?
Jess WolfThe big question and one I'm getting a lot.
Jess WolfI think the advice I've gotten is to take a break.
Jess WolfPeople say you're almost like a soon to be emerging butterfly and so you have to go into the cocoon and reflect and think about what you really loved on your entrepreneurial journey and what you change and lean into.
Jess WolfI think your network understanding what other people are working on and what's exciting in their industries to potentially find the next spark for yourself.
Jess WolfSo I think a little bit like staring into the abyss right now, but eager to, I think, just jump outside of what I've been doing every day.
Jess WolfWhen you're building a company, you're so narrowly focused, you forget about all the things that are happening in the world beyond you.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningThere's probably like a crescendo of stress leading up.
Ben FanningLike we're trying to do all this.
Ben FanningIt's so focused.
Ben FanningLike you say, we're kind of just so focused on that and then you can get to take a breath.
Ben FanningAnd I love the fact that y'all.
Ben FanningDid y'all notice she's asking herself very coaching related self reflection questions, which I am assuming has been ingrained in you throughout the years.
Ben FanningAnd I want to get into the M A, but I'm curious.
Jess WolfYeah.
Ben FanningYou know, you're relying on those coaching questions now.
Ben FanningWhy get into coaching?
Ben FanningWhy build sky in the first place?
Jess WolfSure.
Jess WolfSo my background's been in community development across a variety of industries, from hospitality to events to media to real estate.
Jess WolfAnd your role as a community builder, of course, is to support the marketing and events and sales related functions.
Jess WolfBut at the heart of it is to ensure that people within your community are finding the most value possible and attaching that to your brand.
Jess WolfAnd I found that, you know, that's a very human, human role.
Jess WolfAnd so I was often speaking with community members and the things that they wanted at the end of the day were particularly around connection and feeling seen.
Jess WolfThere's many ways that you can fulfill that.
Jess WolfUltimately, community itself is about connection.
Jess WolfSo you're offering that there.
Jess WolfBut as I dove deeper, I realized, you know, the support that a lot of people were looking for existed a little bit within the therapeutic space, but I thought could be even stronger within the coaching arena.
Jess WolfAnd so launched a coaching platform, really to answer the calls I heard throughout my journey as a community builder.
Jess WolfAnd we launched sky with a community first approach.
Jess WolfAnd what I mean by that is our go to market strategy was entirely community driven.
Jess WolfAnd so we started out as a consumer platform supporting individuals and sort of their professional goals.
Jess WolfAnd what we did is we partnered with so House and Forbes to host live events featuring coaches who spoke on their expertise.
Jess WolfAnd this allowed people to get a taste of what coaching could be like for them and build, of course, you know, friendships and relationships, ultimately community.
Ben FanningAnd so, yeah, so really interesting, y'all.
Ben FanningSo it's not like, hey, you know, Jess was a coach.
Ben FanningIt's like, hey, I want to bring coaching to what it was.
Ben FanningHey, I was serving communities and we saw this need and instead of Offering where my mind would be like, oh, well, so and so needs a coach, know, I'll, I'll step into that arena.
Ben FanningYou're like, you know, let's build a, let's build these events and let's build a platform.
Ben FanningSo that's the way your mind went.
Ben FanningRight.
Ben FanningVersus the opposite.
Ben FanningI think a lot of people say, hey, we're gonna start a coaching company.
Ben FanningBut that's not where sky started.
Jess WolfYeah, I think the market was also right for disruption.
Jess WolfThere's fragmented, decentralized coaching market.
Jess WolfNot a lot of elements of trust.
Jess WolfThe tooling was disparate.
Jess WolfAnd I think for coaches and as well as the other side of the market for leadership and HR buyers and leaders, a lot of options, but not necessarily the right options.
Jess WolfAnd so we had an opportunity to come in with something new and differentiated.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningBecause the problem is, and I've, I'm ICF certified coach, I've been in that world for a while is, you know, you have executives who need coaches and, but they don't know where to start.
Ben FanningAnd maybe they have, they have their chro say, hey, I need some coaches.
Ben FanningAnd they're like, well, I work with so and so at this company or I saw this person's book or like I say it's very fragmented.
Ben FanningIt's like a one on one negotiation with these coaches at these executive levels.
Jess WolfAbsolutely.
Jess WolfWhich makes it really hard for scale.
Jess WolfAnd so sky and Sounding Board's mission really was to ensure that everyone had access to a coach that was right for them and that the leaders of said organization had the ability to scale that coaching over time and in one singular, easy to use platform.
Ben FanningAnd working with Forbes on the.
Ben FanningWas it under 30 list?
Jess WolfYes.
Ben FanningWhat is that like?
Ben FanningSo the, this is like the superhuman list of people under 30 that are changing the world.
Ben FanningIs that, that's the list, right?
Jess WolfYeah, it's.
Ben FanningHow does one put this together?
Jess WolfYou know, so I was on the community side and my good friend was running sort of the selection process of the list.
Jess WolfBut my role is once, once you made the list prior to me coming on board, there wasn't a lot of opportunity for connection unless you decided you wanted to find the people on the list and reach out to them on LinkedIn.
Jess WolfAnd Forbes saw an opportunity to really, you know, leverage these, these leaders for a broader community that would of course, you know, best serve them in their business interests, but also support the Forbes brand and ecosystem.
Jess WolfAnd so we built a worldwide community with boards in all major cities, host about two events a month and tie into our or there now larger summits.
Jess WolfSo it's a, it's a very tight knit community that's still running today.
Jess WolfI love jumping in and out and going to the events in San Francisco and New York.
Jess WolfMy role was launching that and setting up the structure to ensure that could sustain.
Ben FanningSo when did you realize in life or maybe the defining moment or a time when you realize I've got a knack for this.
Ben FanningLike were you the kid back in kindergarten who was like always having the parties at their house or getting people.
Jess WolfTogether or, you know, I wasn't.
Jess WolfMy first role I think really exposed me to the power of community.
Jess WolfI was running the first of its kind, ultra luxury co working space and I was their first membership or sales leader.
Jess WolfAnd ultra luxury, yes, it's beautiful in terms of luxury, I should say more creative in terms of design and the food that was served.
Jess WolfAnd I think it was very fashion forward.
Jess WolfAnd so that was kind of unique at the time to have an office that focused so much on the beauty and aesthetics of the space as a means of inspiring your work every day.
Jess WolfAnd they too were very community driven in the sense that they really fostered a connection among the members and encouraged people to meet and become friends and do business together.
Jess WolfBut when I joined I, I was 22, didn't have a lot of experience and was selling, you know, desks and offices at this space that were maybe four times the amount that was on the market and nearby.
Jess WolfAnd so I quickly recognized that, you know, in order to complete these transactions and sales, not to make this too transactional, but I recognize that, you know, I had to be selling a lot more than just a desk and a chair, but the promise of the opportunity to meet people that might impact their world in some professional or personal way.
Jess WolfAnd so sort of leveraging that and leaning on that, I did end up the community that I think I'm happy to see.
Jess WolfThere's been marriages that have come out of it and a lot of business partnerships.
Jess WolfAnd I'm still friends with many of the members that were there in the early days.
Jess WolfBut we, we quickly filled the entire house and became kind of a wait listed membership.
Jess WolfAnd so from there I quickly recognized, you know, community isn't just a soft, fun, fuzzy thing to do, but really it can affect your bottom line dependent on kind of how you're driving community to support revenue.
Ben FanningYes, people want to do business with people they know like and trust.
Ben FanningThat's that old saying.
Ben FanningAnd clearly if you're building a community and it is more Expensive.
Ben FanningAnd you're saying, hey, yes, it's more expensive here, but we're.
Ben FanningOr not.
Ben FanningBut we are.
Ben FanningAnd we are creating a community of people and there's value in that.
Ben FanningThe people that are see the value are more likely to join and they're more likely to invest in the community because that's why they're there.
Jess WolfExactly.
Ben FanningSelf fulfilling, awesome experience.
Ben FanningI can see that.
Jess WolfDefinitely.
Jess WolfDefinitely.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningWow.
Ben FanningAnd, and, oh, wow, that's cool.
Ben FanningSo fast forward to today.
Ben FanningSo you go through this and you, you see the opportunity, you start this.
Ben FanningYou know, watch us through.
Ben FanningYou started sky, when you started sky, were you thinking, hey, I want to build, like I see this opportunity, I want to build this business in a way that it will be attractive to outside, outside investors, other companies.
Ben FanningOr did you start it as more of a, hey, I want to create this business because I see the need and then eventually you kind of work towards that, that sales approach.
Jess WolfYeah, great question.
Jess WolfSo, you know, I created the business because I saw a gap, I saw an opportunity and I thought we had the tools and ability to fix it.
Jess WolfI saw an expand market in the coaching space.
Jess WolfI saw a lack of tools and like I said, a lack of centralization.
Jess WolfParticularly what we saw was the coaching platforms that existed were either really mass or on the flip side of the spectrum boutique and extraordinarily expensive.
Jess WolfAnd more importantly, I found that the coaches that existed on said platforms lacked industry and functional expertise.
Jess WolfAnd so what we did that was unique was ensure that a product leader was working with, you know, a former head of product from Pinterest or, you know, an engineer was working with the former director of engineering at Airbnb and be.
Jess WolfAnd so that context, what we called coaching with context, I thought was really relevant and important to a coaching engagement, which I think goes against a little bit of kind of the traditional ICF coaching model, which is, you know, more akin to powerful questioning and active listening rather than coaching slash strategic advisory.
Jess WolfSo that's kind of where we differ and how we started to win some pretty big Fortune 500 in public companies.
Jess WolfBut you know, when I, when I set out on this journey, that's kind of what, where I was.
Jess WolfBut there's about three paths a founder could take, especially once they take on venture dollars.
Jess WolfAnd we raised and you know, you raise with the expectation that you can build the next billion dollar company.
Jess WolfAnd I think you go in, in there with a thesis of how you can do so, and then I think reality or the market or whatever it is can either accelerate you towards that or you can see, hey, there's, there's things that might not allow us to be that ginormous company.
Jess WolfAnd so what are the paths ahead of us?
Jess WolfSo of course that one is becoming that billion dollar plus company and going public too is leaning into an acquisition and finding the right strategic or financial acquirer.
Jess WolfAnd then the last I think is probably turning to, I hate, I hate this word because I think it's the wrong word but more like a lifestyle or frankly a cash flowing business that could sustain over time.
Jess WolfThe fourth option I don't like to talk about because that's a shutdown and no one likes to see that.
Jess WolfBut of course that, that happens.
Jess WolfSo three are typically like the most viable paths that you'd look out for.
Jess WolfBut no, I don't think we set out to build a business that could be acquired.
Jess WolfI think we set out to build a business that we could continue to grow over time.
Jess WolfAnd we had some excellent models in the space who were a little bit different than us but had taken on that venture scale.
Jess WolfBut we, you know, decided to go the M and A route because we were approached by a few really compelling leaders in the space across hr, tech and coaching itself.
Jess WolfAnd Sounding board particularly was really aligned with our mission.
Jess WolfAnd I recognize that Sounding Board could take our original, you know, dream for impact with much further.
Jess WolfI think having had more money, more people behind them and more resources than sky did as an early stage startup.
Ben FanningIt sounds like sounding more from what I'm under, just my research, they're heavy on the technology side.
Ben FanningRight.
Ben FanningAnd you, and you all were heavier on the like coaching, higher level coaches, higher level relationships and companies.
Ben FanningAm I correct on that?
Ben FanningYou guys kind of had the coaching.
Ben FanningWell maybe you explain it because they're not the same company.
Ben FanningRight.
Ben FanningYou have different strengths.
Jess WolfYeah, look, I think we were, I would like to think we were both, we leaned pretty heavily into our technology as well.
Jess WolfAnd so whole point was that we'd match you with a coach that was right for you, but our technology would manage the process over time to ensure like seamless interactions with your coach.
Jess WolfMore importantly, data driven insights.
Jess WolfSo you could actually tell like hey, is this coaching working?
Jess WolfWhat's actually like.
Ben FanningYeah, which by the way is another huge gap in coaching.
Ben FanningYes, it can feel good and you leave, but it's like, well what have I been doing the last couple months?
Jess WolfRight.
Jess WolfSo I think technology and particularly with the admin of AI, there's going to be more and more ways to measure your growth.
Jess WolfBut I would say Sounding board is very advanced on the technological front and has put a lot of, a lot of thought and effort into building a platform that I think is far beyond what sky has done on the technological front in terms of data and insights and serving customers with, you know, personalized journeys.
Jess WolfSo, yes, I think our customers will find a lot in the, in the partnership.
Ben FanningWould you or your CEO be a good fit for this podcast?
Ben FanningIf you know a uniquely talented leader who has a story to share and a message to deliver, then we'd love to host them on the show.
Ben FanningGo to beneleads.com apply to fill out a quick form where you can let us know a little bit about yourself.
Ben FanningAnd my team will take a look to see if we're a good fit.
Ben FanningThat's beneleads.com apply.
Ben FanningI'm really curious on your approach with the employees, you know, with the team that you built.
Ben FanningRight.
Ben FanningBecause you built this company from the bottom up and people probably been with you the longest time.
Ben FanningAnd when, when the news came out, like, hey y'all, yeah, Wired, I'm curious, like, what happened?
Ben FanningWhat did they.
Ben FanningDid they know my.
Ben FanningI didn't experience.
Ben FanningWhen I was in my younger, in my career, I was working for a very large sporting goods company and we found out that we'd been acquired.
Ben FanningBut it was just like all the, all the executives got VPs, got called into a meeting one day.
Ben FanningI was not one of them.
Ben FanningAnd I'll they came out and they were like high fiving and all this stuff and I'm like, we're like, what happened?
Ben FanningAnd they're like, well.
Ben FanningAnd I felt, I'm sure some leaders handled it very well, but I had no idea what was happening.
Ben FanningI felt completely in the dark and it really messed with my sense of loyalty to the company after that because of the way.
Ben FanningAnd a part of it was me too because I just didn't get what was happening.
Ben FanningI had got.
Ben FanningI'd been to business school, but I didn't understand the real business.
Ben FanningYou know, you only learn so much business school.
Jess WolfYeah, of course.
Ben FanningSo what was your approach?
Ben FanningWas a story, you know, how did you.
Ben FanningWell, what were the emotions of it and all that fun stuff.
Jess WolfYeah, I actually think that was one of the hardest parts of the process was ensuring that I was keeping my team motivated and focused, but at the same time ensuring there was a sense of transparency.
Jess WolfI didn't want them to feel like we had hidden this from them.
Jess WolfOf course, it sounds like you are a much larger company.
Jess WolfYou know, we were anywhere from seven to 14 people over our sky journey.
Jess WolfAnd that's, that's a small team and much easier to manage.
Ben FanningYeah, because the coaches were basically contractors.
Ben FanningRight.
Ben FanningAll of your, your coaching network, they were independent, they weren't hired coaches.
Jess WolfYeah, exactly.
Jess Wolf1099.
Jess WolfSo we had to be thoughtful around our communications to our coaches and customers particularly as well.
Jess WolfBut with the team, I think what we did is early on, I let them know that this.
Jess WolfI always kind of reiterated, you know, the outcomes for a startup.
Jess WolfAnd when, when they interviewed with us, I said, you know, there's, there's three potential outcomes for us and I'm going to pursue the one that I feel like is most lucrative and meaningful, impactful for our team.
Jess WolfAnd I hope you'll rely on me and trust in me as CEO to steer the ship in the right direction.
Jess WolfAnd so we had a strategy meeting every month and in that strategy meeting and give a very transparent update around.
Jess WolfHere's our Runway.
Jess WolfFrom a cash perspective, this is where we're leaning in terms of strategy.
Jess WolfThis is what we have to do from a revenue point.
Jess WolfAnd so everyone was on the same page.
Jess WolfI think it was still hard in the end.
Jess WolfI think people still felt, oh my gosh, this major chapter in our lives is over.
Jess WolfAnd so it was bittersweet.
Jess WolfBut I think being transparent along the whole way while risky because there was the risk of flight from some team members, which would have really hurt our business in the process.
Jess WolfI think overall created a lot of trust and kept the team with us through it.
Jess WolfSo it was helpful.
Ben FanningYeah, great.
Ben FanningSome great examples there.
Ben FanningOne is not hiding it and being as transparent as you can and being upfront with them on, hey, this is.
Ben FanningYou don't, you don't have to always say, hey, we're going to be acquired and this was going to happen.
Ben FanningBut I like how you presented different scenarios to people and I think that's always, hey, this is possible, this is possible, this is possible.
Ben FanningAnd allow them to be on that journey.
Ben FanningAnd also I think that one of these that gets missed and I look back over that time period for me is no one said, ben, you need to be learning what this is like going through this experience.
Ben FanningThis is like the best business school, advanced business school thing you can go through.
Ben FanningAnd then years later, I ended up working for Honeywell for over a decade where we made a lot of acquisitions as a company.
Ben FanningOn the flip side, I wish I'd paid more attention to being the acquired company and.
Ben FanningBut I didn't know how it felt.
Ben FanningAnd so when I was on that acquisition team, I often thought about, you know, what they were expecting, experiencing, you know, through that.
Jess WolfThat's, that's good.
Jess WolfI think having a lot of empathy on the acquisition team, even though it is like an ex major milestone, but just recognizing that there's a lot of emotions and leaving behind a company you've built, I think is.
Jess WolfIt's probably helps create a lot of trust between the acquirer and the team getting acquired.
Ben FanningBecause the value of the company is not just your corporate contracts and your brand, your technology, it's the people.
Ben FanningSure, yeah, that I've been there.
Ben FanningYou know what, and this is a little bit divergent topic, but I'm really curious because you have a smaller team, they're remote, right?
Ben FanningA lot more remote.
Jess WolfYeah.
Ben FanningYour customer, your clients are being coached remotely and your coaches are remote.
Ben FanningSo you, and frankly, you live remote.
Ben FanningYou live in different, you know, different places, right?
Ben FanningCoast to coast, you live New York, San Francisco.
Ben FanningHow you.
Ben FanningYou must be a ninja at managing our being a remote executive, leading a remote team, working with remote contractors and clients.
Ben FanningWhat's the, what's the secret saucer?
Jess WolfI think it all started with our core sky team and ensuring that there was a lot of trust built, which is ultimately done through really thoughtful communication.
Jess WolfWe had a lot of structures in place to ensure that we were all aligned on what was happening with the business.
Jess WolfI'd say the one that was probably most important for us was our daily standup.
Jess WolfSo every morning at 11am ET for 30 minutes, the team would come together and would walk through our essentially standup tracker.
Jess WolfAnd every leader had to input what they were going to accomplish that day.
Jess WolfAnd these were small, two large things with timelines, dates and a section like if you needed help, who you'd be asking help with, and then notes if something was delayed.
Jess WolfAnd we went through this every morning and I think people who are joining, you know, were nervous about this and thought this would be tedious and exhausting.
Jess WolfBut we started with an icebreaker every morning so there was an element of connection.
Jess WolfAnd then we got into the details and this really helped me as an executive understand what every single person on my team was working on on a daily basis.
Jess WolfYou know, what was getting kind of dropped and why, what people were prioritizing where I make adjustments into workload.
Jess WolfAnd then I could also take a temperature check on my culturally, how everyone was feeling emotionally as well.
Jess WolfAnd so this process of a daily standup really helped me ensure that I was being the most impactful leader I could be.
Jess WolfAnd then I Think, like I mentioned, we had our strategy meeting, we'd have our finance meeting, our weekly forecast meeting.
Jess WolfWe had, we had meetings in place that were at the same time every week, sure that everyone prepared, that we were staying on top of what was necessary.
Jess WolfAnd then when we think about our broader community, we really did the same with both our coaches and customers.
Jess WolfOur coaches, you know, had Monday, every Monday office hours where they could drop in, ask questions about product, about the business, you know, had a extensive support library and team that they could turn to.
Jess WolfAnd then we built community for them as well.
Jess WolfSo there was events and pods and a book club that they could be a part of.
Jess WolfAnd all these were ultimately avenues for connection, but really ways for us to ensure that we were in connection with our coaches and that they could turn to us when they needed us and that we could understand kind of how coaches were feeling about sky and feeling about their coaching engagements.
Jess WolfAnd lastly with our customers.
Jess WolfYou know, a big part of our offering was, you know, insights and so in order to, you know, support in giving the most thoughtful insights on whether coaching was working for their teams or not, you know, we were in constant connection.
Jess WolfSo we were providing data and having calls and we had a structure for how we engaged with HR team so that they felt really taken care of.
Jess WolfAnd then they also felt like they could come back to us with feedback at any time.
Jess WolfAnd I think being very present with your clients is critical.
Jess WolfAnd so we also made a lot of in person trips.
Jess WolfAnd this is all to say that, you know, in person often trumps everything.
Jess WolfAnd so we visited our clients a lot and our community for our people leaders was really robust.
Jess WolfWe'd host about two dinners a month in our major cities.
Jess WolfAnd so there was always the opportunity for us as a team to connect with, you know, fellow coaches and clients in person.
Ben FanningSo, most memorable community event or dinner that you had.
Ben FanningWhat, what was it and what made it so memorable?
Jess WolfYeah, you know, I often think that the more intimate dinners are sometimes special, but we did have a full day long thought leadership conference, which really made me really proud.
Jess WolfWe had about 10 different conversations with the president of Myers Briggs, our lead investor editor at Fortune, and a mix of leadership development experts and people who are just change makers in their industry.
Jess WolfAnd I think that the summit was directed all around professional development, which of course is what we stand for at Sky.
Jess WolfAnd so it was just an opportunity to really present, I think, all the learnings that we've had and all the relationships that we've built over the era and time at sky and we had about 200 plus people attend for the full day.
Jess WolfAnd it was.
Jess WolfIt was really special.
Jess WolfIt was great to see so many people in person and I feel like I learned so much.
Jess WolfSo it was, I think, you know, a day we're really proud of.
Ben FanningSounds like an amazing event.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningI read about Myers Briggs being so connected to sky and the company.
Ben FanningI'm an estj.
Ben FanningMy daughter has.
Ben FanningIs the opposite of everything I am.
Ben FanningAnd I think my wife is also in terms of the.
Ben FanningSo we have some interesting dialogue.
Ben FanningYeah, they're.
Ben FanningThat they put up with me.
Jess WolfI'm a huge fan of Myers Briggs.
Ben FanningYeah.
Jess WolfExciting announcement there with my involvement with the team in the.
Jess WolfI'll.
Jess WolfI'll save it.
Jess WolfI'm happy to say it.
Jess WolfI'm happy to say it now, but in the case that it's not released, we might have to wait.
Jess WolfBut I'm joining Myers Briggs board, which I'm thrilled about.
Ben FanningCongratulations.
Ben FanningYeah, we're big fans of it.
Jess WolfGood.
Jess WolfI'm glad to hear it.
Ben FanningYeah, my daughter did it.
Ben FanningTook it it in her as an eighth grader for the first time just recently.
Jess WolfSo powerful.
Ben FanningAnd.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningSo I'm estj.
Ben FanningShe's I n F.
Ben FanningI don't know.
Ben FanningI got whatever.
Ben FanningThe opposite of infj.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningAnd it's interesting.
Ben FanningIt's interesting.
Ben FanningAnd it really illuminated a lot for me about her and my wife and I used to kind of.
Ben FanningWas she an introvert or she an extrovert?
Ben FanningIt wasn't.
Ben FanningI.
Ben FanningI know they can kind of happen on a spectrum in terms of, you know, you're extremely extroverted or extremely introverted or somewhere in between.
Ben FanningBut anyway, we've really enjoyed that.
Ben FanningThose conversations.
Ben FanningSo anyway, something for listeners to think about.
Jess WolfDefinitely.
Jess WolfI think it helps you interact with your team members more effectively when you have a baseline understanding of where they're coming from and then what environments and what.
Jess WolfWhat types of communication.
Jess WolfI land best with them.
Jess WolfSo, yeah, it's a powerful tool.
Ben FanningGot a couple of quick fire questions, please.
Ben FanningAll right.
Ben FanningWhat makes a great intimate dinner from a community building standpoint?
Ben FanningYou've done probably hundreds of these things.
Jess WolfYeah.
Ben FanningWhat's.
Ben FanningWhat are.
Ben FanningWhat makes it good?
Jess WolfOne of my favorite books on this is the Art of Gathering by Prieta Parker.
Jess WolfAnd what I think she does so well is she.
Jess WolfIt essentially says that, you know, every gathering needs a very detailed framework.
Jess WolfI think often we think, you know, it's good people, it's good food, it's good music.
Jess WolfWe'll bring everyone together and everyone will have a good time.
Jess WolfAnd often that's the case.
Jess WolfBut I think to create a lot of intention behind a gathering can ensure people, you know, know why they're there and also can feel and leave feeling like, you know, they learned something or met someone or just felt a sense of really purposeful joy in that gathering.
Jess WolfAnd so I believe in structure for a dinner gathering.
Jess WolfI always ha.
Jess WolfI start with, you know, introductions of some kind, as cheesy as it might sound.
Jess WolfBut I think I.
Jess WolfI think I make it sound.
Jess WolfI think I make it tasteful at the dinner, you know, some form of a get to know you question.
Jess WolfMy husband has leaned into this, although I think he was embarrassed by it at first when we first hosted, but he now does a game at most of our dinners called long Short.
Jess WolfSo you share something you're long on, something you're shorting.
Jess WolfIt can be, you know, political or it can be cultural.
Jess WolfAnd this really can stoke a lot of arguments.
Jess WolfBut I think that really helps you get beyond just that surface conversation, which ultimately I think is what creates, you know, deeper relationships.
Ben FanningThey're sharing it to all the people or they're sharing it to one.
Ben FanningOkay.
Jess WolfYou know, in group conversation.
Ben FanningAnd typically how many people would be at an intimate level of gathering?
Jess WolfWe typically at our dinners, like to host anywhere from like 8 to 12.
Ben Fanning8 to 12.
Ben FanningThat's a good number.
Jess WolfYeah, I think that's a really good number.
Jess WolfBut I think it's also important to have a mix of that, like one on one conversation with your neighbor and then also ensuring that there are some group conversations.
Jess WolfYou can bring the group together because you were intentional in who you invited in the first place.
Jess WolfYou want to ensure all the minds can share and get to know each other and then, as Priya Parker always says, having some ultimate conclusion to the evening too.
Jess WolfSo I highly recommend the book.
Jess WolfIt's helpful.
Ben FanningOkay, very good.
Ben FanningNext quick fire question.
Ben FanningWhat is your favorite coaching question?
Jess WolfWow, that's a hard one.
Jess WolfIt's my favorite coaching question.
Ben FanningOne of your favorite, I should say, I'm sure there.
Jess WolfI don't know if I have like a question in particular, but something my coach always does that I really appreciate is she asks me when I'm sharing a statement or a feeling.
Jess WolfShe asked me is what you're saying, a, I should do that or is it a I must do that?
Jess WolfAnd so helping me differentiate between what, like, I feel like I, I should do for others or, you know, society is impacting that decision versus what I really want to Do.
Jess WolfAnd so detangling kind of the motives behind my actions.
Jess WolfReally powerful.
Ben FanningYeah, I love that.
Ben FanningAnd sometimes that can reveal so much about your to do list.
Ben FanningYes, these are my shoulds, but maybe they're kids.
Jess WolfRight.
Ben FanningAnd there's not really.
Ben FanningI'm sure there's probably a lot of that when you're going through exiting too to figure out what you need to be doing.
Ben FanningThen with like a never ending to do list.
Jess WolfYeah, yeah.
Ben FanningYou mentioned those daily standup meetings and you'd often start them off with a icebreaker.
Ben FanningWhat was your default?
Ben FanningOr you're like your go to icebreaker.
Jess WolfWell, I had to get really creative because we have many days, every day had to not do the same icebreaker every day.
Jess WolfBut one I really love and I do often is your six word story.
Jess WolfSo you take two minutes when you think about the six words that define your life.
Jess WolfSome people get really creative and do mostly a poem.
Jess WolfOthers just choose words that, you know, stand for different chapters in their life.
Jess WolfAnd then you don't explain it why, you just share those six words with the group.
Jess WolfAnd I think, you know, often you're like, oh yeah, I totally get those words for you.
Jess WolfAnd other times you're like, oh, wow, that surprises me.
Jess WolfAnd that's something that you can discuss and build a, you know, connection on later with your coworker or friend.
Jess WolfBut I really like that practice.
Ben FanningSo you give us some really cool ones that could work in a.
Ben FanningI'm sure for like a dinner, like an elegant dinner.
Ben FanningLike six words could be a sentence.
Ben FanningIt could be just random words.
Ben FanningAnd the long, short game is long being I'm.
Ben FanningThis is what I'm into.
Ben FanningI'm really all in on.
Ben FanningAnd short meaning.
Ben FanningI'm selling it.
Ben FanningLike this idea.
Jess WolfExactly.
Ben FanningI'm moving out of that.
Jess WolfSure.
Jess WolfLike you could say I'm long the wellness movement.
Jess WolfI'm short remote work.
Ben FanningYeah.
Ben FanningLove it, love it.
Ben FanningSo good.
Ben FanningMan.
Ben FanningJess, this has been so much fun today and it's just so cool to get the behind the scenes from someone who just exited their company and what that was like, how you built it, where the idea of the company came from and then what you're heading into now and behind the scenes on your operating system when you're working there and how you're building that out.
Ben FanningReally, really cool.
Ben FanningBut with all that in mind, what's your parting thought for our listeners today?
Ben FanningParting thought, any way you want to take it.
Ben FanningIt could be six words.
Jess WolfMy six words, my parting thought is there's never the right time or a good time to pursue what you're hoping to pursue.
Jess WolfI think you can save money and go back to business school and delay having children or whatever it is that you're putting off in your life to, to pursue something.
Jess WolfBut I think there's never, there's never going to be the precise right moment.
Jess WolfSo just from my own experience, I think, I think go for it.
Jess WolfIf you're hoping to pursue something and you're, and you've had it like in the back of your head and you're very excited about it, don't wait for this perfect moment in time because it doesn't exist.
Ben FanningLove it.
Ben FanningThanks for that.
Ben FanningThanks for coming on the show today, Jess.
Ben FanningWant to boost your productivity and decision making?
Ben FanningGet vital insights from each episode delivered directly to your inbox.
Ben FanningA great resource whether you've listened to the episode or not.
Ben FanningGo to benfanning.com insight.