Welcome to the Abundant Life Podcast, bringing you encouragement and challenging believers to spiritual change and growth by applying biblical principles to everyday life.
Speaker AAnd now your hosts, Sasso Mendez and Ben Arellano.
Speaker AWelcome, everybody, to the Abundant Life Podcast.
Speaker AThis is episode number 7171, and I'm here with my good friend and faithful servant in the faith, Sasa.
Speaker ASo, man.
Speaker BHey, man, what's going on?
Speaker AWhat's up, man?
Speaker BHow you doing?
Speaker AI'm good, man.
Speaker AIt's been a day.
Speaker AI'll be honest with you.
Speaker BIt's been a week.
Speaker AYes.
Speaker BYou know what I mean?
Speaker BYeah, yeah.
Speaker BIt's been really busy, but I miss getting paid by the hour.
Speaker AExcited to do the show tonight.
Speaker AWe've got a repeat customer.
Speaker AWe got a frequent flyer that is back.
Speaker BWell, our preferred vendor of any air conditioning needs, Nicole Mercado for the official sponsor of the Abundant Life Podcast.
Speaker AWelcome back.
Speaker AWelcome back.
Speaker CThank you.
Speaker CI mean, I'm not as recurring as Rebecca.
Speaker CShe is the queen.
Speaker CShe is the queen.
Speaker CCo host of the Abundant Life Podcast.
Speaker ABut I'm honored to be back to become one.
Speaker ARight.
Speaker ASo it's.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker ASasso.
Speaker BAnd you know, I've been on 71 episodes.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AWhat's a brother got to do to get a hat?
Speaker CYou just ask for one.
Speaker CWe'll get you one.
Speaker CDone.
Speaker BAll right.
Speaker BAll right.
Speaker BI love my black one.
Speaker BAnd I love the old English shirt that Kate stole from me.
Speaker BWe'll get you another one when she gets married.
Speaker BI'm gonna take it.
Speaker AYou guys should make it shirt with Tony because he did the commercial and, you know.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker ALike, he's like.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker AYou know, he makes that face for you.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker AYou show him the picture.
Speaker AI think Carlos shows him the picture.
Speaker CI love the marketing ideas.
Speaker BYeah, There you go.
Speaker CYeah, I'll take that to the marketing department.
Speaker AOr we should show him the picture from Tony from ftl.
Speaker AYou know, the.
Speaker BOh, yeah.
Speaker BWhere he's super annoyed by this guy and so he puts his head back.
Speaker CThat would make a good sticker.
Speaker BOh, wood.
Speaker BBen.
Speaker BBen.
Speaker BOr my.
Speaker BI mean, our.
Speaker BI might send it to you.
Speaker ASo the picture's hilarious.
Speaker AIt's so funny.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker BHe was just super annoyed.
Speaker BAnd he didn't hide his.
Speaker BHe doesn't hide him.
Speaker BHis facial expressions, his body language.
Speaker BIt was.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BEspecially when you're 64 and £315.
Speaker BIt's hard to hide those.
Speaker CIt's hard to hide anything at that point.
Speaker BExactly.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AThe funny part is I don't think anybody else noticed.
Speaker AI noticed because I was sitting across And I took the picture.
Speaker BYeah, I can see his nose hairs.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker A100.
Speaker BSo, Nicole, on just a.
Speaker BAnother note, I see you had my dad over for dinner.
Speaker BWhat did you guys.
Speaker BWhat did you serve?
Speaker COh, we served quesadillas, carne asada.
Speaker CWhat else did we make?
Speaker BI've not been to the Holy Grail, the mercado household, yet.
Speaker CDid we?
Speaker CWhat was that meat?
Speaker CMaybe one day, this meal.
Speaker CIs that what it's called?
Speaker AOh, that's just his beef.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CLike a ribbon.
Speaker CType of like a flank.
Speaker BLike a costo or something or.
Speaker AWell, the flank is different.
Speaker AThat's the ra.
Speaker AI think that's.
Speaker AThat's the.
Speaker CWe had carnesada, but we had these other little things that Carlos makes, and they have little bones in them, and he's.
Speaker CHe's looking at me like.
Speaker BLike, short ribs.
Speaker BShort ribs.
Speaker AThat's okay.
Speaker CThere we go.
Speaker CShort ribs.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BRebecca loves short ribs.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BYou grilled them or smoked him or what?
Speaker CGrill.
Speaker BCarlos said he grilled him.
Speaker CThen I think I had maybe guacamole, Maybe.
Speaker CI don't.
Speaker COh, I made some jalapenos.
Speaker CJalapeno rice?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CSo it was good.
Speaker BJalapeno rice?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CYour dad kept saying, I've never had green rice before.
Speaker CAnd I was like, oh, is that good or bad?
Speaker CI don't know, but it was delicious.
Speaker ANever had jalapeno rice?
Speaker CNo.
Speaker AEvery rice.
Speaker AI mean, Mexican rice that I've had is all, you know, red.
Speaker ARed rice or orange rice, whatever.
Speaker ADiane makes really good Mexican rice.
Speaker AI know Rebecca does, too, but I've never had.
Speaker CSo this one, like, instead of a tomato, you put.
Speaker CYou blend jalapenos, cilantro, onion, garlic, and then you.
Speaker CChicken bouillon.
Speaker CIt can be.
Speaker CIf the jalapeno is hot, but, like, the sauce is green and it comes out really good.
Speaker BWell, we know it's hotter than a tomato, right?
Speaker BI mean.
Speaker BI mean, the scobo levels are much higher, Right.
Speaker AI've seen people.
Speaker AThey put.
Speaker AYou ever heard of el pato?
Speaker AInstead of using tomato sauce, use that.
Speaker AIt's a little spicier.
Speaker AAnd they have the jalapeno kind and.
Speaker BThen the green one.
Speaker AYellow one.
Speaker AThe green one's a jalapeno.
Speaker BYellow is OG1, right?
Speaker AYeah, but it's good.
Speaker CYou.
Speaker AWe used to just dip on that, like salsa.
Speaker AIt's pretty cool.
Speaker BWhen I was a kid, my dad and sister would get their own can.
Speaker BI mean, my mom would share.
Speaker AOh, like, to dip.
Speaker ADip some chips?
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BI remember it was like, 10 for a dollar.
Speaker BMy mom would stock up.
Speaker AThey're still pretty cheap, I think.
Speaker APretty inflation.
Speaker AI'm probably like three bucks now.
Speaker AMaybe, but maybe.
Speaker COh, I can't even remember.
Speaker BI think might be older.
Speaker COver a dollar each.
Speaker CYeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker BI think we need a dollar each.
Speaker CNo, over, I think.
Speaker BAnd then they had the bigger can.
Speaker BYeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker BAnd then they have the bigger can.
Speaker BThey just put little plastic over and put in the fridge.
Speaker AYeah, yeah.
Speaker CWell, I'll have you over when.
Speaker CWhen my kitchen's done being built.
Speaker BYou're remodeling it or what?
Speaker CYeah, we're actually moving it to an entire different part of the house.
Speaker CWow.
Speaker BLike, are you adding on?
Speaker CWell, we have an addition and it wasn't really being used for anything.
Speaker CSo our kitchen now is really small.
Speaker CSo we're moving it to that bigger area.
Speaker CSo when your mom and dad came, we already had the dining room moved there, but my cabinets were just all over the place.
Speaker CSo now they're actually on the wall waiting for counter.
Speaker BWho's doing the work?
Speaker BCarlos?
Speaker CWell, yes, but also our dear pastor, Pastor Eckblad, who is a man of many talents.
Speaker BYou better never leave our church because I'm putting blood, sweat and tears in here.
Speaker BI love you guys.
Speaker CHe does.
Speaker CThat is a labor locked us in.
Speaker CYes, he's.
Speaker CHe's definitely a blessing, that's for sure.
Speaker CHe has put in many long hours.
Speaker CLike what I mean is, is he.
Speaker BWorking right now there while you guys are doing the body cast or.
Speaker CYou know what?
Speaker CYou joke about that, but hey, joking.
Speaker CWhen we were in.
Speaker CWhere were we?
Speaker CSandwich Diego.
Speaker CAnd when we went to Hawaii, he worked while we were gone on vacation.
Speaker CHe went to our house to paint and do all that.
Speaker CSo he's.
Speaker BDoes he have a key?
Speaker CHe's an angel.
Speaker CHe.
Speaker CThat.
Speaker CThat day he had a key which he promptly returns after he's done with his work.
Speaker CSo it doesn't seem like, you know, whatever.
Speaker BI just seen your house at night when I dropped Carlos off.
Speaker COh, yeah.
Speaker CIt's pretty scary at night, probably.
Speaker CIs it?
Speaker BI think he had Christmas lights on or something.
Speaker COh, yeah.
Speaker AThat was a lot like the year round Christmas lights, you know.
Speaker COh, no, no, no, no.
Speaker CDrew.
Speaker BMexican.
Speaker BI know.
Speaker BWe have.
Speaker AWe have a neighbor.
Speaker CI wait till the last possible minute to celebrate Christmas and then they promptly come off when it's time.
Speaker CI just, I.
Speaker CThere's a season for it and like, I just can't celebrate Christmas right now, you know, it's still hot.
Speaker CSome people do.
Speaker BI want to get those ever lights.
Speaker CThat'S just me though.
Speaker BMy investment.
Speaker AYeah, those are pretty nice.
Speaker BBut four grand and just never put them up again.
Speaker AHonestly, I don't.
Speaker AI. I could care less about decorating Christmas.
Speaker AIt's just Diane, she loves.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker AShe loves the lights under the bus.
Speaker AYeah, it's okay.
Speaker ABut I. I love her.
Speaker ASo I do it.
Speaker BI hope so.
Speaker BI mean she's right here.
Speaker BShe's gonna throw a chunkle at you.
Speaker BWould you say?
Speaker CI like fall?
Speaker CActually that's my favorite decor.
Speaker CAnd my birthday is usually the first day of fall, so.
Speaker BWhen is your birthday?
Speaker CSeptember 22nd.
Speaker BOh, it's coming up.
Speaker CIt's coming up.
Speaker COh, wow.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker BThat is coming up pretty soon.
Speaker CSo I will collecting cash and gifts all week, guys.
Speaker BCataloo Air.
Speaker BJust look it up.
Speaker BYou can send.
Speaker BShe's registered at Amazon.
Speaker CYou can put my birthday.
Speaker CMy cash app handle at the bottom of the screen if you want Apple pay.
Speaker BApple pay on the YouTube channel.
Speaker BTony 22nd.
Speaker BSo that is.
Speaker BWhat is that?
Speaker BSunday?
Speaker CMonday.
Speaker BMonday.
Speaker BSorry.
Speaker BI think today's Wednesday.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker BWhat do you got planned?
Speaker CNothing.
Speaker BThe fair?
Speaker CNo, nothing.
Speaker BNothing.
Speaker BYeah, I'm sure Carlos, he's a romantic guy.
Speaker BHe took you to Hawaii.
Speaker BI'm sure he has something planned.
Speaker CWell, my mother in law's birthday was yesterday, so we're gonna celebrate together on Saturday.
Speaker CBut really, I don't have parties for my birthday.
Speaker CI just.
Speaker BI know, but dinner or like what's your favorite restaurant?
Speaker COh, I. PETA Jungle.
Speaker BReally?
Speaker CYes.
Speaker AI love people like above every.
Speaker ALike, like that's your.
Speaker AThat's your go to your birthday.
Speaker CI will never get tired of PETA Jungle.
Speaker CSo like, you know how sometimes you have different tastes on a.
Speaker COn a certain day?
Speaker CYou're like, oh, I'm feeling Italian.
Speaker COr this.
Speaker CIf somebody's like let's just go to PETA Jungle.
Speaker CI could be feeling like eating Chinese food.
Speaker CI will go eat at Peter Jungle.
Speaker CI love it that much.
Speaker AWow.
Speaker BBecause even I get sick of B Dubs.
Speaker ABut if you go back to the time before you got sick of B Dubs, I mean that's kind of that whole scenario, right?
Speaker BI mean.
Speaker BWell, just.
Speaker AYou wouldn't.
Speaker BIt's a day or two, then I'm back.
Speaker AI'm just saying.
Speaker AYou wouldn't pick B dubs for your birthday though, right?
Speaker BI mean.
Speaker BNo.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BNo, right?
Speaker BNo.
Speaker AAs much as you like it or kind of don't like it, but whatever.
Speaker BI would pick Matt's.
Speaker CWell, I mean I've gone to like Ruth Chris like for an anniversary or birthday.
Speaker CBut like, you know.
Speaker BYeah, but those are like once a year stuff.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BYou know what I mean?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AWhich is your birthday?
Speaker BWhich.
Speaker BYour birthday.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BLike, I like Houston's.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BThat's my kind of in between.
Speaker BRuth.
Speaker BChris.
Speaker CI've never heard of that place.
Speaker CIs it here?
Speaker CSorry.
Speaker BYes.
Speaker BHow about Hillstone?
Speaker CI'm sorry.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker CClearly I'm not as sophisticated as you thought.
Speaker BMaybe not.
Speaker BThat's okay, though.
Speaker BWe can get you there.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker BIt's good stuff.
Speaker BI take.
Speaker CYou can take me for my birthday.
Speaker BI could.
Speaker COkay.
Speaker BThere you go.
Speaker BI'd be okay with that.
Speaker ALocked and loaded.
Speaker BCarlos.
Speaker CComing.
Speaker CYes.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BWater with lemon for this guy.
Speaker BExtra lemon, please.
Speaker BI'm feeling generous.
Speaker BNo, that'd be great.
Speaker BSo we talked about food, right?
Speaker BYou kind of weird.
Speaker BYou don't like other things in PETA Jungle, but that's okay.
Speaker BVery strange to me.
Speaker BThere's a lot of.
Speaker BLot of restaurants we can go to.
Speaker BBut just on a serious note, you know, we had texted a little bit about, you know, Charlie Kirk, and I think we'd be remiss.
Speaker BAnd I think Ben and I will discuss maybe doing a podcast about his life.
Speaker AAnd I would love to make that our next episode.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BWe got the opportunity to go see him live last October with Carrie Lake.
Speaker AAnd I feel so dumb that we didn't get a picture with him.
Speaker AHe was right there.
Speaker BI really wish that I got a picture of him, but not with him.
Speaker ARight.
Speaker AI would like to have got one with him.
Speaker AI did.
Speaker AI got a picture.
Speaker BHe was a foot taller than I, so I didn't.
Speaker BYou know, he was a tall guy.
Speaker AI know he was drinking Starbucks and.
Speaker BYeah, he was.
Speaker AI was kind of thinking, charlie Kirk, you're a conservative guy.
Speaker ADrinking Starbucks like I was, anyway.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker AGood dude, man.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CTragic.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd that really is.
Speaker BAnd we really see the heart of the people of America and even the world, I think, is showing more respect than where I really believe we are in the last days.
Speaker BAnd what I appreciate.
Speaker BAnd I was saying that's a freedom at last, is that these people that have been vile and said crazy, ridiculous things for a man that was murdered in front of thousands of people and probably millions that have seen it online, that God would still save the killer that killed Charlie Kirk and Charlie Kirk would be welcoming him to.
Speaker BTo.
Speaker BTo heaven.
Speaker BAnd that's the power of the gospel.
Speaker BRight?
Speaker BThe gospel is the gospel for everybody.
Speaker BIt's just not for.
Speaker BBecause we're all in the same spot.
Speaker BRight?
Speaker BBen heard a message this Sunday about Paul being you know, on the level of the shooter persecuting Christians at the death of Stephen, who was one of God's people.
Speaker BAnd Stephen said, God forgive them, right?
Speaker BAnd he went up and God took him.
Speaker BAnd that was all of us too.
Speaker BWe just, you know, the Bible standard of murder.
Speaker BAnd so I just appreciate the power of the gospel and that God is willing to save everybody, even those that would say the most vile things, blasphemous, grotesque things towards God, towards Charlie Kirk, towards a man that had a family and kids.
Speaker BAnd so I was just grateful to God that he forgave me too, for all the, you know, the dumb stuff I've said.
Speaker CAnd.
Speaker BBut yeah, I just, I think we, our next podcast will probably be Charlie Kirk.
Speaker BI want to work on a devotional for that, but I just praise God for the stand he had.
Speaker BAnd then I think this is God's throwing out the net to the world to say all these people that are watching his clips where he gave the gospel another opportunity to say, like Noah, right, the door is shutting.
Speaker BYou better get into the boat or you're going to perish.
Speaker BAnd this is, you know, God's final call to, to the world, really.
Speaker BI, I believe that he used Charlie's death to really get it out there.
Speaker AWell, I mean, it's, it's global news and there's people worldwide reacting to this, whether it's be positive or negative.
Speaker ABut I would agree.
Speaker AI mean, this is, this is not just, you know, a celebrity dying.
Speaker AIt's.
Speaker AIt was, it was literal a persecution in the United States of America.
Speaker AOur kind of our first major persecution.
Speaker AAnd it was heard globally.
Speaker AAnd there's people that are coming to Christ because of this.
Speaker AIt's almost like, I think of, you know, talking about separating the goats from the sheep.
Speaker ALike, it almost seems like that's kind of what's happening because you're, you're seeing all this hatred bubble up, but you're also seeing people that were on that side coming over.
Speaker APeople.
Speaker AI was at a Wednesday night service and they were saying that they had 20 new families come to church this past Sunday as a result.
Speaker AAnd so I think people are now starting to think and starting to look at Charlie Kirk and say, well, who's this Jesus guy that he's been talking about?
Speaker AAnd I think it's making them think, and I think there's just this change or shift that's happening right now.
Speaker AIt's kind of exciting.
Speaker AHonestly, I'm not.
Speaker AI mean, it's tragic.
Speaker AIs, is I'll get out for For Charlie and for Erica and the kids.
Speaker ABut.
Speaker ABut I think God can bring good out of evil, and I think that's what we're seeing right now.
Speaker BAnd the crazy thing is that he had just spoke on Romans 8, 28, 29, right?
Speaker BThat God works all things together for good, for the.
Speaker BYou know, that the.
Speaker BThe man of God may be thoroughly furnished into good works.
Speaker BAnd I think a lot of Christians are being like, wow, challenged to say, man, this guy stood.
Speaker BStood for something.
Speaker BAnd you had sent me a verse, I think, believe, last night, saying that.
Speaker BThat we would all be ready to give an account of our salvation of.
Speaker BOf the eternal life.
Speaker BAnd I think Charlie in the last years had become really, really good at that.
Speaker BEven to the fact where Mormon, before he got shot, was questioning him.
Speaker BAnd he gave the gospel to all those people.
Speaker BAnd just people at church, we had new people come too, that said, my parents come here.
Speaker BI'm not interested.
Speaker BBut, man, that, that testimony of Charlie Kirk, like, I want to be like that, man.
Speaker BRight?
Speaker BAnd he puts all his husbands to shame and like, wow, this guy.
Speaker BUnbelievable.
Speaker CNot, not.
Speaker CNot Carlos.
Speaker BNo, not Carlos.
Speaker BHe just took you to Hawaii, so he hard to compete with that.
Speaker COh, that's a whole nother story.
Speaker CBut.
Speaker CBut that's a whole nother episode about how I survived a tsunami evacuation.
Speaker CHashtag, I'm a survivor.
Speaker BThat Oprah wasn't there to send a plane.
Speaker CI wasn't.
Speaker CI was on the other island, actually.
Speaker CWe were in Oahu.
Speaker CShe shut down the Maui.
Speaker BSo you weren't in Maui?
Speaker CNo, I was not in Maui.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BNo, but I like Oahu.
Speaker BPearl Harbor.
Speaker CBut I, I didn't.
Speaker CI did die, though.
Speaker CFive times in the car.
Speaker CYes, but that, like I said, that's a whole nother story.
Speaker BCarlos brought you back five times.
Speaker CHe.
Speaker CHe had to use, like, maybe you don't know, but when you take, like, child.
Speaker CI know you have children, but when you take like, childbirth classes and they're like, okay.
Speaker CWhen the wife is like, you know, saying, oh, I can't do it, I can't do it, then you have to do, like, the take charge method, like, say, look me in the eye.
Speaker COkay, breathe.
Speaker CThat's what he had to do in the car.
Speaker CIt was more like, I need you to get it together.
Speaker CAnd I'm like, okay, so get in shape.
Speaker BMake it.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CBut I want to give a shout out to Pastor Max Fowler from Salt and Light Church in Hawaii in Oahu, because he did our vow renewal earlier that morning.
Speaker CWe didn't know he was a Christian.
Speaker CBecause you don't know who's going to, like, show up when you do a vowel renewal, when you pay through a little company.
Speaker CBut we got to talking before we did it, and we found out that he was a pastor, and he had told us after we were all done, know, if you need anything while you're here, give me a call.
Speaker CLittle did he know that that night I would be calling him in tears because I was, like, hyperventilating about this tsunami that was coming.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CAnd we went to his house, and he made us dinner, and we got to hang out with him because he lived in a tsunami safe zone, which was literally three houses past the tsunami safe zone sign.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CBut I felt better.
Speaker BDid anybody die in that tsunami?
Speaker CThe tsunami didn't happen.
Speaker BOh, boy.
Speaker CYes.
Speaker BSo he's, like, drowning in four feet of water.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BWell, stand up.
Speaker CHere's the thing, is that I get to tell.
Speaker CI have the mic, right.
Speaker CSo Carlos could counteract this entire thing.
Speaker CBut this is my truth.
Speaker CWe're going to use that term.
Speaker CI'm just kidding.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CBut it was.
Speaker CIt was definitely an experience.
Speaker CBut Max was great.
Speaker CHim and his wife Vanessa, they took us in, we prayed, got to know about their life.
Speaker CWe got to share our testimony.
Speaker CAnd now we have friends in Hawaii.
Speaker BDr. Tillotson.
Speaker BAnd now friends in Hawaii.
Speaker CI don't know if you know this.
Speaker CI'm a big deal.
Speaker BYour net is widely cast.
Speaker CIt is.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CYeah, yeah.
Speaker AI have to hit you up on LinkedIn.
Speaker CI should probably update that, but.
Speaker CYes.
Speaker BYeah, me too.
Speaker AI'm trying to get in your network.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BMaybe if you feel.
Speaker BIf you'll accept us.
Speaker BI mean, accept our friend request.
Speaker CI'm taking applications, so.
Speaker BOkay.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker BOkay, So I already got my dryer fixed.
Speaker BYou know, Ken Luair scared of a house fire because of Tony.
Speaker BGreat marketing.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker COh, man.
Speaker AShall we get into some content?
Speaker BLet's get in the content here.
Speaker BSorry.
Speaker ATaco talk went pretty long today.
Speaker ASorry about that.
Speaker BThat's okay.
Speaker CSorry.
Speaker BLove you.
Speaker BBye.
Speaker AReal quick, before we get into the content, just a reminder.
Speaker AVisit us at Abundant Live fm.
Speaker AYou can see all of our old podcast episodes along with show notes and other recommendations.
Speaker AI don't know that we've added canaloo to the site.
Speaker AWe may have to add canaloo as a link on the side, as a reference, as a.
Speaker AAs a referral.
Speaker BBut that Tony commercial, you guys do.
Speaker AAffiliate, like, payouts, like, for, like, people that refer you business, like, you know, a little commission.
Speaker COh, man.
Speaker CWe can talk about that.
Speaker BHow about hats?
Speaker CI Could pay hats.
Speaker BFor every five people, you get a hat.
Speaker BI just want to tickets.
Speaker AI just want a Tony T shirt.
Speaker AThat's what I want.
Speaker CListen, once we get the Tony T shirt out, you guys will be the first two to have one.
Speaker COkay?
Speaker BThat head kick can't get any bigger, though.
Speaker BIf you give him his own shirt, he's gonna be like, he's already big.
Speaker BYou know what I mean?
Speaker BLike, Carlos told me, your head's too big to fit in the room, but Red Tony's head's even bigger.
Speaker AWow.
Speaker AAnd you can also visit us on social media.
Speaker AWe are on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, I believe.
Speaker AAnd so with that, we're gonna get into our content.
Speaker AToday we're gonna be talking about the topic of adoption.
Speaker AI know we've had other episodes on this, but this is just a little bit different spin on it.
Speaker AI think you guys will be blessed with this story.
Speaker AAnd Sasso is going to kick us off with our key verse today.
Speaker BSo we are going to Galatians 4, chapter 5.
Speaker BI mean, I'm sorry.
Speaker BGalatians, chapter 4, verses 5 through 7.
Speaker BTo redeem though.
Speaker BTo redeem them that were under the law that we might receive the adoption of sons.
Speaker BAnd because ye are sons, God had sent forth the spirit of his son into your hearts.
Speaker BCrying, abba, Father.
Speaker BSo, Nicole, kick us off and just kind of tell us what brings you here to speak about the story of adoption and how it relates to God adopting us into his family.
Speaker CSure.
Speaker CSo, as you know, Carlos and I have five children, four of which mercy.
Speaker BWhy did you know Hawaii?
Speaker BWow, that seems like nothing.
Speaker CHey, if you want to get a good night's sleep after having five kids, you have to fly 3,000 miles across the ocean and survive a tsunami evacuation.
Speaker CI will plug that again.
Speaker BTsunami's nothing compared to the five kids.
Speaker CExactly.
Speaker CSo, yes, we had four daughters.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CAnd we're not planning to have any more children.
Speaker CAnd people would always ask, are you gonna have more kids or are you wanting a boy?
Speaker CAnd that was, like, not even on our radar.
Speaker CWe were happy with the four girls that God gave us, and we knew it was for a reason.
Speaker CWell, now we have a son.
Speaker CHis name is Mateo.
Speaker CHe's gonna be 2 in November.
Speaker CAnd it's really, like, crazy to think that we got him when he was 3 weeks old.
Speaker CSo the first, like, 17 months of his life were a really trying time.
Speaker CLike, emotionally, maybe spiritually, mentally, physically, all the things.
Speaker CBut pretty much Mateo is actually biologically my nephew.
Speaker CHis biological father is my brother, and my Brother is at the moment and has been for a while on drugs in the streets, unfortunately.
Speaker CSo we knew that this baby was coming in 2023.
Speaker CWe just didn't know when.
Speaker CAnd one day we just got a call stating that the baby was born.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CSo we didn't kind of, we didn't know what was going to happen with him because at that point the biological parents were trying to, you know, keep him as.
Speaker CI don't know.
Speaker CAnyways, December 20, though, was the day he was born, November 28.
Speaker CHe was six weeks early because his biological mom was, is a user.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CSo when he was born six weeks early, he had fentanyl and meth in his system.
Speaker CAnd so he had to be get, like, get special care, obviously, because he was also really small.
Speaker CHe was like four and a half pounds when he was born.
Speaker CUm, so the time came for him to be discharged because thank God, he wasn't as bad or he didn't need the level of care that most babies that are born that way needed.
Speaker CSo he was fine to be released from the hospital.
Speaker CHe just didn't have two healthy parents that could take him.
Speaker CSo they called me at 8 in the morning and they were like, hey, we have this baby that's ready to be released.
Speaker CWould you be willing to take him?
Speaker CAnd I'm like, yeah, we can take him.
Speaker CAnd they said, okay, well, we need to get some stuff signed by the courts and we'll, we'll let you know.
Speaker CSo in my mind, I'm like, okay, well, that's going to take like a few days.
Speaker CAnd I said, well, how soon does that happen?
Speaker CThey said, oh, by this afternoon.
Speaker CAnd a DCS caseworker is going to go to your house and investigate your house and then interview you guys.
Speaker CAnd when they interview you, they really interview you.
Speaker CLike, they made us separate.
Speaker CLike, we, they interviewed me.
Speaker CThey sent my mom outside and my husband outside, and they ask you questions like, how do you resolve conflict?
Speaker CDo you and your husband fight?
Speaker CWere you spanked as a child?
Speaker CDo you spank your kids?
Speaker CLike, lots of things.
Speaker CWell, we passed.
Speaker CSo what did you say?
Speaker ADid you spank your kids?
Speaker BMaybe that's personal.
Speaker BI don't know.
Speaker BYou okay answering that?
Speaker CI think I, you know, I don't remember what I said, but the answer I gave.
Speaker CMy kids were sitting on the couch and they were like, not.
Speaker CThey were shocked at my answer.
Speaker CI guess.
Speaker BIt didn't be your kids.
Speaker AYeah, we spanked our kids.
Speaker AI mean, it was me too.
Speaker AIt was just a. Yeah, well, we did.
Speaker CI mean, if this is being recorded, I don't remember what I said, but yeah, I spanked my kids.
Speaker COkay, so there you go.
Speaker BBut that's biblical, right?
Speaker BThere's nothing God commands.
Speaker AYeah, we don't spread the rod if.
Speaker BYou love your kids.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker CBut when you're being put under all that pressure, like you don't know what the, what the right answer is.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CSo that, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker CLike, yeah.
Speaker CSo by one o' clock that afternoon, we had ripped open a car seat from Target and we were at the hospital, right.
Speaker CAnd getting ready to take this little redheaded baby in who was now five and a half pounds.
Speaker ALike Carlos Canelo, bro.
Speaker AMaybe, maybe you're right.
Speaker AMaybe you are related.
Speaker CI think so.
Speaker BLittle Cinnamon.
Speaker CLittle Cinnamon, that was actually his nickname for a while.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BIt'S better than his other name.
Speaker BHis first name.
Speaker CYes, yes.
Speaker CAt the time that was his old name.
Speaker BRight?
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CSo we, yeah, we had a new baby all in within a matter of hours and we did not sleep.
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Speaker BSo quick question just to go back.
Speaker BSo when you found out that your brother, you know, was expecting, did you guys already have like a thought that you would become the parents or you would you take him in or how did that transpire where you became like next in line to take sure the baby?
Speaker CIt wasn't until he was born that.
Speaker CBecause we didn't know for sure if the mom was pregnant because they were living on the street.
Speaker CSo it was just more like rumors of what she said.
Speaker CWe had a few family members kind of see them out on the street and be like, well she doesn't really look pregnant because she's a very tiny woman.
Speaker CSo we didn't know if she really was pregnant.
Speaker CBut anyways, once she was born, once he was born, I had asked Carlos at the kitchen table because I knew they couldn't take care of a baby.
Speaker CI said, if they ask us to.
Speaker CTo take this baby, because that's a big responsibility.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CWe were done.
Speaker CI mentioned that in the beginning, we were not having any more kids, and our youngest one was already two, so it was like we were sleeping through the night.
Speaker CWe had our routine, all that good stuff.
Speaker CSo he's like, yeah.
Speaker CAnd I said, okay.
Speaker CAnd that's kind of just where we left it.
Speaker CAnd then just through the whole, like, you know, a DCS case being opened because the baby was born exposed and all this other stuff.
Speaker CUm, you know, my name got in the orbit because I was family.
Speaker CAnd so I did have a talk with the case manager maybe about a week or so before we knew what was going to happen.
Speaker CAnd he had asked, would you be willing to take the baby in if needed?
Speaker CAnd I said, yeah.
Speaker CBut we didn't really know that that was going to happen because based on the stories that we were hearing from the parents, they were going to get the baby.
Speaker CAnd as you know, people that are in that situation don't always tell the truth.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CSo we were really kind of left in the dark.
Speaker CAnd also my brothers and mine relationship was not good.
Speaker CSo I wasn't talk.
Speaker CI hadn't spoken to my brother at that point for like a year and a half, so he wasn't gonna.
Speaker CI. I was the last person that was going to know any information.
Speaker CSo.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CAnd even since then, I haven't spoken to him.
Speaker CSo it's been a long time, I think, Since.
Speaker CIn.
Speaker CSince October 2022.
Speaker CI've seen him one time in person.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker CAnd that was when we had to take the baby to get a paternity test, which is a whole nother thing of why I believe.
Speaker CI know God had his hand on this.
Speaker CBecause when the baby was born, the biological mom is legally married to another man.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CSo the.
Speaker CThe lawyers did not know this.
Speaker CSo when I got the baby, I'm the paternal aunt.
Speaker CWe had a court date in January, so a few.
Speaker CA few weeks after I've had the baby.
Speaker CAnd then it was brought up that she was married.
Speaker CWell, she's not married to my brother, so at that point, the husband is considered the legal father.
Speaker CHad that information been known in the beginning.
Speaker CI'm nobody to the baby, Right.
Speaker CSo I wouldn't have gotten the baby.
Speaker CSo that was kind of my first.
Speaker CI know this is like, pretty deep, heavy stuff, right?
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker AIt just shows the Lord's providence in.
Speaker BIt all though this.
Speaker CSo this is how I knew at that.
Speaker CAt that moment, like, okay, like, as Hard as this is, I know that God has a bigger plan.
Speaker CAnd I'd like to say that it was always that easy to say that it was not.
Speaker CBut at that moment, two weeks in that.
Speaker CThat that's what had happened.
Speaker BSo just kind of going back.
Speaker BSo they had to do a DNA test to make sure you were the maternal aunt.
Speaker CYes.
Speaker CAnd that was the longest wait.
Speaker CBecause when they say they need a DNA test, then that puts a seed of doubt, especially, you know, like, in my mom, because my mom.
Speaker CMy mom helped me a lot with the baby in the beginning, and so she really started to bond with him.
Speaker CWell, we had him for about two or three weeks.
Speaker CWe had to get the paternity test, and from there, it was about another three week wait.
Speaker CSo there was that chance that, what if this baby is not my brother's?
Speaker CThen what do we do?
Speaker CBecause she already started bonding with him, and she had even asked me, if he's not his, can we still keep the baby?
Speaker CAnd I'm like, I'm not a certified foster parent.
Speaker CI'm what was called kinship care, which means I only had him because I was family.
Speaker CAnd at that point, he would have to go with, like, a certified foster family.
Speaker CSo that was a long wait.
Speaker CIt was.
Speaker CIt was rough.
Speaker CBut we looked at the baby, and as you know, the Mendes have a very distinct feature.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CAnd so we looked at him.
Speaker CWe're like, no, he has to be.
Speaker CHe has to be his.
Speaker CBut he was.
Speaker CAfter we waited three weeks.
Speaker BYeah, because what.
Speaker BAnd so I imagine the.
Speaker BThe woman that.
Speaker BThat she.
Speaker BYou know, and the marriage.
Speaker BThat the husband wasn't beating down your door wanting the baby, right?
Speaker CNo, he had actually.
Speaker CSo the woman has other children, and so she has children with her husband, and he had taken them and moved across the country to be back where they're originally from on the East Coast.
Speaker CSo he was kind of like, trying to rebuild his life and.
Speaker CAnd take care of his kids.
Speaker CSo.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CAnd I found out shortly after the adoption that he really doesn't want to have anything to do, for obvious reasons, with Teo, but he also doesn't want his children right now to even really know him or anything.
Speaker CAnd that's kind of sad, but I'm praying about that, because he has his four sisters from that live with him.
Speaker CHe has a brother, another child that my brother has who's a few years older than him, and then he has three other siblings from his biological mom.
Speaker BSo, like, I got money just in case he's here today.
Speaker BI told him I'd give money.
Speaker CSo he's like one of nine, maybe.
Speaker CI think he's the youngest of nine or eight, if you count all together.
Speaker CYeah, if you count adopted halves and all that.
Speaker CSo.
Speaker CWow.
Speaker BWow.
Speaker CYep.
Speaker BGo ahead.
Speaker BI'm sorry.
Speaker ANo, I was going to say how.
Speaker ASo how did that play on your spiritual life?
Speaker ALike, I mean, you know, from the time that you kind of had the conversation with Carlos, like, hey, what.
Speaker AWhat are we going to do if.
Speaker AUp until you going through the.
Speaker BThe.
Speaker AThe.
Speaker AThe test.
Speaker AThe DNA test?
Speaker ALike.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CI think for me, the most difficult part of it was in the beginning was the late night feedings.
Speaker CAnd I know that doesn't sound like a lot, but it was because again, like I said, I was sleeping through the night and having to wake up and feed him.
Speaker CI would just look at him and be like, I shouldn't have to be doing this.
Speaker CLike.
Speaker CAnd I got.
Speaker CI was angry at my brother because I'm like, this is your responsibility.
Speaker CLike, I.
Speaker COkay, this is gonna sound bad, but if we're being perfectly honest, I was like, I did my time, you know, Like, I didn't ask for this.
Speaker BThey'll be listening to this later.
Speaker BSorry, buddy.
Speaker CAnd this is like in the middle of the night, you know, this is like around the holidays.
Speaker CAnd I. I would dread knowing that I wasn't like, I'm gonna go to bed and I'm just gonna have to get up and I'm tired.
Speaker CAnd it's a very selfish thing.
Speaker COkay, so we can highlight that too.
Speaker CI was being very selfish, but it's real how I was feeling.
Speaker AYeah, you had four kids and then you guys have a business.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker AAnd so, I mean, that's not easy either if you're running your own business.
Speaker CYes.
Speaker AIt's a lot of time that you're having to give.
Speaker ASo I can understand the frustration.
Speaker ALike, that's.
Speaker AThat's tough.
Speaker BAnd some resentment.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker AIt's not hard or it is hard.
Speaker AI mean, it's not easy to.
Speaker BBecause you're carrying a burden that our responsibility that really is someone else's, that has not fulfilled their parental obligation or fatherly or motherly, both because of poor choices.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CWell, and then, too, when we spoke to the lawyer, because the baby had his own lawyer.
Speaker CAnd so when we.
Speaker CHe called me, the first court date we had, I asked him, I said, how long does this process take?
Speaker CLike, as far as knowing what's going to happen with him?
Speaker CAnd he said, it could be up to 18 months.
Speaker CAnd I had him for two weeks at this point.
Speaker CSo when you HEAR the word 18 months, you're like, oh, my.
Speaker CLike, this is.
Speaker CThis is a lifetime, right?
Speaker CBecause every day at that point felt like 10 years long.
Speaker CLike, it was just.
Speaker CIt was a lot.
Speaker CAnd so I.
Speaker CSo that was part of it, too, right?
Speaker CSo I'm like, wow, this is.
Speaker CThis is going to be a long time.
Speaker CAnd I didn't know if he was going to stay or if he was going to go.
Speaker CAnd just that, too was like, do I bond?
Speaker CWhat do I do?
Speaker CRight?
Speaker CAnd my mom, who lives with us, was an amazing help, but she also works full time, so she would say, when I have my days off, I'll help you.
Speaker CAnd when I have my days off, I'll keep them in my room at night so I can do the feeding.
Speaker CSo in the beginning, it was like, great.
Speaker CI'm going to get a good night's sleep.
Speaker CBut then one day, she was holding him when it was going to be her day off, and she was fast asleep.
Speaker CAnd I looked at her, and I'm like, I felt terrible.
Speaker CI'm like, how about this?
Speaker CI'll take nights, and you just help me on your days off.
Speaker CAnd she's like, okay.
Speaker CAnd Everest.
Speaker CAnd then from that day on, like, I kept him every single night.
Speaker CAnd it was a lot.
Speaker CBut, yeah, I mean, like, how Ben's asking about my spiritual life.
Speaker CIf there was anything that teaches you to wait on the Lord, it was that, you know, just because every court date was like, okay, we'll reconvene in three months.
Speaker COkay?
Speaker CYou wait for three months.
Speaker CYou go to your court date.
Speaker CAll right, well, they didn't have this paper they needed, so we'll set another court date three months from now.
Speaker CAnd that happened a lot.
Speaker CAnd so it just got to the point where I was like, I'm not even gonna think, oh, what are they going to decide now?
Speaker CBecause they're just going to keep kicking the can down the road, you know?
Speaker CAnd there was a court date that was pretty important, and his parents didn't show up.
Speaker CAnd this was probably about four or five months into the thing, and I just thought to myself, wow, nobody's here for him.
Speaker CAnd that's like a second time that it hit me, like, they don't care.
Speaker CAnd how can you.
Speaker CYou know what I mean, when you don't know this little person?
Speaker BAnd they were notified, I imagine.
Speaker COh, yeah.
Speaker CIn their own way, they do everything.
Speaker CThey.
Speaker CThey do everything.
Speaker CThey provide bus passes, everything for you to be able to, like, get a drug test, everything.
Speaker CThey put things out in the newspaper letters.
Speaker CThey even go to your house in person to try to find you.
Speaker CYou know, they tried, but they.
Speaker CThey didn't show up.
Speaker CSo.
Speaker BAnd in that state.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BI think, you know, drugs become more important than anything else in your life, even your own family and your own son, which is really sad.
Speaker BAnd I think of, you know, just baby Moses right in the water, and God had provided for him to be rescued and not killed.
Speaker BAnd in this case, I mean, I don't know, Mattel can be Moses, too.
Speaker BI don't know.
Speaker BBut how God has a plan for his life even when.
Speaker BFor all of us.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BEven the moment we're born.
Speaker BAnd thankfully, you know, we.
Speaker BI had parents and, you know, you did, too.
Speaker BBut how you now have become that mom and dad for somebody, as you said.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BThat if he didn't have them, if not me, then who.
Speaker BRight, right.
Speaker BAnd I think that's what we're learning, what we talked about.
Speaker BCharlie, Kirk, like, we can all feel bad about it, but what are you going to do about it?
Speaker BLike, what actionable things are you going to take?
Speaker BWhat steps you going to take to provide for him?
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BTo be a family more than anything.
Speaker BAnd so go back.
Speaker BI mean, just.
Speaker BI remember the day we were there for his.
Speaker BFor his official adoption.
Speaker BYeah, I know that was probably a really.
Speaker BBecause that was just the final.
Speaker BLike, he's ours.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd when one of that.
Speaker BWas that April.
Speaker CNo.
Speaker CSo we had gotten him on December 20, 2023, and our adoption was finalized May 1, 2025.
Speaker CSo, you know, you're at the end of the year, and then you got the whole year of 2024, and then a little bit of 2025.
Speaker CSo it seems like a really long time.
Speaker CI think it was like 17 months or something like that.
Speaker CIt was a long time.
Speaker CAnd I don't want to not mention that throughout a lot of this, I was meeting with your wife, Rebecca, and not like to use her counseling services.
Speaker CI know that I just have the.
Speaker CThe extreme luxury or privilege of having her as family.
Speaker CSo we would meet up for lunch and she would remind me of that.
Speaker CI would pour my heart out to her about what I was going through at that time with the baby.
Speaker CAnd she would just keep reminding me that, like, you know, God has a purpose for his life.
Speaker CAnd before we knew exactly what was going to happen, she would remind me, like, you're his mom right now.
Speaker CLike, and even if they were to make a decision where he would go to somebody else, which you don't really it doesn't sit in your mind that it's permanent until it's permanent.
Speaker CKnow.
Speaker CI mean, you don't ever want to assume.
Speaker CAnd that was really hard for me.
Speaker CShe would be like, you're his mom right now.
Speaker CAnd so I'm like, okay, Yep, yep.
Speaker CAnd then I would tell her, you know, with having the business and all of that, the way I would get through these long gaps between the court dates is I'm like, all right, it's summer, so we're just going to blow through the summer season.
Speaker CI'm not even going to worry about anything, and we're just going to focus on work.
Speaker CAnd she's like, okay, yeah, you can do that.
Speaker CYou can just focus on what you have to do, or you can remember in all her wisdom, Right.
Speaker CThat God is faithful.
Speaker CAnd I'm just like, yes, that's right.
Speaker BSo she does it to me, too.
Speaker BShe'll say, did you pray?
Speaker BI'm like, no, I just want you to listen to my problems.
Speaker BI don't want to be counseled.
Speaker BI just want you to say, agree with me on my complaining and murmuring.
Speaker BI don't want answers.
Speaker BI just want you to listen.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CSo she did help me out a lot throughout all that.
Speaker CAnd then, yeah, fast, Fast forward to May 1, 2025.
Speaker CWe adopted him officially, and his name was changed to Mateo, which is what.
Speaker BHallelujah.
Speaker BFrom what it was before.
Speaker CAnd that's what we've been, we've been calling him since he was about two months old.
Speaker CBut, yeah, and you were there.
Speaker CRebecca was there.
Speaker BPastor, the carpenter, the.
Speaker CYou know what I mean, General contract Renaissance pastor.
Speaker CRenaissance man.
Speaker CAnd a lot of our church family.
Speaker CAnd a lot of our family.
Speaker CAnd the judge, I'm, I, I, I don't know if you had heard him, but he was pretty shocked to see how many people fit in that courtroom.
Speaker CSo I'm like, oh, you don't normally bring this many people to an adoption.
Speaker CAnd we had a lot of people.
Speaker BThis is a small room.
Speaker CYeah, it was a small room.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CBut, and, but it was, it was nice.
Speaker CAnd there was a giant Trump protest right that day.
Speaker CSo a lot of our family that were trying to get there on time got there really late, and they missed the ceremony.
Speaker CAnd, but we all went to Peter Piper afterwards and had a great time hanging out.
Speaker CSo it was a nice day.
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Speaker BWhat I remember, I mean, you guys were emotional, obviously, but it's almost like, you know, when we get saved, that's when we become officially and you know, the.
Speaker BThe previous months of Mateo, like, that's God's working in your life, throwing things, leading you to himself and then that day of salvation, like, you are officially his child.
Speaker BAnd what a powerful example of you taking in Mateo under unique circumstances, for sure.
Speaker BAnd out of, really out of necessity and need.
Speaker BMost people, like, we learned, you know, show me the father.
Speaker BI think with the movie is where people go to China to adopt kids.
Speaker BThis was pretty much put in your lap.
Speaker BAnd I think if.
Speaker BWhat if you did not adopt baby Mateo, what would it.
Speaker BWhat would.
Speaker BWhere would he be?
Speaker BWhat would he become?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd how God impressed on your heart and even working in you.
Speaker BYou know, Carlos gave his.
Speaker BHe was on the podcast and you run the podcast, sharing your testimony, how you came to know Christ and even at that point, working before Matteo was even born.
Speaker BAnd the powerful thing is, you know, Matteo, he's going to grow up in a Christian home.
Speaker BAnd could he potentially be the one that leads his own father to Christ?
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BHis biological father.
Speaker BAnd God can use him.
Speaker BWho knows?
Speaker BRight?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BMatteo, Kirk, whatever.
Speaker BYou know what I'm saying?
Speaker BYou never know what God.
Speaker BWhat God has in store or.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CAnd I want to also, too, like, thank my husband because, like, Teo is my nephew by blood.
Speaker CRight.
Speaker CBut like, my husband was the one that, honestly, while I was going through all of these emotions and being angry at my brother and all these things, Carlos would like, just love on him.
Speaker CYou know what I mean?
Speaker CAnd he didn't have to.
Speaker CHe could have said no.
Speaker CLike, he could have said, like, no, like, that's.
Speaker CThat.
Speaker CThat.
Speaker CThat's too much.
Speaker CLike, we already have four kids.
Speaker CLike, this is too much.
Speaker CBut, like, he didn't even hesitate to say yes.
Speaker CSo I just want to say thank you to him because he's been like, so patient and loving and giving throughout this whole thing that even when I was like, falling short on A lot of areas, I know we all fall short, but especially myself because of the feelings that I had toward my brother.
Speaker CMy husband was just very steadfast and.
Speaker CAnd just loved on him.
Speaker CAnd you can see it to this day because when he walks in the room, Tao's like, daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy.
Speaker CAnd, like, rams them with his head and, you know, all the big head.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CAll the things.
Speaker CAll the things that boys do.
Speaker CAnd we get looks, you know, when we go out, they're like, where does he get his red hair from?
Speaker BAnd so third generation down the line.
Speaker CLine.
Speaker BIt's like, not the milkman for Irish now.
Speaker CIt's the Amazon man.
Speaker CThat's the.
Speaker CThat's the thing.
Speaker CThis is not the milkman.
Speaker CIt's the Amazon man.
Speaker AIt's a new day.
Speaker AIt's a new era.
Speaker BThat's right.
Speaker BAmazon man, the FedEx guy.
Speaker CBut, you know, when I did see my brother, like I mentioned earlier in the episode, the day we did the paternity test, and that was the first time I had seen him since we had, you know, had a big disagreement, and the last time we had spoken up to that point.
Speaker CAnd I had thought I had forgiven my brother for a lot of things.
Speaker CAnd when I saw him in person, you look at somebody who's lived a hard life out in the street, and it broke my heart because it made me think, like, did I really forgive my brother through all of that?
Speaker CAnd so it was just a lot going on, you know, seeing him the way he is, realizing that he couldn't possibly take care of this baby at all, and.
Speaker CAnd then also feeling those feelings of.
Speaker COf anger, resentment, you know, having to take on such a huge responsibility.
Speaker CAnd I don't want that to come off as like, I don't love my baby.
Speaker CI love him.
Speaker CThat was just very early on.
Speaker CAnd I think those are just natural things to feel in that kind of situation.
Speaker CBut you have to, you know, bring yourself back.
Speaker CLike, what does God want me to learn from this?
Speaker CAnd, like, our sanctification is not like, oh, everything's going to be rosy and easy and all this other stuff, like, life is hard, you know, so what is God teaching me about love, you know, in taking in.
Speaker CIn Teo and him being my son, you know, And I try to explain that to the kids because they joke with each other, right?
Speaker CThey'll be like, oh, you were adopted.
Speaker CAnd I'm just like, okay, calm down.
Speaker CI'm like, let's not say that, because then that's going to give him a complex.
Speaker CWhen he gets older.
Speaker CI'm like, because, listen, just as much as you're my child, like, Teo is my child, too.
Speaker CAnd I was forced to keep you guys because, like, you know, I birthed you.
Speaker CI said, tail.
Speaker CLike, we chose to keep him.
Speaker CI said, so.
Speaker CReally?
Speaker CHe's the favorite.
Speaker BI'm sure that went over real well.
Speaker CIt did.
Speaker CSometimes it's hard.
Speaker CLessons.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker CYou know, but every day.
Speaker BWell, that's a powerful story.
Speaker BAnd I just remember you when you.
Speaker BWhen we first kind of connected.
Speaker BI think that was, like, November probably when he was born.
Speaker BAnd then we had you at the house in January, and he was just a baby.
Speaker CThat's right.
Speaker BAnd then I had saw you the month before at the cousin's party, and I was like, I just saw them a month ago, and I don't remember Nicole being pregnant, but, man, she lost her baby two days.
Speaker BWow, that's impressive, man.
Speaker BThis is amazing.
Speaker BAnd then, I mean, I didn't want to be rude, and I say, hey, where'd the baby come from?
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BBut in my mind, I was like, that.
Speaker CThat was an awkward.
Speaker BI'm sure you got a lot of questions.
Speaker COh, yeah.
Speaker COh, yeah.
Speaker COh, yeah.
Speaker BSo how was it seeing your brother?
Speaker BDid you guys talk at all?
Speaker BWas it.
Speaker BWas he upset about the process?
Speaker CNo, he didn't say anything to me.
Speaker BHe didn't say, like, thank you?
Speaker CNo, no.
Speaker CAnd he.
Speaker CHe looked at the ground, and I kept telling myself, if he makes eye contact with me, I'm going to ask to give him a hug.
Speaker CAnd he.
Speaker CHe didn't.
Speaker CHe just looked at the ground.
Speaker CThe.
Speaker CThe biological mother, though.
Speaker CI said, do you want to see the baby?
Speaker CAnd she's like, yeah.
Speaker CAnd she kind of held his hand a little bit.
Speaker CShe cried a little bit.
Speaker CAnd then I told him.
Speaker CI told them.
Speaker CI said, I'm going to take care of him until you get better.
Speaker CBecause at that point, we only had, like.
Speaker CWe only had him, like, two or three weeks.
Speaker CI said, get better.
Speaker CWhen you get better, I'll.
Speaker CI'll give him back to you.
Speaker CAnd, yeah, here we are today.
Speaker BSo, I mean, would you feel like it was.
Speaker BHe was ashamed or of what he's become or.
Speaker BHe just was.
Speaker CI think there was probably a lot of that, because I would say in the time from when I saw him last to this time, he had to have lost at least 30 to 40 pounds, and he did not look like himself.
Speaker CSo I think there was a degree of that.
Speaker CI don't know so much, and I don't know that he was Angry with me.
Speaker CI think he probably felt ashamed.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd I mean, really, God's put him in the best possible home he could be in.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BAnd that ultimately is God's sovereign will for Mateo's life because he allowed it to happen and he had a plan for him.
Speaker BAnd just like Christy was here last time and she was saying, you know, I was adopted when I think she was 2 years old.
Speaker BI don't remember quite how old she was, but the change that Mateo can maybe sit in this chair one day.
Speaker BI probably won't be alive, but.
Speaker BAnd tell his story of how God, you know, what a testimony, how God worked in his life and what a story he has that in Adam and an uncle were willing to become mother and father.
Speaker BAnd I just think, wow, what an awesome parallel between, you know, God redeeming us as lost people out in the world destined for hell.
Speaker BRight?
Speaker BThe wrath of God abides on us.
Speaker BAnd he said, it doesn't have to.
Speaker BYou can become my child.
Speaker ARight.
Speaker BHe became, he became poor that we might be rich.
Speaker BAnd same thing with Mateo, right?
Speaker BHe was going to be poor.
Speaker BHe really was.
Speaker BHe had no family to take him, but somebody stepped up and said, you know what?
Speaker BI'll do it.
Speaker BAnd that's what I feel.
Speaker BGod, right?
Speaker BHe said, no man, you know, no greater love hath no man than him willing to lay down his life for his friends.
Speaker BAnd that's what he did for us.
Speaker BAnd at this point, probably Carlos and you would probably lay down your life for little baby Mateo, right?
Speaker BBecause now he's yours.
Speaker BAnd I seen him with his little Diamondbacks, you know, shirt on, you know, Mercado.
Speaker CWe're hoping he plays for the Diamondback someday.
Speaker CThat's, that's why I'm investing all this time into him.
Speaker BStart hitting them little grounders, see what he does, you know.
Speaker CAnd then, you know, too, like I, I mentioned about Carlos, but also his mom and dad and his brothers and sisters, they accepted him from day one, like before the adoption was even final, they were considering him his nephew and their grandson.
Speaker CAnd so I just, you know, I.
Speaker CAnd my in laws, they don't speak English, right?
Speaker CSo they just.
Speaker CAnd I say that because this little tiny, little white, red haired baby, right, loves his nanan tata that just love on him all the time and look nothing like him, you know, just like Carlos.
Speaker CAnd it's just really pretty dark.
Speaker CYeah, but, but I'm saying that too, because as in laws, you know, they have no flesh and blood connection to him.
Speaker CAnd, and, and they loved him so much they love him still.
Speaker CSo much.
Speaker CSo, you know, it's.
Speaker CIt's definitely a blessing in our life.
Speaker CAnd, yeah, God's plan, for sure.
Speaker BAnd I think that's what it's hard for when we're in the midst of the struggle.
Speaker BUm, we don't see the end result, and we still don't see the end result of what he'll become.
Speaker BUm, and it could be one person that, you know, leads people to Christ, that that person has the impact of the world or.
Speaker BOr maybe they lead.
Speaker BYou know, Bible says one soul, right, Heaven rejoices.
Speaker BAnd the chance he has to become a child of God is much greater in this environment than it would have been if he would have went.
Speaker BAnd I just.
Speaker BIt's just amazing to me how God connects the dots.
Speaker BAnd sometimes we don't see this and we'll never see it till we get to eternity.
Speaker BAnd sometimes God allows us to see that process of his sovereign will and how he uses us.
Speaker BIf you're willing to be used, right, if you'll say, God, send me, you know, as Mike would say, God can use you in a powerful way to influence a young baby, right.
Speaker BThat you.
Speaker BWho knows what Matteo will be in.
Speaker CHis life, you know, and it's.
Speaker CSometimes it's difficult for me when people say, like, oh, you know, you did this great thing, or you did.
Speaker CYou're so selfless.
Speaker CAnd really, it's like, well, okay, yeah, I did that.
Speaker CBut I really, really want to just say, like, it was just all God, because if it was up to me, I'd still be probably wallowing in tears, right?
Speaker CAnd being like, why?
Speaker CWhy?
Speaker CAnd no, it was all God's doing.
Speaker CI only wanted to be obedient, even though it was difficult.
Speaker CBut, I mean, isn't it, you know, sometimes when you're trying to be obedient?
Speaker CYeah, that's all I want, is just to be obedient and do his will.
Speaker CBecause I know that you can't go wrong when you do that.
Speaker BIt's easy to be disobedient.
Speaker BI mean, I know that firsthand.
Speaker BBut to obey it takes an element, right?
Speaker BHe said, without faith, it is impossible to please me.
Speaker BAnd this took an element of faith to say, God, is this something you really, really want me to do?
Speaker BOr just a little bit like, she show me.
Speaker BAnd he doesn't always show us like that.
Speaker BWe just have to take the step of faith.
Speaker BAnd I praise God that you were willing to take that step of faith and take him in.
Speaker BAnd ultimately, I praise God for taking Us in as lost souls.
Speaker BAnd he had compassion.
Speaker BAnd I'm sure you guys throughout this time have compassion for baby Mateo.
Speaker BAnd it's just been neat to see him from a little baby to see his adoption, see him in a little suit or not his little, I think, suspenders.
Speaker BHe had on a little dress shirt.
Speaker CHe had an edge up, which we found out is not the right haircut for him.
Speaker CSo we will never do that again.
Speaker BBut did Carlos do that or.
Speaker CNo, it was my fault.
Speaker CI was like, oh, give him a little edge up.
Speaker CThat'd be cute.
Speaker CAnd we were like, ooh, dude, that's not so.
Speaker BYeah, it's not fitting for him.
Speaker CIt's not fitting for him.
Speaker CHe still gets his haircut at the barber, you know, it's just not that haircut.
Speaker BAnd now he was being exposed to the word of God, right?
Speaker BYou guys are going to church.
Speaker BYou're training him in the way he should go.
Speaker BAnd I praise God for that.
Speaker BAnd wow, that's.
Speaker BThat's.
Speaker BAnything you would say that, would you?
Speaker BThat you would do differently or how has God worked through this?
Speaker BAnd how is he still working in your life through this adoption?
Speaker CWell, I wouldn't do anything differently because I believe that everything I went through, I needed to go through to be where I'm at right now.
Speaker CAnd anything going forward that he's teaching me is just continuing to, like, love, love my children, depend on God.
Speaker CI'm, you know, raising my children how God would want me to is my number one priority.
Speaker CAnd yeah, just hoping that when Teo grows up, like, he knows that he's loved.
Speaker CThat's it, that he knows that.
Speaker CI think there's a.
Speaker CA big advantage in him being adopted by people that are his family.
Speaker CCuz he'll never have to grow up wondering, like, where did I come from?
Speaker CHe'll always know where he came from.
Speaker CI will always be honest with him about, like, this is your birth mom, this is your birth dad at the right time.
Speaker COf course.
Speaker CI don't want him to feel like anybody's holding any secrets from him, but I want him to know that.
Speaker CThat he's loved.
Speaker CAnd just because he was born how he was, like, doesn't mean that God doesn't have a plan for him.
Speaker CAnd so, yeah, that's it.
Speaker CJust living every day according to God's will, glorifying him in everything that we do and just trusting him throughout the whole process.
Speaker BCan you have any final questions or.
Speaker AI think you covered it pretty good.
Speaker BAnything.
Speaker BSo it's neat to see the Story.
Speaker BI'm excited to see what Mateo will become.
Speaker BHopefully I'll be alive so he can come on the podcast one day and share his testimony.
Speaker CHopefully a diamondback.
Speaker CDid I mention that?
Speaker BYeah, Diamondback.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BHe may not come on the show, though.
Speaker BIf he's the diamondback, you know, he might be too big.
Speaker BToo big.
Speaker CNo, he will.
Speaker CI'll make sure.
Speaker BI think Canalo Eric commercial.
Speaker BHe might be a big deal.
Speaker BYou know what I mean?
Speaker BI don't know if we know we can get Tony back due to his status of the canal air.
Speaker BWell, I am thankful that you came on to share your story about Mateo and just how God worked through all of that.
Speaker BAnd it's continuing to work every day.
Speaker BRight.
Speaker BAnd you can look back and see the progress that.
Speaker BThat God does with all of us and that sanctification process and also just obeying him and his will.
Speaker BAnd I remember Rebecca would make me nervous because she would say, what do you think about adopting somebody?
Speaker BI'm like, I think nothing of it.
Speaker BLike, I don't think of it at all because I know it's tough, right?
Speaker BIt's because you get comfortable.
Speaker BYou have your four kids, you have your flow, you have your rhythm.
Speaker BAnd when you bring someone else in the household, whoever it is, it messes up.
Speaker BIt's not comfortable no more.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd just like you said, right?
Speaker BYou had many nights that, like, hey, I did four kids already.
Speaker BLike, I want to just wake up at 9:30 on a Saturday morning.
Speaker BDon't wake me up.
Speaker BYou know, don't.
Speaker BI don't care if you're hungry, go feed yourself.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BYou know how to get on the counter and get your cereal.
Speaker CBut then when you go from having four daughters who, when they're little, are really like just perfect, little beautiful, studious children to having this little boy now that, like, usually has some sort of a hammer or a screwdriver or is like splashing in the toilet.
Speaker CLike, it's just.
Speaker CIt's a lot, right?
Speaker CSo I'm just like, oh, how do people with lots of boys survive?
Speaker CI don't know.
Speaker CBut then I'm going through pre teens now with girls, so I'm just like, oh, it's flipped.
Speaker CIt's flipped.
Speaker COkay, I get.
Speaker BNow it gets hard.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker CNow it's a whole nother world.
Speaker BYeah.
Speaker BI remember 12, 13.
Speaker CI'm at the 12 right now.
Speaker BRough.
Speaker CYep.
Speaker BWell, they think they're 21 and have rights.
Speaker BAnd I don't know what it is with girls and moms, but they just seem to battle Like, I don't know, like they, I think they're jealous or they think I'm better than mom or I won't ever be you because I'm better.
Speaker BAnd it's.
Speaker BI don't, I don't get it.
Speaker CYeah.
Speaker BAnd that's why mom, Moms love boys, because boys don't give them that drama.
Speaker BSorry, Kate, you probably won't listen to this podcast anyway, so I'll just tell it like it is.
Speaker BI mean, if you don't like it, too bad.
Speaker BSo anyway, well, any parting words or anybody that you want to say, like, hey, if you're thinking about adoption or any words of wisdom you can impart or what God's taught you besides what.
Speaker CYou'Ve already shared, I would say that if you're thinking about adoption, to do it because there are lots of children out there that every child deserves to have their biological mom and dad, to be healthy and to love them and to raise them.
Speaker CAnd when they don't have that, there's a piece of their heart just like God.
Speaker CYou know, there's always that God sized hole in our heart.
Speaker CBut there's also that wondering too.
Speaker CLike, where did I come from?
Speaker CThe next best thing though, to redeem that broken situation is to have loving parents to adopt that child.
Speaker CAnd so I would just encourage people that if you're thinking about adopting, if you can't have children or you just want to expand your family or even being a foster parent, that that love can make a difference.
Speaker CAnd I take my hat off to every person who is a foster parent because after going what we went through, I don't know that I could do that again for a child that I have no relation to because it's hard knowing that they could be taken away.
Speaker CSo this was just my situation.
Speaker CBut for all of those that are foster parents and have like 25 kids that they're able to love and mentor, my hat off to them because that is a huge calling and it takes special people to be able to do.
Speaker BThat and just the power that God can use you as.
Speaker BAnd Mato can look back and be thankful that God really spared his life and brought him into a good loving family.
Speaker BWell, Nicole, thank you for coming on.
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Speaker BThank you.
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