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Hello, welcome to another episode of the genius podcast . My name

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is Karen Doyle, your host and founder of the genius project.

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And initiative for Catholic women designed to support and equip them

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towards growth in all areas of their life.

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Physical, spiritual, and personal on today's podcast have invited

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the very beautiful Rachel fleurant from the missionaries of God's

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love sisters here in Canberra.

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She's going to be talking.

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mainly around this idea of transition and the transitions that we go through in our

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life as women more recently, we had Laura Rowlands on the podcast talking about

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the seasons in our life, but Rachel and I today are going to talk about transitions

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and that's space that exists between an old chapter and a new chapter of our life

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and how sometimes we don't actually want to enter that space, but what we can do.

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To enter that space and the gift and the graces that are present there.

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So sit back, relax and enjoy this interview with Rachel.

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Well, Rachel, welcome to the genius podcast.

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I'm laughing because I've just welcomed you.

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We started our podcast and I realized that I hadn't pitched Rick.

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So officially welcome to the genius podcast.

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It's great to have you with us this week and you're joining us from Canberra.

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I mean, Canberra as well.

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And it's a bit of a miserable day here today.

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I know it's like back and forth going back into winter for a few days.

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Can I get too comfortable?

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No,

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that's it.

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Now, Rachel you're with the missionaries of God's love sisters

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here in Canberra, and I know that the missionaries of God's love order of

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priests and the sisters have been a huge part of my life, my family's life.

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And now my children's life, such a blessing and legacy through your ministry

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and the orders, um, that in the blessing that you are and your vocation, I was

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wondering if you can share a little bit about your background and your

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story and how you came to be with.

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Sure.

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I'd love to share my story with you.

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Um, so I grew up in Sydney and, um, I have a beautiful family.

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My family come from Maricia.

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So originally that's why my surname is very French and, um, flavorful.

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And, um, for me, it was very much through going to a summer school.

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So I went to summer school in Sydney, run together with missionaries of

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God's love sisters and brothers.

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And also the disciples of Jesus community.

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And I was invited to that camp thinking, you know, I'm going to have a really

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great time meet a lot of young people.

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And I came in contact with the MGL sisters there and was really amazed

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and inspired by their dedication to the way of life of being consecrated.

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Um, and also just their mission.

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So for me, The fact that they work with young people and their heart is really to

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evangelize the church and to bring people back into a relationship with Jesus.

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So for me, I went to that summer school, really not knowing

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what, what, what I was in for.

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Did you get a surprise?

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Cause they're pretty spectacular.

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I got big surprises.

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I think.

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I didn't realize how many young people were searching.

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Longing looking for answers around faith questions.

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There was about 150 young people at that summer school.

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And I thought my little church parish was, you know, like really dead and

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not really growing with young people, so we can't get it to their face.

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So for me, it just opened my eyes to the bigger church and.

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Um, what was really unique about the summer school was, and part of our

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spirituality is that we're charismatic.

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So, you know, really experiencing something of making a big commitment to

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Jesus is part of our spirituality, but also seeing the power of the holy spirit

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at work through invitation and seeing myself from a very shy young person that.

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Um, confident young woman and really just stepping out in my

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faith in ways I'd never done before.

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Um, so I got involved in youth ministry, not long after having been to that

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first summer school at that stage, I didn't have a sense of vocation or call.

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I wanted to married really.

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That was at that summer school, looking for a husband.

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That's pretty young women to like my dream.

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Yep.

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Married, have a beautiful big wedding and raise the Catholic family.

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Um, but what I think what really happened was that my heart was really

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open and really looking for answers.

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So I'm really grateful that the MDL sisters helped me to actually

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discern and to come to a place where.

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Listen and hear.

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And what guy was really saying to me through, through the prayer,

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through the community life.

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Yes.

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I was very deliberate about knowing that God wanted me to live in a sisterhood

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that I wasn't going to be on my own living as a religious sister, but I wanted it

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to be, um, challenging, hard place where I could have accountability for my.

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And also living with other women that just are really vulnerable and

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real and solid women that I can be inspired by in their own faith journey.

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Yeah.

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Fantastic.

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And they, are, they such a beautiful group of women?

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I just love the sisters then Melbourne Sydney Canberra now, is that right?

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Yeah.

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We have three communities that the house that I live in

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is called a formation house.

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The part of my role, my job is I'm in the formation.

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And, um, my role ranges from everything from spiritually directing these

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young women, helping them to listen and to work out whether they're

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really called to this way of life and can range from driving lessons to

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cooking

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Haydn, the whole shebang, the whole shebang, everything

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from a to Z, which I imagined.

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Mothers would be doing with their children, raising their

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kids, but I'm raising adults

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at formation and discipleship.

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Yeah.

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And do you enjoy that, that role?

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I love it.

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I think the best part of the role is sitting down and hearing

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the deep conversations around the spiritual conversations.

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I'm just amazed by the aura and wonder of what God does in their lives.

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But it's also hard because I'm the person that has to call them to the greatness.

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I have to challenge them in love, tough love, but also I've got my own story

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and I've got my own background of where I've been there, where I began because

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I was a little novice 18 years ago.

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Um, and I have a lot of experience, I guess, just in the

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emotional healing I've recently.

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Um, very much in knowing how to live balance of life really well because our

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life is very busy as consecrated women.

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And being able, just to know, I think that, you know, as a woman now who's 48.

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Yes.

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Having the, um, the wisdom and just the beauty of being able to share life

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and do life with these women is such a

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great, and there is such, I mean, this, you know, all the different ages

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and seasons of our life, but there is something nice about this season.

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I find where you have a little bit to offer.

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You know, I think in my early twenties, I did a lot of work in women's ministry,

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but jumping ahead, you know, 20 or so years, you have your life experience

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and it's actually such a gift and a joys in it to walk alongside, I guess,

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younger people and people who are, I guess, needing answers to some of their

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questions and providing that formation.

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It's quite a privilege.

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I mean, I guess both of us do that in very different ways, but I

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share that sense of, um, just that enjoyment and the gift of that.

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Yeah,

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absolutely.

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And I think there's always the surprises of when you're a missionary on mission.

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There's never one particular way that you're going to be in mission.

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And I guess I sort of say my mission actually begins here at home.

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Like it doesn't begin when I go out there in the mission field, but my community,

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my fan, this is my family, that my mission begins here because of who I'm

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being called to be in the present moment.

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And it might be because somebody's sick and I have to attend to them or take

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them to the hospital or be alongside them, or might just be celebrating

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life and celebrating a birthday.

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And we do affirmations around the table and it's very, very counter-cultural to

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what we normally do because, you know, I think as a sight society, often we can

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be negative or we don't really highlight the beautiful gifts that we see in each.

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Absolutely.

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As you're talking, I'm thinking, you know, that role in terms of religious

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vocation, but then also in the family, like out the point and the words you used,

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which I like as my mission begins here.

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And I think sometimes in our culture, there's this hustle

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culture where we're seeing.

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Um, young women caught in this where they feel like they have to be doing, doing,

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doing all the time and it takes them away from, I guess, that being, I mean, it's

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very cliche, but it's, it really is a discipline and it really is an invitation

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isn't it to love and be on mission where you're called to serve first.

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And then he's your vocation like your primary vocation, whether

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that's religious life, marriage.

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You know, the single life, whatever that is.

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And then after that comes at individual vocation, where you're

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called to serve with your personal gifts outside of that arena.

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Yeah.

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Well, look, Rachel, today, we're going to have a chat about transitions in life,

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and I think, you know, the whole journey of being a woman and a man I'm sure,

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but where women are going to do with the women, but he's about transitions.

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I know, um, this past, this past month.

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Yeah.

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Doing PVD education nights, going from a women's ministry to PVD education.

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It's hilarious.

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So I'm doing live virtual nights for parents.

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Like back to back for the last month, because our primary business

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choices is obviously around providing resources for schools.

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But my kids said to me, can't you get a less, more, less embarrassing job.

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They mortified that I'm, I'm doing puberty nights.

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That's, it's funny when I'm talking to these kids and their parents and we're

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doing them on zoom this year, but it's really about like showing them the way

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through that transition of adolescents.

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And yes, there's that transition in adolescents or going off to school,

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but we forget that as we mature, we still, we are presented with all these

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other transitions, but I don't actually think we're prepared very well for

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those transitions as we become adults.

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So I think, you know, a lot goes into adolescents and preparing

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kids from that transition from childhood to being a teenager.

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But we actually, from that point from our twenties, there's not

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a lot of definitive, I guess, injections of formation or teaching

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around how to manage the different transitions that we face as women.

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And you know, whether that's single life and engagement and marriage,

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there is, there's a bit of an, I guess, formation for religious life.

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But after that, I mean, we've got things like menopause.

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People who are having children or moving into different roles in religious life,

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then there's the empty nest and then there's aging and then there's retirement.

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And there's actually not a lot that helps us or equips us to

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deal with this, those transitions.

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And so our conversation this morning, it's just going to revolve around, I guess,

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how we navigate those transitions, how we do that with grace and wisdom, because.

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In every transitional, every new chapter of our life, even if that previous chapter

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was an unhappy one, it's almost like there's a death that has to happen before

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we can enter that new chapter of life.

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And there's a letting go of the old and preparing for the new, and I know

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that, you know, you're working that job.

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At the moment in your relationship with the Lord and you share a little bit,

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I know you've got some great pearls.

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I really love listening to the sisters.

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So I'm going to shoot it to you.

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And you've got so much to add here, and I know that you've got some, some real

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pearls to give the ladies today in terms of how to manage those transitions.

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So going through your own transition at the moment, and some of the

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lessons, your, the Lord's, I guess, giving to you, isn't it.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Um, so yeah, I'm really glad that you pointed out it's a new

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season and it's a new time and there are transitions happening.

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I guess, what I've been pondering a little bit about is that advent

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is really round the corner.

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It's only in a few weeks.

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So the 28th of November is the first week of advent.

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Can you believe that the date today I'm like today's the 13th, the 12th.

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It's father Dave Tremble's birthday.

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So happy birthday,

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happy birthday, the

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coming too quickly.

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Yes.

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And it's a time of waiting and a time of expectation.

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So I think in the waiting, there's always that sort of long sort

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of thing of where I'm impatient.

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I just want things to happen straight away.

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But what I've been pondering is this questions of what's the new thing that

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God wants to do in my life right now.

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Yeah.

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You know, what is this transition teaching me about who I am as his beloved

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daughter and also who is he teaching me, who I'm being called to be as a

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consecrated woman in a community and with the ministry that I'm involved in.

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So I'm raising spiritual adults in a way and giving life and birthing life to them.

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So I think what I wanted to share is a little bit around this

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scripture, Isaiah 43 19, which says behold, I'm doing something right.

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I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert, and now it Springs

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up and you don't even perceive it.

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So it's talking about the Springs of the holy spirit, the life of the holy spirit

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that wants to be birthed and to spring out of my heart and into the life of every

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person that I'm in relationship with.

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But it feels a bit like God is saying, see, I've already begun.

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Do you not see what I'm doing?

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Um, and that he wants to refresh me and.

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Even when we're in the midst of these dry times or the wilderness or the

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difficulties, it feels like sometimes when we're going through a transition

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or a difficult time of uncertainty and even just not being able to

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grasp or hold what that really means, because I think I want answers to

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everything and they get around there.

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So I really feel that, um, for me, the transition has been around, um,

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just letting go of what's comfortable.

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A place where I'm being invited to the unknown, a place where I just

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experienced myself in a different way that I don't, you know, can't

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necessarily put words around.

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Um, but I love that.

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God's always promising me that he's with me in this.

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Like I'm not alone.

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I feel very carried.

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I feel carried by the presence of the community and the sisterhood

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and ministered through them to.

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Yeah.

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Um, so for me this year, I turned 48 and I've come to realize

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that my body shape is changing.

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I don't always feel comfortable with the way I look, but I'm starting to get

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acne and itchy skin and thinking for goodness sake, that should have happened

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when I was 15 or 16, I was seeing like mood swings, a bit of irritability.

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And, um, I think I've come in touch with this whole idea that

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menopause may be approaching.

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So perhaps in this whole cycle of waiting and shedding of

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layers, I've noticed there's a restlessness in me or a dis-ease.

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And like you said before, Karen, that sort of sense of finding home or,

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or being at home with myself is what I've been sort of sitting with in my.

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Um, what God's been showing me is that, you know, very wrapped up in

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my work and ministry life, and I can be very busy and not making time for

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silence and even in a structured way of life where I have a lot of time to

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pray, I can be busy even in my prayer.

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So it's been this whole sort of just coming into meditate and allow Jesus to

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help me to, I mean, the body, what is the body's saying to me that it needs.

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Yeah.

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And I think that is so important because, um, like when we're going through

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transitions, like, I mean, in our Catholic faith tradition, many faith traditions,

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we believe where a unity of body and soul.

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So whatever's happening in the body or what's happening in our emotions or

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our thought life is going to impact, you know, Negative toxic thinking

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can actually translate to physical chronic illness and vice versa.

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You know, if we're ill, our bodies are changing and you mentioned menopause

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and hormonal changes like that impacts our emotions and our thought life too.

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And so.

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I think in any transition, it's also understanding just that interplay

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between body and soul, body, mind, and soul and how that's going to be

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always that feedback loop is happening.

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So like you said, understanding what's going on and I guess acknowledging

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what's happening in our life, whether.

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We might be facing grief and loss and difficulty understanding those

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intense emotions of loss can impact our physical bodies and learning how

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to process those is really important.

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And I love what you said about, I love the word ponder, you know, like Mary

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pondered, these things in our heart, like you're pondering these things in prayer.

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I think that's a beautiful phrase for women.

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Because we do get busy.

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We can get caught up in our head right.

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At our thinking, but just to sit with the Lord and ponder what's going on,

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like acknowledging what's happening.

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And then what's the Lord trying to teach me or what's he revealing?

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Um, the other thing I've been loving is I think last time I spoke to you,

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we might've talked about exercise.

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Something really, really intentional about going for my daily walks.

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Um, I love walking in nature and.

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Frying, even as I'm walking, it's like, you know, it becomes a prayer

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breathing in, you know, the wind, the trees, the smells, the fragrances.

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So looking at this does, I'm just saying how creation is

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being burning with God's love.

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And I was just reminded of St.

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John who talks about the plants and the green Meadows has the power to heal.

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And that, you know, when we're in nature, our psyches are healed our spirits.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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We've had a few situations over the course of this year, which have been

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quite intense, a couple of deaths, people that are close to us and other things.

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And I agree with you.

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I find if I just get outside, I can just walk on the mountain

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behind our house and in nature.

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It's therapy for the soul.

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I think the Lord really meets you in nature.

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Absolutely.

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Tip for transitions.

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So tell me, what else is the Lord doing in your heart?

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What else is he revealing to you during these, this transition in your life?

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You're sort of mentioning that DC that you feel like, because we

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often get that bubbling sensation.

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Like something's not quite right.

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Or there's agitation when a season, you know, when we're about to hit a transition

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and there's a holding bay between.

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The old and the new, where the work happens and it's, it is very sacred

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space where we're invited to ponder.

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And I do see this in women's lives.

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I know I've been guilty of it if we skip over that, because it's uncomfortable

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that holding bay it's very uncomfortable.

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Um, but we can go into that new transition, that new chapter of life, and

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we kind of bringing some baggage into it and it, it can be chaotic emotionally.

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So it is really important that.

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Into that holding space with the Lord and allow him to, and

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to be at ease, to be diseased.

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Did she say that?

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So how have you done that?

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Like, you've obviously feeling these things.

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What would advice would you give women?

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I guess if they're in that holding bay or between transitions?

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Well, one thing I've done is, um, which was really beautiful because

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the sisters and I would do ministry on a Friday, we pray with each other.

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And one of the sisters had a sense with this whole news new period in my life

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that perhaps there's unconscious grief that I wasn't aware of because I'm 48 and.

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There's been different stages as a consecrated woman where I've had to

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give over to God, my, my desire to have children, my, um, the losses

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in not having a relationship, I'm not going to have a husband.

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I've never had a husband and not having even, you know, sexual relationship

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with someone for the rest of my life.

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And there's so many layers to that because I guess as the body moves into,

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you know, mid life, I've had to just come in touch with what does that grief.

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You know, like really face it, head on and sit with that whole

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idea of even what my child could have looked like if I had a baby.

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Um, but what's been unique is that God's been showing me all the beautiful, um,

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people's lives that I've been able to minister with and journey with and to see

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faith birth into their reality, I think has made me realize how I have to relish

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the past and even the amazing ways that God's been, um, Ministering into that

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place of the loss and the grief and the sadness, but I'm not running away from it.

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I'm actually staying with, uh, an allowing the Lord to Redeemer, bringing it to

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his healing, love and power and letting him hold me like a little baby, you

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know, in that space of vulnerability.

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And it's okay to cry and it's okay to be real.

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And it's okay to, I think, draw on the women around me

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who are like spiritual mother.

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The nurse, I feel like I need to be nurtured and cared for too, and be

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vulnerable just as much as I give to other, you know, young people or

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people that I'm called to minister to.

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And the other thing that I felt really prompted it was I called my mom.

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I called mom and I, we just had a chat about what I'm going through.

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And she had so much with them around what she went through.

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She had a six year journey.

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Into menopause.

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And I was like, whoa, but you know, some of the wisdom that, you know,

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she's done, which is exercising, breathing, meditating, really

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allowing her prayer life to deepen.

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Um, but there's something beautiful and just tips around health.

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I said, you know, you should be going on Primrose oil tablets.

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there's a lot actually that you can do.

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And I knew.

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I think I shared with you four years ago, we went through, um, a difficult

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season and like, there was a lot of stress around and, um, it wasn't in terms

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of our marriage or anything, but just something that had external circumstance.

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And, and so it actually put me into early menopause, like four

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years ago and it was amazing.

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So I have an insight into this.

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I'm like, it's this flooding in the brain that happens with the hormones and

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it really throws your mind in terms of.

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Your capacity to think.

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And it really impacts the temporal lobe of the brain like physiologically.

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And so I totally agree.

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A lot of women who are going through that transition phase, mid life start to feel

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a little crazy or forgetful or anxious, um, then volatility in terms of emotions,

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but that's actually really normal, but it's about learning to manage that.

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I guess by talking specifically about this transition for a moment, but, you

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know, managing the physical, managing the emotional, managing the spiritual,

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managing what you can control them.

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Well, yeah,

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absolutely.

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And I had a moment last week where I felt so like there's one day I just

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felt so depressed and I feel so.

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Yes, and had no reason.

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And I was about to have to give a lecture to the sisters on MGO vision,

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around our way of life, which was poverty, chastity, and obedience.

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I know

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vision means you kind of got to be a little energetic.

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I've got to feel it.

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I needed to feel it and I wasn't feeling it, but I did.

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You want them to play with me before we did the lecture?

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And it was really powerful.

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I said, Lord, I don't have the energy.

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Give me what I don't have right now.

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Like, feel like.

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The overflowing and lit you'll love just pervade.

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And I was Pash.

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I ended up doing a great lecture.

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They said to me at the end, where did it, where did the passion come from?

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So I know grace kicks in and I know that God hears the cry of our deepest,

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deepest needs or pain or discomfort.

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And maybe it's a space where he can have more room to actually move

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because I'm actually, I'm unable to give what I normally have.

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My resources are spent

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and, you know, that's something, I mean, for myself, like I came

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out of that after I did a lot of exercise and sleep, so I'm sure.

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That's on its way.

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But, um, I do remember the exercise was huge and sleep was huge.

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They were really, really important, um, elements and someone said

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you can manage that transition really well through exercise.

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I haven't got time to share one other thing.

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Oh, you've got lots of time, please.

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The other thing that I've gotten into, which I'm not very good at

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gardening, that's trying to be creative, you know, beyond what

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I normally or naturally would do.

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And I think that's another thing that, you know, the creativity of the spirit in this

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time of generate generativity or the new thing that he wants to do say prince, the

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rose bushes quite, you know, quite low.

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And we got a lesson in how to do.

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And, um, prunings it essential for new growth to come through

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for the roses to come through.

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But I think in myself, I was really just experiencing something of getting

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rid of the dead branches, putting the fertilizer, you know, around the roses and

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just, that was the beginning of winter.

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And now we're in this new season of spring and the blooms and the

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buds have become beautiful roses.

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Oh, they're so pretty.

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And

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I wanted to show them off.

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What I'm saying is suddenly this new life and magnificent, magnificent

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roses have appeared and we can smell the beauty and the goodness.

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They just give so much for.

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But, you know, God's goodness.

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Absolutely.

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And it's such a beautiful metaphor, but it's so nice to have a visual

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for what God's doing because so often we can't see what he's doing.

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How is it work?

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And I think what you touched on when you were talking about

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giving that lecture last Friday is just utter dependence like that.

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You actually, I do think that during that midlife transition particularly,

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and this is one thing I felt that.

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Very emotionally resilient.

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So I can cope with a lot.

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I'm very stable emotionally, but to feel out of control

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was really frightening for me.

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Like those emotions, that, and they settled down with exercise and, you

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know, natural remedies and stuff.

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And so that's all good, but I think.

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Experience of feeling out of control, or then even with

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other situations that happen.

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I know walking with people this year, who've lost children and

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you know, and other people whose marriages might be in difficulty.

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And there's a whole range of situations that we're currently walking through with

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people at the moment, and it can feel really out of control and we can feel

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completely inadequate that we don't have.

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What we normally possess to, to show up for people, but there is

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an invitation there that invitation to real dependence on the Lord.

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And I think, you know, when we go through any transition in life,

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we can fight it a little bit.

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I think that's our brains just natural.

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We're hardwired to protect ourselves.

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That's our instinct, but there is that invitation.

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To go into growth to go into what's the law trying to teach me.

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And, and I guess you're learning some of those lessons in this

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currencies, in you're in and able to share them with others.

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Have you got any other, I guess some thoughts around, I guess for the woman

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who's really resistant to that, like say going to that place, that holding bay,

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because of fear of not wanting to feel.

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The grief and loss.

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I'm not wanting to feel the intense, emotional face up to what's

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actually happening in their life.

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What advice would you give to them?

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I think really drawing on the strength of otherwise women who have been through

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similar things themselves, and I'm hoping and praying that the women that are

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listening to this already connected, you know, whether to a community, a faith

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community, or even just being mentored or pastorally cared for by other women.

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Um, because I think without having essentially vulnerability needs to make

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vulnerability and that I really feel that we are carried by the prayers and the

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faith of those that were in community.

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Um, so I would encourage people.

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It's not a journey that you can do alone to really, really seek the wise

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counsel of other women who have can pray, can guide, can spiritually nurture.

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What you're going through is really important because all the other

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health things are really good, whether that's seeing a doctor or,

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you know, looking after your personal health, the medicine part of things.

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But I think the spiritual nourishment is so important and perhaps.

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Finding books, you know, that really help us speak into this whole area

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of, um, change of life or midlife.

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I think reading a book it's called, um, the Bihar come home by Joyce Rupp and

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it's all about midlife spirituality.

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And that's where I got some of the images that I'm talking about today.

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Cause she talks.

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You know how to name your losses, how to grieve your losses.

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But I can't do that by myself.

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You know, I need people who are actually, um, spiritually in tune with

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the spirit to help me to process yes.

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Maybe finding a ritual around even the losses and the grieving.

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Um, and I think that that would be really important is to find your

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own way and my creative ways, very different to the women out there.

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So, you know, it might be, um, creating through artwork or through poetry.

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Um, or it might be through cooking, you know, I think there's so many

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different diverse expression.

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To process the transitions in life, but you need to find your own group.

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Absolutely.

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And I think for women who are raising children in family, there's a sense

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that you, you lose a bit of who you are in those early childbearing years.

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And I know there's some women that are going through transition where

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children, so they're not actually going through life, but it's another

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transition where their kids go back to school and they're like, now, Yes.

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I agree with the kids being home or they, they, they grieve that they gave

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up their career or, you know, like there's all these different transitions,

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but I think what you're saying is that rest and, and kind of growing and

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rhythms, there's the practical things.

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And then there's the prayer and the spirituality, but that creative outlet is

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really important because creativity has a way of connecting you to your soul and

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who you had been created to be in the.

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And then obviously I think once you do that, then he kind of reveals to

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you where he's calling you to serve.

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And so you come back to service in a new way or a refreshed way with, I guess,

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the wisdom from having worked through,

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um, the last thing I was just thinking about Karen, as you're talking, man,

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because I'm, um, re defining your dreams.

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And I think that's been another big thing in my life is because

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I've transitioned to different communities and different ministries.

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I think God's always calling us to re re dream like a re-look at what our dreams

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are such as some people in America.

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What are your hopes and dreams or your desires for the next five years?

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You know, as a married couple, the me it's, you know, really looking

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at my community life once again and looking at okay, if I'm dry and tired

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in a particular ministry, it's about redefining, what am I passionate about?

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What do I love about life?

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What gives me joy and meaning and purpose, and where do I get energy?

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In ministry or in what I'm doing.

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Um, so I have a dream book, beautiful.

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And I write the craziest things about what I'd love to do.

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Even if I had $10,000, how would I run this ministry?

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Because God is a God.

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And re re redesigning new things all the time.

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Absolutely.

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And I think sometimes, well, I see these actually all the time in the

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lives of women, that their dreams are the die well, they go underground and

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there's the sense of agitation and resentment that builds and frustration.

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And when we're not in touch with where that's coming from, then

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we can be a bit disheartened.

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We can think, oh, we're discontent now, marriage, or we're discontent

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here or there, but sometimes.

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Really the invitation is about coming home to ourselves, to

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discovering who the Lord is in us.

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But then once he calling us to do, and like you said, these dreams

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change throughout our seasons of life.

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And the dreams are actually really good.

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I actually worked with one woman and she said, isn't it ungodly to dream?

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Like, and I was like, no, like, God is a dreamer like this.

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He wants you to dream because that's where new ministries or new ideas of birth.

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That's right.

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Inspirations come prophetic dreams that actually tell us

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about where we're being called.

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You know?

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The possibilities are

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endless.

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That's right.

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And we should never downplay those little things.

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I could conversation in the supermarket or a book that we randomly pick up or assign.

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We see sometimes there are little clues that lead us to, I guess, those passions.

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And there is an invitation for women, I think in this particular season of life.

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Oh, I'm seeing it around the world.

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Like we're women are really reconnecting with themselves in a new way, but

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not at the expense of their vocation.

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Mind you, because I think, you know, previously there was an idea that you had

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to be a mom at home and you couldn't work or you had to be full-time in ministry

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and you couldn't do other things, but kind of breaking down those barriers.

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Mindsets I'm seeing.

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And women seem to be more free to really connect with their unique creative

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passions and to bring those to life across a whole lot of areas, which is awesome.

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Absolutely.

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Sorry.

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Next year.

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It will be 10 years since I made my final vows.

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So I'm having the opportunity to go on sabbatical.

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Wow.

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I'm going to have to think about what is it that, you know, I want to

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work on creativity in a creative way.

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Like whether that's a bit more education or a particular area,

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or perhaps a pilgrimage, you know, having that space to.

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And listen to the Lord in a whole nother way.

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Maybe my direction of life, of where he's calling me may change, you know?

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Yes.

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You are a very creative person.

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I

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am naturally.

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Yeah, I've got more creativity than I'd say the, you know, the intellectual desire

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to go and study for two months, foliage.

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I prefer to go and probably learn about, you know, um, painting, drawing,

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dancing, and ministry things to do with, um, Yeah, the soul and also the,

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I guess the body working together.

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Yeah.

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Fantastic.

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Oh, well, I can't wait to see what you come up with.

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We'll have you back in a year and you can tell us the grand three come to life.

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Rachel, thank you so much for your time today.

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I hope that's been a blessing to the women and yes, we'll be praying for.

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Thank you also church and to all of us, because you you're beautiful.

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You such a gift.

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Thank you.

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Thank you for the opportunity and the privilege.

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And I really pray for all the women out there who are part of the cohort

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that follow this wonderful podcast.

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And I pray and hope that they really are blessed and renewed in the spirit.

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Amen.

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Thank you.

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Well, I hope you enjoyed that conversation with Rachel.

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I hope you have a beautiful week ladies until next week.

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God bless you.

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And we will see you back on the genius podcast next week.