Hello, welcome to another episode of the genius podcast . My name
Speaker:is Karen Doyle, your host and founder of the genius project.
Speaker:And initiative for Catholic women designed to support and equip them
Speaker:towards growth in all areas of their life.
Speaker:Physical, spiritual, and personal on today's podcast have invited
Speaker:the very beautiful Rachel fleurant from the missionaries of God's
Speaker:love sisters here in Canberra.
Speaker:She's going to be talking.
Speaker:mainly around this idea of transition and the transitions that we go through in our
Speaker:life as women more recently, we had Laura Rowlands on the podcast talking about
Speaker:the seasons in our life, but Rachel and I today are going to talk about transitions
Speaker:and that's space that exists between an old chapter and a new chapter of our life
Speaker:and how sometimes we don't actually want to enter that space, but what we can do.
Speaker:To enter that space and the gift and the graces that are present there.
Speaker:So sit back, relax and enjoy this interview with Rachel.
Speaker:Well, Rachel, welcome to the genius podcast.
Speaker:I'm laughing because I've just welcomed you.
Speaker:We started our podcast and I realized that I hadn't pitched Rick.
Speaker:So officially welcome to the genius podcast.
Speaker:It's great to have you with us this week and you're joining us from Canberra.
Speaker:I mean, Canberra as well.
Speaker:And it's a bit of a miserable day here today.
Speaker:I know it's like back and forth going back into winter for a few days.
Speaker:Can I get too comfortable?
Speaker:No,
Speaker:that's it.
Speaker:Now, Rachel you're with the missionaries of God's love sisters
Speaker:here in Canberra, and I know that the missionaries of God's love order of
Speaker:priests and the sisters have been a huge part of my life, my family's life.
Speaker:And now my children's life, such a blessing and legacy through your ministry
Speaker:and the orders, um, that in the blessing that you are and your vocation, I was
Speaker:wondering if you can share a little bit about your background and your
Speaker:story and how you came to be with.
Speaker:Sure.
Speaker:I'd love to share my story with you.
Speaker:Um, so I grew up in Sydney and, um, I have a beautiful family.
Speaker:My family come from Maricia.
Speaker:So originally that's why my surname is very French and, um, flavorful.
Speaker:And, um, for me, it was very much through going to a summer school.
Speaker:So I went to summer school in Sydney, run together with missionaries of
Speaker:God's love sisters and brothers.
Speaker:And also the disciples of Jesus community.
Speaker:And I was invited to that camp thinking, you know, I'm going to have a really
Speaker:great time meet a lot of young people.
Speaker:And I came in contact with the MGL sisters there and was really amazed
Speaker:and inspired by their dedication to the way of life of being consecrated.
Speaker:Um, and also just their mission.
Speaker:So for me, The fact that they work with young people and their heart is really to
Speaker:evangelize the church and to bring people back into a relationship with Jesus.
Speaker:So for me, I went to that summer school, really not knowing
Speaker:what, what, what I was in for.
Speaker:Did you get a surprise?
Speaker:Cause they're pretty spectacular.
Speaker:I got big surprises.
Speaker:I think.
Speaker:I didn't realize how many young people were searching.
Speaker:Longing looking for answers around faith questions.
Speaker:There was about 150 young people at that summer school.
Speaker:And I thought my little church parish was, you know, like really dead and
Speaker:not really growing with young people, so we can't get it to their face.
Speaker:So for me, it just opened my eyes to the bigger church and.
Speaker:Um, what was really unique about the summer school was, and part of our
Speaker:spirituality is that we're charismatic.
Speaker:So, you know, really experiencing something of making a big commitment to
Speaker:Jesus is part of our spirituality, but also seeing the power of the holy spirit
Speaker:at work through invitation and seeing myself from a very shy young person that.
Speaker:Um, confident young woman and really just stepping out in my
Speaker:faith in ways I'd never done before.
Speaker:Um, so I got involved in youth ministry, not long after having been to that
Speaker:first summer school at that stage, I didn't have a sense of vocation or call.
Speaker:I wanted to married really.
Speaker:That was at that summer school, looking for a husband.
Speaker:That's pretty young women to like my dream.
Speaker:Yep.
Speaker:Married, have a beautiful big wedding and raise the Catholic family.
Speaker:Um, but what I think what really happened was that my heart was really
Speaker:open and really looking for answers.
Speaker:So I'm really grateful that the MDL sisters helped me to actually
Speaker:discern and to come to a place where.
Speaker:Listen and hear.
Speaker:And what guy was really saying to me through, through the prayer,
Speaker:through the community life.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:I was very deliberate about knowing that God wanted me to live in a sisterhood
Speaker:that I wasn't going to be on my own living as a religious sister, but I wanted it
Speaker:to be, um, challenging, hard place where I could have accountability for my.
Speaker:And also living with other women that just are really vulnerable and
Speaker:real and solid women that I can be inspired by in their own faith journey.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Fantastic.
Speaker:And they, are, they such a beautiful group of women?
Speaker:I just love the sisters then Melbourne Sydney Canberra now, is that right?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:We have three communities that the house that I live in
Speaker:is called a formation house.
Speaker:The part of my role, my job is I'm in the formation.
Speaker:And, um, my role ranges from everything from spiritually directing these
Speaker:young women, helping them to listen and to work out whether they're
Speaker:really called to this way of life and can range from driving lessons to
Speaker:cooking
Speaker:Haydn, the whole shebang, the whole shebang, everything
Speaker:from a to Z, which I imagined.
Speaker:Mothers would be doing with their children, raising their
Speaker:kids, but I'm raising adults
Speaker:at formation and discipleship.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And do you enjoy that, that role?
Speaker:I love it.
Speaker:I think the best part of the role is sitting down and hearing
Speaker:the deep conversations around the spiritual conversations.
Speaker:I'm just amazed by the aura and wonder of what God does in their lives.
Speaker:But it's also hard because I'm the person that has to call them to the greatness.
Speaker:I have to challenge them in love, tough love, but also I've got my own story
Speaker:and I've got my own background of where I've been there, where I began because
Speaker:I was a little novice 18 years ago.
Speaker:Um, and I have a lot of experience, I guess, just in the
Speaker:emotional healing I've recently.
Speaker:Um, very much in knowing how to live balance of life really well because our
Speaker:life is very busy as consecrated women.
Speaker:And being able, just to know, I think that, you know, as a woman now who's 48.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Having the, um, the wisdom and just the beauty of being able to share life
Speaker:and do life with these women is such a
Speaker:great, and there is such, I mean, this, you know, all the different ages
Speaker:and seasons of our life, but there is something nice about this season.
Speaker:I find where you have a little bit to offer.
Speaker:You know, I think in my early twenties, I did a lot of work in women's ministry,
Speaker:but jumping ahead, you know, 20 or so years, you have your life experience
Speaker:and it's actually such a gift and a joys in it to walk alongside, I guess,
Speaker:younger people and people who are, I guess, needing answers to some of their
Speaker:questions and providing that formation.
Speaker:It's quite a privilege.
Speaker:I mean, I guess both of us do that in very different ways, but I
Speaker:share that sense of, um, just that enjoyment and the gift of that.
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:absolutely.
Speaker:And I think there's always the surprises of when you're a missionary on mission.
Speaker:There's never one particular way that you're going to be in mission.
Speaker:And I guess I sort of say my mission actually begins here at home.
Speaker:Like it doesn't begin when I go out there in the mission field, but my community,
Speaker:my fan, this is my family, that my mission begins here because of who I'm
Speaker:being called to be in the present moment.
Speaker:And it might be because somebody's sick and I have to attend to them or take
Speaker:them to the hospital or be alongside them, or might just be celebrating
Speaker:life and celebrating a birthday.
Speaker:And we do affirmations around the table and it's very, very counter-cultural to
Speaker:what we normally do because, you know, I think as a sight society, often we can
Speaker:be negative or we don't really highlight the beautiful gifts that we see in each.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:As you're talking, I'm thinking, you know, that role in terms of religious
Speaker:vocation, but then also in the family, like out the point and the words you used,
Speaker:which I like as my mission begins here.
Speaker:And I think sometimes in our culture, there's this hustle
Speaker:culture where we're seeing.
Speaker:Um, young women caught in this where they feel like they have to be doing, doing,
Speaker:doing all the time and it takes them away from, I guess, that being, I mean, it's
Speaker:very cliche, but it's, it really is a discipline and it really is an invitation
Speaker:isn't it to love and be on mission where you're called to serve first.
Speaker:And then he's your vocation like your primary vocation, whether
Speaker:that's religious life, marriage.
Speaker:You know, the single life, whatever that is.
Speaker:And then after that comes at individual vocation, where you're
Speaker:called to serve with your personal gifts outside of that arena.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Well, look, Rachel, today, we're going to have a chat about transitions in life,
Speaker:and I think, you know, the whole journey of being a woman and a man I'm sure,
Speaker:but where women are going to do with the women, but he's about transitions.
Speaker:I know, um, this past, this past month.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Doing PVD education nights, going from a women's ministry to PVD education.
Speaker:It's hilarious.
Speaker:So I'm doing live virtual nights for parents.
Speaker:Like back to back for the last month, because our primary business
Speaker:choices is obviously around providing resources for schools.
Speaker:But my kids said to me, can't you get a less, more, less embarrassing job.
Speaker:They mortified that I'm, I'm doing puberty nights.
Speaker:That's, it's funny when I'm talking to these kids and their parents and we're
Speaker:doing them on zoom this year, but it's really about like showing them the way
Speaker:through that transition of adolescents.
Speaker:And yes, there's that transition in adolescents or going off to school,
Speaker:but we forget that as we mature, we still, we are presented with all these
Speaker:other transitions, but I don't actually think we're prepared very well for
Speaker:those transitions as we become adults.
Speaker:So I think, you know, a lot goes into adolescents and preparing
Speaker:kids from that transition from childhood to being a teenager.
Speaker:But we actually, from that point from our twenties, there's not
Speaker:a lot of definitive, I guess, injections of formation or teaching
Speaker:around how to manage the different transitions that we face as women.
Speaker:And you know, whether that's single life and engagement and marriage,
Speaker:there is, there's a bit of an, I guess, formation for religious life.
Speaker:But after that, I mean, we've got things like menopause.
Speaker:People who are having children or moving into different roles in religious life,
Speaker:then there's the empty nest and then there's aging and then there's retirement.
Speaker:And there's actually not a lot that helps us or equips us to
Speaker:deal with this, those transitions.
Speaker:And so our conversation this morning, it's just going to revolve around, I guess,
Speaker:how we navigate those transitions, how we do that with grace and wisdom, because.
Speaker:In every transitional, every new chapter of our life, even if that previous chapter
Speaker:was an unhappy one, it's almost like there's a death that has to happen before
Speaker:we can enter that new chapter of life.
Speaker:And there's a letting go of the old and preparing for the new, and I know
Speaker:that, you know, you're working that job.
Speaker:At the moment in your relationship with the Lord and you share a little bit,
Speaker:I know you've got some great pearls.
Speaker:I really love listening to the sisters.
Speaker:So I'm going to shoot it to you.
Speaker:And you've got so much to add here, and I know that you've got some, some real
Speaker:pearls to give the ladies today in terms of how to manage those transitions.
Speaker:So going through your own transition at the moment, and some of the
Speaker:lessons, your, the Lord's, I guess, giving to you, isn't it.
Speaker:Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker:Um, so yeah, I'm really glad that you pointed out it's a new
Speaker:season and it's a new time and there are transitions happening.
Speaker:I guess, what I've been pondering a little bit about is that advent
Speaker:is really round the corner.
Speaker:It's only in a few weeks.
Speaker:So the 28th of November is the first week of advent.
Speaker:Can you believe that the date today I'm like today's the 13th, the 12th.
Speaker:It's father Dave Tremble's birthday.
Speaker:So happy birthday,
Speaker:happy birthday, the
Speaker:coming too quickly.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:And it's a time of waiting and a time of expectation.
Speaker:So I think in the waiting, there's always that sort of long sort
Speaker:of thing of where I'm impatient.
Speaker:I just want things to happen straight away.
Speaker:But what I've been pondering is this questions of what's the new thing that
Speaker:God wants to do in my life right now.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:You know, what is this transition teaching me about who I am as his beloved
Speaker:daughter and also who is he teaching me, who I'm being called to be as a
Speaker:consecrated woman in a community and with the ministry that I'm involved in.
Speaker:So I'm raising spiritual adults in a way and giving life and birthing life to them.
Speaker:So I think what I wanted to share is a little bit around this
Speaker:scripture, Isaiah 43 19, which says behold, I'm doing something right.
Speaker:I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert, and now it Springs
Speaker:up and you don't even perceive it.
Speaker:So it's talking about the Springs of the holy spirit, the life of the holy spirit
Speaker:that wants to be birthed and to spring out of my heart and into the life of every
Speaker:person that I'm in relationship with.
Speaker:But it feels a bit like God is saying, see, I've already begun.
Speaker:Do you not see what I'm doing?
Speaker:Um, and that he wants to refresh me and.
Speaker:Even when we're in the midst of these dry times or the wilderness or the
Speaker:difficulties, it feels like sometimes when we're going through a transition
Speaker:or a difficult time of uncertainty and even just not being able to
Speaker:grasp or hold what that really means, because I think I want answers to
Speaker:everything and they get around there.
Speaker:So I really feel that, um, for me, the transition has been around, um,
Speaker:just letting go of what's comfortable.
Speaker:A place where I'm being invited to the unknown, a place where I just
Speaker:experienced myself in a different way that I don't, you know, can't
Speaker:necessarily put words around.
Speaker:Um, but I love that.
Speaker:God's always promising me that he's with me in this.
Speaker:Like I'm not alone.
Speaker:I feel very carried.
Speaker:I feel carried by the presence of the community and the sisterhood
Speaker:and ministered through them to.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Um, so for me this year, I turned 48 and I've come to realize
Speaker:that my body shape is changing.
Speaker:I don't always feel comfortable with the way I look, but I'm starting to get
Speaker:acne and itchy skin and thinking for goodness sake, that should have happened
Speaker:when I was 15 or 16, I was seeing like mood swings, a bit of irritability.
Speaker:And, um, I think I've come in touch with this whole idea that
Speaker:menopause may be approaching.
Speaker:So perhaps in this whole cycle of waiting and shedding of
Speaker:layers, I've noticed there's a restlessness in me or a dis-ease.
Speaker:And like you said before, Karen, that sort of sense of finding home or,
Speaker:or being at home with myself is what I've been sort of sitting with in my.
Speaker:Um, what God's been showing me is that, you know, very wrapped up in
Speaker:my work and ministry life, and I can be very busy and not making time for
Speaker:silence and even in a structured way of life where I have a lot of time to
Speaker:pray, I can be busy even in my prayer.
Speaker:So it's been this whole sort of just coming into meditate and allow Jesus to
Speaker:help me to, I mean, the body, what is the body's saying to me that it needs.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And I think that is so important because, um, like when we're going through
Speaker:transitions, like, I mean, in our Catholic faith tradition, many faith traditions,
Speaker:we believe where a unity of body and soul.
Speaker:So whatever's happening in the body or what's happening in our emotions or
Speaker:our thought life is going to impact, you know, Negative toxic thinking
Speaker:can actually translate to physical chronic illness and vice versa.
Speaker:You know, if we're ill, our bodies are changing and you mentioned menopause
Speaker:and hormonal changes like that impacts our emotions and our thought life too.
Speaker:And so.
Speaker:I think in any transition, it's also understanding just that interplay
Speaker:between body and soul, body, mind, and soul and how that's going to be
Speaker:always that feedback loop is happening.
Speaker:So like you said, understanding what's going on and I guess acknowledging
Speaker:what's happening in our life, whether.
Speaker:We might be facing grief and loss and difficulty understanding those
Speaker:intense emotions of loss can impact our physical bodies and learning how
Speaker:to process those is really important.
Speaker:And I love what you said about, I love the word ponder, you know, like Mary
Speaker:pondered, these things in our heart, like you're pondering these things in prayer.
Speaker:I think that's a beautiful phrase for women.
Speaker:Because we do get busy.
Speaker:We can get caught up in our head right.
Speaker:At our thinking, but just to sit with the Lord and ponder what's going on,
Speaker:like acknowledging what's happening.
Speaker:And then what's the Lord trying to teach me or what's he revealing?
Speaker:Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker:Um, the other thing I've been loving is I think last time I spoke to you,
Speaker:we might've talked about exercise.
Speaker:Something really, really intentional about going for my daily walks.
Speaker:Um, I love walking in nature and.
Speaker:Frying, even as I'm walking, it's like, you know, it becomes a prayer
Speaker:breathing in, you know, the wind, the trees, the smells, the fragrances.
Speaker:So looking at this does, I'm just saying how creation is
Speaker:being burning with God's love.
Speaker:And I was just reminded of St.
Speaker:John who talks about the plants and the green Meadows has the power to heal.
Speaker:And that, you know, when we're in nature, our psyches are healed our spirits.
Speaker:Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:We've had a few situations over the course of this year, which have been
Speaker:quite intense, a couple of deaths, people that are close to us and other things.
Speaker:And I agree with you.
Speaker:I find if I just get outside, I can just walk on the mountain
Speaker:behind our house and in nature.
Speaker:It's therapy for the soul.
Speaker:I think the Lord really meets you in nature.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:Tip for transitions.
Speaker:So tell me, what else is the Lord doing in your heart?
Speaker:What else is he revealing to you during these, this transition in your life?
Speaker:You're sort of mentioning that DC that you feel like, because we
Speaker:often get that bubbling sensation.
Speaker:Like something's not quite right.
Speaker:Or there's agitation when a season, you know, when we're about to hit a transition
Speaker:and there's a holding bay between.
Speaker:The old and the new, where the work happens and it's, it is very sacred
Speaker:space where we're invited to ponder.
Speaker:And I do see this in women's lives.
Speaker:I know I've been guilty of it if we skip over that, because it's uncomfortable
Speaker:that holding bay it's very uncomfortable.
Speaker:Um, but we can go into that new transition, that new chapter of life, and
Speaker:we kind of bringing some baggage into it and it, it can be chaotic emotionally.
Speaker:So it is really important that.
Speaker:Into that holding space with the Lord and allow him to, and
Speaker:to be at ease, to be diseased.
Speaker:Did she say that?
Speaker:So how have you done that?
Speaker:Like, you've obviously feeling these things.
Speaker:What would advice would you give women?
Speaker:I guess if they're in that holding bay or between transitions?
Speaker:Well, one thing I've done is, um, which was really beautiful because
Speaker:the sisters and I would do ministry on a Friday, we pray with each other.
Speaker:And one of the sisters had a sense with this whole news new period in my life
Speaker:that perhaps there's unconscious grief that I wasn't aware of because I'm 48 and.
Speaker:There's been different stages as a consecrated woman where I've had to
Speaker:give over to God, my, my desire to have children, my, um, the losses
Speaker:in not having a relationship, I'm not going to have a husband.
Speaker:I've never had a husband and not having even, you know, sexual relationship
Speaker:with someone for the rest of my life.
Speaker:And there's so many layers to that because I guess as the body moves into,
Speaker:you know, mid life, I've had to just come in touch with what does that grief.
Speaker:You know, like really face it, head on and sit with that whole
Speaker:idea of even what my child could have looked like if I had a baby.
Speaker:Um, but what's been unique is that God's been showing me all the beautiful, um,
Speaker:people's lives that I've been able to minister with and journey with and to see
Speaker:faith birth into their reality, I think has made me realize how I have to relish
Speaker:the past and even the amazing ways that God's been, um, Ministering into that
Speaker:place of the loss and the grief and the sadness, but I'm not running away from it.
Speaker:I'm actually staying with, uh, an allowing the Lord to Redeemer, bringing it to
Speaker:his healing, love and power and letting him hold me like a little baby, you
Speaker:know, in that space of vulnerability.
Speaker:And it's okay to cry and it's okay to be real.
Speaker:And it's okay to, I think, draw on the women around me
Speaker:who are like spiritual mother.
Speaker:The nurse, I feel like I need to be nurtured and cared for too, and be
Speaker:vulnerable just as much as I give to other, you know, young people or
Speaker:people that I'm called to minister to.
Speaker:And the other thing that I felt really prompted it was I called my mom.
Speaker:I called mom and I, we just had a chat about what I'm going through.
Speaker:And she had so much with them around what she went through.
Speaker:She had a six year journey.
Speaker:Into menopause.
Speaker:And I was like, whoa, but you know, some of the wisdom that, you know,
Speaker:she's done, which is exercising, breathing, meditating, really
Speaker:allowing her prayer life to deepen.
Speaker:Um, but there's something beautiful and just tips around health.
Speaker:I said, you know, you should be going on Primrose oil tablets.
Speaker:And
Speaker:there's a lot actually that you can do.
Speaker:And I knew.
Speaker:I think I shared with you four years ago, we went through, um, a difficult
Speaker:season and like, there was a lot of stress around and, um, it wasn't in terms
Speaker:of our marriage or anything, but just something that had external circumstance.
Speaker:And, and so it actually put me into early menopause, like four
Speaker:years ago and it was amazing.
Speaker:So I have an insight into this.
Speaker:I'm like, it's this flooding in the brain that happens with the hormones and
Speaker:it really throws your mind in terms of.
Speaker:Your capacity to think.
Speaker:And it really impacts the temporal lobe of the brain like physiologically.
Speaker:And so I totally agree.
Speaker:A lot of women who are going through that transition phase, mid life start to feel
Speaker:a little crazy or forgetful or anxious, um, then volatility in terms of emotions,
Speaker:but that's actually really normal, but it's about learning to manage that.
Speaker:I guess by talking specifically about this transition for a moment, but, you
Speaker:know, managing the physical, managing the emotional, managing the spiritual,
Speaker:managing what you can control them.
Speaker:Well, yeah,
Speaker:absolutely.
Speaker:And I had a moment last week where I felt so like there's one day I just
Speaker:felt so depressed and I feel so.
Speaker:Yes, and had no reason.
Speaker:And I was about to have to give a lecture to the sisters on MGO vision,
Speaker:around our way of life, which was poverty, chastity, and obedience.
Speaker:I know
Speaker:vision means you kind of got to be a little energetic.
Speaker:I've got to feel it.
Speaker:I needed to feel it and I wasn't feeling it, but I did.
Speaker:You want them to play with me before we did the lecture?
Speaker:And it was really powerful.
Speaker:I said, Lord, I don't have the energy.
Speaker:Give me what I don't have right now.
Speaker:Like, feel like.
Speaker:The overflowing and lit you'll love just pervade.
Speaker:And I was Pash.
Speaker:I ended up doing a great lecture.
Speaker:They said to me at the end, where did it, where did the passion come from?
Speaker:So I know grace kicks in and I know that God hears the cry of our deepest,
Speaker:deepest needs or pain or discomfort.
Speaker:And maybe it's a space where he can have more room to actually move
Speaker:because I'm actually, I'm unable to give what I normally have.
Speaker:My resources are spent
Speaker:and, you know, that's something, I mean, for myself, like I came
Speaker:out of that after I did a lot of exercise and sleep, so I'm sure.
Speaker:That's on its way.
Speaker:But, um, I do remember the exercise was huge and sleep was huge.
Speaker:They were really, really important, um, elements and someone said
Speaker:you can manage that transition really well through exercise.
Speaker:I haven't got time to share one other thing.
Speaker:Oh, you've got lots of time, please.
Speaker:The other thing that I've gotten into, which I'm not very good at
Speaker:gardening, that's trying to be creative, you know, beyond what
Speaker:I normally or naturally would do.
Speaker:And I think that's another thing that, you know, the creativity of the spirit in this
Speaker:time of generate generativity or the new thing that he wants to do say prince, the
Speaker:rose bushes quite, you know, quite low.
Speaker:And we got a lesson in how to do.
Speaker:And, um, prunings it essential for new growth to come through
Speaker:for the roses to come through.
Speaker:But I think in myself, I was really just experiencing something of getting
Speaker:rid of the dead branches, putting the fertilizer, you know, around the roses and
Speaker:just, that was the beginning of winter.
Speaker:And now we're in this new season of spring and the blooms and the
Speaker:buds have become beautiful roses.
Speaker:Oh, they're so pretty.
Speaker:And
Speaker:I wanted to show them off.
Speaker:What I'm saying is suddenly this new life and magnificent, magnificent
Speaker:roses have appeared and we can smell the beauty and the goodness.
Speaker:They just give so much for.
Speaker:But, you know, God's goodness.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:And it's such a beautiful metaphor, but it's so nice to have a visual
Speaker:for what God's doing because so often we can't see what he's doing.
Speaker:How is it work?
Speaker:And I think what you touched on when you were talking about
Speaker:giving that lecture last Friday is just utter dependence like that.
Speaker:You actually, I do think that during that midlife transition particularly,
Speaker:and this is one thing I felt that.
Speaker:Very emotionally resilient.
Speaker:So I can cope with a lot.
Speaker:I'm very stable emotionally, but to feel out of control
Speaker:was really frightening for me.
Speaker:Like those emotions, that, and they settled down with exercise and, you
Speaker:know, natural remedies and stuff.
Speaker:And so that's all good, but I think.
Speaker:Experience of feeling out of control, or then even with
Speaker:other situations that happen.
Speaker:I know walking with people this year, who've lost children and
Speaker:you know, and other people whose marriages might be in difficulty.
Speaker:And there's a whole range of situations that we're currently walking through with
Speaker:people at the moment, and it can feel really out of control and we can feel
Speaker:completely inadequate that we don't have.
Speaker:What we normally possess to, to show up for people, but there is
Speaker:an invitation there that invitation to real dependence on the Lord.
Speaker:And I think, you know, when we go through any transition in life,
Speaker:we can fight it a little bit.
Speaker:I think that's our brains just natural.
Speaker:We're hardwired to protect ourselves.
Speaker:That's our instinct, but there is that invitation.
Speaker:To go into growth to go into what's the law trying to teach me.
Speaker:And, and I guess you're learning some of those lessons in this
Speaker:currencies, in you're in and able to share them with others.
Speaker:Have you got any other, I guess some thoughts around, I guess for the woman
Speaker:who's really resistant to that, like say going to that place, that holding bay,
Speaker:because of fear of not wanting to feel.
Speaker:The grief and loss.
Speaker:I'm not wanting to feel the intense, emotional face up to what's
Speaker:actually happening in their life.
Speaker:What advice would you give to them?
Speaker:I think really drawing on the strength of otherwise women who have been through
Speaker:similar things themselves, and I'm hoping and praying that the women that are
Speaker:listening to this already connected, you know, whether to a community, a faith
Speaker:community, or even just being mentored or pastorally cared for by other women.
Speaker:Um, because I think without having essentially vulnerability needs to make
Speaker:vulnerability and that I really feel that we are carried by the prayers and the
Speaker:faith of those that were in community.
Speaker:Um, so I would encourage people.
Speaker:It's not a journey that you can do alone to really, really seek the wise
Speaker:counsel of other women who have can pray, can guide, can spiritually nurture.
Speaker:What you're going through is really important because all the other
Speaker:health things are really good, whether that's seeing a doctor or,
Speaker:you know, looking after your personal health, the medicine part of things.
Speaker:But I think the spiritual nourishment is so important and perhaps.
Speaker:Finding books, you know, that really help us speak into this whole area
Speaker:of, um, change of life or midlife.
Speaker:I think reading a book it's called, um, the Bihar come home by Joyce Rupp and
Speaker:it's all about midlife spirituality.
Speaker:And that's where I got some of the images that I'm talking about today.
Speaker:Cause she talks.
Speaker:You know how to name your losses, how to grieve your losses.
Speaker:But I can't do that by myself.
Speaker:You know, I need people who are actually, um, spiritually in tune with
Speaker:the spirit to help me to process yes.
Speaker:Maybe finding a ritual around even the losses and the grieving.
Speaker:Um, and I think that that would be really important is to find your
Speaker:own way and my creative ways, very different to the women out there.
Speaker:So, you know, it might be, um, creating through artwork or through poetry.
Speaker:Um, or it might be through cooking, you know, I think there's so many
Speaker:different diverse expression.
Speaker:To process the transitions in life, but you need to find your own group.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:And I think for women who are raising children in family, there's a sense
Speaker:that you, you lose a bit of who you are in those early childbearing years.
Speaker:And I know there's some women that are going through transition where
Speaker:children, so they're not actually going through life, but it's another
Speaker:transition where their kids go back to school and they're like, now, Yes.
Speaker:I agree with the kids being home or they, they, they grieve that they gave
Speaker:up their career or, you know, like there's all these different transitions,
Speaker:but I think what you're saying is that rest and, and kind of growing and
Speaker:rhythms, there's the practical things.
Speaker:And then there's the prayer and the spirituality, but that creative outlet is
Speaker:really important because creativity has a way of connecting you to your soul and
Speaker:who you had been created to be in the.
Speaker:And then obviously I think once you do that, then he kind of reveals to
Speaker:you where he's calling you to serve.
Speaker:And so you come back to service in a new way or a refreshed way with, I guess,
Speaker:the wisdom from having worked through,
Speaker:um, the last thing I was just thinking about Karen, as you're talking, man,
Speaker:because I'm, um, re defining your dreams.
Speaker:And I think that's been another big thing in my life is because
Speaker:I've transitioned to different communities and different ministries.
Speaker:I think God's always calling us to re re dream like a re-look at what our dreams
Speaker:are such as some people in America.
Speaker:What are your hopes and dreams or your desires for the next five years?
Speaker:You know, as a married couple, the me it's, you know, really looking
Speaker:at my community life once again and looking at okay, if I'm dry and tired
Speaker:in a particular ministry, it's about redefining, what am I passionate about?
Speaker:What do I love about life?
Speaker:What gives me joy and meaning and purpose, and where do I get energy?
Speaker:In ministry or in what I'm doing.
Speaker:Um, so I have a dream book, beautiful.
Speaker:And I write the craziest things about what I'd love to do.
Speaker:Even if I had $10,000, how would I run this ministry?
Speaker:Because God is a God.
Speaker:And re re redesigning new things all the time.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:And I think sometimes, well, I see these actually all the time in the
Speaker:lives of women, that their dreams are the die well, they go underground and
Speaker:there's the sense of agitation and resentment that builds and frustration.
Speaker:And when we're not in touch with where that's coming from, then
Speaker:we can be a bit disheartened.
Speaker:We can think, oh, we're discontent now, marriage, or we're discontent
Speaker:here or there, but sometimes.
Speaker:Really the invitation is about coming home to ourselves, to
Speaker:discovering who the Lord is in us.
Speaker:But then once he calling us to do, and like you said, these dreams
Speaker:change throughout our seasons of life.
Speaker:And the dreams are actually really good.
Speaker:I actually worked with one woman and she said, isn't it ungodly to dream?
Speaker:Like, and I was like, no, like, God is a dreamer like this.
Speaker:He wants you to dream because that's where new ministries or new ideas of birth.
Speaker:That's right.
Speaker:Inspirations come prophetic dreams that actually tell us
Speaker:about where we're being called.
Speaker:You know?
Speaker:The possibilities are
Speaker:endless.
Speaker:That's right.
Speaker:And we should never downplay those little things.
Speaker:I could conversation in the supermarket or a book that we randomly pick up or assign.
Speaker:We see sometimes there are little clues that lead us to, I guess, those passions.
Speaker:And there is an invitation for women, I think in this particular season of life.
Speaker:Oh, I'm seeing it around the world.
Speaker:Like we're women are really reconnecting with themselves in a new way, but
Speaker:not at the expense of their vocation.
Speaker:Mind you, because I think, you know, previously there was an idea that you had
Speaker:to be a mom at home and you couldn't work or you had to be full-time in ministry
Speaker:and you couldn't do other things, but kind of breaking down those barriers.
Speaker:Mindsets I'm seeing.
Speaker:And women seem to be more free to really connect with their unique creative
Speaker:passions and to bring those to life across a whole lot of areas, which is awesome.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:Sorry.
Speaker:Next year.
Speaker:It will be 10 years since I made my final vows.
Speaker:So I'm having the opportunity to go on sabbatical.
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:I'm going to have to think about what is it that, you know, I want to
Speaker:work on creativity in a creative way.
Speaker:Like whether that's a bit more education or a particular area,
Speaker:or perhaps a pilgrimage, you know, having that space to.
Speaker:And listen to the Lord in a whole nother way.
Speaker:Maybe my direction of life, of where he's calling me may change, you know?
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:You are a very creative person.
Speaker:I
Speaker:am naturally.
Speaker:Yeah, I've got more creativity than I'd say the, you know, the intellectual desire
Speaker:to go and study for two months, foliage.
Speaker:I prefer to go and probably learn about, you know, um, painting, drawing,
Speaker:dancing, and ministry things to do with, um, Yeah, the soul and also the,
Speaker:I guess the body working together.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Fantastic.
Speaker:Oh, well, I can't wait to see what you come up with.
Speaker:We'll have you back in a year and you can tell us the grand three come to life.
Speaker:Rachel, thank you so much for your time today.
Speaker:I hope that's been a blessing to the women and yes, we'll be praying for.
Speaker:Thank you also church and to all of us, because you you're beautiful.
Speaker:You such a gift.
Speaker:Thank you.
Speaker:Thank you for the opportunity and the privilege.
Speaker:And I really pray for all the women out there who are part of the cohort
Speaker:that follow this wonderful podcast.
Speaker:And I pray and hope that they really are blessed and renewed in the spirit.
Speaker:Amen.
Speaker:Thank you.
Speaker:Well, I hope you enjoyed that conversation with Rachel.
Speaker:If you would like to go deeper with some of this content or if you really need some
Speaker:help in terms of establishing some rhythms of renewal in your life, then I'd love
Speaker:to invite you to join us for the Catholic women's masterclass, where we walk.
Speaker:For rhythms of renewal, rest restoration, connection and creation.
Speaker:And this very much ties into my conversation with Rachel today.
Speaker:You can find out more about the Catholic women's master class on the genius project
Speaker:website, www dot genius, project dot cope.
Speaker:I hope you have a beautiful week ladies until next week.
Speaker:God bless you.
Speaker:And we will see you back on the genius podcast next week.