Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today.

I'm a personal coach. And I want to create a space for you where

you can feel safe and recharge your batteries and maybe change

your perspective on certain things. If not, even yourself.

Be you

fearlessly. It is time to be more authentic.

You've been hiding behind a mask you've been hiding, because of

social pressures. Maybe because it was more convenient in the

moment to not show your real face your real emotions.

Sometimes we also feel the need to hide because

we think that the people around us don't really deserve to see

our real face.

But isn't it exhausting? Aren't you tired?

I find it

real really difficult, at times to speak my truth and to be

fearlessly me. Because I want to fit in because I don't want to

inconvenience other people, because I don't want to create

friction.

But there's a fine, very graceful way of being yourself

without offending others. And this is what I want to talk

about today.

There's a way you can communicate and shine your light

without hurting others. And sometimes we just think Yeah, we

don't have any talents. We're not add artists, we have no real

way to express ourselves authentically so that other

people can understand us better. But we all have that voice

inside of us that soul that is craving to express itself.

And it is that craving that should push you forward

to be yourself and that craving not only feels like a strong

desire, but sometimes it is physical pain.

Sometimes, we held ourselves in a very tight little prison

self made

and our body starts to ache because we are conforming to a

life that might not be the right life

for us.

So that's what I'm here to to share with you today is how

important it is to be fearlessly you.

Because it can make you sick,

physically sick, mentally sick, emotionally sick. If you learn

to perfectly suppress your desires or your true authentic

self.

And the way I've learned now to express myself more

authentically

is to talk how I feel about things

and to really be in tune with my body

and to then put it into words

and it takes some training it takes some time to to listen to

your body again because most of us learned very nicely how to

put a sticker on the engine light

the repair your truck light and to ignore the signals from our

body

like we do for our cars at times.

But it is just

a real relearning. You used to know how to listen to your body

look at children, how they just express themselves without

thinking without

by

reflecting about how it would make other people feel,

and yet children do is very recklessly and, you know, you

have to guide them a little bit on how to, yeah, express their

feelings in a way that people want to listen and want to

accommodate. But that's something that you can learn as

well.

But what I've learned is, when you express your feelings,

then the other person is inclined to listen, when you

start blaming, and then shaming other people, for how you feel.

People shut down right away and don't want to listen, don't want

nothing to do with you, because they see you and feel you as a

victim. And yeah, you truly behave like one too, if you give

the power over two external circumstances, or people.

So I feel there's a stigma around us on how men, for

instance, don't like to talk about their feelings. And women

always want men to talk about their feelings.

And I kind of want to break through this, I want to give

people peace with that, because what women actually crave, when

they say that is a raw connection to you.

They want to know how you function, they want to know how

you think and how you feel and where your boundaries are. And

it's not always about Whoo, I feel so attracted to you and all

I feel so awesome with you

know, sometimes it's, Oh, I feel uncomfortable when you do this.

And I get it, it is tough to express negative feelings

without any big emotions. Because we fear the reaction

from

the other person nevertheless. So when we are strongly

emotional and you know, burst out, then we know, Okay, fuck,

the other person is going to do the same and explode. At the

same time, when we learn to express ourselves in a very calm

and, you know, mature way, we're still incredibly scared of how

the other person might react. And we have to learn that this

reaction is perfectly normal and has everything to do with the

other person. And if the other person wants to build bridges

with you, instead of wolves, they will kind of surrender to

your courageous way of expressing yourself now. So for

instance,

if my boyfriend is pissed off with something, and

just, you know, blames and shames me for not doing the

dishes, or not taking care of my truck enough.

I feel like yeah, I don't really want to listen, I know, he wants

me to do the things differently. But yeah,

it doesn't really bother me to a point that I will change my

behavior.

If my boyfriend now comes up and says, Hey, you know what they,

if you don't take care of your truck, you might be facing

consequences that can cost you lots of money. Or if we don't do

the dishes, right after dinner.

I feel like we're, yeah, not leaving the kitchen in a state

that it feels nice to come back to. And I love our little

kitchen. And I love when it's nice and tidy. And we start to

cook our new meal here in a couple of hours.

You see how all of a sudden

the other prisoners taking ownership and expresses that in

a very calm way. And now all of a sudden, I want to listen now

I'm like, Yeah, of course I want my boyfriend to feel

comfortable. So I'm going to do my best and change my behavior.

So

I hope this little example was was making it clear on how you

can influence people and make people change their behavior in

expressing yourself calmly and authentically.

And if I was to, you know, burst out and react aggressively to

his

recommendation suggestion or how he fields

It is all about me and he has not to react to it, he can just

walk away. Or tell me, Hey, I'm gonna talk to you when you calm

down, because

this is not the

way I want to communicate with you.

So you actually take your power back, when you express yourself,

honestly and fearlessly. And it's incredible how it changes

your relationships, your immediate relationships, but

also the relationships at work or with strangers.

Just imagine yourself, not reacting anymore to weird

situations or people that trigger you, but to respond in a

way that is true to your heart, true to your soul. And also

awesome for your mind. Because you know, you're standing your

ground, you are in alignment with your values. And you are

just expressing yourself with the other person

to the other person, or however you say that in English.

So I hope this all makes sense. And I really encourage you to

try this out within the next week or 10 days, and then give

me feedback on how it went. You change your behavior, and you

will see that other people will change their behavior with you

as well for the better. So I'm burning to know how it goes for

you and to talk about it further.

And yeah, never hesitate to connect with me on Facebook,

Aurora Eggert coaching or Aurora Eggert. And yeah, just drop the

line message me and say, Yeah, you're listening to my podcast

and you'd like to

connect with me. There's a lot of scammers out there. So I

usually don't reply to just a hey, and hello, how are you?

So, yeah, I'm I'm really curious about this. And if you want to

meet up if you want to have a one on one coaching session, the

first session is for free 60 minutes where I hear you out and

find out where you're at and

let you know how I can help you. And yeah, then we go from there.

take really good care of yourself and try it out. Try to

be authentic and calm and very confident with how you feel. And

it will change your life for sure. Thank you so much for

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