Hey there.
Speaker:Are you struggling to find meaning in your nine to five grind?
Speaker:Do you feel like your paycheck is just a means to an end, but
Speaker:void of any deeper purpose?
Speaker:Well, today on the Ask Ralph Show, we're diving into how you can transform your
Speaker:paycheck into a powerful tool for purpose.
Speaker:So stick around and discover how aligning your work and your finances with your
Speaker:faith can bring you the peace and fulfillment that you've been longing for.
Speaker:It's gonna be a great show today.
Speaker:Thanks for joining me on the Ask Ralph Show.
Speaker:I'm Ralph, your financial evangelist, and today we're gonna explore how
Speaker:to turn your paycheck into purpose.
Speaker:I'm here to help you escape that cycle of financial shame, and I'm here to
Speaker:help you do it with confidence and I promise you this, today's show is going
Speaker:to have a real impact on your life.
Speaker:Now you might be asking, why should you listen to today's show?
Speaker:Because here's the truth.
Speaker:We're gonna tackle that feeling that your work is, is just a grind.
Speaker:It's just a a means to an end.
Speaker:We're gonna discuss how to find deeper meaning in not
Speaker:only your profession and your.
Speaker:Finances, but then how to align them with your Christian values.
Speaker:And here's my promise.
Speaker:By the end of this episode, you're gonna have concrete steps to turn your
Speaker:paycheck into a powerful tool for God's purposes, bringing you closer to financial
Speaker:freedom and to spiritual fulfillment.
Speaker:Now, yesterday we talked about a tough topic, and that's who pays the
Speaker:bills when those grown kids won't fly.
Speaker:The coup man, we had a active and interesting discussion.
Speaker:We discussed strategies to handle financial responsibilities within the
Speaker:family, and most importantly, and this was the key to the whole thing, was how
Speaker:to navigate those tricky conversations.
Speaker:So if you missed it, be sure to check it out on our website.
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Speaker:That's where you'll find all of our episodes.
Speaker:Well, let's get to today's listener question, and today's
Speaker:question comes from Courtney.
Speaker:And Courtney writes this, and Courtney, thank you so much for this.
Speaker:She said,
Speaker:Ralph, I feel like I'm just going through the motions at work.
Speaker:I'm earning a good salary, but it feels empty.
Speaker:I wake up every day feeling like I'm just working to pay the bills and
Speaker:there's no deeper meaning to what I do.
Speaker:I've always wanted my work to reflect my faith and make a difference.
Speaker:But I don't know where to start.
Speaker:I'm tired of feeling like I'm a cog in a machine.
Speaker:How can I turn my paycheck into purpose and find the
Speaker:fulfillment that I'm yearning for?
Speaker:Well, Courtney, thank you so much for your question because listen, I know
Speaker:exactly how you feel and I bet there are.
Speaker:Other people listening right now that are saying the same thing,
Speaker:they feel like it's just a grind.
Speaker:They feel like they're getting that paycheck, but what is the purpose?
Speaker:And see, it's so easy to get caught up in that daily grind.
Speaker:It's easy to lose sight of the bigger picture.
Speaker:And many of us have felt that our jobs are, are just a means
Speaker:to an end, a way to put money in the bank, a way to pay the bills.
Speaker:But then deep down we, we yearn for something more meaningful.
Speaker:We yearn for something that aligns with our core values and our faith.
Speaker:And listen, I've been there myself.
Speaker:And I've worked with many people who felt the same way.
Speaker:But Courtney, here's the good news, and this is great news.
Speaker:There is a way to transform your paycheck into purpose, and I'm
Speaker:gonna help you do just that today.
Speaker:Remember, you can submit your questions just like Courtney did by going to just
Speaker:ask ralph.com, because here's the truth, I love answering your questions, and
Speaker:that's the central part of the show.
Speaker:It's my goal to provide you with the answers you need.
Speaker:Well, let's start with a Bible verse that speaks to this very topic, Courtney.
Speaker:I found this in the book of Colossians, chapter three verses 23 and 24,
Speaker:and it says this, and I think this is almost an anthem for our work.
Speaker:It says, whatever you do, work at it with all your heart as working
Speaker:for the Lord, not human Masters.
Speaker:Since you know that you'll receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward,
Speaker:it is the Lord Christ you are serving.
Speaker:I. Think about how humbling that is.
Speaker:It's so easy to get caught up in that, that daily grind.
Speaker:You're like, oh, I'm working for my boss, I'm working for my manager,
Speaker:I'm working for whoever that is.
Speaker:But when you change your perspective, when you change the dynamic and
Speaker:you start to realize that it is the Lord Christ, you are serving,
Speaker:man, it just changes everything.
Speaker:And see this verse reminds us that our work is not just about earning
Speaker:that paycheck, it's not about getting that money in your bank
Speaker:account through direct deposits.
Speaker:It's about serving God.
Speaker:It's about finding purpose.
Speaker:And most importantly, and this is Courtney.
Speaker:This is exactly what you were asking me.
Speaker:It's finding purpose and meaning in what we do.
Speaker:And listen, I'm so grateful for the opportunity to discuss this
Speaker:topic with you today, Courtney.
Speaker:Because the Lord has given me experience, he's given me understanding.
Speaker:I've been helping people overcome their financial
Speaker:challenges from a place of faith.
Speaker:So today it's just another privilege to share this knowledge and to help you find
Speaker:deeper meaning in your work and finances because the truth of the matter is.
Speaker:Your questions really fuel my soul.
Speaker:So, Courtney, your question about finding Purpo in your
Speaker:paycheck really resonated with me.
Speaker:It really, it, it touched me in a way that I haven't been touched in a while.
Speaker:And I said, you know what?
Speaker:I can, I, I know what Courtney's going through and reminds me of
Speaker:a woman I worked with a few years back, and her name was Anna.
Speaker:Now, Anna, I don't know what you do for a living, Courtney, but Anna was
Speaker:a talented graphic designer and she was running her own small business,
Speaker:and when you looked at it from the outside, hey, things looked pretty good.
Speaker:She had a steady stream of clients, a, a nice portfolio, and she had
Speaker:what seemed from the outside a seemingly comfortable lifestyle.
Speaker:But that didn't tell the whole story.
Speaker:See, beneath the surface, Anna was drowning in financial shame.
Speaker:She became a client of mine.
Speaker:We started working together, and one day she said, but her voice was trembling.
Speaker:She said, Ralph, I'm deeply in debt.
Speaker:'cause I made some unwise decisions early on in my business.
Speaker:I overspent on equipment.
Speaker:I, I hadn't been tracking my expenses diligently.
Speaker:And man, I ran up these credit cards to cover the gaps in my
Speaker:income as I was starting a business.
Speaker:And now I've got this mountain of debt.
Speaker:And she said to me, she says, Ralph, I feel trapped.
Speaker:I'm, I'm constantly worried about making ends meet.
Speaker:And that shame that Anna was feeling that kept her from seeking help.
Speaker:Because just like you, Courtney, maybe she felt like a failure, especially
Speaker:when she looked at her Christian faith.
Speaker:She said to me, she says, Ralph, I feel like I should be
Speaker:handling my finances better.
Speaker:She felt that her faith should have guided her to make wiser choices
Speaker:and, and that shame she was feeling, and I felt this too, that shame she
Speaker:was feeling was paralyzing and it wasn't just impacting her finances,
Speaker:it was impacting her relationships.
Speaker:And her overall wellbeing because this is what this tends to do.
Speaker:And she found herself withdrawing from friends.
Speaker:She was feeling unworthy and she was feeling embarrassed.
Speaker:So as I often talk about on the show, I took off my accountant and
Speaker:tax hat and I put on my counseling hat and we started to work together.
Speaker:And the first thing we did that first step was acknowledging that
Speaker:shame that she was feeling, and starting to break that silence.
Speaker:And it was liberating for her.
Speaker:I remember just admitting her struggles out loud was a huge hurdle.
Speaker:She had never shared that with anybody.
Speaker:She said, you know, from the outside Ralph, I've always done the right thing.
Speaker:People look at me and they, and they see success.
Speaker:But when she was finally able to admit those struggles out loud,
Speaker:it was incredibly liberating.
Speaker:And then we started to work on the financial side.
Speaker:This is what I do best.
Speaker:We, we created a budget.
Speaker:Yes, Ralph talks about budgets, but we created a realistic one.
Speaker:We created a budget that would address her immediate needs and also focus on
Speaker:chipping away at that debt she had built.
Speaker:I. And see it wasn't about drastic changes overnight.
Speaker:You're not going to get that.
Speaker:If you think that you are going to make drastic changes overnight besides
Speaker:hitting the lottery, guess what?
Speaker:You are going to take time.
Speaker:It's going to take effort.
Speaker:But here's my promise and just like I did with Anna, but small
Speaker:consistent steps moving forward.
Speaker:Started to work at it and we, we talked about ways to increase her income.
Speaker:We talked about leveraging her design skills to offer new services and try
Speaker:to attract higher paying clients.
Speaker:And then she shared something with me.
Speaker:She said, Ralph, one of the most powerful moments She said, I go to a
Speaker:small church group, and she was having their, their Sunday morning meeting
Speaker:and, and she says, Ralph, just all of a sudden I felt like I need to share this.
Speaker:And she shared her struggles with the group and she talked about her
Speaker:journey towards financial health.
Speaker:And all of a sudden she noticed other people had experienced the same thing.
Speaker:She wasn't alone in this.
Speaker:And that outpouring of support she received was absolutely overwhelming.
Speaker:See, she didn't just find emotional support and encouragement,
Speaker:but others, members of her group offered practical help.
Speaker:They connected her with new clients and shared their own financial wisdom.
Speaker:See, many of them had been through the same things, and,
Speaker:and they felt that embarrassment.
Speaker:They felt that shame.
Speaker:They felt like there was nobody to turn to.
Speaker:But now all of a sudden they saw Anna and they, they put their arms around her.
Speaker:Then the next time I saw Anna, let me just tell you that transformation
Speaker:was remarkable because as she gained control of her finances, that shame
Speaker:began to dissipate, and it was replaced by a true sense of empowerment.
Speaker:It was replaced with a sense of hope, and the big aha moment is when
Speaker:she realized that her worth wasn't tied to her financial situation.
Speaker:It was so much bigger than that, and I was so happy to see that.
Speaker:She finally realized that her worth was not tied to that financial situation,
Speaker:but tied to her identity as a child of God, and that's what we all need to do.
Speaker:And Anna started using her financial journey to encourage others.
Speaker:She became a mentor.
Speaker:She shared her story, and she offered support for those struggling
Speaker:with these very same challenges.
Speaker:And she discovered her purpose was not just inner design work that was,
Speaker:that was great, but the creativity she brought to that, she also used
Speaker:it to help others find financial peace and find financial freedom.
Speaker:And Courtney, lemme just tell you this, just like Anna did,
Speaker:you can overcome financial shame.
Speaker:And if you're listening to this right now.
Speaker:Hear me on this.
Speaker:You can overcome financial shame.
Speaker:I'm gonna talk to you about in a few ways, in just a few
Speaker:minutes of how you can do that.
Speaker:But here's, lemme tell you this.
Speaker:It's gonna take courage.
Speaker:It's gonna take courage.
Speaker:You're gonna have to have that courageous first step to step out and do it.
Speaker:It's gonna take honesty.
Speaker:You're gonna have to be honest.
Speaker:You're gonna have to have that a moment when you say, yes, I have failed at this.
Speaker:She's not shame in admitting that you failed.
Speaker:The shame is if you don't do anything about it.
Speaker:Which leads me to the last piece of this.
Speaker:You've gotta have a willingness to take action.
Speaker:You gotta start by acknowledging your struggles, just like Anna did
Speaker:admit them, she admitted them to me, and then getting that support, she
Speaker:got support from me, she got support from her small group at church.
Speaker:And then you gotta put those things into action.
Speaker:Create that budget, explore ways to increase your
Speaker:income, and most importantly.
Speaker:And hear me on this.
Speaker:This is why I do this show.
Speaker:Remember that God's love and grace are always available to you regardless
Speaker:of your financial situation.
Speaker:God is not going to judge you.
Speaker:He wants you to get past where you are.
Speaker:He just wants you to acknowledge it to him and ask him for his help.
Speaker:And let me share something very personal with you, Courtney.
Speaker:There was a time in my life when I felt completely empty.
Speaker:Just to be very candid with you.
Speaker:Despite having a successful career, I, I was making good money, but
Speaker:there were times when I felt like I, there was just no purpose behind it.
Speaker:I was just doing that daily grind.
Speaker:I was just going through the motions and there were dark times that left me
Speaker:feeling completely unfulfilled and, and disconnected from what truly mattered.
Speaker:And I was in a dark place.
Speaker:And, but it was when I finally started aligning my work with my
Speaker:faith that everything changed.
Speaker:Courtney, I found a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment, and one of
Speaker:the key aspects of finding purpose is honestly, it's stewarding your
Speaker:finances with a higher purpose.
Speaker:And that's what this today's show is all about.
Speaker:Because here's the truth, God has trusted you with financial resources.
Speaker:He's given them to you.
Speaker:They're not yours.
Speaker:I've said this many times on your show.
Speaker:He's entrusted you with them and it's your responsibility to use them wisely.
Speaker:I think that's what you're feeling.
Speaker:Courtney, you're saying I, I feel like I'm just going through the motions because
Speaker:ask yourself this difficult question.
Speaker:Are you using them wisely?
Speaker:You know, are, are you making conscious spending decisions?
Speaker:And this isn't, listen, I'm, I'm talking to myself right now.
Speaker:Ask yourself, are you making conscious spending decisions?
Speaker:Are, are you prioritizing needs over wants?
Speaker:Are you avoiding those indulgences and, and that pursuit of a lavish lifestyle?
Speaker:Hey, the world is lying to you.
Speaker:You constantly are going to be pursuing and pursuing and pursuing, but at
Speaker:some point you're gonna realize that pursuit is going to leave you empty.
Speaker:I. And the other side of this is, are you practicing generous giving?
Speaker:Are you being gracious in your giving?
Speaker:And you know, you know, tithing is a foundational principle of giving.
Speaker:That's part of it.
Speaker:And I talk about that on the show all the time.
Speaker:And you might be saying, wait a minute, Ralph, you're telling me to find purpose
Speaker:and now you're going to giving, and I'm not asking you to give to me, I'm asking
Speaker:you to give to charitable organizations.
Speaker:And a lot of people will do that one time.
Speaker:But see, charitable giving extends beyond this initial commitment.
Speaker:It's, it's bigger than that.
Speaker:Look at Proverbs 1917.
Speaker:It tells us this, when I've read this again in the Bible, as I was preparing
Speaker:for the show today, it, it really made me think, it says this, it says Whoever
Speaker:is kind to the poor, lends to the Lord.
Speaker:And he will reward them for what they have done.
Speaker:See what?
Speaker:Whoever is kind to the poor, think about that.
Speaker:You're kind to the poor, you're lending directly to the Lord.
Speaker:I, I think about that verse that says, whatever you did for the
Speaker:least of mine, you did it for me.
Speaker:And when you give generously, you're not just helping others.
Speaker:Yeah, that's, that's part of it.
Speaker:You are helping others, but bigger than that, the big purpose of
Speaker:that, you're serving God and you're storing up treasures in heaven.
Speaker:And finally, and I'm gonna get to some concrete things
Speaker:you can do in just a moment.
Speaker:Integrate purpose into your financial planning.
Speaker:What is the purpose of why you're saving?
Speaker:What is the purpose of your retirement?
Speaker:I'm gonna talk about all these things in a minute.
Speaker:Set those God honoring goals, because these goals should focus on making
Speaker:a positive impact and bringing glory to God, not glory to you.
Speaker:One of the best ways to do that is to follow biblical principles for
Speaker:managing your finances responsibly.
Speaker:Consider faith-based investment strategies that align with your values.
Speaker:And remember this, and this is tough, you might not want to hear this, but
Speaker:those financial decisions you make today, they have eternal significance.
Speaker:So we have to really put that into context of what we're trying to accomplish today.
Speaker:So let me now move on to some examples of God honoring financial goals.
Speaker:These are things that can help you get past that feeling that you're just on
Speaker:that treadmill, you're, you're just moving forward, but with no purpose.
Speaker:One of the big things I'm gonna encourage you to do is look at debt freedom.
Speaker:See here's, here's my goal for you.
Speaker:Pay off all your consumer debt within the next three years.
Speaker:Just set a goal.
Speaker:In the next three years, I'm gonna pay off all my consumer debt.
Speaker:And you might be saying, Ralph, what's the purpose of that?
Speaker:Well, I'm gonna be very candid with you.
Speaker:The purpose of that is to free yourself from the burden of debt, and that is going
Speaker:to allow you to give more generously and live with greater financial peace if you
Speaker:don't have that debt over your heads.
Speaker:Listen, this has affected me.
Speaker:It's affected many people I've worked with.
Speaker:That constant feeling of that debt over your head, that shame of that debt,
Speaker:Hey, that's what Anna was feeling.
Speaker:She finally confided in me.
Speaker:She said, Rob, I have a successful business, but man, I owe everybody.
Speaker:I've got this credit card and that credit card.
Speaker:And what is that doing?
Speaker:It's robbing your peace and it's robbing your ability to be more generous.
Speaker:Just look at the book of Proverbs chapter 22 7.
Speaker:It says this, the rich rule over the poor.
Speaker:I use this all the time on the show.
Speaker:The rich rule over the poor and the borrower is slave to the lender.
Speaker:See that that debt, and I'm not saying that there's all debt is bad.
Speaker:Listen, if you listen to the show, you know I don't say that,
Speaker:but debt will weigh you down.
Speaker:The Bible says you become a slave to that.
Speaker:So that's the first thing I'm gonna encourage you to do is get out of debt.
Speaker:The second thing which goes right along with that is generous giving.
Speaker:Here's my goal for you.
Speaker:Increase your charitable giving by 10% each year.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:Wait a minute, 10%.
Speaker:I give 1% now.
Speaker:Great.
Speaker:Then do one point 10% the next year.
Speaker:The purpose of that is to support ministries, support charities, and support
Speaker:causes that align with your values.
Speaker:You know, a friend of mine once said, put your money where your mouth is,
Speaker:put your money where your heart is.
Speaker:And make a positive impact in the world that will make you feel like you are
Speaker:breaking free and you're finding that freedom and it's not about that grind.
Speaker:You're working hard because you're using that money to support charities.
Speaker:You're using that money to support ministries, and you're using that money
Speaker:to align with your values that are making a positive impact in the world.
Speaker:Amen to that because look what the Bible says in Proverbs 1917.
Speaker:It says, whoever is kind to the poor, lends to the Lord, and he will
Speaker:reward them for what they have done.
Speaker:I said that a couple times in the show today.
Speaker:Make that positive impact on the world, and you will break that feeling that
Speaker:what you're doing is just a daily grind.
Speaker:Because yes, that part of it might be the daily grind, but man, you
Speaker:are working for the Lord because you're doing something with that.
Speaker:You're getting rid of debt.
Speaker:You're supporting ministries.
Speaker:You're supporting charities.
Speaker:There's power in that.
Speaker:Another thing I'm gonna encourage you to do, and you, you might
Speaker:feel like I'm a broken record, but build that emergency fund.
Speaker:Have a goal set, say set to save three to six months worth of
Speaker:living expenses and emergency fund.
Speaker:And everybody listen.
Speaker:I get mail, I get emails from people that say, Ralph, you are crazy.
Speaker:You say to me, I'm gonna save three to six months.
Speaker:I can't even pay my bills now.
Speaker:And I'll respond to those messages and I'll say, okay, I hear you and I feel,
Speaker:and I pray for you, but here's the truth, you can start doing something.
Speaker:You can save a dollar a day, you can save $5 a week.
Speaker:You can save $10 every two weeks, whatever that looks like, but make your work have
Speaker:purpose by looking to build that emergency fund, you be saying, okay, great.
Speaker:What's the purpose of that, Ralph?
Speaker:The purpose of an emergency fund is to be prepared for
Speaker:unexpected financial challenges.
Speaker:'cause look, if you're like everybody else in the world, you are going to
Speaker:have unexpected financial challenges.
Speaker:It's part of life, but think about the peace and the reduced
Speaker:stress and dependence on debt and others that you will have when
Speaker:you have that emergency fund.
Speaker:Hear me on this?
Speaker:This is something that you can use to find purpose in your work.
Speaker:And again, this is biblical from Proverbs 2120.
Speaker:And again, I use this on the show all the time because it keys
Speaker:into what we're talking about.
Speaker:It says the wise store up choice food and olive oil, but fools gum,
Speaker:there's down looking, do me a fool.
Speaker:Store it up, build that emergency fund.
Speaker:I'm not calling you a fool, but think about what the Bible is saying there.
Speaker:Why?
Speaker:Because it recognizes that you will have more financial peace, you will have more
Speaker:value in what you're doing if you have a goal of building that emergency fund.
Speaker:So the, and listen, here's a beautiful thing about this.
Speaker:I've talked about this on the show before.
Speaker:Maybe that emergency fund doesn't even get by.
Speaker:You get by, used by you.
Speaker:Maybe somebody at church, maybe somebody it's a missionary, maybe
Speaker:somebody in a charity you're involved with all of a sudden has a need.
Speaker:Maybe someone's house burnt down.
Speaker:Maybe their house was in a disaster or they've had a medical issue.
Speaker:See, God might have you building that emergency fund, not for your
Speaker:emergency, but for somebody else, and think about how wonderful it will be.
Speaker:When you get that phone call or you're in that small group and, and
Speaker:somebody's need is brought to light and you can think, you know what?
Speaker:I've built this emergency fund, and the whole time I was doing it,
Speaker:I thought God was wanting me to do it for me, but it wasn't about me.
Speaker:And then think about what you're doing.
Speaker:You're, you're helping the least of these.
Speaker:Now another concrete you think you can do is, is start thinking
Speaker:about retirement planning.
Speaker:The goal here is to contribute consistently to a retirement account.
Speaker:And aim to replace at least 80% of your pre-retirement income.
Speaker:You say, whoa, 80%.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Here's a truth bomb.
Speaker:When I work with tax clients and accounting clients, here's a,
Speaker:here's a very simple truth you are going to need money to live on.
Speaker:You might be saying, Ralph, that sounds like it's sort of counterintuitive
Speaker:to what you're talking about, but it's not because here's the purpose.
Speaker:You've got to ensure financial stability in your later years.
Speaker:And you might be saying, okay, Ralph, you got me so far, but explain that to
Speaker:me because that stability is going to allow you to continue to serve God and
Speaker:others without that financial worry.
Speaker:You don't know how many people I work with on a daily basis who have
Speaker:built that retirement fund, who have put aside that money for retirement.
Speaker:And guess what they can do now?
Speaker:they can sow that in other ministries.
Speaker:I got many people that I know that are doing mission trips.
Speaker:Why?
Speaker:Because they plan for retirement.
Speaker:They put that money aside.
Speaker:And again, maybe it wasn't about them at the time.
Speaker:Maybe it felt like it was at the time, but it wasn't the end.
Speaker:Look at Proverbs six, six through eight.
Speaker:It says, go to the ant.
Speaker:You sluggard consider its ways and be wise.
Speaker:It has no commander, no overseer or ruler yet it stores its provision in
Speaker:summer and gathers its food at harvest.
Speaker:See if you wanna make purpose with your work, then build that retirement, set
Speaker:aside for the future so that you can then share those resources with others.
Speaker:Another thing I'm gonna encourage you to do, and I can't stress this enough,
Speaker:whether you're a parent or a grandparent is safe for your children's education or
Speaker:maybe for your own continuing education.
Speaker:I have many clients and friends who have decided to go back to
Speaker:school and to refine their skills.
Speaker:And the purpose here is pretty clear.
Speaker:It's to invest in knowledge and skills because why not?
Speaker:So you can make more money.
Speaker:Yeah, you probably will be able to.
Speaker:But maybe you'll learn a skill where you can serve others.
Speaker:I talked about this on the show the other day.
Speaker:One of my clients actually went back.
Speaker:It was a life goal to learn Spanish, and now what she's doing, she's doing
Speaker:missionary work in countries that don't speak English, and she knows
Speaker:Spanish enough that she can help.
Speaker:I. So save for that education, whether it be your children or your grandchildren.
Speaker:May you know, I've got a lot of clients that are helping out their
Speaker:grandchildren with getting an education that's broken free of this terrible
Speaker:public school system we have, and don't even let me get started on that.
Speaker:Teaching all kinds of nonsense.
Speaker:But these grandparents are able to step up and help the parents pay for that,
Speaker:that private education where they're getting a Christian faith-based education.
Speaker:And this comes right from the book of Proverbs, chapter nine, verse nine.
Speaker:It says, instruct the wise and they will be wiser, still teach the righteous
Speaker:and they will add to their learning.
Speaker:So invest in that education for others and for yourself.
Speaker:Now if you happen to be self-employed,
Speaker:another reason for that daily grinder or working hard is a goal
Speaker:to grow your business, to create jobs and support your community.
Speaker:You know, the purpose of this is to use your business as a platform to
Speaker:bless others and spread God's love.
Speaker:You might say, Ralph, that's great.
Speaker:I'm gonna get real profitable for myself.
Speaker:But how does that help others?
Speaker:Well, think about it for a second.
Speaker:Maybe you can employ somebody else.
Speaker:You can lift up somebody else with the hard work that you're
Speaker:putting into your business.
Speaker:So use that business as a platform to bless others, invest in your
Speaker:business, grow your business, ' cause you are going to be able to use
Speaker:that business to spread God love.
Speaker:And here's the biblical principle here comes right from Proverbs 20 S 17.
Speaker:It says, as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Speaker:Another thing you can do with your money is to support missions.
Speaker:If you're looking to find purpose in what you're doing, save and
Speaker:give specifically to support missionaries or mission projects.
Speaker:Listen, my church here in Middletown, Middletown Baptist Church, we support
Speaker:a ton of missionaries, and when I first started going to church,
Speaker:I didn't really understand it.
Speaker:It didn't make any sense to me.
Speaker:I was like, well, why are we giving to these missionaries?
Speaker:Why don't we use that money here in our church?
Speaker:And a wise person said to me, he says, Ralph, the purpose of this is to help
Speaker:spread the gospel and support those who are called to serve in the mission field.
Speaker:that resonated with me.
Speaker:It made sense to me.
Speaker:So maybe you, you take that money that you're earning with the daily grind
Speaker:and you see that into the mission field because there are people out
Speaker:there on the front end doing this missionary work in places that you
Speaker:don't even want to think about going to.
Speaker:They're sharing that message of hope.
Speaker:They're sharing that message of Christ with people who
Speaker:may not have ever gotten it.
Speaker:And see this comes from the, from the Bible as well.
Speaker:It says, how then can they call on the one they have not believed in,
Speaker:and how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard?
Speaker:And how can they hear without someone preaching it to them?
Speaker:And how can anyone preach unless they are sent as it is written?
Speaker:How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news?
Speaker:It's from my favorite book of the Bible, the book of Romans,
Speaker:chapter 10 verses 14 and 15.
Speaker:You know, how can they believe if they haven't heard it?
Speaker:And then how can they hear without somebody preaching to them?
Speaker:And that is, I'm gonna encourage you today, if you're not supporting
Speaker:missionaries, if your church isn't supporting missionaries.
Speaker:Do that.
Speaker:Support missionaries.
Speaker:Maybe find one, understand where they're working.
Speaker:There are a ton of people, my aunt and uncle, were missionaries way back.
Speaker:They are impacting people.
Speaker:Another thing you can do is look at community investment.
Speaker:Here's the goal.
Speaker:Invest in local community projects or initiatives that align with your values.
Speaker:So with that money that you're earning, with that, with that, what feels
Speaker:like a grind, the purpose can be to improve the lives of those around you.
Speaker:And create a positive impact in your community.
Speaker:And look at the book of Hebrews chapter 10, verse 24.
Speaker:It says this, and let us consider how we may spur one another
Speaker:on toward love and good deeds.
Speaker:See, that's one of the benefits of using that money.
Speaker:If you're working for the Lord and you're being blessed in that, use that money to
Speaker:improve the lives of those around you.
Speaker:Create that positive impact in your community.
Speaker:Here's another thing you can consider, and that's what I'll call Family Legacy.
Speaker:The goal here is to establish a, A Family Legacy fund to pass on financial
Speaker:blessings to future generations.
Speaker:That's what I'm talking about when I talk about building that retirement,
Speaker:building that emergency fund with the purpose of ensuring that your family's
Speaker:financial resources are used to continue God's work and bless others.
Speaker:I've talked about this on this show, many of my clients who have inherited money.
Speaker:They've taken that money and they've done things with it to
Speaker:continue to, to bless God's work.
Speaker:I know I have clients that have set up scholarship funds.
Speaker:They set up Bible studies in somebody's name.
Speaker:Look what the book of Proverbs 1322 says.
Speaker:It says A good person leaves an inheritance for their children's
Speaker:children, but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.
Speaker:And I don't wanna forget to mention church support.
Speaker:Hey, the goal could be to increase your tithe.
Speaker:I talked about that a couple times, and increase that offering to your
Speaker:local church by a certain percentage.
Speaker:Each year, maybe you say, look, I'm gonna work that extra hour.
Speaker:I'm gonna work this extra five hours this week.
Speaker:It's not about the grind.
Speaker:It's because I'm gonna be able to increase what I'm giving to my church with the
Speaker:purpose of supporting the ministry.
Speaker:And their outreach efforts of your local church.
Speaker:It doesn't have to be those who are spreading the gospel all over the world.
Speaker:It can be those who are spreading the gospel in your town, in your community,
Speaker:in your state, in your county, whatever.
Speaker:Doesn't matter to me.
Speaker:Helping spread the gospel and serve the community.
Speaker:This is right from the Bible as well.
Speaker:It says in the book of Malachi, chapter three, verse 10, it says, bring the
Speaker:whole tithe into the storehouse.
Speaker:That there may be food in this house.
Speaker:Test me in this, says the Lord Almighty, and I love this part of it and think
Speaker:about how strong this is and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven
Speaker:and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.
Speaker:And see that's the key.
Speaker:Now you might be, at this point you're saying, Ralph,
Speaker:I, I hear what you're saying.
Speaker:I, I appreciate all you're saying, but.
Speaker:Man, I, I'm, I'm had a hard time getting past this and see.
Speaker:Courtney, one of the biggest obstacles defining purpose in your paycheck are
Speaker:these limiting beliefs about money.
Speaker:So many people I've worked with, and Courtney, when I read your message,
Speaker:this is exactly what you're facing.
Speaker:Who's limiting beliefs about money and see these beliefs can
Speaker:hold you back from achieving financial freedom and fulfillment.
Speaker:And I just want to talk about a few of those and how to overcome them.
Speaker:There's a belief that money is the root of all evil.
Speaker:I've heard this so many times.
Speaker:I hear it all the time, and if you listen to my show, you know, I go against this.
Speaker:And the truth is this money itself is not evil.
Speaker:It's just not.
Speaker:It's the love of money.
Speaker:That can lead to trouble.
Speaker:But see, money's a tool and it can be used for good or evil.
Speaker:We talked about several things today that you can use your money
Speaker:to do good, but yes, it can be evil.
Speaker:It just depends on how you handle it.
Speaker:So reframe your perspective on money.
Speaker:See it as a resources that God has entrusted to you to
Speaker:do good and bring him glory.
Speaker:That's the things I talked about.
Speaker:That's that increasing your community, giving given to missionaries.
Speaker:Do good with that tool.
Speaker:That is money.
Speaker:Here's another belief that, man, I just wanna shatter today.
Speaker:I hear this constantly and it drives me crazy when people say this,
Speaker:it says, I'm not good with money.
Speaker:Yeah, you might not be good, but here's a truth.
Speaker:Bomb financial management is a learned skill.
Speaker:It's something you can learn and see.
Speaker:With the right education and practice, and hear me on this, anyone can
Speaker:become proficient in handling money.
Speaker:Commit to learning about financial management.
Speaker:Read books, attend workshops.
Speaker:Listen to this podcast, listen to other podcasts, and seek guidance
Speaker:from financial advisors because you can overcome this limiting belief.
Speaker:Here's another one, and I try to break this down on the show all the time, and
Speaker:it says this, I can't afford to give.
Speaker:And man, lemme just tell you, giving is not just about the amount.
Speaker:It's, it's so much bigger than that.
Speaker:It's about your heart.
Speaker:It's what's in your heart.
Speaker:See?
Speaker:'cause God doesn't look at the amount you.
Speaker:You're not gonna out give God.
Speaker:See, God looks at the intention behind your giving, not the size of the gift.
Speaker:He could care less how big that present is.
Speaker:It's the intention behind it.
Speaker:So maybe you don't have the financial resource.
Speaker:I've talked about this on the show many times.
Speaker:Start with small acts of generosity.
Speaker:Because here is the truth.
Speaker:Even a little thing can make a huge difference and it will
Speaker:help you develop that habit of giving and see once you start.
Speaker:I remember as a kid, I thought Christmas was great, not about the gifts, and
Speaker:I was kind of a weird guy, I guess.
Speaker:But for me, Christmas is all about what I was giving.
Speaker:'cause I like to see the look on people's faces.
Speaker:I, I like to see the enjoyment.
Speaker:Now, I, I guess many times, some of the stuff my sister bought, my mom, she kind
Speaker:of do, Hey, what in the world was that?
Speaker:But my heart was in the right place.
Speaker:Here's another limiting belief.
Speaker:I hear this one all the time.
Speaker:I'll never be able to save enough.
Speaker:The truth is this saving small, consistent amounts add up over time.
Speaker:Like I said, it can be a dollar a day, it can be $5 a week.
Speaker:So even if it seems like you can't save much, every little bit helps, it
Speaker:helps you build that emergency fund.
Speaker:And here's my action plan for that.
Speaker:Create a savings plan and stick to it.
Speaker:Even like I said, if it's a dollar a day, avoid that coffee on the way to work or
Speaker:make a decision to not eat out one day a week or whatever that looks like for you.
Speaker:Create that savings plan and stick to it, build that momentum, and build that habit.
Speaker:One of the great ways to do that is automate your savings.
Speaker:To make it easier to stay consistent and Courtney overcome these
Speaker:limiting beliefs is essential.
Speaker:You gotta get past these to transforming your paycheck into purpose.
Speaker:Remember this, as I've said a couple times now, your worth is not
Speaker:defined by your financial situation.
Speaker:But by your identity as a child of God, trust in his provision and take action
Speaker:to align your finances with your faith.
Speaker:Now if you found value in today's show, I encourage you
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Speaker:Because our newsletter is packed with practical tips, it's packed with
Speaker:inspiring stories and exclusive content.
Speaker:You're not gonna get on this show that will help you.
Speaker:On your journey to financial freedom and spiritual growth.
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Speaker:Well now let's get to our reflection questions because we covered a lot
Speaker:today, but this was such a vital topic to talk about because this.
Speaker:Email.
Speaker:This letter that I got from Courtney, man, it, it hit with me and I said,
Speaker:there are so many people that are feeling the same way, Courtney.
Speaker:So I'm gonna encourage you right now, if you haven't shared the show,
Speaker:share the show with somebody else.
Speaker:But let's get to our reflection questions.
Speaker:And here's the first one.
Speaker:What are your unique skills and talents?
Speaker:See, start there.
Speaker:And how can you make to use them to make a positive impact and serve others?
Speaker:Second one.
Speaker:In what specific ways can you align your current work with your
Speaker:deeply held faith and values?
Speaker:That's what we talked about.
Speaker:How can you practice generous giving and, and make a more significant
Speaker:impact on the lives of others?
Speaker:And finally, study those limiting beliefs.
Speaker:What limiting beliefs about money do you hold and how can
Speaker:you begin to overcome them?
Speaker:So let's talk about our key takeaways before we close out in prayer today.
Speaker:Here's my key takeaways.
Speaker:Identify your unique skills and talents and use them to serve others.
Speaker:Align your work with your Christian values, striving
Speaker:for excellence and integrity.
Speaker:As we talked about, steward your finances with purpose by making conscious spending
Speaker:decisions and practice generous giving.
Speaker:Set those God honoring financial goals and follow biblical principles for
Speaker:managing your finances responsibly.
Speaker:And last but not least, focus on overcoming those limiting beliefs
Speaker:about money by reframing your perspective and taking action.
Speaker:Let's close with a prayer.
Speaker:Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for the goodness and grace in our lives.
Speaker:Thank you for abiding us with resources that we need to live, abundant lives
Speaker:and make a difference in the world.
Speaker:Lord, we ask for your wisdom and guidance as we navigate our financial journeys.
Speaker:Help us to overcome any shame or limiting beliefs we have about money,
Speaker:and give us the courage to take action and align our finances with your will.
Speaker:Help us to be good stewards of the resources you've entrusted to us.
Speaker:Guide us as we set God honoring financial goals.
Speaker:And make conscious spending decisions.
Speaker:Lord, we ask that you bless our efforts to find purpose in our paychecks.
Speaker:Help us to use our unique skills and talents to serve others
Speaker:and bring glory to your name.
Speaker:In Jesus' name we pray this.
Speaker:Amen.
Speaker:Now, tomorrow we're discussing a sensitive topic, and this
Speaker:one is going to be a rough one.
Speaker:And this is this.
Speaker:Somebody asked me this question, how do I save my mom from my dad's $200,000
Speaker:Iris nightmare, and should I even try?
Speaker:Now, lemme just tell you right now, I've been preparing for that episode
Speaker:and it's gonna be a powerful one.
Speaker:So make sure you join me again tomorrow and today.
Speaker:I just wanna say thank you for your time and support in the show.
Speaker:I went a little longer today, but there was a lot that I wanted to cover.
Speaker:Remember this.
Speaker:My passion is to help you achieve financial success.
Speaker:I wanna see you live out your dreams and I wanna see you grow in your faith.
Speaker:And I know together we can master your finances from a Christian perspective.
Speaker:So as I always end the show, stay financially savvy out there
Speaker:and God bless you abundantly.