Welcome to the Elevated edit podcast.

I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey.

And the goal of this podcast is to discuss all things personal development, wellness, and the art of editing your life in an elevated way.

From mastering morning routines to mastering your mindset.

We're going to sift through the noise and empower you to take elevated action.

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Welcome to the elevated edit podcast.

I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey.

And I just wanted to stop and say how thankful I am for everyone who is listening, everyone who listens every week, everyone who has left a review, who sends me messages about the podcast.

It genuinely does mean so much.

I was talking to another podcaster, and he's the one that brought it up, and I couldn't remember the exact stats, so I went back to.

I googled it, and 90% of podcasts don't make it past the third episode, and we are at episode eleven.

So it's going very well.

I love that y'all are getting so much out of the podcast.

It just.

It makes me feel really good to connect with y'all on that level and on that subject.

Today we're going to talk about something that is a little bit vulnerable for me.

But I felt like it was just like, so on point with where I am in this season and what my life currently looks like.

And today we're going to talk about embracing fear and moving forward despite it.

I think for me, for the longest time, I had all these great ideas and all of these things that I wanted to do.

And I would tell myself, oh, well, when I have time, or oh, well, when I look like this, or oh, well, when we get a new house, or when we get a.

When I get a new car, whatever it was.

And what I have realized this year is that all of those were excuses because I was scared.

Scared for multiple reasons, which we're going to talk about today.

And then we're also going to talk about something that I have been doing to kind of not completely make that fear go away, but definitely eliminate it a little bit.

So, to start, I have, like I said, I've done a lot of work on myself this year.

A lot of personal development, all of the things.

And one thing I have realized about myself, and I think a lot of you will be able to resonate with this, is I am not good at looking stupid or looking like I don't know what I'm talking about.

I'm not one that's going to just do it anyway.

And pretend like I know what I'm doing.

Like, I actually want to do things the right way.

And that usually, like, puts a wallet for me and I go, well, I'm just not even going to try that because I don't know 100% how to do it and I don't want to look stupid.

I'm just not even going to try it.

And I've realized that about myself.

I don't think I had the awareness to understand that that was the issue before, but I definitely see it now, and I see how I have been self sabotaging through that mindset.

So I've been trying to just here lately, like, remind myself that if I don't do it and look stupid and fail and mess up, like, I'm never going to get any better, I'm never going to improve, I'm never going to go to that next step.

I'm always going to stay right where I'm at to.

And so I've had to, it's not been easy, but I've had to just kind of, like, swallow my pride a couple times here lately and just sit in the embarrassment and the discomfort of looking like a beginner and looking like I don't know what I'm doing.

And I'm just keep reminding myself that I'm on a bigger mission and I have, honestly too much to do right now to sit around and be scared to look foolish because, and that kind of goes to my next point.

I am trying to learn better how to deal with judgment.

I think for me, that is a huge fear of putting myself out there, is like, well, what are other people going to think?

Are they going to make fun of me?

Are they going to screenshot this and send it to everybody and their mama.

And one thing I'm realizing is that who freaking cares?

Like, people are going to talk about you, or maybe they don't talk about you.

I feel like that might be a very small town problem, but people talk about you whether you're doing real, like, people are going to talk about you whether you're doing the thing that you want to do or you're doing something that somebody else expects you to do.

So, like, you might as well do the thing that you want to do, because if they're going to talk about you, you might as well be happy through it.

And so that's what I've really tried to lean into in this season of, like, trying new things and putting myself out there and allowing the possibility for people to, like, really make fun of me and be like, who does she think that she is?

And one thing that has definitely helped me with working through that fear is remembering that I don't want to take advice from people in the cheat seats.

And look, when I say cheap seats, I do not mean that is not like an income statement.

That is a mindset statement.

Like, I do not want to take advice from people who aren't going where I want to go, aren't going where they want to go, are stuck in life, are stagnant in life, are only judging other people because they're projecting their own insecurities, and they're judging other people because they want to try new things, too.

And they're too scared to get off the couch and do it.

So instead, they sit around and judge everyone else.

Oh, did I just get personal?

Oh, goodness.

I just.

I have.

I'm sitting in the discomfort right now.

And that is one thing that I'm realizing is, like, I don't care what those people think about me because I have been in rooms lately with people who are way farther ahead of me.

And not just in a financial way, but, like, mentally, they're very stable.

They've got a very wonderful home life balance, and I wouldn't even say balance.

They put their family a major priority above their finances.

And to me, that is more along the lines of where I'm wanting my life to go versus, like, make a ton of money.

Sorry, I got off on a tangent.

Where was I going with that?

Um, oh, and what I've learned from being in the room with those people is that they are not going to put you down.

Like, if you are trying and putting yourself out there, the people who are already where you want to go, they're not going to turn around and make fun of you.

Like, they're going to turn around and give you a hand up.

They're going to turn around and give you a nice word.

They're going to give you a piece of advice.

The only people that are going to make fun of you are the people that are still behind you.

Um, so if you are, like, scared of judgment, worried that people are going to talk about you, because they probably are, just think about that.

Like, do you want to take advice from people who you don't look up to?

Do you want people who you don't look up to to be the reason that you don't accomplish everything you want to accomplish?

At this point in my life, the answer is, sorry, I don't have time for that.

Dang, I'm spicy tonight.

Look, I don't want to make all of this sound like it's super easy.

One day you're just going to wake up and all of a sudden you're going to have all of these revelations.

Growth hurts and it hurts because you don't realize it's happening.

You don't realize it's happening or you think, okay, wow, I just came through a season of growth.

Then you think you're going to have a little while in between, and then all of a sudden it's like, wait, I just got out of a growth season.

Why am I in another one?

And for the longest, I think that I was fearful of putting myself out there and changing and doing things differently because I didn't trust myself to pick myself back up if things didn't go well.

Like, I would be like, okay, you know, if this and this and this happens, like, I'm really gonna be so emotionally distraught.

And here lately, I have had to put myself out there to the point of failing at a lot of things because I'm throwing so many things out at the wall and just seeing what sticks.

And that has definitely, like, kind of helped me process that a little bit, but the growth still hurts.

Like, setting in that growth is not comfortable.

I am just learning to, when I'm in it, give myself a moment of self awareness and be like, okay, you know where you're going.

You know what you need to do to get there.

This is just par for the course.

And I'm not saying it's going to make it easier, but it is going to make it simpler.

And I love, like, the difference between those two words because I think people confuse simple and easy, and they are definitely two completely different words.

So I'm trying to simplify everything.

And yeah, like I said, this, this change process, this growth process has not been comfortable, but I have been focusing on who I want to become.

And that has helped a lot to kind of, like, get through the fear and get over the overwhelm of, okay, I have a goal.

This is what I need to get to.

Instead of that, I've been trying to pull myself back and go, okay, who do I need to be to get to the point that person in this season is someone who gets up super early and gets her workout in.

And, you know, I start work.

I've been working pretty early to pretty late the last couple of weeks because I'm in a season of I've got to push a little bit, I've got to get the rocket ship out of the atmosphere.

I think there's a.

I can't remember the exact stat, but I think it takes 90% of a rocket ship's fuel just for it to take off.

Like, it has to use all of its energy at the beginning to kind of break the atmosphere, and then the rest of the time it goes off of that other 10%.

And I feel like most of us are the same way.

We're like, we have to focus on that 90%, the fuel to, like, get us out of the atmosphere.

And then once we get out of that spot, we can coast a little bit.

I think I just mixed those analogies up.

I'm so sorry.

I was going one direction, and then I took a fork in the road and we went a completely different direction.

But what I was saying was that has helped me overcome some of my overwhelm because I'm like, okay, I need to focus on the little, teeny, tiny steps that I need to take every day to push myself through, and then I can coast on the rest of it.

Because, yeah, in the past, I would, like, get so focused on the goal.

Like, I'd be like, okay, I want to make x amount of money, and I would focus on the goal.

Focus on the goal.

And it was so big that it would freak me out.

So I've been kind of pulling back and focusing on the, like, micro habits along the way, and it's really helped.

I've also been doing a lot of pivoting.

I've always been good at that.

But I feel like here lately, I'm really leaning into it because, like I said, I am throwing so many things out the wall and seeing what sticks.

A lot of things haven't stuck, and a lot of them I have just been like, okay, that's not going to work.

But other things, I'm like, wait a minute.

It didn't work the way I thought, but what if we tweaked it and it worked this way or that way?

And so that is another thing that I've really been just kind of, like, leaning into and letting myself sit in and enjoy.

I have also.

This last one is the hardest for me.

It shouldn't be as hard as it's been, but it has been.

I have been asking other people for help.

That is definitely a foreign concept to me, and it has not been fun.

I'm not enjoying it.

I don't enjoy asking for help, but I have been asking for help, and it has not been all that bad.

Like, really not bad at all.

And maybe I've just been asking, like, the right people but when I ask for something, it's usually just met with a yes.

Like, in my mind, I automatically go to the worst case scenario.

Of course, I feel like we all do that.

I have been trying here lately to.

When I think of a worst case scenario, I also think of the best case scenario.

And that's kind of balanced my mindset a little bit.

Like, I'm like, okay, the worst case scenario definitely could happen, but the best case scenario could also happen, and that's pretty amazing, too.

So anyway, back to me asking for help, and it's not even on major crazy stuff, but just like, if I have a question about something and I know somebody else knows the answer to it, I just ask them.

Instead of me spending an hour researching, trying to figure it out, I'll ask a simple favor.

If I know somebody's running to do something, I'm like, hey, can you run this errand for me?

People say yes.

And before I just, I don't know, like, I would put all this stuff on my plate because I didn't want to, quote unquote, bother people because I was scared that they were going to judge me or scared of this or scared of that.

And so that's kind of like, why it goes.

All goes back to the fear.

And overcoming fear is so complex because there are literally so many layers.

Like, I could talk about this for days because there's so many different parts to that.

But that is the thing that I have been doing lately to kind of try and overcome all of this is thinking of that best case scenario.

What does that look like?

And for me, at least since I've started this, I notice that when I think about the best case scenario, I start to assume that's what's going to happen.

And subliminally I start making choices that lead me towards the best case scenario versus the worst case.

And it's like, so crazy because you don't even realize that you're doing it.

But before, you know, I would be like, okay, the worst case scenario is going to happen.

This tree is going to fall on me.

And so I would, like, be fearful, and I'd be looking around scared, waiting for somebody to come in with a chainsaw and cut a tree down.

That might sound like an extreme scenario, but, like, that would be, like a worst case scenario place that my mind would go to now.

I'm like, wow, what if I walk over there and that tree has an apple on it?

You know, like the, the initial tree is still there.

Wow, I really hope that you'll understand this example, because, oh, goodness.

Oh, I am so tired.

Working on this course has got my brain, like, literally mush.

So I do apologize, because this one's gonna be.

This one's gonna be one of those scattered episodes.

But when the whole point of my example was that when I focus on the positive, positive happens, it was it.

I really did.

I had a great ending.

I just kind of lost myself in the middle, as you can hear.

And if you're watching on YouTube, you can see, because I sound terrible.

I'm exhausted all the things.

But I have poured.

Oh, my gosh, I've poured so much into this course.

The modules are great.

The action lists are great.

I created a private podcast so you can listen to your modules on the go.

I've created all kinds of wonderful, amazing resources that go in the course.

I should probably be charging a little bit more for the course than I am, but like I.

I said in last week's episode, I want to make sure that what I put out is 100% before I guess, quote unquote, charge my worth.

Like, this one's kind of like my test run.

And so I do.

I want to see how it works before, you know, we go to the big course.

And I'm also going to give my podcast listeners a discount.

So on top of all of the other value that you'll have in the course, you can use the code elevate for 20% off.

That is.

Code elevate for 20% off at checkout.

Like I said, I have poured all of my, literally all of my time and energy the last several weeks into this course.

It is one of the proudest things that I have ever done.

It is wonderful.

I love it.

It's so valuable.

I wish I had had it two or three years ago when I.

I've been, you know, studying branding and marketing for about nine years, but I really dove in about three years ago, and I wish I'd had this course because it is not, like, super technical.

I feel like I've taken so many courses, and it's like, oh, this is how you do this.

This is how you make that.

Like, this course gets very deep.

Like, it really makes you think about things.

And that is where I feel like a lot of the growth comes from and a lot of the implementation and the whole course, I am, like, breaking it down for you and telling you how to execute it instead of overwhelming you.

And it's so good.

I can't wait for it to hear y'all's feedback after y'all purchase it, but okay friends, I have got to go get some sleep.

I've got to go rest my voice because I need to be back in the game 100% tomorrow because I got a busy day.

So thank y'all so much for joining me in this episode and I will see you in the next one.

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