If you don't have a reason that is way bigger

Your friend that passed two weeks before coming to Australia, everything

that you're building, are you building that in somewhat of like a legacy because of

That's one of the people that I can't let down. I started seeing

A lot of people are going to listen to what Nelson's saying and being like, he's

going a bit f***ing hard, he needs to chill out a little bit. That's because you felt

so strongly about not being adequate and there's two courses

It's if you're currently in a job that you hate, do something

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Welcome to the Better Bloke Podcast. I'm Matty. I'm Rob. And

we're just a pair of average blokes on a mission to try and be a

We're going to speak about all things highs and lows of what it feels like to be a bloke,

plus speak to some legends along the way about what it takes to be a better bloke. Let's

get stuck in. Welcome

back to the Better Bloke Podcast, where

I don't trust myself to introduce this person for

One of my best mates of all time. And one

of the guys that's been through probably one of the biggest, I don't know if

it's rags to riches or personal transformation. You came

over from Venezuela as a waiter

boy, like you weren't speaking English, you were all

alone in this country, and you had to hustle

and find your way through, find yourself. And I've been there and

seen this transformation in you. And it's probably one of the

most remarkable things that I've seen. Welcome,

I'm great. Thanks for having me, boys. Nelson here, founder and

CEO of Vibes Creative, the number one video

podcast agency in Australia and soon the world.

And we should probably also lean on that. You are the man that's

been behind the creative of the Better Bloke project. So a lot of

the philosophies that we like, you share, right?

So you jumped on board and you're supporting the project. And as we always say, support

the blokes that support us. So get around Vibes Creative and check

And I've said it plenty of times if they can make

me look semi okay, behind a camera and behind a microphone. They're

fucking wizards. Yeah. So and not only just with the production side

of it, like Nelson as a bloke, has helped us so much with

sort of progression and do this, do this, do this. And he

has no issues with ruling with a stick. So

it's good. He beats us into line. But you know, guys need that. So Yeah.

My pleasure. I've been a part of Blocks of Ice for about two

years or something when I found out through Mari. And

I love what that group stands out for. And

when I found out that you guys were launching a charity, The Better

Block Project, and you told me everything about it, I was like, fuck

yeah. I want to be the person behind your

podcast, along with my lead team, of course. And

it's been awesome, boys. We're just getting started. You guys will dominate as

well, this industry. And this specific, as

well, subject and topic, which is men's

health, men's improvement, men's mindset,

is definitely something that needs to be touched on. And

for sure, we need more male role

models, that's what I keep coming back to. So I'm

Yeah. And that's what we're here for. Not to talk about us, to talk about

you. You encapsulate so

many of those things that we talk about on this thing all the time. Discipline,

motivation, goal setting, mindset, all of that stuff.

But you didn't always have it. It's been a

super I don't know, a rough work in progress. There's

been the ups and the downs and it took a long time for

you to even kind of find your feet. So let's take

it back to when you first came to the country, sort of give us

an overview of why you came and how you were feeling.

And I guess, I don't know if helplessness is

the right word, but there was definitely a lot of anxieties in that.

Absolutely. In terms of background, I come from

Venezuela, their world country. Some

people might not even know anything about it, but it's in

South America. So I speak Spanish, obviously.

And back home, just growing up, I

always tell people I was extremely lucky

to have the best circumstances that

a man can have, which is Not much,

but a loving family and a great male

role model, which is my dad. My dad, to me,

is a superhuman. It's literally

my hero. That man should have been dead, quite literally.

Many times he has gone through some of

the worst things that someone can go through in

his lifetime. divorce, you

know, relationships broken, business issues,

sickness, illness, accidents. So

I got to see him go through most

of these things and the ones that I wasn't pressing on, I

got to find out the stories about it, right? And the lessons that

came from it. So I had a really good example

or male figure in my life. So. Because

of that, I feel I'm the luckiest man alive. We

didn't have much, but certainly we didn't come

from the slums, but we were far from being a

rich family or anything like that. We were just

a standard family with a great mom, great,

caring, loving mom that was always present and

always making sure that I wasn't derailing or

hanging out with the wrong kids, all these things. And

I had a great male role model. So honestly,

you don't need anything else if you

have those ingredients. And just giving a

little bit of context in terms

of growing up, as I said, we didn't have

much. But we had what we needed. We had food. We had a ceiling.

And my dad was an extremely hardworking man.

So at some point, we did have you know, a few things

that I guess contribute to having

more fun in life, like a boat and a beach house

and all these things, right? And eventually, because of the situation

of the country with a dictatorship and a regime going

on, essentially things just went to

shit. And I got to experience all of that because that regime took

place since I was very young. So I

got to basically see the entire journey of

my parents just being a middle class, working hard

family that had everything they needed to. Oh, now we can't afford

this. We can't do that. There's scarcity in the country. The

country just became one of the most dangerous countries in the world as

well. Keep napping was a common thing

and still is. And that's just an example

of what it was. But just touching a

little bit more, I guess, on the part of what

made me who I am today, going through school,

I The thing that I

keep coming back to my experience going through school is

that I was a complete average

kid. And I hated that.

I hated the idea of being average. And I only

found out that I hated that by being one

of them, by just realizing that I

was never one of the kids that didn't

pass maths or any other subjects in school.

Even those kids got attention. Even those kids

were known because they sucked at something really bad

enough for everyone to know, oh yeah, he's not good at that. He's terrible.

Oh, he didn't pass or whatever it is. And then you have the opposite

to that, which was, The kids that were doing exceptionally

well, right? The kids that were acing everything,

and they were known for that. They were known by, oh, that

guy's a savage, or physics, or chemistry, or

whatever it was. I was a

part of the bunch, the guys in between, the guys that

you know nothing about. There's nothing special about

you. I wasn't even great at any

particular subject. I would just get always average

grades, average everything. And hence, that

started putting fire on me. I just realized I

didn't want it to be average anymore. I was tired of being average. I

had no attention from girls. I

was never invited to the stuff or

the parties of the cool kids, of the really cool

ones, right? I was never picked when you,

you know, it's funny, like even looking back now at, you

know, when you have those sports events and you're just playing

for fun, but kids are ruthless. You're,

you're having to pick a team and it's usually a cool kid, one

of the guys that is the leader and he's getting to pick the team. I

was always one of the last ones to be picked with

the fat kids, with the fat kids. Because I

wasn't the tallest one to play basketball or volleyball or

anything like that. I wasn't an extremely talented

soccer player. I couldn't run fast. I couldn't lift

heavy. I was nothing. So they will look at everyone. And

I remember always being one of the last ones to be picked. And I

remember just the feeling of that and

looking around me and just looking at the fat dudes next

to me. That's what was left. I hated that

feeling. And just after school, I

realized I started getting into gym because I found out that I

had a lot of deficiencies and certain things

I couldn't change. Like I couldn't change my height, for example. I've

never been the tallest, right? I couldn't change that. But

I realized I could change the way I look

to a certain extent, how fit I get. And

luckily, I had a mentor that started teaching me the

fundamentals in a gym, just started becoming obsessed with it.

And guess what? People started paying attention. People started looking

at me differently. Girls started asking questions. Suddenly,

I was seen. So to me, the

foundations started with getting fit. And

I remember a specific conversation where a

girl came in and she said, oh, the

guys that have six pack, those are the best. And

I remember there was a group of us there and everyone

was looking at each other after she left like, And

then one guy pulls his chair up and he's like, oh

yeah, I don't have a six pack. And then everyone started looking at each other and

we all started putting our chairs up. And I'm like, oh, so I need to get a six

pack. That planted the seed for me in

terms of how important fitness is in the eyes of

women and other men. Because guess what? She brought it. So

she deemed it to be important. But all of them were

checking if everyone had a six pack. Like

a self-reflection thing. Exactly. Everyone deemed it

important. So I started there. I started just getting feed, getting

my six pack, all this stuff. And then after school,

I told myself, I don't want to be average anymore. And

once I got into university, I'm a fully qualified dentist. So

I went to study dentistry. And I

just made a commitment to myself that this time I'll be one of

the greats of this specific thing of dentistry. Fast

forward to that, I became number six out of 200 people in

my year. The only men, by the way, in there, so

everyone else was out of the top ten places,

nine of them were women. I was the only man and number six. And

I realized by being at the top how much I

loved it. how much I loved it. You have no idea

how much I enjoyed my university time

and journey. I was one of the best. Everyone knew me by,

especially some of the subjects that were extremely difficult.

I just became obsessed with them because I knew if I can be at the

top here, I will be known. People will want

my help. I will be valuable. I'll be useful in

my specific year because guess what? By me being at the top, All

my mates and all the chicks and all the stuff, they all wanted my

help. They knew I understood the

things that to most people was Chinese. You

know, anatomy and all this physiology and all these complex

subjects when it came to dentistry. So I

just made that commitment to be great at that one thing, finish university,

and because of the circumstances of Venezuela, I

had to look for other options outside the country. I did work as a

dentist in a dental clinic, earning like $80 a

month. So for working an entire month, I would

get the equivalent to $80 USD, which obviously

leaves you with not many options to whatever, just live life.

I was 23, right? And changing your car or even traveling, that's

unthinkable, right? And at some point, my mom was

the one that, when I was looking at potential options overseas, they

told me, we will help you get wherever you want to go. And once

you step a foot in there, you're on your own to make

sure that you either stay or figure a bigger life out,

essentially. So my mom came with the idea of Australia.

It just seemed to have all the things that I was into, surfing,

cool weather, whatever. And it just felt like

an opportunity to start from zero, which is why university

gave me an opportunity to start from scratch. Nobody knows me.

Nobody expects anything of me. It's

an opportunity for me to become whoever I want to become. Australia

felt like that. It's so far removed from where

I come from. Nobody knows anyone from there. Our

only image of Australia is kangaroos, koalas,

and beautiful people. That's kind of like the perception of people

back home of Australia. Oh, yeah, and I think they have surfing, for

sure, and beaches, right? So we don't know anything else.

So you've obviously just said that going to university was like a,

that's a fresh start. All that stemmed from being that

last kid to be picked for sport. You've obviously

made yourself physically, you're a specimen now because you learned how to do gym

because, you know, the girl was like, Oh, we need six packs. And you

put such an onus on your physical attributes. You

as a physical specimen is not just you though. Like you've

obviously got some pretty serious mind games that you've

played with yourself to be able to get to that point where you've gone, this

is my fresh start. I'm going to be the best. What led

you to, before you even got to Australia, seeing university and

That feeling of just always being the

last one or Nothing

is special about you. You're not

Do you think you always had that in you then and you just coasted and you were part of

the middle group in like, just say, junior school then? And that's

Looking back to it, I think it just

started building that fire in me, along with

my dad. My dad was, he has

very high standards. I remember coming back from school

or even university at that point, and I'll

tell him, oh dad, I got this really good grade. Every so

often in school, when I had a really good grade, I'll

come and show it off and expecting kind of like, oh, well done or

anything like that. And he will always say, oh, why didn't you get A? If

it was a B plus, A minus, whatever you

guys call it, we have on the scale of

20 back home. So I will bring an 18, which is pretty damn close.

And he'll be like, oh, why didn't you get 20? And even when

I got the 20s, I remember coming in and being

so certain that he's going to be stoked or

whatever. He was very unimpressed. That's what you were supposed to get. Yeah, exactly. It's

almost like, yeah, that's your job. You should be getting 20s

That's rough, because even I see that from a perspective now with Hemi, with

my little one. And I'm his biggest

critic, so I will critique him and I will do that. But then I will also

give him his flowers when it's needed. But now I'm thinking, I'm

not making a little monster like our mate Nelson here. Nelson's

A lot of people are going to listen to what Nelson's saying and being like, he's

going a bit fucking hard. He needs to chill out a little bit. So

that's because you felt so strongly about not being adequate. And

there's two courses of action for that. It's A, turn

into a savage and do what Nelson did. Or B, would be

the self-acceptance movement. You could, I

know you have a lot to say about this. accepting being

average, accepting this is who you are and finding enjoyment in that

life? What's your views on making sure

Well, I decided that for me, that

was fire. That was motivation. I

wasn't going to give up into when my dad told

me, oh, why was that at 20? Just go and cry. Probably

the first times when I was very young, it hurt. Probably the

first times, maybe I did cry. I don't know, when I was a

kid or whatever. But it just, now

looking back to it, It was one of the greatest things he

could have done. He set up a high standard for me and

he was getting me prepared for how difficult life

is as a man. That's the reality. As a man, life

is going to punch you in the fucking face every

single day. Nobody cares about you. It doesn't matter if you're

really tall, strong, beautiful, whatever

it is, nobody cares. Exactly.

I was just looking and I was like, done, done, done. But

yeah, nobody cares about you. You have to be useful. You have

to be valuable in society. So it

just put the fire to me that in order to be someone

great, one of the greats at whatever I choose to do, I

have to have extremely high standards. And

even when we do, we do podcasts every day long and

We do an exceptional job to it. It doesn't matter if

a shoot goes perfect. If we didn't make a

single mistake and the client is stoked and we

got results, everything went our way. I'm still thinking,

what didn't go exactly perfect? What's

the next level of perfection

that we could achieve within our craft? How do we get? And

by the way, you never actually do anything perfect. So

I'm always questioning, even if everything went our way, what

could have been done better? How do we get closer to

that perfection outcome that we're looking within

this specific thing? So going

back to your question, the way I took it was, I

need to be tough. I need to have a high standard regardless

of what I choose to do. It doesn't matter where I'm doing. I have a high standard

with everything, with my friends, with the way I treat my

time, with meetings, with podcasting, with

my content, with the way I show up, with my trainings, with

everything. So I think it just gave me that understanding that

as a man, that's my way to actually be

Fast forward to when you landed in Australia. You're

in this different country. You didn't have money. You barely

spoke the English language. I think it was kind

of crucial that your dad did put all those skills inside

of you to be able to deal with it, stand on your own two feet. And

if you hadn't taken that more savage route, perhaps you

wouldn't be able to deal with it. You sort of spoke

about those years earlier, like going through university, becoming who

you are, like strong, finding yourself, getting to the top. But

when I met you, that wasn't you. You'd sort of

been thrown back into Australia and you were more lost

than you sounded like you were at uni. what were you

dealing with that you were trying to figure out?

How can I stand out? How can I achieve? How

can I succeed in Australia? Because it took years for you to kind

Two weeks before coming

to Australia and starting this crazy journey and

completely changing all the trajectory of my life.

My path was I'm going to be a dentist in

this new country. I'm going to build whatever dental

clinics, all this stuff. I was so into

just doing what I was told I needed to do, because also everyone

told me that if you become a dentist or

a doctor or a lawyer or an engineer, you make a

lot of money. And that's something that I didn't grow up with. And

I knew as well that a lot of the issues

or conversations we had at home it

was always around money. So to me, since I was a

very little kid, I was always trying to get more money.

And just before coming to

Australia, two weeks before, I lost my best friend on

a car accident out of nowhere. I had a conversation with

him the night before. We were planning certain things that

we're supposed to do before I left the country, all

these things. And next thing is I'm waking up

at six. My dad is waking me up. And I

knew instantly the way he was waking me up. He sat down on

next to me and he was being very gentle.

But I knew there was something in there and in the energy that

something really bad happened. And

he just told me about it. I could

not believe it. I could not process it in the moment because I

just spoke to him a few hours. That was the last thing I did before

going to bed was speaking to him. We had plans, all this stuff. Next

thing, he's gone. After

that, I started to check my phone, had

all these messages, all these calls from friends. And

yeah, the word spread out about the thing. That was

my last two weeks in the country. I'm

still getting everything ready to start my life from scratch

on a different side of the planet. And I have to somehow

now face this monster. Not

only that, seeing his family, completely

broken. And I didn't

speak to anyone for three days. I was just silent. I was just trying

to understand what just happened and just trying to process it.

And I started seeing that, OK,

this person that was same

age, 23, he is fit, he's

an athlete, he has great friends, he has a

beautiful, supporting, loving family, his whole

life ahead, dentist as well, extremely

smart, just doing good, suddenly

he's gone. And that

doesn't justify what maybe he

could have done differently to still be here, right? But

he's gone. So we're dust. I realized, OK, I'm dust. And

that could be me. So if that could be me, and

that happens tomorrow, I just started painting almost

this movie of me, of if that was

me, and I'm in front of God or whoever

created this beautiful planet, and

he's telling me, hey, Welcome. This

is your life. Watch it back." And I

started imagining, cool, what if I do accomplish all

the things I've been told, that I needed to be a dentist. Maybe

I have dental clinics all over the world. I'm known as

the number one dentist, all this stuff. And

I was like, fuck, that sucks. I don't want that.

So I started questioning the things that I've been told and

where my life was heading to. So

I arrived to Australia. Again, there's not even time to process that.

I just have to tackle this new challenge.

And I remember as soon as I stepped foot in Australia and just started walking

in Brisbane City, looking around

everything, how nobody was scared to

be kidnapped, stolen. I could walk with my phone

on the hand. Nobody was going to do anything. Nobody knew

me. It just felt right.

I fell in love with it. You found a level of comfort that you hadn't previously experienced.

And yeah, just looking around, looking at the people, nobody judged

me for being South American, whatever. I

couldn't speak English, and people didn't care, most people at least. So

it just felt like this is the right

opportunity to build the next level Nelson.

And yeah, so I just started working slowly, no

money, I barely have any money. My parents gave me

some money and a close family member as well

for me to get started and just... sort

myself out. And the first thing that I realized is if

I want to be a part of this country, I need to speak

the language. I need to speak English. And I need to do it at a high level. Because

then I started looking at my competition. Guess what? You're always competing.

You're always competing with someone. It doesn't matter if it's in business,

you're competing with other businesses in the same industry. In

friendships, you're competing to have the best friends and

to be the best friend of your friend. In relationships,

you're all competing for the same girl. Everyone wants the

hottest chick. And even within your

teams, everyone's competing to be the best team player, the

best team member. You're always competing. And I realized, just like

I want this citizenship, this residence here,

there's a million immigrants that want that. And

I realized that a lot of them were not taking it seriously. A

lot of them were not learning the language. A lot of them were just distracted with

the shiny objects of being in a new country. And

I just saw an opportunity to tackle.

That's what I did. I just started learning English like crazy. I put myself in

positions where I didn't need to speak to any

Spanish speaker as well just to force myself. I started

reading all my books in English, watching everything in English,

and having as many jobs as possible just to have real life experience

of people talking to me in the language and

just moving slowly as well. Because of what happened

as well with my friend, then I realized that I didn't want

to do dentistry. And after doing some

introspection and just thinking for myself, which is what I realized a

lot of people don't do these days. I came to the conclusion

that I just wanted to tell stories through videos. And I just started,

initially started as, I just want to document my journey here

in Australia to show my family what it's like in here and

what I'm doing and all this stuff. And one

thing led to another until people just started asking, hey, how

much you charge for video? That blew my mind. The first time

someone asked me that, I was like, You're telling me someone

is going to pay me to do this thing that

I love so much that I'm doing for free

and that I'm so obsessed that I go late to bed

just watching YouTube tutorials to learn how to use

a camera. You're telling me someone is willing to pay me for that. So

yeah, getting that first client, getting that first win, it

just pulled gave me

the proof that I needed that I could make money

off the things that I love. Just kept

doing it, doing it, doing it, hammering at it. That's how I

actually met Maddie. Maddie and I are only friends because of

me pursuing this crazy thing. Everyone told me I was crazy when

I started telling everyone that I'm not going to be a dentist anymore.

I'm going to be a videographer, a filmmaker. I'm going

to make videos. Everyone told me I was insane. There

wasn't a single person that came to me and said, dude,

That is a fucking great idea. Get after it. No

one, my family, that was another thing to explain. Friends

were just laughing. Some friends, because

your friends shouldn't, if you have friends that are just laughing at

your shit generally and not, there's certain things

that are, is, you know, sarcasm and just having a

laugh at things, but generally laughing because they

don't believe in you, you should be changing groups straight away.

To put that into context, just for those listening that might not actually understand

how it works, even though you're a qualified dentist in Venezuela, what's

the process like? You can't come to Australia and just go, I'm a dentist, bang,

straight into a dentistry, because that's how it doesn't work like that if

anyone's sort of coming from a different country. So what options did you have? that

were there for you to sort of start doing when you came

Great question. And by the way, looking back,

I remember I was so pissed. Why the fuck do they make this so

hard for me to be a dentist here? It's not fair. Put

six years of my life to become a dentist. I have real life

works experience, all this stuff. I have all these accolades,

titles, all these things. Everything was worthless

in this country. And that's gonna fuck with you. That fucked with

me initially. But now looking back, I was like, fuck, that was the greatest

thing ever because it made me have to

do all the things. It made me have to go look for a job as

I remember we were discussing it and it's not like you have to do a full

six years again, but you still had to go and do a couple of years of

study or whatever it was. And that made you question

way harder, is this what I want to do? Because I've

got to put more work into this thing. I don't want to put more work into

what I don't want to do. And that was probably like a little thing

that helped make the decision to go, no, I will

It was a blessing in disguise. They put so

much friction for me to be a dentist here that I was like, fuck

it. I have to think, I have to do all the things. I

started getting jobs in hospitality. I have done almost everything you

can think of from being a barista to being a waiter

to making bagels. Is that where the hat came from, the barista? The hat came

actually from Maddie. Come from Maddie? Yeah, that's a good story right

You look like a barista when you wear the hat. Like you just suit the mold. I

I will be the best barista you have ever met. But yeah, essentially

just went through all these difficult, hard

jobs that gave me a lot of time to think. And guess what? I was always the

person less paid in the team as well, because I was the immigrant, so

everyone was taking advantage. And because I was the hardest fucking worker, I

would show up Every single day, it didn't matter. I would tell my

managers, I was, man, I was an exceptional worker. That's why I'm

very hard on my team these days. Because also, it

doesn't matter what position you have within a company or within a

business or whatever job position

you have, you should be trying to excel

and have a high standard with yourself. whether you're the cleaner, the

waiter, the barista, or the business owner. You should have

a high standard for how you do things. You should be the hottest worker

in the room. You should try to be great at whatever you

are currently doing. And it doesn't matter if it's for you or for

someone else. I was being the best worker that I could be. Man, I've

never, never called in sick to my job. Not

a single time. I never lied to not go to work. I

never, ever, showed up and

gave my worst. I always tried to

do my best. And yes, sometimes wasn't my 100% energy

or whatever it is, but I was always really just trying

to put a mask and do great because that's

what they were expecting from me at that specific position.

And it put the fire on me. I remember making

bagels. And I was doing that at a market for

a year and a half. I showed up every single Saturday to

that market that was 12 hours straight for work for

18 bucks an hour when everyone else around me was getting paid around 25 and I

knew it. Waking up from 4 a.m.

to 4 p.m. and then going to be a

fucking waiter at a restaurant and making drinks and stuff. And

I remember making those bagels for people that were wearing Rolexes, people

that were... Just look, you could tell this guy knows something that

most of these people don't. and just put

in the fire on me, how the fuck do I get out of here? I

remember having so much fear to stay

on that bagel shit for longer than I

needed. And I remember when I clocked the first year, I'm like, fuck,

how many more years do I need to do here? What do I need to do

to get out of here? I remember coming back home, being so obsessed

to making better videos, to learning how people were charging for this, to

learning how to get clients, how to get my work

to be known, all these things, because I wouldn't stand another fucking

With that, so did you reach out to anyone or were you

that set that you're like, I need to do this on my own? Or because you

are very, I guess what you would say is like the hyper

masculine with how competitive you are. you would come across

as the type that most people would say, oh, Nelson, he's

not going to reach out to ask for help. Did you reach out and ask for help to

be able to find, like, intel from what people were charging or

The first thing is that within the group that I had, I

was the crazy one. I was the guy that was telling everyone, hey, I'm going

to be a multimillionaire. Hey, I'm going to build this incredible business.

I even had any idea what kind of business I was going to build. I remember It

just became, and also I realized all of them were so distracted with,

oh, I'm hanging out with these chicks. We're going to this party, this. And

I was the guy that always was saying, no, I'm not going. I'm watching YouTube tutorials.

I'm learning how to make better videos, going to bed early, trying

to still go to the gym, all this stuff, work every

day I possibly could. I was making like 80 hours of hospitality

every single week. I just had

no time for fucking around. And I

didn't have anyone here that could give

me an indication of what I needed to do.

So I didn't have the access. And then I tried a couple times, people

that I found out, OK, once I decided, OK, I want to pursue this

video thing, I reached out to a few people. Hey, dude, if

you ever need anything, by the way, one of those was Guillaume. currently

one of my best friends that Matty knows, and he has a video agency. Back

then, he was so ahead of me. And I remember when I came across his work,

I DMed him, hey, if you ever need a free hand, whatever, I

can assist you with whatever you need. He never got back to me about that. So

I tried a few times, but no one got back to me. And it just... The

way I saw it was a reminder to nobody gives a

fuck. Nobody gives a fuck. I have to sort my

shit out. There's no hero that is coming to

save me. I have to become my own hero. That's why I was repeating

myself. And because I didn't have access to

any mentors, I just started using these

people that I respected and admired in some way, shape,

or form. Eminem, Conor McGregor. There's

certain individuals that I realized I

have something to learn from him. I just started to listen. A lot

of it was podcasting, which led me to eventually start my own

podcast. But I was just looking for mentors where

I can get an information where I could get it. I didn't have it next to

me. That happened way further down the track. I

just continued to build and do my own thing. But back

then I just had to get the information however I could

It got to the stage where you were doing the YouTube thing

and then one of our friends, Darren, knew this other friend

and then he knew you and me and Darren were going on a trip and

they're like, there's this Venezuelan dude, like.

do you want him to go on the trip? We're like, he looks good. So

whether or not he can speak real good English or not, we'll, we'll take him down.

So we took him down and that's like when we kicked off

our thing and I've been doing film for a little while then. And

I remember, man, we've had years and years of like going

back and forth with questions and whatnot. You did

ask me a lot of questions and then it kind of flipped. I'm asking

you so much shit. Um, Seeing

the drive you've had is

undeniable, I think it's clear by this stage, but your

struggle for a couple years was in the how do I get it? You

didn't know how. He'd put in a million hours work, he'd go as hard as

humanly possible, he would be doing self-help, he'd

be working for free, he'd be getting experience, he'd be networking, but

it wasn't clicking. How was it dealing

with that and sort of delaying

the gratification knowing that it's gonna happen sometime, you just need

that part of the journey, it's really

tough. And that's why most people never make it out. There

is a stage where you need to have You

need to have the courage and just be extremely bold

to pursue the thing that you really

love, that you're passionate, or a specific opportunity that

you may be seeing. But because of your background,

because of your lack of proof, because of maybe

the circle, the environment that you have around, Everything is

pushing against you. Everyone's telling you, this is crazy.

You can't do this thing. You're not meant to do this thing. You have

all these stories. I was telling myself the story

of I come from a terrible country. I'm not meant to achieve any

of this. I come from a standard family. I'm not meant

to be rich, whatever. So you have

so much bullshit that you have to overcome within

your mind and around you. And you just

have this little voice telling you, dude, just

keep going. Just keep going. Keep trying. A

little bit longer. A little bit longer. So I was trying to

just listen to that voice and convince myself. To

an extent, you're delusional. I had to be delusional. I

had to believe that any of this was possible. But

no one is believing you. And you even question yourself

because you don't have any proof that you are who you say you are.

The only option is either quitting or getting

to work. So I was just trying to show up every single day.

And every day, some days were fucking hard.

Some days I was questioning everything. Some days I was

just thinking, yeah, I should just go back to hospitality, whatever

it is. And as you said, I was working

extremely hard, but that wasn't the answer. Because

if you're working extremely hard on the wrong thing, you

will never get what you want, which is what took me a long

time to realize that I was, yes, I was one of the hardest workers

in the room, but I was working on the wrong things. And

eventually, it became clear that I

needed to acquire more skills than the ones that I had. Because

I became a master at my craft, But that craft

could not get anywhere else if I didn't acquire the

next skills to help me, in this case, build

a business or make more money, which for me were

sales and marketing. I was just lacking those two tools. And

until you become aware of that, there's no way for you

to improve. You just don't know what you don't know. And as soon as

I got those tools, because I already had the work

ethic, I was obsessed with getting the

know-how, and I was willing to invest in

myself as well to get mentors and someone that could tell me

what I just didn't know I didn't know, then the way

we've been progressing after those first six

and a half years of not getting any incredible results,

now it's skyrocketing. But nobody sees

that. People just look at the stuff you have now. Oh yeah, he has

a Rolex now. Oh yeah, he has a studio, he has a team, all this stuff. But

nobody sees the six and a half years that

had to put off just blind belief, plain, raw,

It's what you got. It's what they look at, not how you got it.

100%. We've said that so many times with no one sees the amount of

times you had to fall down and pick yourself up or no

one was there to pick you up. You did that all yourself. So

like everything you've built here, it's a credit to what you've done.

And whilst we're on that, you said that you had to

learn that sales and marketing side yourself. Those

that are listening with businesses don't need to learn that themselves because we've got you Nels. So

reach out if you need anything done because you're a fucking wizard

at what you've done and like, a credit to what you do with us anyway. It's

I'm going back to drive because that's the main thing for you. I love the

drive. Something I've struggled with personally is the

reason why. Why am I doing this? Like, I

work pretty hard, but sometimes I lose

track of why I'm doing it. What do I want? You

have a bit of a bigger why in the sense of

where you came from and what you want to achieve in that. How important is

having a clear vision of why and what you're trying

to achieve to allow you to go to that level of

If you don't have something and

a reason that is way bigger than

you to be used as fuel,

you will not make it. I have seen so many

people around me that started strongly pursuing a

project, that they were working super hard. And

at some point, they either quit, they gave

up, they lose the incentive, the motivation.

Your mission has to be way bigger. And the reason why

you do things have to be way bigger than yourself. I

have so many people that currently are relying on me that

there is no option for me to not show up. There is no option for

me to just quit because me quitting is

quitting on a bunch of people around

me, my family, my team. This

thing that I built is now providing way past

me, provides for so many people, our clients,

and everyone around me. And my

goal is to not only provide

for my family all the opportunities that we never had

and that seem impossible, but it's to show everyone

all around the world, and especially people from terrible countries,

that whatever you want, you can have if

you're willing to pay the price. I'm at a point now that

I truly believe I could get anything I want. I

can bend reality to my willing. I'm a world

bender. Anything I want, I can get. I

just need to be willing to pay the price and I cannot have

every single thing all at the same time. So

I have to be very diligent with getting clear on

which is the thing that I want. What do I want to be known for?

And as a result of that, what am I

trying to do? Why am I doing things? And I'm just trying to

show people that came from the same journey as me that you don't have

to be the tallest, you don't have to be the fittest, you don't have to

come from a wealthy family. You can build any

life that you want. You can bring it into reality. These

crazy dreams, you can literally bring and

craft your reality as you please. So I'm just trying

to show people what's possible as a

Beautiful sentiment and probably a good place to round this one

Before we round that off, there is one thing I want to go back to. So

your friend that passed two

weeks before coming to Australia, before kicking off this, I

guess, rise of the phoenix of what you've done right now. So

do you use him as motivation from that chat that

you guys had? Obviously you guys made plans together and all this

sort of stuff because he knew you were coming over. Everything

that you're building, are you building that in somewhat of like a legacy because

of what is the plan to do? So like, it's sort of like you're a,

That's one of the people that I can't let down. I

had the opportunity to keep playing the game, this thing that

we call life. And I

know in some way he might be watching, and

I don't want to be the guy that quit, and he was

rooting for me. And then he

goes like, oh, fuck, dude. You could have keep going

on. No, you had the opportunity. Dude, I can't play. You

know, you're still in the game. That's kind of how I

see it. And I keep a photo of him to remind myself that

life is fleeting. I have it with me all the time on my wallet.

And dude, I have my motivation

is goes way beyond me. I don't I

really don't care about myself. I already I already

accomplished almost everything I ever wanted. I

want more now and at a bigger scale. I'm

going to make $100 million and all these things, but I

don't need that. I don't need it anymore. I

wanted to work for myself. I got that. I

wanted to be fit. Got myself

fit. I wanted to be well respected

within my circle. I got that. I wanted to

have great options when it comes to partners. Found

a great partner. Again, the list goes

on and on and on. I got my dream car that I dreamt

as a kid. It's an old Prado, but as a kid, that was

my dream car. And it felt completely out of reach. And

I always remember watching the rich kids with their Prados and all these

things. And I'm like, fuck, I'll never be able to get a Prado. I

got a Prado. You know, I wanted a Rolex for

the longest time ever because it's the symbol of status and

all these things. And I just love watches in general. I

got that, like, there's nothing that... I'm

doing anymore just for myself. To me, there's

no better accomplishment than just being useful

and just being valuable to the people around me. We have two

team members overseas that, because of

the job and the opportunities that we have provided for them, they

got to fulfill their dreams, which were getting houses, two

of them already. That, to me, is such a massive flex, bigger

than any Rolex. I, nobody could give

me my visa. I had to find a fucking way around it

through the system, through everything to get my visa

and earn my place here. And that cost me not only thousands

of dollars, but it cost me time, tears, effort.

I had to pay a big price to do that. I didn't see my family for

eight years. Just recently finally got to see them

after eight years. And now I have the opportunity to

give the visa to someone that is working with me. That's

a flex to me. That's a big flex that now I

can do it for someone else when no one could do it for me. I'm

providing work for guys that were like me, just

obsessed with making videos and shit, and nobody could provide a

job for me. I had to create all this stuff. Now I get

to provide these opportunities for the ones that are ready for the

takeover and want to be a part of a mission that is way bigger than

themselves. So everything I

do these days ultimately is not for me

anymore. Yes, there's stuff I want. It's cool to

get certain things and celebrate yourself with

material stuff or hitting certain milestones. But ultimately,

you realize, especially after I just came from seeing my family

in Canada for whatever, after

not seeing them for eight years. And that was just my

reminder that, yeah, this is exactly what you do. The conversations that

I have with my dad this time around and with my

mom and just getting to spoil them, pay

for everything, took them to stay in hotels, all this

shit, hence why you should be

trying to get money at some point in your life. But Yeah,

it just made me realize that you need to have a

motivation that is bigger than you. And if you're just chasing something

that is for you or just chasing numbers

in a bank account and whatever it is, eventually you're

probably going to fail or eventually you will start questioning

all the meaning of life. Life is not about you. Life

is about everyone else around you and

what you leave behind. I find that the people

that don't

care more about the people around them and about bettering

themselves for the greater good are doing

a fucking disservice to the planet. You

shouldn't be here. You got the opportunity of a lifetime. You're alive.

You get to breathe. You have a body. Holy shit. And you

just love being lazy. You just love complaining. You

just love blaming everyone around you. You

are a slave to bad habits, like

vaping, like not working out. You're just

fat. You don't even care about how you look. Dude, come

on. You have this incredible opportunity of

crafting this reality however you

want it to be. You can get anything. I'm the living proof of it. You can

literally, I'm telling you, the secret is you can bend reality. You

can get anything you want. But everything should

be for the greater good, because ultimately, you're just dust. I

don't want this reality. I want to bring everything into reality. Where should I

start? If you're currently in a job that you hate, you

don't like anything about your boss, you're always complaining about it, do something

about it. Go get skills that will get you paid, whatever

that is, for whatever you want to do. There's a million skills that

you could get that transfer across many different areas

of life and business opportunities in itself. Get a

mentor. Don't think that you know everything. You

need to get many different mentors across your life. I have

mentors for how to get in shape, how to play chess,

how to fight, how to do business, marketing, sales, and

so on. I'm constantly investing in myself to learn the things that I don't know,

I don't know, and then learn how to pass those skills. So

all the people, I'm constantly now passing the things that I'm learning to

my team and friends and everyone around me. And

have a hard look at your environment, the people around you.

Because if your friend sucks, If all your friends are

losers, you will be the next loser. That's how

it is. You want to be a killer? Surround yourself with

a bunch of killers. I'm very careful with my circle these

days. I don't speak to anyone that I don't want to speak to.

I don't spend time with people I don't want to spend time with. I don't talk

to people that are in the Matrix. I

don't need any of that. I'm working towards being... My

circle is going to be the greatest of the greatest. Yeah,

That's good. I want to, before we wrap up, I just want to say

a quote that I read, which you've just inspired me to sort of follow on.

So we should all count our blessings, but

we should definitely make our count, our blessings count. So,

and that's everything that Nelson has just sort of gone on about. is you

haven't taken anything for granted. You've worked for fucking everything. And

like, you are crushing it. And you should be very, very

proud of yourself. Fuck anyone else being proud of you. But personally, I

Always been proud of you. And obviously the rant

is, I guess it encapsulates why we

have you around. You're such a role model when it comes to motivation

and discipline and accountability, huge on accountability. So

I think just like soaking all that in is good for the

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