Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach, mental

health advocate. And I'm very happy to be spending some time

with you today. I hope you're doing well. And if you're not

doing well, I hope I can bring you lightness and love

empowerment, whatever needs

to Yeah, make you feel

a little more. Okay. I know sometimes we feel really dark

and there's no cheering up, no empowerment, no light and

goodness that we want to allow anywhere close to us, we just

need someone to sit with us in silence. And to kind of Yeah,

weigh that out later.

It is a really weird notion in our society that it is not okay

to be depressed, it is not okay to be sad at times, unless it is

really catastrophic news. And I think that is wrong. We need to

be able to feel all our emotions. And to sit with them

is very painful at times. But it is necessary to sometimes

process it and getting through it instead of distracting

yourself right away.

Today, I want to talk about something a little different

though, I want to talk about your resistance, your little

anxieties and fears that you might have when it comes to

certain hobbies activities.

What I've experienced is that I grew up with a French mom and

grandmother and they're both excellent chefs and bakers.

And I was always very intimate, intimidated by their

by their work. They're nearly approached it as a job and as

very perfectionistic closely to say

they learned how to

speak the language of love through gifting amazing food to

people and baking excellent cakes. And

yeah, I started out very young. When when I realized, Oh, I'm

not good at cooking. I don't like baking.

I like it. But yeah, I don't do it too often, because I'm not

good at it anyways.

And it is these beliefs, these conclusions that we sometimes

make about ourselves way back in our life, in our youth in our

childhood. And we still cling to them today. And we're not even

realizing it, we have resistance to

I don't know, it is so different that I can't even start to to

count them all down. But it might be very simple, small

things that you have huge resistance to that another

person might never be able to understand and and for you to

explain it would be hard to because it is so ingrained in

your identity.

But today I want to talk about how important it is to sometimes

revisit these resistances and those things that we Yeah, want

to avoid at all cost and push out of our lives because

sometimes that's where the key lies. And what do I mean by that

sometimes when we face those resistances when we are brave

enough to revisit the pain, the little bit of discomfort and

anxiety. We have a breakthrough experience and that can

translate or transmit into other areas in life too. We begin to

heal and an area that we couple of weeks back thought we could

never heal in ourselves and now we gain new confidence and it is

an incredible breakthrough that you can experience when you

Choose to face some of your resistances. Now going back to

my little story here, I decided to bake today.

And for me baking is a thing that I was Yeah, always avoiding

always not wanting to do, because I thought I was not good

enough. And I realize how silly it is only because I have

grown up with two French ladies that are excellent chefs, I

shouldn't belittle myself so much, I should just try it out

again. And maybe I'm a pretty kick ass chef as well, on my own

terms. So I did some baking, and I just decided to have fun with

myself and enjoy myself. And it was really

a great experience. I burned my cake a little bit at the end.

But who cares, it still smells delicious. And I'm waiting for

my boyfriend to come home to try it. And I know he will give me

honest feedback.

The biggest kick I had for lunch now is to cut a piece for my

grandma and to carry it over to her house.

And her reaction was like, Well, that's nice, but I'm not going

to try it now I have to eat lunch first. And then I'll give

you my feedback. And there was my anxiety again, now as I Gosh,

shit, she's gonna judge me, she's gonna say something that

is going to trigger me. And then for the next 10 years, I'm not

gonna bake again. But that was just my little devil insecure

part talking. And I know that today I'm more resilient to her

harsh feedback. And what I've noticed, as well as sometimes,

she doesn't give me honest feedback, because she's a little

jealous. She's 89 years old, and I'm trying new things. And she's

trying her old things and succeeding, like extremely good.

But now when I come and try something new, even though she

likes it, she would not admit that I did an excellent job. And

this is something that I have to cut through, I have to cut

through wanting that approval from my grandmother, I have to

cut through my insecurities and keep trying, getting better, and

not putting myself in that victim position anymore.

So I want to challenge you this week, I wanna make you think

about this a little bit. Think about what are the things that

you are holding back from where do you belittle yourself? Where

do you look down on yourself? What is it that you're trying to

avoid at all cost? What hobby is it that you? Yeah, once were so

passionately engaged, and then something happened and you

dropped it and you never want anything to do with it anymore?

How can you make peace with it? I think and, and facing it

again. And sometimes it doesn't mean that you have to go back to

that sport that you once did, but to make peace with it. And

to know that, yeah, you are very capable. You had your shitty

experiences. You made the conclusions about yourself, but

revisit these conclusions and know that if she were shitty at

math, when you were six years old, you might be a brilliant

mathematician.

I don't know how to say that in English, but I know you know

what I mean. Nowadays, you are in a different environment, you

have a different approach to learning. Your body is

different, your brain is different. Give yourself a

chance for God's sakes. When it comes to things that you think

you're not going to be good at. Try them anyways. And the girls

feeling that

just wanting to fail wanting to receive rejection or wanting to

you know, consciously make a mistake sometimes that is so

important and you can learn so much about yourself and gain new

confidence.

All right, that was it for today. Short and sweet. I would

love to hear your feedback. I would love to hear your thoughts

and maybe you even want to share with me what it is for you. That

you are resisting so much. Don't be shy because here I am.

I'm sharing my little story about baking and you might think

it's super silly but yeah, that's just my little thing that

I'm trying to conquer.

All right, take really good care of yourself. If you are in need

of a coaching session, you know who to reach out to a few one.

Request an episode topic, never hold back. And, yeah, that is it

for today and sending my love out to you. And I'll be out

there very soon.