Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience, I mailster. Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today. I hope you're doing well,

I hope you are in a good place. And if you're not, I hope that

by the end of the episode, you feel a little better about

yourself able to reflect and just relax and recharge your

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mean the world to me, this is how other people can find the

podcast, and how you can show appreciation. And it's a huge

motivation for me. Today I want to talk about triggers. I feel

that word is so heavily used out there at the moment. We feel

triggered. We use it as an excuse, we use it to explain

ourselves. And yes, sometimes we really feel triggered by people.

Today though, I want to talk about feeling triggered by the

same sex. So if you identify as a woman, and you see pictures of

women online, or ladies being very expressive and sensual and

happy with themselves in the real world, do you feel

triggered. And same goes for guys, if you are living in your

masculine energy, and you see guys lifting heavy weights,

having a body that you always dreamt of, and reaching the

goals that you always dreamt of reaching. And you just feel like

holy shit, I want to puke in a corner. Those people are so

awful, they're so shallow, and your ego comes up with all kinds

of negativity about that person. This is a sign that you feel

triggered, you have a strong emotional reaction. And you have

thoughts that are negative and derogative. like making the

other person small, and you feeling superior. Because you

have values you don't need to sell yourself online like they

do you know all that kind of jazz. And why do we feel

triggered by other people, they push our buttons, they remind us

of pain that we successfully run away from when we don't see

those people but when we see those people we are being

reminded maybe of a past version of yourself a past life or maybe

a present life that you're not 100% okay with. So in the tone

of my voice if you listen to my podcast here a little bit longer

already, you know me, you can sense already that this topic

has to do with you. And nobody out there. Not a pole dancing

girl, not a weightlifting guy. It has to do with you and how

you feel about yourself. If you are a confident person, if you

are a person who likes competition, and who feels very

secure in their skin, and you see a person who's being

successful out there. A normal and usual reaction is like holy

shit, that is cool. I feel inspired. I want to do the same.

I have the tools in my tool bag. I have my confidence. I have

myself I have my back. I will do something similar. Not the same

thing. Not copy pasting. But I'm going to get out there and feel

inspired by this person. If as mentioned at the beginning, your

thoughts are Oh my god, what is stares, I don't want to see

this, I want to delete this person.

I want to engage in my usual How do you say escape behavior like

binge eating or binge watching TV or going for a run for the

wrong reasons doing exercise just for the frustration to go

away, then you feel triggered, and you are dealing with a very

low small self esteem. So how can you feel inspired by another

person who is obviously succeeding more in life? Or

everything they do, then you are how can you even get there. And

I will tell you a very easy trick. A very simple little mind

shift that you can do. And it will make you feel better and

make you feel inspired. This little trick, I want to call it

the instant self boost Trek and tails, or however you say that

in English, that you put yourself in their shoes. And you

see that they got to be that self confident and successful in

life. being successful is very subjective as well. But they got

to experience all those things because they put hard work into

it. focus and dedication. And they sacrificed so much to get

to where they're at. Now look at yourself, look at your goals.

Look at your dreams. Are you doing the same thing? Are you

sacrificing? Are you being consistent? Do you love yourself

enough? Do you trust yourself enough to go out there and chase

your dreams and chase your goals. And very quickly, you

will see Oh, I'm in victim mentality. I'm trying to make

another person feel small, just because of my little ego not

wanting to feel challenged. So what that little switch does is

that it makes you aware of your ego of your thoughts of you

know, all that is happening inside of you, maybe even shitty

feelings and stomach ache or headache. But then you know how

to shift how to drop into your heart space. And this is such an

important switch to have with you at all times. Every day,

every hour of your life to be aware, okay, am I being ego

driven and fearful right now? Am I trusting myself Mike capacity,

and driven by love. You know, there's people out there who are

very successful in turning frustration, anger, feeling of

in ag adequacy, into success, but they are not successful. In

the long run, they're successful, a little bit like a

shooting star, and then they fade because it's not with,

they're not driven with the right intentions. A person who

is driven from the heart to truly believe in themself will

have very, very different outcomes when it comes to your

job when it comes to your hobbies, your dreams, your

relationships, everything in life. So next time you see a

sexy lady posing out there loving, you know, her

sensuality, expressing herself and you just start boiling. Just

know that this is the ignition, the high energy that you can put

into yourself to learn to express yourself in a similar

way. And for you guys out there the same thing. If you're

insecure with your body and you see people lifting weights and

being successful and they have so much money and they have the

love of their life, right standing right next to them.

See it as you turn The key in your ignition, you know that

initial route that high energy and transform it into something

productive instead of getting lost in negative thinking and

self loathing and victim mentality, starts seeing these

people as expanders, you know that trying to expand your view,

they expanding your comfort zone, they're stretching it,

instead of seeing them as a threat. And you will navigate

through life way happier. You will experience life on a deeper

level, you will connect to yourself on a deeper level. And

this is just a huge lesson that I've learned a year ago or

something maybe two years ago, and it really changed how I see

myself and made me realize how lazy I was and how, like

unconscious I was and confused about how to reach Gold's you

have to work for it. You have to invest into it. You have to

believe in yourself. You have to get to know yourself. And when

there is something triggering you, it tells me or you from now

on something about yourself something you can look at.

Question Hey, why am I feeling unsecure? Can I invest a little

bit more into myself? Can I investigate a little further and

find out what is making me feel insecure? It is very important

tool to have in your tool bag, especially in times of social

media and heavy users of stories and reels and igtv and whatnot.

Tick Tock we have as well. So I hope you receive this message. I

care so deeply about you. If you want to connect with me, message

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start a discussion with me about it, feel free to contact me. If

you have an episode request. Just shoot me a message. Thank

you so much for listening. Bye Bye, Aurora.