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You're listening to gift biz unwrapped episode 151 money is an

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exchange of energy.

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You provide a service and you give energy and money as

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an energy back Attention.

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Gifters bakers,

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crafters, and makers pursuing your dream can be fun.

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Whether you have an established business or looking to start one.

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Now you are in the right place.

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This is gift biz unwrapped,

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helping you turn your skill into a flourishing business.

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Join us for an episode,

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packed full of invaluable guidance,

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resources, and the support you need to grow your gift.

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This here is your host gift biz gal,

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Sue Mon height.

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Hey there,

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it's Sue and thank you so much for joining me today

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before we get started.

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I want to make mention of something that I don't think

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I've ever talked about before on the show.

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And that is,

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I want to direct you over to my Instagram account at

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gift biz gal.

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Each day,

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I represent a quote or some type of important nugget that

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a guest for the current week's show has brought up in

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the podcast.

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It's a business tip,

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that's come up and it's a bite-size piece of relevant information

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that will be useful for your business and possibly even right

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in time for something that you're encountering that day,

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the Instagram image has the quote.

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And then I expand upon it.

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In the post note section,

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I invite you to go over and check out that account

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for more useful information for your business.

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And now let's get onto the show today.

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I am thrilled to introduce you to Jill Fleming.

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Jill is a sought after speaker best-selling author and trusted advisor

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while living on a cattle ranch in a tiny town,

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somewhere in the middle of nowhere,

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Nebraska, Jill didn't have the luxury of calling for help when

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something didn't work.

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Instead, she learned to tap into her intuition so she could

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rapidly create solutions and get right back to business.

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That explains why she has such a keen eye for seeing

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things from a different perspective and is especially gifted at helping

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her clients uncover the next best steps to take in order

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to create their lives at their highest potential as an intuitive

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business strategist and facilitator of freedom,

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Jill guides,

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entrepreneurs, and professionals,

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through the process of clarifying their vision and creating step-by-step fulfillment

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plans. So they can live their best life starting now.

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Oh my gosh.

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I love just the action that's involved with that last sentence.

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And we are going to start now with you,

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Jill. Thank you for coming on the show.

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Oh, thank you so much for having me.

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We're going to start off in what is probably an untraditional

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way for you and you've had interviews before,

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and that is by having you describe yourself through a motivational

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candle. So if you were to tell us a color that

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really resonates with you and a quote or type of saying

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that you live by tell us what your motivational candle would

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be. Look like I say,

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my motivational candle would be purple and it's purple for wisdom.

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As I feel like in this life I gained and always

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love soaking up lots of wisdom and the quote that I

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always go back to is whether you think you can,

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or you think you can't you're right.

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And that's by Henry Ford.

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Oh my gosh.

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It's all about mindset.

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Isn't it?

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It is.

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It is amazing how people can get in their way just

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by thinking negative.

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Like it can't be me or it can't happen to me.

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It's always somebody else,

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but it could never be me.

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And if that's your thought process,

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then guess what you get to be,

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right? That's when I'm working with my clients,

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if that's what they think,

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well, you can either choose to change that and choose to

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think differently and put that as a process for yourself,

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or guess what?

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You can be negative and you can be pessimistic and the

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universe or whatever you want to call it.

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that's what you get.

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the good thing for us though,

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really about being an entrepreneur is we are in charge of

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our destiny.

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I look at myself in the mirror in the morning and

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say, you're in charge of whether you're going to be a

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success today,

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or you have things you need to change.

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It is all up to you.

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No matter what things get thrown in front of you,

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you still are the one to decide how to deal with

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them. Absolutely.

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And that's the biggest thing is I was working with a

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client recently and he was stressed out and I told him,

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you're choosing to be stressed out.

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He's like,

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no, these things are happening.

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you are choosing how to react to them.

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Right. You can't change the fact that it happened.

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The only thing you can change is how you react to

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it and then how you choose to move forward.

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So you can do that in a stressful manner or you

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can be like,

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okay, this happened,

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okay, what am I going to choose now?

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Or what do I need to do to fix this?

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Or what can I do to shift this?

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Right. I agree With you entirely.

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So I want to go back to when you were growing

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up. And the reason I want to do that,

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Jill is I think that we do have a lot of

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listeners who aren't from New York or Los Angeles or these

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big cities.

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And I think there's a tendency to think that they have

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some type of an advantage over everybody else just by sheer

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population. And I disagree with that.

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And you're a perfect example.

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So will you take us back a little bit and share

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how things were in your head Hometown?

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So back when I was growing up,

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we didn't have the power of the internet.

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of reaching more clients,

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reaching more customers,

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those kinds of things with the power of the internet.

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Now you have just as great of advantage being in New

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York city,

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as you do in my hometown,

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which is Valentine Nebraska in a small town,

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right? It was small.

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Valentine is about 2,500

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people. It's the only incorporated town in the County of cherry

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County, Nebraska and cherry County is bigger than the state of

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Rhode Island.

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So it's still three hours to drive to the nearest Walmart

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where I grew up and where my family still lives.

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That's crazy.

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It's so interesting.

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But tell us how you decided to go from there.

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college got you out of the town,

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right? But give us a little bit of that evolution.

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from a four-year college.

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right. Of you go to college,

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you get a great job,

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you get engaged,

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you have 2.5

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kids. Like I was following that process of like that societal

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programming of what we're supposed to do.

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and a half years and then got a great job working

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for a fortune 500 company in Des Moines,

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Iowa and moved there and started doing that.

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I had a guy and we got engaged and bought a

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house. And I got there at the pinnacle of what we're

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supposed to reach by like age 25.

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this is it.

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Like, I thought this was supposed to be like,

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the angels are supposed to come out and everything's supposed to

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be like,

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okay, what is this?

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I ended up calling off the engagement,

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selling the house.

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I stayed working at my corporate job a while longer,

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but at the time I was doing photography on the side.

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was still working my corporate job,

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that was what kept me saying I was absolutely miserable at

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my corporate job and continued to do more and more photography

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and teach myself more and more skills through going to workshops

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and trainings and finding all of the mentors.

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it was funny.

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I got to age 30 and I was sitting at my

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desk one day and I had the thought that if I'm

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when I'm 40,

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I'm going to want to shoot myself.

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That was a pretty heavy thought.

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really look at that of like,

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Whoa, I really need to do something different.

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So you would just built up and you'd had this feeling,

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but in side,

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you already that this just wasn't enough.

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like realization hits.

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I've got to change it.

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Yes. And that was when the fear set in of I

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was doing what I was supposed to be doing.

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Right. Of what we're told,

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we're supposed to do,

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go to college,

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get a good job.

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like one of the top companies in the country and had

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great benefits and a pretty decent pay.

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But I was just absolutely miserable.

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full-time photography.

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It was after a fund of mine who I consider him,

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my first coach,

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he kind of gave me that Swift kick in the butt

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I needed of he's like,

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why don't you do it?

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I'm scared I will fail.

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okay, so you fail then what?

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It was really interesting that nobody had ever asked me then

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what? Right.

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It's like usually fear of failure is such this big,

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scary thing that we're so scared to even look at of

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happening that we just don't even want to look at it.

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what is the absolute worst case scenario?

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So you take this leap of faith.

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You go full-time with your photography business.

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What is the absolute worst case scenario?

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okay, so you fail then what?

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Oh, there's an after.

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Oh, that's the end life will not continue to go on.

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if you fail,

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will they take away your birthday?

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well, no,

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That's cute.

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and I think that we also should define fail because you

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fail means your whole business.

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Isn't working.

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Maybe just something that you're doing as you're getting up and

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getting started and getting the first client isn't the right way

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to do it.

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So you might be failing.

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I hate to use those words,

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but at just the way you're trying to capture clients,

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it's not,

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you're failing at your whole photography business.

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Right. Well,

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and since then I have done a lot of personal development

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and leadership work.

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And I now turn failure.

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Like I don't even see anything as failure.

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It's only a failure.

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If you didn't learn something and you always learn something from

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mistakes that happen or things that happen,

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you always learn something.

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Yeah. Or it's a failure.

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If you allow that to stop you.

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But then again,

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you've been in control and you've allowed that to happen.

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Jill, I'd be curious about how you'd feel about this.

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If your friend was not a major supporter for you at

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that time,

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do you think you would've made a change?

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Absolutely. It would have just taken me longer.

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Okay. It would have happened.

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It would've just taken me longer of getting there myself.

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I consider him my first coach.

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That's why I love doing coaching now is just helping people

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get there faster and be able to see the possibilities quicker

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than on their own,

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especially from somebody who's already been there.

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So he had been in business for himself for over five

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years. So he had already walked that path and he knew

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what I then did not know.

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And that's one of the reasons I love coaching too,

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is I know now things that people that are starting their

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business or a few years in business,

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they haven't experienced yet so that it can be like,

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Hey, be prepared for this.

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And he said the same thing.

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He's like be prepared that people aren't going to understand your

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choice. And that was another thing.

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There's a book out there called the dream giver that I

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highly recommend.

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And in that book,

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it talks about leaving the land of familiar to go towards

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your dream.

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And as you leave the land of familiar,

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you run into what they call border bullies and border bullies

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are often the people that,

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you know,

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love and trust.

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And that often you feel like they have your best interest

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at heart,

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but oftentimes it's actually in their best interest to keep you

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in your land of familiar so that they can stay comfortable.

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And they don't have to try to redefine you.

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Right. I've run into a few of those myself.

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I know exactly what you're talking.

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And it was interesting that my mom was actually my biggest

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border bully.

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And every time that I would talk about leaving my corporate

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job, she's like,

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well, you get paid great.

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You have amazing benefits for her.

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That was the Holy grail.

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But for me,

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I wasn't happy.

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And it was interesting when I finally got to that point,

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I told my mom,

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I'm like,

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Hey, I'm going to quit my corporate job.

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And I'm going to take my part-time photography business full time.

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She was like,

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Oh my gosh,

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you can't do that.

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And like,

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that's a really bad decision.

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That's a bad choice.

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And I was like,

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mom, I love you.

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And I just need you to either get on board or

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be quiet.

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Can't almost fault that generation though,

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because that's what they knew.

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And that's what they always strive for that job and the

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security and the insurance and all of that was security.

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We all know that jobs aren't secure anymore.

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Right. So you can't almost fault them for not totally understanding

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the view.

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Okay. So you're gel kind of a specialist on clarity.

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And as I listened to your story,

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you got very clear that your corporate job wasn't going to

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be where you're going to be happy.

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So you branched up your photography business.

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And then at some point,

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I guess you became very clear that there was more,

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you could offer the world too,

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because of what you're doing now,

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what would you say to somebody who's listening?

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Who's like,

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what does clarity even mean?

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And does it just come and show its face to me

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one day?

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Or how does that all happen when you really have that

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confidence that you're going to make the changes?

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I would say clarity comes when you get really focused in,

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on what you'd love.

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Because so often what happens is we spend our lives doing

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what other people think is in our best interest,

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as opposed to really dialing in and really tuning into our

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inner wisdom to figure out what is it that I would

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really love?

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Like what would bring me joy?

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What would bring me happiness?

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What would I love to do?

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And how would I like my life to look like?

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And I think that that clarity comes there.

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And a lot of times the biggest barrier to clarity is

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that we don't want to disappoint others.

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There's oftentimes we know what we know what we know.

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And that's what I love working with my clients about is

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often my clients know,

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they just,

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oftentimes aren't willing to choose it.

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And so I like being what I call a wing woman.

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So I like to fly with them so that I'm flying

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with you so that you're like,

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okay, we're going to fly around this Hill.

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We're going to Dodge this thing.

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And to be able to fly with someone as they're taking

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that journey into really leaving behind that old programming and that

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old, those old mindsets,

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while they're stepping into and choosing what they really want in

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their life.

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I love the concept of the wing woman.

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That's perfect because although whoever your client is,

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who, whoever that person is,

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is front and center in the business,

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then they don't feel like they're allowed.

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Which of course is what a lot of coaches will do.

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And so you focus on the clarity comes from really,

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really focusing on what you love.

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Do you think that people can turn anything that they into

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a business?

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I would say no.

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There still is a matter of what does the market desire.

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So something that you love,

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like there has to be a marketability for a business.

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There has to be a need that you're filling or desire

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that you're filling.

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So I wouldn't say anything,

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but probably an offshoot of what you want.

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There's a possibility.

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Does that make sense?

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Yeah. So maybe let's say someone tests,

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something that they love,

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let's call it a product or whatever it is,

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and it doesn't work,

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maybe some adjustments or something.

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So they're still in the vein of what they love.

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It just presented to the market in a different way.

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Correct? Yeah.

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And so that's where I would say,

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I wouldn't say anything,

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but oftentimes that thing that you love doing,

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if you modify it or you come at it from a

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different perspective or you market it in a different way,

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or you go out to your market or the people that

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you would love to serve and ask them what they desire

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or what is something in their life that they would really

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want to help them make their life easier or something that

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they would enjoy having or those kinds of things,

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and find a market that you love to serve and then

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create products or create things that you love to do that

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serves that market.

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Perfect. Really smart.

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Okay. So you dive in to a topic that a lot

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of us cringe at,

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and that is money.

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And when we talk about business,

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obviously people go into business to make money.

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I always tell people if that's your number one goal,

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don't start.

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Cause you're going to fail.

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You've got to love what you're doing first.

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And then the money comes afterwards.

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But I know we all have the negative word that comes

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to mind is hanging up.

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And that's not really what I mean to say,

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but we all have emotions wrapped around money.

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Maybe that's the better way for me to say that.

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Talk to us a little bit about that.

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The blocks that come up and what do we do about

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this whole money topic?

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Oh yes.

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Money. And that's the interesting thing is that money is really

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just energy.

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Money is an exchange of energy.

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If you provide a service and you give energy and money

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as an energy back,

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and when you can get to that understanding is that money

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is just energy.

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It can allow to move past a lot of that programming.

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It's just getting to that point.

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And I think that you said that you had gone on

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to my website and did my sacred money archetypes assessment.

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I did.

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And I want everyone to do it.

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So why don't you mention that right now?

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And then we'll go through what you're talking about.

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If you go and sign up on my website,

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there's a free assessment you can take and it's called the

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sacred money archetypes.

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And what's great about that.

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Is it kind of dials in who you are and more

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than likely where your struggles are with money.

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And then when you know where your struggles are with money

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there's procedures and there's things that you can do to help

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overcome that,

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to be like,

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totally move past your money blocks and like really start making

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a profit in your business.

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I was Jill in the pre chat That it was such

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a fun assessment to take.

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And it's free you guys.

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So just go ahead and go and do the assessment.

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I haven't done all of my analysis.

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We talked about that too,

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cause I wanted to do it before we got on and

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recorded this interview.

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So I had had the experience.

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So I could share that with all of you guys,

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but it's a different type of quiz or assessment that you'd

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normally take just by structure and how it all comes together

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at the end,

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super fun and a little bit different,

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which makes it really interesting.

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So again,

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I encourage everybody to go over and do that.

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And that's over on your website,

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Jill, which is living beyond logic.

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So live and beyond logic.com.

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Okay. So let's get back into the money thing.

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This was a nice,

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like little path up into this major topic.

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Now let's really talk about money and fears.

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And the fact is you need to invest in your business

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too, but that's scary because that means you're giving away money

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with possibly no return,

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Right? And it's a matter of when you're starting your business

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of what are you doing to make money.

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And oftentimes when there's money blocks,

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we do all the other little things that we think we're

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supposed to do instead of make money.

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That's kind of self-defeating,

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isn't it.

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Because if you're not doing,

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I call them money,

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generating tasks.

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If you're not doing money,

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generating tasks,

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you're not going to make money.

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Which was your fear in the first place.

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Yes. I call them revenue generating tasks.

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So we're pretty close.

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And what percentage of your day are you devoting to those

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money? Generating tasks?

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Are you only devoting 10% of your day or are you

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devoting 80% of your day and to continue to focus on

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what those revenue generating tasks are that bring money into your

535
00:19:34,910 --> 00:19:36,560
business as opposed to,

536
00:19:36,650 --> 00:19:38,060
Oh, I need to,

537
00:19:38,180 --> 00:19:41,960
is writing a blog going to make you more money versus

538
00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:43,820
making five sales calls.

539
00:19:44,390 --> 00:19:47,060
Yeah, but the sales call part is way scarier for most

540
00:19:47,060 --> 00:19:48,980
people, Right?

541
00:19:48,980 --> 00:19:49,670
It's way scary.

542
00:19:49,670 --> 00:19:53,090
It's way easier to do a blog and hope somebody sees

543
00:19:53,090 --> 00:19:56,960
it and calls you as opposed to actually getting on the

544
00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:58,550
phone and calling somebody and say,

545
00:19:58,550 --> 00:19:59,990
Hey, I thought of you,

546
00:20:00,230 --> 00:20:01,940
this is something that I have.

547
00:20:02,210 --> 00:20:03,980
And I'd like you to invite you to take a look

548
00:20:03,980 --> 00:20:04,310
at it.

549
00:20:04,550 --> 00:20:06,200
Is this something you might be interested in,

550
00:20:06,710 --> 00:20:09,710
right. Of making a request or making an invitation.

551
00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:14,330
And so where are those things that you're doing?

552
00:20:14,330 --> 00:20:16,310
Where do they fall on that money?

553
00:20:16,310 --> 00:20:18,080
Generating tasks scale?

554
00:20:18,380 --> 00:20:21,140
Is it at the bottom end of the scale of absolutely

555
00:20:21,140 --> 00:20:24,140
doing blog posts and doing podcasts and doing all those things

556
00:20:24,140 --> 00:20:28,700
are great and they can generate income over a longer term.

557
00:20:28,940 --> 00:20:30,920
But usually when you're just starting a business,

558
00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:33,500
you want to really focus on those things that get money

559
00:20:33,500 --> 00:20:34,940
into your business quickly.

560
00:20:35,300 --> 00:20:37,580
So then once you have money in your business,

561
00:20:37,610 --> 00:20:39,320
then you can reinvest in your business.

562
00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:41,570
So how do you do that in your day?

563
00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:44,150
How would somebody who's listening right now?

564
00:20:44,210 --> 00:20:47,060
Figure out how to stay focused on revenue generating.

565
00:20:48,670 --> 00:20:50,350
I think it's different for everyone.

566
00:20:50,710 --> 00:20:53,860
I like to work with what comes naturally to people and

567
00:20:53,860 --> 00:20:56,290
then make some modifications of,

568
00:20:56,290 --> 00:20:57,790
okay, are you a morning person?

569
00:20:58,030 --> 00:20:59,110
Are you a night person?

570
00:20:59,350 --> 00:21:01,060
If you're a night person,

571
00:21:01,270 --> 00:21:03,970
I have some tips and tricks for people that if they're

572
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:05,500
the most productive in the evening,

573
00:21:05,830 --> 00:21:08,380
I have some tips and tricks that they can use that

574
00:21:08,380 --> 00:21:10,060
make them look like they're a morning person,

575
00:21:10,180 --> 00:21:13,090
right? Sometimes you just have to be right.

576
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:14,740
Sometimes you just have to be in,

577
00:21:14,750 --> 00:21:17,710
unfortunately as much as when we're creating our own business.

578
00:21:17,740 --> 00:21:20,890
And as entrepreneurs we work at all hours of the day,

579
00:21:21,190 --> 00:21:23,260
the main Workday is still eight to five.

580
00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:27,190
And that is when the majority of people are doing business.

581
00:21:27,190 --> 00:21:30,430
And so we still kind of have to conform to that

582
00:21:30,460 --> 00:21:31,510
at some level.

583
00:21:31,780 --> 00:21:34,600
And so depending on where your clients are,

584
00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:37,000
so if your clients are moms,

585
00:21:37,210 --> 00:21:40,660
then maybe the time of day that you're really doing calls

586
00:21:40,660 --> 00:21:44,230
or doing things is from one to two or from 10

587
00:21:44,230 --> 00:21:44,890
to noon.

588
00:21:44,980 --> 00:21:46,540
When most kids are in school,

589
00:21:46,780 --> 00:21:50,110
it's like really dialing in on who your target market is

590
00:21:50,110 --> 00:21:51,460
and your ideal client is.

591
00:21:51,670 --> 00:21:55,450
And what is their schedule when they're accessible and when are

592
00:21:55,450 --> 00:21:58,450
they accessible and how can you reach them if you're working,

593
00:21:58,450 --> 00:22:01,060
if you're consulting with corporations and companies,

594
00:22:01,060 --> 00:22:03,190
it's Monday through Friday eight to five.

595
00:22:03,490 --> 00:22:05,470
And the trick with that one is if you're wanting to

596
00:22:05,470 --> 00:22:08,650
reach like a CEO or someone at a higher level,

597
00:22:08,770 --> 00:22:11,590
you call at seven 30 before their secretary gets in.

598
00:22:11,830 --> 00:22:12,880
There's a great tip for you.

599
00:22:13,410 --> 00:22:15,210
I've actually done that in my corporate day.

600
00:22:15,210 --> 00:22:17,790
I landed one of my largest accounts by doing that.

601
00:22:18,270 --> 00:22:21,900
Absolutely. It works call before the gatekeeper shows up.

602
00:22:22,110 --> 00:22:23,640
Yeah, Absolutely.

603
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:26,550
And what would you say this little sales idea just came

604
00:22:26,550 --> 00:22:29,160
up to me if you're looking at working with people who

605
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:30,360
are corporate,

606
00:22:30,570 --> 00:22:33,530
how do you think it looks sending an email at 8:00

607
00:22:34,410 --> 00:22:36,720
PM? I don't think that in this day and age,

608
00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:39,690
that that looks does it matter anymore?

609
00:22:39,690 --> 00:22:40,830
I would say yes and no.

610
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:42,480
I would say,

611
00:22:42,570 --> 00:22:44,790
I always notice when somebody sends that,

612
00:22:45,090 --> 00:22:47,700
one of the tools I use is that you can schedule

613
00:22:47,700 --> 00:22:48,480
your emails.

614
00:22:48,510 --> 00:22:51,000
So even if I'm working at 11 or midnight,

615
00:22:51,120 --> 00:22:53,850
I send my emails so that they show up at eight

616
00:22:53,850 --> 00:22:56,520
15, I using boomerang or something like that.

617
00:22:56,910 --> 00:22:58,410
Yeah. That's one of the tools I use.

618
00:22:59,370 --> 00:23:00,540
So like sending them.

619
00:23:00,540 --> 00:23:01,530
So they show up at like eight,

620
00:23:01,530 --> 00:23:04,950
15. So it looks like I'm up and I'm working early

621
00:23:04,950 --> 00:23:05,430
in the morning,

622
00:23:05,430 --> 00:23:06,780
cause I am not a morning person,

623
00:23:07,050 --> 00:23:09,270
but that's the beauty of being an entrepreneur is I get

624
00:23:09,270 --> 00:23:10,470
to set my own schedule.

625
00:23:10,710 --> 00:23:15,030
And so I work late the night sometimes and I set

626
00:23:15,030 --> 00:23:16,620
all my emails to go out in the morning.

627
00:23:16,710 --> 00:23:18,210
And so that when I am up at,

628
00:23:18,210 --> 00:23:19,020
I am working,

629
00:23:19,140 --> 00:23:21,570
I often have responses from them and then I can respond

630
00:23:21,870 --> 00:23:23,070
to them and keep on moving.

631
00:23:23,490 --> 00:23:24,510
Oh, that's a good point.

632
00:23:24,750 --> 00:23:27,180
That goes back to who your customer is.

633
00:23:27,180 --> 00:23:30,330
And I think especially for corporate sending something so that it

634
00:23:30,330 --> 00:23:32,310
lands in the inbox early in the morning,

635
00:23:32,370 --> 00:23:34,470
it means it's also more at the top of the list

636
00:23:34,470 --> 00:23:36,270
when they enter into their inbox.

637
00:23:36,810 --> 00:23:39,660
Jill, I have a question for you about the assessment because

638
00:23:39,660 --> 00:23:42,270
you were making the comment that everyone has a little bit

639
00:23:42,270 --> 00:23:43,170
of a different approach.

640
00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,550
Everyone's comfortable and uncomfortable different things.

641
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,520
Is this somewhat what the assessment gets too?

642
00:23:49,930 --> 00:23:52,540
Yes. It looks at your different blocks and the different things

643
00:23:52,540 --> 00:23:57,070
that you are both strengths of your different types of archetypes

644
00:23:57,250 --> 00:23:58,420
and the challenges.

645
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,000
And so when you know what your strengths are and you

646
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:02,260
know, what your challenges are,

647
00:24:02,380 --> 00:24:03,760
then you can work to those.

648
00:24:04,030 --> 00:24:04,690
I always say,

649
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,090
work to your strengths and hire for your challenges if you

650
00:24:07,090 --> 00:24:09,340
can. And then if it is a challenge,

651
00:24:09,370 --> 00:24:10,750
once you know that that's a challenge,

652
00:24:10,750 --> 00:24:13,660
you can put some things in place to make those things

653
00:24:13,660 --> 00:24:15,220
easier for you got it.

654
00:24:15,370 --> 00:24:16,570
My friends and my clients,

655
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:18,730
they joke that I'm a hacker because they look at things

656
00:24:18,730 --> 00:24:19,240
and they're like,

657
00:24:19,330 --> 00:24:20,110
I can't do this.

658
00:24:20,110 --> 00:24:20,470
I'm like,

659
00:24:20,500 --> 00:24:21,100
yes, you can.

660
00:24:21,100 --> 00:24:22,240
You just debt at it.

661
00:24:24,250 --> 00:24:24,610
They're like,

662
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,050
Oh, I hate getting up in the morning.

663
00:24:26,050 --> 00:24:28,120
And I have to be up in to send these emails.

664
00:24:28,120 --> 00:24:28,540
I was like,

665
00:24:28,540 --> 00:24:29,680
well, then just use this.

666
00:24:29,690 --> 00:24:31,960
They used to use like a program like boomerang.

667
00:24:32,110 --> 00:24:33,490
And do you always your emails at night?

668
00:24:33,490 --> 00:24:34,450
And they showed that they were like,

669
00:24:34,510 --> 00:24:35,290
you can do that.

670
00:24:35,350 --> 00:24:35,650
And I'm like,

671
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,600
absolutely Wonderful.

672
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:42,130
Perfect. Could you give us maybe either a real or fictitious

673
00:24:42,130 --> 00:24:46,060
example without naming names or anything of how that all works?

674
00:24:46,150 --> 00:24:49,240
So we can put a little more depth to the conversation.

675
00:24:49,420 --> 00:24:51,880
So if someone finds out that they're a certain type,

676
00:24:52,120 --> 00:24:54,070
what do they do and what do they not do?

677
00:24:54,460 --> 00:24:56,050
Can you give us some type of example,

678
00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:00,730
An example is I worked with one client and she found

679
00:25:00,730 --> 00:25:04,720
out what her archetypes were and just knowing what her architects

680
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:06,610
were, was a big awareness for her,

681
00:25:06,610 --> 00:25:09,070
of areas that she had been struggling in.

682
00:25:09,550 --> 00:25:13,300
And then I worked with her one-on-one to kind of dive

683
00:25:13,300 --> 00:25:16,930
in deeper with what her top archetypes were.

684
00:25:17,290 --> 00:25:20,680
And then we actually did some work together to actually shift

685
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:22,420
that there's a,

686
00:25:22,510 --> 00:25:24,880
I call it kind of a money meditation that I worked

687
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:27,520
through with someone to try to get into that subconscious of

688
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,290
where a lot of that programming is.

689
00:25:29,650 --> 00:25:32,650
And then we work one-on-one of putting a plan in place

690
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:37,630
to really help them use those archetypes to their advantage.

691
00:25:37,810 --> 00:25:41,350
You had mentioned that when you took your assessment that you

692
00:25:41,350 --> 00:25:43,240
thought nurturer would have been higher,

693
00:25:44,010 --> 00:25:45,160
that was second to last.

694
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:46,400
Jill, I know.

695
00:25:48,340 --> 00:25:49,450
I don't know what it means yet.

696
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,070
That's actually kind of a good thing just from you mentioning

697
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,210
that it tells me that you've learned how to have better

698
00:25:55,210 --> 00:25:59,530
boundaries because oftentimes that's what the nurturer struggles the most with

699
00:25:59,920 --> 00:26:02,380
is that they give everything away and they have really poor

700
00:26:02,380 --> 00:26:04,270
boundaries. Okay.

701
00:26:04,300 --> 00:26:05,560
Well, I think that is important.

702
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:07,420
So I will agree with you there.

703
00:26:07,870 --> 00:26:08,650
I'm curious to know,

704
00:26:08,650 --> 00:26:09,100
like I said,

705
00:26:09,100 --> 00:26:11,050
I haven't seen now that I've taken it,

706
00:26:11,050 --> 00:26:13,240
I haven't been able to dive into what everything means,

707
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:14,680
but I'm excited to do so.

708
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,560
I think that might be some weekend analysis for me,

709
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,710
baby. I also offer a free,

710
00:26:20,740 --> 00:26:22,840
like 30 to 45 minute consultation.

711
00:26:23,170 --> 00:26:26,590
So if you get through your assessment and you still have

712
00:26:26,590 --> 00:26:29,260
questions, I'm happy to jump on the phone and talk with

713
00:26:29,260 --> 00:26:31,660
you further about it and kind of dive into that deeper

714
00:26:31,870 --> 00:26:34,090
and see how you can use that to really move your

715
00:26:34,090 --> 00:26:36,400
business forward and shift your money stories.

716
00:26:37,030 --> 00:26:38,500
Awesome. That's a huge offer,

717
00:26:38,500 --> 00:26:39,310
Jill. Thank you.

718
00:26:39,730 --> 00:26:40,240
You're welcome.

719
00:26:40,900 --> 00:26:43,770
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726
00:27:01,130 --> 00:27:05,180
Okay. So your company is called beyond logic.

727
00:27:05,510 --> 00:27:06,350
What does that mean?

728
00:27:09,170 --> 00:27:10,220
It's one of my favorite things.

729
00:27:10,250 --> 00:27:11,420
And if you look at my page,

730
00:27:11,450 --> 00:27:14,960
my logo is actually a Knight chest piece with wings on

731
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:15,920
it. Well,

732
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:17,120
because you're the wing woman,

733
00:27:17,120 --> 00:27:20,360
right? I am the wing woman and in chess,

734
00:27:20,450 --> 00:27:22,550
the Knight can only move in an L pattern,

735
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:24,500
but when you give it wings,

736
00:27:24,530 --> 00:27:26,060
it can move wherever it wants To.

737
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:28,520
Ooh. Yeah.

738
00:27:29,540 --> 00:27:30,740
So I love that.

739
00:27:30,740 --> 00:27:35,090
And so beyond logic is logic is actually just an illusion.

740
00:27:35,330 --> 00:27:36,890
And oftentimes in our society,

741
00:27:36,890 --> 00:27:39,200
there's so much weight given to logic.

742
00:27:39,410 --> 00:27:44,330
That logic is really just an accumulation of our past experiences

743
00:27:44,330 --> 00:27:46,610
and belief systems telling us what's possible.

744
00:27:46,940 --> 00:27:50,480
And so if you have a faulty logic programmed in,

745
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,150
it's often telling you what you can't do.

746
00:27:53,570 --> 00:27:55,940
And so when you go beyond logic,

747
00:27:56,090 --> 00:27:58,940
you can actually get where you want to go of like

748
00:27:58,970 --> 00:28:01,160
reprogramming what that logic is.

749
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:02,450
Does that make sense?

750
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:03,560
Yeah. I mean,

751
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:06,860
why do we always gravitate to what we think is going

752
00:28:06,860 --> 00:28:08,270
to be the worst for us?

753
00:28:08,360 --> 00:28:09,890
I guess it's the fear thing,

754
00:28:10,550 --> 00:28:12,020
instead of saying with logic,

755
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:13,730
all of this is possible.

756
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,020
All of us,

757
00:28:15,110 --> 00:28:16,010
imposter syndrome,

758
00:28:16,010 --> 00:28:17,960
whatever we want to say is internally,

759
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,540
we bring up all the reasons why it couldn't possibly be

760
00:28:20,540 --> 00:28:21,470
true for us.

761
00:28:21,830 --> 00:28:25,130
Right? And I look at that to you is like we

762
00:28:25,130 --> 00:28:26,870
have our right brain and our left brain.

763
00:28:26,870 --> 00:28:29,390
And it actually kind of tunes into our brain is our

764
00:28:29,390 --> 00:28:32,720
left brain is very logical and very analytical.

765
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,060
And our right brain is very creative.

766
00:28:35,090 --> 00:28:37,730
And I say that our right brain is more heart-centered as

767
00:28:37,730 --> 00:28:41,270
well. And oftentimes what I see happen is that our left

768
00:28:41,270 --> 00:28:42,410
brain and our right brains,

769
00:28:42,410 --> 00:28:45,590
our logic and our heart are actually supposed to be working

770
00:28:45,590 --> 00:28:47,990
as a team logic isn't bad.

771
00:28:48,260 --> 00:28:52,010
So it's actually supposed to work together of logic is like,

772
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:55,160
okay, I want to quit my job and travel the world.

773
00:28:55,550 --> 00:28:57,440
So logic comes in and goes,

774
00:28:57,470 --> 00:28:59,560
if that's what your heart says and your logic comes in,

775
00:28:59,570 --> 00:28:59,840
it's like,

776
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:00,710
we can't do that.

777
00:29:01,250 --> 00:29:02,030
Right. Right.

778
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,060
If logic was on your team,

779
00:29:05,330 --> 00:29:06,140
it would be like,

780
00:29:06,170 --> 00:29:07,580
we can't do that now,

781
00:29:07,610 --> 00:29:09,080
but how could we do That?

782
00:29:09,290 --> 00:29:10,460
How can we plan for it?

783
00:29:10,970 --> 00:29:12,020
How could we plan for it?

784
00:29:12,020 --> 00:29:13,370
How could we make that happen?

785
00:29:13,610 --> 00:29:16,040
And that's where logic kind of what I say is our

786
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,790
left brain often becomes a bully and kind of likes to

787
00:29:19,790 --> 00:29:20,840
be in control.

788
00:29:21,050 --> 00:29:23,270
And so when our heart comes up and says,

789
00:29:23,300 --> 00:29:26,480
Oh, I'd love to de our logic comes in and comes

790
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:26,810
is like,

791
00:29:26,810 --> 00:29:28,550
no, we can't do that because this,

792
00:29:28,550 --> 00:29:30,050
this, and this happened in our past.

793
00:29:30,050 --> 00:29:30,380
And like,

794
00:29:30,530 --> 00:29:33,020
we can't make that happen because of XYZ.

795
00:29:33,620 --> 00:29:36,950
Whereas if we allow our heart and our left brain and

796
00:29:36,950 --> 00:29:38,720
our right brain to be in balance,

797
00:29:38,750 --> 00:29:42,190
we can create so much more and have so more fulfillment

798
00:29:42,820 --> 00:29:44,290
That makes so much sense.

799
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:46,900
And I've never heard anyone really describe it in that way

800
00:29:46,900 --> 00:29:49,000
before. That is really good.

801
00:29:49,210 --> 00:29:53,500
So I know also you have techniques to get people to

802
00:29:53,500 --> 00:29:55,210
just get back in control.

803
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,720
Now, whether they're stressed out or they're super frustrated and you

804
00:29:58,720 --> 00:29:59,320
know how it is,

805
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,200
our thoughts build on itself and it grows bigger and bigger

806
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:03,340
and bigger and bigger,

807
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:07,480
and we are super stressed out and you have some special

808
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,580
ideas of how to deal with these situations.

809
00:30:10,260 --> 00:30:13,170
Yes. There's a couple of different things that I use.

810
00:30:13,410 --> 00:30:16,140
One of them is if you think of like thoughts being

811
00:30:16,140 --> 00:30:19,140
energy, I don't know if you've ever been around people and

812
00:30:19,140 --> 00:30:19,830
they're just,

813
00:30:20,130 --> 00:30:21,900
I call them like energy vampires.

814
00:30:21,900 --> 00:30:24,030
They kind of just suck you dry being around them.

815
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,460
And what I always say is like,

816
00:30:26,460 --> 00:30:30,090
when you're in that space to really focus on of like,

817
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,430
okay, am I 100% me?

818
00:30:32,940 --> 00:30:33,930
Because oftentimes people,

819
00:30:33,930 --> 00:30:35,790
project thoughts and ideas at you.

820
00:30:35,790 --> 00:30:38,130
And we take them on as if they're our own,

821
00:30:38,190 --> 00:30:39,600
when they're actually not.

822
00:30:39,990 --> 00:30:41,940
When it's someone else's perception,

823
00:30:42,300 --> 00:30:43,830
Somebody else's point of view,

824
00:30:43,860 --> 00:30:46,950
it's somebody else's thought process and it's actually not our own,

825
00:30:46,950 --> 00:30:48,600
but we take it on as if it's our own,

826
00:30:49,050 --> 00:30:51,900
Because we validate ourselves by reactions of others.

827
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:53,070
Right? Exactly.

828
00:30:53,190 --> 00:30:55,620
Reactions and comments of others that might not be right.

829
00:30:56,220 --> 00:30:59,790
Yes. And so one of those things is I asked myself,

830
00:30:59,820 --> 00:31:01,590
okay, am I 100% me?

831
00:31:01,770 --> 00:31:04,290
And I'm very intuitive and I've done a lot of work.

832
00:31:04,290 --> 00:31:06,450
I started out doing this with muscle testing.

833
00:31:06,780 --> 00:31:08,460
It's called applied kinesiology.

834
00:31:08,940 --> 00:31:11,100
And I started doing it with muscle testing.

835
00:31:11,100 --> 00:31:13,080
But as I've developed it for myself,

836
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,440
I naturally intuitively hear a yes or a no now.

837
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:17,970
And so when I'm sitting in,

838
00:31:17,970 --> 00:31:19,320
I'm getting ready to do something.

839
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:19,980
I always go,

840
00:31:19,980 --> 00:31:22,290
okay, am I 100% me today?

841
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:23,850
And if I get a no,

842
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:24,270
I'm like,

843
00:31:24,270 --> 00:31:26,160
okay, anything that is not me,

844
00:31:26,190 --> 00:31:27,810
not mine and an energy,

845
00:31:27,810 --> 00:31:28,680
any emotions,

846
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,870
any point of views that are not mine,

847
00:31:31,140 --> 00:31:33,570
I return them to sender with consciousness.

848
00:31:36,330 --> 00:31:38,010
So I returned that and I'm like,

849
00:31:38,010 --> 00:31:39,780
okay, now am I a hundred percent me?

850
00:31:39,780 --> 00:31:41,100
And I usually get a yes.

851
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:42,330
And then I'm like,

852
00:31:42,330 --> 00:31:43,620
okay, that now.

853
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:45,780
And usually it creates a lightness.

854
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:50,700
And another tool I use is light and heavy lightness is

855
00:31:50,730 --> 00:31:52,500
when something is true for you,

856
00:31:52,530 --> 00:31:54,840
it'll feel really light and expansive.

857
00:31:55,140 --> 00:31:58,380
And when something isn't true for you it'll feel really heavy

858
00:31:58,380 --> 00:31:59,400
and contractive.

859
00:31:59,940 --> 00:32:03,480
And so really tuning into the energy of something of when

860
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:04,590
you're thinking about doing it,

861
00:32:04,710 --> 00:32:05,790
does it light you up?

862
00:32:05,850 --> 00:32:07,260
Does it feel really expansive?

863
00:32:07,260 --> 00:32:07,680
Like, Oh,

864
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:08,730
this would be amazing.

865
00:32:09,030 --> 00:32:10,080
Or when you think about it,

866
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:10,590
is it like,

867
00:32:10,620 --> 00:32:12,120
Oh gosh,

868
00:32:12,210 --> 00:32:12,930
like, Ooh,

869
00:32:13,220 --> 00:32:15,090
it feels really heavy and contractive.

870
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:19,260
And these are tools that I've actually learned through a process

871
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,570
or a group called access consciousness.

872
00:32:21,900 --> 00:32:24,660
And these tools are really amazing to really help you tune

873
00:32:24,660 --> 00:32:25,560
into something,

874
00:32:25,620 --> 00:32:27,390
to know what's true for you and to also to be

875
00:32:27,390 --> 00:32:28,680
able to choose for you as well.

876
00:32:29,130 --> 00:32:30,840
So how is that different?

877
00:32:30,870 --> 00:32:33,960
Because I could see someone liking to use this as an

878
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:38,280
excuse. So let's go back to picking a revenue generating tasks.

879
00:32:38,310 --> 00:32:42,170
Like you need to those five sales calls today,

880
00:32:42,170 --> 00:32:46,370
instead of perfecting some artwork on your website or whatever it

881
00:32:46,370 --> 00:32:49,070
is, but those tasks are scary.

882
00:32:49,100 --> 00:32:50,480
They're out of your comfort zone.

883
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:51,920
So they would feel heavy,

884
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,530
right? Because they're not comfortable for you.

885
00:32:54,910 --> 00:32:58,210
Yeah. That is the trick of resistance.

886
00:32:58,300 --> 00:33:00,190
Oftentimes feels heavy as well.

887
00:33:00,490 --> 00:33:03,520
And so when we're resistant to do something that we know

888
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:04,660
we need to do,

889
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:06,250
like that inner wisdom says,

890
00:33:06,250 --> 00:33:08,320
Hey, if I call Mary,

891
00:33:08,380 --> 00:33:11,920
like I have an inner wisdom hit and intuitive hit that

892
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,920
Mary May want what I have.

893
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:16,750
And then we don't listen to that.

894
00:33:16,750 --> 00:33:18,580
We don't take action.

895
00:33:18,580 --> 00:33:21,160
It's like 10 of trusting your awareness,

896
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:24,220
but then you have to take action to make things happen.

897
00:33:24,220 --> 00:33:29,770
And sometimes there's a difference between heaviness and being uncomfortable,

898
00:33:29,770 --> 00:33:33,100
expanding your comfort zone and doing some of those things to

899
00:33:33,250 --> 00:33:34,840
grow your knowledge and your wisdom.

900
00:33:35,230 --> 00:33:36,250
There's a difference there.

901
00:33:36,250 --> 00:33:36,850
Does that make sense?

902
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,330
I wanted to bring it up only because I could see

903
00:33:40,330 --> 00:33:41,470
people saying,

904
00:33:41,500 --> 00:33:43,150
okay, well then I'm out.

905
00:33:43,180 --> 00:33:45,340
I get a pass because it's heavy.

906
00:33:45,940 --> 00:33:48,130
So when you're in a situation like that,

907
00:33:48,130 --> 00:33:50,350
where you're anxious or nervous or stressed,

908
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,570
then you also need to kind of analyze,

909
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:56,080
okay, is it something that's heavy or is it something where

910
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:57,580
I'm just uncomfortable?

911
00:33:57,580 --> 00:33:59,200
And in that case you just want to push through,

912
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:00,220
Right? Yeah.

913
00:34:00,220 --> 00:34:01,540
Is it something that's really heavy?

914
00:34:01,540 --> 00:34:03,610
And I don't feel like it's for me,

915
00:34:03,610 --> 00:34:04,600
I feel it in my gut.

916
00:34:04,660 --> 00:34:05,260
Right? I'm like,

917
00:34:05,290 --> 00:34:07,330
Ooh, this almost makes me feel sick.

918
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:07,990
And then,

919
00:34:07,990 --> 00:34:10,090
but resistance feels different of,

920
00:34:10,270 --> 00:34:11,920
Oh, I really don't want to do that.

921
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:15,790
But it's something that I know that if I take those

922
00:34:15,790 --> 00:34:17,110
steps and take action,

923
00:34:17,140 --> 00:34:19,000
that it will create something for me.

924
00:34:19,330 --> 00:34:20,530
Right. I would say,

925
00:34:20,530 --> 00:34:24,160
when you do something that you're uncomfortable with one time and

926
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:24,910
it works,

927
00:34:25,190 --> 00:34:26,620
then you can use that as a model.

928
00:34:26,620 --> 00:34:28,660
So if you go back and you're in a situation once

929
00:34:28,660 --> 00:34:29,950
again, where you have to push through,

930
00:34:29,950 --> 00:34:30,310
you can say,

931
00:34:30,310 --> 00:34:30,760
well, look,

932
00:34:30,790 --> 00:34:32,860
I did it last time and look what happened.

933
00:34:33,190 --> 00:34:35,350
And those start to build on themselves then too.

934
00:34:35,350 --> 00:34:36,010
I think,

935
00:34:36,370 --> 00:34:37,240
Yes, definitely.

936
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:39,910
Well, you create taking those steps,

937
00:34:39,910 --> 00:34:43,960
right? You create a pattern for yourself of breaking through those

938
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,130
things that are uncomfortable.

939
00:34:45,490 --> 00:34:47,350
And there's an example.

940
00:34:47,350 --> 00:34:48,370
I usually draw it out,

941
00:34:48,370 --> 00:34:49,660
but I'll try to paint a picture of it.

942
00:34:49,690 --> 00:34:51,790
Of, we all talk about being in a box,

943
00:34:51,790 --> 00:34:56,590
right? And our box is usually our comfort zone and our

944
00:34:56,590 --> 00:34:59,440
hopes, goals and dreams are outside of our comfort zone.

945
00:34:59,530 --> 00:35:00,880
Otherwise, if they weren't,

946
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:02,110
they would already be in the box.

947
00:35:02,500 --> 00:35:03,910
So what happens is,

948
00:35:03,910 --> 00:35:07,510
as we go to leave the box and I'll reference that

949
00:35:07,510 --> 00:35:10,360
book, the dream giver of leaving that land of familiar,

950
00:35:10,390 --> 00:35:11,830
leaving that comfort zone,

951
00:35:12,100 --> 00:35:14,830
and we start taking those steps towards our hopes,

952
00:35:14,830 --> 00:35:15,880
goals, and dreams,

953
00:35:16,150 --> 00:35:17,620
it's going to get uncomfortable.

954
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:18,850
But what happens is,

955
00:35:18,850 --> 00:35:21,280
as you get outside of your box and you're out there

956
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:22,240
and unfamiliar,

957
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:26,470
what happens is fear and excitement are the exact same emotion.

958
00:35:26,470 --> 00:35:27,820
We just label it differently.

959
00:35:28,060 --> 00:35:29,350
Your palms get sweaty.

960
00:35:29,350 --> 00:35:30,700
You can kind of short of breath.

961
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,350
And you're like,

962
00:35:32,410 --> 00:35:33,580
Oh, what am I doing?

963
00:35:33,910 --> 00:35:36,040
And so if you really look at that fear and excitement

964
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:36,970
are the exact same.

965
00:35:37,380 --> 00:35:39,150
It's just choosing what to label it.

966
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,820
So as you get out into unfamiliar,

967
00:35:42,090 --> 00:35:44,160
and if you label that emotion,

968
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,760
excitement, and you stay there and you make the choices to

969
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,130
stay there and to expand your comfort zone,

970
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,170
that comfort zone will expand.

971
00:35:52,590 --> 00:35:53,370
I love it.

972
00:35:53,700 --> 00:35:56,250
What happens is our brain is actually really lazy.

973
00:35:56,550 --> 00:35:58,770
And if it can talk you out of doing something new,

974
00:35:58,770 --> 00:36:01,920
so it doesn't have to learn something new and run back

975
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:03,000
into your comfort zone,

976
00:36:03,030 --> 00:36:04,260
then it's succeeded.

977
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:05,850
That's where we come back to mindset.

978
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,630
Then you stagnate because if you don't do anything,

979
00:36:08,630 --> 00:36:09,170
that's different.

980
00:36:09,170 --> 00:36:10,040
You're not going to grow.

981
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:12,110
Yeah. And you're not going to achieve those hopes,

982
00:36:12,110 --> 00:36:12,920
goals, and dreams,

983
00:36:13,580 --> 00:36:17,420
because as you continue to get comfortable being uncomfortable and keep

984
00:36:17,450 --> 00:36:18,770
growing that comfort zone,

985
00:36:18,950 --> 00:36:22,370
pretty soon that comfort zone is going to encompass all those

986
00:36:22,370 --> 00:36:23,030
hopes, goals,

987
00:36:23,030 --> 00:36:23,570
and dreams.

988
00:36:24,020 --> 00:36:25,730
Yup. Because your box is expanded.

989
00:36:26,030 --> 00:36:27,680
Exactly. Wonderful.

990
00:36:27,710 --> 00:36:28,580
Love that.

991
00:36:28,790 --> 00:36:29,840
That's a great example.

992
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,580
And you described it so well,

993
00:36:31,850 --> 00:36:32,750
what would you say,

994
00:36:32,750 --> 00:36:35,840
Jill? Kind of as a final piece of advice to someone

995
00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:37,700
who's listening to all of this,

996
00:36:37,790 --> 00:36:41,300
maybe as back when you were just switching out and thinking

997
00:36:41,300 --> 00:36:44,060
you were going to do photography full-time so they're right back

998
00:36:44,060 --> 00:36:45,200
there. You know,

999
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,440
so much now you've had a lot of success you've continued

1000
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,360
to grow and expand your box.

1001
00:36:50,660 --> 00:36:53,750
What words of wisdom would you have for someone who's just

1002
00:36:53,750 --> 00:36:54,440
thinking, okay,

1003
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,600
well maybe Jill has something to this.

1004
00:36:56,930 --> 00:36:58,100
What's your advice to them?

1005
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:02,630
Advice to you is be selective on who you receive advice

1006
00:37:02,630 --> 00:37:07,130
from. So when I was leaving my corporate job to go

1007
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,110
full-time with my photography business,

1008
00:37:09,290 --> 00:37:12,410
people that had a job and who worked in my office,

1009
00:37:12,620 --> 00:37:14,150
they tried to intervention me.

1010
00:37:14,240 --> 00:37:15,590
They tried to talk me out of it.

1011
00:37:15,950 --> 00:37:16,760
Oh my gosh.

1012
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,880
Five people pull me into a room and try to be

1013
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:20,960
like, what are you doing?

1014
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,100
This won't work for you.

1015
00:37:22,100 --> 00:37:24,020
I can't believe you're making this choice.

1016
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,860
And then I had friends that were entrepreneurs who had been

1017
00:37:27,860 --> 00:37:30,710
out doing business for themselves for several years.

1018
00:37:31,100 --> 00:37:31,940
And they were,

1019
00:37:32,090 --> 00:37:32,660
Oh my God,

1020
00:37:32,660 --> 00:37:33,620
it's going to be amazing.

1021
00:37:33,620 --> 00:37:34,670
You're going to go awesome.

1022
00:37:34,670 --> 00:37:36,080
It's going to be fantastic.

1023
00:37:36,110 --> 00:37:36,980
You're going to love it.

1024
00:37:37,070 --> 00:37:37,880
You're going to do great.

1025
00:37:38,330 --> 00:37:40,220
And so with that,

1026
00:37:40,250 --> 00:37:40,790
I would say,

1027
00:37:40,790 --> 00:37:44,360
be very selective on who you receive advice from,

1028
00:37:44,390 --> 00:37:46,070
as you're stepping into that,

1029
00:37:46,070 --> 00:37:47,540
and you're making that choice,

1030
00:37:47,870 --> 00:37:51,530
take advice from people who are doing it and who have

1031
00:37:51,530 --> 00:37:52,100
done it.

1032
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,920
And oftentimes those are not your friends and family.

1033
00:37:55,250 --> 00:37:57,770
And when we're thinking about making a big change or making

1034
00:37:57,770 --> 00:37:58,610
a big step,

1035
00:37:58,790 --> 00:38:01,250
we often run it by our friends and family and they

1036
00:38:01,250 --> 00:38:02,090
can't see it.

1037
00:38:02,210 --> 00:38:04,850
They can only see us for who we are in our

1038
00:38:04,850 --> 00:38:07,610
box, not for who we want to be outside of our

1039
00:38:07,610 --> 00:38:08,690
box. Right.

1040
00:38:08,690 --> 00:38:10,790
And they genuinely want to protect you too.

1041
00:38:11,060 --> 00:38:12,530
And they generally want to protect you.

1042
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:15,680
Yes. And they don't want you to stumble or have a

1043
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:17,210
possibility of failure.

1044
00:38:17,510 --> 00:38:19,880
And oftentimes it's selfish for them too,

1045
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:21,560
because when you grow,

1046
00:38:21,590 --> 00:38:24,770
oftentimes it makes them grow too and see you in a

1047
00:38:24,770 --> 00:38:25,490
different way.

1048
00:38:25,820 --> 00:38:29,780
And so when you're making those choices of be very selective

1049
00:38:29,780 --> 00:38:33,830
on who you receive feedback from and who you receive advice

1050
00:38:33,830 --> 00:38:36,670
from, especially if doing anything creative,

1051
00:38:36,970 --> 00:38:38,140
especially like photography,

1052
00:38:38,170 --> 00:38:40,720
creative fields are so subjective.

1053
00:38:41,050 --> 00:38:44,920
And I remember when I was a budding photographer,

1054
00:38:45,220 --> 00:38:47,830
I had another photographer that I looked up to that gave

1055
00:38:47,830 --> 00:38:48,490
me a really,

1056
00:38:48,490 --> 00:38:49,750
really harsh critique.

1057
00:38:50,140 --> 00:38:52,480
What I'm really grateful for is I had another friend and

1058
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:53,740
mentor come alongside me.

1059
00:38:53,740 --> 00:38:54,340
And she's like,

1060
00:38:54,580 --> 00:38:56,920
this person was critiquing your style,

1061
00:38:57,190 --> 00:38:58,720
not how you do it.

1062
00:38:59,230 --> 00:39:00,850
For me of like photography wise,

1063
00:39:00,850 --> 00:39:03,070
I love bright and vibrant photographs.

1064
00:39:03,460 --> 00:39:05,800
And the person who gave me the really harsh critique,

1065
00:39:05,830 --> 00:39:08,950
like subdued and dark and like black and white photographs.

1066
00:39:09,310 --> 00:39:11,680
And she gave me a really hard critique saying that,

1067
00:39:11,710 --> 00:39:13,120
Oh, your photos are too bright.

1068
00:39:13,510 --> 00:39:13,780
I was like,

1069
00:39:13,780 --> 00:39:15,250
well, that's my style.

1070
00:39:15,430 --> 00:39:18,010
And so that's really something to look at too,

1071
00:39:18,010 --> 00:39:19,630
is in the creative field,

1072
00:39:19,630 --> 00:39:21,100
everything is subjective.

1073
00:39:21,490 --> 00:39:23,860
So one person may not like what you create,

1074
00:39:23,890 --> 00:39:24,520
but you know what?

1075
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:26,620
It might be the thing that another person has always been

1076
00:39:26,620 --> 00:39:26,860
looking for.

1077
00:39:27,570 --> 00:39:29,520
Well, and then it becomes the thing that you're known for

1078
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:30,660
too. Yes.

1079
00:39:30,810 --> 00:39:33,690
So the people who really love that style are going to

1080
00:39:33,690 --> 00:39:36,120
love you even more because that's what you're all about.

1081
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:37,320
That's what you represent.

1082
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,860
And another piece of advice I would say is you are

1083
00:39:40,860 --> 00:39:42,390
not your ideal client.

1084
00:39:42,810 --> 00:39:43,560
Oh, good one.

1085
00:39:43,950 --> 00:39:46,980
So just because you wouldn't pay for that,

1086
00:39:46,980 --> 00:39:48,750
or you wouldn't do it that way,

1087
00:39:48,750 --> 00:39:51,810
or you wouldn't pay this much for this thing,

1088
00:39:51,900 --> 00:39:54,720
never means somebody else would not Very good.

1089
00:39:54,900 --> 00:39:56,460
Wonderful, great,

1090
00:39:56,550 --> 00:39:58,710
great comments all the way through here.

1091
00:39:58,710 --> 00:40:02,070
Jill, you have given us so much to consider change of

1092
00:40:02,070 --> 00:40:03,990
mindset, taking that assessment,

1093
00:40:04,020 --> 00:40:04,710
all of that.

1094
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,290
So now I want to give you a gift.

1095
00:40:07,410 --> 00:40:09,240
I want to invite you to dare to dream.

1096
00:40:09,570 --> 00:40:11,670
I'd like to present you with a virtual gift.

1097
00:40:11,850 --> 00:40:16,020
It's a magical box containing unlimited possibilities for your future.

1098
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:18,630
So this would be your dream or your goal.

1099
00:40:18,660 --> 00:40:21,870
That's almost unreachable that you would wish to obtain.

1100
00:40:22,110 --> 00:40:24,600
Please accept this gift and open it here in front of

1101
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:25,290
all of us.

1102
00:40:25,590 --> 00:40:26,850
What is inside your box?

1103
00:40:27,450 --> 00:40:29,280
I would say that I feel like it's unattainable,

1104
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:32,430
but it's definitely a stretch goal for me of inside my

1105
00:40:32,430 --> 00:40:35,040
box would be teaching and training on stage at my own

1106
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:36,360
event here in San Diego.

1107
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:37,320
In that event,

1108
00:40:37,320 --> 00:40:40,740
I'd be supporting women entrepreneurs to breakthrough their mindset,

1109
00:40:40,740 --> 00:40:41,160
their money,

1110
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:44,970
and their visibility blocks that are keeping them from really launching

1111
00:40:44,970 --> 00:40:47,760
and flying in their business so that they could enjoy the

1112
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,700
possibilities, the purpose and the profits that they desire.

1113
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,930
Beautiful. So you're really taking your coaching and then just upleveling

1114
00:40:54,930 --> 00:40:58,350
it into a live experience with multiple people there.

1115
00:40:58,620 --> 00:41:01,560
Yes. Who I see that as totally attainable.

1116
00:41:01,740 --> 00:41:03,540
And we're going to cheer you on for you to get

1117
00:41:03,540 --> 00:41:04,500
there. Thank you.

1118
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:05,880
That's perfect.

1119
00:41:07,170 --> 00:41:07,950
So, Jill,

1120
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:11,550
I think you have something exciting happening at the end of

1121
00:41:11,550 --> 00:41:12,030
this month.

1122
00:41:12,060 --> 00:41:14,010
This happens to be January.

1123
00:41:14,130 --> 00:41:16,440
So when our listeners hear this,

1124
00:41:16,620 --> 00:41:18,180
it's going to be up and going already.

1125
00:41:18,300 --> 00:41:21,180
What is going on At the end of February,

1126
00:41:21,180 --> 00:41:25,080
I'm actually launching my book and the title is called the

1127
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:26,070
freedom to fly.

1128
00:41:26,430 --> 00:41:29,460
And it is for visionary entrepreneurs.

1129
00:41:29,460 --> 00:41:32,550
And it's a guide to really activating your inner wisdom to

1130
00:41:32,550 --> 00:41:34,310
confidently create more possibility,

1131
00:41:34,310 --> 00:41:36,800
purpose and profit in your life and business.

1132
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:37,780
Oh my gosh.

1133
00:41:37,780 --> 00:41:39,460
That sounds fabulous.

1134
00:41:39,490 --> 00:41:41,380
I am already going to purchase one.

1135
00:41:41,380 --> 00:41:42,130
Where do we find it?

1136
00:41:42,130 --> 00:41:43,600
Yeah, it's on Amazon.

1137
00:41:43,870 --> 00:41:45,970
And if you just go to amazon.com

1138
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:48,550
and either do a search for freedom to fly,

1139
00:41:48,550 --> 00:41:49,450
or for my name,

1140
00:41:49,450 --> 00:41:50,140
Jill Fleming,

1141
00:41:50,140 --> 00:41:51,310
then you should be able to find it.

1142
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:52,120
Perfect. Perfect.

1143
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:53,170
And give biz listeners,

1144
00:41:53,170 --> 00:41:53,680
as you know,

1145
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:54,970
there'll be a show notes page,

1146
00:41:55,210 --> 00:41:58,600
all the links for Jill connected up there as well.

1147
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:00,700
The link to her brand new book.

1148
00:42:00,740 --> 00:42:01,990
So exciting.

1149
00:42:02,710 --> 00:42:04,960
Yeah. I'm really super excited to get that out there.

1150
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,710
How should our listeners reach out to you again?

1151
00:42:08,710 --> 00:42:10,930
They'll go on your website and take the assessment.

1152
00:42:10,990 --> 00:42:12,790
And your website is again,

1153
00:42:13,390 --> 00:42:15,160
Living beyond logic.com.

1154
00:42:15,460 --> 00:42:19,780
Perfect. You offered up a one-on-one free call.

1155
00:42:19,780 --> 00:42:23,950
If anyone wants to go further after they've taken that assessment.

1156
00:42:24,220 --> 00:42:26,350
Any other comments in terms of how to get in touch

1157
00:42:26,350 --> 00:42:26,860
with you?

1158
00:42:26,860 --> 00:42:29,260
Any final words for our audience here?

1159
00:42:29,830 --> 00:42:30,820
No, I don't think so.

1160
00:42:30,820 --> 00:42:32,590
I think that just going through my website,

1161
00:42:32,620 --> 00:42:34,990
my, all of my contact information is on my website.

1162
00:42:35,380 --> 00:42:39,850
I always do a complimentary consultation just to see if working

1163
00:42:39,850 --> 00:42:41,530
with someone is going to be a good fit.

1164
00:42:41,860 --> 00:42:45,040
And so if there's anyone out there that feels like I

1165
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:46,090
might be able to support them,

1166
00:42:46,090 --> 00:42:47,950
I'm always happy to have a conversation with them.

1167
00:42:48,190 --> 00:42:50,170
Well, thank you so much for taking your time out of

1168
00:42:50,170 --> 00:42:52,810
the day to share all your wisdom with us gel and

1169
00:42:52,810 --> 00:42:54,940
may your candle always burn bright.

1170
00:42:55,270 --> 00:42:55,750
Thanks so much,

1171
00:42:55,750 --> 00:42:59,080
Sue. This episode is all wrapped up,

1172
00:42:59,140 --> 00:43:00,280
but fortunately,

1173
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:02,500
your gift biz journey continues.

1174
00:43:02,650 --> 00:43:04,300
Are you eager to learn more?

1175
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:08,080
Our gift biz gal has a free download just for you.

1176
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,830
Head over to gift biz on wrapped.com/twelve

1177
00:43:11,830 --> 00:43:15,160
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1178
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:17,590
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1179
00:43:17,650 --> 00:43:18,940
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1180
00:43:18,970 --> 00:43:21,880
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1181
00:43:22,110 --> 00:43:25,120
And until next time happy business crafting.