Hello

and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful journey called

life. I know life is not always beautiful and easy and fluffy

and rainbow, and unicorns, it can get pretty rough at times.

And that is the time when we need to reach out, we need to

ask for help, we need to open up and admit to where we're

standing at. If you want to learn more about being raw and

honest with yourself, go back to my latest episode called Can you

admit to where you're standing at. With a coach you will also

explore your strength you will be reminded of who you are and

what you're made of. And that is usually a very, very strong tool

to push you through challenging times. And to get you to a place

of contentment and even success. With a coach you can also

explore what your weaknesses are, and not to put you in a box

and to keep you and victim mentality. But to become aware

of the beliefs and things let's call them that hold you back in

life. Sometimes it's hard to see them yourself. And when you get

them gently pointed out by a neutral person. So to say, it is

easier to make changes that are sustainable, that are gonna

affect your life in a very positive way. Let's dive into

today's episode, I want to talk about child like behavior that

we want to embrace. Again, it is so important to not forget how

important playfulness is. And today I don't want to talk about

playfulness only. I want to talk about things that we can learn

from children. And you don't necessarily have to be around

children. You don't necessarily necessarily have to like

children. When we talk about being childlike, again, it is

just necessary to remember how it was to be a child and to

today, as an adult, give yourself what you didn't receive

back then as a child. As a child, we are way more present

with what's going on right now. Yes, we maybe remember a couple

of painful experiences, but our life has not been long enough.

And our brain has been more focused about what's going on

and trying to learn new things adapting and growing. And I find

that very inspiring. You know, especially when the going gets

tough. It is important to focus on the present and to find out

what makes us feel okay, what makes us feel good. What gives

us strength, what makes us feel important, and seen and hurt. As

a child you want to experience you want to grow you want to

express yourself and I know for many adults, not only parents,

but adults surrounded by children. It can get really

tough at times when the child is expressing his or her needs.

Because it comes out so randomly, you know you go for a

walk and all of a sudden the child has to go to the bathroom.

Or you go to the cinema to the movie theater. And all of a

sudden the child expresses that he is hungry as an adult. We

have learned that we have control over our physical needs

and we know our body enough we know that yes if we are hungry

Now we will be able to wait an hour or two and will not die

from this. But as a child, you express your needs right away.

When it comes to pain when it comes to discomfort, and tired,

it's very hard to force to be sitting for several hours a day.

I know we all do this to children at school. But you see

the wild children out there that are just not made to be sitting.

And that's perfectly fine because it's uncomfortable. So

where as an adult Have we started to compromise a little

bit too much to a point that we are abusing ourselves in order

to wanting to fit in. Because as a child, we learn Okay, now

we're not supposed to ask questions. Okay, now we're

supposed to be quiet on now we're not supposed to be thirsty

or hungry. Now we're supposed to be sleeping. Now we're supposed

to be awake, we learn to fit into society. But we also

unlearn who we are at the same time. And I find it very, very

interesting as an adult, to see. Where are you cutting yourself?

Short? Where are you being too rigid with yourself? Where do

you not allow yourself to be authentic and real? Where do you

hold back? Where do you suppress. As a child, you're

constantly learning new stuff. And you're fascinated by the

weirdest, smallest things. And now, don't get me wrong, it's

not about being silly and finding everything exciting

again. But can we bring a little more joy and curiosity and

excitement back into our lives. For instance, next time you bite

into a peach, I don't know the next time you're going to have a

peach in your hand. And maybe you don't like peaches, but

something really yummy and juicy. bite into it as if it was

the first time buy into it, thinking of all the people who

made it possible for you to have the speech in your head now.

Learn new hobbies, learn to exercise in a different way,

explore your body, learn to see where you're holding back where

your inner dialogue is similar to man, I really would like to

experience this again. But I am too old. But I'm not made for

this. But I don't have enough money. But my body is not going

to be like I'm not going to be able to enjoy this. What are the

beliefs that are holding you back when there's something that

you're actually really excited to experience? Of course,

there's lots of differences between children, you know,

there's children that are very shy and scared easily and not

really adventurous. And there's children that are totally, you

know, they do first and then think. But we can learn from

both. I feel both are inherently authentic. They feel okay with

who they are, until the adults come around. Most of the time,

of course, not all parents but most of the time and try to

change them because they feel they're going to help them to

fit in better. When did you stop having fun? When did you stop

having fun? Was it a comment from a neighbor from a parent

from a sibling that made you stop dreaming? Is it conclusions

that you made about yourself after your first huge

heartbreak? What are the things that you are inherently curious

about but you're too shy to explore? And this can really be

everything. Another thing I'd like to address today is that

sometimes

We rejected a dream. Because at that time, we were surrounded by

people who were not in alignment with that dream, or people who

were living this dream already. And we thought, we don't have it

in us to do the same, we don't have the same resources. So we

don't deserve to have the same amount of joy, pleasure and fun,

like the person we are observing. It is really

important to see, who are you surrounding yourself with? And

are these people making it impossible for you to be playful

to expand and to grow? Or are you playing small with the

people you surround yourself is that people that are in your

life, because you want to take care of them, and you don't want

to make them feel bad. And all of a sudden, being a different

person, being yourself again, you know, sometimes we lose the

people that we surround ourselves in, in becoming

ourselves. And it is a natural process. It's a necessary evil.

But sometimes we stay stuck in a situation. Because we are scared

to lose the people. We don't want to be alone, we want to be

long. But then again, you're cheating. You too, cheating

yourself into a situation that is not good. You're not being

honest with yourself, you're trying to fit in, at all cost,

you're trying to stay in your little comfort zone at all cost.

But it is going to cost you at some point, be it physical

illness, be it mental illness. You know, depression doesn't

come from nowhere. It comes from suppressing, it comes from not

being able to express yourself anymore. This is what makes us

feel numb. It is not the cause. In everybody who's fighting

depression. I'm very aware of that. But most of the people I

talk to I get to know, on a deeper level that are fighting

depression, have learned to suppress their voice, their

soul. And that started to make them seriously sick. So I invite

you to explore your childlike behavior. And again, I don't

mean by that, that tonight at the dinner table you throw

around with your spaghetti sauce. I mean, be curious. See,

wherever you can find joy. And what I've noticed in myself over

the last couple of weeks is the world is crumbling, the world is

in a deep suffering, state and chaos. Can I allow myself to be

happy and content and joyful? No, I need to be sad, I need to

be suffering as well. And that is wrong. Yes, I can be sad, I

can feel the suffering from others, I can feel my own

suffering. But if I'm ready, again, to be joyful to be my

powerful self, then it is my duty to live up to that and to

express it and to show it in order to inspire the people

around me in order to give people hope, in order to remind

people that, hey, if we are to all disappear from this world,

on one day or another, why should we not be doing something

meaningful? We shouldn't be sitting there and fear and

sadness, I think we should start and go do something meaningful,

be it for ourselves or for somebody else. Live your

authentic truth to the best of your ability and you will know

who you are and you will make the decisions that are best for

you. And those decisions are going to have a huge positive

impact on your community, on society, on humanity as a whole.

Thank you so much for listening today. If you haven't already,

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you so much. Bye bye