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Welcome to the Masterful Coach podcast with Molly Claire. If

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you're a coach who's ready to impact more lives, make more money,

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and create a life you love, you're in exactly the right

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place. Get the support you deserve as a female

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entrepreneur, master your coaching skills, grow your

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ideal business, and honor your priorities in your personal

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life. Are you in? Let's get started with your

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host, bestselling author and master life and business

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coach, Molly Claire.

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Hey, coaches. Today we are talking about what it takes

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to build a business. We are talking about

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leading your business with a passion for

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serving people well, and we are talking

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about overcoming all of the obstacles along the way. This

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episode is really fun for me because I'm interviewing Tammie

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Williams. She is one of my up-and-coming master

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coach training students, and I used to

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work for Tammie. So back in the day, actually

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when my boys were little, when I didn't even have my daughter

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yet, I worked for one of her schools

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here locally where I live. So you're going to hear more about

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Tammie's experience and all that she brings to the table.

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I love the way that Tammie has really led

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building her prior businesses, and also

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her current business as a coach, with wanting to really

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do a phenomenal job serving her clients. And so

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this always stood out to me about Tammie when we first met

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and it's been really fun as she and I have worked together in this new

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capacity as she is building her coaching

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business.By the way, you're going to hear some great nuggets from her because she

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specializes in helping parents of

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preschool age kids. So you're going to love this interview. It was so

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much fun for me to have this conversation with Tammie. All right,

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before we get into that, this is so exciting.

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I am offering four advanced coaching

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skill classes in a row. The cost for this four part

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workshop is only $197. I have

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never offered advanced skills classes at a cost this

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ridiculously low. I wanted to do this to give all of you a

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little bit of a taste for these four components of effective

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coaching that I'm always talking about. So if you're

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interested in coming along with me, the first call is on April

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29. The calls are every single Monday. There will be replays

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available. Check out my website,

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mollyclaire.com. When you go there, you can click on the special

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offer. It is the Master Your Coaching Intensive for

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super skills you need to learn as a coach. I am

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talking about these four foundational pieces that I teach

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with my master coach training students and that is advanced

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cognitive work, emotion focused, modalities nervous

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system awareness, and also talking about how to take

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effective, action focused strategies.

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All right, coaches, here we go. Let's dive on into this

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phenomenal interview. All right, coaches. So I'm so

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excited to have Tammie here on the podcast. Hello,

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Tammie. Thanks, Molly. I'm excited to be here as

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well. This is so fun because what I think

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is always interesting about a coach's

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journey, and I know a lot of my audience can relate to this, is

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we have all of these different, seemingly unrelated

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experiences in our life, and then somehow some of these

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little pieces come together because you and I worked together in a

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totally different way years ago. And now here we are on a

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podcast with you and your new business. And it's so great.

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It's part of the journey. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, so

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tell my audience, who is your niche in your

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business? Well, I am an early childhood parenting

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coach, so what that means is I specialize in coaching

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parents of two through six year olds. That is my

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specialty because I have worked in the early childhood field for over 40

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years, and I've worked with so many parents that I felt a

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need to help parents and coach parents in this

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particular age group. What I love about

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this is so many things. I think it- first of

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all, it's such a natural direction for you to go in your coaching business,

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right, because of your experience and

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also just because of your heart for it. Because, you know,

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back when I was working as a teacher at your school, what I

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really loved about that experience is that

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there was such a focus on continuing our

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education as teachers and really taking seriously how we

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could help to, you know, cultivate brain

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development - right - and growth for these kids. Like, you know, we

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can think, 'oh, they're preschoolers. It's not a big deal.' But it's actually

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a big deal. Right. Those early childhood years

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are huge. So I love that you have such a passion for it. And where

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do you think that came from, by the way? I think part of it

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is I just love to learn myself. And so my thirst for

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knowledge. And then, of course, working in this field,

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I wanted to tie learning, from a teaching

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standpoint, to teaching little children to learn. I think,

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also, too, I just have a natural gift, really, with

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young children. I started working in preschools when I was 16 years

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old, and I just, is just what it comes

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naturally to me. I would rather work with children than just about

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anything. I think they're so much fun to work with, and I think the preschool

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years are just magical years. They make me laugh every day. I just

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crack up. I just love working with young children. Right. You just, you never

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know all the stories you hear, too.

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Oh, so fun. So fun. And so I just

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think that there's such great years, and I also know from experience and being in

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the field so long that what happens in their

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preschool years sets that foundation for

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the rest of their lives. And people, I don't think, understand

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that as well. But I've seen it with my own eyes. I've had

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a front row to decades

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of how these children turned out and what parenting

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styles the parents had. And then I have had the

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opportunity to see a lot of these children later. You know, they've come back to

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visit or I've run into them in different capacities, and

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I've been able to watch this, and I just kind of want to share that

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with other people and, you know, help them understand how

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important these years are. They really are life

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altering years in the direction you go with them. I mean,

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obviously. I mean, that's true. Right. And I agree. And I'll add to that,

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that as I think back, I feel really grateful for the

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experiences I had with my kids when they were younger

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and being able to facilitate so many

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experiences for them as their brain was developing. Because we

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both know- right- we all know when you have older kids, you just

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don't have as much influence and many things as your kids become

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teenagers are very much outside of your control. Right. And

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for me, just knowing that, I would always kind of anchor myself

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in I had these connections. We had this, you know,

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relationship then, and I created these experiences. So we just

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roll the dice and hope for the best. That's right.

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That is right. They're still taking your guidance

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and they're still listening to you when they're young, so you

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want to influence them as much as you can during that time

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and hope a lot of that will stick as they move on to

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other things being more important. Yes. Yes.

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Absolutely. Okay. So I wanted to ask

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you. Oh, oh, this. I know what I was going to say. I was

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also thinking how I have often felt

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that the work that I was doing with preschoolers

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is very similar to the work that I do now with adults. Right. Because

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it's, it's brain development. Right. Development then and now we're

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really working with adults to help them develop new patterns and habits

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and create new neural pathways. So it's just. It's so similar. I think it's a

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lot of fun. Yeah. I actually heard an example of this the other day that

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I thought was really good. It's kind of like when you're building a brand new

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house, and you decide where all the electrical outlets are going to be, and you're

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thinking, 'okay, I need one over here, I need one over there'. And then the

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house is finished. You move in, and you go, oh, my goodness, I wish I

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had put one over here and there. You can still put one there, but now

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you have to tear down part of the wall, and you have to run wires.

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It's just harder, but it can still be done. And I think that's

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a great comparison. When you're working with preschool age

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children, the walls aren't up yet, so it's a lot easier to do

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that wiring. You can still do it later. It just takes a little more work.

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Yeah. And so I love that you're helping

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parents to maybe take down the walls. Right. And do what

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needs to be done so that they can really facilitate an easier

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experience for their kids. Absolutely. Yeah. Building something.

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Great. So tell me a little bit. Why do you think the work you're

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doing with parents, what do you think is the

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biggest value or benefits in really how that helps

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them, them with their kids in the preschool years? I think

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what's happened is because we have so much technology,

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and the children and the parents are on their devices so much

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more than they ever used to be, what we're finding out from brain

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research is that children are

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not creating as many social, emotional, neural pathways as they

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used to because we're not having as many connections, and

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that's not lighting up that area of the brain and creating those pathways. And

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so a lot has changed, and children have changed. And what used to

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work doesn't work anymore. And this is true in the teaching field as well as

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the parenting field. And I have spent a lot of time,

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and when I was in grad school, I spent a lot of research on this

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because I wanted to find answers to help both my

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teachers and then, of course, the parents. And so I think what

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I really enjoy doing is helping parents

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find quick, easy solutions. We're all busy, we're all tired. We're all

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exhausted. And parents don't have time to read books like they used

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to. I still love to read books, but they just want, you know, all

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right, somebody read the book and then tell me the cliff notes or, you know,

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give me a quick tip that will help or help me understand why they're doing

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this. They're, you know, driving me crazy. And what I want to do is

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just be that, you know, quick fix, let's do

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this, try this, and give them the answers so that they can have success

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quicker and move on rather than spend a lot of

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time energy trying to figure it out. Yes. Okay. I want to

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speak to this for a minute because this last week, actually,

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in master coach training, we've been talking about the value of

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quick wins with our clients. Yes. Because I think I know

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many of the coaches listening, many of you out there, you do cognitive

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work, you do emotion work, you do these deep

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transformations with your clients, which is amazing.

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And I think sometimes we believe that means some

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practical, tangible quick wins aren't very useful, but that is not

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true at all. And, in fact, I think when we can

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understand those easy tangibles and those quick

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wins and how they actually relate to the deeper work

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and kind of how to ebb and flow with

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different approaches, that's when we can be the most impactful.

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I also think, Molly, it gives you kind of an endorphin rush when you

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have a success. Yeah. And then you have

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something to carry you through some of the harder work. Yes,

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exactly. Right. Because it's like, I mean, I can't tell you

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how many coaches I've worked with when they're first starting,

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especially. And, you know, we, it's like we learn this

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concept that, you know, just telling someone what to do

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or they say, like coaching on the A line. Right. Just telling someone what to

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do is not the way to do it. Make sure you're looking at the thoughts

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and emotions. And I see the value in that because we don't want people to

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think that we just always have to be fixing circumstances around us.

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Right. We want to make space for the rest. And yet

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it's like when we have, for all of us, when we

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have success and wins, it teaches us

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maybe success is possible. Maybe I can

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do this. Right. So it's that rush and that excitement, and I think

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it also builds evidence for those beliefs we want to

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have. Yeah. All right, so here is a classic example that we use in

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preschool. So when I was teaching children the belief

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that they could read, even before they really could read, I would

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have them bring in cutouts of foods or

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items that they knew the logo for, like

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Oreo cookies or their favorite cereal, and they would cut them out

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and we would make a book and we paste each of those little logos on

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a paper, and then I'd hold it up and I'll say, all right, let's read

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your book. And of course, they knew what everything was because they knew

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what that looked like. And they're like. I'm like, look at that you can

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read. You would not believe how much mileage I would get out of that. They

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would work so hard because they knew they could read now. And I think just

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what you said, instilling that belief sometimes comes

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before the actual reality. Yes.

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Yes. Oh, my gosh, that's such a great example. And so I'm

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curious to know, because obviously, you have

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a lot of creativity in terms of how you've worked with your

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preschoolers and helped your teachers in that way.

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How does that creativity come into the work you're doing now as a coach

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with parents? Well, a lot of it really is my

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experience. It's my 40 years of experience of working with parents and

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working with children that really helped me because I've worked

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with so many different cultures and different family

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dynamics and different everything that I have this huge

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repertoire of experiences to pull from, and that really helps me

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a lot as well. And then my own journey of building my own preschool

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from scratch has given me the fortitude to know I can

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do anything. I set my mind to it. So I've got my mindset, and

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then I have this whole bag of tricks and experience to

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help parents. And then I'm just

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a reader and a researcher, and so I kind of bring

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this whole different angles together.

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And that is how I feel like I'm so

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successful is because I've walked the walk, I've talked the talk,

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I've raised children, I've worked with children, I've been a parent.

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And that's so believable because I've been there. I get

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it. You know, it's not like I'm trying to tell them something I've never done

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before or never experienced before. I've experienced it in a lot of

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different ways, and I think that's what

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helps me to be really successful as far as creativity goes.

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I've had a lot of practice at it because someone will bring a problem to

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me, and I have to think about, okay, so what's going on in

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the family? Why is this child doing that? And I just, you know, have to

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really think it through, and then I kind of

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just put it together like a package, like, oh, and it doesn't always

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work. I'll try one thing, and maybe I'll try another thing, and then, you know,

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the third thing will be it. So it's not for sure every

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time, but I've got enough experience that I can usually find a path through

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it at some point. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So

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since you brought up kind of building your own business, I want to

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speak to that a little bit. I want to ask you some questions about your

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experience because I know that everyone listening, of

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course, has different experiences and circumstances. And I

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just am always excited to share a story of, right,

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building from scratch, making it through those, those hard times.

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So I want to, I want to speak to that. And then just so all

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of you know, listening, I want to then circle back and speak

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to how all of this has and is

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translating into Tammie building her business. Because I know many of

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you are at different places in your life and business. Some of you have had

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extensive experience with something like Tammie and now you are bringing that to a

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coaching business. And I know some of you have maybe not

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had as many experiences in an area. And so you feel you're

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building several things at once as you build your business. And so I

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say that because, no matter where each of you are in this

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path, there's going to be a lot of relevant things here that I'm going to

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tie together. So. Okay, so Tammie, so you built

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your, your preschool business from scratch. Just tell us a little

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about your story. So I became a single mom when my children were three,

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five and seven. And at the time I had a preschool in my

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home. I started a preschool in my home two weeks after

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my first child was born because I wanted to be home with my children, but

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I needed to work and so I did all the advertising and everything ahead

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of time, took two weeks off after the baby is born. And

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then I just started up.At the time when I first started, I had about twelve

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children in my home by myself. And I just loved it. I

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was just in my element, you know, it was just great. But

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as my children grew, I grew my business a little

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bit and I changed it up a little bit to be more of a preschool,

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like a church preschool. So children only came part time rather than

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full time childcare. And when I became a single parent,

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I wanted to go to college because that was one of the things I didn't

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get an opportunity to do. And I love learning and I wanted to go to

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college. So I started going to college while trying to

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expand my business, while being a single mom and taking care of my

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children. And it's one of those things that you just do because you just know

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it's the right thing to do. I just, I don't know how else to explain

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that. I just knew this is what I was supposed to do. I had a

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talent for it and I wanted to help others. And so

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it took me about eight years to get my first two year degree.

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And then I just continued on, and

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I would just take a class or two a semester and just keep on trucking.

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And then when I graduated, I had two associates

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of applied science degrees, one in early childhood education, one in

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early childhood administration. So I got it in my mind that I

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wanted to take my business outside of my home so I could grow, because you

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can only watch so many children in your home legally. And

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so I started looking for how to get

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money, and I was still classified a low income single mom at this

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time. And I just went from bank to bank, and nobody would give

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me money. And they- some people were quite rude. And

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I finally found this gentleman that

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worked for a, it was called Texas Certified Development

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Corporation. And what they do is they're loan packages for SBA loans,

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and they help people like myself get a loan

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to do great things. And so I brought my business plan. He

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set it aside, and he goes, 'Tell me why you really think you can do

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this'. Like, he didn't even look at my business plan. I worked really hard on

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that. But he goes, 'Just tell

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me why you think'. And I told him, I told my story, and he goes,

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'I believe you'. I go, great. He goes, now I'll look at your business plan.

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So anyway, so he helped me put together a package for

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an SBA loan, and I was able to purchase

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land, design a building, which I had in my head

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going all along, and I had to go to an architect, and I said, this

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is how it needs to be, and this is what it needs. He goes, I

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just don't have people so, you know, straight

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arrow on exactly what they want. I'm like, 'oh, yeah, I've been working in lots

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of preschool. I've been collecting ideas.' And so I bought land, and

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I built a school that- I have never built anything before. And I

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just would learn one step, then go to the next step, then go the next

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step. And it's funny, because when I got my loan package,

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they said, 'well, take this to your lawyer. Have them look at it'. I didn't

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have a lawyer, and I couldn't afford a lawyer. So I went to the library

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for two days with a dictionary and looked up every word I didn't know and

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read through the documents and then just signed it and said, here goes. I

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mean, it was a leap of faith, but I just, I just knew in

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my gut that it was going to work. And if I just worked hard enough,

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it would work. I had weird things happen. Like my architect says, 'Well, I don't

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think you know anything about building anything'. I'm like, 'Yeah, you're right'. He goes, 'I'll

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just go ahead and be your project manager'. I said, okay, that's great.

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Oh, I love it. And so one day I was up at the school because

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my kids and I would go drive by it every once in a while while

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it was being built. And I said, something's not right. And I didn't

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know what it was, but, like, the wall didn't seem like it was in the

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right spot. So I called up mu architect, and I said, something's not right. And

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so he goes, well, meet me up there. So I went up there, and he

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goes, you're right. How'd you know that? I don't know. Like, I just knew it.

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Like, it's just weird things that just, you know, help me keep going.

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So then I went to, like, garage sales and

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all kinds of low income ways to get more equipment,

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and my parents that were coming to my preschool in my home were all

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very supportive. They helped me do some fundraising because I had to get

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investors, and it was just quite- and I learned a lot. And I just learned

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enough to get to the next step, then learn enough to get the next step.

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And I built this beautiful new school from scratch, and we had a big

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grand opening. We had all the kids come and

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just do this big thing. It was just. It was just so much fun. And

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I have to tell you one quick, funny story, though. Three days after we opened,

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all the toilets stopped working. And so I had, I called my architecture.

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I said, none of the toilets are working. And I was just so, you know,

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nervous because we'd only been over three days, and I wanted to make a great

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impression. And so he goes, well, I'm gonna have to have the

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city come out and take a look. The city came out, and he goes, I

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need to talk to the owner. And it was so funny, I forgot I was

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the owner. I'm looking around, I'm like, oh, yeah, that's me. Because, you know,

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he's like, this new thing, and he goes, we need to step into your

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office. I'm like, oh, no. I'm in so much trouble. And so we stepped him

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off. He goes, I got to shut you down. I'm like, you can't. I just

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opened, you know, you can't do this. And I said, what's the problem? He

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goes, well, they didn't hook up your sewer to the city

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sewer. And so what had happened is the

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people who had the property next to me that hadn't developed yet, it was their

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job to put the sewer line up to my property

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and they didn't put it in the right spot. So when my people

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came in to put the sewage in, they were in a different spot than the

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other ones. They didn't know to hook it up. So anyway, great

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story. My architect called a company that comes and sucks out

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sewer lines. They sucked out of the sewer lines and we got it fixed and

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I didn't have to shut down. But anyway, wow. I mean there were just all

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kinds of crazy stuff like that, things you would never think of or would ever

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know. And I just kind of just kept dealing with them and you know,

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handling as they went. And my kids and I were the cleaning crew and my

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boys did the lawn care for me and it was just a family affair.

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My eleven year old son, he was eleven or twelve, he put

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together all the furniture we had to buy that had to be put together. And

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I mean, it was great. We all learned a lot. So incredible.

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Okay, I wanted, I want to dissect a few things from this

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because as people are listening, I think

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that it's easy to see. Well, first of all, I'll back up and say,

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when I first connected with you and your school,

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I was looking for a school for my son

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and I also wanted to be home with my kids and

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I wanted him to be in school and I really didn't have, we didn't have

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the money to pay for him to go to preschool, right. And so that's why

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I thought, well, I'll find a preschool where I can also work so I can

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kind of work this out and be with the kids and be with him and

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all of that. Right?So as I start looking,

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your school was, I mean

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it really was positioned as the premier

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school, right. This was, was not

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just oh, some little program you go to, but it's like if you

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want the best education, something really

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comprehensive, very elite, this is the school.

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And I think it's so cool to think about hearing this story, right, where you

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have twelve kids in your home and you had no education

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when you started. And then it's just like step by step,

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bit by bit and then having- and at the time when I looked not one,

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but two schools. Well, in fact, your son and when

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you worked was my second school because, by

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demand, I ended up building another school in another city four years

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after I opened that school and I didn't even want to, I'm like, one's

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enough. Who needs two schools? Right? Right. I was peer pressured by

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parents who were driving from the other city over to that school. It's,

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it's such a great story. And I think, also worth

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mentioning to all of you listening, because I know I can just

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say for me, when I hear someone like you that has just this

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incredible story of overcoming so much, and

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it's easy to think, oh, well, I'm not someone like her.

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She's obviously someone that's more determined or more

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driven or has more grit. But I think in truth,

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there is- I think that when we can

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choose to be inspired by someone like you, those of you listening, thinking,

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wow, if she can do it one step at a

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time, if she can have a conviction about

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something and make it happen, maybe I can,

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too. Because that's what's true. Right? That's what's true about it. And, Molly, it goes

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back to that belief thing. You have to believe it. You just have

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to believe it. And then the reality will come. It's kind of like

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if you build it, they will come. I actually use that quote in my head

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a lot when I was going through this. If I build it, they will come.

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And six weeks after I built that school, I was completely full. And I had

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done a lot of marketing and advertising beforehand. In

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fact, I was holding open houses at my home

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preschool months before I opened the school

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and enrolling people. But that's really what it is. It's about the

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belief system. You have to believe it. I didn't know how

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was going to happen. I didn't know how I was going to do it, but

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I believed that I was going to do it. Yes.

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And I want to highlight something else here. Here, which is

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all those of you listening, that obviously

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the reason why you did

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marketing, you did the work. Right. And you obviously

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had a superior skill set, a superior service where

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people wanted what you had to offer.

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Corect. I wanted to be the best. That was my desire. Yes.

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Yes. And so, and I, this is a big message that I want all of

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you coaches to get. You know, I preach this to my clients all day long.

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This is a core part of master coach training. When we're talking about, like,

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why are we building these skills? It's because I just am such

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a firm believer that when you lead with superior service

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and really you serve your clients at such a high

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level, people cannot help but refer to you, your business will

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grow and-. And it will feel different to people. That's right. That's exactly

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right. It feels. It feels

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different. Yeah. Yeah. And I went on to continue my

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education. I now have six degrees, three

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associate's degrees, a bachelor's degree and two master's degrees.

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So I just continued on because I just love

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learning. And I also, even though I had the experience, I wanted

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to back it up with a formal education so that I

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could be equally balanced in my formal education as I was in my

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experience. Mmm. I love it. Love it. Okay. And I think any

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industry you're in, you have to continue to learn because it changes.

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Absolutely. I mean, and I think that just that commitment to

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continuing your education and learning more is, I

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think as coaches, at least, it's the way we kind of lead the

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way for our clients. Right. Because as we're learning and evolving, we

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kind of set an example of that and, and we're just able

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to deliver what's new. Our brains are

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changing, like you said, right? Our brains are

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changing generation by generation, and every single

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day. Yeah, yeah. Okay, so,

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so as we start to wrap

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up this interview a little bit, and then, of course, Tammie's going to share her

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information and how you can find her, especially if you have

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preschoolers or, you know, someone that does. Tammie is definitely the

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one to go to, so she's going to share that here shortly. But I want

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to speak really quickly to, you know, you and I have, have

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come together because, of course, you reached out to me wanting guidance with

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your business, and it's a very different experience

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working with you at this stage

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of your life and setting up this business, because

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you've already built a lot of belief and experience.

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So it's almost like, as we're working, I'm giving you

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guidance on the foundations of this type of business. But all of

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that work and belief and strength, it just kind of transfers

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over in this beautiful way. Yes. And it's

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interesting because, I mean, you know, obviously,

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to have worked in this field for 40 years, I'm a little bit older, and

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I am still a little bit stuck in the low technology

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arena, and doing it this way requires so much more

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technology. That's my first problem. Not that I can't learn it, I

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can. It's

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a new arena in the logistics of it. Not so much

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my message, but in the way I'm delivering it. Because before, I just would have

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parents come into my office and we just sit down and have a chat, and

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now I'm setting it up for- and people

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would come to me because there's a problem at the preschool. They're, you know, they

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want to know how to potty train their two year old or whatever. But now

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I'm doing in a completely different format. Even though I have the knowledge, information,

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I don't know how to do that. It's just like building that building. I didn't

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know how to do it. And so for me, I'm like, oh, but Molly

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does. So I reached out to Molly, said, Molly, I'm

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going to take all my information and experience from my preschool and now

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I want to do it online as a coach, can you help me with that?

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I know that I could spend a lot of time spinning my wheels

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or I could go to somebody who already knows how to do the part

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that I don't know how to do. And that has been fabulous. That

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has saved me a lot of time and helped me out so much because

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I don't know how to do it this way. That's

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right. Yeah. I need a guide, I need a mentor, I need a

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coach to help me get to be the

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best at doing it this way.

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Yes. Yeah. I mean, it's been really helpful. Well, I'm so

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glad. And I think that it's, it's, it's true. It's like

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you can either spend time or money to move something

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forward. Right. And it's usually some combination of both. Right.

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And, and I think that that's what's been so fun about working

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with you. And it's, I enjoy working with people who are also in

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a different stage where they're maybe building more of those

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skills at the same time as their business, whereas you've kind of built some

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of those skills already. But I just, I want to highlight this because for

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those of you listening, and if you're a coach and you're thinking, well,

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she has all of this experience and I have to have all of that before

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I can succeed in my business or before I can start. It's not

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true. Right? It's not true because no matter where you

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are, you can always, always build those skills. And for,

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for someone like you, Tammie, it's, it's like your business is going to come

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together a little bit more quickly just because you've

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had- Connections and resources and things like that.

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But I really want to reiterate what you're

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saying. I have done so many things that I had no idea

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how to do. That's right. You just take one step, then you

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go to the next step, then you go to the next step. It's a journey.

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And along the journey, you're learning and you're growing and you're meeting interesting

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people and it is a part of your life's journey.

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Even if I didn't coach

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parents or have very many

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people to work with. The process of me becoming a

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coach has been very valuable and it has been an

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awesome experience and I've met so many great people.

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And so I look at it like this is my life experience

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and I don't know where it's going to take me, but I'm excited to see

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where I go. Oh, my gosh. I don't have to have the answers

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now. I just have to be willing to take the journey.

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Yes. Yes, that's right. Oh, my gosh. Okay. This

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has been such a great interview. Thank you so much for sharing your

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experience with just all of this. And for

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people who have preschoolers or know people that

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do give us your pitch, tell us what, what they need

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to know from you and where they can find you. First of all,

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my website is

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coachingbytammie.com and that's

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T-a-m-m-i-e. The longest way you can spell

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Tammie because I like to do everything hard. I don't know.

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And we'll have all this in the show notes as well for all of you.

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So. But really what my goal is, and this is

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truly from my heart, is I love helping parents and making

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parenting easier for them. I want to be able

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to make it simple and easy. I have a special right now. I have a

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parenting library that you can purchase for

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$29.99 and get a year subscription. And it

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has all these quick tips, seven minutes or less, of

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things that, you know, like give me some quick tips on potty training

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or how do I look for a good school? Or is my,

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how do I get my child ready for kindergarten? Questions that people ask me all

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the time. I put this library so people can just go

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there and get the answers and have these quick tip

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libraries. Or it might bring up something that you're like, I really need help with

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this. And then I can do some one on one coaching and help you through

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that. So. But my specialty is two through six

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year olds. Those are what we consider the preschool age,

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you know, span. I can help a little bit with somebody, a little

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bit beyond that or a little bit ahead of that, but that's really my specialty.

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But also, too, it's instilling confidence in parents and say, you've got this. You can

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do this. Yeah. You know, you just need a little bit of

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knowledge and you'll be fine. It

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is really fun when you learn a few tricks, how easy it works, like, for

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instance, making choices, like giving children choices. I'll be walking down the hallway

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in the preschool and this child won't sit down where the teacher wants her to

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sit. And I'll just, I'll be walking by and say, you can sit here, over

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there and just keep on walking. And she'll like, think and make a choice and

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sit there like. And the teacher's like, how do you do that? It's because,

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you know, you just need a quick thought idea that a trick that

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works. And it works almost every time. My

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granddaughter was throwing cards all over the living room and the whole family was

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sitting around. We're like, you know, you need to pick up your cards. And she

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just looked at you, smiled with that cute little three year old smile, and I

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said, hey, do you want to pick up the cards really fast or really slow?

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And she goes, fast. I'm like, okay, go. And she forgot all about being defiant

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and not wanting to pick up the cards. It's just that easy. And I

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want to help all the parents have an easier time with parenting so they

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can have more fun instead of stress. Oh, thank. And we all

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need that, right? And it's parenting is. It's hard enough.

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There are enough challenges. The more things that can become easy, the better.

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Yes, yes. And your parenting library has stuff from you and also

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some experts contributing to. Yes. Yes, Molly, they

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do. Molly is going to be a contributor. So I have it in three

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sections. There's the basics and then there's the core topics, which are

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just things that people ask me all the time. And then I have a

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guest section with guests from people who

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specialize in other things that relate to parenting. And

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I've got some really great guests coming on there. I don't want to mention them

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yet because I want to make sure I have them first. I'm still waiting for

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some of the stuff to come in, and it will be the guest section.

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I'm really excited because I think there's enough variety there. That'll be something for everybody.

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Yeah, yeah. Incredible. And part of the reason I mentioned that, of course, is I

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have a contribution there and I know some of the people that are contributing

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and they're really. So you guys make sure to check it out.

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She has introduced me to some great people once again. That

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has been so much fun in this journey, is meeting new people,

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doing interesting things. I can talk to them for hours. I mean, it's just so

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fun. This is amazing. Okay, well, thank you

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so much, tammy, for your interview. And we'll have all this information in

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the show notes for you, and I'll talk with you all

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next week. Thanks again, Tammie. All right, thanks Molly. We'll see you soon. Bye

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