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 Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Wedding Lounge podcast.

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 We're following on slightly from last week's episode where we had Lydia in from Alapreaser

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 who was discussing multicultural weddings and we're going to talk more about multi-day celebrations.

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 Yes, I love the idea of extending the party to let more days.

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 Yes.

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 No, I want it to end today.

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 I know and you know how I'd love to talk.

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 I think it's a really good way to be able to spend more time with your guests.

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 Yeah, because so many people say you know I didn't really get a chance to talk to so-and-so

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 I didn't see them or and everyone you've invited is because you want them to be there.

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 Yeah, and why not make sure you have the chance to actually spend some time with them.

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 Yes, so one wedding I had quite early on.

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 Well, I had 250, oh yes, for the wedding day and the father of the bride was,

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 why do you need this many guests?

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 What's going on then?

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 So I thought like, well, this is who we'd like to invite.

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 And he said that you will get for the whole day in the end of the ceremony one and a half minutes

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 with each guest.

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 Right, if you actually go around and speak, it's absolutely worth it.

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 Yeah, he'd actually worked out how long they would be able to

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 speak with their guests.

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 That's not long.

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 No, it's not.

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 So then when you extend it and you add another day in that chance,

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 I also think it's really nice to catch up on the gossip from the night before.

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 Yes, and you know, to find out what happened with Bill and Sarah and you know,

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 the other guests and how everyone else experienced your wedding day.

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 Because it grows in such a flash.

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 Yeah, it's really nice to be able to live that really happy day too.

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 We had a breakfast following day and then we went away from the breakfast on our honeymoon.

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 Then whilst we were on our honeymoon, we got all the gossip stories and all the fun.

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 Which we felt like massive foe mode that we were missing out and everything going on back home.

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 So we had we had a lovely breakfast and that was really nice.

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 Nice catch up with people.

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 We didn't really get that much sleep though because we finished at five o'clock in the morning.

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 We've discussed this in a very early episode, I think.

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 Yeah, but then we were about 10 o'clock the next morning.

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 So it wasn't, yeah, it was, we were very hungover.

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 Whereas, you know, weddings I've done since where they've had a lunch and

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 a pool park party like a really relaxed informal.

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 And the next day that kind of just goes on into the early evening.

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 People can drop in and out and they're there all day.

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 Worked really nicely.

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 Yeah, I think so.

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 I think it's really nice to do something more chilled than it is today.

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 Like if you've got pool, the pool vibes are really good or just, you know, like food,

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 like a brunch, a really nice brunch, like a bloody Mary, things like that help.

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 You've had decent breakfast to cure the hangovers.

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 I think what's interesting though is when you take this into consideration,

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 you need to think about your budget.

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 Yes, definitely.

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 If you want to have a multi-day celebration, make sure you factor that in and don't just leave it as an afterthought.

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 Yeah, but a few of my couples have started off going, oh, we'll handle the Sunday, we'll do it.

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 And then you're like, yeah, are you sure you don't want some help in a couple of months out?

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 Suddenly they're going, yes, please.

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 The big one for celebrations the next day is the linen.

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 I've got a client this summer who the mum and dad are just hosting a few people the next day.

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 They want the marquee up still.

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 And I said, do you need new tablecloths?

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 Show me to sort new tablecloths for the Sunday.

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 I'm only sort of coordinating for them.

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 So I'm there during set up and on the Saturday.

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 And they said, I'm going to be fine.

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 Yeah, everything's going to be stained. You don't want 30 tablecloths.

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 And then even we've been dealing with the marquee company recently,

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 just working out when things are being set up and packed away.

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 And obviously my client doesn't want the marquee taken down on a Sunday,

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 because they've got people there till five.

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 The marquee company need to have the marquee taken down,

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 cleaned, checked over, and then put back up somewhere sort of the Tuesday, Wednesday.

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 And lose.

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 Following the rent as well.

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 Yeah, lose or a massive consideration.

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 Yeah, we're having to ask the new company to come in and empty the lose on the Saturday morning,

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 ready for the Sunday night.

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 Yeah, it's a big consideration to have.

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 It's not just as simple as just saying some food on the people and having them run there.

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 There's so much to think about.

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 I mean, you could have it in a different location and if it comes a whole event in itself.

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 Like if you're married in a venue, for example,

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 you can choose to then go and have breakfast somewhere else the following day.

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 Which works quite nicely.

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 Is it the Oak Barn at Frame Farm?

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 You said there's quite a good...

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 but it's the pub in Idon Green.

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 This is in Kent.

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 And I remember they said that they do really good breakfast there.

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 And I think my couple of their next year said that they might actually deliver.

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 They went for Sunday lunch, they're the other day just to have a nose.

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 And they said they might actually deliver first to the barn.

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 Because you've got the accommodation there.

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 So I think I'm the opposite to you.

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 And I think it's better think worse.

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 Like the time that we got married than having people there the next morning.

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 And I think it comes from working in a hotel.

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 I used to work in...

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 It's not they survive at home now, but it was a Georgian,

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 then a man-of-house in Sussex in a, you know, 16 bedroom house.

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 And we did weddings there.

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 When people came down the next morning and everyone sort of hung over.

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 And I remember working and just thinking,

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 "Oh my god, I don't know what this is at my wedding."

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 It just looked.

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 Everyone was just stumbling down the stairs.

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 And it...

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 They weren't actually joyous celebrations.

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 And this was...

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 Oh gosh, 15 years ago.

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 And it wasn't like a celebration.

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 It was no like a music.

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 It was just people...

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 I suppose this was more of people staying in the accommodation and coming down the breakfast the next day.

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 And I was just like, I said to my husband a bit of a time.

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 I said, "We're not staying somewhere where other people can stay with us."

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 I said, "I don't want to come down in the morning and just have everyone sat there."

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 But I think making it a party and a separate celebratory event is a really good idea.

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 I think it needs to be carefully considered.

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 The other thing you can do is do something the day before.

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 Especially loads more couples are opting for celebrant-led ceremonies,

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 which means they've got to do their legal bits either earlier that morning or another time.

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 And you could always opt to do those the day before.

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 Have a small select number.

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 And then you can roll it into the next day.

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 So it's kind of like the pre-wedding party,

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 or you can head down the American route where they have a full-on...

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 That rehearsal did it.

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 Yeah, which I've never really, I couldn't quite understand why it was ever called a rehearsal dinner,

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 I'm guessing it's after their rehearsal, like their church rehearsal.

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 The fact that she's having dinner.

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 If anyone knows the answer to that one, us two British wedding planners would like to know

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 why a wedding rehearsal in America is called a wedding rehearsal.

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 Yeah, I've been at a wedding before where the couple had the legal ceremony

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 very late on the Friday evening, like the last slot that they could get.

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 And it was an autumnal wedding.

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 They applied it to the new, like a small, small country hotel.

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 So all their friends are staying there.

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 They're the most beautiful legal ceremony.

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 Or the dinner must have been, I'm trying to think, now I was like 50, 60 people.

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 Really gorgeous dinner.

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 And then the next day, they were just a few miles down the road at the family home,

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 having the celebrant ceremony, like 200 guests, the marquee, the dancing and all of that.

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 But it was really beautifully done.

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 And I just think, actually,

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 hey, like the bride got two different outfits.

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 Oh, it's, you know, she was all just like tailored trousers seat on the Friday,

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 and then like dress on the Saturday.

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 But I just think it spread out the celebrations.

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 Probably had, like, felt like there's less pressure for them than on the Saturday.

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 Like they've done the legal bit.

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 But it wasn't just a knit to the registry office.

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 Yeah, up to Ivy and Prophet Charles for lunch,

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 with something, it was, you know, it was an occasion.

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 I think that's important thing is you make an occasion of every element.

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 But the budgeting is obviously key here because, as you said,

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 if you're doing it like another celebration, it's like coming a party,

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 which is thousands of pounds, tens of thousands of pounds.

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 Yeah, so it's definitely, you know, you need to consider

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 if you're planning a multi-day celebration.

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 Well, if you're taking all your guests away somewhere,

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 it works really well.

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 If you're planning a destination wedding and doing something,

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 so all your guests fly out on the Thursday,

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 you can do something all together on the Friday,

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 have the wedding on the Saturday, do something on the Sunday.

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 And then all your guests can fly home on the Monday.

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 You're really making the most of everyone being,

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 making it worthwhile.

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 But then just turning up to a wedding abroad,

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 Your guests are made the effort to travel,

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 And you just want to make sure that it's whole celebration.

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 And I also think having a destination wedding like that,

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 it's great, because obviously a lot of people have probably traveled far

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 and they may not have seen each other for a long time.

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 And it just really gets, like, your guest the chance

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 to have a chat and catch up and make connections,

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 like on the Friday, potentially, with people that they don't know.

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 all your guests have already sort of warmed up

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 and they're really ready to celebrate your wedding.

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 weddings where you've coordinated plans.

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 Like, the hen parties and the stag parties,

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 And then they're all getting back together at the wedding.

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 It's such a lovely group.

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 A witness, compared with everyone else.

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 just giving people the chance to sort of make those connections.

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 We've spoken about another episode.

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 Table planning.

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 having the extended party as well.

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 You want your friends to get on.

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 And you want your friends to form relationships.

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 They're special to you.

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 So it's really nice for them to have extra time.

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 Like, their mutual love is you.

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 Yeah, that's what they have in common.

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 And you want to explore that as much as possible.

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 It's also, if like me, you love a bit of

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 It gives you a chance to do different

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 You can almost treat it like three different parties.

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 If you want your wedding to be quite formal,

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 morning suits, you know, church,

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 brilliant band in the evening.

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 But you really love sort of the pool,

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 You could then have like your sex offence.

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 Everyone really casual, different cocktails being served.

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 On the Sunday, for example,

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 you know, you could do something maybe a bit more formal

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 The night before the wedding or something.

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 It just gives you something that you

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 could do something really fun.

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 Yes.

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 But you could have like a murder mystery evening

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 on the Friday.

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 Because we know on the Friday.

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 Yeah.

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 And that.

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 It's the formalities of a wedding.

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 Oh, right.

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 Yeah.

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 I went to a friend's daughter 18th birthday the other week.

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 And it was a rodeo.

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 Oh my goodness.

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 We all had hats, boots, the kids, everything.

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 Like my little baby boy just can't wait out there.

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 But you could have it at the Friday night.

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 Like a rodeo?

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 Or like a barbecue on the Sunday.

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 Like a rodeo ball or something.

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 Yeah.

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 You can just have so much more fun with it.

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 Because it takes the formality of a way from it.

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 Yeah, I'm away from it.

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 It's more like a party with,

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 I think we've said before about themed weddings.

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 Neverly themed and not really our vibe.

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 But you could go more fun and like,

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 exactly.

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 I would never have a cowboy feeling like that.

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 And as well, if you've got a lot of pressure coming from family

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 about having a more formal and traditional wedding,

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 adding on an extra day gives you that opportunity

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 to really bring yourselves into it without necessarily

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 compromising any family politics.

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 Yeah.

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 And not upsetting granny.

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 Yeah, you can really let your head down and do something a bit fun.

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 And it kind of links back to speaking to Lydia,

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 obviously, as you mentioned last week,

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 with the multi-cultural bringing together

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 different cultures in a wedding.

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 Yes, different cultures are something

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 that you need to navigate.

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 And sometimes it is easier to spread that out over different days.

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 But even if you're not different cultures,

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 but you're just different ideas, just ideas,

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 you could, you know, your husband to be,

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 could have a go at choosing the theme and things for the party.

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 Yeah, my husband can't plan anything.

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 So he, like I digress ever so slightly,

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 Jamie had one job with our wedding,

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 apart from buying my engagement rings in proposing,

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 was he had to book our mini-moon

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 and I was a teacher at the time.

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 So we got married in October.

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 First, we kind of passed term and I said, "Let's just go,

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 a few days, and then we'll do a honeymoon

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 like everyone in the Christmas holiday, it's kind of thing."

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 So he found a lovely place in France

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 where we could go and take the dog

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 and maybe some walking and things like that.

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 And he said, "Oh, they're full."

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 And I was like, "Okay."

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 And he said, "Yeah, she's come back and she suggested

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 that we go into September."

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 And I was like, "It's for our wedding."

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 I was like, "Why would we go on a mini-moon for the for our wedding?"

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 He'd only gone and given her the dates

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 that put, like, 20th of the eighth.

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 And he said, "I thought October's eighth month."

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 So the one to the lady had suggested coming

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 like a few weeks later,

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 I thought she was suggesting we go on a mini-moon

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 before we actually got married.

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 So that was it.

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 He was, to be fair, I left teaching.

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 So I could have had a mini-moon.

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 I left teaching, so I could have a decent honeymoon.

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 Anyway, so we never went on it.

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 I mean, that was a good job.

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 I mean, well done, Jamie.

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 I hope you've taught him the months of the year now.

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 Yeah, I think so.

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 I mean, the interesting thing, though,

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 is the logistics.

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 Yeah.

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 If we bring it back on track here,

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 yeah, the logistics that's around,

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 I mean, the logistics that's around a wedding are complicated.

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 But if you're planning a multi-day wedding,

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 there's a lot more logistics you need to consider,

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 especially if you're going over multiple venues.

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 Yes.

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 So make sure you really have those nailed down

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 and you've thought about how people are getting from one space

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 to the other, especially if it's something

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 that you're doing abroad.

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 I'm sure that you've got transport for your guests.

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 Lots of weddings I've been to.

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 I mean, I'm not a destination planner,

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 but when I've been to weddings abroad,

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 there's always been great Google sheets

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 that the couple who are planning it,

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 know everyone's staying.

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 They're across everything.

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 They can make sure that everyone's transport is sorted.

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 And I think if you're planning a multi-day celebration,

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 that is absolutely crucial.

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 You definitely have all that information there.

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 If you're getting married at home, you don't need to know where Sarah

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 and Jacob staying, it doesn't really matter,

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 but when you're doing something abroad,

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 you need to think about it.

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 And I also think it's a really good idea

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 to maybe put a welcome pack in people's rooms,

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 and stuff like that.

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 Just some local information,

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 treats that they might need throughout the holiday.

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 Nice places to visit.

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 Yeah.

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 And if you're going to do like a scheduled thing,

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 and itinerary,

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 make sure you send it to people in advance as well.

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 Yeah, exactly.

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 I think, essentially, what we're trying to say is that

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 if you're able to have a multi-day celebration,

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 go for a small gig or even if it's like

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 small on the Friday and small on the Sunday,

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 just give you long day that time that you have to celebrate.

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 The fact that you're going to get married.

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 Yeah, one really budget-friendly way to do this, actually,

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 is a lot of people have,

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 especially if they're in a church wedding,

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 will have their church rehearsal.

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 And I think it's really nice

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 when you just book a cable car for you to go out.

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 Yeah, so after church rehearsal is quite often,

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 my couples will maybe like the groomsman,

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 his family, maybe, will go off to a pub,

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 and then he'll go and stay where he's staying.

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 And the bride will maybe have like a crater at the house

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 so that they've got a meal prepared.

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 I did have, who is it, a couple recently?

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 And the bride, bless her, but this is like Jamie.

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 The bride had booked the dinner the night before

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 for a different week or a different month or something.

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 Really, isn't that unique?

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 Yeah, so maybe it's not quite unique.

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 Turned up, then they had to just get pizzas in at home for everyone.

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 But they all enjoyed it.

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 The point was that they were all together.

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 And as well, you know, especially if you're doing quite a lot of DIY,

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 you gather quite a lot of people on that Friday.

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 And that's an event in itself.

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 Like you're there setting up make an occasion of it.

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 Yeah, like enjoy that time.

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 Because that is a special part of the day.

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 It's a special part of getting ready.

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 And we had for our wedding, Chris is from Yorkshire.

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 So his side all came down from Yorkshire,

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 which is a good five hour journey.

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 So this is family put on.

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 They hired out the top floor of a restaurant for everyone

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 on their side on the Friday night.

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 Brilliant.

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 But it's my mother-in-law, who didn't really listen to this.

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 It was rottling on the bar in the hotel,

413
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 but they were all staying at three o'clock in the morning.

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 The morning of the wedding.

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 The morning of the wedding, asking for more drinks.

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 They all had such a good time.

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 Too good a time.

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 Too good a time.

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 No, they were all on the great form on the wedding day.

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 Yeah, so that's the most important thing.

421
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 The Northerners know how to do it properly.

422
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 And whereas we just had our little pizza with the bridesmaid

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 that went to bed at nine o'clock.

424
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 Yeah, that was me, I went to the pub with my friends,

425
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 my bridesmaid didn't.

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 I don't think I even had my parents.

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 I was just like, no, just me and the girls.

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 We were, and then held up with her.

429
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 Oh, we were choosing songs for my playlist.

430
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 But even that is still an occasion.

431
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 So just make sure you put some thought into it and yeah,

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 make it a multi-day celebration.

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 Whatever way you can.

434
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 Definitely.

435
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 And I think you're right, the setting up can be stressful.

436
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 Obviously, if you've got lots to do,

437
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 if you haven't got a planner.

438
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 But make an occasion of it and put food in your comfort food

439
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 that help him.

440
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 What's our top tip thinking about this episode

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 and what we've covered today?

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 I think the most important thing is that no matter

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 what brilliant ideas you've come up with and other ideas

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 you might have had your goals.

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 Road to open.

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 I feel like I need a road to build, do you know?

447
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 We must stress that the most important thing

448
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 is making sure you've got the budget.

449
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 Go and plan it and then go, oh, okay,

450
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 we haven't gotten money.

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 It is treated as its own separate budget.

452
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 I would say that I'm going to actually use our budget

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 breakdown and think about the percentages you need

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 for food and things and what budget you have allocated.

455
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 You always, you won't necessarily need

456
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 like photographer and videographer,

457
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 but just as a rough guide to have a look

458
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 and make sure you do allocate enough budget

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 for what you think that you need.

460
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 Make sure it's considered.

461
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 Yes, definitely.

462
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 Next week, what are we talking about next week?

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 Music.

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 Music.

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 Going into detail about how music

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 and influence your day.

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 We look forward to speaking to you soon.