1 00:00:00,970 --> 00:00:04,702 Hello, and welcome to the traveling Introvert. Today I want to talk 2 00:00:04,756 --> 00:00:08,494 about why people delay in 3 00:00:08,532 --> 00:00:11,722 investing professionally in themselves as well as there's potential 4 00:00:11,786 --> 00:00:15,498 consequences. So one of the things that happens a lot is I'll 5 00:00:15,514 --> 00:00:19,166 get people reach out to me, they're followed by work, they know who 6 00:00:19,188 --> 00:00:22,958 I am, we have a little chat and then they kind of 7 00:00:22,964 --> 00:00:26,806 back out. And I get various reasons. But the key thing is here 8 00:00:26,828 --> 00:00:30,438 are a few of the reasons that stay true with everyone no matter what it 9 00:00:30,444 --> 00:00:33,320 is they're saying. There is 10 00:00:33,930 --> 00:00:37,586 sometimes some self doubt and impostor syndrome in 11 00:00:37,628 --> 00:00:41,350 there because they might struggle with feeling unworthy 12 00:00:41,430 --> 00:00:45,066 or inadequate. And so they don't deserve to go 13 00:00:45,088 --> 00:00:48,906 ahead and put sort 14 00:00:48,928 --> 00:00:52,758 of stock into bettering themselves professionally. They might feel it's a 15 00:00:52,784 --> 00:00:56,414 them problem, but they don't necessarily want to do the inner work 16 00:00:56,452 --> 00:01:00,078 to fix it. And this can hinder their confidence to invest in 17 00:01:00,084 --> 00:01:03,774 themselves and pursue professional growth opportunities. They 18 00:01:03,812 --> 00:01:06,914 might think that the might be judged or 19 00:01:06,952 --> 00:01:10,622 criticized. The fear of being evaluated 20 00:01:10,686 --> 00:01:14,274 or perceived negatively can hold them back. There's so many times that I've heard people 21 00:01:14,312 --> 00:01:17,646 say well, I can't have this as a line item for my boss. I can't 22 00:01:17,678 --> 00:01:21,506 have impostor syndrome coaching as a line item to give to my boss. I can't 23 00:01:21,538 --> 00:01:25,062 have introvert coaching as a line item to my boss. It has to be 24 00:01:25,196 --> 00:01:29,014 covered and masked as leadership coaching 25 00:01:29,062 --> 00:01:32,474 or professional growth or insert thing here to be more 26 00:01:32,512 --> 00:01:35,978 palatable for the culture that the are working 27 00:01:36,064 --> 00:01:39,734 in. The other thing can be overthinking and analysis 28 00:01:39,782 --> 00:01:43,114 paralysis, sort of deeply analyzing 29 00:01:43,162 --> 00:01:46,574 situations and options can lead to 30 00:01:46,692 --> 00:01:49,918 overthinking and then not making an actual 31 00:01:50,004 --> 00:01:53,810 decision. The overthinking can cause delays 32 00:01:54,470 --> 00:01:57,860 in investing in themselves. So many people this is so common. 33 00:01:58,390 --> 00:02:02,114 People won't invest in themselves until it's too 34 00:02:02,152 --> 00:02:05,954 late, when they've already been let go, when they already 35 00:02:05,992 --> 00:02:09,746 need to look for a new job. Instead of just interviewing all 36 00:02:09,768 --> 00:02:12,818 the time, you should always be interviewing. You don't know what's out there, you don't 37 00:02:12,834 --> 00:02:16,406 know what dream job might pop up, you don't know what the rates are as 38 00:02:16,428 --> 00:02:20,214 far as salary is concerned if you're not out there interviewing. You don't make good 39 00:02:20,252 --> 00:02:24,006 relationships with recruiters if you're not out there interviewing. But 40 00:02:24,108 --> 00:02:27,178 I notice a lot of people just kind of wait until the shoe drops and 41 00:02:27,184 --> 00:02:29,738 they're like oh, I need to do this thing. Oh, but I'm not sure where 42 00:02:29,744 --> 00:02:33,182 my money is coming from. So I shouldn't invest in myself. Yes, you should 43 00:02:33,236 --> 00:02:36,720 always be investing in yourself all the time. 44 00:02:37,410 --> 00:02:39,200 Another thing is 45 00:02:41,410 --> 00:02:44,946 sort of they want to 46 00:02:44,968 --> 00:02:48,722 prioritize others over themselves. Putting 47 00:02:48,776 --> 00:02:52,114 themselves first as an introvert might be 48 00:02:52,152 --> 00:02:55,906 hard. They prioritize the needs and well being of 49 00:02:55,928 --> 00:02:58,358 others. Hence they will deal with back to back to back meetings even though it 50 00:02:58,364 --> 00:03:01,666 is draining for them and normally it is at the expense of their own growth 51 00:03:01,698 --> 00:03:05,158 and development. The selfless mindset can result 52 00:03:05,244 --> 00:03:08,582 in delaying an investments of themselves, both professionally and 53 00:03:08,636 --> 00:03:12,182 personally. And this leads to delayed 54 00:03:12,246 --> 00:03:15,994 growth. I've had managers come to me saying, I know that 55 00:03:16,032 --> 00:03:19,798 this person needs coaching, but they're not open to coaching because they don't 56 00:03:19,814 --> 00:03:23,274 think they need it. They have an outside external source that is willing to pay 57 00:03:23,312 --> 00:03:26,782 for it, that is willing to help them and guide them. But they won't do 58 00:03:26,836 --> 00:03:30,526 it because of fear or because they don't think they 59 00:03:30,548 --> 00:03:33,566 need it, or because they don't have enough time, because they're overwhelmed, because they are 60 00:03:33,588 --> 00:03:37,362 not managing their time and their energy well enough to be able 61 00:03:37,416 --> 00:03:41,026 to take that time and prioritize personal growth. And to be 62 00:03:41,048 --> 00:03:44,706 fair, personal growth and professional growth should be on your calendar just as much 63 00:03:44,728 --> 00:03:48,006 as meetings that you have one on one with your managers once a week or 64 00:03:48,028 --> 00:03:51,302 once a month. You should have that time blocked out 65 00:03:51,356 --> 00:03:55,094 anyway. The more and the longer you delay in 66 00:03:55,132 --> 00:03:58,746 investing in yourself, be it with in health 67 00:03:58,848 --> 00:04:02,666 or in medical or professional growth or personal growth, the longer that you 68 00:04:02,688 --> 00:04:06,090 delay, the bigger the missed opportunities 69 00:04:06,590 --> 00:04:10,406 it could be. Missed career opportunities, it could be stagnation, reduced 70 00:04:10,438 --> 00:04:13,994 job satisfaction, all of it can limit your potential for career 71 00:04:14,042 --> 00:04:17,886 advancement. Acquiring new skills and reaching your goals should be something that is 72 00:04:17,908 --> 00:04:21,726 just a constant presence in your life, always learning. And 73 00:04:21,748 --> 00:04:25,474 it doesn't necessarily have to be direct correlation to your work. But if you are 74 00:04:25,512 --> 00:04:29,042 taking an interest in yourself and you are putting yourself first 75 00:04:29,176 --> 00:04:32,802 rather than others, you will make the time to watch 76 00:04:32,856 --> 00:04:36,454 videos or listen to podcasts to aid your professional and 77 00:04:36,492 --> 00:04:39,862 personal growth. It can only be better for 78 00:04:39,916 --> 00:04:43,542 you. And one of these 79 00:04:43,596 --> 00:04:47,446 things, along with the overthinking and the fear of judgment and 80 00:04:47,468 --> 00:04:51,018 putting other people first, means you end up not promoting yourself 81 00:04:51,104 --> 00:04:54,934 as well. You find it challenging to showcase your skills and accomplishments 82 00:04:55,062 --> 00:04:58,746 because you didn't go ahead and get that help that you 83 00:04:58,768 --> 00:05:02,334 needed, whether it's seeking a mentor or asking someone for 84 00:05:02,372 --> 00:05:05,950 advice. So please treat yourself 85 00:05:06,020 --> 00:05:09,242 like your best client. Recognize your reasons and the potential 86 00:05:09,306 --> 00:05:13,034 consequences you should address and overcome those barriers 87 00:05:13,082 --> 00:05:16,538 with self awareness, support and intentional action. 88 00:05:16,714 --> 00:05:20,526 You can go ahead and put yourself first. Thank you for listening. This is 89 00:05:20,548 --> 00:05:24,398 Janice@thecuryintrat.com helping you build your brand and get hired. Have a 90 00:05:24,404 --> 00:05:25,380 great rest of your week.