No and

welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful journey called

life. here from Mexico, the Baja, sharing some ocean sounds

with you some really good vibes. Last time, I talked about the

importance of keeping an open heart, and how keeping an open

heart will make you feel less lonely, more connected to your

environment, the people around you, even your decisions,

because you will make decisions from a place of authenticity, a

place that feels true, is true to yourself. And today, I want

to talk about how you can keep an open heart. Because yeah,

it's one thing to say. And it's important to have an open heart.

But maybe you realize pretty quickly at least this is how it

was for me that your heart isn't as open as you wish it could be.

So when you look at your daily life, when you look at all the

thoughts you have the people you interact with your job, your

home, usually there's things coming up stuff coming up,

people coming up with stuff that doesn't really either feel good,

or you have opinions and judgments about something or

someone. And it is those little things that help us to close our

heart. Let me explain this through a couple of examples

here. Let's say you get up in the morning, you didn't have a

good night's sleep, you're struggling to feel motivated for

the day. And the first message that you see when you open up

your phone is a message from a relative about a task that you

have failed to accomplished yesterday. And here goes your

day. You had lower energy to begin with, all you needed to

hear was was a sweet Good morning and a hot cup of coffee.

And it is quite the opposite that you received when opening

your phone. So your heart was a little bit closed already.

Because you didn't have a good night's sleep for whatever

reason, roaming thoughts or noise outside animals music from

other people. And then something else comes and your heart gets

even more closed off. And then you go to the grocery store and

the grocery clerk doesn't make eye contact with you barely says

hello. And there is another thing that gives you a reason to

close up your heart. And so your day goes on. And by the end of

the night, when your spouse comes home, sorry, by the end of

the day. All you feel like doing is being shut down not

communicating. And they might be in a very different place and

very happy to see you and you just can't connect with them

because your heart is closed. So all these little things that

happened throughout our day are annoying, I get this. But what

I'm learning right now is to change my judgment and

resistance towards these things. These things that are annoying,

these things that are unpleasant to either brushed them off,

write them down and address them later. Or address them right

away. If you know how to react, respond in a healthy way. And to

always keep in mind and heart that you want to keep your heart

open at all cost. And so this is what I invite you to do over the

next couple of days is that whenever something comes up,

that doesn't feel good, that is not an alignment with your

opinions, your values, with what you think how should things

should be. Take a moment, observe what is, feel and to

your heart. And make sure that whatever you do, your heart

stays open that those little things don't get to bother you

to a point where you would shut down at the end of the day, or

even midday, if it's enough stuff that accumulates to let go

constantly. And I don't need to know you. On a deeper level, I

know that all human beings tend to cling on to things, how

things should be, how things should not be. And we can all

let go a little bit more. And we can do that through conscious

self talk, where we tell ourselves that things will fall

into place right now. It's not awesome, we will take measures

to change it. But we will do it from from a place of relaxation,

and hard drive, so to say. So to learn to deal with discomfort

and how things should be how things should not be from a

place of compassion and forgiveness. And at the same

time, knowing that if we do this, we also help ourselves to

keep our heart open. Because when you close your heart, this

is when people can reach you and help you. This is where you

can't feel other people and you can all of a sudden feel

extremely disconnected and in pain, because of disconnection.

So constantly checking in with yourself, and letting go, what

did upset you that you're still clinging on to that still has

power over how you feel about yourself life and other people?

And what can you let go. Maybe you're starting a business and

you wish that people would support you more. And it's

frustrating because they're not they're dealing with their own

stuff. And you feel alone and unsupported and uninspired and

you need others to give you an energy boost. Well, maybe have

compassion with others, and know that they're all dealing with

their own struggles, insecurities, and pains and are

trying to make life for them. And of course, when you ask for

help, they might be so involved in their thing that they can be

there for you right now. But maybe in a month or two. So for

you to keep the big picture in mind and not just your small

opinions, assumptions. And, and, you know, limited beliefs. So to

say how life should be, you can help yourself out in in easing

the pain, and suffer less because you allow life to flow

through you. You allow discomfort to go through you you

don't try to fight it, you don't try to judge it. You allow it to

be there for a moment and just see what it is and how you can

deal with it. How you can start talking to a person who has hurt

you in the past and you're still clinging on to the pain to

resolve the pain or how you can make peace with them without

contacting them. Which is possible to but to cling on to

regret and the past and how things have been will not serve

you it will just keep your heart closed

and make it even more difficult for you to enjoy life in the

present moment. And, and then the mind usually gets really,

you know, frustrated or uncertain or indulgent with

thoughts about the future, like how things should be in the

future, how we want to feel in the future, the things we want

to accomplish in the future. And if we get too narrow minded,

because of closed heart, we will suffer tremendous

disappointments, if we think that life is only a one way

street. If we think there's only one lifestyle that is okay to

live by, during your lifetime, you will get hurt, because

change is inevitable. And if we all know that, I feel we should

all also be okay with letting go more letting things flow more.

And sometimes seeing obstacles as opportunities for things that

are actually meant for us. I'm always surprised by people who

make decisions who know themselves barely. And then the

decision or the goals, so to save fails, and they get so

upset. And a couple of months later, when I talked to them,

and new opportunity has come. And it would have never happened

if that first job, let's say or that first relationship or that

first thing before the obstacle had taken place. And they've

happy now and and say, oh my god, I'm so glad I didn't take

that job. I'm so glad I didn't enter that relationship, because

now I'm way happier than I could have been. Don't get me wrong,

life can be pretty harsh, and surely at times, and through you

tremendous pain and suffering in the way. But most of the time,

when we don't get what we want. It wasn't meant for us, it

wasn't the thing that we need, at a person that we need a

situation that we need, it was something that we want it and

couldn't get to and then just let it go. But our resistance to

clinging on to a certain idea or a certain situation or person is

what actually makes us suffer the most. It is your fear all

the thoughts and all the what ifs and all the I don't want to

that close you up and make you suffer. And it can be the little

things, the very little things in a restaurant when you order

something and the wrong dish comes out. Or it's a different

version of what you wanted to order and then observe yourself

how your mind will totally drain your energy just because the

things are not like you wanted them you expected them to be. So

keeping an open heart, keeping an open mind, knowing that

change will always be part of life. And there is nothing you

can do about it. Just like with taxes and death is extremely

important. I think in the next episode, I want to talk about

death and how in our society. Depth is something we fear,

something that we reject and something that we don't want

anything to do with. And here in Mexico, I'm learning that they

approach it very differently. There is two days of the year

dedicated to the death. And it is a November and it is two days

where people celebrate the people that have passed on. And

I think this is incredibly beautiful. Like if if I knew I

could celebrate the people that I missed in my life that I lost

to death that would have given me so much healing. And maybe we

can learn from that and be open to that possibility. But let's

see. Maybe I'll talk about something else. But yeah, maybe

it is about deaths and how death is the teacher of all juicy

things in life. All right. Um I'm gonna leave you with this,

as always much love and respect for being on this journey of

self discovery and healing and growth. I love connecting with

you I love people who want more out of life than just you know,

autopilot living. It's it's incredibly powerful to have this

little podcast here and to connect with you from all over

the world. So yeah, keep on shooting the messages and

connecting with me because I love that and I'm excited to

meet you if we haven't met yet. I'm gonna leave you with that.