So when you experience this fear, just become aware of the fact that, oh, this is an old habit, notice it, and then let it go. And you say, oh, okay, good. Because that was another negative thought I was having, that there was something wrong with me, but it seems so true. And now that makes sense. So thank you for that. And you leave. This is mastery. You come back the next day, you say, hey, I remember you said to know what I want, but I don't know what I want. I'm just tired of my career and living a life I'm not passionate about, but I don't know what I want. So I've been stressing out this morning because you also said, I don't need to figure out the how, but I don't even know what I want. I don't even know what my desire is. And I say, all right, I hear you, but if you know what you don't want, then you know what you do want. That's actually the beautiful thing about experiencing the contrast of our life or the problems. Welcome to A Changed Mind. A journey into the topics that matter to you most. From the neuroscience and spirituality of mindset and personal growth, to groundbreaking strategies for health, wealth and relationships, to open and honest conversations about pressing global issues such as the environment, censorship, corporate capture, and democracy. Each and every episode reminds us of the certainty of the goodness of the future and provides the teachings, tools, and timeless wisdom inspiring you to create real, lasting change in your life and in the world. If you've been desiring a sanctuary for your spirit. A place to go to tune out the distraction, negativity and doom and gloom so that you can tap into the deep power, the vibrancy, and the potential you have inside. You're in the right place. Welcome to A Changed Mind. Hey, it's David. Welcome to a Changed Mind. A sanctuary for your spirit. A place where each and every episode I remind you of the certainty of the goodness of the future. I'm your friend, your host, your guide, David Bayer. Most comments on my YouTube videos are super complimentary. I love waking up and reading them every single morning. People saying, hey man, I've watched all your videos. Thanks. It's changing my life. This morning I had a different comment on one of my videos. I'm going to read it for you here. This is from Viva Voya 7263 and Viva Voya says, just going, keep it very real here. His first videos were great, but recently. Sounds like he keeps repeating himself and recycling his own info. I've watched all of his videos. David, come on, man. You're deeper than that. You have plateaued. So what Viva Voya just shared is literally the number one reason people never achieve mastery of their mindset and why they therefore do not change their lives. I have a very good friend who's also a client who was telling me a story once. He's a Taekwondo practitioner, and he was working with his teacher who was a master at Taekwondo. And at one point in their training, my friend said, hey, I want to learn some new moves. And his teacher said, you don't need to learn any new moves. He said, what do you mean? How am I going to get better? And his teacher said to him, look, I don't fear the man that can throw 10,000 different punches. I fear the man who's thrown one punch 10,000 times. So most people go from thing to thing to thing, rather than focusing on mastery around the few things that are actually going to move the needle. And so let me distill all of personal growth down to one thing for you. Here it is. Notice any negative thoughts that don't feel good and stop thinking them. That's it. You never have to watch another video again. You never have to take another course again. You never have to go to another event again. You're done. Congratulations. Now what's the problem? The problem is doing it. It's really simple. You want to get sober, stop drinking. But how does that work out for most people? Stop looking at porn. Want to be healthier, lose weight, don't eat sugar. Go to the gym. Imagine you go to the doctor. Doctor says, you have diabetes. Hey, don't eat sugar. You come back to the doctor, your labs haven't got down. It's a year later, he says the same thing, and you're like, come on, Doc, you can do better than that. You just keep saying, don't eat sugar. You've plateaued. I'm saying, notice any negative thoughts that don't feel good and stop thinking them. That's it. Now, mastery takes that concept and goes deeper. It takes that concept, and it looks at all the nuances. Okay? How can I train myself to notice any negative thoughts and stop thinking them? And this is where you go deeper. It's in the integration and the implementation. For example, you come to me and you say, hey, I get it. All I have to do is stop thinking negative thoughts. But I keep trying to not think negative thoughts, and I can't. And I say, well, that's because you can't actually stop thinking negative thoughts, because you can't stop thinking thoughts, just like you can't stop beating your heart because your brain is thinking all the time. And you say, well, what do I do? And I say, well, you have to direct your thoughts or your attention to different, better feeling thoughts. And you say, oh, wow, okay, that's helpful. I was trying to not think. Now I know or I understand that I can't not think. So you've given me a different play to run. I'll focus my attention on other thoughts. You go away. You come back the next day, you go, david, I'm stuck. I say, well, what's the problem? You say, well, I have this thing that I want. I have this desire. I want to make more money, but I don't know how. And so I'm frustrated. I don't understand how other people are able to make money. And so I keep thinking that there's something wrong with me. And I'm aware now that these are negative thoughts, but they seem true. And so I'm not able to focus my attention on other thoughts because I really want to make more money. How does this work? And I say, oh, okay, you think you need to know how to make more money in order to materialize that desire? No, no, no, no. That's not actually how it works. So the process here is, first, you just have to become clear on the desire, and now hold the desire to make more money. How much money do you want to make? You say, Well, I' make $10,000 a month. I say, well, why do you want to make it? You're like, well, because then I could pay down my credit card debt. I could be able to go out for some nice dinners, take a nice vacation, maybe get a new home, put a cold plunge in my backyard. So now just hold that vision. Imagine what it would be like to have $10,000 more a month. And then over time, as you hold that vision, the how becomes clear. In other words, you'll start having thoughts, you'll start having ideas. And you go, well, that doesn't make any sense. I say, yes, it does. There was a study done at Harvard. It was back in 2009, featured in Time magazine. I've mentioned this probably six times across the last 110 episodes. Said they did a study. They brought in piano players to play the piano. And as they were playing a piano, they studied what parts of their brain lit up. Then they had the pianists just come back in and imagine playing the piano, and the same parts of their brain lit up. And so what we realized was your brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality. And as you're experiencing life, every time you have an experience, you're actually recording that experience as a memory. And so through the power of imagination, you can actually install memories of a future that hasn't happened yet. So you can install a memory of that $10,000 a month version of you. And when you install that memory, that's where you start to have different thoughts, different ideas. You start to create a different resonance. You start to perceive life differently. You therefore start to create coincidences and synchronicities and the how will actually unfold. But you're getting it backwards. You're putting the cart in front of the horse. You're putting the how in front of just holding the desire. That's mastery. There was a great teacher named Neville Goddard. He taught about the fourth dimension. He said he ideas all of the hows exist in this thing called the fourth dimension. It's the field of consciousness. Hold your attention there, and you will activate ideas in consciousness. You say, consciousness field. What's that? And I go, well, look, there are great traditions all throughout time that have talked about a unifying field. Aristotle and Plato were talking about it. They referred to it as the ether. They said it was the one element that bound all the other elements together. The Hindus referred to it as the akasha. It keeps a record of all experiences of all time, past, present and future. Some people refer to this as the holy Spirit or the quantum or unified field. You say, okay, I'll hold the desire and then wait for the how. This is mastery. You come back the next day and you say, look, Dave, I held the desire and the how didn't happen. And now I'm worried again about not making money. I don't understand. Am I going crazy? Why can't I just let this worry go and focus my attention on better feeling thoughts? And I say, oh, that's because your nervous system has become habituated. You've trained your nervous system over time. And really, one way to look at this conversation is about retraining and downregulating your nervous system. And you say, well, what's up? Regulating my nervous system? Why is my nervous system trained this way? And I say, well, because when you were younger, you experienced something called trauma. So these were heavy imprints, experiences that had a lot of emotional charge or happened over and over again. And so I say to you, hey, answer this question. When I was growing up, money was blank. You think there for a moment and you go, well, when I was growing up, money Was scarce. And I go, oh, okay. Well, what's happened is what money was then is how money is now for you. And so you are waking up each morning with this feeling of scarcity, like you're not going to have enough. And it's activating your sympathetic nervous system. You're moving into fight or flight. Don't worry, it's just a habit. It's just a pattern. We've got to retrain it, and it's going to take a little time. There's nothing wrong with you. So when you experience this fear, just become aware of the fact that, oh, this is an old habit, notice it, and then let it go. And you say, oh, okay, good. Because that was another negative thought I was having, that there was something wrong with me. But it seems so true. And now that makes sense. So thank you for that. And you leave. This is mastery. You come back the next day, you say, hey, I remember you said to know what I want, but I don't know what I want.

I'm just tired of my career and living a life I'm not passionate about, but I don't know what I want. So I've been stressing out this morning because you also said, I don't need to figure out the how, but I don't even know what I want. I don't even know what my desire is. And I say, all right, I hear you, but if you know what you don't want, then you know what you do want. That's actually the beautiful thing about experiencing the contrast of our life or the problems is that they give us a moment of clarity because we don't want those things. And so we must therefore want the opposite of whatever that thing is. You don't want a chronic health condition or pain in your body. You want to feel good and safe in your body. You don't want to be alone for the rest of your life. You want to find a soulmate. You don't want to be experiencing financial insecurity. You want prosperity and abundance. You don't want frustration and hustle and grind in your business. You want ease and flow. So know that these problems are not there to curse you for the rest of your life. They're there to help inform you of what you want. And now we get back into the practice. Focus your attention on the desire and let the how unfold. So what you want is more clarity around your purpose and what you're meant to do. So you have that desire. Don't worry about how, how you're going to Figure it out what the perfect plan is. Hold that intention and over time you'll get the clarity and the path will unfold. You leave. That's mastery. You come back the next day, you say, david, you keep telling me the same thing. Tell me something new. And I say, what's the problem? You say, well, I'm feeling anxiety this morning and I don't want to feel the anxiety anymore. And there must be something more than what you're telling me, otherwise I wouldn't still be feeling this anxiety. And I say, look, you feel the anxiety because you've trained your nervous system that way. What are you thinking when you're feeling the anxiety? And you say, I'm thinking there's something wrong with me and what if this anxiety doesn't go away? And what if it debilitates me and I'm not able to live a normal life? And I say, okay, stop thinking those negative thoughts. That's what's perpetuating your anxiety. Put your attention on other thoughts and have a desire for less anxiety and more peace and give it some time and the how will unfold and the result must materialize. And you yell at me and you say, but you just keep telling me the same thing. Tell me something different, Mastery. When I realized that I was a drug addict, a sex addict and an alcoholic, and I started working a 12 step program. There's a tradition within the 12 step program. You go to meetings and they celebrate sobriety. So if you haven't drank for a year, you get a one year chip. If you haven't done drugs for five years, you get a five year chip. If you haven't acted out sexually in 10 years, you get a 10 year medallion. But they also have this chip called the white chip, and it's a 24 hour chip. And you pick up the white chip when you've actually violated your sobriety, when you've picked up the drink or you've picked up the drug or you've picked up the porn. And it's a recommitment to your program of sobriety. And so when I first got into my recovery program, I was going to Sex Addiction Anonymous meetings. And I had developed a program with my therapist and my sponsor where I defined what it would look like for me to be sober in my sexual addiction. And for the most part, I was struggling with pornography. I mean, I was doing a lot of other things like hiring hookers and having one night stands and. But really pornography was the most challenging for me. And so I started going to 12 step meetings. I showed up on the first day, I picked up a white chip because it had been less than 24 hours since I had been sober. And then I came back the next day and I picked up another white chip because I went home that night and looked at pornography. And it was literally months that I could not get through 24 hours without picking up a white chip. But my sponsor and I worked together to take a look at what is it that you were thinking or what was stressing you out that caused you to then act out again. Because ultimately, whether you're drinking or drugging or sexing, what you're doing is you're trying to soothe yourself. Because there are underlying unresolved emotions that are triggers that are creating discomfort for you, and you use the substance to soothe yourself. And so each time we would look at my thought process, we would look at the pain that I was experiencing or the anxiety that I was experiencing, and we'd come up with a game plan. But what was so fascinating was that for the first six months, my mind would come up with a different way to sabotage me. So, for example, the first time that I broke my 24 hour sobriety, it might have been because I was stressed out about something at work. And then my mind told me that if I just looked at a little bit of pornography, I would feel better. And so my sponsor would say, okay, the next time you feel uncomfortable about something with work, you make a phone call instead of looking at pornography. Okay, great. But 24 hours later, my mind would run a different play on me. I'd actually have a fantastic day. And so I think I would celebrate by looking at some pornography. But each time we took a look at the bad plays that my mind was running, which was driving me back into my addiction, and we come up with better plays and I'd practice those plays. And it was small incremental changes on a day to day basis where eventually I was able to stack up some sobriety. I was able to learn so many better plays and get good at running them that as I strung those days together, it started adding up into weeks and months and six months and 12 months later, I picked up my one year medallion. And two years later, I picked up my two year medallion. And five years later, I picked up my five year medallion. This is the process of mastery. And it's the same thing with business. Business is really, really simple. It's a handful of good plays that you need to run as an entrepreneur that we're just not very good at running at first it's the same thing with strength training or yoga.

You go into the yoga studio and it's really simple postures that are very difficult to execute on and you make incremental progress on a day to day basis. And everybody wants the hack. So here's the hack. Do the simple same things over and over again until they become an unconscious competency, until you literally retrain your nervous system to be a different person, to think a different way. Most people never achieve mastery because they want something more rather than to go deeper on the few things that matter most. There was a professional major league baseball player. He was the Golden Glove winner for three years in a row. And that basically means he was the best fielder on the field. And he wins the Golden Glove award and the next day he's out fielding 10,000 ground balls and there's a reporter on the field who comes up to him and says, hey, like you just won the Golden Glove award, don't you think you deserve a day off? Why are you out here fielding 10,000 ground balls? And he said to the reporter, how do you think I became the Golden Glove winner? So if you want more, go watch someone else's channel. But if you want to go deeper and you're interested in mastery, then let's go deep together. So I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you did, do me a favor. If you're listening on the audio platforms, leave me a rating or review and subscribe. Seriously, I love getting those five star ratings in the morning. They literally light me up. If you want to pay it forward or pay it back, that's a great way to do it. If you're following on in Studio on YouTube, do me a favor, leave me a comment, let me know what you think around, what's important to you and what you're working on. Developing mastery around subscribe to the channel. Hit the bell icon so you get notifications when I come up with a new episode. And again, if you want to share this episode with somebody who needs to hear it, that is fantastic as well. I love you so much. Thank you for allowing me to share this with you. I hope you enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed sharing it and I will see you in the next episode. Hey, it's David. One more thing. If you want to go even deeper on everything we've talked about on today's episode, don't forget to jump over to www.DavidBear.com. you can find the link in the show notes and subscribe to our newsletter a couple of times a week. I'M going to be sending you the latest episodes that we've released, along with additional free trainings. You'll get immediate access to my Free Mind Hack ebook and go even deeper into all the tools, the technologies, the frameworks that have helped tens of thousands of people establish a changed mind. Don't forget to jump on over to the site and I will see you in the next episode.