Swell AI Transcript: Abundant 4.mp3

SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to building the abundant woman. Today, we're going to talk about building your mindset to actually get you back to where you want to be in business and keep the blocks, keep the entitlement attitude and pushing things out of your business away. So you can grow, develop, be thankful and be full of gratitude for the things that you actually want out of your business. So the first one I wanted to talk about today was blocks. And this is a big one. I don't think people realize how many blocks that they actually have on their business. And most of them come from their mindset from their childhood. So when you want to talk about like all the things that you do really, really well, you also have to talk about all the things that you're really, really struggling with. And through all my coaching, as well as working with my amazing friend, Kami, she does emotion coding and it's really great, brings you really aware to emotions that are trapped, that you are unaware of, that you may be storing in your body and help you work through those blocks so that way you can be more abundant, not only financially, but with your family, with your spouse and your business. So that way you can remove those blocks that you're holding on to, even if it's unintentionally. And so one of the big blocks I was holding on to was failure, which was really interesting because I feel like I'm a very successful person. But there were just times in my life where I was not. My mind was still holding on to those things and it was really blocking A lot of the business that was coming in, it was just chasing it off and I didn't even know it. And so after working with Kami and getting through that mindset of removing the failure, because I had to show my mind all the ways that I was really successful. And I'm not just talking about like financially, but like through my motherhood, through my marriage, as a daughter, as a sister, all those good things. Because even those blocks can be with people, they can be with things, they can be things we're avoiding handling and talking about. And so a lot of times when we start to avoid those blocks, they tend to present themselves more. And so when we got to really get honest with ourselves, work through those blocks. So that way, it's like, hey, I don't want to have XYZ conversations. Well, XYZ conversation comes up and you lose a client over it because you're unwilling to talk through those hard conversations. So that's where we got to deal with that block. Why do we not like the way that conversation feels? How do you feel after you have that conversation? And how can we turn it around to not have that that negative experience that our body holds on to? Because it's fearful, because we're not made to live in fear. And so when we have those things that are pushing, like pushing things away because of our blocks, we have to handle that block. I used to hate confrontation. I literally told people I hate confrontation all the time. Confrontation after confrontation after confrontation. I was forced to deal with it instead of changing my mindset about it. And then one day it was like, Oh my gosh, I'm actually really good with confrontation. It's that I feel very bullied into a decision I don't want to make. So instead of feeling this like bullied into a decision, I was saying, hey, like, I'll have that confrontation. And then I just walk away knowing that I don't have to do exactly what they say. I'm not saying just do whatever you want. But like if it wasn't serving me, like say I walked into a confrontation with a client and they were like, hey, you know, I want to do it this way. And I'm like, hey, these are the goals that you have provided for me in order for you to reach those goals. That is not going to work. And a lot of times I'd just be like, oh, you know, I'm so sorry. And I really start to shut down because I didn't have confidence in that confrontation. And so because I always felt like a failure, knowing without knowing it, I felt like a failure that if I didn't just give it to them, that I wasn't going to be a failure. And so I had to understand that just because that was a confrontation, She understood that like, oh, hey, this is actually going to get me to what I want. Like we were able to compromise, work together and get the outcome that actually still like that pleased her, you know, the way that she wanted, but also made sure that she was still getting her goals just looked a little bit different than where it had initially started. And so we can't be afraid of those blocks because they're actually serving us in a way that propels us to greater abundance. And it's like, I thank God all the time that he made me aware of why confrontation bothered me so much. And that, you know, he was like, hey, you are strong in me. You are strong in me. And you do not have to be afraid of that person. You do not have to feel bullied by that person because you are able to speak truth to that person and what they need to hear at the time and how to help them handle it. And that was huge for me. That changed so much in my life to be able to handle that confrontation made me a better entrepreneur. Because you know what? Now I have confrontation all the time, but I don't take it personally. I don't let it raise my anxiety. I don't let it hurt me because it's not about me. The confrontation isn't about me. It's about different expectations. So when you get on the same page about what the expectation is, then you can deal with that confrontation in really healthy ways. And so it's actually just helping you navigate your life better. And so, you know, when we move on to blocks from to entitlement. And I know that if you're an entrepreneur, you're probably like, I am not entitled to anything because they're like, you know, you're like, I'm working all the time. But deep down, if you feel like your business is struggling and you're like, why am I not getting customers? Well, you're not entitled to customers. You're entitled to learning how to make your business grow. And so you're only entitled to your actions. And that was a huge one that I learned was like, why can't I get clients? I'm posting every day. I'm doing this every day. Well, doing those things doesn't necessarily equate with growing your business. If you want to listen to another podcast about that, you know, improving your social media, listen to the last episode. That's going to be a really great way to help you with some things like that, tangible things that you can improve. But just because you're posting doesn't mean that you're entitled to business. Just because you're sending out emails doesn't mean you're entitled to business. Just because you have a website doesn't mean you're entitled to business. And so you're like, oh, well, I have a website. It's not doing anything. Well, what are you doing that like it needs to be working better or we can change or having a strategy? So a lot of times it's like that that mentality of entitlement can definitely fog our mindset of like growing in our business instead of like getting creative or just like, why do we not have customers? Well, reach out to somebody. Because that's the reality of the situation is we have to grow and work and collaborate together so that way we can work together better and grow our businesses. Listening to things like this is going to greatly empower you and, you know, help your business grow, too. So next time you think, why am I not getting customers? Think, how can I creatively do things different? so that I have a different outcome. How can I improve in areas? What can I listen to? What resources can I seek to get more help? And so those are things that definitely, they don't feel like an entitlement attitude, but they actually are. And so one big thing I do every day is I just thank God for everything. For the lost client, I thank Him for the rough day with my children. I thank Him for all the things in my day that like I could be sitting in a fence about and just thank Him for those things because they made me deal with uncomfortable feelings. They made me get creative. to solve better problems. The more creative you are, the more open you are to change, the better you can shift away from that entitlement and learn to grow and scale and be resourceful and find the things that you need to grow your business. So the third one is pushing things away. So typically when we get upset or frustrated, we tend to push things away. I've been posting on social media. I give up, I give up, I give up. And you quit posting on social media for three weeks. And then it's like starting all over because now your account is not consistent. So, you know, like I said, go back and listen to the last episode if you want to get the tangibles. But here's what you cannot do is give up. Because ultimately is like, like I was saying in the beginning is like seven years this lady watched my business mentor before she got in. With it and so in with her that was on the last episode, sorry, social media one was two episodes ago anyways. And so what you want to do is not push away the things that feel hard. You want to do the hard things because you're either going to give it your time or your money. And so if you don't have the money to give it, then you have to give it some of your time. And when you put your money into something, yes, it can get drastically better. And I'm not telling you to not invest. I'm just saying if you don't, you're going to have to learn. You're going to have to find a resource that you can learn how to do those skills so that way you can do them for your business. So you get better ideas, get a part of a networking group. pay to learn how to do your marketing better. There's lots of resources that are, you know, I have lots of resources of how to do your marketing better. If you literally go and DM me customer right now, my confident customers guide is actually $17. They'll help you get really clear on your customer, your customer journey, help you to make better content. So that way you can start to attract that ideal customer. But the last thing we want to do is push away when we need to dive in deeper, when we're not doing something well. If you need to invest in someone else to do it, great, but if you can't, you've got to learn what you need to do to improve. And so it's always looking for something that like it's either I need to invest in someone to help me improve my social media. which is what I do for clients. I help them with their strategy. I help them get their funnel set up. I help them create content. Or, you know, you can learn to do it yourself. Just depends on where you're at in life. If you're a little more tech savvy, maybe that's something for you. So in all of that, having a clear mindset is being willing to do what you need to to grow your business and work on getting rid of the blocks, the entitled attitude and just giving up, pushing things away when it gets hard. And so if you start to do all those things, your mindset is going to improve. I'm not saying you have to deep dive into every personal development book, but I guarantee you it was personal development books that realized that I had so much work to do and I found an amazing business coach because of that and it changed my life forever. And so don't knock a personal development book. Definitely dig in, learn as much as you can. Those are going to be your like lower level resources in terms of financial commitments. If you're like, hey, I really need help with my marketing strategy. I really need coach through this. Just DM me the word coach on Instagram at build your brand with Sam. And I can definitely we could sit down, have a call, see what your needs are, what your budget is, and we can work together on that. So I look forward to seeing and hearing everybody on the next episode. And so I hope you have a great rest of your day.