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Hello, and welcome to another intriguing episode of the Data Driven

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Podcast. Our special guest today is doctor Julia

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DeGangi, a neuropsychologist who brilliantly bridges the gap

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between our biological neural networks and the synthetic ones we often

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chatter about. Today, we veer slightly off our usual

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digital path and delve into the fascinating world of natural neural

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networks that's your brain. Doctor Daganji will illuminate

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how these organic systems influence our ability to tackle life's

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complexities. So whether you're wrestling with AI

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algorithms or your own synaptic connections, today's episode

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promises to enrich your understanding of both. Join us as

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we explore the vibrant intersection of technology, neuroscience

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and personal mastery. And now, without further

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ado, let's welcome doctor Julia Deganji.

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Hello, and welcome back to Data Driven podcast where we explore the

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emergent fields of data science, artificial intelligence, and, of course,

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data engineering. For some reason, Andy has

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dropped off the call. I think he's having technical glitches. I will blame the

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eclipse on that. We're recording this on April

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8th, and, with me today is doctor Julia Deganji, who is a

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neuropsychologist who shows you how to use your brain to

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do hard things. Now normally, we talk about artificial neural

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networks, but I think today, we can kinda drill in on the the neural networks

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that we all have or at least we all hope we have, natural neural networks.

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Welcome to the show, Julie, doctor Julie. I'm really

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glad to be here. Thanks for having me, Frank. Yes. We contribute a lot to

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the eclipse today. It's already a strange, strange morning.

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On on the way to drop my youngest to daycare, like, just some car randomly

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pulled out in front of me when it saw me coming, and I'm like, what

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is going on? So,

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so you you have, a

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book that's coming out, or is it already out? The book was released in

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September, late September of 2023, Energy Rising. It was released by

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Harvard Business Review. So it's a book on the neuroscience of leadership.

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Very cool. And I think it's interesting where,

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a lot of the the obviously, artificial

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intelligence draws a lot of inspiration from neuroscience and kind of

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cognitive studies. What are your thoughts on this

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AI? I right now, we're kind of in the middle of a hype wave, but,

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like, what are your thoughts on AI just in general?

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That's a really big question. So I I am a neuropsychologist,

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which means I'm a clinical psychologist with specialized expertise in the brain,

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and neuropsychologists study sort of the domains of the brain. So

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we study information processing,

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decision making, emotional inhibition, emotional dysregulation,

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attentional processes. And so one of the things that I think is really interesting

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is, you know, the the the power of machines

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have already outpaced in so many ways the cognitive abilities of the

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human brain. Right? So if you think about memory retention, memory

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storage, memory retrieval, attention, processing speed.

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So what I, you know, I am most fundamentally, I've done a lot

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of neuroscientific research, a lot of fMRI, EEG,

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looking at human stress and human resilience. And

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one of the things I'm really interested in, I I find this to be obviously

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a very uncertain moment, and I'm I would love to talk to you about uncertainty

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in the brain because I think that piece is so important. But while

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it's an uncertain moment, I also feel incredibly optimistic. You know, what I

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think is actually gonna happen is as the machines continue to

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outpace some of the classic cognitive abilities of the human brain,

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there's gonna be tremendous pressure on our emotional

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capacities, our our emotional capacities to deal with uncertainty,

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our emotional capacities to regulate, our emotional capacities to have

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trust, our emotional capacities to connect with each other. And so

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when you think about evolution, species only evolve

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when there is intense pressure on the species. So what I feel

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incredibly optimistic for is I think we're gonna unlock extraordinary

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capabilities of human emotional and relational

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intelligence due to all this advancement in AI.

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Wow. That's interesting. So you have a very optimistic view of what

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it means for humanity? You know, I think like any you

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know, most of my work really focuses on stress and trauma, and energy

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rising is about the relationship. You know, I it's about

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leadership, but it's about the relationship fundamentally between what I call emotional

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power and emotional pain. So I really believe

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that struggle, so challenge, problems,

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even pain sometimes, is egregiously misunderstood.

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So do I think that these moments of intense stress on our

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social systems, our occupational systems, our cognitive systems is

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gonna be easy? Absolutely not. But I think when we position

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ourselves to really understand what's going on and specifically how the

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brain is wired to meet these moments of uncertainty,

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I I feel I feel deeply hopeful. That's good to hear.

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And and I think what's interesting is as someone who I've been in the

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technology space since, well, longer than I care to admit.

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But, one of the interesting things we're seeing now is a lot of

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layoffs happening in this field, and that

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it used to be that a career in technology was always golden,

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always roses, you know, wonderful things, big tech, blah blah

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blah. But now I think people are feeling uncertain in their careers for the

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first time. I'm old enough to remember the dotcom crash, so this

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this this rings very familiar to me. What do you what would you

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say to people who are facing uncertainty now?

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Like because there's obviously, I think, a clinical aspect to what uncertainty does to the

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brain. I mean, I'd like to unpack that, but, like, what can people do kind

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of as the drivers of their brain? I know that's

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probably not the right word, but as the conscious what you're saying. So let's let's

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have a conversation about the neuroscience of uncertainty.

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Mhmm. So one of the things that I think is is so powerful about energy

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rising, and it's really received I think I've I've been really kind of,

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pleasantly surprised by its reception. You know? So my work on emotional power is uncovered

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now in the Wall Street Journal, CNBC, Fortune, Forbes,

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HBR Magazine. And the reason I think is, like, yeah,

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sure. My credentials are really strong and and my I think my

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scientific expertise really kind of brings a lot to the table, but what I really

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think is happening is these and and so much of energy rising is

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about how leaders can navigate uncertainty. I think it's really

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resonating with people. So one of 1 and one of the premises of energy

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rising is this, and it's a little bit counterintuitive at first. It's

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that your brain wants to focus

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on situation after situation after situation.

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So this thing happened on Tuesday. I got laid off from

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that job in 2007. This person said this thing to me on

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Wednesday. That thing's gonna happen next Thursday. So do you see what I mean by,

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like, every situation is kind of a a new problem to be solved

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onto itself? This is an incredibly episodic. I'm sorry. Yes.

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It's and it's an incredibly inefficient and powerless

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way of really leading our lives.

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So all of our our all of the meaning in our life, all of

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the meaningful consciousness, and I'd be interested to hear what your response is

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sort of a a tech expert. All of the meaningful

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consciousness in our lives, all of it, rises entirely

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on the energy of emotion.

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So when I say to people, do you have a good job?

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I don't know. How do you feel about it? Are you a successful

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leader? I don't know. How do you feel about it? Do you have

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enough time? Do you have enough money? Have you achieved enough? When

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All of these questions are fundamentally mediated by

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emotional circuits in the brain, feeling. Feelings of sufficiency,

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feelings of disappointment, feelings of anxiety, feelings of hope, feelings

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of satisfaction. So when we come to

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uncertainty, it's very easy to say And and by the way,

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like, these things, you know, I I certainly am in the work as

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well, so I know how hard this can be for us as human beings. But

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when we come to uncertain situations in our life, in our jobs, in

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our homes, in our marriages with our kids, it's really easy to say,

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like, oh my god. I'm freaking out about this this specific thing.

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But the brain is meeting the energy of

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uncertainty. And when I say energy, I'm not talking metaphysically or

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metaphorically. I'm talking your brain is quite literally a neuroelectrical

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machine. K? Emotions, thoughts, there are chem neurochemical

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processes neurochemical electrical processes. So in

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order to understand how the brain responds to uncertainty,

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we gotta talk about what what happens when we get uncertain. So I think the

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best way to describe our relationship with uncertainty is your brain is

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basically allergic to it. I'm gonna tell you a really interesting

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study that I think really elucidates a lot. So this is not

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my study, but I think it's still a very powerful study to talk about. So

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these scientists bring people into the lab, and they say, okay. You're gonna be in

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one of 2 conditions. You're either gonna be in a condition where the machine is

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gonna count down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and you're

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absolutely going to get a shock, or you're gonna be randomized to a

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condition where the machine's gonna count down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and

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you may or may not get a shock. Now if we were really

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I I use this in air quotes because I think it's silly. If we were

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really rational human beings, we would all choose to be

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in the first condition. I'm sorry. We would we'd rather be in the in the

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second condition where there's a good chance that we could get away without getting an

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electrical shock. But people statistically

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prefer to be in the condition where they are absolutely

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certain they are going to get a shock. Really? What

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does this what does this tell you? Well, I think people like to kinda, like,

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laugh and roll their eyes and say human beings are so irrational. Human

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beings are not irrational. The brain is the most extraordinary machine on the

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planet, and this experiment tells us something very powerful. There

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are moments in our lives where the pain the

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emotional pain of uncertainty is more

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painful than actually getting a physical shock.

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Interesting. And the the part that kinda tickles me

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about this experiment is, you know, these people are showing up to do these experiments,

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you know, at the University of Iowa, you know, the University of, you know, New

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York University, UCLA. Like, people are going into a lab

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for 30 minutes. In other words, they know they ain't dying that day.

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It's a really safe, controlled environment. So if you so even

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in this really controlled environment and by the way, we did have these electrical shock

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machines in my lab. And as as the name suggests,

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the shock is very painful. So even

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in a a contextually very safe,

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reasonable environment, people are still saying, give me

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the shock, then give me the experience where I have to

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sit with my own feelings of uncertainty. Wow. If

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you transpose that out into the real world where the stakes are so

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much higher, our relationships, our jobs, our

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careers, our sense of self. You can see

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just how powerful this energy of uncertainty is

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and why it's really quite important that we learn to handle it powerfully.

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That's interesting. So do you think we're running towards certainty or away

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from uncertainty or some combination, or it doesn't

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matter? Yeah. I don't know that I think that that is a meaningful distinction, but

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I will tell you what I do think is so meaningful. If I had one

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word to describe all of my work. Right? I've been I've been really put on

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this planet to talk about the brain,

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emotional power, and emotional pain. This is I just some of us find our calling.

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I really have found mine. If I had

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to give one word to describe all of my work, I would say either

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counterintuitive or opposite.

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Okay? So a very useful way so if I keep saying the brain is a

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machine, we you know, our cell phones are a machine,

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Computers are machines. I think a really powerful question is, like,

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okay. Well, what what does the machine do? Like, when I pick up my cell

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phone, I know I can text people on this thing. I can call. So what

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does this what does this brain machine do? Your

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brain is in the business. It is a pattern detection

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machine. K? So it is literally

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bringing you through your life going apple, apple, apple, fill in the

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blank. I predict it should be an apple.

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Now you can see that space between apple apple apple fill in the blank

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is what we call uncertainty. It just means

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it's agnostic to meaning. In other words, it's just empty. It's not

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good. It's not bad. It's not scary. It's not happy. It's just

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empty. But the future, by definition,

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is uncertain. So the brain

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is gonna say, okay. I'm gonna meet this this empty space, this emotionally

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agnostic space, and I'm gonna predict. And if it was apple,

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apple, apple, apple, 1700 times already, I'm gonna predict that

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it's gonna be an apple. Now could it have been a banana?

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Sure. Could it have been a cup of coffee? Sure. Could it

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have been a puppy? Sure. But the brain is gonna predict

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what it it's gonna superimpose the past on the future.

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So when we want this is such a big point I'm gonna make, especially

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for leaders and people who are really, like, thinking about the well-being of other

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people. If we want to make

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powerful changes in our lives, on our teams, and our organizations,

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we have got to break the pattern. And in the breaking

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of the pattern, your brain will say that is

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wrong. Do not do that. And though

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because the brain is more fun it's it's firstly an an engine

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of feeling way, way before it's an engine of feel of thinking,

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when your brain goes to lead in a new way or try a new thing

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or basically be different, the sensation, the

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emotional energy in your body is going to feel

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like bad, like anxiety, like dread,

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like fear, like stress. And if you as a leader don't

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intelligently know this is emotional intelligence is thinking intelligently

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about emotion. If you don't know how to meet these sensations that

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first and foremost start in your own body, you're not

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gonna be able to lead anybody anywhere because you're not even gonna be able to

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lead yourself. Wow. That

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that's a good point because I know when I'm feeling uncertain or I'm feeling

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confused. And this this impacts a lot of things. Right?

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Not just leadership, but I would say also sales, which I suppose is a kind

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of leadership. If you're trying to sell and you're not certain of the

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product, I think we've all been in those situations where we've been on the other

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end of that equation where we're being sold to and the person's not clear, and

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you could smell that from a 100 miles away. 100 miles away. You know, I

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always paint myself into a corner. I sometimes say, like, I should stop using

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this term leader because you're right. It has, like we all have this, like,

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coding around what's, like, the the CEO of a 40,000 person

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company. I, you know, as as a neuropsychologist, I think

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have a a very powerful and and sort of radical definition of

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leadership. Leadership is quite simply my

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own ability to use my own energy

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to have an impact on my own life. So we're

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all leading our lives. How good we're doing it, how bad we're doing it, that's

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a very separate question. But the reality is whether I get up in the morning

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and take over the world or get or refuse to get out of bed in

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the morning, this is still how I'm leading my life. And I

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think a lot of times what we try to do is we we forget that

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the thing that's ultimately driving our lives is our brain.

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So that we we get a real I always say the brain is the most

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powerful machine you will ever loan own, so operate wisely.

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So a lot of times what we try to do as

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people in relationships, and this this relates to your sales

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point, is we try to get other people to have

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we don't we might not be conscious of this, but an emotional experience.

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But we're not actually having that emotional experience. So in other

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words, I hey, Frank. I need you to believe this, but I don't believe

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it. I'm brought into large corporations. I I coach really

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senior leaders. I work with entrepreneurs all the time. I do. And I would

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say the fundamental question people start to ask me

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is how do I get these other people to behave differently?

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How and it'll say things like, how do I get them more engaged? How do

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I get them more motivated? How do I get them more interested? How I'm sure

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you can you can relate to this. Right? Not just not just at work, but

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I'm just thinking getting my kids to put their laundry away. Like Oh,

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we could yes. And what's so beautiful about the brain is it sits at

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the top of the hierarchy. It's the most upstream thing. So if if we can

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get the neuroscience of relationships that work down, we can get the

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neuroscience of our marriages to work. We can get the neuroscience of our parenting to

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work. We get the neuroscience of our social behavior on social media to

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work. So my point here, though, is that a lot of times what

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we're saying to people is, like, I need you to believe, but I don't believe.

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Right. I need you to be motivated, but I'm not motivated.

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I need the I need you to be more honest. But I'm if I'm

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really honest, I'm not being transparent. Or

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else, these people, they're just so uncooperative.

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Won't cooperate, while failing to look at plenty of clear

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examples in my own life where I failed to be cooperative.

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Now, here's the truth about what we know about emotional energy,

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is we know neuroscience tells us very clearly that emotions

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are are universal and primary language. We came all came

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into this world speaking natively a language of emotion. That's how

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we communicated from the second we were born. K? And

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we understand as herd animals, as mammals,

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that emotions are a thing of contagion.

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We coregulate with each other. We catch each other's emotions like we catch a

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cold. So plenty of times, the the

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salesperson will be confused or bored or this is a

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big one I see if I'm being really honest because I do a lot of

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work with sales and entrepreneurs, is they don't really believe it.

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Well, how in the world are you gonna get somebody to catch your

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emotional energy if you don't first feel the fire inside of yourself?

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That is an excellent point. That is that mean, there was another one

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of the the sales gurus that I follow, and and you you work with the

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this crowd. You know, there's there's kind of, like, different schools of thoughts and different

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directions and different personalities. You know,

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he he points out that if you are yourself in sales and you're

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successful, you tend to be an easy person to sell

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to because you're always looking for something. Like, the way

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he phrases it way better than me, that's probably why he has his own private

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jet and beachfront property and stuff like that. But, but

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Who is this that says this? It was, Jordan Belfort, actually.

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Most famous in the well, you you nodded in recognition. But for those who don't

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know, the inspiration or,

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behind the the the movie Wolf of Wall Street. And the

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way he phrases it was pretty, like, you know, because I'm an easy person to

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sell to, but he contrasted that with his father who was

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not. And he's a his father was someone who was very hard

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to sell to. Right? So he kinda says, like, if your barrier or,

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the exact word was something along, threshold of action is

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low, you're a very easy

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person to to get into the sales world and you're easy person to be sold

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to. If your barrier to action, threshold to action is

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high, then that's the opposite is true.

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It's it's it's totally true. And what I what I want people to see here

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because I think it makes it you know, theory is no good

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if this theory only works on a Monday

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when there's a lunar eclipse that only happens every 40 years at

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exact it's like who gives it. Right? So theory is

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the theory is more powerful when it works

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across more contexts. So what you did the example you just

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gave with Jordan Belfort in him basically saying, like, part of the reason I'm

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a great salesperson is because, like, I both I I'm willing

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both to sell and to be sold to. You will see the

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same energy in other leadership dynamics at work, and you

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see the same energy in homes. Like, I think the classic one

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that people can, like, almost laugh because we can all resonate with it

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is how many times has someone shouted at you,

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you start to get upset and, like, someone says, do you just need to calm

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down? It's like never in the history of

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human beings calming down has someone shouting calm down

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at you actually got you to calm down. Why?

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Because what it doesn't matter the words coming out of your mouth. I mean, you

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you wanna talk about emotional intelligence versus, artificial

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intelligence. It does the the words coming out of my

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mouth are like a secondary or a tertiary language. And you know this is

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true because plenty of times, you've had someone say,

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I'm sorry. Yeah.

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I heard those words coming out of your mouth, but that felt like

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the furthest thing from an apology. Because once

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again, emotions are the native and universal language

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of the human being. You see? So

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and if if we're serious about building something of meaning in our

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life, we gotta tell the

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emotional truth, and we gotta know what to do because this is the other piece.

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So energy rising is is the book again that I just wrote, and I think

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it's really an extraordinary book because it shows people how to really work

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with their with their emotions. On the good days,

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on the days when things are working, the days when people are listening, the days

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when people are buying, I don't really need any help. There's just enough momentum being

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generated. And There's just enough

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momentum being generated. And if I'm really honest about it, not that I didn't contribute

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to that momentum, but a lot of other people are paying into

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my momentum. You see? When my kids just get in the car, when I say

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get in the car, when my customers just buy, when my etcetera, etcetera.

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Yeah. But you were, like, centered in, not for lack of better term. You were

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centered in that, like, get in the car. Yeah. Right? And I I've

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noticed even even dogs do that too. Right? I have bunch of dogs and, like,

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they can tell when I'm serious and when I'm not.

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Right? Oh, right. The kids can too. Well, that goes back to this idea of

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emotions being, like, the this energy of contagion. When I really mean it, get

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in the car. There's, like, a different frequency that I emit

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as opposed to when I'm like, can can you it's like more of a

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question. Right? Would you kindly go in the car? Yeah. People

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think it's a good idea to get in the car now. Right? Right.

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But the the piece I wanna make here is that when when

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we're having good days, when we're in our good feelings,

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things there just tends to be a natural flow. So if we're

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interested in power in our lives, there is a fundamental

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question. And, guys, this question is so powerful.

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It has the power to change the direction of the world.

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Who do I become in the energy of my my painful

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emotions? Who do I become when I

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start to get triggered? Who do I become when I start to get anxious? Who

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do I become when I start to get stressed? Who do I become when I

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start to get afraid? If you don't have an answer to that question,

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you are at the mercy of

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these kind of emotional storms.

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Emotions are both to some degree predictable. We we can have

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a somewhat controlling relationship with them, but they're like weather. You

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cannot perfectly control them. So if you don't know how to answer the

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question, who do I become in the energy of doubt,

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uncertainty, fear, and stress, you can't

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live a powerful life. That is very profound.

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And I know we don't have all the time today,

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but, one of the most impactful events in my life

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personally was I was at the trade center on 911.

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And I you know, when you talked about trauma, I was like,

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I have a lot of questions. But but You have to

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ask them. But, but no. You mean, you're right. Like, you know,

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like, who you are in those moments when it's raining bullets is really

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who you are. You know, when the weather is awesome and it's

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great, like, I mean, anybody could be nice, but, like, when

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when it's poor and hell and rain fire, like,

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that's who you really are. Lincoln has a quote, like, if you really wanna

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understand distributed him, you know,

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give somebody power, then you really understand them. But I say no. I think you

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really understand someone when it's raining bullets and who

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comes out. Is it, I guess, a leader or someone

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that or is it just someone who will just lash out everyone around them?

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I think. Yeah. Yep. And then, you

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know, I I think a really useful definition for leadership and,

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again, like, don't get I want your listeners to not get attached to, like, it

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doesn't matter if you're leading 25 people or it's just this idea

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of, like, do I wanna be powerful in my own life?

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Well, the most powerful person so my work, if I had to say, like, what

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is my work, my fundamental expertise, it's really the relationship between the brain,

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emotions, and relationships. So I work across all human relationships.

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Entrepreneurs, c suite of big companies, individuals,

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families, parents. And so there's

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this idea here of, you know, like, if

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I really want to be

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have effect, have influence, have power

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and, of course, I don't mean power over people. I just mean to be

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authentic and to to really have a vision and understand how

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to direct people towards my vision. I think the the most

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the best definition I can give you for leadership is it is the

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person in the room

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with the most potent emotional signal.

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That makes sense if we're herd creatures. I'm sorry. No. No. You go ahead. You

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go ahead. No. It makes sense if we're herd creatures. Right? We're social creatures and,

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I the I see a lot of my dogs. Right?

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I I live with a bunch of dogs. I've always had dogs almost all my

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life, and they always look to the

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alpha. Right, and the alpha dog to kind of guide the,

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the ship, so to speak. Right? And it's always the smallest dog

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except for one. It's always the

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dachshund, right, that kind of drives the bigger

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dogs. I think true? Is

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it always the the smallest dog that does it? I've only had in

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my experience, the only I had an Irish wolfhound

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who was kind of the alpha, and then ever the

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2 alphas since he passed away have been the small dogs.

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So I'm not really sure if that's the it's a a

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true statistical mean statistically meaningful observation or

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just the luck of the draw. That's really

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interesting. But I think your point is a is an excellent one, which is, like,

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how you establish your authority

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so people can trust you, so you can lead people to the vision really

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depends on, like, how convicted are you in your own energy.

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Right. Right. That's an interesting point.

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What what are your thoughts on

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you know, right now, we're focused on the cognitive aspects of AI.

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Do you think we'll ever get machines to understand emotions?

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I think about this a lot. You know,

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Here's what I'm gonna tell you. Okay? So in this really

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this really sort of segues well with what we just talked about.

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And you're hearing people say this in other ways about AI. AI

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is only as good as the information that

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we're able to feed it. So if I

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say if I go because I do so in addition to, like,

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doing a lot of work. I'd I my my work really has 2 branches. 1

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is all my kind of business based work. This is, like, with the entrepreneurs, the

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founders, the the, c suites, things like this. But then I

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also have a clinical practice, so I I see patients.

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If I I guess what I wanna say here is this, is

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that if I go to see a therapist, a psychologist,

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or whomever, and I'm sort of talking about

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my feelings where peep where most people start, they have no

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idea what they're actually saying. I could see that. They

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kinda have a sense. You know what I mean? Like, they they they have a

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sense that they're because what happens is people will come in and they'll say I'm

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in a lot of pain. Make the pain stop. And they'll they'll

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be able to say all the ways all the things that

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hurt, but they won't be able to say what can fix it. So they'll say,

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like, my spouse is doing x, y, and z, my kids, my

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coworkers. Right? But if you say to them, okay. Well, what do you think the

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solution is? They're gonna say, well, obviously, if I knew what the solution was, like,

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I wouldn't be here talking to you, which but my point here is

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that going back to this idea of,

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it is a motion that is setting the temperature for this planet.

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Until the human brain changes, until we're able to, like,

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biohack and fundamentally change the human nervous system, Human

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consciousness rises on the energy of emotion.

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Now for most of us, we've got a lot of messages. If you think about

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what's happening to the the brain during childhood, it's

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astounding. It's you know, a 1000000 neural connections are being built

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every single second in years 1 through 0 through

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basically 3. I mean, just the amount of development that the the brain undergoes

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is is astounding in childhood. And so we're getting a lot of

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messages in childhood to stop paying attention to our our

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emotions. And I'm not even saying catastrophic traumatizing ones.

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Sit down. I I didn't wanna sit down. I wanted to stand

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up. Wear this. I didn't feel like I wanted to wear

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that. Eat that. I don't think my body likes that.

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Keep your mouth shut. Go tell her you're sorry. I'm not right?

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So from the moment we're born, we're getting a lot of messages. And even from

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parents who I think, by a lot of accounts, do a really good job

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to stop really having this deep emotional and somatic intelligence. Do you see

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what I'm saying? Yeah. Yeah. We're we're kind of shutting out

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that that in in hate nature. And it it's really resonates with me

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because I have, 3 kids. I have an 18 month old and,

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a 9 year old and a 14 year old. So, like, I'm kind of seeing

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it from Yeah. And I'm an I'm an only child. So, like, so the whole

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sibling relationship thing is foreign to me. So it's fascinating

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to watch that develop. And,

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it's, you're right. Like, even this morning, I'm like, would you please get in your

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car seat? Like, you can't. He did not wanna go in his

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car seat today. But Yeah. But but the point here is if you're thinking

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about who is programming the you know, like, how how do we and I don't

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mean, like, Jim and Susie who are the programmers. They're not a but

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it's like there's sort of a collective point I'm trying to make about the

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planet is how in touch are we really

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with sort of the somatic and emotional intelligence on our own body. So then if

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I'm designing a thing to help people feel better, can

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it? And then when people come to use it, then this is a

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really big point. If I come and I and I cannot stress

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this point enough, people will always start asking the wrong

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question. I could see that. Right? Because it's

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it people tend to focus on symptoms, not necessarily the

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cause. And maybe that's even doubly so. Because they're

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they're basically gonna say, like, how can I get my how can I get these

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people around me to change? Right. You want the answer? That's that's

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Save yourself, like, years of their you cannot.

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So the question then becomes, how do I renegotiate my reality

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if I assume these people, whether they're my customers, the people

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on my team, my kids, my wife, are not it's not reasonable for me

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to expect that they're gonna make a massive behavioral shift. So the very

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question that people always start to ask is never the right one.

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Right. So how do I interface with the machine? Can the

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machine really I I don't know. But I would say if I had to

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make a hierarchy, human emotion will be the fine if it ever

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happens, it will be the final frontier. And that's what I think is so powerful

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and so sacred about emotion.

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Right. And I think it would be interesting to not not

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not now, but, like, ponder, like, what was the origin of

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emotion? Like, what what made that happen? Right? Because it's so

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inherent to from what we can tell advanced nervous systems. Right? Like, it

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just seems to was it the

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was it the first driver? Was it the prime driver for what we

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call intelligence or, dare I say, consciousness? Right? Because that's a whole loaded

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word too. It is a loaded word. I I've

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been watching a lot of, Star Trek The Next Generation, like, reruns,

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and it's always interesting to see how the eighties

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nineties impression of AI was compared to what we see

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today. Right? So, you know, a big plot point, if you're

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not familiar with it is the android character,

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has no emotions. Right? So he processes things only from, like, a logical

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point of view. And, like, one of his character arts throughout the show

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is he's trying to figure out how to work with humans and human emotions.

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Right? Like so it's kinda like it's interesting to see that.

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Right? And then and then they they they and then there's another character

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who that's all she does. Like, she's an empath. Right? She can sense

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emotions. So you kinda have somebody who's, like, cranked to 11 on

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the e IQ scale, and you have someone who's there cranked to 11

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on the EQ square scale, which I I don't know how you feel about the

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EQ term that floats out there in ether.

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But it's interesting to kinda see them oddly enough in the show, they

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generally don't interact. Now they think about it. But,

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all of which is to say, I think you're right. Like, you know, will that

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ever be something that machines can approximate?

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Or do they have to approximate it to

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understand it? And I say understand in the sense of be able to

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process that as process that as input. Right. Right? Because all the

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call centers, right, they hear when you're angry. Like, there's an AI in there

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that supposedly hears here detects anger and then routes you to a person

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sooner. So sorry. I cut you off. Oh, no. I think what you're saying

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is really interesting. Yeah. So to your point, like, will what what

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does it mean? What is and then also, there's this other question is, like, what

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does relief look like? So and, you know, this is

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a question I think we sit with in the field of of mental

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health quite readily is, like, what does recovery look like? What

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does healing look like? So if

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I can get somebody out

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of a a a bad specific situation,

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that could be a win. What I tend to see, though, is there's an

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enduring there's a very, very enduring underlying pattern. My favorite

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quote in the world is everywhere you go, there you are. So I I can't

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tell you how many people I have worked with who swear, like, as soon as

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I change this job, it's gonna be better. As soon as I fix up my

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house, it's gonna be better. As soon as I get a new relationship, it's gonna

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be better. Well, you know, you get a you you change the job, the

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relationship, the house, whatever. You get a spike for, I don't know, 6 weeks,

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6 months, but then you return to the underlying pattern because

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you're the one carrying the blueprint. Right? That's why I wrote energy rising. It's like,

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what does it actually take to fundamentally alter

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our nervous system so we can really live these in

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empowering, meaningful lives that feel

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like a relief. I think so many of us are just running around so stressed

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out, so clenched. So, you know, could could an AI device,

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like, help you solve the specific you know, you could talk to the thing now.

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It's like my kid's acting up. What should I do? And it will it will

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give you a a reasonably intel like, regulate yourself

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first. And but the thing about human emotion is, like,

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the the logic behind a lot of

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the mindset mental health work is not rocket

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science. You know, I do a lot of work in

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couples. I do a lot of work in couples. And we say in couples

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therapy, the couple has the same fight for 50 years.

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This is true. It doesn't change a millimeter. The

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details will be different, but the substance of the argument is always, you don't respect

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me. No. You don't respect me. No. You don't love me. No. You don't love

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me. So, you know, if I if I

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don't change the underlying pattern, I'm just

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gonna keep seeing it over and over and over and over again.

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So how does the machine get into that? I don't know.

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Well and I don't think people have realistically figured it out either. Right? Like,

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you you described so many people I've known in my life,

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you know, that they were always my

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mom would call it chasing rainbows. Right? I get the new job. I get the

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new car. I get the new house. I get this. I get that. Then everything

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will be better. Ironically, my mom was one of the worst people in that regard.

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God rest her soul. But she could always pick it out on other

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people. Pathologically optimistic or what was your mom's opinion? It was more

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it was more like everything's gonna be fine when this happens. Okay.

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Yeah. Like, that type of when this happens, everything will be fine. And

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then to your point, like, when you show up, when x

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happens, things aren't fine. Like, you know, maybe for a couple of

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days. But, like, it was something that another family member,

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said that, you know, something to the effect of and

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there's he said it way more crass because he's a member of my family.

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And, he said something to the effect of, I bet

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even in heaven, the toilets get clogged. Right?

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The idea is that there's always a problem somewhere. Right? And just

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I don't wanna attribute more deep thought than he warrants

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or less than he warrants, but I think the idea was, like, look. Even even

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if you have everything you want, something bad's gonna happen. And

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then the the real question is, how do you deal with that? Do you

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scream at the sky and say, oh, or do you just get a plunger and

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deal with it? Right? Right. Well and also too, like, I think, you know,

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I think there's so much power in in language. It's really kind of one of

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the defining features of what makes our

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species, humans. You know, we understand, like, why we think we have the

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intelligence we have. So I think words really carry a a power and an energy.

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I think what's really interesting is a a synonym

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for problem is pain. So in

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energy rising, I talk a lot about emotional pain. And I don't mean

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excruciating trauma. I mean, my definition for

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emotional pain is anytime your nervous system gets triggered in a

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bad way. So you're frustrated, you're irritated, you're annoyed, you're stressed,

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you're upset. You're bothered all the way up to you're enraged. Right?

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You're sad. You're scared. I mean, all of it. So a a

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real synonym for problem is actually pain.

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Because until you have and this is why I keep saying

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your consciousness rises on the energy of your emotion. Until

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you have a bad feeling, what I call a painful feeling,

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you do not have a problem. This is

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a good story. Like it's clogged and you got you got no feeling

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about it, like, in other words, you're like, oh, I knew you know, there's a

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plumber coming tomorrow. It's good. It's gonna get fixed. You don't have a a meaningful

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problem. If you get fired from your job and you're

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like, you know what? I didn't really like that job anyway. Like, I actually kinda,

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you know, I gotta figure it out, but I feel more relief than anything. You

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don't really have a problem. So what I'm what I'm saying here

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is human reality is defined

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by the energy of emotion. And so when we want to understand our lives

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powerfully, we wanna have powerful relationships. We wanna have meaningful

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satisfaction. We wanna have an enduring sense of we're

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okay, worthiness. This is the whole reason I wrote

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energy rising. And I think, again, you know, energy rising is broken down into

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what I call 8 neuroenergetic codes. Each one

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is like a a blueprint for how to work with your nervous

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system. There's tons of practical examples. There's case studies.

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It's it's really quite I know I'm biased. I hope every author feels this way

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about their book. I it's really an extraordinary book. Very cool.

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I I definitely I see that it's available on,

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Audible as well as Kindle and paper. And Noble. I'm

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actually, this is I've been all I,

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I've traveled all over the world to sort of talk about the book. I'm headed

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to Copenhagen. I just got back from San Diego. I got back from Michigan. I'm

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going down to Saint Louis. But, this this weekend, I'm doing my first this

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is I'm kind of excited because I haven't done anything like this. I've done tons

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of events, but, I'm doing my first book signing in a bookstore.

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So I feel like I have a very yeah. Like, a very cute sort of

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nostalgic feeling about that. Very cool. Very

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cool. I, I definitely gonna pick up the audio book because I

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spend a lot of time in the car and a lot of time in it.

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Yeah. Yeah. Definitely won't definitely wanna check it out. And for those of you, that

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Andy is nodding. He's, he's been quiet because he's had some we'll

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just blame it on the eclipse. How about that? Because everybody's gonna blame it today

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on the eclipse. But yeah. So Yeah.

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No. I I really appreciate this conversation. I know it's kind of a bit different

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from the usual, but I I mean, I I I think it's important because as

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we build out more and more intelligent systems, the word loaded

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language we use in terms of intelligent is not necessarily emotional

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intelligence. And from what you're saying, and,

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I do agree, like, emotional intelligence or emotions

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are a even richer carrier of meaning

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and depth and content than kind

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of, you know, just good old fashioned left brained,

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type stuff. And I I don't know. I don't I can't tell if you cringed

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or whatever because I've had different people tell me, like, the left brain, right brain

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thing isn't a real thing. That's that's probably warrants its

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own episode and or book. Those things that we

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talk about in the in the brain, and this will come as no surprise. Those

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Those things that we talk about in the brain and sort of the the popular

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vernacular, the popular press Right. It's it's aggressively

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oversimplified, but that's okay. You know, it's like people think the amygdala is

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about fear. You know? I think the amygdala is, like, the most famous piece of

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the brain, probably. Right. Right. The the amygdala is really about emotional learning.

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So it's kind of accurate that it's about fear, but it's much broader than that.

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You know what I mean? Interesting. So Yeah. Yeah. The love and my brain thing.

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It's hard to collapse. That is. Yeah. Years of

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study that you've done into a meme. I mean, that's

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that's just that is that is a level of compression which I

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think anyone's ever gonna figure out. But I will know. But I I actually go

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the opposite. I actually go the opposite way. So, like, I think

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I think it's really cool that, so I've worked in the

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ivory tower. Like I said, lots of lot of, academic

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medicine background. You know, the I I finished

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my training out in Boston, and, I

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started doing these, I because we had all this amazing

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information, data research on stress and the

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body and our relationships, and a lot of it was, like, locked up in the

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ivory tower. And so I actually the way my this kind of

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dimension of my career started is I have always been into,

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like, public service and and advocacy

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around mental health. This is just always been something in my family system and

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my childhood. So I started going to the library

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and giving talks for free. Just, you know, I'm like Interesting. The

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the well-being brain stress connection or whatever. Right?

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And I joke that I became library famous. Like, the librarians

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would be like, we it's standing room only. We

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haven't seen a crowd this big in the library. And what

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I realized again is, like, people are so

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hungry and so curious as as they rightfully should be

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about their life. And how our

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brain works is such a big piece of the puzzle. So I actually

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don't get a as long as people aren't giving dangerous advice,

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the simplification, I think, is essential, and I actually think

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it's a really beautiful thing. That's a good way to put it. That's a

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good way to put it. And I know we're coming close on time, but you

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said something that made me wonder. And, again, I get this kinda

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gets that. What NLP has two meanings, natural

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language processing and AI world, but also in the sales world, you'll hear it

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uses neurolinguistic programming. And you said that language is

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very powerful. Is that

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is that a is is neurolinguistic programming, like, is that a real

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thing? Is that pop size? Is it somewhere in the middle? Is it kinda like,

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you know, the amygdala example you gave? Tell me. I don't I've heard of it.

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I don't know. Tell me. Give me a a recap. Neurolinguistic programming is

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just the idea of how you say things and how you phrase things

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shift not just the way you influence other people, but also in how you

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influence yourself. Yeah. I mean, if

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if that's the premise of it, I I again, like, I don't know anything

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about but I I'll sort of talk about, you know, why do we think

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talk therapy works? Well, we thought think talk therapy works is if

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you really think about the neuroscience of it is emotions

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are basically subcortical processes. Meaning, they're they're kind

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of held in you know, so there you have the the subcortical regions of the

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brain, and then you have the cortical, the more advanced. This is where we think

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about thinking and emotion regulation and all this executive function stuff

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that you hear people talking about. So we think that the the

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healthiest brain is an integrated brain, a brain that

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knows what it feels and feels what it knows. Right? So what happens

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in talk therapy, for example, is I'm running this

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program, and the sensations in my body feel like

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I suck. I suck. I'm no good. Nobody wants me. I can't get what I

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want. My life is bad. I don't count. And so what

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happens when we start to take those emotional sensations, which are wordless,

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they're just this emotional energy, and we translate them into words, and we start to

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say, like, oh, is it true that I'm all bad

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all the time? No. Is there any evidence

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to the contrary? Or if you think about trauma processing, what happens

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with trauma processing is because the trauma is by definition

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so horrible, the brain says, let us not think about it. Let us avoid

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it. Let us repress it. Well, we we are so clear. We

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have tremendous amount of evidence based treatments and really good studies that show

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that when people talk about the trauma, yeah, it doesn't feel

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great to talk about a really painful thing. But what happens is we

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get to organize an inherently chaotic event

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into words. And when we when we put the

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linear kind of the linear model of language

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on these emotions, it really is quite

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transformative. So the ways that we talk about ourselves,

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it matters profoundly. It also matters,

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like I think a lot of times this is why I don't really tell people

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to do affirmations. Like, if I stand in front of the mirror and go,

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I am so great. Everyone loves

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me. I am the most interesting, attractive,

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smart, con my brain's like

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bull bull bull So,

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again, I would much more rather have someone say, what

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is the edge? And I talk a lot about this energy rising. What

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is the edge of what I could say that is true?

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Right. So instead of, for example, saying, I don't give a shit what people think

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about me, It's more true to say, I actually

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really care a lot what people think about me. And even though I

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care that they think this way about me, I'm still willing to take

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these risks and do x, y, and z. It's like we've

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got to link language to the truth of our emotion in

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order to evolve the emotion so we can become more

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powerful. So that was kind of a long way of saying, yeah. Like, I absolutely

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think that the way we language our emotional

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experiences matters profoundly to us and other people.

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That's a great way to put it. And I suspect that also is probably a

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big part of why when you write about something emotional or traumatic

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Correct. It's very cathartic. It's very cathartic. Correct. Because what you're

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actually doing at the neural level is you're you're, like,

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organizing in a linear fashion something that's inherently

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nebulous and a lot of times overwhelming. So then then it becomes

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this, like, integrated moment, and people get not just

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instant relief, but they tend to get lasting relief.

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Right. That's a good point. That's a good point.

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This has been an awesome conversation. Again, the book is energy

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energy rising, the neuroscience of leading with emotional power. It's

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on Amazon,

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Kindle. It's also available on Dead Tree. You get it at

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Barnes and Noble. All the formats, that I can tell. And

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I definitely would love to have you back in the show and kind of, with

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better, planning and kind of a better structure.

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And, definitely, maybe on a day where there's not an eclipse, although

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causation is not shot. Correlation is not causation.

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Yeah. And

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one final question. How did you get into this? Like, you mentioned kind of

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how how did you get into like, what what made you get into this

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and and what made you, like, see all this stuff in the ivory

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tower, but it's not out there helping people? Yeah. Like what?

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So I come from a a lineage of psychologists. So,

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like, our our family dynamics are very interesting.

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My father is a psychologist. So my father is a psychologist. My

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mother, worked with she was a teacher who worked with immigrants.

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My brother is significantly disabled. So I grew up, I

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think, in a very in a very

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complex family system, but also in a lot of ways, a a really beautiful family

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system where people sort of talked

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not always in the healthiest way, but people talked a lot about emotion.

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And this idea of service was always so,

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I'm Catholic. You know, my faith is is a big deal in but I've I've

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really I think, like, a lot of us, we've struggled with our faith. Like, what

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does it really mean to serve? And and so, I

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started doing a lot of, international humanitarian

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aid. So, actually, I first started in US politics. And the reason I went into

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politics was, I was interested

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in advocacy and changing systems and thinking about

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the well-being of the of the people. So I worked in US politics. I worked

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at the White House. I worked on several US presidential campaigns.

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I don't know if this is gonna make sense, but I got tired of the

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politics of politics and became I'm I'm much more of a a

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substance and policy person. So I I went to Georgetown.

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I got my first master's and started doing a lot of international

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humanitarian aid, a lot of international development work. And what was

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very interesting to me was everywhere I went,

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I was seeing the same story. I was seeing whether

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I was in Chicago or Detroit or Buenos

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Aires or Abuja or Lagos or I did a lot of work

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in a small country called Lesotho or Kenya or South Africa.

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Hope always looked like hope. Rage always

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looked like rage. Trauma always looked

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like trauma. The situational sit circumstances

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are obviously, of course, different. But, again, this idea of this,

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like, universal longing of human emotion. And so

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I I was working in all these traumatized places. And even if you think about

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political work, like the right to health care, the right to

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to work with dignity, you know, with my brother, we've we've thought a lot about

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what does what does it mean to work with dignity. These

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are about fundamental

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existential issues of human dignity and power.

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And I said, I always kind of had a scientific mind, so I said I'm

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gonna get a PhD. No one was. People who are saying, like, we would love

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to figure out how to how better address trauma, but, like, we can't just throw

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money at things we don't understand. So, like, what's the science behind this? And I

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tend to be somebody who if there's a problem, I'm gonna fix it. So I

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decided to, much to my family's shock, go back to school and

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get a PhD, and I became a neuropsychologist. And so one

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of the things I think is kind of surprising to people is I think there's

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a profound social justice argument to be made based on

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our biology. I think when we repeatedly ask the human system to

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do things the human system cannot do, whether it's

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be this hyper productivity nonsense, whether it's

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isolation, whether it's, you know, working without dignity, whether

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it's the lack of relationships, you can't sustain it.

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You cannot sustain it. Yeah. It's almost like our truth

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flexibility. Told by our flesh. Right? That is a truth told by our

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flesh. No. That's a good point. No. That's a good point. It's

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almost like our flexibility comes to haunt us because we can

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temporarily act in ways that are against the

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flesh, so to speak. But eventually, you

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kinda have to snap back. Right? Like Yeah. But for what meaning? For what meaning?

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So what so, like, so you can work 70 hours a week for what? The

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only reason you're doing it is if you look at the underlying fear, and we're

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gonna run out of time here, the underlying emotional input impetus, because it's

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the emotional impetus that gives rise to behavior, is fear.

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The only reason people overwork like that is because, you know, the the

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brain has something called loss aversion. The brain's always looking for a

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sense of worthiness and and, like, I am

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sufficient. So, you know, people are trying to amass, amass, amass,

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amass, amass. Why? Because it never feels like enough. Why?

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Because they're afraid. So what once again, until you get into the underlying

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emotional energy, you cannot meaningfully change human behavior. And until you don't

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until you change human behavior, you cannot meaningfully change systems.

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Very well said. Very well said. And I will end on that note,

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and we'll have our AI, Bailey, finish the show. And there we have

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it. Another thought provoking episode of the data driven

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podcast wrapped up neatly with insights that surely tickled your

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neurons. A huge thank you to doctor Julia Deganji for

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joining us and sharing her expertise on the marvels of the human mind and

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its parallels with artificial intelligence. If today's

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