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Today, I want to talk about your sexuality.

Yes, I'm not shy

about talking

about sexuality and intimacy, sensuality, it's such a big part

of our lives. And when we talk about self care when we talk

about

a healing, when we talk about getting to know ourselves better

when we talk about wanting to improve the relationships

in our lives. We cannot exclude sexuality because it makes us us

to know what you desire to know what you need to know what your

preferences are, give you a deep sense of self. And the more

clear you are with yourself about what you need, and want,

the more confident you're going to be, the more clear you're

going to be with the people around you. And the easier those

relationships are gonna be flowing.

So

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So when we first explore our bodies, we usually in our teens,

some people are younger, some are a little bit older. But we

find out that we can give ourselves pleasure and that is

so incredibly powerful, exciting, and healthy. I'm all

for

self exploration and finding out what is best for you. Again, the

more you know what gives you pleasure, what makes you feel

great, the better connected you are to yourself and the more

confident you can be.

There's a lot of people out there who are feeling shame for

what they desire for what they feel. And that is a shame.

For people to feel shame, that is a shame because then they

start suppressing it and start feeling weird about it and start

hiding and start not being honest with people around them.

And this is when all the BS starts. And depression can even

start by you suppressing a very important side of yourself.

Of course, no one is getting harmed. You are also not harming

yourself. And there's consent

with the practices that you desire, right and cannot be.

Yeah, let's say too far.

are off, where people are getting hurt, animals are

getting hurt, or you are getting hurt.

In that case, seek out help. But find a way to talk about us

there is groups out there

where you can meet and talk about your preferences. And if

they're not totally socially acceptable, that at least you

can talk about them and find people who can listen. So there

is ways to channel that energy out.

If you are

very sexual, and you have to suppress it, because maybe you

are with a partner who is not, or maybe you grew up in an

environment, where it's totally not okay to express sexuality to

even talk about it, you are suffering internally, and you

might not even

be aware of it, you are shutting out a big part of yourself, you

are trying to tame and suppress that

strong energy that is inside of you. But it will come out and

weird ways it will come out and you know, weird.

It can be pretty much everything when we when we suppress our

sexuality, sexuality, you can become sick from it, you can

become a very awkward person around the people that you are

attracted to, you can live in total isolation because you feel

so much shame.

So it is really important to be curious about it. And to, to

find out what is it that you like, and then how to

communicate that to your potential partner, or to your

partner right now. And those relationships don't have to be

rigid relationships are meant to flow and change and move. And

sometimes when we open up to a partner world something, it

changes the whole relationship for the better. Yes, sometimes

you might

face rejection. But you have to have that willingness to face

rejection, you have to have that bravery, that courage to face

react, rejection, to, to stand up for yourself and to know,

yes, this is what I like, this is what I'm into. And this is

what I'm going to communicate to you if the other person is not

into it. Of course, you will not be able to live it so to say,

but at least you have expressed it then. And that alone is so

incredibly powerful. And with most partners will increase

trustworthiness, when they know what you're all about, what

gives you pleasure, what is good for your body, then they can

either choose to engage in it and help you out. Or they can

say no, this is absolutely not for me and yeah, we will have to

find a solution here to to reconnect on a different level.

So what I want to encourage with this episode is

become curious about your sensuality, your sexuality,

again, explore, read, watch little videos, there's tons of

information online and find out what it is that brings you joy

and pleasure. It is an area in your life that is

or can be very nurturing, very healing. And yeah, it can deepen

the relationships with yourself and with the people around you.

And to start, I would say,

enjoy and accept your body fully, just like it is when you

have a shower. Be grateful for your beautiful and healthy body.

Be comfortable walking around naked in your house. Be

comfortable

showing up in front of a mirror and looking at yourself and

laughing at the parts that you don't really like.

The more we accept ourselves the more we will be accepting with

others and help others to be accepting of their bodies to and

that is so incredibly powerful. It

If you get to help somebody to like their body better, my God,

it is a huge

bonding, it is a huge trust that can spark between two people.

So try to live in full acceptance with your first self

first. And then maybe you can help your partner to do the

same. If you are single, focus only on yourself and give it all

to you enjoy yourself and really explore what feels nice.

You need to let that energy out, you need to, yeah, find a

channel on how to express it. And you know, I've talked about

it.

And season two or three, I think, where I was observing

Mick Jagger, for instance, or

prints, or other musicians that are out there, where you can

clearly see that they pour all their energy into their

instrument or into singing, it is their sexual energy that they

learn to use to create. So this is another thing that you can

learn to do when you're single, but also when you're in a

committed relationship is that you find ways to channel that

beautiful energy into something creative, and authentic and

something that reflects you 100%.

Sometimes people say yeah, when you masturbate a little bit too

much, then you waste energy. Yes, you reach climax, you reach

your orgasm, and it gives you pleasure, but only for a short

amount of time. Sometimes

giving yourself pleasure and not reaching an orgasm. And instead

channeling that energy into a creative project, something that

you want to build something that you want to.

Yeah, gift to others. So to say it can be art, it can be music,

it can be something that you

build out of wood and metal and stones, whatever it is, people

can sense that it is very genuine, it is very pure. It is

very unique to you.

So I think all I want to say today is that.

Be curious. And if you were suppressing it, find ways to

channel it out. As always, feel free to reach out to me and if

you want to,

like request another episode about this topic, too, for me to

go a little bit more into depth. Don't hold back. I just wanted

to let you know that yes, this topic is extremely important

when it comes to our mental and physical health. And it is very

exciting to explore. That's a good thing.

Stop suppressing. Stop feeling shame and guilt and learn to

talk about it with like minded people, with people that you

trust.

This is me for now. I have a guest here soon where we will be

talking about masculine sexuality. He is a coach. He is

a facilitator for man circle for man's work. And I'm so

incredibly blessed to be connected with him because I

learned so much from him and I invited him onto the show for

you to learn from him as well. All right, take really good care

of yourself. Don't forget to subscribe. Don't forget to leave

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that. And I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye