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And now let's get into our recent conversation

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with Dave Chatterjee.

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Dave is a cybersecurity expert

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and has a compelling story that you need to hear.

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Dave believes tennis saved his life.

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Have a listen and let us know what you think.

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- Who are you and why do we care?

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- You know, it's a great question.

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Who am I?

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Well, professionally, I'm considered a cybersecurity

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thought leader and subject matter expert.

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I was a professor at the University of Georgia

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for 23 years.

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I was a tenured professor there.

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And, you know, currently I'm affiliated

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with Duke University as an adjunct associate professor.

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And, you know, just like you all, I do podcasting.

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I have a book, published book.

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I have another book coming out.

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I author papers.

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I'm an also an editor of a journal.

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I teach classes.

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I get invited to deliver talks, moderate discussions.

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So I have a whole slew of thought leadership

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and consulting activities associated with cybersecurity.

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But if you would be talking to my family, my wife, my kids,

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and if you would ask them, "What is your dad's passion?"

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You wouldn't even finish the word they'd say tennis.

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In every room in this house, the tennis channel is on.

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I don't recollect missing a single Grand Slam final

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from my age of 10 when I was in India.

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I am still on top of pretty much every major match.

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I don't miss it.

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And my, one of my dreams was some professional player

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would hire me as a traveling coach.

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Despite not having a formal tennis pedigree,

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because my son, Victor Chatterjee,

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who was well known in the Georgia circuit,

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he was a junior national junior player.

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I traveled with him, you know, when he was doing his tennis.

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I took him out of a regular school.

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We were based in Athens.

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Both of them, both my kids went to Athens Academy.

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But my son was showing great promise.

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And so I was bringing him from Athens

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to Robbie Jean-Frizz Academy,

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where he was training under Jason.

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And I would drive from Athens to Johnson Ferry

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with him three days a week.

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And then we would travel to tournaments as well.

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So I've been tennised out or I've been into tennis since 2009.

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And I would be their coach.

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And then of course, when they grew up,

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they had their own coaches.

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But I would love to watch professional coaching.

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I know several of the coaches in the area.

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I also happen to know a couple of professional coaches.

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So when I'm watching matches, I will text them,

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telling them what so and so players should be doing.

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Not that they care.

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But I still offer my unsolicited advice.

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So I'm like all in when it comes to tennis.

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It's been, and I've often wondered, you know?

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That Dave, you're not that good a player.

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You're a decent player.

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I play four, maybe at some point I played four point five.

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But why do you care so much?

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Because I was a much better ping pong player,

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a much better badminton player.

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But I don't know there's something about the sport

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that has stuck with me.

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And I love the ceremonies when they declare the champions.

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And I'll stand up and I'll watch them getting crowned.

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And tears will start rolling down my eyes.

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And I'm still trying to figure out,

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why do I get so emotionally involved in a sport

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in which I was reasonable at, not great at it.

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But there is some connection that I'm still trying to figure out.

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So when this, you know, go daddy tennis or go tennis

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what cast opportunity came up, I'd said, you know,

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let's talk about it.

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And then of course, I had that incident.

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I'll let you tell me when I should share.

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But that's not in a brief, but in a lot of details

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on my background and who I am.

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That is fantastic.

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I've got a couple of connections as well.

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You said you're Professor UGA.

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You were a professor when my brother was there

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getting his masters.

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I believe you remember him.

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Yes.

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Yes, yes.

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But he was in my class.

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Oh, that's fantastic.

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I love it because I texted me the other day.

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Do you know Dave Chatterche?

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Yeah.

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And he responded that he remembers you.

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So that's fantastic.

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You said you're connected to Duke now.

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Yes.

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My stepdaughter, Collette, graduated from Duke in '22.

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I think it was.

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OK.

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So yeah, I've got connections there as well.

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And Bobby, can you imagine the drive from Athens

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to Jean-Eparie's Club on Johnson's Ferry?

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We say people will drive for a high level academy.

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That's dedication.

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I'm not going that far to C.J.

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He's a parker.

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I'm sorry.

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I would love Jason, but that's a drive.

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And you know what?

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We used to get there at 5.45 in the morning.

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So Jason would climb over the wall to hit with Victor at 6 a.m.

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I would go to Starbucks or whatever there was to get some coffee.

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And I would get one for Jason, one for myself.

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And I would watch them trade.

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And I tell you what, that was the best part of my day.

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Means I would enjoy this coaching, the squat.

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And people are learning.

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And I would say, wow, this is so nice.

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So yeah, there is something about the sport, about that training.

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And in fact, my son now has his own--

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he trains at the Bitsy Grand Academy.

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He works for Truace Bank.

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He graduated from Emory.

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And our daughter's played high school tennis.

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And she's, of course, a marathoner.

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So both of them were very-- are accomplished sports people

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over and above being very strong academically.

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So we achieved the dual goals of being scholar athletes.

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That's what we wanted for them.

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And what my wife and I was very supportive.

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Victor went online when online was

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and the cool thing to do.

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This was a free pandemic.

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And we took it on.

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And we had to provide a lot of support.

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My wife wasn't happy about it to start with.

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But I wanted to support him because he

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wanted to do something different.

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And it was quite the experience.

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Because when your kid is going through high school online,

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you have to make a lot of arrangements

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from tutors to making sure he can get a seat to take all his SAT exams.

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It was quite the commitment.

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It was quite the change management that we had to endure.

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And this is-- that is not a path.

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Either my wife or I had traveled.

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Because we were not collegiate athletes.

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However, we wanted to help him realize his dream.

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But at the same time, you thought

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that we were compromising on his academics.

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He was a good student.

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So we didn't know what we were doing.

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But there was such drive and desire.

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I said, Victor, do it.

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Do the best you can.

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We'll support you.

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So we went against the grain.

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And he almost maxed out the SAT score.

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Went on to go to memory.

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So it was a successful venture.

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But while we were going through it,

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it was rough.

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In fact, his college essay was titled Drive.

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Because we were driving everywhere.

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Plus, we had that drive to do something off the charts,

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which wasn't in our comfort zone and see how far we can go.

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So that's a story that is very close to my heart,

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because it kind of defined us as a family as well.

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And Dennis once again, cleared a huge role.

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But so that's--

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Bobby.

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So I get that, David.

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And Bobby is an expert in dealing with the parent.

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And sometimes the over-involved parent,

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I like the fact that you were willing to admit you

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knew I didn't know what you were doing.

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But you were figuring it out.

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You decided, hey, we're going to take this seriously.

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So we're going to be at home.

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And we're going to help.

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And I'm sure you were a pain in the ass, Jason,

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to tell him what to do and be in that parent.

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And Bobby's used to that.

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So that's-- I like Bobby.

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Does this sound familiar?

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Yes, yes it does.

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Let me share one more anecdote.

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So Genevary.

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Bobby Genevary was training the kids.

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And he was making the kids stand in front of the baseline

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and take the ball early.

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So I was watching the drill.

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And I walked up to Bobby and I said, Bobby, why shouldn't Victor

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stay back a little bit?

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So he has a little more time to hit the ball.

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But Bobby was so respectful.

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He says, yes, that's a good thing.

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But then he explained to me why he was doing it.

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Later on, I felt very ashamed.

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I said, why the hell am I trying to tell Bobby Genevary?

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Robby Genevary.

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What to do?

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But I can't help it.

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I'm also a professor.

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And sometimes they say little knowledge is a dangerous thing.

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So I thought I knew enough.

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And when your kid is involved, you feel that you have the right to.

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So my son, he was a coach and now he comes back and says, Dad, now I deal with parents.

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Now I think I can relate to what they were thinking when you were giving them feedback.

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Yes, absolutely.

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And that's like that of Bobby.

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That's got to be day in and day out.

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It's trying to manage the parent as well.

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Well, Bobby Genevary is a lot more patient than I am.

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Because I would have acquired the key.

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I can say that.

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I mean, you ought to be a degree of trust.

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If you're sending somebody, let them teach.

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Yeah.

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It's a drill.

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There's a purpose to everything.

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And again, if you knew the way Robby played, Robby was very much a bass slider.

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So he was obviously trying to instill something that maybe he wanted a little bit more in his

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games.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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But you know, I have a lot of respect for because I'm an educator myself.

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So when I see people training coaching, and I know a lot of coaches in this area and a lot

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of respect for them, I'm even now I take some lessons from time to time.

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So I'm absolutely loved it.

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It's a phenomenal sport.

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And then of course, the story comes at some point, but it's been a very interesting relationship

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I've had with the sport.

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Yeah, it sounds like it.

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And this is the second time you've mentioned the story.

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So I won't make you say it again.

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Tell us the way I remembered in my head is tennis saved your life in some way.

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So please tell us tell us what happened to you.

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Absolutely.

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So, you know, I was playing in one of the leagues.

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It's a new league that has come up where you get to challenge and you have these matches.

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So I was in the quarter finals and I was playing a probably a 3035 or old, much younger

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man in great shape.

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And my style of play is I try to push you to the third set and then I wear you down.

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That's the way I like to play.

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But then he was a lot stronger than me physically.

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So he turned the tables on me and he started not taking enough of the time that we get during

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the change over.

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So to keep up with him, I was getting a little winded.

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So we were once at all, third set, we were one one.

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And at that point, I would never quit.

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But then I felt a certain heaviness right on my chest on the left side, which I've never

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felt before.

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And I would normally not quit because I knew that I had a chance if I stayed on.

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But then something told me that they've stopped.

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You got to stop.

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So I stopped.

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I walked up to him, shook his hands and I said, my friend, I think I need to just take it

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easy and maybe get some help.

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Fortunately, nothing severe or dramatic happened on the court.

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I got some rest.

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Then I drove back to my home, came in, told my wife about it.

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I was feeling a little uncomfortable, but nothing severe.

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Had my dinner, went upstairs to lie down, I laid down on the side and that discomfort

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kind of increased a little bit.

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And I almost felt like I was, you know, there was some numbness happening as well.

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I don't know if it was anxiety or what, but I just came down the stairs and I don't know

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where I said, look, I think you need to drive me to the hospital.

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And normally I've never taken aspirin in my life.

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I checked the medical closet and there was aspirin, I just took two.

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I didn't know why I took it, I just took it.

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And then I walked up to the car and I was leaning against the car door and I was feeling

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very uncomfortable.

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And I kept telling her, can you please come quick, this is not good.

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And so I got in the car and I almost was convinced something bad was about to happen.

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And then she was driving me out of the subdivision and I'm like, whoa, what is this?

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I've never experienced anything like that.

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It wasn't severe, but it was uncomfortable.

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I was breathing just fine.

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I wasn't sweating or anything.

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So anyhow, but fortunately, as soon as she left the subdivision, maybe the meds had kicked

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in, I started feeling a lot better.

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And so, and I had been to ER twice for different reasons.

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I didn't want to go back to ER again.

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So I said, let's drive, I'll get some fresh air.

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And maybe I'll be fine.

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The aspirin has kicked in.

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It must have been something, but I wouldn't worry about it too much.

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So we came back home, went off to bed the next day I was fine, but then I decided to take

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that one aspirin every day.

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However, we had a trip, international trip coming up in about 10 days.

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So I thought maybe I should just go to my cardiologist and just get this checked because it happened.

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But there was no, but then it didn't happen again.

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And I, in fact, went back to the tennis court to see if I could, if this would again, re-acquire.

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And I was just playing some light tennis, nothing happened.

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I even walked, walked up and down the slopes to see if those activities would trigger it.

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I was fine, but still I went to the doctor.

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And then he asked me and I told him about what had happened.

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He says, you know, why don't you go to North East Georgia Medical Center?

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You'll get a CT scan done and I will take a look and let you know.

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The CT scan showed major clogging.

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And supposedly the artery which is referred to as the Widowmaker artery was clogged about 90%.

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And he was so concerned he wouldn't even let me out of the hospital there.

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He got me registered next day.

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I had catheterization and they found out that I couldn't get stents that wouldn't be possible

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because of the location of the clogging.

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It was a, it would have been a very high risk surgery.

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So they decided to do a double bypass.

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And the doctor clearly told me my cardiologist that if you had traveled abroad and if you hadn't

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come to me, if you had traveled abroad and you thought that you'll be taking up an aspirin

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day and you'll be fine, you were this close to getting a heart attack.

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And if you had the heart attack, it would have been fatal.

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You wouldn't have survived it.

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So and if you didn't tell me that you were feeling that you felt that stiffness while playing,

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I may not even have ordered the CT scan test.

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And again, I don't want to put words in the doctor's mouth.

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This is my recollection because the podcast, it's going to be out there.

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So this is my recollection of our conversation.

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But definitely if I wasn't at the tennis court playing intensely, I wouldn't have known

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that the clogging was that severe.

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So that was the, that was one connection with tennis.

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And then after surgery, my surgeon comes to me and says, they're, I'm glad you've been

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playing tennis.

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I've been trying to lead a healthy life because you did very well with your surgery.

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My wife was with me and she just gets a little concerned with my overdose of tennis.

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So tennis is not necessarily a good thing in her life.

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She calls herself a tennis widow.

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So I was almost dreading the fact that the doctor will tell her that he needs to stop.

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But the reverse.

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He said, no, you, glad you play, you should play.

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tennis actually saved your life.

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I said, well, that's used to me because I thought I was messing things up because many of my friends

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will say, they, you've turned 60, 61, you're playing singles with 30, 35 year olds.

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Are you okay?

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I said, I enjoyed the competition and that keeps me going.

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So I want to push myself and see how well I do.

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So I thought my doctor will say, you've got to stop that.

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Just keep playing casual doubles, but he didn't say that he said, keep doing what you're doing.

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And actually, you feel a lot better now after the surgery.

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The good news was my heart wasn't damaged because it didn't have a heart attack.

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That would have been really bad.

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And according to the doctor, both my lungs and heart checked out great.

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So now my surgery happened on the 20th of June.

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Today is the 12th of September.

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I feel amazing.

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Absolutely amazing.

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I haven't gone back to tennis full, full flow yet.

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I've been cautious.

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But one of these days, I'll get back on the court and resume what I absolutely enjoy.

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We will get you on court on November 1st at our Fall Festival, for sure.

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I'll be there.

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The story has one thing that I have a question about, which is what about on court?

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What about being on court was the catalyst for your doctor to order the CT scan?

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Why was that important?

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So if I understand your question, let's say if I hadn't played tennis, right?

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If I didn't play that match, because see, I've not had any symptoms and I've not had that

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feeling ever.

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You know, I do my share of going to the gym, working out, I do Pilates, I do yoga.

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I've never had that heaviness in my chest feeling.

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When I had my initial healthcare checkup, I went through all the nuclear tests and all

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that stuff.

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The doctor had found some evidence of black formation.

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This was, say, in October of 24.

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And he had said, come back to me in three months, but nothing severe, severe enough to lead

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to what happened ultimately, the surgery.

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So I assume that I was doing all the right things, so that little clogging that was there,

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was, you know, that they found will probably go away or, but in six months time, there was

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such an increase.

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Even the doctor was surprised.

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And I probably hindsight, I should have gone back to the doctor within three months and

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had myself checked again, but I didn't.

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I waited till this happened.

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And you know what, if it didn't, if I hadn't played that tennis match, and if I didn't experience

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that, I would have thought I was just fine, and I would have just gone to Europe because

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we were all packed.

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So it was a blessing.

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And initially I thought, I wish I hadn't played that match because it triggered something

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that didn't need to happen.

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But hindsight, I'm glad I played that match.

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I'm glad it was intense.

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I'm glad the gentleman pushed me so I was not sitting long enough to take a break.

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I was just getting back up because you know how it is when the person is soon after the

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changeover, he goes, stands on the court.

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You look at him, you're like, okay, I need to get back on court as well.

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Maybe it's Sasha's variant.

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Yeah.

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You guys just over there just waiting for you to come out.

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There you go.

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Yeah.

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And I'm like, you know what?

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You know what?

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You know what?

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You know what?

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It's a good test of my endurance.

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Let me see if I can keep up with that young man.

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So, you know what?

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Whatever happens, I believe happens for the right reasons.

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And I get emotional at times when I think about it when I shared the story because I've

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always wondered what is this tennis connection, Dave?

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You're no great player.

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You know, you just play for fun.

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Yes, your kids went a little bit of a distance.

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You enjoyed that journey with them.

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But what's the big deal about tennis?

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You know, there are so many other sports.

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But you know, there's something.

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There's something.

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And maybe that's one of the reasons why God said, you know what, Dave, you love tennis so

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much, tennis will save your life.

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Right.

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So Bobby, we now know what to look for, right?

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And I'm not age-ranged, too.

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So I'm like, okay, yeah, I'm going to stop and you know, it doesn't hurt really.

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Well, and that's, that was part of the question, Dave, is trying to figure out was it because

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you were on court if you'd had the same feeling sitting on the couch, would the doctor have

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reacted differently?

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Or was the assumption that if you weren't on court, you wouldn't have had the feeling

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until you had the heart attack and it was too late.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So that's a good question.

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So if I had that feeling sitting on the couch, the way I felt I would have definitely gotten

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gotten held.

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And interestingly enough, normally I'm a proactive kind of guy and I reach out, I call 911 when

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I have issues.

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I've had issues.

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I've called them.

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I checked out okay.

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But in this particular occasion, because I had been to the ER a couple of times, I didn't

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want to go again.

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And this is when my doctor says, Dave, that day when you told your wife not to go to ER,

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to drive you back home because you were feeling better, you should have gone to ER.

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So I want to take this opportunity of sharing with the listeners.

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I'm not a doctor for sure.

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But when the body is giving you signals, don't discount it.

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Don't ignore it.

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Get help.

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And one more thing I want to share, you know, I've been around coaches.

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I've seen intense dreams and there's something that the coaches like to emphasize that

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you know, push through it, push through it.

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I feel you've got to be cautious about that.

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Everybody's body is different.

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It acts differently.

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When your body tells you stop, you stop.

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And no, there is no ego here, nothing.

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Because you don't want a situation where they'll be hard for the medical professionals to

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bring you back.

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And you know, even what I went through the recovery was very painful because they kind

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of cut open my rib cage and my poor wife, she was doing all the care I was looking at her

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and I said, you know what, from now on, whatever she tells me is exactly what I'm going to do.

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So finally, and I said, you need that, can I get back on the tennis court?

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She looked at me.

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She says, I will introduce you back on the court.

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You'll play with me.

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And I will see what you can handle.

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So that was quite funny because we went on the court by son who the tennis court she wasn't

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around.

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My wife was feeding me balls and I was putting the balls and I'm like, how I look here.

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You know, what an interesting turnaround.

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The lady who despised the sport because we were so into it and we spent a lot of time on

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tennis and not do other things.

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Today she feels bad for me and she's trying to get me back in the sport.

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And she, but she wants to be careful.

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She doesn't want me to hit with another friend or somebody else because they might go intense

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and I like to compete and that might be a problem.

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So she said, I will introduce the right amount of intensity and let's see how you do.

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So these are little stories about life.

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You know, I'm nobody there, but I'm a human being.

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It happened to me.

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I put it out on LinkedIn.

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This was a great opportunity to share with you all because I think all of us and you know

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what?

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This is not age specific.

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And even the best of athletes can have these issues because there is genetics involved.

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So you could be very fit.

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You could be eating very healthy, but that doesn't mean that you are free from these risks.

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So it's very important to do your annual checkups, get everything checked out.

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Stay on top of it because health is well, as we all know.

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And as I said, you know, I thought I was doing all the right things, but maybe not enough.

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And so that's kind of the message I have for everybody that playing is very healthy.

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Having a good diet is very important, but do not ignore the symptoms.

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You know, just go and get checked.

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What's the worst that's going to happen?

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They'll tell you it's fine.

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You're good.

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But just in case they felt that something was wrong, you know, and all health care professionals

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are extremely good.

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They won't take any chances.

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They will admit you right away if they feel that it's a life-threatening situation.

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So trust in our medical community, I had a great experience being treated at Northeast Georgia,

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health facility, the nurses, the doctors, the technicians.

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I can't say enough good things about them.

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So I have, I've always had a high element of respect for health care professionals.

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Now I experienced this.

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And you know what?

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In my 60 years, I had never had a surgery.

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I had never had general anesthesia.

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This was the first experience.

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I was really patterned on it.

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Oh my God, what is this general anesthesia?

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And now I'm talking about a bypass.

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It's a three and a half hour.

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So I didn't even know how I would wake up in what form and shape.

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So a lot of things went through my mind.

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But then I didn't have a choice.

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I just did what the doctors told me, but I think I came out okay.

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And the care I received was amazing.

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So I just felt that the least I can do is spread the word that it is okay to trust the professionals

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go there and get checked and be proactive about it.

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Don't delay.

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And Bobby, I'm going to send you, we're going to call Northeast Georgia Medical because

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they're the sponsor of this episode.

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Yeah.

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I'm the worst offender.

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I'm the anti-Dave.

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Dave, I'd saved thousands of dollars by waiting because my appendix was so bad that the surgeon

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told me I didn't need to see a pathologist because it was such a reason that there was no

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question.

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So I took that right off my belt.

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Didn't have to pay the pathologist because I waited so long.

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So yeah, that's finances with me.

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I don't know if we were talking about this, but I've never, I'm just joined the 60 club

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day this week.

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So I'm kind of taking this as is this somebody speaking to me.

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I never had the early colonoscopy.

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And I'm like, I'm 60 now.

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It's no longer early.

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So there's no need for a colonoscopy.

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That's a 40 year old.

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I made it to 60.

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I'm still here.

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But I will say I had a double hernia that probably could have only been one if I would have

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went earlier.

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So yeah, there was some, did learn the hard way in that one.

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So I'm going to get my physical for the first time in a few years.

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I'll keep everybody posted.

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Well, and then I think I like the way you put that, obviously.

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Somebody's speaking to me.

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And that's one of the reasons I wanted that we invited Dave on today is like you said,

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he doesn't have the specific connection to the industry except he liked to bother the

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coaches when his kids were playing.

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So we're all familiar with that parent.

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And he also gives some pretty good relationship advice as well, which is guys.

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It's usually males that don't want to go to the doctor and we feel the tightness.

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And we said, no, it'll be fine.

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Don't worry about it, honey.

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But also the favorite relationship line is guys just do what your wife tells you to do.

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It's not that hard and it might actually save your life one day.

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And you know, there's also a responsibility factor.

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Fortunately, in my case, my kids are a dollar is there doing wealth of themselves.

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But even if I moved on, I don't think my family would have been affected financially.

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However, everybody is in a different boat.

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So you have to act responsibly and make sure that you do the right thing because if there

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are people who are depending on you, you have to think about them as well.

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So it's a responsible thing to do.

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So yeah, and I know how Bobby you felt it.

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I still haven't gotten my colonoscopy done because I'm just scared.

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I don't want to go through any kind of anesthesia.

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So God said, you know, don't want to colonoscopy.

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You just get a double bypass.

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That's right.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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But, you know, yeah, we are humans.

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We operate based on what we feel.

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And then when things get really rough, then we rush.

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You know, I'm in the cyber security world.

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So I preach out.

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I preach there about being proactive.

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And I have this framework that I apply.

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It's called the commitment preparedness and discipline framework, which can pretty much

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apply to any profession at the higher the level of commitment, the higher the level of

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preparedness, the higher the level of discipline, the more likely that an organization's cyber security

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posture is pretty robust.

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And that to some extent minimized the probability of getting attacked.

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Nobody is immune from attacks, just like humans are not immune from health issues.

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Something or the other is going to happen at any point in life.

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But that doesn't mean that we will just, you know, you know, let things happen and not

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have that commitment, have that preparedness, have that discipline.

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So that our journey, the quality of life that we live is a good one.

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So that's all we are talking about.

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We're not trying to suggest that if you did all these things, you'll be perfect.

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Nobody can guarantee that.

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Not even the doctors.

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So that's the connection I drew from the work I do in cyber security, where I tell companies

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that don't wait for the attack to happen and react to it.

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Because that's how we humans like to behave.

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When something bad happens, we wake up and say, okay, let's do this, this, this.

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But we never thought of doing that before because we said, what's the likelihood of this

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attack happening?

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What's the likelihood that my house will burn down from fire?

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So we really need that security alarm system.

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So that's the thinking that, and I'm not trying to, you know, be, I'm not the face for insurance

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companies here.

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But I'm just saying that, you know, you have to be a little more, like take risks, but take

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informed risks.

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Yeah.

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Well, I believe that I resist to defend myself on this one day.

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I did have to go under anesthesia quite a few times.

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So I had, so you always have to get an EKG.

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So I always thought my heart was getting checked prior to the surgery.

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So every three years I had a surgery.

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Oh, it's good.

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I can keep going because I had another surgery, but it's been a while since my last surgery.

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So I probably should go.

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It's been more than three years.

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I guess because it's very different from our typical podcast conversation, but I'm glad

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you brought up because yes, your birthday was September 10th.

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I also mentioned that we, I found out that Andrew Manelli's birthday was September 10th

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as well.

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So you guys share a birthday.

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Mine's coming up just in case anybody's shopping for gifts.

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But it's a reminder.

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And I like that, Bob, because we just, let's say the three of us that are having this conversation,

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we're getting older and as is everybody technically.

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But we've got to pay attention to these things.

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And tennis coaches are notorious because as Dave said, there is a lot of push through with

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us.

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And we're out in the elements.

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We're not, I wouldn't say safely in an office, but even in an office, you're sitting all

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day and that's not overly healthy.

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Yep.

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So we all have the things that we deal with skin cancer.

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Bobby and I are going to have our noses cut off at some point in the future and replaced

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with some robotic nose.

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I'm sure it's coming.

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But we really need to think about these things as the longevity and Dave, we appreciate it

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because you get to add to the tennis as the healthiest sport demographic, or not the demographic.

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The statistics, right?

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So say, because we would have lost you at 61.

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And that would have lowered the tennis as the healthiest sport statistics.

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So we definitely wouldn't want that.

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So we're glad you're still with us.

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Bobby, did you have anything specific for day where you wanted to hit it with King of

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Tennis?

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I'm sure everybody wants to be, I know he's going to have something.

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So I want to hit it now.

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Yeah, I'm sure he's put some thought into it.

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So the last question, Dave, we always go with is my favorite because we get to find out

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somebody.

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And from you, it'll be a lot of fun because you're outside the industry of racket sports

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as we typically have this conversation.

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But as a player, as a parent, a part-time coach, obnoxious parent coach, we finally get

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to ask that question, right?

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So in this case, if you were King of Tennis, be it the whole world, just Atlanta, professional,

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junior, any concept within tennis, if you were King of Tennis, is there anything you would

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do or change?

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So when you say King of Tennis, are you saying that if I was like, "Rod your federal?"

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No.

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Is that what you're saying?

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No.

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No.

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I'm saying snap your fingers and make a change.

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God.

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God.

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What was dark overlord, I think, was want Jim Harp needed to be dark overlord.

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I'm not talking greatest tennis player on the planet.

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OK.

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I see you're King of Tennis.

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You can make changes with the snap of a finger.

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Well, a couple of things.

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First is, I somehow don't feel that a best of five is good for athletes' health, the

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long run.

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I feel that we should revert to best of three.

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And the schedule needs to ease up because these athletes are, they have to play way too

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much and the body just can't take it as much as we, the spectators like them, like them

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to compete, but they are human beings.

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So for a player to win say an ATP 1000 tournament and then expect to again compete in the next

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tournament because of ranking points or other reasons, I think it really damages that

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person's health.

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And we have to look at the sport as yes, the sport is there for enjoyment, for entertainment,

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for making money.

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But to me, most important are the players for, you know, it's because of them, the sport

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is what it is.

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And we have to their, their health, their physicality comes first.

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And I think the industry or the, the organizers, whatever, whoever are the decision makers, they

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need to be more sensitive to that.

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And read just the schedule, you know, I, I'm not intimately involved in how the schedules

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are made, what the expectations are.

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But I think we, the players are having to overplay and to that extent, you know what, they're

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not being able to compete like this, this, the city, the, the one, the tournament and

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Ohio where, Alkaraz and Sinner were supposed to play.

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And this crazy man was planning to leave early in the morning to take in that match.

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And, and my, I was scared of my wife, so I didn't go.

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I'm glad I didn't go because I would have spent all that money and the match wouldn't

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have happened because Sinner couldn't play, it felt sick, right?

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And so people, some of the players not being able to complete their matches, falling sick

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is because of the schedule.

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So that's what I would do if I was king of tennis, make sure that each player has a good quality

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of life throughout their career.

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And they're not machines that we just, we just make them push, go, go, go, go, go, because

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that machine will break down and we shouldn't treat them like, okay, that's not going to make

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it like a damage good.

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Now we have a new player.

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No, that's not how you operate.

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These are human beings.

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They are playing for the judges, sport, they have reached a certain level of excellence.

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Let's give them an environment, let's nurture them so they can offer the best, they have

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the best experience and they share that best experience.

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You know, there's a reason why Andre Agacian, Stéphic Graf said, we're not going to suggest

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tennis to our kids.

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I don't know the exact reason, but because I think it's because of the demanding schedule.

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So we want an environment which is attractive to players who want to compete at the highest

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level and even at the recreational level, I've seen a lot.

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I actually wasn't a very demanding parent, Bobby, though I'm being framed as one.

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It's okay.

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But, but I'll say I've been an involved parent, but I'm not a small Jason.

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Don't worry, I'm going to get to the top.

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I think you'll get me to get Jesus perspective, but I have been involved and I was emotionally

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engaged.

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However, I see you, if I could do it all over again, I dropped that kid at the training center

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and walk away and let the kid play and do whatever he or she wants and be happy with wherever.

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But this trying to stay plugged in and making sure they get to a certain level, I don't think

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it's a good thing.

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So to summarize, it's all about the players.

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Let's allow them to operate in a healthy environment.

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So they have a happy experience.

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Bobby, it sounds like a similar goal with a different point of view.

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Yeah, I mean, I think it's a schedule.

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Completely agree with you.

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I mean, I think it's ridiculous what they asked the players to do.

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But the other side of it is we're having this conversation about tennis.

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How does, and I love football, don't get me wrong and I'm glad I didn't have a son so

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I didn't have to address that issue, but how do you allow your son to play football?

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I just saw, I'm watching a Netflix documentary on the Dallas Cowboys and they interviewed Jim

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Kelly, the ex Buffalo Bills quarterback and Bill Romanowski who played linebacker for the

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Oakland Raiders and the San Francisco 49ers Denver Broncos.

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Both of these gentlemen probably just short of 60 or early 60s have serious cognitive

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issues when they're speaking.

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Serious.

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And you can't ignore it and we can lie to ourselves and say that Jim Kelly had a lot of health

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issues on top of it, but there's cognitive decline there.

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And it's business, but it's horrifying that we allow this to happen to people that are

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doing something for our enjoyment.

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So it is scary.

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It's all about the adversaries and it's all about money at that point.

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I agree.

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And the hard part is for the kids, you know, because I see Stephie or both kindred spirits in

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that capacity, they both came from very overbearing parents.

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Parents who almost drove Andre out of the game altogether and you know, Stephie had to

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put up with having to explain her father's pad choices as a youngster.

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So that's it.

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The responsibility for the father is supposed to be the, you know, make it easy for the daughter.

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That certainly did not happen in that situation.

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But I also, you know, with a kid, it's hard.

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And if a kid's going to get to that level because I think here's the great part about your

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balance, Dave, and you can speak to it, your son played at the highest level.

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What we've found is that 75, the number is 75 to 80% of that level tennis player.

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Once they get through with college, never picks up a racket again.

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And that's unfortunate.

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So you know, it's encouraging to see there must have been the right balance there that he's

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still not only still plays that he's even coaching.

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He's taking it on that side of it because he enjoy, you know, wants to share his experience

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or maybe massage the experience a little bit.

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But it's good that he's still active.

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If you were to ask him, you would say that his, some of his most memorable experiences were

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during those years when you'd be driving to different tournaments and the routine we had,

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it has, and it has definitely been mine.

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It's somebody says what has been some of the most exciting times of your years.

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I would say seeing the kids grow up and compete, watching them play matches, traveling with

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them, getting ready for, you know, waking up early in the morning, getting something to

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eat and then going on the court, practicing you.

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And I would get excited as if I'm playing a match.

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So those are, there are lots of great things.

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By the way, I also want to commend USDA for all that it does for tennis.

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Atlanta is a mecca or a hub of tennis.

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I mean, it's, it's phenomenal.

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So it means the mecca, that connection here somewhere.

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Hang on.

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Hang on.

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Did somebody, did somebody just compliment the USDA?

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I was surprised.

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Turn it up.

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So, so yeah, we have to appreciate what we have because in many, many other cities, especially

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when I grew up in India, you had to be a member of an expensive club to be able to play tennis.

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It wasn't easily available.

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So all that I'm saying is, here the sport is a lot more accessible and a lot of good things

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are happening.

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But if you can make it even better, why not?

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You know, you all are great coaches yourselves.

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And I love talking to coaches.

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Every one of these days, you might hire me as your sidekick or something.

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You know, because he was a great, because I would love to get Jason.

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Jason is an incredible player.

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Yes.

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For example, player.

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I mean, he can hit with anybody.

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That was always his thing.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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So, you know, there's, and he's coached at the highest level.

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I mean, he was worked with a Georgia Tech girl that made it to the top 15, you know, a few

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years ago.

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But Jason's, his dad was a little intense, but Jason is pretty mellow.

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You know, in a fun guy to be around.

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So it'd be interesting to get his perspective on the whole situation, because he can hit the

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ball.

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He's one of the cleanest hitters around, you know, he had land on.

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So we love to get his perspective on the whole thing.

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In fact, about a year back, I was hitting with Jason.

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I actually went to, I said, Jason, Jason, will you train me just like you trained victory?

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He said, yeah, come on over.

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So he gave me a good deal.

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So I was hitting with him and he paid me the best compliment.

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He said, they've how old are you?

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I said, then I wasn't 60 yet.

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I said, I'll be turning 16 a year.

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He said, you should try to compete at the national level for 60 in the world.

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And I felt so good.

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I came back home and I was all over the place telling everybody that Jason Parker told me

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I could compete nationally at 60 plus.

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But anyhow, but I have a lot of respect for Jason, for all that he does and for many,

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many other coaches.

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So yeah.

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So this is something that I'm doing out of pure fun and joy.

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Normally, I'm always talking cyber security.

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So if I put it up on my network, they're like, what happened today?

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Because nobody knows this side of me.

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But this is a huge side of me that has kind of stayed undercover.

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But it's glad that, you know, there was something had to happen for this to come out this way.

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I saw Sean's email and I'm like, hey, let me ride back.

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But no, I look forward to connecting with you guys.

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And if I can do anything to help help you all realize your goals, it'll be a pleasure.

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Well, you are literally up the street from me.

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So come see me.

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I love to.

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We will take you up on that for sure.

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And I appreciate you supporting that email.

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We will definitely see it at the Fall Festival.

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That's one of the things we're promoting.

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The Do tennis Fall Festival, tennis and pickleball at James Crete, tennis center.

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And we'll be there November 1st and hopefully day will be there as well.

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So if you're listening to this, come see us.

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Love to have us be able to see you there.

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But Dave, I really appreciate your time.

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I appreciate your story.

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We're a light of fire under Bobby to get him to get himself checked out.

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And maybe a few less McDonald's runs on the way home.

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And hopefully everybody listening as well.

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So Dave, thank you so much.

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I appreciate your time.

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Bobby is always.

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Thank you so much.

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Thank you so much guys.

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Thank you, John.

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