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Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast.

I'm your host, Melissa Daly and excited to bring you another

wonderful guest today. Today I have with me Tricia purrito, a

wonderful colleague and friend of mine. Welcome, Tricia,

thank you so much for having me. I am so excited

to be here.

I'm excited to do this podcast with you as

well. And to introduce you to the audience, Tricia purrito is

a recovery lifestyle enthusiast speaker and published writer.

She is a nationally certified life coach and international

master addictions specialist and a professional life

interventionist with a psych degree in process behavioral and

chemical addiction, who loves to help changing lives,

specializing in life transitions and post treatment journeys.

Perito is ever committed to serving her clients worldwide,

find the emotional intelligence they need to conquer their life

challenges. And as you can see, I'm reading your bio there that

refers to you by last name, which I never do. You're a

Trisha to me. So I know, what I love about you so so much is

that you truly walk your talk, and you have been there. And you

have found your way out of the mass that I would love for you

to share your story because it's incredibly inspiring. And it

helps others know that they can do it too. Right?

You know, Yeah, cuz I totally, seriously, I'm telling

everybody here, if I can do it, you can do it. Because I mean,

my journey started at the age age of four. And it was very

split. So half of it was super awesome and amazing, right? This

this, this young child who is reading, writing, doing

arithmetic, playing chess, playing classical piano,

competitively swimming at six and a half years old, right,

like, just great things and but on the other half also was a

four year old who already felt that they they had to keep

things secret, that they had to hide things shove their thoughts

and opinions and feelings and emotions down and shut them

down. Because at the age of four, I experienced my first

sexual assault. And I also experienced or witnessed my dad

being struck by lightning. So trauma for me started at a very

young age. And, and then in that was, you know, how I was

receiving my environment and I was receiving my environment in

a very skewed way, even at that young age. And I think a lot of

it's because I am very intuitive. Didn't know that, of

course then but, you know, fast forward through a lot of years

of, of, you know, just regular sibling teasing, but

internalizing it in a way that actually is an it became an

alignment to what was reality. And that to shed a little light

there because I know I'm speaking a little ambiguous, but

you know, my siblings would tease me that you know, that I

belong down the street to the neighbor, because I didn't look

like them or that I was I was a milkman, baby or, you know,

something along those lines. Because I did look very

different. And, and my, my, you know, my skin color was very

dark. And, and, you know, I just, I just looked different. I

was different. And and, you know, at a certain point in my

life when I when I got pregnant with my son, I found out that

well they were right all along. And there was a reason why I

never truly felt like I felt fit in and that's because I did have

a different father. And, and but we were all raised in the same

household. So anyway, so that's like early childhood for me, but

you know, when I was 12 So we're getting into that adolescent

space. You know, my dad was killed in a in a tragic

accident. And so we go back to that modeling of what was being

presented to me. So you know, there was the shoving down

hiding, put on the pretty face. Don't tell anybody anything

negative or bad. Always show the good. But then when my dad was

killed, it's like, how are these people still holding this up?

Like, how are they smiling? Like, I was going? I don't get

it. I don't I don't understand. So I'm looking around the room.

And being the intuitive I was, they were all drinking and

smoking. So what did I do? I got my cousin victim, a six pack and

a pack of cigarettes. And there you There you go. Right. It

worked for me. And and so it became my go to just like the

popsicles or the the lollipops you get when you fall down and

scrape your knee or have to get a shot at the doctor or whatever

the beer became that, that that thing I relied on, in times of

death,

you feel better. Right? Right. And then

you put you put your you put yourself into, you know,

this, this adolescent space. And and I experienced, you know,

additional sexual assault, I was actually raped when I was just

about 13 years old. And and then I was stopped by by that person.

And and then trying to fit in and trying to make sense of all

of that, you know, alcohol became even more of a reliable

avenue to allow me to even feel comfortable in groups of teens,

you know, these teenage people that I was now surrounded with,

in various ages. And, and so anyway, you know, and all in

all, I, you know, I've moved through five sexual assaults in

my life, I also was in a relationship with a lot of

severe domestic violence. So between four and 2023 24 now,

four and 25. You know, I really, I really was, it really weighed

heavily on my ability to be a control freak perfectionism. So,

anorexia was a big part of my life. As I was drinking, and

avoiding, right, like always, just always trying to be good

enough. So there was a lot of reliance on on praise from other

people. And when it wasn't coming, like it was really

devastating, because I thought a lot of it as a child, small

child, but that went away as I got older, and I just never

could get it back. Anyway, so I worked really hard on holding on

to my addictions, for a long time. And then my recovery

journey so that's about 30 year journey with with chemical

substance reliance, and, and, and, but eating disorders, I was

able to heal from sooner, which is usually backwards for most

people, you know, the substances go away first. But you know,

when I met my spouse, I was able to find unconditional positive

regard and allow myself to experience that, but I kept the

alcohol and life was great life was wonderful. So my 25 year

recovery journey was about healing those traumas and the

eating disorders and you know, lots of other things. Fast

forward, I'm gonna tell you guys empty nesters a real thing. So

my husband and I have five children and and our girls

really gave us a run for money. So in their in our oldest

daughter's high school years, she constructed leukemia. So she

had AML leukemia so there was a lot of you know, a lot of

connected and family banding together to you know, like

really get through it and get through it positively. And then

the younger one, you know, she she got sick she got ecoli and

ended up having hemolytic uremic syndrome and and had to go on

kidney dialysis right so I was always on guard and so my again

my only release for that emotional space because mom

taught me mom raised me you know, buck up like pull up you

know, pull yourself up by your bootstraps and and keep going

like don't don't ever crumble and so I didn't but I but I did

in those quiet moments still rely very heavily on that, on

that calming of the alcohol because I didn't know anything

else. I learned it at 12 I didn't know anything else. I was

never taught effective coping skills. There was no emotion

regulation or distress tolerance taught in my home. And it

certainly wasn't coming at school. So when you know when

when the kids started moving out, which most of them were

gone all at once. The Empty Nest is a real thing. And then so you

cover that ad that empty nest with having had a full

hysterectomy at 29 and not being able to do hormone replacement.

And really just being in this odd transitional space, I

developed generalized anxiety disorder. And my medical

provider who knew I was a daily drinker.

She was a good friend, she taught her everything that was

wrong with our with our daughters. But anyway, she

prescribed Xanax, knowing I was a daily drinker for my anxiety,

which seems harmless enough, but but it's not. It's really

dangerous. And then it was prescribed to me over the course

of five years. And so slowly but surely over those five years,

what happened was I formulated a physiological addiction to both

and they are actually synergistic, right, like they

exacerbate each other. So you know, you get to the end where I

decided, you know, gosh, enough is enough my body, I can feel my

liver, I can feel my liver working at night. I can feel all

four chambers of my heart beating is this is not good.

Like I don't want to go out like my grandmother did was cirrhosis

of the liver. So I checked myself in because I knew detox

from alcohol detox from I didn't know detox from benzos was

dangerous, but I sure learned that real quick. But I knew I

needed to be monitored, because my blood pressure was off, you

know, everything else. So I went to, you know, I researched I

found a program that spoke my language. And I'm going to tell

you a story of somebody that goes into detox and treatment in

a way that nobody ever does. Because I showed up sober and

showed him sober. I planned it, I spent two months getting to

know the staff, and the programs that I knew what to expect. And

it was all planned out. And you know, very much true Trisha

style, right? It had to be perfect from start to finish.

And it had to go in the very timeframe. And if anything was

going to happen, I was going to overachieve not under achieve.

So I I accomplished my seven to 10 day detox in three days, and

those kinds of things. And and then I you know, and it was it

was great. It was wonderful for for what I needed in that space.

But then I went home, and the discharge plan was a and weekly

therapy. Well, where I lived at the time, because I was also you

know, in a in a whole different county where I went to

treatment, but I went home, the age didn't even exist in my, in

my community, I would have had to go to counties or two cities

over. And I I tried, I really did, but I didn't even fit in

right there is just, it just didn't work. Right. And so I

found a women's group, it was just a bunch of us women, you

know, talking about whatever, we all had families and kids or

whatever, we all had our own issues and problems. And and

that was my support group. But in that I went to school. And so

I became my first client, I literally was my first client.

So Melissa says I eat sleep, breathe and actually walk the

walk of what I teach, even though it's been nine years. I

since I since I've been doing this practice, and I absolutely

am still in it every day. So I went to school and I started

learning, you know, everything I heard about, you know,

addiction. So physiological effects of drugs and alcohol on

the body, right was glass number one. And and I, you know, got my

certification to be an addiction treatment counselor identified

in that space that I am more suited to be a coach found an

accredited, again, I emphasize the word accredited coaching

program for for addiction. That was very extensive, and also

went on to get my psych degree where I studied process

behavioral and chemical addiction. And and so all of

those three things combined. I'm learning and I'm learning and

I'm learning and I'm like, Okay, so I'm learning all of these

methods and modalities and tactics and things like that,

that as practitioners, they teach us to talk about with our

clients, as a counselor or a therapist or a psych, right. But

the cool part was because I wanted to be a coach, I got to

say, we need to know because I remember I sat in all of those

rooms, I sat in, you know, in all the meetings and the groups

and the therapy and you know, the counseling, and nobody was

teaching me how to implement it in my life. They were talking

around it. So when I was in school, and I was

really telling you what to do, but then not the

house. Right? It won't

even you don't need to consider it. Right because

it's very, very gentle. Yeah, it's

very gentle. You say it's, well how about this? You should?

Yeah, let's try that or consider Yeah, anyway, it's different.

They they educate you, but they don't tell you what you need to

do. So I figured out I converted it all to a coaching model so

that I can actually look During the practical application of

psychological tactics, I did it in my life first. And then I

spent a lot of time learning how to, you know, with other people,

like because I can't teach you how I did it, but I sure as heck

now, where I'm at can can help you help you figure out how to

add, edit, delete, change def more, make it your own for your

life. And then we figure out together what is that practical

application going to be for you? And and so we come out with, you

know, we know ourselves. Anyway, so So that was my journey. That

is That is how I ended up launching my practice. And or

creating it should I say, and that's, that's my story. Don't

look back.

Keep going forward. But I saw a recent post

of yours on social media. And you just mentioned in that post

about the moment you decided to love yourself. So talk to me

about that moment.

Oh, wow. I'm not even sure if it was a moment. I don't

even know

if it was where maybe it was that phase.

It was in that it was in that because, because even

though I was loving myself, for the mother, I was for the wife

that I was, right. I wasn't loving me, I didn't live for

myself first, I lived for everybody else first, and it was

all seated in, you know how much I could do for others. And I was

always that one that would drop everything and go take care of

it. I was always the hero, always the hero. And so, you

know, it wasn't that I. So in my, in my recovery, education

journey, I really started to figure out that a lot of that

internal dialogue that was about me, right, I felt like my

thoughts, my feelings, my emotions, my opinions, my

beliefs, my needs, my wants my dreams, my desires, weren't seen

as being valid, or holding any value. I've felt very dismissed

in my life. Even though I was working real hard to be the hero

all the time, then, you know, as I as I'm healing on my own, you

know, in my own recovery, you know, I'm learning that my

family doesn't think that I think that I think those things

about me, and so that's when I dove in even deeper, how can I

restructure these things. And it became important to me, as soon

as I realized that it was all, it was all just about what I was

how I was allowing myself to experience my environment, the

people in it, how I was allowing myself to see and experience

myself. And I can liken this to anybody that may know what this

is like. But Body Dysmorphia is a you know, it's a it's a

difficult thing. And I and I lived with it for a long time.

And, and now I now I know how to navigate it. But but you know

when when you don't see yourself or don't allow yourself to see

yourself in the way that others do. Or even better the way that

you want to see you and the way that you want to see you

experiencing living, then other people aren't going to be able

to receive you the way you want to be received. And so that's

when it started was when I realized that I was putting my

negative beliefs that I don't know from childhood. Remember I

said back in childhood, it was the way I received my siblings

innocent sibling this, right. Like, I can see them today. And

we're all well over our 50s Right, we're 5060s and, and they

they don't they, they never at any time really felt like they

were doing anything, you know, traumatizing to me. But they

were but that was my arm that was on me. I blamed them for so

many years and it was all on me. Granted, I was a child. And my

mom taught me how not to you know really say about the you

know, the traumatizing things like frayed of the dark. I think

I shared that with you earlier today. Yeah, right. Definitely

afraid of the dark. But I never told anybody I would just sit

there frozen in my room and just sit there like I don't know, the

whole night. Because I didn't want anybody to know that I had

this thing wrong with me. Whatever, right? So the moment

that I realized that it was up on me was the moment that

changed my life. When the day that I realized that I'm the one

that thinks all of these things about me. Other people may as

well, but but that's on them. I can't control how other people

perceive me. But I can change how I perceive myself which is

going to up my chances of being received and perceived by

others. closer to the light in which I wish to be seen. Does

that answer your question? Absolutely.

And that is so powerful. It is so, so powerful

because I've recently done podcasts, the January 2022,

podcasts were all about slowing down and getting more done. But

in that we were talking about our beliefs and the 70,000

thoughts we have inside our head. And in fact, my December

2021 POTUS podcast, we're touching on this as well,

because it's such an important point, right. And when we get to

that point, where we realize that a lot of the dialogue that

we have in our head is simply not true. It is not based, in

fact,

or the floor is in our head, exactly.

Based on beliefs and experiences, etc. But it

doesn't mean it's true. And it doesn't mean it's fact. And when

we understand that we can then realize, okay, I can rewrite

them exactly as you did. And when you rewrite them, then you

can show up in the world as who you want to be, and then there's

can receive you that way.

Yeah, that's how that I love that you're talking about

that the beliefs, right? I have an exercise that is just so

transformational. But you know, those in going through my I

believe, exercise is how I came up with my life's motto that I

just adore, I adore. And that is this is my life to, it gets to

look, feel, be however I want it to, I get to choose and love

that. And so when I have that model, what it also has done is

it's allowed me to offer it to every other being on the planet,

because who would I be? The thing that that only applies to

me. Right? And and so this allows me to, to stay out of the

stance of a judger Mm hmm. This allows me to stay in a space of

of a learner, and curiosity that, yeah, somebody that is

open to receiving, to learning to gaining to expanding,

I absolutely love that. And on this podcast,

my audience has heard me say many times before, to turn your

judgment into curiosity. Don't judge yourself, get curious as

to why you're feeling what you're feeling, whether it's

emotional pain, or physical pain, etc, because then we get

to an understanding, and then we can choose to do something about

it. But I absolutely love your life's motto. So I want you to

say it one more time, because that was really powerful. Say it

one more time nice and slow, because the audience would love

to hear it. Again,

I talked so fast, and just my life.

Just before you do that, I want to link it to

the fact that the theme of the march podcast is all about power

within. So share your motto again, please.

This is my life too. It gets to look, feel be however I

want to,

I get to choose. I love it. And when we know that

internally, and we make that decision, there's so much that

we can then create for ourselves on that path that we want to go.

Whether that's in building a business, whether it's in going

back to school to completely change up what you're doing in

life, whether that's even allowing your body to heal,

right. Because even that comes back to the place of belief that

you first have to believe you can heal before that's even

going to happen, and you get to choose. So I love all of the

work that you do. And you and I of course work very closely

together and there's overlaps, etc. And I want you just share

about it leads from that motto, but everyone has the power to

experience living the way they desire. And that totally ties

into that model that you've just said. But just dig into that a

little bit deeper, because sometimes people feel like

they're stuck and they don't have any choices. What would you

say to that? Oh,

I Well, I deal with this day in and day out right

with with the clients because it's you know, they generally

come to me, you know, with with something they want to remove

from their life, whether it's alcohol, sugar, whatever, right?

And and so what what they have to realize, or what they get to

realize at some point is that that's, that's just the surface

level, that there's a reason that they have have given it an

emotional purpose. They've given it a job to do in their life,

and we have to figure out why So I'm going to piggyback on your,

you got to know your the why we do have to ask ourselves why?

Why do I want to? I don't know, give up alcohol? Why do I want

to give up sugar? What what is it? What distress? Is it causing

me? Why do I need? Why do I feel like I need to give this up? And

when we have that answer, we need to ask why again. Because

it's never that, that surface, I'll tell a little story, I'll

tell a little story. And I think this will help people because

this is a good one. As human beings, we broad brush, right?

We broad brush everything everything's, you know, I had a

client who, who always felt like the black sheep of her family.

She never truly felt like she fit in or was accepted or was

you know, she always felt judged and belittled. But she also took

that, that same thing with her to work, she'd get in, she'd get

a new job, and then everything would be bubbly. And she'd be

super great friends with everybody in the minute somebody

didn't like something that she had to say, or her opinion, or

she didn't make a mistake, all of a sudden, she was the black

sheep there. And it just was broad brushed everywhere

throughout her entire in all air, all categories of her

environment. So in a very long session, and a very long

session, we've worked it back, you know, picking away at each

cat each category and each thing we'll do you know, when we got

to the end of it, it really only stemmed hurt all of those

feelings, all of that hurt, all of that pain, all of that. Not

feeling accepted, of being judged, all of those things

really only stemmed in her relationship with her sister.

That immediately freed her to, to repair all other areas of her

life, every other relationship, every everything like that. And

then only have to focus on this one person, the relationship

with one person and it healed so fast, it healed so fast. The

problem is, we say I'm stuck. And we can't figure it out. Or

we keep trying we try something we stay surface with it. And

then we go that didn't work. It's like reading the self help

book and then going I didn't get any of the results that that the

book says every one of their participants has gotten or, you

know, going to Tony Robbins or going Why am I not one of those

top five people that are now millionaires because they went

to Tony Robbins, whatever, right? The thing is, you can

read it, you can listen to it. But until you do the work, the

practical application, the investigation, then you have to

do the, the cultivating, then you have to do the nurturing,

and then you have to do the conditioning. And until you're

ready to do all of the levels and layers of what it takes to

truly instigate change, you're either going to be all in an all

out think of that diet that you go on twice a year, once a year,

every quarter, every summer, whatever it is, right? Y'all

know who I'm talking to, right? I got to go on this diet because

I got to drop, you know, 25 pounds, we go all in, we

restrict our food, we exercise six days a week, we get to our

goal, we hang it, we hang there for a couple months, and then we

start to get complacent, we start to get right, because we

never intended to condition it as a new way of being. We only

did it for the surface reason of feeling like we were bikini

ready, which I love to challenge everybody to realize that your

bikini ready everyday go to target, they have them all year

round, that they have your size, right, just put it on, you have

to start defining things better, like what is it? We have to know

what is bikini ready, like you better define that it's not? I

look the way I want to look at my bikini. Right. But anyway,

exactly. It's not the same for every single

person, right? We've got to deep dig deeper than the words.

Right. And I think what you're saying here is something that I

do with my clients as well as the seven layers of why. Right?

Is it's not just stopping Why do you want to do this? And it's

not just stopping at that first easy answer. No, it's going

deeper. So if you have that, what's that gonna get you? Why

do you want that and keep going. And so it sounds like that's

exactly the what you were doing with this client that figured

out that all of the broad brush brush of, you know, feeling like

the black sheep, when she got down those seven layers result

of one person in her life.

So I'll give you this last example. The last example

of why we are the way we are why we get stuck in ruts or stuck

not knowing how to make a change or whatever. Think about how we

greet each other. Hey, how are you? I'm good. I'm fine. Okay,

good and fine. Bad, bad answers. Fine is probably the broadest

answer you can ever give. If you look at the word in the

dictionary, it is the broadest thing you could ever say about

yourself, you are either fine as the as a natural stone gym,

whatever, or you're as fine as a piece of hair that's been overly

bleached, that's gonna break if you blow on it, right? Like,

literally fine is way too broad of an answer. We've got to we've

got to know how to describe how we, how we feel in any moment,

with with a true description, we've got to quit throwing the

word busy at everything I busy. I challenge you to look up that

word and then look up the similar words and not and not

ask yourself is my busy, or my involved in engaged in my life,

quick thrown busy out there, like it's a badge of honor,

because all it does is it gets in your head psychologically

screw you up, get you frazzled, and blah, blah, blah, right?

Let's find something better to say. I'll get it all get all up

in a sermon. So

that I absolutely agree with you. And

the words that we use are so important, whether they're the

words that we're using to talk to ourselves inside our head,

are the words that we're putting out there, into the universe,

into our community into our family, and the messages that

flow from there. So I also want to dive into emotional

intelligence in this conversation, because that's

another biggie. And it's something that I know you've

said is not innate. And, you know, so often I as I've been on

this journey, for the last seven years, I felt why wasn't I

taught this in school, right? There's so many things that I

wish we could be teaching our kids in school to this day, and

you know, reforming our school system, and it's coming. But

emotional intelligence is another one that I would love to

see taught at school, but share with us on that topic.

Lovely. If emotional intelligence was taught at the

school age level, for the very fact that I've already stated is

these things take learning, they take nurturing, they take

cultivating, they take conditioning, if we don't teach

our children at a young age, impulse control, their brains

aren't even equipped for it. Right. But they get innately

they don't have it because they don't they don't have a frontal

lobe, they're still in their old reptilian limbic system, right?

They're very knee jerk and reactive. So if we aren't

teaching them effective, self soothing tactics, patience, you

know, things like that, then then what are they going to

learn that when they're an adult, they think about all the

Instagram application needs we have out there in the world. So,

you know, we have to start with, you know, teaching everybody how

to truly get to know themselves, right? I call it you know, a

whole health survey, where we start to actually look at this

six categories that actually create whole health and include

intellect, and, you know, all the things that teach us how to

ask ourselves the hard questions, so that we can learn

how to uncover what we need to do going forward. Next, teach us

again, impulse control, teach us a different way of being

assertive, because I'd venture to say that that assertiveness

has been skewed. Because it's sort of this you know, people

think I'm assertive, I'm blunt, to the point, I'm assertive, I

challenge you to look at assertiveness as as something

more of an open, honest, genuine, transparent and

authentic way of being. And when I say the words transparent

mean, I'm transparent, always in all things that I do. And I'm

genuine and authentic. And I'm not there trying to pretend to

be somebody I'm not. Right. So we're talking about our kids, if

we're cheating them, true assertiveness, and we're

teaching them to be open, honest, genuine, transparent,

authentic, right? For teaching them those things. They won't be

like me and sweeping things under the rug. Right. And trying

to put on the perfect face or fit in with the in all these

little cliques. I mean, we'll still have them but but we're

going to have a better chance, then we need to have that then

we need to have distress tolerance, again, distress

tolerance, and there are so many things that fall under that. If

they can't take bullying without getting distressed and ending up

committing suicide. Right kids are doing that today. We need to

get on board. Mm hmm. This is real. They are shooting each

other we need to get on board. Absolutely don't have distress

tolerance. I really at least when I was a kid, we used to

just hit each other with our fist, right like Right. There

wasn't nice Some guns and all the things anyway. So we have

to, we have to teach distress tolerance, and we have to know

how to do it. So parents get some training, right? Well, you

know, learn it yourself. So you can lead by the good example.

Effective, self soothing, again, I'm going to bring that backup

effective, self soothing, it's not all external reward, we

cannot rely on needing a bath, we cannot rely on meeting

meditation, we cannot rely on Downward Dog. Because when we're

driving our car, what are we left with our head, we gotta

learn how to do it in here, and have the tools in here ready at

any given moment. And that's going to also foster us to have

the ability of emotional intelligence, or I'm sorry,

emotion regulation, which rounds out us having emotional

intelligence, and learning how to, you know, live our lives.

Because in that, oh, I've missed one, my favorite, your locus of

control, quit being so externally derailed, Mm hmm. Be

internally driven, be internally minded. Again, that goes with

that assertiveness, right. And take take ownership of how you

want to experience living, this is your life. And then then you

can say, this is how I want to experience my environment. And

this is how I want to be received by other people. And

then this is the example I'm going to lead by, but this is

how we bring up our children or our grandchildren so that they

they don't have, they don't have to, you know, I mean, we're just

talking about mental health finally, you know, I'm in my

50s. So

well, I love I absolutely love all of that, you

know, I hear over, I hear over and over again, that happiness

comes from the inside, right, not relying on those external

sources for happiness, when I have this, I'll be happier when

I have that I'll be happy. And we know that isn't true. I mean,

that's, I can't remember the number it's staggeringly high. I

think it's something like 75% of people who go and have a plastic

surgery done. And then they get to have their face look exactly

the way they want it to look. And then they're still not

happy. Right now most guys that happiness comes from inside. And

for too many years, we've also been taught, like you were

taught, squash, the emotion, squash, the emotion, squash, the

emotion. So this conversation around emotional intelligence is

so so important now, and I love that that's such a big piece of

the work that you do, because so many of us are getting to

adulthood. And we've never learned this. And we haven't

been able to process our emotions. And we have been

relying on external sources to make us happy. And that's where

the addictions are coming in. So your work is so needed,

particularly now, particularly now, because the last few years

have been hard on everyone in the world. Right? And so the

rate of addictions has absolutely increased, whether it

be drinking or shopping, or smoking or whatever it is, right

sugar, etc.

So,

so I want to ask you, before we dive into how

people can reach you, one of the questions that I asked all of my

guests, what does don't wait for your wake up call mean to you.

Oh, learn how to hear what your body is telling you.

Because it's telling you what you need to know that it needs

to Yeah, needs zap. Like, literally, if I would have

started listening to my body a whole lot sooner. And I it this

would be a whole new podcast, right? Like, there's all

different episodes. But if I had started to listen to my physical

body sooner, I would have I would have healed a lot sooner.

Right.

And I love that because it's so in alignment

with my work of teaching the exact same thing.

And we get along so well.

Together. Exactly. And you and I have just

recently worked together and continue to work together. And

you've had some great results from experiencing my detox

program.

Oh, I tried to do my follow up when a whole month

early because I loved it. So I'm glad I asked you first, because

I still have a whole month to go. I gotta wait for April. I

was ready. I was ready to go at the end of February.

We don't want to do that too much, because then

it's hard on the body. But I love how you were willing to

step into it. You're still listening to your body every

single day. You knew something was up with digestion, even

though you have that nutritional background. It's not the main

focus of the work that you do today. And so you decided, hey,

you know, I want some help with my gut. But let's do this detox

and see what happens. So

I think that the important thing there to hear

because I love that you just said this. I know we're almost

out of time. But all all of us practitioners that are listening

to this message right now, right? There's something really

important in this because we are not all the master of all. And,

and so eating healthy. And being, you know, a nutrition

coach for people in recovery, you know, didn't make me a

master at everything that comes with nutrition, I had a very

healthy diet, but but it was still not 100% serving me

because I still had things that were in the way and I wouldn't,

I couldn't figure it out. And I just kept, you know, taking

foods away. But anyway, so we all need to coach in certain

areas, when we whenever we get stuck in something when we get

stuck somewhere. And I don't it doesn't matter who you are, or

how educated you are, you can have my mentor, and I talk about

it all the time, we know we can have the gazillion years of

experience, but there's always something more for us to learn.

And there are other people that know more about something than

we do.

And also when we're in it, it's hard to see

for ourselves what is going on, right, I have someone coming in

from the outside, they have more clarity of vision. And so you

know, I still work with a naturopath, even though I can

run the very same labs, and I run them for myself and I read

them for myself. And I read all my labs for my clients, I still

share my labs with my naturopath and book a session with her to

get her feedback, because she's coming from the outside. And

when you're looking at yourself, what have you missed, right? So

I love that you know that that you step into that and embrace

that. So tell the audience how they can get hold of you. And

also, I know that you are offering a very generous gift

for the audience. So please share that as well. I

can always be found on my website, which is turning

leaves Lea v s recovery.com. And you'll also be able to find me

if you just click on the link for the for the for the gift,

but there's a race for that one, because there's only there's

only three available, so you have to hurry up. But or you can

call me send me a text message at 805-710-2513. Push, pause,

rewind, play it again, write it down, whatever you need to do.

I'm very much an open book, that's how you find me, the free

gift that I'm offering is five days of my time. It's it's my

one of my favorite ways to actually get to know somebody,

develop rapport, and also help them get on a to figure out what

it is they even need to do, whether it's work with me or

somebody else. And it's called by light called Life

intervention. So this is again, we will spend an hour and a half

face to face time, we'll figure out how but we will be doing a

lot of communicating over the course of a five day period. And

so there's a lot that goes into it. There'll be a lot of

surveys, questionnaires, conversations and time to meet

one on one. But we're will definitely figure out some some

focal points for you. Anyway, I the links gonna be in the in the

show notes. Yep, I don't put all your contact

information in the show notes as well. And I just want to let the

audience know that your life intervention program is valued

at $350. And that is some powerful work that you are going

to be guiding people through. So if there's anybody listening,

that if you know that you're in the mass, if you are trying to,

or you're ready to start figuring that out with some

assistance of healer and expert, like Trisha, jump on that,

because there's only three available. So the first three,

if you're listening to this in six months, and and

there isn't a free one left, you can still have it though. Yes,

just reach out.

But three for free right now to that three who

sign up to work with Trisha. So thank you so much for offering

that. I really appreciate it. And it's been wonderful having

you on the show. And I would love for you to leave with the

question that I asked every time. What is one tip you can

give the audience to inspire them to take action in their own

health journey today.

I'm going to say sit down and look at the different

categories of your life. And look at look at where you think

you're stuck or where you think you're having an issue and break

it down. What's it costing you? What's it benefiting you? Do do

a cost versus benefit analysis pros vs. Cons what you know pros

and cons and actually get in there and do those y's do the

seven layers of y that Melissa was talking about. Ask yourself

why what is it and how can I how can I see myself moving past

this and if you can can't answer the hell reach out and find

somebody that can help you find out, figure it out.

And Tricia has the great, great place to start.

So thank you again for having, uh, for coming on the show. I

really appreciate your time. This is such an important

conversation. And thank you for your bravery in your own

journey. And then now for being willing to pay it forward and

share that with the rest of the world. And to my audience,

thanks for joining me once again. And I look forward to

having you come back next time.

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