Caesar Kalinowski:

It really is a delusion that we're in control of anything.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Do you control your wife, Tim, and every opinion she has and action.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you've had kids, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Did you control every one of their choices and behaviors?

Caesar Kalinowski:

do you control your health?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Do you control your ultimate income?

Caesar Kalinowski:

the end of your life?

Caesar Kalinowski:

When's that?

Caesar Kalinowski:

No, we don't really control anything.

Caesar Kalinowski:

God does, but we live in this sort of false narrative that we are,

Caesar Kalinowski:

and that, see for me, that traces all the way back to the beginning

Caesar Kalinowski:

when, what was the first sin?

Caesar Kalinowski:

they said, what we can manage the knowledge of good and evil and right

Caesar Kalinowski:

and wrong for ourselves, and we'll create an identity apart from God.

Tim Winders:

Welcome to Seek Go Create.

Tim Winders:

This is where we challenge conventional definitions of success, explore

Tim Winders:

stories of transformation in leadership, business, and ministry.

Tim Winders:

we're gonna be talking to Caesar Kalinowski, a dedicated father,

Tim Winders:

church planner, coach, and bestselling author is impacted thousands of

Tim Winders:

lives all over the world, equipping individuals in discipleship and mission.

Tim Winders:

Caesar, welcome to Seek.

Tim Winders:

Go Create.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Hey Tim, good to be with you.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Thanks for having me on.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm excited.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Been looking forward to this conversation.

Tim Winders:

Yeah.

Tim Winders:

I'll tell you what, I think you're the first guy.

Tim Winders:

You know what?

Tim Winders:

No, you're not.

Tim Winders:

You're not the first guy we've had named Caesar.

Tim Winders:

I had a guy that was spelled differently.

Tim Winders:

that's like a strong name.

Tim Winders:

If you've got a name like Caesar, you're strong.

Caesar Kalinowski:

spelling.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's like the pizza, the salad, the emperor.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you know what, it's a family name.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm the third Caesar.

Caesar Kalinowski:

My son's the fourth.

Caesar Kalinowski:

My grandson Caesar five, aired to the throne.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it turns out I didn't know this most of my life, I had an old buck.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Guy, a historian, in Poland.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Tell me, oh, cuz I said, how do these two names go together?

Caesar Kalinowski:

He says, Kalinowski, that's, it's a royal name in, in Poland.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then I had Googled, I knew that somewhere back in history we

Caesar Kalinowski:

were royalty, whatever that means.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And and he goes, Kaiser, it's ruler, Kaiser Kalinowski, very regal

Caesar Kalinowski:

name, very royal name, family name.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm like, oh yeah, it's family name for us.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And he goes, there you go.

Caesar Kalinowski:

that's how it works.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There's a lot of Caesars floating around three living right now.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's my life goal now Tim, is to get to the point where we have

Caesar Kalinowski:

a photo with four living Caesars.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's never happened yet.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So I'm hoping.

Tim Winders:

We don't have as cool of a name in our family, but we had, Kelly

Tim Winders:

was a middle name that my, my grandfather had, my father had, I had, and then my son

Tim Winders:

had, so it was a bunch of, Timothy Kelly, Joshua Kelly, Garland Kelly, all that.

Tim Winders:

And so that was cool.

Tim Winders:

But real quick, I'm getting off.

Tim Winders:

My first question I'll get to in just a moment, but what are the pros and

Tim Winders:

cons of having a name like Caesar?

Tim Winders:

Because my first thought is world ruler, strong leader,

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's me bro.

Tim Winders:

that's you, man.

Tim Winders:

Cool.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it's interesting cuz I, I used before there was all video and

Caesar Kalinowski:

everybody knows what you look like and all this, or hear you, they would say, I

Caesar Kalinowski:

just assumed by your name, you were this little short guy chomping on a cigar.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I used to hear that all the time.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It was the weird little combination of stuff.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it is definitely a strong name.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it l luckily Kowski is phonetic so people can mostly figure out how to pronounce

Caesar Kalinowski:

it mostly, but, I, it's hard to know what the negatives are, to be honest with you.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I think it sounds v it ha has to sound very European and I'm gonna come on

Caesar Kalinowski:

with a LOV accent and you gotta very, and but when you grow up and it's

Caesar Kalinowski:

generational, it sounds like the most normal thing in the world right now.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What's interesting is since the invention of Google and the internet,

Caesar Kalinowski:

nu old books can kinda remember when this stuff all started.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you know what?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Because I am an author and speaker and got zillions of videos and

Caesar Kalinowski:

all that stuff, you can Google my name and a lot of stuff comes up.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But now my son, who's an attorney and he's become quite a First Amendment

Caesar Kalinowski:

warrior nationally and well known and quoted and all, now he's coming

Caesar Kalinowski:

up a lot and I think he's gonna, he's gonna, he's younger, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

So he's gonna exceed that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So it's fun.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't know if the goods or the bads, but I think, we've

Caesar Kalinowski:

all been strong-willed males.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'll tell you that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You know

Tim Winders:

you have to own it.

Tim Winders:

And I think there is some degree of, it's decreed what your name is.

Tim Winders:

I think names are important.

Tim Winders:

I'm in the middle of reading in the Old Testament, and they have real

Tim Winders:

meaning, when you go through it.

Tim Winders:

So I, it does conjure up with me.

Tim Winders:

I must admit.

Tim Winders:

I'm sitting here doing my research, I'm studying and I'm going Caesar strong,

Caesar Kalinowski:

here was my father's consternation.

Caesar Kalinowski:

He had me have a military haircut until I was old enough to rebel against that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And and part of what this was is I looked up, I said, do you

Caesar Kalinowski:

know what the name Caesar means?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Which is your name?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And you gave me, it means ruler with long hair.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm growing my hair.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Dig it, don't dig it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and I was playing in a rock band back then, so I was like,

Caesar Kalinowski:

I can't have this haircut.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Now I'm back to, of course,

Tim Winders:

and I guess you just stay away from the ides of March, right?

Tim Winders:

you don't get bogged down with it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

my favorite holiday.

Tim Winders:

Not a good day.

Tim Winders:

hey Caesar, we bump into each other like we have here, and I just ask you, or

Tim Winders:

I wanna know more icebreaker question.

Tim Winders:

I ask you what you do.

Tim Winders:

What do you tell people?

Tim Winders:

When people ask what you do,

Caesar Kalinowski:

it depends.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Are you asking as a Christian podcaster, are you asking as a neighbor?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I just met cuz I probably have a slightly different response.

Tim Winders:

me what they are.

Tim Winders:

That's cool though.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'll tell you how I most often answer people.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I just go, I'm an author and a speaker and, my wife and I do some

Caesar Kalinowski:

coaching as well based on the things we write and, I speak on and if it

Caesar Kalinowski:

stops there, people are like, oh wow, an author, how's that school?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And they get into the technical side, oh, how'd you get to write books?

Caesar Kalinowski:

whatever.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and it's kinda need to know basis.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And if they go, oh, what do you write about?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Then I go, I write about spirituality and faith lived out in everyday life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And they go, what kind of spirituality or faith?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I said, Christianity, but not so much about the formalized, Evangelical

Caesar Kalinowski:

complex, per se, but what if we really believe all this and what's it look like

Caesar Kalinowski:

to live it out, not only just on our Sunday experience, but all throughout

Caesar Kalinowski:

the week and make that real for us and our family and friends and all.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Everybody's always that's so cool.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So that's what I do.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And and but if someone else asks and they're Christian, I go, I write books

Caesar Kalinowski:

about the gospel and discipleship in all of life, and I'm a coach

Caesar Kalinowski:

and I get to travel all over the world and talk about these things.

Tim Winders:

Yeah, what's interesting, I love how you distinguished between

Tim Winders:

the two because I do think it.

Tim Winders:

Depends on the setting.

Tim Winders:

if you're around a bunch of business people, you might just

Tim Winders:

casually mention something, then see if there's additional dialogue.

Tim Winders:

I do similar, but if you're in more of a church setting, one of the things that I

Tim Winders:

think you, you say that people love when you bring up, every day to disciples and

Tim Winders:

how to live out your faith every day.

Tim Winders:

But I, I'm not so convinced that everyone is excited about that.

Tim Winders:

I think that there's a group of people that they want to keep people boxed

Tim Winders:

in to the Sunday, maybe a Wednesday.

Tim Winders:

So to, to me there's a bit of a contrast between every day

Tim Winders:

disciple and I'll call it the religious or church world out there.

Tim Winders:

Am I reading something?

Tim Winders:

Ha.

Tim Winders:

Have you ever seen that?

Tim Winders:

I bet you have.

Caesar Kalinowski:

let me just so I can answer accurately, Tim, who do you think

Caesar Kalinowski:

is the pe who are you putting in the wants to keep people in the Sunday box?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Who do you think's that?

Tim Winders:

I would say,

Caesar Kalinowski:

The complex.

Tim Winders:

Yeah, let's call it the man or the system, the

Tim Winders:

complex, the religious system.

Tim Winders:

I call it church world at times.

Tim Winders:

and it probably has a little bit of a cynicism tone to

Caesar Kalinowski:

I find it very rare that anybody is gonna speak, from within

Caesar Kalinowski:

the system, you know, against, hey, living out your faith in everyday life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's what they say.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you drive out the church building and it says you're entering

Caesar Kalinowski:

your mission field, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Those signs, you know all this stuff.

Caesar Kalinowski:

No one's really speaking against it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

However, I have, I run into this pretty much every single day is when

Caesar Kalinowski:

you get to the thing behind the thing and they start to read our stuff or

Caesar Kalinowski:

listen to the podcast, they pretty quickly see that we're fine, love

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sunday, let's get together, let's gather, let's worship all that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But they realize that we go, but the six days and 22 hours that are left

Caesar Kalinowski:

over that, that out balances that two hours of sitting in rows in silence.

Caesar Kalinowski:

How do we live this out every day?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then they go, yeah, that's what we gotta get our people to do.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I said, Faster, or elder or whatever.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That starts with you and your family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Living with an open home, having people in, learning a gospel fluency

Caesar Kalinowski:

where you can speak the good news to all of life, not just people's

Caesar Kalinowski:

afterlife upgrade and all that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then that's when it, that's when the conversation goes, pivot often.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I don't mean it to be polemic, but I've learned that it is

Caesar Kalinowski:

inherently polemic because it begins to be compared and contrasted.

Caesar Kalinowski:

what's wrong with the way we're doing it?

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's nothing but if that's it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm certain a hundred percent as an old brother that Jesus didn't come and die.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So we could sit and rows in silence for an hour or two a week.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm certain it was meant to be more than that, just having read the whole

Caesar Kalinowski:

book and then I don't want to give away the story, but I have read all the

Caesar Kalinowski:

way to the end of the book and we win.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Like it's all getting restored.

Caesar Kalinowski:

This is how it's gonna be, and we get to be a part of that whole thing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Now, Jesus said, on earth, as it is in heaven, ask Dad for that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we're gonna, and what we've found is when you live this way and you live

Caesar Kalinowski:

expectantly, Hey, maybe what Jesus said and lived is real and we can do it now.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You get to, turns out we get to, and I, and no, I have seen

Caesar Kalinowski:

and no, but we've not conceived.

Caesar Kalinowski:

How awesome is when it's all consummated and heaven happens fully,

Caesar Kalinowski:

but it's, I think life's pretty awesome now in light of what Christ

Caesar Kalinowski:

has done for us and now having his spirit and being the family of God.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Oh, so yeah.

Tim Winders:

Yeah.

Tim Winders:

What's your progression been because you, in.

Tim Winders:

Your in, in your information.

Tim Winders:

You've got church planner and I believe some of your history is, we'll call it

Tim Winders:

being a part of that traditional system and what you just brought up and I agree

Tim Winders:

that there's probably or can be some uncomfortableness with people in that

Tim Winders:

traditional system with what you're doing, what I, what we're doing here too.

Tim Winders:

And I went to Bible school for a few years.

Tim Winders:

I've been around churches.

Tim Winders:

I love what goes on in church.

Tim Winders:

What I don't like is when sometimes people begin building their

Tim Winders:

kingdom instead of God's kingdom.

Tim Winders:

And we see that quite often.

Tim Winders:

But what's been your progression?

Tim Winders:

How have you ended up to this place you are now where you're helping people in a

Tim Winders:

daily walk, which does sound a lot like the first century church by the way.

Tim Winders:

Just, I just want to observe that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna super compress the beginning of the story and

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'll take a little more time in the, maybe the parts that are more relevant today.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So I was, I've been going to church since I was like a

Caesar Kalinowski:

zygote, like in my mother's womb.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Okay.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Boom.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And that's what we used to call it going to church, and no one taught

Caesar Kalinowski:

that our identity is, you either are the church or you're not.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But we went to this building that we called the church and, did church.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And so I did that my whole life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

around 18, the whole, lifestyle of sex, drugs and Roth and

Caesar Kalinowski:

roll kicked in pretty good.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Moved outta the house and I was like, and done with that too.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So I didn't go to church anymore for a little while.

Caesar Kalinowski:

God super got ahold of my heart, my life, through an actual

Caesar Kalinowski:

message on Gospel and Kingdom.

Caesar Kalinowski:

when I was about 25, my wife and I.

Caesar Kalinowski:

On the same night at a Christian retreat that I don't even know why, I agreed to

Caesar Kalinowski:

go to, heard a message about Lordship and Kingdom and God transformed us and we got

Caesar Kalinowski:

back to our hotel room at this retreat that I still didn't know I was there.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, I said to my wife, I said, I gotta tell you something.

Caesar Kalinowski:

She goes no, I need to tell you something.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I said, no, me first.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I told her, I said, listen, Jesus is Lord, I want him to be Lord.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I wanna be Lord of our family, our marriage.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't know.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm ruining us.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't know what we're doing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And she goes, me too.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's what happened tonight.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So on that same night, we had this grace upon us.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And from that night to today, it's been a straight line of we're in, it was

Caesar Kalinowski:

never, we never got real Luke Warmy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It was like, we're in, sign us up for everything, now jump way ahead.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We're, my wife and I are serial entrepreneurs.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We've owned and operated many businesses.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Dozens actually.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, at 40.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Running a very successful publishing business.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I got the call to the pastorate, God, almost audibly said, Hey,

Caesar Kalinowski:

you're gonna be a pastor now.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I was like, okay, you're God.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So I say, yes, but I'm not one.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So how's that gonna happen?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, now me, so I said yes, and he worked out some just miraculous

Caesar Kalinowski:

things with my business partners and all, and how it worked out.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And all of a sudden I was extricated from a lot of responsibility and I

Caesar Kalinowski:

had a huge severance package and I was free, but I wasn't a pastor yet, but

Caesar Kalinowski:

God was still working on this, took a whole 90 days before I was actually

Caesar Kalinowski:

hired on at the megachurch as a pastor.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It was weird, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

but along the way, and this is where I'll slow it down a little bit.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Along the way, I had been doing quite a lot of international missions travel,

Caesar Kalinowski:

not this is gonna sound derogatory, not the Weekend warrior missions trip

Caesar Kalinowski:

where you go and you stack bricks on a building, and help out for a few

Caesar Kalinowski:

days and then you do some beach and then you hand out some tracks in the

Caesar Kalinowski:

city square and you head home it was like, God was taking us to like war

Caesar Kalinowski:

zones and where there was Christian persecution happening horribly and natural

Caesar Kalinowski:

disasters and whenever it was crazy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And whenever we were there, a couple things.

Caesar Kalinowski:

One was, God had me read the book of Acts.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It was always like, Hey, your trip time with me.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Read the book Acts.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And after a while, that just became the pattern over the years.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Cause I did a lot of this.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Every time I was on the road internationally, I started reading

Caesar Kalinowski:

the book Acts over and over.

Caesar Kalinowski:

God's pretty awesome.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What was happening is like when we were with the church in.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sudan or Burma in the bush or whatever.

Caesar Kalinowski:

The church had nothing, Tim.

Caesar Kalinowski:

no things like the word nothing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

No things like almost no clothing in many cases.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Homes, no.

Caesar Kalinowski:

food.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Optional.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And yet the church, the people, cuz they didn't have buildings or any of that

Caesar Kalinowski:

were so beautiful and so full of joy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Even as they told us stories of great persecution and crazy

Caesar Kalinowski:

stuff, they were enduring.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I remember like thinking, wow, like for the last several

Caesar Kalinowski:

weeks we've been in the bush.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Being the church.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then by the miracle of flight, I'd fly home and like within 24 hours,

Caesar Kalinowski:

48 hours, I'm driving up the Dr.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Giant driveway to the mega ranch, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Guys are with the vests and the orange cones, and they're parking us.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I'm getting sent to the overflow lot and I'm like, Hey, put the window down.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You see who this is?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm not parking back there.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm wor I'm, come on, you saw me up there, and it was like this evil heart.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it was like, now I'm back and I'm head of production.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So it's like headsets, huge.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Team lights, camera action.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Tim, camera three.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You're little slow on camera three.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you gotta tip that up a little sooner.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We need a little more smoke on the left side of the stage.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Literally.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Literally, bro.

Caesar Kalinowski:

All that stuff.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and the contrast of what I had just come from, and now what I was experiencing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It got bigger and wider and thicker and deeper trip after trip.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And this all started before I was even on staff, at the mega ranch.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, eventually this question started to arise.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I know other Christians have had this question.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you've done short term missions.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You're like, man, this was crazy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we didn't know these people.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We didn't like the smells.

Caesar Kalinowski:

The food was weird, but man, what an experience.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And we pulled together and we saw God do some crazy stuff and in us, and you come

Caesar Kalinowski:

back and you go, wouldn't it be crazy if we just lived that way all the time?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Wouldn't it be just amazing?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then we just, God said, then too.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Like I said, Lord, I would give everything I have to have the joy they have in you.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And he goes, then do.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And so long story short that, that megachurch, my wife and I were both

Caesar Kalinowski:

on staff there, so were some other friends of ours, and we ended up moving

Caesar Kalinowski:

out to Tacoma, Washington to live like missionaries in another country called

Caesar Kalinowski:

Tacoma and said, what if we live that way?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't know, what do you do when you move to another country if you're going

Caesar Kalinowski:

there to plant the gospel and see what God does with it and transforms community?

Caesar Kalinowski:

We just started to get to know people.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We lived with an open home, which we already did.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we got to know everybody's names.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We worked locally.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We were in cafes all the time.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I got known as the pub pastor cuz I just hung out in my locals all the time and

Caesar Kalinowski:

people would figure out who you were.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then I listen, pastor, I need to talk to you about something.

Caesar Kalinowski:

All right, let's go.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You're buying, and we started to make disciples.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We're making disciples.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And when people come to faith that way, in community that way, very

Caesar Kalinowski:

different than worst day of my life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I raised my hand, I said to Jesus in my heart, prayer about my afterlife,

Caesar Kalinowski:

and I'm hoping to God my wife will take me back, kind of thing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

God cares about all that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm not dis, I'm not belittling that, but when a person walks in the ways of

Caesar Kalinowski:

Jesus in community over months and years with you and comes to trust Jesus in more

Caesar Kalinowski:

and more areas of their life, that it's a very different type of Christian and

Caesar Kalinowski:

they're like, man, I gotta get my sister into this and my mom wants to hang out.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Is that cool?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm like, of course it is.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we're a family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And so that, that's how that whole sort of transition happened.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And so we're not anti and the way anybody wants to gather it up and

Caesar Kalinowski:

all that, but if the ways we gather and program and fund get in the way

Caesar Kalinowski:

of the only mission Jesus gave us.

Caesar Kalinowski:

As the church, as his family go and make disciples.

Caesar Kalinowski:

then I think we get to question some of that,

Tim Winders:

I wanna come back to this disciple, but I wanna, that unique pers.

Tim Winders:

Perspective is so cool Caesar, because some people never experienced that.

Tim Winders:

they walk in the doors of their church, small, big, mega, whatever,

Tim Winders:

and they go there every week and they never go anywhere else.

Tim Winders:

My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and so we've visited

Tim Winders:

churches in a lot of places.

Tim Winders:

We've seen some of the things you're talking about.

Tim Winders:

We weren't necessarily on missions trips, but I think it's interesting

Tim Winders:

to see different contrast in just the way people do what we'll

Tim Winders:

call more traditional church.

Tim Winders:

And you brought up the word joy, and so I want to dig a little bit on that word.

Tim Winders:

you brought up what?

Tim Winders:

Many people possibly listening to this that are probably first

Tim Winders:

world, probably United States.

Tim Winders:

We've got people in other parts of the world, but a lot of United

Tim Winders:

States listeners, they probably are sitting in a place with it.

Tim Winders:

They're not in an RV like me, but they've got probably multiple TV screens.

Tim Winders:

They probably got multiple vehicles, and they probably have some degree of

Tim Winders:

stress or lack of joy in their life.

Tim Winders:

And they may be going to some of those churches you talk about.

Tim Winders:

But yet you went to those places where people probably had none of the things

Tim Winders:

I just brought up, but yet they are allowed to gather and worship the Lord.

Tim Winders:

I don't wanna say it's pure, but maybe that's a word.

Tim Winders:

What's up?

Tim Winders:

What?

Tim Winders:

Why do we lack so much joy when all of a sudden we have all of

Tim Winders:

these things that, That distract us all these other treasures.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah, maybe there's your answer in that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I said, Hey, there's times when I don't have joy in my life.

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There's times when, I'm not feeling blessed, even though

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm immensely blessed, or I get myopically worried about first world

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problems and things that really are adventures and missing the point.

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And I'm not sovereign.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't get to control that stuff, what I've learned though is that I can almost

Caesar Kalinowski:

always pretty quickly now draw a line back to what's the thing behind the thing?

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And it's, I'm not believing.

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Who God is and what he has said is now true of us because of Christ, our

Caesar Kalinowski:

identity, our authority, our privilege.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I'm tr I'm living basically in a delusional that I'm controlling

Caesar Kalinowski:

this or I'm, I'm in charge of this.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It really is a delusion that we're in control of anything.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Do you control your wife, Tim, and every opinion she has and action.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you've had kids, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Did you control every one of their choices and behaviors?

Caesar Kalinowski:

do you control your health?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Do you control your ultimate income?

Caesar Kalinowski:

the end of your life?

Caesar Kalinowski:

When's that?

Caesar Kalinowski:

No, we don't really control anything.

Caesar Kalinowski:

God does, but we live in this sort of false narrative that we are,

Caesar Kalinowski:

and that, see for me, that traces all the way back to the beginning

Caesar Kalinowski:

when, what was the first sin?

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they said, what we can manage the knowledge of good and evil and right

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and wrong for ourselves, and we'll create an identity apart from God.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Watch this.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's the same thing that's going on in my heart often.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I think when the church.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Dropped the gospel narrative for the afterlife upgrade gospel when they

Caesar Kalinowski:

dropped the narrative of discipleship, which is moving from unbelief to

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belief in every area of the gospel.

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moving from lies to truth about who God is, what he's done in Christ, and what's

Caesar Kalinowski:

now true of us, and how we get to live.

Caesar Kalinowski:

When we lost that for a, we gotta get everybody to say a prayer about their

Caesar Kalinowski:

afterlife, and Christianity became about sin management and behavioral

Caesar Kalinowski:

modification, now we're left with the law.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We're left with, okay, I guess my ticket's been punched, but

Caesar Kalinowski:

my job now is to try to sin less between now when Jesus comes back.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Is that really what this is about?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Let me talk to my neighbors and see if that sounds like good news.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Nope.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Not to them.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So I won't talk to them about that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and so now if I'm living under that same tyranny and I'm not living out of my

Caesar Kalinowski:

true identity, then I'm still left with.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Back to the original sin, managing the knowledge of good and evil and

Caesar Kalinowski:

building an identity for myself.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And you know what ticks me off, Tim, is when you don't salute my identity,

Caesar Kalinowski:

when I'm doing my best to put the glory up there for your brother and

Caesar Kalinowski:

you're like, no, not digging it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I go, that Tim guy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You know what I mean?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Or when my wife is not going along with my sovereignty, in the house or my

Caesar Kalinowski:

now adult kids go, I don't know, dad.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't think so.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I think that's wrong.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't think that's the way we wanna be doing that, then, and I

Caesar Kalinowski:

get consternation over that and I get all chipped out about it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What's going on?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I am not believing what's true about God and what's really true about myself.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I think that's the thing behind the thing of where all of her lack of joy

Caesar Kalinowski:

or stress or all this stuff comes from.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And like I said, I still experience it all the time, but it comes from unbelief.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Roman says this, it says that all sin comes from unbelief.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sins not the action.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Hey, I hollered at Tina today.

Caesar Kalinowski:

My, to my wife or whatever.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I was really rude to her.

Caesar Kalinowski:

The act, that's not the sin.

Caesar Kalinowski:

The sin is the unbelief behind it of who God is, who he's made her to

Caesar Kalinowski:

be, who He's made me to be And I am I living in light of that, see, the

Caesar Kalinowski:

most natural way we can lift him is to live out of our true identity.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Think about that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

This is who I am.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I get to be, I don't prop that up.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I didn't create it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't sustain it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm completely loved in just who I am.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Do to be that do, to be distortion of what you do equals who you are and your value.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's not true.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's a lie.

Caesar Kalinowski:

that's called the beast in scripture.

Caesar Kalinowski:

when we start to move beyond that, then there's real joy and freedom.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I think to tie it all the way back when we were with the church

Caesar Kalinowski:

in a war zone or whether it's great Christian persecution and they,

Caesar Kalinowski:

there's no due to be, in fact, if they do, they will be persecuted.

Caesar Kalinowski:

They're, they're being, they're saying, yeah, my, my brother was

Caesar Kalinowski:

chopped to death and thrown in a fire in front of me by Muslim.

Caesar Kalinowski:

militants cuz we're Christians and they still have great joy in their life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm so grateful to God though he's better than me and he's providing

Caesar Kalinowski:

him like, oh my god, this is crazy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Right.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I, I think what it's going on there is they believe who God is.

Caesar Kalinowski:

He's their only hope.

Caesar Kalinowski:

They get that, and from that comes that peace that passes understanding.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You're like, I'd be kicked off if I had to live in a mud hut.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And half my family was, killed because of our faith.

Tim Winders:

And they're also, I love the fact that you've mentioned identity

Tim Winders:

twice because I, I think that there's a bit of a crisis in identity in the

Tim Winders:

world because people are questioning it.

Tim Winders:

There are a lot of people that claim to be Christians and followers of Christ that

Tim Winders:

I'm not sure if they grasp their identity.

Tim Winders:

And one of the things we see with conflicts is people aren't comfortable

Tim Winders:

with their identity, so it's difficult to accept others' identity.

Tim Winders:

And so instead of, I think you said salute was the word to use, I think

Tim Winders:

people are wanting and demanding that you not just accept who I am,

Tim Winders:

but I want you to celebrate me.

Tim Winders:

I

Caesar Kalinowski:

Oh yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Even if it's completely a false narrative, if I even get a whiff, Tim, that you're

Caesar Kalinowski:

not on the same page with me and ready to celebrate this distortion, bye.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Can't handle it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Can't.

Tim Winders:

And it causes so much conflict.

Tim Winders:

I want, there's one thing that I want to address and I'll, I'm gonna ask

Tim Winders:

it somewhat generic and I'll let you be as specific as you desire to be.

Tim Winders:

There are the megachurches in our society today get a lot of flack and I think some

Tim Winders:

of it's well-deserved too, by the way.

Tim Winders:

But I know the one you attended, I'll let you share if you want to.

Tim Winders:

I know that at one point it was one of the fastest growing.

Tim Winders:

Biggest around and later they ran into some challenges

Tim Winders:

because of some leadership.

Tim Winders:

What are some of the pros and cons to that structure?

Tim Winders:

I'm a business structure guy.

Tim Winders:

I'm an engineer, and I am coming to where I really love the small group

Tim Winders:

non, all the time, full-time ministry.

Tim Winders:

And so I wanna be careful here.

Tim Winders:

I don't want to get into throwing a bunch of stuff around, but I would

Tim Winders:

like, just because your perspective to share whatever you're comfortable with

Tim Winders:

about just observations and things we're seeing with that big church, structure.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it's interesting we're seeing that kind of

Caesar Kalinowski:

dismantle itself in recent years, largely from top down, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sort of the cult of personalities crumbling.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's not working as well as it maybe once did.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Now of course where it's still working, they're like a hundred

Caesar Kalinowski:

percent, cuz there's a bit of a bubble, that, that folks live in.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I think we, maybe we all do.

Caesar Kalinowski:

See, I have people assume because we talk about living out our faith in

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everyday life, which is gonna mean in smaller communities primarily.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Even if as we regather those or however we regather those,

Caesar Kalinowski:

they assume we're anti that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and of course we're not.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I believe in the gathering of the saints.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I believe in the sharing of all the giftings at the maturest level that God,

Caesar Kalinowski:

will grace us with gathering up together.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And all that stuff's a benefit and a blessing to us.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's grace.

Caesar Kalinowski:

However, the command is, go and make disciples.

Caesar Kalinowski:

The command is not get loads of people in a building to sing about me.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Just it's not.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And I, I know

Tim Winders:

and have smoke.

Tim Winders:

And have smoke machines.

Tim Winders:

You brought it up earlier.

Tim Winders:

It's

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

or whatever, or, we don't do that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We just have the barnwood wall now that all the mediums to small churches

Caesar Kalinowski:

all like mandatory got three to five years ago, I don't know what

Caesar Kalinowski:

happened all, but they all have it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's crazy, And and and we're doing the songs that come from one of

Caesar Kalinowski:

four organizations largely just saw a report on this crazy right.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Which, people ask me all the time, do you know this song?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm like, Nope.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Cuz I don't listen to any of that, I think that when all of a sudden our

Caesar Kalinowski:

focus there again got off of make disciples who make disciples, you, the

Caesar Kalinowski:

benefit gets lost of wait a minute, just getting 300 people or 500 people

Caesar Kalinowski:

or 20,000 people in a room together.

Caesar Kalinowski:

that's not discipleship.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It might be worship, it might not be, a preaching of the word.

Caesar Kalinowski:

If it's the gospel.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it's not due to be, if it's not now you got, here's how

Caesar Kalinowski:

you have to go live like Jesus.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So go muster that up.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's law.

Caesar Kalinowski:

that's not the gospel.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There's no should in the gospel or shouldn't.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There's you get to right or you need not cuz Christ already took care of all that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I think the negative of that is if that's the focus, how do you make disciples

Caesar Kalinowski:

when you're sitting, in rows and rows?

Caesar Kalinowski:

So let me give you an analogy by God's grace.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it really is, my wife and I were both raised in broken homes by wolves

Caesar Kalinowski:

and the only thing we knew when we got married is we don't know nothing

Caesar Kalinowski:

about being married and raising kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But our kids, we have three boy, girl told you about Caesar already.

Caesar Kalinowski:

they're all adults now and having families and raising kids, and they

Caesar Kalinowski:

all still love God and they love people and they love their mom and

Caesar Kalinowski:

dad, and we're all like best friends.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's nuts.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Like the dream can be real.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Okay.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, people ask us all the time, how did you and Tina raise such great kids?

Caesar Kalinowski:

they really are.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And they really, they're fun.

Caesar Kalinowski:

if you came over and hung out tonight, you'd feel like part

Caesar Kalinowski:

of team K, part of the family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

They would treat you all like family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's how we roll.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And you'd go, man, this is a fun place, bunch to hang on.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So people ask all the time, what if Tina said, this is crazy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

All we did was this how we raised our kids once a week on the weekend, usually

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sunday morning, we lined up a bunch of chairs and rows in the living room.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And Tina says, me and the kids, we sat there in those

Caesar Kalinowski:

rows and, largely in silence.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We sang a couple camp songs, that they're not that great, we sing them.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then Caesar had this little stand thing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

He'd stand up in front of the living room and he would talk to us about

Caesar Kalinowski:

the Bible for about 30, 45 minutes.

Caesar Kalinowski:

He liked to go long though.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And and then we'd say, see you next week, kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and and they're like, I'm doing so, oh, maybe the next week you come in Wednesday.

Caesar Kalinowski:

No, that's okay.

Caesar Kalinowski:

you guys have a great week man.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We love y'all.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then, and we would do that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it wasn't even every Sunday, cuz people are busy, but it was

Caesar Kalinowski:

most Sundays and that's all we did.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And they turned out amazing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Now it's such a goofy analogy that it really hammers that nail, doesn't it?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Because you could never raise kids that way, that are, effective adults

Caesar Kalinowski:

and love each other and love God and people and give their lives of service

Caesar Kalinowski:

and, and they're generous and all.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You couldn't do that in an hour and a half a week sitting in rose and silence.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And yet, somehow we think we're gonna form spiritually mature people

Caesar Kalinowski:

who are generous and love God, and love each other, and love people and

Caesar Kalinowski:

live like a close family doing that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

The advantages of living in smaller community is the

Caesar Kalinowski:

primary organizing structure.

Caesar Kalinowski:

hey, this is where life and ministry and discipleship happens, and we get

Caesar Kalinowski:

to come together and blow it up, man, if you like, that sort of thing, go

Caesar Kalinowski:

for it, smoke it out, but the benefit of living the way that we see in

Caesar Kalinowski:

scripture, but the only way we see in scripture is you get to live as a family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That word oikos, the church in Corinth, whatever, it was always

Caesar Kalinowski:

oikos, which means extended family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And this is what we talk about on our Everyday Disciple podcast in all of our

Caesar Kalinowski:

coaching exclusively, is it, as you live this kingdom life, as you live in light

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of the truth of who God is and what he says is true of us now because of Christ.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And you let the rings of your relationship of your family life and the kingdom

Caesar Kalinowski:

move out to include more and more others and treat them as family.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's amazing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What ha That's your OI cost.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's amazing.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What happens?

Caesar Kalinowski:

So for us, that's neighbors.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's our kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's a bunch of our kids' friends.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's our friends who are friends with our kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's people that are employees.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's someone we met at, the cafe that we go to a million times.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's the guy who tends bar at the pub, our local, that's our OI costs

Caesar Kalinowski:

and we open up our home and our life completely to those people.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We don't hide our faith.

Caesar Kalinowski:

They're super interested in wondering about it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

those who show up and hang out, people with peace.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There's a real advantage to raising a family that way.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And just like God doesn't give us litters, usually we don't have here's

Caesar Kalinowski:

a dozen kids, or here's 20,000 kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

They try to raise you, get 'em one at a time.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You know what I mean?

Caesar Kalinowski:

they come in or two or three at a time max, kinda usually you can't

Caesar Kalinowski:

disciple in every area of life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You can't disciple people mass sitting in rose and silence

Caesar Kalinowski:

just giving them information.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Or Jesus would've done it that way.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I'm convinced of it.

Tim Winders:

I think it's a challenge.

Tim Winders:

I do think that maybe struggle, we know we, people can quote the

Tim Winders:

scriptures where to make disciples and.

Tim Winders:

and that is one of our commandments, I think.

Tim Winders:

I'm really wondering if some of us, I'll go and throw me in here and so I'll,

Tim Winders:

I'm gonna let you define this for us.

Tim Winders:

Some of us don't understand what the word disciple means.

Tim Winders:

Obviously it's got a

Caesar Kalinowski:

or discipleship.

Tim Winders:

discipleship discipline, things like that.

Tim Winders:

So maybe before we go any further, Caesar, why don't we, let's talk a bit

Tim Winders:

about what that really means because it is thrown around quite a bit.

Tim Winders:

I went to bible school for a few years, had a similar experience where there was

Tim Winders:

someone talking at me most of the time and I was taking notes and studying and,

Tim Winders:

doing the things you should be doing.

Tim Winders:

But they would say that your role here is to be discipled and I

Tim Winders:

actually think that maybe we don't.

Tim Winders:

Really grasp what disciple means.

Tim Winders:

So talk to us, define it, give all that you can so that we can try to understand

Tim Winders:

what discipleship and disciple means.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We've had to try to break this down.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Tim, it's a great question.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We've had to try to break it down so that it wasn't.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There again, where we're chasing two different things, but using the same word.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and for us, the what we say, here's our definition of discipleship, and

Caesar Kalinowski:

then we'll talk about what's, and then what's a disciple Discipleship.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We believe ultimately is this process of moving from unbelief

Caesar Kalinowski:

to belief in light of the gospel in absolutely every area of life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Okay?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Moving from lies to truth, unbelief to belief in light of the gospel.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Who is God?

Caesar Kalinowski:

What's he like?

Caesar Kalinowski:

What's he done in and through His son Jesus?

Caesar Kalinowski:

What's he now say is true of us?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Our identity, our authority, our privilege.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Because of that, out of that flows, okay then how do we get to live?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Not should or supposed to, cuz it's already been done

Caesar Kalinowski:

at the cross, it's finished.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But how do we get to live in light of that?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And so if discipleship is the process of moving from unbelief to belief,

Caesar Kalinowski:

helping each other do that in every area of life, then guess what we're gonna

Caesar Kalinowski:

have to do every area of life together.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's not a process of disseminating information.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It, It's not just deep Bible literacy.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We say it's not Bible literacy that we're after, or that Jesus

Caesar Kalinowski:

was after it's gospel fluency.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I don't wanna freak anybody out, any of your listeners.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Maybe they're gonna tune out right after I say this.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Jesus never owned a Bible.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Jesus never discipled Christians.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There weren't any, He didn't.

Caesar Kalinowski:

He had the 12 knuckleheads that he didn't even choose.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Dad chose it says there, at the ascension that the 11 who were still alive, it

Caesar Kalinowski:

said some still did not believe what?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's how it goes.

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's how

Tim Winders:

A and we think that only one of them was a knucklehead,

Tim Winders:

but they all had issues.

Tim Winders:

Right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

how many of 'em do we hear about after.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Just a few.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And we just assume they're all out crushing it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Planting huge worship services.

Caesar Kalinowski:

They got the best sound systems, by the way.

Caesar Kalinowski:

All, All that stuff.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Nope, I don't think so.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we know some of them went back to like fishing or farming or I'll

Caesar Kalinowski:

go back and see if I can get my government job, collecting tax.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We, you know, we don't, right.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Well, not Matthew, but you know, so we have such this distorted

Caesar Kalinowski:

somewhere along the line disciples there again, when we lost the gospel

Caesar Kalinowski:

narrative of it's not about getting saved and your afterlife upgrade.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's about make disciples who make disciples, which is.

Caesar Kalinowski:

How we fill the world with God's glory, by the way, as we become more and more

Caesar Kalinowski:

like Christ, the mystery revealed, Paul says, God's gonna do this through humans.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah, he's gonna sanctify them, put his own spirit in them, and as

Caesar Kalinowski:

they make more disciples of Jesus, who is the glory of God, the whole

Caesar Kalinowski:

world will be filled with his glory.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What?

Caesar Kalinowski:

That's what's really going on When we lost that narrative for we gotta get people

Caesar Kalinowski:

saved and then Christianity's about sin management and behavioral modification.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Then quote, discipleship came about, teach them the Bible and get 'em to do it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And yeah, but D, didn't Jesus say, make disciples, immersing them in

Caesar Kalinowski:

their identity, in the name of the Father, in the name of the Son and

Caesar Kalinowski:

the Holy Spirit, and and teach them to obey all that I've commanded.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Didn't he say that?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Didn't he say that?

Caesar Kalinowski:

But how many things did Jesus command and what if you summarized it?

Caesar Kalinowski:

What He summarized it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

He goes, all right, love God with your whole heart.

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Love everybody else as much as you love yourself.

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There's the summary, so and we can get to the list, but really if you do

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the hermeneutical work on that, teach them to obey all that I've commanded.

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Really what he's saying is show them how to live in the ways of what is

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actually already true of God and now true of them because of me.

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That's really what it's saying.

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Teach them to obey all that I've commanded.

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That's a real tweak on that hermeneutic.

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It really is.

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Okay.

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It's kind of accurate, but what that's saying is show 'em how to walk in my ways.

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Now you add this, get ready for this man.

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You add that to what Jesus said in John eight.

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If you'll be my disciples, if you'll walk in my ways, then you'll come to know the

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truth and that truth will set you free.

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Now, isn't that crazy?

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Notice the order there.

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If you'll be my disciples, if you'll walk in my ways, and this is what

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Jesus commands us to go do, right?

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Then you'll come to know the truth and that truth will set you free.

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But what have we done and what was I guilty of for so much of life?

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Even as a pastor, we flip that narrative 180 and we go, if you'll

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believe what we say is true, you'll say the magic prayer that can't find

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the scripture, you'll get set free.

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You won't feel free, but you'll get set free.

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You know it's in your afterlife.

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That's when you catch that check and then we'll disciple you.

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Jesus says, if you'll be my disciple, then you'll come to know the truth

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and that truth will set you free.

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And we make that like a meta term.

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so that's when, that's how you get your ticket to heaven punched.

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But if you dare, again, just back up a few verses, couple chapters.

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That's not what he's saying.

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He's saying, if you'll walk in my ways, in any way, like when it comes

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to like generosity in who's really your provision and who do you trust

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for your needs and you know your kids and all that, if you'll walk in my

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ways, you'll come to know the truth.

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About God, and that he owns it all and he loves you and he cares for you.

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And this family is gonna, and that truth will set you free.

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And so now you'll get to live free.

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And even if you lose your job or you look at your bank account and go,

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that's rough with not much in there, but we need to help these people.

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God will take care of us.

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you'll be set free.

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That's what's going on here.

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Discipleship is that process of helping each other move from unbelief

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to belief in every area of life.

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And if you take Jesus as word in John eight, and also what did he model?

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The same thing.

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He didn't say, you gotta be a Christian first, and now I can disciple you.

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He's come and follow me, right?

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Let's walk in my ways.

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if you take him at face value, then that means people are actually discipled to

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faith, to truth that sets them free.

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And then on to maturity.

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So there's not this flip flopped d made up narrative of you gotta

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adhere to a bunch of truths.

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First say a prayer, and then that sets you free.

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And then we'll disciple you in your sin management behavior modification program.

Tim Winders:

We're gonna beat it in.

Tim Winders:

We're gonna beat it into you.

Tim Winders:

We

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can't find it.

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we'll, and now be, we'll be very nice about it though.

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We'll be very nice.

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But the assumption will be parallel, just like your parents in school are,

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is that God loves you more when you do this you a little less when you don't.

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And if you really want him to love you, tithe and sign up for a bunch of programs.

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Okay?

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Cause we need people to stack chairs and hand out these flyers.

Tim Winders:

Volunteers show up, work the nursery, you do the

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parking lot, things like that.

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super happy now.

Caesar Kalinowski:

God's super happy with you.

Tim Winders:

I heard really what I heard as you were walking through that was

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not only are we moving from unbelief to belief, which you talked about the

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process, and I'm an industrial engineer.

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I love talking about process.

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I, I believe that this journey we're on is just that it is a journey where

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you're not going to get to a destination.

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It isn't a check the box destination.

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So we're moving from unbelief to belief, which is really moving into the

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truth of what our identity really is.

Tim Winders:

so Cesar, one of the things we really, we try to dig into this term of redefining

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success because everything in our culture tries to define success for us.

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And I believe even.

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those of us that are in church world, we followers of Christ, which most

Tim Winders:

of our listeners are, there may be some that aren't, which we welcome

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them and love that they're here.

Tim Winders:

But most people, when you start talking about some things, about everyday living,

Tim Winders:

about walking this out, about going through the process, I think that there's

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some people that may struggle with, how do I go from, yeah, I know that I need

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to do more than what I'm doing Sunday.

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Or some people may have decided they don't even like going on Sunday,

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More and more, right?

Tim Winders:

but they still feel some, yeah, we see a lot of numbers like that.

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If we look at the act, if we read Believe Barna and

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Oh, it's way past the midpoint.

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unfortunately,

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of people that aren't going to church, but yet they have

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some spiritual aspect and somehow that's gonna have to be addressed.

Tim Winders:

Yeah.

Tim Winders:

So I would love for us in the time we've got here the last few minutes and all,

Tim Winders:

as we head towards trying to do a landing and I know you've got resources, we're

Tim Winders:

gonna ask for some of those at the end.

Tim Winders:

I'm gonna let you tell people where to find all the resources.

Tim Winders:

Cuz I

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so much stuff, folks.

Tim Winders:

Yeah.

Tim Winders:

but I'd love for you with some time we've got here to speak to the person

Tim Winders:

that's just going, how can I just break away from my rut or where I'm

Tim Winders:

at or just get a little bit deeper?

Tim Winders:

What are some things you can tell people that are wanting to go into

Tim Winders:

that role of an everyday disciple or move down that process closer to

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belief from where they are in unbelief.

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I think that the slippery slope of this is, and you just

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queued it up with the slippery slope.

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Sorry to say Tim, but is what must I do?

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And that unfortunately is where we all start because of that doto be distortion.

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It really is.

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The other way.

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we have to learn to believe who we be, who we are, our identity and out

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of our true identity, which we've already talked a little bit about,

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is the most natural, fulfilling way to live out of that identity.

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We live into the rhythms of everyday life and we teach deeply on, there's

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six rhythms of life that God gave the whole world and everybody from

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the Garden of Eden up until you and I to people in Ukraine, or we're

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all living in the same six rhythms.

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but it's not the doing, it's the how are who are we being, And that's where

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that becoming, deeper in our belief.

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About who God has created us to be.

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See we, we talk about it as Christians quite often, that your

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identity now is in Christ if you trust him and you're a Christian.

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it's true, but our identity is also in the Father and in the Spirit.

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And it's right back to where it says, right Matthew 28, go and make disciples.

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How therefore baptizing them that we're baptized means

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to immerse, to soak them in.

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They're in the name of the Father.

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In the name of the Son.

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In the name of the Spirit.

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Wow.

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All a huge identity statement.

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So what's discipleship about then?

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we've already talked about it's this idea of moving from unbelief to

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belief, the truth in every area of life, connected to what our identity.

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It really is true.

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Why?

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Because our identity flows from who God is.

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He's filling the role with His glory.

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That's who he is.

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How's he doing it through us?

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What's the enemy?

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Want to tear down God's glory, God's image.

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That's why all the attack on identity and out of all this is where we get

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gender dysphoria and homosexuality and all the things that we're experiencing

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right now, all flow from a not believing the truth of our identity.

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We all were believers and not yet believers, we're all created in

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the identity of a Trinitarian God.

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And so when people say, what's the first stuff we gotta do?

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Okay, first off, do you believe God's your father?

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And cuz if you bear his name, if you're bear Kalinowski name

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in our family, guess what?

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You know you're family.

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You know it's part of that.

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But we treat everybody like family, cuz that's how we see God doing it and we

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believe that's what he calls us to do.

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But.

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If that's true.

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If dad's we have the same dad, then Tim, you and I are really family.

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What's that mean?

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If we were a healthy family, I know a lot of people don't have healthy

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families, but we always say, what do you think you'd do differently if God

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was your daddy, Jesus was your brother.

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That's what he calls us in Hebrews.

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And you had the power that raised Christ from the dead,

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the Holy Spirit dwelling in you.

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So no lack of power, motivation, strength or any of that for this life.

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What do you think life would look like if you believed we were really family?

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And so are your neighbors by the way, I think we'd hang out and eat a lot

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and we'd have fun together and we would share the tough stuff, but not with fear,

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because the do to B thing would be done cause we're living out of our identity.

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And that doesn't change based on what you do.

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Because of what Christ has already done, And so I think we would live

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more like a family and share our stuff and care for one another and work

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together and play and fight and forgive.

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And you're like, oh, you mean like in the book of Acts?

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yeah.

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and then, okay.

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But we're also made in the image of the son who is a servant.

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He came and he says, as I was sent, so I send you, he came as a servant,

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not to be served, he said, but as one who serves, then if you live as

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a servant now, you're not wondering, what am I getting outta the deal?

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You look at everything and go, how might I serve here?

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Why?

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Because it'll show people what God's his glory.

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So I, this, we do whole teachings on this.

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Then we could do three episodes on identity if you'd like, but it all starts

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with believing, really getting soaked in, saturated, baptized in the truth of

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who God is and who he's created us to be.

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And now in Christ that's been restored and we're What's faith?

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What's salvation?

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it's believing that's true and living out of it.

Tim Winders:

So one thing Caesar, I'm curious with all that you're

Tim Winders:

doing and with the, we'll call it the mission work that you're doing in

Tim Winders:

the local areas, which is phenomenal.

Tim Winders:

I'm guessing that you are running across quite a few people that have

Tim Winders:

very little, if any background in, say, traditional, formal church, may not

Tim Winders:

even have familiarity with the Bible.

Tim Winders:

I grew up in the South, the Bible Belt, and people throw scriptures around

Tim Winders:

because they grew up with scripture.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Tim Winders:

I think now we're running across, and we're getting to this, I think

Tim Winders:

Europe's already gotten to this point where there's like a post, post-Christian

Tim Winders:

where people, you talk about the Bible, they go, what are you talking about?

Tim Winders:

I have no idea what you're talking about.

Tim Winders:

How g, give some examples of how you are just living it out every day.

Tim Winders:

But here's the reason why I think many people struggle with

Tim Winders:

that and that is an action.

Tim Winders:

I know I asked about doing earlier.

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no, we, out of our identity, we do all kinds of stuff.

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That's the doing's not the problem.

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It's why, what's our motivation for doing it,

Tim Winders:

Sure.

Tim Winders:

And so give some examples that, that you've got of just what happens

Tim Winders:

when this everyday discipleship begins to take root and occur

Caesar Kalinowski:

it starts out usually at our table.

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Okay.

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and for

Tim Winders:

food.

Tim Winders:

So food's involved.

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foods involved, meals are involved.

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Time to be.

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is key.

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it's not a weekly meeting sitting in rows in silence.

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It's not a group that comes together just to study a book of the Bible and see

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what parts we agree or d disagree with.

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Because like most of my friends are not believers, not yet believers.

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most of my friends are, they have some background in it, some Catholicism

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a little bit when they were a child.

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But it never really, that afterlife upgrade gospel never

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really hit that hard for them.

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And the sin management, behavioral modification wasn't good news.

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So they're working on it in their own.

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They're, ideas and strength.

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And so for us, usually it starts with a meal.

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We do lots of parties, we do lots of open tables.

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that's a big deal.

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and happy hours.

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we, we do happy hour here and people love it.

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We did happy hours in the driveway during covid and we didn't mean

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to collect a bunch of people.

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We said, Hey, how about cuz we, we'd already known for doing happy hours.

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How about we're gonna be out in our driveway?

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Friday at six and we're gonna set up a little table and have a little happy hour.

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Why don't anybody who wants to do the same thing in a neighborhood and we'll

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wave at each other and then maybe in an hour we'll walk around and talk and

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wave at each other from the sidewalks.

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they didn't read the memo and we just had about 20 something,

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30 people show up initially, six plus feet apart by the end of it.

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Nah, not so much.

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They were dying for community.

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We put out flyers going, Hey, I don't like, we haven't stockpiled

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a ton of stuff, but we, whatever we got, we're willing to share.

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And if you can't get out, let us know.

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We'll, we can get out.

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We're, healthy by God's grace and anything we can do for you, here's

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our name, here's our phone number, and we just put that all over the

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neighborhood, everywhere and hand it out.

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people did, and people still talk about that.

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You guys were the best and you had still had your parties and you had us

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over and it was crazy and we trust you.

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and so it's, that's how it starts for us.

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I think that the hugest distinction is that we treat people like

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family, not like guests.

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That's a huge one.

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We don't see people as a guest, Hey, come on in.

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Can I bring anything?

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no, just bring your smile on face.

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Can I help with anything?

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No, I got it.

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Just what can I get you to drink?

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Just sit down.

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It's okay.

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It's all right.

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Nope.

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People come to our house and it's sure, you can bring that.

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And when they get there, we're like, could you run this out and throw it in the can?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I didn't get the garbage out.

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It's totally overflown.

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I'm so sorry.

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drinks are over here.

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The glasses are up there.

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If you don't find something, just root around.

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It's probably in the fridge, just like you would with family right away.

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People respond very different to that.

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you treat 'em like a guest, they act like a guest.

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You treat 'em like family.

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They start to act more like family.

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What that does is that starts to break down and there's a real

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intentionality to how we speak with people and the questions we ask.

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I wanna get to know their stories.

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I wanna know where they're living in unbelief and lies so I can

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help 'em move from that to truth.

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And that might be through conversation, or initially it might be like I.

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I don't believe in family.

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It's broken.

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Ours is jacked.

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I'm on my third marriage.

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My kids have moved out.

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They hate me.

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But I look at your family and I go, it looks like there's an option,

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at least for it to be different.

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And eventually they want to know why.

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I can't really explain that without explaining our faith

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and who we believe Jesus is.

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so it's really simple things like that.

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Now we teach and train and coach on all this stuff, but

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it starts out always the same.

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Hey, let's start having a family dinner night as a family.

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Then let's start opening up the rings of that relationship a little naturally.

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Something we're already doing.

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It's already fun.

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It's a blast.

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It's full of joy.

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Let's just open up the rings to people who are leaning into relationship.

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Let them experience a little of bit.

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People are dying.

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Trust me, they're dying for a place at the table.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We've never had a shortage of people who wanna have dinner and hang out with us,

Caesar Kalinowski:

real simply, real practically like that.

Tim Winders:

I do think that there's some people when we bring up family, my, my

Tim Winders:

wife is one that because of relationship with father and mother and things like

Tim Winders:

that, they may struggle with that.

Tim Winders:

And so I think it's really healthy to show a model of the way a healthy

Tim Winders:

family functions and operates.

Tim Winders:

I'm curious, one of the things that I've done as I've studied the gospels is I've

Tim Winders:

looked at those four gospels and I've, in my mind, I'm trying to think how much

Tim Winders:

time did Jesus actually spend with the 12

Caesar Kalinowski:

I've done the math.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Have you?

Tim Winders:

I've tried to, so I'm gonna ask it.

Tim Winders:

let me mention one other thing, and I'm gonna let you respond to that because

Tim Winders:

I, I keep hearing, and maybe this is the question and you could expand on this.

Tim Winders:

I keep hearing you say there's patience, there's time.

Tim Winders:

It's not like it's a real quick text and that's your relationship with someone.

Tim Winders:

We spend 35 minutes sitting beside you and we greet at the beginning of the

Tim Winders:

service and then we're out and we're done.

Tim Winders:

Don't even go to lunch together.

Tim Winders:

There, there is time with discipleship and interacting with people, which also

Tim Winders:

means I don't think that you can really do it well with more than a certain number.

Tim Winders:

Maybe the number's 12.

Tim Winders:

I don't know.

Tim Winders:

but tell me.

Tim Winders:

Yeah.

Tim Winders:

what is the math?

Tim Winders:

he had three years, but they hung out together

Caesar Kalinowski:

So it's a guess, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I did the math and I'll just tell you what my math was.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it was about three and a half years.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Okay.

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By the time Jesus went back to dad, hung out with dad and

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they were pretty much there.

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They were together if they were awake.

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So let's just give it 18 hours.

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It's about 30,000 hours.

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Jesus hung out with his disciples.

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Now, I did the other side of the math, and I won't remember the

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exact number, but pretty close.

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I think if, let's just say the people in our church, they

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all come every week, okay?

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Two hours.

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and they never miss, okay?

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And they come midweek hour and a half.

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And because we're a discipline church, we were rock stars.

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one Saturday, a month for two hours, we equip like crazy and everybody makes it.

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I added that up and I said, to get to 30,000 hours, how long would it take?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it was something like 120 something years, I think to equal the same parody.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Now, let me go back to something I said earlier.

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Jesus did the 30,000 hours with people complete open life.

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You've heard it said, but I say this is what the father's

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You wanna know what he's like.

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He's like a couple hundred gallons of wine, three days into a party.

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That's dad's heart, just so you know, or first miracle.

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stuff like that.

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but the 11 were still there with him watching at his ascension, and

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some still weren't sure about it.

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They weren't quite, not believing hand in the holes.

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I don't know, resurrected, miracles.

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still not sure if that's Jesus track record and his disciples

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changed the world, and you and I are still talking about it today.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Then I think we can give ourselves a break here and say,

Caesar Kalinowski:

discipleship is not microwave.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's not super duper fast.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You're gonna have to invest deeply.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we just say discipleship is very, if you want to get a quick picture of it, it's

Caesar Kalinowski:

very much like reparenting the culture.

Caesar Kalinowski:

How long does it take to raise kids?

Caesar Kalinowski:

20, 30 years.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Our kids are in their thirties now.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We're very much still actively parenting.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It looks very different.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It looks very different.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's very active though.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it's very active and by, and they want that, Like it's right.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But by the time they moved out twenties or something, that's a 20 year investment.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Man, that's still way short of 30,000 hours because I wasn't

Caesar Kalinowski:

with my kids 18 hours a day.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I was at work and they're at school and sports and yeah.

Tim Winders:

so the thing I love about that is, is the thing that we miss in

Tim Winders:

our culture, which is patience and time.

Tim Winders:

And it is one of the reasons why I love you brought up earlier that

Tim Winders:

you coach, and I'm about to ask you here for some of the resources

Tim Winders:

and things that you have available.

Tim Winders:

I'm a coach, I'm an executive coach, and I've said this before,

Tim Winders:

sounds a little bit self-serving.

Tim Winders:

I think some of the closest things to discipleship in our modern day culture

Tim Winders:

is the relationship that coaches have.

Tim Winders:

Because I spend a lot of time with people I work with.

Tim Winders:

Coach, you spend a lot of time, maybe let's don't look at us.

Tim Winders:

Let's look at maybe a high school athletic coach, spending a lot of time.

Tim Winders:

So I, I think the thing we're missing.

Tim Winders:

Is we're being robbed of patience and time, and that is one of the

Tim Winders:

factors that we've got to have.

Tim Winders:

We've got to have that heart to spend time and be patient with

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it and allow this process to, for people to go from unbelief to belief.

Tim Winders:

Tell us now, and I'll let you share whichever one that you think is

Tim Winders:

appropriate or a lot of 'em, or whatever.

Tim Winders:

I know you've got podcasts, and I've got a link here that's

Tim Winders:

got all kind of resources.

Tim Winders:

Tell us about some of the resources that you have and maybe some of the

Tim Winders:

first ones that people need to go check out when they're listening in

Tim Winders:

on a conversation like we've just had.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Yeah.

Caesar Kalinowski:

thanks for letting me share this stuff.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We're passionate about this.

Caesar Kalinowski:

This is what my wife and I do all day.

Caesar Kalinowski:

This is our life, with people, and then also coaching and equipping others to

Caesar Kalinowski:

experience greater spiritual freedom.

Caesar Kalinowski:

cuz they're not having to try to like please God cuz he is

Caesar Kalinowski:

already pleased in Christ.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And then relational peace to live open with people, with their kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

With each other.

Caesar Kalinowski:

With neighbors and live free.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I would say the first thing is please come and check out the podcast.

Caesar Kalinowski:

we've done it six and a half years, like you, hundreds of episodes.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, every imaginable topic addressed from this perspective.

Caesar Kalinowski:

What would it look like if the gospel spoke into that part of our life?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And we could learn to get fluent about that, but not like weirdos.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You know what I mean?

Caesar Kalinowski:

not chapter and verse in people, but like how does the gospel speak to marriage or

Caesar Kalinowski:

our parenting or, what's going on with, identity out there in the world right now?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Or hundreds and hundreds of things.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And it's called the Everyday Disciple Podcast, you know, for a reason, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

And, I would love folks to just come and check that out and you skip around.

Caesar Kalinowski:

You don't have to listen to the latest episode if you don't want.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There's hundreds.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Dig around.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Let the titles, and curiosity drive you in that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But I, and you can find that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And a ton of resources like training, equipping hundreds of videos.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Just go to everyday disciple.com.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So everyday disciple.com, you'll find the podcast there.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Now it's also everywhere.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Podcasts are just like yours, it's in Spotify, it's Apple,

Caesar Kalinowski:

it's everywhere, right?

Caesar Kalinowski:

But if you wanna like at least initially find it, see what it looks like and

Caesar Kalinowski:

get and download a bunch of free stuff.

Caesar Kalinowski:

like we, we have like how to have an awesome family dinner, how to have

Caesar Kalinowski:

killer date night with your wife.

Caesar Kalinowski:

How to date your kids.

Caesar Kalinowski:

what are these six rhythms of life that we already live in?

Caesar Kalinowski:

What if we started to live out of our identity into those?

Caesar Kalinowski:

Cuz we're already doing it and so is everybody we know.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sounds like no additional time needed.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Just some intention.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Great tons of teaching on that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

there, there's all kinds of resources and I've got books, of course.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I think you wanna check out some books.

Caesar Kalinowski:

There'll be links for that stuff as well.

Tim Winders:

We'll include links down there and I do agree that the conversation

Tim Winders:

we've had here, someone listening in, really needs to go to the everyday design.

Tim Winders:

Apple podcast.

Tim Winders:

It should be easy within your player.

Tim Winders:

You might be watching this on YouTube and can check things out,

Tim Winders:

but just I would check it out cuz I definitely think there's a good mesh

Tim Winders:

between what we're talking about here and what you're doing there.

Tim Winders:

Cesar, we are seek, go create those three words.

Tim Winders:

I'm gonna let you choose one of those over the other two just for kicks and see

Tim Winders:

what resonates more with you right now.

Tim Winders:

Which word do you choose and why?

Caesar Kalinowski:

I've thought about this a little bit.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I saw the name of your show and I knew you were gonna ask this question.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I listen, this is part of being a Caesar.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I can't follow the rules.

Caesar Kalinowski:

It's two, it's go and it's create.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I, I just, I'm creative.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I've been a creator my whole life.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I was a musician and a record producer, songwriter, forever and ever.

Caesar Kalinowski:

and I write and make videos and all.

Caesar Kalinowski:

But I guess if I had only could pick one, I would be the go.

Caesar Kalinowski:

I really would be the go and make, go and be.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it's not, our faith is not a common see.

Caesar Kalinowski:

that was the old covenant.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Come and see, come to the temple.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Do all your business, get back to work.

Caesar Kalinowski:

it.

Caesar Kalinowski:

We've been given now a go and make go and be, go be disciples who make

Caesar Kalinowski:

disciples and help people, find this spiritual freedom that Jesus died

Caesar Kalinowski:

to give us, not an afterlife upgrade gospel, and then try to sin less.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Come on man.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Sin less and tithe once in a while.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So yeah, I think it would be go like, get out there, give your life away.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Part of going is just opening up your life, it really is open up time.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Like you were saying, we don't give time to this.

Caesar Kalinowski:

People don't give time to parenting either.

Caesar Kalinowski:

And that's part of why, we're seeing what we're seeing in family life

Caesar Kalinowski:

and identity issues and all that.

Caesar Kalinowski:

So I think I'd go with go for that reason.

Tim Winders:

That does not surprise me with your personality and all.

Tim Winders:

I really love that.

Tim Winders:

Caesar, thank you for joining us here.

Tim Winders:

It's been such a great conversation.

Tim Winders:

I appreciate our buddy Eric Nevins, for introducing us and connecting us.

Tim Winders:

It really.

Caesar Kalinowski:

Thanks Eric.

Tim Winders:

It really is a beautiful thing here.

Tim Winders:

If you've been listening in, I'm gonna ask a big favor, and that is

Tim Winders:

going back to what we said earlier.

Tim Winders:

Share this episode with someone who you believe might need to hear that

Tim Winders:

they need to move for this process from unbelief to belief or move

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towards being an everyday disciple.

Tim Winders:

And I know you know someone, so take a screenshot or

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share this episode with them.

Tim Winders:

Introduce them to the Everyday Disciple podcast.

Tim Winders:

Just share this.

Tim Winders:

That is the number one way that people get exposed to podcasts like this is when

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someone personally shares this with them.

Tim Winders:

Thanks for joining us.

Tim Winders:

We have new episodes every Monday.

Tim Winders:

Until next time, continue being all that you were created to be.