It really is a delusion that we're in control of anything.
Caesar Kalinowski:Do you control your wife, Tim, and every opinion she has and action.
Caesar Kalinowski:you've had kids, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Did you control every one of their choices and behaviors?
Caesar Kalinowski:do you control your health?
Caesar Kalinowski:Do you control your ultimate income?
Caesar Kalinowski:the end of your life?
Caesar Kalinowski:When's that?
Caesar Kalinowski:No, we don't really control anything.
Caesar Kalinowski:God does, but we live in this sort of false narrative that we are,
Caesar Kalinowski:and that, see for me, that traces all the way back to the beginning
Caesar Kalinowski:when, what was the first sin?
Caesar Kalinowski:they said, what we can manage the knowledge of good and evil and right
Caesar Kalinowski:and wrong for ourselves, and we'll create an identity apart from God.
Tim Winders:Welcome to Seek Go Create.
Tim Winders:This is where we challenge conventional definitions of success, explore
Tim Winders:stories of transformation in leadership, business, and ministry.
Tim Winders:we're gonna be talking to Caesar Kalinowski, a dedicated father,
Tim Winders:church planner, coach, and bestselling author is impacted thousands of
Tim Winders:lives all over the world, equipping individuals in discipleship and mission.
Tim Winders:Caesar, welcome to Seek.
Tim Winders:Go Create.
Caesar Kalinowski:Hey Tim, good to be with you.
Caesar Kalinowski:Thanks for having me on.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm excited.
Caesar Kalinowski:Been looking forward to this conversation.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:I'll tell you what, I think you're the first guy.
Tim Winders:You know what?
Tim Winders:No, you're not.
Tim Winders:You're not the first guy we've had named Caesar.
Tim Winders:I had a guy that was spelled differently.
Tim Winders:that's like a strong name.
Tim Winders:If you've got a name like Caesar, you're strong.
Caesar Kalinowski:spelling.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's like the pizza, the salad, the emperor.
Caesar Kalinowski:you know what, it's a family name.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm the third Caesar.
Caesar Kalinowski:My son's the fourth.
Caesar Kalinowski:My grandson Caesar five, aired to the throne.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it turns out I didn't know this most of my life, I had an old buck.
Caesar Kalinowski:Guy, a historian, in Poland.
Caesar Kalinowski:Tell me, oh, cuz I said, how do these two names go together?
Caesar Kalinowski:He says, Kalinowski, that's, it's a royal name in, in Poland.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then I had Googled, I knew that somewhere back in history we
Caesar Kalinowski:were royalty, whatever that means.
Caesar Kalinowski:And and he goes, Kaiser, it's ruler, Kaiser Kalinowski, very regal
Caesar Kalinowski:name, very royal name, family name.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm like, oh yeah, it's family name for us.
Caesar Kalinowski:And he goes, there you go.
Caesar Kalinowski:that's how it works.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's a lot of Caesars floating around three living right now.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's my life goal now Tim, is to get to the point where we have
Caesar Kalinowski:a photo with four living Caesars.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's never happened yet.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I'm hoping.
Tim Winders:We don't have as cool of a name in our family, but we had, Kelly
Tim Winders:was a middle name that my, my grandfather had, my father had, I had, and then my son
Tim Winders:had, so it was a bunch of, Timothy Kelly, Joshua Kelly, Garland Kelly, all that.
Tim Winders:And so that was cool.
Tim Winders:But real quick, I'm getting off.
Tim Winders:My first question I'll get to in just a moment, but what are the pros and
Tim Winders:cons of having a name like Caesar?
Tim Winders:Because my first thought is world ruler, strong leader,
Caesar Kalinowski:That's me bro.
Tim Winders:that's you, man.
Tim Winders:Cool.
Caesar Kalinowski:it's interesting cuz I, I used before there was all video and
Caesar Kalinowski:everybody knows what you look like and all this, or hear you, they would say, I
Caesar Kalinowski:just assumed by your name, you were this little short guy chomping on a cigar.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I used to hear that all the time.
Caesar Kalinowski:It was the weird little combination of stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:it is definitely a strong name.
Caesar Kalinowski:it l luckily Kowski is phonetic so people can mostly figure out how to pronounce
Caesar Kalinowski:it mostly, but, I, it's hard to know what the negatives are, to be honest with you.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think it sounds v it ha has to sound very European and I'm gonna come on
Caesar Kalinowski:with a LOV accent and you gotta very, and but when you grow up and it's
Caesar Kalinowski:generational, it sounds like the most normal thing in the world right now.
Caesar Kalinowski:What's interesting is since the invention of Google and the internet,
Caesar Kalinowski:nu old books can kinda remember when this stuff all started.
Caesar Kalinowski:you know what?
Caesar Kalinowski:Because I am an author and speaker and got zillions of videos and
Caesar Kalinowski:all that stuff, you can Google my name and a lot of stuff comes up.
Caesar Kalinowski:But now my son, who's an attorney and he's become quite a First Amendment
Caesar Kalinowski:warrior nationally and well known and quoted and all, now he's coming
Caesar Kalinowski:up a lot and I think he's gonna, he's gonna, he's younger, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:So he's gonna exceed that.
Caesar Kalinowski:So it's fun.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't know if the goods or the bads, but I think, we've
Caesar Kalinowski:all been strong-willed males.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'll tell you that.
Caesar Kalinowski:You know
Tim Winders:you have to own it.
Tim Winders:And I think there is some degree of, it's decreed what your name is.
Tim Winders:I think names are important.
Tim Winders:I'm in the middle of reading in the Old Testament, and they have real
Tim Winders:meaning, when you go through it.
Tim Winders:So I, it does conjure up with me.
Tim Winders:I must admit.
Tim Winders:I'm sitting here doing my research, I'm studying and I'm going Caesar strong,
Caesar Kalinowski:here was my father's consternation.
Caesar Kalinowski:He had me have a military haircut until I was old enough to rebel against that.
Caesar Kalinowski:And and part of what this was is I looked up, I said, do you
Caesar Kalinowski:know what the name Caesar means?
Caesar Kalinowski:Which is your name?
Caesar Kalinowski:And you gave me, it means ruler with long hair.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm growing my hair.
Caesar Kalinowski:Dig it, don't dig it.
Caesar Kalinowski:and I was playing in a rock band back then, so I was like,
Caesar Kalinowski:I can't have this haircut.
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now I'm back to, of course,
Tim Winders:and I guess you just stay away from the ides of March, right?
Tim Winders:you don't get bogged down with it.
Caesar Kalinowski:my favorite holiday.
Tim Winders:Not a good day.
Tim Winders:hey Caesar, we bump into each other like we have here, and I just ask you, or
Tim Winders:I wanna know more icebreaker question.
Tim Winders:I ask you what you do.
Tim Winders:What do you tell people?
Tim Winders:When people ask what you do,
Caesar Kalinowski:it depends.
Caesar Kalinowski:Are you asking as a Christian podcaster, are you asking as a neighbor?
Caesar Kalinowski:I just met cuz I probably have a slightly different response.
Tim Winders:me what they are.
Tim Winders:That's cool though.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'll tell you how I most often answer people.
Caesar Kalinowski:I just go, I'm an author and a speaker and, my wife and I do some
Caesar Kalinowski:coaching as well based on the things we write and, I speak on and if it
Caesar Kalinowski:stops there, people are like, oh wow, an author, how's that school?
Caesar Kalinowski:And they get into the technical side, oh, how'd you get to write books?
Caesar Kalinowski:whatever.
Caesar Kalinowski:and it's kinda need to know basis.
Caesar Kalinowski:And if they go, oh, what do you write about?
Caesar Kalinowski:Then I go, I write about spirituality and faith lived out in everyday life.
Caesar Kalinowski:And they go, what kind of spirituality or faith?
Caesar Kalinowski:I said, Christianity, but not so much about the formalized, Evangelical
Caesar Kalinowski:complex, per se, but what if we really believe all this and what's it look like
Caesar Kalinowski:to live it out, not only just on our Sunday experience, but all throughout
Caesar Kalinowski:the week and make that real for us and our family and friends and all.
Caesar Kalinowski:Everybody's always that's so cool.
Caesar Kalinowski:So that's what I do.
Caesar Kalinowski:And and but if someone else asks and they're Christian, I go, I write books
Caesar Kalinowski:about the gospel and discipleship in all of life, and I'm a coach
Caesar Kalinowski:and I get to travel all over the world and talk about these things.
Tim Winders:Yeah, what's interesting, I love how you distinguished between
Tim Winders:the two because I do think it.
Tim Winders:Depends on the setting.
Tim Winders:if you're around a bunch of business people, you might just
Tim Winders:casually mention something, then see if there's additional dialogue.
Tim Winders:I do similar, but if you're in more of a church setting, one of the things that I
Tim Winders:think you, you say that people love when you bring up, every day to disciples and
Tim Winders:how to live out your faith every day.
Tim Winders:But I, I'm not so convinced that everyone is excited about that.
Tim Winders:I think that there's a group of people that they want to keep people boxed
Tim Winders:in to the Sunday, maybe a Wednesday.
Tim Winders:So to, to me there's a bit of a contrast between every day
Tim Winders:disciple and I'll call it the religious or church world out there.
Tim Winders:Am I reading something?
Tim Winders:Ha.
Tim Winders:Have you ever seen that?
Tim Winders:I bet you have.
Caesar Kalinowski:let me just so I can answer accurately, Tim, who do you think
Caesar Kalinowski:is the pe who are you putting in the wants to keep people in the Sunday box?
Caesar Kalinowski:Who do you think's that?
Tim Winders:I would say,
Caesar Kalinowski:The complex.
Tim Winders:Yeah, let's call it the man or the system, the
Tim Winders:complex, the religious system.
Tim Winders:I call it church world at times.
Tim Winders:and it probably has a little bit of a cynicism tone to
Caesar Kalinowski:I find it very rare that anybody is gonna speak, from within
Caesar Kalinowski:the system, you know, against, hey, living out your faith in everyday life.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's what they say.
Caesar Kalinowski:you drive out the church building and it says you're entering
Caesar Kalinowski:your mission field, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Those signs, you know all this stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:No one's really speaking against it.
Caesar Kalinowski:However, I have, I run into this pretty much every single day is when
Caesar Kalinowski:you get to the thing behind the thing and they start to read our stuff or
Caesar Kalinowski:listen to the podcast, they pretty quickly see that we're fine, love
Caesar Kalinowski:Sunday, let's get together, let's gather, let's worship all that.
Caesar Kalinowski:But they realize that we go, but the six days and 22 hours that are left
Caesar Kalinowski:over that, that out balances that two hours of sitting in rows in silence.
Caesar Kalinowski:How do we live this out every day?
Caesar Kalinowski:And then they go, yeah, that's what we gotta get our people to do.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I said, Faster, or elder or whatever.
Caesar Kalinowski:That starts with you and your family.
Caesar Kalinowski:Living with an open home, having people in, learning a gospel fluency
Caesar Kalinowski:where you can speak the good news to all of life, not just people's
Caesar Kalinowski:afterlife upgrade and all that.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then that's when it, that's when the conversation goes, pivot often.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I don't mean it to be polemic, but I've learned that it is
Caesar Kalinowski:inherently polemic because it begins to be compared and contrasted.
Caesar Kalinowski:what's wrong with the way we're doing it?
Caesar Kalinowski:It's nothing but if that's it.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm certain a hundred percent as an old brother that Jesus didn't come and die.
Caesar Kalinowski:So we could sit and rows in silence for an hour or two a week.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm certain it was meant to be more than that, just having read the whole
Caesar Kalinowski:book and then I don't want to give away the story, but I have read all the
Caesar Kalinowski:way to the end of the book and we win.
Caesar Kalinowski:Like it's all getting restored.
Caesar Kalinowski:This is how it's gonna be, and we get to be a part of that whole thing.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now, Jesus said, on earth, as it is in heaven, ask Dad for that.
Caesar Kalinowski:we're gonna, and what we've found is when you live this way and you live
Caesar Kalinowski:expectantly, Hey, maybe what Jesus said and lived is real and we can do it now.
Caesar Kalinowski:You get to, turns out we get to, and I, and no, I have seen
Caesar Kalinowski:and no, but we've not conceived.
Caesar Kalinowski:How awesome is when it's all consummated and heaven happens fully,
Caesar Kalinowski:but it's, I think life's pretty awesome now in light of what Christ
Caesar Kalinowski:has done for us and now having his spirit and being the family of God.
Caesar Kalinowski:Oh, so yeah.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:What's your progression been because you, in.
Tim Winders:Your in, in your information.
Tim Winders:You've got church planner and I believe some of your history is, we'll call it
Tim Winders:being a part of that traditional system and what you just brought up and I agree
Tim Winders:that there's probably or can be some uncomfortableness with people in that
Tim Winders:traditional system with what you're doing, what I, what we're doing here too.
Tim Winders:And I went to Bible school for a few years.
Tim Winders:I've been around churches.
Tim Winders:I love what goes on in church.
Tim Winders:What I don't like is when sometimes people begin building their
Tim Winders:kingdom instead of God's kingdom.
Tim Winders:And we see that quite often.
Tim Winders:But what's been your progression?
Tim Winders:How have you ended up to this place you are now where you're helping people in a
Tim Winders:daily walk, which does sound a lot like the first century church by the way.
Tim Winders:Just, I just want to observe that.
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna super compress the beginning of the story and
Caesar Kalinowski:I'll take a little more time in the, maybe the parts that are more relevant today.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I was, I've been going to church since I was like a
Caesar Kalinowski:zygote, like in my mother's womb.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:Boom.
Caesar Kalinowski:And that's what we used to call it going to church, and no one taught
Caesar Kalinowski:that our identity is, you either are the church or you're not.
Caesar Kalinowski:But we went to this building that we called the church and, did church.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so I did that my whole life.
Caesar Kalinowski:around 18, the whole, lifestyle of sex, drugs and Roth and
Caesar Kalinowski:roll kicked in pretty good.
Caesar Kalinowski:Moved outta the house and I was like, and done with that too.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I didn't go to church anymore for a little while.
Caesar Kalinowski:God super got ahold of my heart, my life, through an actual
Caesar Kalinowski:message on Gospel and Kingdom.
Caesar Kalinowski:when I was about 25, my wife and I.
Caesar Kalinowski:On the same night at a Christian retreat that I don't even know why, I agreed to
Caesar Kalinowski:go to, heard a message about Lordship and Kingdom and God transformed us and we got
Caesar Kalinowski:back to our hotel room at this retreat that I still didn't know I was there.
Caesar Kalinowski:And, I said to my wife, I said, I gotta tell you something.
Caesar Kalinowski:She goes no, I need to tell you something.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I said, no, me first.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I told her, I said, listen, Jesus is Lord, I want him to be Lord.
Caesar Kalinowski:I wanna be Lord of our family, our marriage.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't know.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm ruining us.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't know what we're doing.
Caesar Kalinowski:And she goes, me too.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's what happened tonight.
Caesar Kalinowski:So on that same night, we had this grace upon us.
Caesar Kalinowski:And from that night to today, it's been a straight line of we're in, it was
Caesar Kalinowski:never, we never got real Luke Warmy.
Caesar Kalinowski:It was like, we're in, sign us up for everything, now jump way ahead.
Caesar Kalinowski:We're, my wife and I are serial entrepreneurs.
Caesar Kalinowski:We've owned and operated many businesses.
Caesar Kalinowski:Dozens actually.
Caesar Kalinowski:And, at 40.
Caesar Kalinowski:Running a very successful publishing business.
Caesar Kalinowski:I got the call to the pastorate, God, almost audibly said, Hey,
Caesar Kalinowski:you're gonna be a pastor now.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I was like, okay, you're God.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I say, yes, but I'm not one.
Caesar Kalinowski:So how's that gonna happen?
Caesar Kalinowski:And, now me, so I said yes, and he worked out some just miraculous
Caesar Kalinowski:things with my business partners and all, and how it worked out.
Caesar Kalinowski:And all of a sudden I was extricated from a lot of responsibility and I
Caesar Kalinowski:had a huge severance package and I was free, but I wasn't a pastor yet, but
Caesar Kalinowski:God was still working on this, took a whole 90 days before I was actually
Caesar Kalinowski:hired on at the megachurch as a pastor.
Caesar Kalinowski:It was weird, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:but along the way, and this is where I'll slow it down a little bit.
Caesar Kalinowski:Along the way, I had been doing quite a lot of international missions travel,
Caesar Kalinowski:not this is gonna sound derogatory, not the Weekend warrior missions trip
Caesar Kalinowski:where you go and you stack bricks on a building, and help out for a few
Caesar Kalinowski:days and then you do some beach and then you hand out some tracks in the
Caesar Kalinowski:city square and you head home it was like, God was taking us to like war
Caesar Kalinowski:zones and where there was Christian persecution happening horribly and natural
Caesar Kalinowski:disasters and whenever it was crazy.
Caesar Kalinowski:And whenever we were there, a couple things.
Caesar Kalinowski:One was, God had me read the book of Acts.
Caesar Kalinowski:It was always like, Hey, your trip time with me.
Caesar Kalinowski:Read the book Acts.
Caesar Kalinowski:And after a while, that just became the pattern over the years.
Caesar Kalinowski:Cause I did a lot of this.
Caesar Kalinowski:Every time I was on the road internationally, I started reading
Caesar Kalinowski:the book Acts over and over.
Caesar Kalinowski:God's pretty awesome.
Caesar Kalinowski:What was happening is like when we were with the church in.
Caesar Kalinowski:Sudan or Burma in the bush or whatever.
Caesar Kalinowski:The church had nothing, Tim.
Caesar Kalinowski:no things like the word nothing.
Caesar Kalinowski:No things like almost no clothing in many cases.
Caesar Kalinowski:Homes, no.
Caesar Kalinowski:food.
Caesar Kalinowski:Optional.
Caesar Kalinowski:And yet the church, the people, cuz they didn't have buildings or any of that
Caesar Kalinowski:were so beautiful and so full of joy.
Caesar Kalinowski:Even as they told us stories of great persecution and crazy
Caesar Kalinowski:stuff, they were enduring.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I remember like thinking, wow, like for the last several
Caesar Kalinowski:weeks we've been in the bush.
Caesar Kalinowski:Being the church.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then by the miracle of flight, I'd fly home and like within 24 hours,
Caesar Kalinowski:48 hours, I'm driving up the Dr.
Caesar Kalinowski:Giant driveway to the mega ranch, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Guys are with the vests and the orange cones, and they're parking us.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I'm getting sent to the overflow lot and I'm like, Hey, put the window down.
Caesar Kalinowski:You see who this is?
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm not parking back there.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm wor I'm, come on, you saw me up there, and it was like this evil heart.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it was like, now I'm back and I'm head of production.
Caesar Kalinowski:So it's like headsets, huge.
Caesar Kalinowski:Team lights, camera action.
Caesar Kalinowski:Tim, camera three.
Caesar Kalinowski:You're little slow on camera three.
Caesar Kalinowski:you gotta tip that up a little sooner.
Caesar Kalinowski:We need a little more smoke on the left side of the stage.
Caesar Kalinowski:Literally.
Caesar Kalinowski:Literally, bro.
Caesar Kalinowski:All that stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:and the contrast of what I had just come from, and now what I was experiencing.
Caesar Kalinowski:It got bigger and wider and thicker and deeper trip after trip.
Caesar Kalinowski:And this all started before I was even on staff, at the mega ranch.
Caesar Kalinowski:And, eventually this question started to arise.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I know other Christians have had this question.
Caesar Kalinowski:you've done short term missions.
Caesar Kalinowski:You're like, man, this was crazy.
Caesar Kalinowski:we didn't know these people.
Caesar Kalinowski:We didn't like the smells.
Caesar Kalinowski:The food was weird, but man, what an experience.
Caesar Kalinowski:And we pulled together and we saw God do some crazy stuff and in us, and you come
Caesar Kalinowski:back and you go, wouldn't it be crazy if we just lived that way all the time?
Caesar Kalinowski:Wouldn't it be just amazing?
Caesar Kalinowski:And then we just, God said, then too.
Caesar Kalinowski:Like I said, Lord, I would give everything I have to have the joy they have in you.
Caesar Kalinowski:And he goes, then do.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so long story short that, that megachurch, my wife and I were both
Caesar Kalinowski:on staff there, so were some other friends of ours, and we ended up moving
Caesar Kalinowski:out to Tacoma, Washington to live like missionaries in another country called
Caesar Kalinowski:Tacoma and said, what if we live that way?
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't know, what do you do when you move to another country if you're going
Caesar Kalinowski:there to plant the gospel and see what God does with it and transforms community?
Caesar Kalinowski:We just started to get to know people.
Caesar Kalinowski:We lived with an open home, which we already did.
Caesar Kalinowski:we got to know everybody's names.
Caesar Kalinowski:We worked locally.
Caesar Kalinowski:We were in cafes all the time.
Caesar Kalinowski:I got known as the pub pastor cuz I just hung out in my locals all the time and
Caesar Kalinowski:people would figure out who you were.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then I listen, pastor, I need to talk to you about something.
Caesar Kalinowski:All right, let's go.
Caesar Kalinowski:You're buying, and we started to make disciples.
Caesar Kalinowski:We're making disciples.
Caesar Kalinowski:And when people come to faith that way, in community that way, very
Caesar Kalinowski:different than worst day of my life.
Caesar Kalinowski:I raised my hand, I said to Jesus in my heart, prayer about my afterlife,
Caesar Kalinowski:and I'm hoping to God my wife will take me back, kind of thing.
Caesar Kalinowski:God cares about all that.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm not dis, I'm not belittling that, but when a person walks in the ways of
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus in community over months and years with you and comes to trust Jesus in more
Caesar Kalinowski:and more areas of their life, that it's a very different type of Christian and
Caesar Kalinowski:they're like, man, I gotta get my sister into this and my mom wants to hang out.
Caesar Kalinowski:Is that cool?
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm like, of course it is.
Caesar Kalinowski:we're a family.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so that, that's how that whole sort of transition happened.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so we're not anti and the way anybody wants to gather it up and
Caesar Kalinowski:all that, but if the ways we gather and program and fund get in the way
Caesar Kalinowski:of the only mission Jesus gave us.
Caesar Kalinowski:As the church, as his family go and make disciples.
Caesar Kalinowski:then I think we get to question some of that,
Tim Winders:I wanna come back to this disciple, but I wanna, that unique pers.
Tim Winders:Perspective is so cool Caesar, because some people never experienced that.
Tim Winders:they walk in the doors of their church, small, big, mega, whatever,
Tim Winders:and they go there every week and they never go anywhere else.
Tim Winders:My wife and I have traveled quite a bit and so we've visited
Tim Winders:churches in a lot of places.
Tim Winders:We've seen some of the things you're talking about.
Tim Winders:We weren't necessarily on missions trips, but I think it's interesting
Tim Winders:to see different contrast in just the way people do what we'll
Tim Winders:call more traditional church.
Tim Winders:And you brought up the word joy, and so I want to dig a little bit on that word.
Tim Winders:you brought up what?
Tim Winders:Many people possibly listening to this that are probably first
Tim Winders:world, probably United States.
Tim Winders:We've got people in other parts of the world, but a lot of United
Tim Winders:States listeners, they probably are sitting in a place with it.
Tim Winders:They're not in an RV like me, but they've got probably multiple TV screens.
Tim Winders:They probably got multiple vehicles, and they probably have some degree of
Tim Winders:stress or lack of joy in their life.
Tim Winders:And they may be going to some of those churches you talk about.
Tim Winders:But yet you went to those places where people probably had none of the things
Tim Winders:I just brought up, but yet they are allowed to gather and worship the Lord.
Tim Winders:I don't wanna say it's pure, but maybe that's a word.
Tim Winders:What's up?
Tim Winders:What?
Tim Winders:Why do we lack so much joy when all of a sudden we have all of
Tim Winders:these things that, That distract us all these other treasures.
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah, maybe there's your answer in that.
Caesar Kalinowski:I said, Hey, there's times when I don't have joy in my life.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's times when, I'm not feeling blessed, even though
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm immensely blessed, or I get myopically worried about first world
Caesar Kalinowski:problems and things that really are adventures and missing the point.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I'm not sovereign.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't get to control that stuff, what I've learned though is that I can almost
Caesar Kalinowski:always pretty quickly now draw a line back to what's the thing behind the thing?
Caesar Kalinowski:And it's, I'm not believing.
Caesar Kalinowski:Who God is and what he has said is now true of us because of Christ, our
Caesar Kalinowski:identity, our authority, our privilege.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I'm tr I'm living basically in a delusional that I'm controlling
Caesar Kalinowski:this or I'm, I'm in charge of this.
Caesar Kalinowski:It really is a delusion that we're in control of anything.
Caesar Kalinowski:Do you control your wife, Tim, and every opinion she has and action.
Caesar Kalinowski:you've had kids, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Did you control every one of their choices and behaviors?
Caesar Kalinowski:do you control your health?
Caesar Kalinowski:Do you control your ultimate income?
Caesar Kalinowski:the end of your life?
Caesar Kalinowski:When's that?
Caesar Kalinowski:No, we don't really control anything.
Caesar Kalinowski:God does, but we live in this sort of false narrative that we are,
Caesar Kalinowski:and that, see for me, that traces all the way back to the beginning
Caesar Kalinowski:when, what was the first sin?
Caesar Kalinowski:they said, what we can manage the knowledge of good and evil and right
Caesar Kalinowski:and wrong for ourselves, and we'll create an identity apart from God.
Caesar Kalinowski:Watch this.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's the same thing that's going on in my heart often.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I think when the church.
Caesar Kalinowski:Dropped the gospel narrative for the afterlife upgrade gospel when they
Caesar Kalinowski:dropped the narrative of discipleship, which is moving from unbelief to
Caesar Kalinowski:belief in every area of the gospel.
Caesar Kalinowski:moving from lies to truth about who God is, what he's done in Christ, and what's
Caesar Kalinowski:now true of us, and how we get to live.
Caesar Kalinowski:When we lost that for a, we gotta get everybody to say a prayer about their
Caesar Kalinowski:afterlife, and Christianity became about sin management and behavioral
Caesar Kalinowski:modification, now we're left with the law.
Caesar Kalinowski:We're left with, okay, I guess my ticket's been punched, but
Caesar Kalinowski:my job now is to try to sin less between now when Jesus comes back.
Caesar Kalinowski:Is that really what this is about?
Caesar Kalinowski:Let me talk to my neighbors and see if that sounds like good news.
Caesar Kalinowski:Nope.
Caesar Kalinowski:Not to them.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I won't talk to them about that.
Caesar Kalinowski:and so now if I'm living under that same tyranny and I'm not living out of my
Caesar Kalinowski:true identity, then I'm still left with.
Caesar Kalinowski:Back to the original sin, managing the knowledge of good and evil and
Caesar Kalinowski:building an identity for myself.
Caesar Kalinowski:And you know what ticks me off, Tim, is when you don't salute my identity,
Caesar Kalinowski:when I'm doing my best to put the glory up there for your brother and
Caesar Kalinowski:you're like, no, not digging it.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I go, that Tim guy.
Caesar Kalinowski:You know what I mean?
Caesar Kalinowski:Or when my wife is not going along with my sovereignty, in the house or my
Caesar Kalinowski:now adult kids go, I don't know, dad.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't think so.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think that's wrong.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't think that's the way we wanna be doing that, then, and I
Caesar Kalinowski:get consternation over that and I get all chipped out about it.
Caesar Kalinowski:What's going on?
Caesar Kalinowski:I am not believing what's true about God and what's really true about myself.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I think that's the thing behind the thing of where all of her lack of joy
Caesar Kalinowski:or stress or all this stuff comes from.
Caesar Kalinowski:And like I said, I still experience it all the time, but it comes from unbelief.
Caesar Kalinowski:Roman says this, it says that all sin comes from unbelief.
Caesar Kalinowski:Sins not the action.
Caesar Kalinowski:Hey, I hollered at Tina today.
Caesar Kalinowski:My, to my wife or whatever.
Caesar Kalinowski:I was really rude to her.
Caesar Kalinowski:The act, that's not the sin.
Caesar Kalinowski:The sin is the unbelief behind it of who God is, who he's made her to
Caesar Kalinowski:be, who He's made me to be And I am I living in light of that, see, the
Caesar Kalinowski:most natural way we can lift him is to live out of our true identity.
Caesar Kalinowski:Think about that.
Caesar Kalinowski:This is who I am.
Caesar Kalinowski:I get to be, I don't prop that up.
Caesar Kalinowski:I didn't create it.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't sustain it.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm completely loved in just who I am.
Caesar Kalinowski:Do to be that do, to be distortion of what you do equals who you are and your value.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's not true.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's a lie.
Caesar Kalinowski:that's called the beast in scripture.
Caesar Kalinowski:when we start to move beyond that, then there's real joy and freedom.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I think to tie it all the way back when we were with the church
Caesar Kalinowski:in a war zone or whether it's great Christian persecution and they,
Caesar Kalinowski:there's no due to be, in fact, if they do, they will be persecuted.
Caesar Kalinowski:They're, they're being, they're saying, yeah, my, my brother was
Caesar Kalinowski:chopped to death and thrown in a fire in front of me by Muslim.
Caesar Kalinowski:militants cuz we're Christians and they still have great joy in their life.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm so grateful to God though he's better than me and he's providing
Caesar Kalinowski:him like, oh my god, this is crazy.
Caesar Kalinowski:Right.
Caesar Kalinowski:I, I think what it's going on there is they believe who God is.
Caesar Kalinowski:He's their only hope.
Caesar Kalinowski:They get that, and from that comes that peace that passes understanding.
Caesar Kalinowski:You're like, I'd be kicked off if I had to live in a mud hut.
Caesar Kalinowski:And half my family was, killed because of our faith.
Tim Winders:And they're also, I love the fact that you've mentioned identity
Tim Winders:twice because I, I think that there's a bit of a crisis in identity in the
Tim Winders:world because people are questioning it.
Tim Winders:There are a lot of people that claim to be Christians and followers of Christ that
Tim Winders:I'm not sure if they grasp their identity.
Tim Winders:And one of the things we see with conflicts is people aren't comfortable
Tim Winders:with their identity, so it's difficult to accept others' identity.
Tim Winders:And so instead of, I think you said salute was the word to use, I think
Tim Winders:people are wanting and demanding that you not just accept who I am,
Tim Winders:but I want you to celebrate me.
Tim Winders:I
Caesar Kalinowski:Oh yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:Even if it's completely a false narrative, if I even get a whiff, Tim, that you're
Caesar Kalinowski:not on the same page with me and ready to celebrate this distortion, bye.
Caesar Kalinowski:Can't handle it.
Caesar Kalinowski:Can't.
Tim Winders:And it causes so much conflict.
Tim Winders:I want, there's one thing that I want to address and I'll, I'm gonna ask
Tim Winders:it somewhat generic and I'll let you be as specific as you desire to be.
Tim Winders:There are the megachurches in our society today get a lot of flack and I think some
Tim Winders:of it's well-deserved too, by the way.
Tim Winders:But I know the one you attended, I'll let you share if you want to.
Tim Winders:I know that at one point it was one of the fastest growing.
Tim Winders:Biggest around and later they ran into some challenges
Tim Winders:because of some leadership.
Tim Winders:What are some of the pros and cons to that structure?
Tim Winders:I'm a business structure guy.
Tim Winders:I'm an engineer, and I am coming to where I really love the small group
Tim Winders:non, all the time, full-time ministry.
Tim Winders:And so I wanna be careful here.
Tim Winders:I don't want to get into throwing a bunch of stuff around, but I would
Tim Winders:like, just because your perspective to share whatever you're comfortable with
Tim Winders:about just observations and things we're seeing with that big church, structure.
Caesar Kalinowski:it's interesting we're seeing that kind of
Caesar Kalinowski:dismantle itself in recent years, largely from top down, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Sort of the cult of personalities crumbling.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's not working as well as it maybe once did.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now of course where it's still working, they're like a hundred
Caesar Kalinowski:percent, cuz there's a bit of a bubble, that, that folks live in.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think we, maybe we all do.
Caesar Kalinowski:See, I have people assume because we talk about living out our faith in
Caesar Kalinowski:everyday life, which is gonna mean in smaller communities primarily.
Caesar Kalinowski:Even if as we regather those or however we regather those,
Caesar Kalinowski:they assume we're anti that.
Caesar Kalinowski:and of course we're not.
Caesar Kalinowski:I believe in the gathering of the saints.
Caesar Kalinowski:I believe in the sharing of all the giftings at the maturest level that God,
Caesar Kalinowski:will grace us with gathering up together.
Caesar Kalinowski:And all that stuff's a benefit and a blessing to us.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's grace.
Caesar Kalinowski:However, the command is, go and make disciples.
Caesar Kalinowski:The command is not get loads of people in a building to sing about me.
Caesar Kalinowski:Just it's not.
Caesar Kalinowski:And I, I know
Tim Winders:and have smoke.
Tim Winders:And have smoke machines.
Tim Winders:You brought it up earlier.
Tim Winders:It's
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:or whatever, or, we don't do that.
Caesar Kalinowski:We just have the barnwood wall now that all the mediums to small churches
Caesar Kalinowski:all like mandatory got three to five years ago, I don't know what
Caesar Kalinowski:happened all, but they all have it.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's crazy, And and and we're doing the songs that come from one of
Caesar Kalinowski:four organizations largely just saw a report on this crazy right.
Caesar Kalinowski:Which, people ask me all the time, do you know this song?
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm like, Nope.
Caesar Kalinowski:Cuz I don't listen to any of that, I think that when all of a sudden our
Caesar Kalinowski:focus there again got off of make disciples who make disciples, you, the
Caesar Kalinowski:benefit gets lost of wait a minute, just getting 300 people or 500 people
Caesar Kalinowski:or 20,000 people in a room together.
Caesar Kalinowski:that's not discipleship.
Caesar Kalinowski:It might be worship, it might not be, a preaching of the word.
Caesar Kalinowski:If it's the gospel.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it's not due to be, if it's not now you got, here's how
Caesar Kalinowski:you have to go live like Jesus.
Caesar Kalinowski:So go muster that up.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's law.
Caesar Kalinowski:that's not the gospel.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's no should in the gospel or shouldn't.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's you get to right or you need not cuz Christ already took care of all that.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think the negative of that is if that's the focus, how do you make disciples
Caesar Kalinowski:when you're sitting, in rows and rows?
Caesar Kalinowski:So let me give you an analogy by God's grace.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it really is, my wife and I were both raised in broken homes by wolves
Caesar Kalinowski:and the only thing we knew when we got married is we don't know nothing
Caesar Kalinowski:about being married and raising kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:But our kids, we have three boy, girl told you about Caesar already.
Caesar Kalinowski:they're all adults now and having families and raising kids, and they
Caesar Kalinowski:all still love God and they love people and they love their mom and
Caesar Kalinowski:dad, and we're all like best friends.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's nuts.
Caesar Kalinowski:Like the dream can be real.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:And, people ask us all the time, how did you and Tina raise such great kids?
Caesar Kalinowski:they really are.
Caesar Kalinowski:And they really, they're fun.
Caesar Kalinowski:if you came over and hung out tonight, you'd feel like part
Caesar Kalinowski:of team K, part of the family.
Caesar Kalinowski:They would treat you all like family.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's how we roll.
Caesar Kalinowski:And you'd go, man, this is a fun place, bunch to hang on.
Caesar Kalinowski:So people ask all the time, what if Tina said, this is crazy.
Caesar Kalinowski:All we did was this how we raised our kids once a week on the weekend, usually
Caesar Kalinowski:Sunday morning, we lined up a bunch of chairs and rows in the living room.
Caesar Kalinowski:And Tina says, me and the kids, we sat there in those
Caesar Kalinowski:rows and, largely in silence.
Caesar Kalinowski:We sang a couple camp songs, that they're not that great, we sing them.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then Caesar had this little stand thing.
Caesar Kalinowski:He'd stand up in front of the living room and he would talk to us about
Caesar Kalinowski:the Bible for about 30, 45 minutes.
Caesar Kalinowski:He liked to go long though.
Caesar Kalinowski:And and then we'd say, see you next week, kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:and and they're like, I'm doing so, oh, maybe the next week you come in Wednesday.
Caesar Kalinowski:No, that's okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:you guys have a great week man.
Caesar Kalinowski:We love y'all.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then, and we would do that.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it wasn't even every Sunday, cuz people are busy, but it was
Caesar Kalinowski:most Sundays and that's all we did.
Caesar Kalinowski:And they turned out amazing.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now it's such a goofy analogy that it really hammers that nail, doesn't it?
Caesar Kalinowski:Because you could never raise kids that way, that are, effective adults
Caesar Kalinowski:and love each other and love God and people and give their lives of service
Caesar Kalinowski:and, and they're generous and all.
Caesar Kalinowski:You couldn't do that in an hour and a half a week sitting in rose and silence.
Caesar Kalinowski:And yet, somehow we think we're gonna form spiritually mature people
Caesar Kalinowski:who are generous and love God, and love each other, and love people and
Caesar Kalinowski:live like a close family doing that.
Caesar Kalinowski:The advantages of living in smaller community is the
Caesar Kalinowski:primary organizing structure.
Caesar Kalinowski:hey, this is where life and ministry and discipleship happens, and we get
Caesar Kalinowski:to come together and blow it up, man, if you like, that sort of thing, go
Caesar Kalinowski:for it, smoke it out, but the benefit of living the way that we see in
Caesar Kalinowski:scripture, but the only way we see in scripture is you get to live as a family.
Caesar Kalinowski:That word oikos, the church in Corinth, whatever, it was always
Caesar Kalinowski:oikos, which means extended family.
Caesar Kalinowski:And this is what we talk about on our Everyday Disciple podcast in all of our
Caesar Kalinowski:coaching exclusively, is it, as you live this kingdom life, as you live in light
Caesar Kalinowski:of the truth of who God is and what he says is true of us now because of Christ.
Caesar Kalinowski:And you let the rings of your relationship of your family life and the kingdom
Caesar Kalinowski:move out to include more and more others and treat them as family.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's amazing.
Caesar Kalinowski:What ha That's your OI cost.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's amazing.
Caesar Kalinowski:What happens?
Caesar Kalinowski:So for us, that's neighbors.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's our kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's a bunch of our kids' friends.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's our friends who are friends with our kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's people that are employees.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's someone we met at, the cafe that we go to a million times.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's the guy who tends bar at the pub, our local, that's our OI costs
Caesar Kalinowski:and we open up our home and our life completely to those people.
Caesar Kalinowski:We don't hide our faith.
Caesar Kalinowski:They're super interested in wondering about it.
Caesar Kalinowski:those who show up and hang out, people with peace.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's a real advantage to raising a family that way.
Caesar Kalinowski:And just like God doesn't give us litters, usually we don't have here's
Caesar Kalinowski:a dozen kids, or here's 20,000 kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:They try to raise you, get 'em one at a time.
Caesar Kalinowski:You know what I mean?
Caesar Kalinowski:they come in or two or three at a time max, kinda usually you can't
Caesar Kalinowski:disciple in every area of life.
Caesar Kalinowski:You can't disciple people mass sitting in rose and silence
Caesar Kalinowski:just giving them information.
Caesar Kalinowski:Or Jesus would've done it that way.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm convinced of it.
Tim Winders:I think it's a challenge.
Tim Winders:I do think that maybe struggle, we know we, people can quote the
Tim Winders:scriptures where to make disciples and.
Tim Winders:and that is one of our commandments, I think.
Tim Winders:I'm really wondering if some of us, I'll go and throw me in here and so I'll,
Tim Winders:I'm gonna let you define this for us.
Tim Winders:Some of us don't understand what the word disciple means.
Tim Winders:Obviously it's got a
Caesar Kalinowski:or discipleship.
Tim Winders:discipleship discipline, things like that.
Tim Winders:So maybe before we go any further, Caesar, why don't we, let's talk a bit
Tim Winders:about what that really means because it is thrown around quite a bit.
Tim Winders:I went to bible school for a few years, had a similar experience where there was
Tim Winders:someone talking at me most of the time and I was taking notes and studying and,
Tim Winders:doing the things you should be doing.
Tim Winders:But they would say that your role here is to be discipled and I
Tim Winders:actually think that maybe we don't.
Tim Winders:Really grasp what disciple means.
Tim Winders:So talk to us, define it, give all that you can so that we can try to understand
Tim Winders:what discipleship and disciple means.
Caesar Kalinowski:We've had to try to break this down.
Caesar Kalinowski:Tim, it's a great question.
Caesar Kalinowski:We've had to try to break it down so that it wasn't.
Caesar Kalinowski:There again, where we're chasing two different things, but using the same word.
Caesar Kalinowski:and for us, the what we say, here's our definition of discipleship, and
Caesar Kalinowski:then we'll talk about what's, and then what's a disciple Discipleship.
Caesar Kalinowski:We believe ultimately is this process of moving from unbelief
Caesar Kalinowski:to belief in light of the gospel in absolutely every area of life.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay?
Caesar Kalinowski:Moving from lies to truth, unbelief to belief in light of the gospel.
Caesar Kalinowski:Who is God?
Caesar Kalinowski:What's he like?
Caesar Kalinowski:What's he done in and through His son Jesus?
Caesar Kalinowski:What's he now say is true of us?
Caesar Kalinowski:Our identity, our authority, our privilege.
Caesar Kalinowski:Because of that, out of that flows, okay then how do we get to live?
Caesar Kalinowski:Not should or supposed to, cuz it's already been done
Caesar Kalinowski:at the cross, it's finished.
Caesar Kalinowski:But how do we get to live in light of that?
Caesar Kalinowski:And so if discipleship is the process of moving from unbelief to belief,
Caesar Kalinowski:helping each other do that in every area of life, then guess what we're gonna
Caesar Kalinowski:have to do every area of life together.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's not a process of disseminating information.
Caesar Kalinowski:It, It's not just deep Bible literacy.
Caesar Kalinowski:We say it's not Bible literacy that we're after, or that Jesus
Caesar Kalinowski:was after it's gospel fluency.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't wanna freak anybody out, any of your listeners.
Caesar Kalinowski:Maybe they're gonna tune out right after I say this.
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus never owned a Bible.
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus never discipled Christians.
Caesar Kalinowski:There weren't any, He didn't.
Caesar Kalinowski:He had the 12 knuckleheads that he didn't even choose.
Caesar Kalinowski:Dad chose it says there, at the ascension that the 11 who were still alive, it
Caesar Kalinowski:said some still did not believe what?
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's how it goes.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's how
Tim Winders:A and we think that only one of them was a knucklehead,
Tim Winders:but they all had issues.
Tim Winders:Right?
Caesar Kalinowski:how many of 'em do we hear about after.
Caesar Kalinowski:Just a few.
Caesar Kalinowski:And we just assume they're all out crushing it.
Caesar Kalinowski:Planting huge worship services.
Caesar Kalinowski:They got the best sound systems, by the way.
Caesar Kalinowski:All, All that stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:Nope, I don't think so.
Caesar Kalinowski:we know some of them went back to like fishing or farming or I'll
Caesar Kalinowski:go back and see if I can get my government job, collecting tax.
Caesar Kalinowski:We, you know, we don't, right.
Caesar Kalinowski:Well, not Matthew, but you know, so we have such this distorted
Caesar Kalinowski:somewhere along the line disciples there again, when we lost the gospel
Caesar Kalinowski:narrative of it's not about getting saved and your afterlife upgrade.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's about make disciples who make disciples, which is.
Caesar Kalinowski:How we fill the world with God's glory, by the way, as we become more and more
Caesar Kalinowski:like Christ, the mystery revealed, Paul says, God's gonna do this through humans.
Caesar Kalinowski:What?
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah, he's gonna sanctify them, put his own spirit in them, and as
Caesar Kalinowski:they make more disciples of Jesus, who is the glory of God, the whole
Caesar Kalinowski:world will be filled with his glory.
Caesar Kalinowski:What?
Caesar Kalinowski:That's what's really going on When we lost that narrative for we gotta get people
Caesar Kalinowski:saved and then Christianity's about sin management and behavioral modification.
Caesar Kalinowski:Then quote, discipleship came about, teach them the Bible and get 'em to do it.
Caesar Kalinowski:And yeah, but D, didn't Jesus say, make disciples, immersing them in
Caesar Kalinowski:their identity, in the name of the Father, in the name of the Son and
Caesar Kalinowski:the Holy Spirit, and and teach them to obey all that I've commanded.
Caesar Kalinowski:Didn't he say that?
Caesar Kalinowski:Didn't he say that?
Caesar Kalinowski:But how many things did Jesus command and what if you summarized it?
Caesar Kalinowski:What He summarized it.
Caesar Kalinowski:He goes, all right, love God with your whole heart.
Caesar Kalinowski:Love everybody else as much as you love yourself.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's the summary, so and we can get to the list, but really if you do
Caesar Kalinowski:the hermeneutical work on that, teach them to obey all that I've commanded.
Caesar Kalinowski:Really what he's saying is show them how to live in the ways of what is
Caesar Kalinowski:actually already true of God and now true of them because of me.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's really what it's saying.
Caesar Kalinowski:Teach them to obey all that I've commanded.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's a real tweak on that hermeneutic.
Caesar Kalinowski:It really is.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's kind of accurate, but what that's saying is show 'em how to walk in my ways.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now you add this, get ready for this man.
Caesar Kalinowski:You add that to what Jesus said in John eight.
Caesar Kalinowski:If you'll be my disciples, if you'll walk in my ways, then you'll come to know the
Caesar Kalinowski:truth and that truth will set you free.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now, isn't that crazy?
Caesar Kalinowski:Notice the order there.
Caesar Kalinowski:If you'll be my disciples, if you'll walk in my ways, and this is what
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus commands us to go do, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Then you'll come to know the truth and that truth will set you free.
Caesar Kalinowski:But what have we done and what was I guilty of for so much of life?
Caesar Kalinowski:Even as a pastor, we flip that narrative 180 and we go, if you'll
Caesar Kalinowski:believe what we say is true, you'll say the magic prayer that can't find
Caesar Kalinowski:the scripture, you'll get set free.
Caesar Kalinowski:You won't feel free, but you'll get set free.
Caesar Kalinowski:You know it's in your afterlife.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's when you catch that check and then we'll disciple you.
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus says, if you'll be my disciple, then you'll come to know the truth
Caesar Kalinowski:and that truth will set you free.
Caesar Kalinowski:And we make that like a meta term.
Caesar Kalinowski:so that's when, that's how you get your ticket to heaven punched.
Caesar Kalinowski:But if you dare, again, just back up a few verses, couple chapters.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's not what he's saying.
Caesar Kalinowski:He's saying, if you'll walk in my ways, in any way, like when it comes
Caesar Kalinowski:to like generosity in who's really your provision and who do you trust
Caesar Kalinowski:for your needs and you know your kids and all that, if you'll walk in my
Caesar Kalinowski:ways, you'll come to know the truth.
Caesar Kalinowski:About God, and that he owns it all and he loves you and he cares for you.
Caesar Kalinowski:And this family is gonna, and that truth will set you free.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so now you'll get to live free.
Caesar Kalinowski:And even if you lose your job or you look at your bank account and go,
Caesar Kalinowski:that's rough with not much in there, but we need to help these people.
Caesar Kalinowski:God will take care of us.
Caesar Kalinowski:you'll be set free.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's what's going on here.
Caesar Kalinowski:Discipleship is that process of helping each other move from unbelief
Caesar Kalinowski:to belief in every area of life.
Caesar Kalinowski:And if you take Jesus as word in John eight, and also what did he model?
Caesar Kalinowski:The same thing.
Caesar Kalinowski:He didn't say, you gotta be a Christian first, and now I can disciple you.
Caesar Kalinowski:He's come and follow me, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:Let's walk in my ways.
Caesar Kalinowski:if you take him at face value, then that means people are actually discipled to
Caesar Kalinowski:faith, to truth that sets them free.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then on to maturity.
Caesar Kalinowski:So there's not this flip flopped d made up narrative of you gotta
Caesar Kalinowski:adhere to a bunch of truths.
Caesar Kalinowski:First say a prayer, and then that sets you free.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then we'll disciple you in your sin management behavior modification program.
Tim Winders:We're gonna beat it in.
Tim Winders:We're gonna beat it into you.
Tim Winders:We
Caesar Kalinowski:can't find it.
Caesar Kalinowski:we'll, and now be, we'll be very nice about it though.
Caesar Kalinowski:We'll be very nice.
Caesar Kalinowski:But the assumption will be parallel, just like your parents in school are,
Caesar Kalinowski:is that God loves you more when you do this you a little less when you don't.
Caesar Kalinowski:And if you really want him to love you, tithe and sign up for a bunch of programs.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay?
Caesar Kalinowski:Cause we need people to stack chairs and hand out these flyers.
Tim Winders:Volunteers show up, work the nursery, you do the
Tim Winders:parking lot, things like that.
Caesar Kalinowski:super happy now.
Caesar Kalinowski:God's super happy with you.
Tim Winders:I heard really what I heard as you were walking through that was
Tim Winders:not only are we moving from unbelief to belief, which you talked about the
Tim Winders:process, and I'm an industrial engineer.
Tim Winders:I love talking about process.
Tim Winders:I, I believe that this journey we're on is just that it is a journey where
Tim Winders:you're not going to get to a destination.
Tim Winders:It isn't a check the box destination.
Tim Winders:So we're moving from unbelief to belief, which is really moving into the
Tim Winders:truth of what our identity really is.
Tim Winders:so Cesar, one of the things we really, we try to dig into this term of redefining
Tim Winders:success because everything in our culture tries to define success for us.
Tim Winders:And I believe even.
Tim Winders:those of us that are in church world, we followers of Christ, which most
Tim Winders:of our listeners are, there may be some that aren't, which we welcome
Tim Winders:them and love that they're here.
Tim Winders:But most people, when you start talking about some things, about everyday living,
Tim Winders:about walking this out, about going through the process, I think that there's
Tim Winders:some people that may struggle with, how do I go from, yeah, I know that I need
Tim Winders:to do more than what I'm doing Sunday.
Tim Winders:Or some people may have decided they don't even like going on Sunday,
Caesar Kalinowski:More and more, right?
Tim Winders:but they still feel some, yeah, we see a lot of numbers like that.
Tim Winders:If we look at the act, if we read Believe Barna and
Caesar Kalinowski:Oh, it's way past the midpoint.
Caesar Kalinowski:unfortunately,
Tim Winders:of people that aren't going to church, but yet they have
Tim Winders:some spiritual aspect and somehow that's gonna have to be addressed.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:So I would love for us in the time we've got here the last few minutes and all,
Tim Winders:as we head towards trying to do a landing and I know you've got resources, we're
Tim Winders:gonna ask for some of those at the end.
Tim Winders:I'm gonna let you tell people where to find all the resources.
Tim Winders:Cuz I
Caesar Kalinowski:so much stuff, folks.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:but I'd love for you with some time we've got here to speak to the person
Tim Winders:that's just going, how can I just break away from my rut or where I'm
Tim Winders:at or just get a little bit deeper?
Tim Winders:What are some things you can tell people that are wanting to go into
Tim Winders:that role of an everyday disciple or move down that process closer to
Tim Winders:belief from where they are in unbelief.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think that the slippery slope of this is, and you just
Caesar Kalinowski:queued it up with the slippery slope.
Caesar Kalinowski:Sorry to say Tim, but is what must I do?
Caesar Kalinowski:And that unfortunately is where we all start because of that doto be distortion.
Caesar Kalinowski:It really is.
Caesar Kalinowski:The other way.
Caesar Kalinowski:we have to learn to believe who we be, who we are, our identity and out
Caesar Kalinowski:of our true identity, which we've already talked a little bit about,
Caesar Kalinowski:is the most natural, fulfilling way to live out of that identity.
Caesar Kalinowski:We live into the rhythms of everyday life and we teach deeply on, there's
Caesar Kalinowski:six rhythms of life that God gave the whole world and everybody from
Caesar Kalinowski:the Garden of Eden up until you and I to people in Ukraine, or we're
Caesar Kalinowski:all living in the same six rhythms.
Caesar Kalinowski:but it's not the doing, it's the how are who are we being, And that's where
Caesar Kalinowski:that becoming, deeper in our belief.
Caesar Kalinowski:About who God has created us to be.
Caesar Kalinowski:See we, we talk about it as Christians quite often, that your
Caesar Kalinowski:identity now is in Christ if you trust him and you're a Christian.
Caesar Kalinowski:it's true, but our identity is also in the Father and in the Spirit.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it's right back to where it says, right Matthew 28, go and make disciples.
Caesar Kalinowski:How therefore baptizing them that we're baptized means
Caesar Kalinowski:to immerse, to soak them in.
Caesar Kalinowski:They're in the name of the Father.
Caesar Kalinowski:In the name of the Son.
Caesar Kalinowski:In the name of the Spirit.
Caesar Kalinowski:Wow.
Caesar Kalinowski:All a huge identity statement.
Caesar Kalinowski:So what's discipleship about then?
Caesar Kalinowski:we've already talked about it's this idea of moving from unbelief to
Caesar Kalinowski:belief, the truth in every area of life, connected to what our identity.
Caesar Kalinowski:It really is true.
Caesar Kalinowski:Why?
Caesar Kalinowski:Because our identity flows from who God is.
Caesar Kalinowski:He's filling the role with His glory.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's who he is.
Caesar Kalinowski:How's he doing it through us?
Caesar Kalinowski:What's the enemy?
Caesar Kalinowski:Want to tear down God's glory, God's image.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's why all the attack on identity and out of all this is where we get
Caesar Kalinowski:gender dysphoria and homosexuality and all the things that we're experiencing
Caesar Kalinowski:right now, all flow from a not believing the truth of our identity.
Caesar Kalinowski:We all were believers and not yet believers, we're all created in
Caesar Kalinowski:the identity of a Trinitarian God.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so when people say, what's the first stuff we gotta do?
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay, first off, do you believe God's your father?
Caesar Kalinowski:And cuz if you bear his name, if you're bear Kalinowski name
Caesar Kalinowski:in our family, guess what?
Caesar Kalinowski:You know you're family.
Caesar Kalinowski:You know it's part of that.
Caesar Kalinowski:But we treat everybody like family, cuz that's how we see God doing it and we
Caesar Kalinowski:believe that's what he calls us to do.
Caesar Kalinowski:But.
Caesar Kalinowski:If that's true.
Caesar Kalinowski:If dad's we have the same dad, then Tim, you and I are really family.
Caesar Kalinowski:What's that mean?
Caesar Kalinowski:If we were a healthy family, I know a lot of people don't have healthy
Caesar Kalinowski:families, but we always say, what do you think you'd do differently if God
Caesar Kalinowski:was your daddy, Jesus was your brother.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's what he calls us in Hebrews.
Caesar Kalinowski:And you had the power that raised Christ from the dead,
Caesar Kalinowski:the Holy Spirit dwelling in you.
Caesar Kalinowski:So no lack of power, motivation, strength or any of that for this life.
Caesar Kalinowski:What do you think life would look like if you believed we were really family?
Caesar Kalinowski:And so are your neighbors by the way, I think we'd hang out and eat a lot
Caesar Kalinowski:and we'd have fun together and we would share the tough stuff, but not with fear,
Caesar Kalinowski:because the do to B thing would be done cause we're living out of our identity.
Caesar Kalinowski:And that doesn't change based on what you do.
Caesar Kalinowski:Because of what Christ has already done, And so I think we would live
Caesar Kalinowski:more like a family and share our stuff and care for one another and work
Caesar Kalinowski:together and play and fight and forgive.
Caesar Kalinowski:And you're like, oh, you mean like in the book of Acts?
Caesar Kalinowski:yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:and then, okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:But we're also made in the image of the son who is a servant.
Caesar Kalinowski:He came and he says, as I was sent, so I send you, he came as a servant,
Caesar Kalinowski:not to be served, he said, but as one who serves, then if you live as
Caesar Kalinowski:a servant now, you're not wondering, what am I getting outta the deal?
Caesar Kalinowski:You look at everything and go, how might I serve here?
Caesar Kalinowski:Why?
Caesar Kalinowski:Because it'll show people what God's his glory.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I, this, we do whole teachings on this.
Caesar Kalinowski:Then we could do three episodes on identity if you'd like, but it all starts
Caesar Kalinowski:with believing, really getting soaked in, saturated, baptized in the truth of
Caesar Kalinowski:who God is and who he's created us to be.
Caesar Kalinowski:And now in Christ that's been restored and we're What's faith?
Caesar Kalinowski:What's salvation?
Caesar Kalinowski:it's believing that's true and living out of it.
Tim Winders:So one thing Caesar, I'm curious with all that you're
Tim Winders:doing and with the, we'll call it the mission work that you're doing in
Tim Winders:the local areas, which is phenomenal.
Tim Winders:I'm guessing that you are running across quite a few people that have
Tim Winders:very little, if any background in, say, traditional, formal church, may not
Tim Winders:even have familiarity with the Bible.
Tim Winders:I grew up in the South, the Bible Belt, and people throw scriptures around
Tim Winders:because they grew up with scripture.
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Tim Winders:I think now we're running across, and we're getting to this, I think
Tim Winders:Europe's already gotten to this point where there's like a post, post-Christian
Tim Winders:where people, you talk about the Bible, they go, what are you talking about?
Tim Winders:I have no idea what you're talking about.
Tim Winders:How g, give some examples of how you are just living it out every day.
Tim Winders:But here's the reason why I think many people struggle with
Tim Winders:that and that is an action.
Tim Winders:I know I asked about doing earlier.
Caesar Kalinowski:no, we, out of our identity, we do all kinds of stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's the doing's not the problem.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's why, what's our motivation for doing it,
Tim Winders:Sure.
Tim Winders:And so give some examples that, that you've got of just what happens
Tim Winders:when this everyday discipleship begins to take root and occur
Caesar Kalinowski:it starts out usually at our table.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:and for
Tim Winders:food.
Tim Winders:So food's involved.
Caesar Kalinowski:foods involved, meals are involved.
Caesar Kalinowski:Time to be.
Caesar Kalinowski:is key.
Caesar Kalinowski:it's not a weekly meeting sitting in rows in silence.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's not a group that comes together just to study a book of the Bible and see
Caesar Kalinowski:what parts we agree or d disagree with.
Caesar Kalinowski:Because like most of my friends are not believers, not yet believers.
Caesar Kalinowski:most of my friends are, they have some background in it, some Catholicism
Caesar Kalinowski:a little bit when they were a child.
Caesar Kalinowski:But it never really, that afterlife upgrade gospel never
Caesar Kalinowski:really hit that hard for them.
Caesar Kalinowski:And the sin management, behavioral modification wasn't good news.
Caesar Kalinowski:So they're working on it in their own.
Caesar Kalinowski:They're, ideas and strength.
Caesar Kalinowski:And so for us, usually it starts with a meal.
Caesar Kalinowski:We do lots of parties, we do lots of open tables.
Caesar Kalinowski:that's a big deal.
Caesar Kalinowski:and happy hours.
Caesar Kalinowski:we, we do happy hour here and people love it.
Caesar Kalinowski:We did happy hours in the driveway during covid and we didn't mean
Caesar Kalinowski:to collect a bunch of people.
Caesar Kalinowski:We said, Hey, how about cuz we, we'd already known for doing happy hours.
Caesar Kalinowski:How about we're gonna be out in our driveway?
Caesar Kalinowski:Friday at six and we're gonna set up a little table and have a little happy hour.
Caesar Kalinowski:Why don't anybody who wants to do the same thing in a neighborhood and we'll
Caesar Kalinowski:wave at each other and then maybe in an hour we'll walk around and talk and
Caesar Kalinowski:wave at each other from the sidewalks.
Caesar Kalinowski:they didn't read the memo and we just had about 20 something,
Caesar Kalinowski:30 people show up initially, six plus feet apart by the end of it.
Caesar Kalinowski:Nah, not so much.
Caesar Kalinowski:They were dying for community.
Caesar Kalinowski:We put out flyers going, Hey, I don't like, we haven't stockpiled
Caesar Kalinowski:a ton of stuff, but we, whatever we got, we're willing to share.
Caesar Kalinowski:And if you can't get out, let us know.
Caesar Kalinowski:We'll, we can get out.
Caesar Kalinowski:We're, healthy by God's grace and anything we can do for you, here's
Caesar Kalinowski:our name, here's our phone number, and we just put that all over the
Caesar Kalinowski:neighborhood, everywhere and hand it out.
Caesar Kalinowski:people did, and people still talk about that.
Caesar Kalinowski:You guys were the best and you had still had your parties and you had us
Caesar Kalinowski:over and it was crazy and we trust you.
Caesar Kalinowski:and so it's, that's how it starts for us.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think that the hugest distinction is that we treat people like
Caesar Kalinowski:family, not like guests.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's a huge one.
Caesar Kalinowski:We don't see people as a guest, Hey, come on in.
Caesar Kalinowski:Can I bring anything?
Caesar Kalinowski:no, just bring your smile on face.
Caesar Kalinowski:Can I help with anything?
Caesar Kalinowski:No, I got it.
Caesar Kalinowski:Just what can I get you to drink?
Caesar Kalinowski:Just sit down.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's all right.
Caesar Kalinowski:Nope.
Caesar Kalinowski:People come to our house and it's sure, you can bring that.
Caesar Kalinowski:And when they get there, we're like, could you run this out and throw it in the can?
Caesar Kalinowski:I didn't get the garbage out.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's totally overflown.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm so sorry.
Caesar Kalinowski:drinks are over here.
Caesar Kalinowski:The glasses are up there.
Caesar Kalinowski:If you don't find something, just root around.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's probably in the fridge, just like you would with family right away.
Caesar Kalinowski:People respond very different to that.
Caesar Kalinowski:you treat 'em like a guest, they act like a guest.
Caesar Kalinowski:You treat 'em like family.
Caesar Kalinowski:They start to act more like family.
Caesar Kalinowski:What that does is that starts to break down and there's a real
Caesar Kalinowski:intentionality to how we speak with people and the questions we ask.
Caesar Kalinowski:I wanna get to know their stories.
Caesar Kalinowski:I wanna know where they're living in unbelief and lies so I can
Caesar Kalinowski:help 'em move from that to truth.
Caesar Kalinowski:And that might be through conversation, or initially it might be like I.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't believe in family.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's broken.
Caesar Kalinowski:Ours is jacked.
Caesar Kalinowski:I'm on my third marriage.
Caesar Kalinowski:My kids have moved out.
Caesar Kalinowski:They hate me.
Caesar Kalinowski:But I look at your family and I go, it looks like there's an option,
Caesar Kalinowski:at least for it to be different.
Caesar Kalinowski:And eventually they want to know why.
Caesar Kalinowski:I can't really explain that without explaining our faith
Caesar Kalinowski:and who we believe Jesus is.
Caesar Kalinowski:so it's really simple things like that.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now we teach and train and coach on all this stuff, but
Caesar Kalinowski:it starts out always the same.
Caesar Kalinowski:Hey, let's start having a family dinner night as a family.
Caesar Kalinowski:Then let's start opening up the rings of that relationship a little naturally.
Caesar Kalinowski:Something we're already doing.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's already fun.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's a blast.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's full of joy.
Caesar Kalinowski:Let's just open up the rings to people who are leaning into relationship.
Caesar Kalinowski:Let them experience a little of bit.
Caesar Kalinowski:People are dying.
Caesar Kalinowski:Trust me, they're dying for a place at the table.
Caesar Kalinowski:We've never had a shortage of people who wanna have dinner and hang out with us,
Caesar Kalinowski:real simply, real practically like that.
Tim Winders:I do think that there's some people when we bring up family, my, my
Tim Winders:wife is one that because of relationship with father and mother and things like
Tim Winders:that, they may struggle with that.
Tim Winders:And so I think it's really healthy to show a model of the way a healthy
Tim Winders:family functions and operates.
Tim Winders:I'm curious, one of the things that I've done as I've studied the gospels is I've
Tim Winders:looked at those four gospels and I've, in my mind, I'm trying to think how much
Tim Winders:time did Jesus actually spend with the 12
Caesar Kalinowski:I've done the math.
Caesar Kalinowski:Have you?
Tim Winders:I've tried to, so I'm gonna ask it.
Tim Winders:let me mention one other thing, and I'm gonna let you respond to that because
Tim Winders:I, I keep hearing, and maybe this is the question and you could expand on this.
Tim Winders:I keep hearing you say there's patience, there's time.
Tim Winders:It's not like it's a real quick text and that's your relationship with someone.
Tim Winders:We spend 35 minutes sitting beside you and we greet at the beginning of the
Tim Winders:service and then we're out and we're done.
Tim Winders:Don't even go to lunch together.
Tim Winders:There, there is time with discipleship and interacting with people, which also
Tim Winders:means I don't think that you can really do it well with more than a certain number.
Tim Winders:Maybe the number's 12.
Tim Winders:I don't know.
Tim Winders:but tell me.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:what is the math?
Tim Winders:he had three years, but they hung out together
Caesar Kalinowski:So it's a guess, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:I did the math and I'll just tell you what my math was.
Caesar Kalinowski:it was about three and a half years.
Caesar Kalinowski:Okay.
Caesar Kalinowski:By the time Jesus went back to dad, hung out with dad and
Caesar Kalinowski:they were pretty much there.
Caesar Kalinowski:They were together if they were awake.
Caesar Kalinowski:So let's just give it 18 hours.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's about 30,000 hours.
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus hung out with his disciples.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now, I did the other side of the math, and I won't remember the
Caesar Kalinowski:exact number, but pretty close.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think if, let's just say the people in our church, they
Caesar Kalinowski:all come every week, okay?
Caesar Kalinowski:Two hours.
Caesar Kalinowski:and they never miss, okay?
Caesar Kalinowski:And they come midweek hour and a half.
Caesar Kalinowski:And because we're a discipline church, we were rock stars.
Caesar Kalinowski:one Saturday, a month for two hours, we equip like crazy and everybody makes it.
Caesar Kalinowski:I added that up and I said, to get to 30,000 hours, how long would it take?
Caesar Kalinowski:And it was something like 120 something years, I think to equal the same parody.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now, let me go back to something I said earlier.
Caesar Kalinowski:Jesus did the 30,000 hours with people complete open life.
Caesar Kalinowski:You've heard it said, but I say this is what the father's
Caesar Kalinowski:You wanna know what he's like.
Caesar Kalinowski:He's like a couple hundred gallons of wine, three days into a party.
Caesar Kalinowski:That's dad's heart, just so you know, or first miracle.
Caesar Kalinowski:stuff like that.
Caesar Kalinowski:but the 11 were still there with him watching at his ascension, and
Caesar Kalinowski:some still weren't sure about it.
Caesar Kalinowski:They weren't quite, not believing hand in the holes.
Caesar Kalinowski:I don't know, resurrected, miracles.
Caesar Kalinowski:still not sure if that's Jesus track record and his disciples
Caesar Kalinowski:changed the world, and you and I are still talking about it today.
Caesar Kalinowski:Then I think we can give ourselves a break here and say,
Caesar Kalinowski:discipleship is not microwave.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's not super duper fast.
Caesar Kalinowski:You're gonna have to invest deeply.
Caesar Kalinowski:we just say discipleship is very, if you want to get a quick picture of it, it's
Caesar Kalinowski:very much like reparenting the culture.
Caesar Kalinowski:How long does it take to raise kids?
Caesar Kalinowski:20, 30 years.
Caesar Kalinowski:Our kids are in their thirties now.
Caesar Kalinowski:We're very much still actively parenting.
Caesar Kalinowski:It looks very different.
Caesar Kalinowski:It looks very different.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's very active though.
Caesar Kalinowski:it's very active and by, and they want that, Like it's right.
Caesar Kalinowski:But by the time they moved out twenties or something, that's a 20 year investment.
Caesar Kalinowski:Man, that's still way short of 30,000 hours because I wasn't
Caesar Kalinowski:with my kids 18 hours a day.
Caesar Kalinowski:I was at work and they're at school and sports and yeah.
Tim Winders:so the thing I love about that is, is the thing that we miss in
Tim Winders:our culture, which is patience and time.
Tim Winders:And it is one of the reasons why I love you brought up earlier that
Tim Winders:you coach, and I'm about to ask you here for some of the resources
Tim Winders:and things that you have available.
Tim Winders:I'm a coach, I'm an executive coach, and I've said this before,
Tim Winders:sounds a little bit self-serving.
Tim Winders:I think some of the closest things to discipleship in our modern day culture
Tim Winders:is the relationship that coaches have.
Tim Winders:Because I spend a lot of time with people I work with.
Tim Winders:Coach, you spend a lot of time, maybe let's don't look at us.
Tim Winders:Let's look at maybe a high school athletic coach, spending a lot of time.
Tim Winders:So I, I think the thing we're missing.
Tim Winders:Is we're being robbed of patience and time, and that is one of the
Tim Winders:factors that we've got to have.
Tim Winders:We've got to have that heart to spend time and be patient with
Tim Winders:it and allow this process to, for people to go from unbelief to belief.
Tim Winders:Tell us now, and I'll let you share whichever one that you think is
Tim Winders:appropriate or a lot of 'em, or whatever.
Tim Winders:I know you've got podcasts, and I've got a link here that's
Tim Winders:got all kind of resources.
Tim Winders:Tell us about some of the resources that you have and maybe some of the
Tim Winders:first ones that people need to go check out when they're listening in
Tim Winders:on a conversation like we've just had.
Caesar Kalinowski:Yeah.
Caesar Kalinowski:thanks for letting me share this stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:We're passionate about this.
Caesar Kalinowski:This is what my wife and I do all day.
Caesar Kalinowski:This is our life, with people, and then also coaching and equipping others to
Caesar Kalinowski:experience greater spiritual freedom.
Caesar Kalinowski:cuz they're not having to try to like please God cuz he is
Caesar Kalinowski:already pleased in Christ.
Caesar Kalinowski:And then relational peace to live open with people, with their kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:With each other.
Caesar Kalinowski:With neighbors and live free.
Caesar Kalinowski:I would say the first thing is please come and check out the podcast.
Caesar Kalinowski:we've done it six and a half years, like you, hundreds of episodes.
Caesar Kalinowski:And, every imaginable topic addressed from this perspective.
Caesar Kalinowski:What would it look like if the gospel spoke into that part of our life?
Caesar Kalinowski:And we could learn to get fluent about that, but not like weirdos.
Caesar Kalinowski:You know what I mean?
Caesar Kalinowski:not chapter and verse in people, but like how does the gospel speak to marriage or
Caesar Kalinowski:our parenting or, what's going on with, identity out there in the world right now?
Caesar Kalinowski:Or hundreds and hundreds of things.
Caesar Kalinowski:And it's called the Everyday Disciple Podcast, you know, for a reason, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:And, I would love folks to just come and check that out and you skip around.
Caesar Kalinowski:You don't have to listen to the latest episode if you don't want.
Caesar Kalinowski:There's hundreds.
Caesar Kalinowski:Dig around.
Caesar Kalinowski:Let the titles, and curiosity drive you in that.
Caesar Kalinowski:But I, and you can find that.
Caesar Kalinowski:And a ton of resources like training, equipping hundreds of videos.
Caesar Kalinowski:Just go to everyday disciple.com.
Caesar Kalinowski:So everyday disciple.com, you'll find the podcast there.
Caesar Kalinowski:Now it's also everywhere.
Caesar Kalinowski:Podcasts are just like yours, it's in Spotify, it's Apple,
Caesar Kalinowski:it's everywhere, right?
Caesar Kalinowski:But if you wanna like at least initially find it, see what it looks like and
Caesar Kalinowski:get and download a bunch of free stuff.
Caesar Kalinowski:like we, we have like how to have an awesome family dinner, how to have
Caesar Kalinowski:killer date night with your wife.
Caesar Kalinowski:How to date your kids.
Caesar Kalinowski:what are these six rhythms of life that we already live in?
Caesar Kalinowski:What if we started to live out of our identity into those?
Caesar Kalinowski:Cuz we're already doing it and so is everybody we know.
Caesar Kalinowski:Sounds like no additional time needed.
Caesar Kalinowski:Just some intention.
Caesar Kalinowski:Great tons of teaching on that.
Caesar Kalinowski:there, there's all kinds of resources and I've got books, of course.
Caesar Kalinowski:I think you wanna check out some books.
Caesar Kalinowski:There'll be links for that stuff as well.
Tim Winders:We'll include links down there and I do agree that the conversation
Tim Winders:we've had here, someone listening in, really needs to go to the everyday design.
Tim Winders:Apple podcast.
Tim Winders:It should be easy within your player.
Tim Winders:You might be watching this on YouTube and can check things out,
Tim Winders:but just I would check it out cuz I definitely think there's a good mesh
Tim Winders:between what we're talking about here and what you're doing there.
Tim Winders:Cesar, we are seek, go create those three words.
Tim Winders:I'm gonna let you choose one of those over the other two just for kicks and see
Tim Winders:what resonates more with you right now.
Tim Winders:Which word do you choose and why?
Caesar Kalinowski:I've thought about this a little bit.
Caesar Kalinowski:I saw the name of your show and I knew you were gonna ask this question.
Caesar Kalinowski:I listen, this is part of being a Caesar.
Caesar Kalinowski:I can't follow the rules.
Caesar Kalinowski:It's two, it's go and it's create.
Caesar Kalinowski:I, I just, I'm creative.
Caesar Kalinowski:I've been a creator my whole life.
Caesar Kalinowski:I was a musician and a record producer, songwriter, forever and ever.
Caesar Kalinowski:and I write and make videos and all.
Caesar Kalinowski:But I guess if I had only could pick one, I would be the go.
Caesar Kalinowski:I really would be the go and make, go and be.
Caesar Kalinowski:it's not, our faith is not a common see.
Caesar Kalinowski:that was the old covenant.
Caesar Kalinowski:Come and see, come to the temple.
Caesar Kalinowski:Do all your business, get back to work.
Caesar Kalinowski:it.
Caesar Kalinowski:We've been given now a go and make go and be, go be disciples who make
Caesar Kalinowski:disciples and help people, find this spiritual freedom that Jesus died
Caesar Kalinowski:to give us, not an afterlife upgrade gospel, and then try to sin less.
Caesar Kalinowski:Come on man.
Caesar Kalinowski:Sin less and tithe once in a while.
Caesar Kalinowski:So yeah, I think it would be go like, get out there, give your life away.
Caesar Kalinowski:Part of going is just opening up your life, it really is open up time.
Caesar Kalinowski:Like you were saying, we don't give time to this.
Caesar Kalinowski:People don't give time to parenting either.
Caesar Kalinowski:And that's part of why, we're seeing what we're seeing in family life
Caesar Kalinowski:and identity issues and all that.
Caesar Kalinowski:So I think I'd go with go for that reason.
Tim Winders:That does not surprise me with your personality and all.
Tim Winders:I really love that.
Tim Winders:Caesar, thank you for joining us here.
Tim Winders:It's been such a great conversation.
Tim Winders:I appreciate our buddy Eric Nevins, for introducing us and connecting us.
Tim Winders:It really.
Caesar Kalinowski:Thanks Eric.
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