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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Turn pressure into purpose and build an unstoppable mindset. Your setbacks don't define you. Our next guest is here to share how they prepare you for your greatest success. Hi, and welcome to the You world order, showcase podcast where we feature life, health, transformational coaches and spiritual entrepreneurs stepping up to be the change they seek in the world. I'm your host, Jill Hart, coaches alchemist on a mission to help coaches and entrepreneurs amplify their voice, monetize their mission and help

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and get visible leveraging podcasts. And the huge audience we have over on the network. Today, we are chatting with Dwayne Morton, who is a former international basketball player who lived for the high pressure moments.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But after a career-ending injury, medical misdiagnosis and a weird police encounter, his mission is to help people who've been through hard things and are ready to lead lives with resilience and not regret. Welcome to the show, Duane. It's great to have you here.

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Dwayne Morton: Thank you. Thank you so much. So, 1st of all, I want to thank the listeners. I believe

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Dwayne Morton: time is the most valuable commodity anyone has. So when anyone gives me my gives me their time, I just wanna say this with the utmost gratitude. Thank you. I appreciate you, and hopefully there will be something that I'm able to share that is worthy of that value. And so also, Jill, I'd love to thank you for having me on as a guest and giving me a platform, so I can share my story and

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Dwayne Morton: connect with people that I would not be able to reach.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Well, we're really grateful that you decided to come and share your story with us. And with that I'm going to ask you the question that I'm asking everybody this season. What's the most significant thing in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah. So for me, there's actually 2 things.

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Dwayne Morton: So I believe in attendance

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Dwayne Morton: like my my program is called Show up to Win. But it's not just mean attendance. It means to be attendance, but to be presence while you're in attendance. I feel like so many people get that wrong.

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Dwayne Morton: They've been told, hey? If I just show up and I show up, I'm going to be good. That's not true that all like there, I've never seen anything in that facet. So my next part would be just be kind. There's so much stuff out there in this world. And so we just do not know what other people are facing, some type of adversity, something that they had to be resilient about. So I believe that if you do those 2 things, be it present in attendance

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Dwayne Morton: and be kind. The world will be so much better. And so what we'll do is we'll build better communities. And those communities will build a better world, and it's all just through small steps.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I I could not agree with you. More kindness is.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's 1 of those those attributes that we

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we use it as a platitude like, you know, just be kind to people, but it's really

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's really a verb, you know, it's

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's actively making an effort to not try to make other people feel bad about being themselves.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We we should never do that. Everybody's going through something.

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Dwayne Morton: Ye. Yeah. So we're taught, like at an early age, that if I don't feel good I can go ahead and take away from someone else to make me feel better, or me to feel more.

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Dwayne Morton: you know, to to get that type of acknowledgement or get that attention, and so like

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Dwayne Morton: it. It's kind of needs to be taught at an early age that like that doesn't.

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Dwayne Morton: that's not correct. And so, for some reason, throughout society, that has just been a problem. So I really want to call that out. And so just being kind is so important and also just never know the type of people that you are being kind to, and that you find out later on, that were, you know, on the way to like, kill themselves, or like they were on the way to like just, you know, drink themselves, and and you'll get in a car or do something just not

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Dwayne Morton: characteristic of that person. And so like, I said, you know, if people do those 2 things, they're gonna have a better productive day. And they're also going to live a better productive life.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And the people are going to want to be around them.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, because they're feeling good, and that's kind of a contagious energy.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So tell us your story. How did how did you get to where you're at? What are you doing.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah. So

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Dwayne Morton: I I like to tell people all the time. I'm just a small town boy like I learned how to play basketball

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Dwayne Morton: at the age of 4 I was shooting at a basketball goal that was at 10 feet. It was that we weren't. We didn't change the height of the basketball goal. At that time, also

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Dwayne Morton: where the

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Dwayne Morton: the color net would change. So it had a red, white, and blue net. And so for me at 4 years old my goal was to hit these different aspects of the of the net, and then eventually hit the rim, and then eventually these baskets are going in, and so that's where I fell. Fell in love with the game of basketball, but that I believe that's where I learned.

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Dwayne Morton: and it's probably the 1st page of the story of my journey of resilience, and so I learned resilience as as a young young boy. But you know I also learned it through sports, through basketball. So

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Dwayne Morton: to to little little bit about me is my basketball path is not.

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Dwayne Morton: There is no path to how I played overseas. I didn't play my last 2 years of high school. My grandmother passed away, and I just couldn't deal with it, so I I quit, and so

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Dwayne Morton: I got this opportunity to go play overseas. I just got better and better and better. And so

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Dwayne Morton: with that I learned my foundation of gratitude. I met this boy, who was 5 years old at the time, and he had not eaten in 3 days, and so for me, that just blew me out of the water. I was like, Okay, that doesn't make sense. I never had to worry about that. Never had to worry about those 3 essential items, food, water, shelter.

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Dwayne Morton: but what it did it gave me something else, and it was, let me know that other people's

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Dwayne Morton: our, our dream, our our nightmares are other people's dreams. And so with that, after I got back from overseas, I signed with Agent I I was getting ready to go play professionally. I ended up hurting my knee.

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Dwayne Morton: It? She asked me. She was like, Do you want to keep playing? Because if so, you're probably going to look at knee replacement. Probably in your mid thirties. To me it just didn't make sense. And so I was like, no, I'm good. I like. I felt like I hit my ceiling felt like basketball was over for me. So at the age of 29, I was diagnosed with a rare blood cancer. I was given 5 years originally, and then later on, it got moved over to 15.

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Dwayne Morton: But for me is like I didn't have a wife didn't have kids because I was like, hey? I don't want anyone else to carry my burden, and then, as I'm dealing with this.

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Dwayne Morton: it'll be the anniversary will be here in the middle of this month

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Dwayne Morton: the 3rd year anniversary, I was involved in a police shooting, and so

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Dwayne Morton: very tragic event officer got shot. There was a some.

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Dwayne Morton: They were trading shots. I was driving by. A stray bullet hit the truck. If it would have been an 8th of an inch to the left, it kills me 8th of inch to the right. It hits my little niece, who's 3 at the time. So I was dealing with survivors, Guilt and Ptsd.

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Dwayne Morton: And then, last year, on March 8, th

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Dwayne Morton: I found out that I was medically misdiagnosed. I did not have the blood cancer.

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Dwayne Morton: I only had sleep, apnea, and so for me. It was like I couldn't understand, because I was like I could have took care of that like in a month or 2, you know, in 2,006, and so 2,004, sorry, 2024 was just a journey of healing and figuring out how I was going to do. And so I have this clean slate. And so one thing that I, Jill, that I want to make clear is that's

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Dwayne Morton: why I built show up to win is because I knew

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Dwayne Morton: there was programs that I was looking for and searching for, and I couldn't find them.

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Dwayne Morton: And then also, I knew that, like.

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Dwayne Morton: I had a different type of mindset, and maybe at times I wouldn't

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Dwayne Morton: play into that, you know, I stayed in the victim mentality and those type of things. But like, that's the reason I'm here now is like, I'm sharing my story. I'm allowing people to learn the lesson through my story, and so maybe someone can learn something without having to go through, you know.

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Dwayne Morton: just a shooting and encounter. And then also, you know a a misdiagnosis. And so I'm hoping that that's the case. And so that's.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Years to have that hanging over your head. That's that's horrible!

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah. And so then I just have this big purpose. And so I'm sharing it. And so you know, the the 18 years of misdiagnosis like I mean, so I didn't know I was misdiagnosed, so I was going through all these struggles. I felt like I had the flu every day, so

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Dwayne Morton: I had to

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Dwayne Morton: strategic plan different things. Whether it was growing to the grocery store, or whether it was going and just taking a shower. There was just so much also was dealing with depression, anxiety, all of those other things, too, on top of it. And so it was.

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Dwayne Morton: The the great thing about it was. I was never suicidal. I just knew.

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Dwayne Morton: just like I came from that

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Dwayne Morton: core. Part of the gratitude is, I knew other people had it worse, and so, whether that was by guilt, or if that was just by design, I was just like, Hey, I'm going to keep fighting, and

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Dwayne Morton: that that was that was my mindset. My mindset was just, hey, if I can do something that today

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Dwayne Morton: it celebrated like it.

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Dwayne Morton: I just want a world championship. That's that's how I looked at it. So if it was just getting up and going, get a glass of Oj, that was that was a huge win for me. I feel like that's a lot of times that people don't get is that gratitude, aspect? And so I'm sure you have some questions more about it. But that's really how all this transpired. But these 18 years were like up and down, though you know, there was never like up, up, right. They were just mostly down, or they were just like level.

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Dwayne Morton: And so when I found out I was misdiagnosed, I was like that little wind up toy

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Dwayne Morton: that if you ever wind up a little toy and you hold it, you can feel the energy that's inside of it.

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Dwayne Morton: That's how I felt. And so when when I found out I was misdiagnosed, it was just released.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That. That's wow! What a story! I just

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: on the human level. It makes me exceptionally angry that we have medical professionals running around telling people things, giving them death sentences, because ultimately that's what they did. They said, you're going to die in 5 to 15 years. When

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: had they

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: spent a little more time, or been a little more curious, they might have realized that you're not sleeping well, and that's not a small thing either. Being

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: my husband was a truck driver. For 28 years. We're intimately familiar with not getting enough sleep. Almost all the drivers drivers on the road today struggle with sleep issues, especially if they drive team, because it's not possible to sleep

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: behind another driver. I was a truck driver also, and I can tell you it's why they end up with sleep. Apnea is because you're you're just not getting the kind of sleep that you need to get.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But those pat machines they make a huge difference, you know.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: just getting the oxygen you need at night, so that you can get the kind of rest you need, so your body can heal.

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Dwayne Morton: A absolutely so. What's insane is is probably my second night on the Sleep Apnea or the Cpap.

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Dwayne Morton: I felt so much better. I was actually more productive in that one day. And I was like, I, it just was one of those things I was like, oh, I actually.

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Dwayne Morton: I can actually feel better. I actually feel healthier, and I got a better night of sleep, and like right now, if I don't get 6 h of sleep, I I'm not productive. I don't want to be productive, and it's a

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Dwayne Morton: there is an epidemic of this where people feel. And and I fell into it too, because I was. I wanted to be entrepreneur so bad growing up.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Hmm.

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Dwayne Morton: They tell you to always just hustle, hustle, hustle, they don't ever tell you to rest, but I mean, lo and behold, like God made the world and made men and guess what he rested. And so

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Dwayne Morton: I feel like that was a learning thing for me. It was definitely a lesson of saying, Hey, you need to value rest.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Sorry and boundaries.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's it's easy to get dragged in a million directions, especially as an entrepreneur, and and saying yes to everybody for everything, but

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we, as human beings, need to be able to say, No, this is this is my time, and protect our time.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and and protect our rituals, and sleep is a ritual that we all should be practicing every night.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and there's things you can do up to it to make it better. And yeah, well.

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Dwayne Morton: Absolutely. And so I didn't value sleep. So just to let you know, like I did have a sleep apnea test.

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Dwayne Morton: I passed it now. Did I pass it by a large amount, or did I pass it by a little? I don't know. I haven't been able to find those documents, but really, you know, the symptoms are kind of similar to what what they were having was just severe, you know, severe fatigue, syndrome type stuff.

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Dwayne Morton: And so I mean, here's the other thing. Jill is like, I have to look at this. If it was me, if I misdiagnosed somebody, how would I feel? How would I like to feel? Okay?

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Dwayne Morton: I don't feel like the man did it maliciously. Also.

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Dwayne Morton: just to let the listeners understand is like it wasn't until I got to my 7th doctor that he released me. So that's what I feel like. That's more of the problem is is that

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Dwayne Morton: if if

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Dwayne Morton: this was the case. I was put in a box, and I just wasn't allowed out, and there was a period where I had a bone marrow test, and that should have been where they I actually got released. It wasn't until 8 years later, so it should have just been. I was misdiagnosed for 10 years, but it wasn't. And so that's part of it. And so, as part of the lesson of it.

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Dwayne Morton: is just, we just sometimes don't

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Dwayne Morton: don't get the correct information. So you know, I'm a self advocate for people's health like there's all these different things where before I'd be like, well, just trust the doctor, or trust this like. It doesn't work like that for me is like, I'm questioning pretty much everything. And the reason I question everything is because well, whenever I put my trust. I've been misdiagnosed, I same thing with all the with with the shooting. There's there's

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Dwayne Morton: a point where you can trust till so far, and then it comes into mistrust, and that's that's really probably the the lesson that I've learned is just like you don't have to fully trust you can trust. But you can also dial it back some and you can get. You can ask questions.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You don't have to flip immediately to the other side. But curiosity is the word that we all need to practice more of. I think these days.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: because, as we're curious about events, things diagnoses.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we we ourselves up to other possibilities rather than just accepting what someone says is fact, because often

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: there's a blurry line between what is fact

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and what is wishful thinking, or somebody's opinion.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: If somebody in a white coat tells you something, it still could just be an opinion.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah, I mean, it's also with the Internet being such a big player. Now, like, there's there's this way to get better information and to question things. And so I'm not saying everything on the Internet's like fine. And it's perfect. It's not that I feel like it's it's like the matrix. You get the red pill or the blue pill, you give a choice, you make a decision. And so you can look at that information. But you can also say, Okay.

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Dwayne Morton: I don't truly agree with all that. So maybe there's something else there. And so you can just do your own research. I mean, you know, jump down a rabbit hole and find out different things. I guess. I mean, it's just. I feel nothing is black and white anymore for me. There's a lot of gray.

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Dwayne Morton: and also, if you're not, if you don't think that there is gray out there, then you're probably pretty naive. You probably are putting your head in the sand and just saying everything's fine. And unfortunately, in this world not everything is fine. It goes back to that whole kindness thing. I believe in simplicity when things are simple.

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Dwayne Morton: That's probably the way that we were designed to to grow through. You know.

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Dwayne Morton: all of these diets that are very complex.

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Dwayne Morton: I don't really subscribe to them, because guess what? They're complex, what happens when things get complex, there's confusion. I don't think the human body is something that is that complex for us. I think it's actually pretty simple.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, we should imploded.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But we're not always given those kinds of choices, especially these days.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah. So I I froze, I think, for a sec for a second. So I I can. You repeat that again?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I, I said, we should, as human beings be able to know what's food and what isn't. But I think we're we're given choices these days that are

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: not actually food.

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Dwayne Morton: Oh, yeah, yeah, I I agree, 100%, 100%. Agree?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So how do you help people with your coaching program.

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Dwayne Morton: So there's different facets of my coaching program. So I coach athletes. Also, I coach athletes and mental performance. So that is definitely different than if I coach someone else who, you know, has been an athlete, or you know they were ex athlete, or they were just, hey, a business professional. I coach differently, and so what I do is I look for people, and I teach them resilience.

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Dwayne Morton: That is, that is what I do. I'm a mindset and resilience coach. But if I'm talking to an athlete, it's different, because I'm trying to

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Dwayne Morton: take away some different constraints for them to be able to play with freedom. So that would be one part. The coaching with the resilience is just to allow them to know. Hey, I'm here to hear you out.

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Dwayne Morton: But guess what

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Dwayne Morton: if you're inspired by mama story? That's great, then what I can do is I like to use the lighter analogy

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Dwayne Morton: is, if I have a lighter, and I dump it in a glass of water. That lighter goes out, but also you can't flick it and get that flame back. So you have to find somebody who has that flame, and then them come over

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Dwayne Morton: to, and they push the button, and then

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Dwayne Morton: the flame comes back. So same way

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Dwayne Morton: I'm looking to inspire someone who has had that inner fire burnt out.

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Dwayne Morton: I go. I give them the inspiration. I light their inside that fire, and then they realize that, like they can do better, they are better. They deserve better.

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Dwayne Morton: Also, I get them to understand that, like maybe this big, huge mountain that we've been looking at

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Dwayne Morton: in your life, in in their life, or my life

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Dwayne Morton: is really just an anthill. But the anthill we, when we go through it.

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Dwayne Morton: we actually understand that it's like for a purpose. It's either for us to stay safe, or it was something to keep us out of

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Dwayne Morton: it keep us safe, but also to keep us out of alignment. Here's the thing is like when we usually have resistance. We're usually out of alignment. We're just like the car.

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Dwayne Morton: If the tires are out of alignment, you can't go straight. It's the same thing when we are

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Dwayne Morton: dialed in, and we're looking for that opportunity. And so it's all about just being adaptable, too. And so I talk about it. I actually have something I'm giving the listeners. It's called Duane's daily plan of attack.

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Dwayne Morton: And it's these 4 things that I do every day, and I call it it's my morning routine, because I set it up right in the morning.

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Dwayne Morton: same thing. And so the question was, what I teach people. I teach them how to be resilient to whatever adversity they're showing their, what adversity they're going through.

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Dwayne Morton: and I just tell them like, Hey, you can push through you. But ultimately the thing is is, go through. Begin. Don't just say Oh, it's big obstacle in the way. Okay, we can go around it, or we can go through it, or we can go over it. However, is the best case for that person. Also, I teach them like, Hey, we treat these things as potholes. We treat these as like, hey? I don't want to take a center hit. I just want to like, maybe

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Dwayne Morton: take it to the left or to the right and take it just where it's not a direct hit, and then sometimes you can just move out of the obstacles. But here's the thing, Jill. We're always going to have some type of resistance in our life. We're going to have an unexpected bill. We're going to lose our job. We're going to hate our career. There's going to be some type of things with our marriages relationships. There's all these things like that is life.

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Dwayne Morton: There was a probably a speech that they were supposed to do in school, and they thought, Oh, there's no way I could do it, but they did. And so I just remind them of all those things that they felt like they weren't able to do. You couldn't get your driver's license at 16 you couldn't wait, and you were afraid. Guess what you went through it, and you got through it. And so that's what I do. I give them that inner confidence in themselves. And so I just empower people. But I empower people by listening. A lot of people don't listen.

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Dwayne Morton: in in the big things, but in the little things, too, is like, I show up with consistent action. And so I think that's another thing is like some people are scared to make one action. And I tell people all the time you have to begin somewhere, you know whether it's today tomorrow, next week. And so that's the beautiful part. So that's me as a coach. And you know, like I said, there's different facets of it. But that's that's the best way to break it down is like, I give these people a blueprint, and I say, Hey.

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Dwayne Morton: This is something where you take, and you get that inner knowledge, and then you apply it. And then when you come up to a setback and you're like, Hey, I'm having this setback.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that I was reminded of the part that you talked about in the very beginning, when you were little, and you were learning to shoot baskets. And you you were aiming for different levels. You didn't just like start out shooting baskets. Everybody starts at the beginning, and you need to have your goals aligned, in my opinion, with

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: with where you're at, you know. Don't don't try to like aim for the basket when you're you're not even sure if you can hit the net.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: hit the net for a while, get good at that.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and then further up hit the rim for a while.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: There's there's just a learning process to everything in life and overcoming obstacles.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you know, climbing a mountain. It's just putting one foot in front of the other and keeping after it, even when you're feeling like you're never going to get there.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah, I mean, it's it's starting somewhere and doing that consistent action and build upon it. It's very much like the financial sector is like I'm growing with this. But I'm also growing with interest now, like I'm compounding things. And so same thing with like learning. And so one of the things that I talk about is like, I teach visualization, but I teach it very simple. You know, I learned how to

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Dwayne Morton: he keyboarding class, and people are like, How did you do this? And I was like, Well, I was like I go home, and whenever I see Coca-cola I type Coca-cola with my hands with my eyes closed, and I'm imagining the the letters on the keyboard, and so I didn't understand the impact of how that was able to give me confidence and the experience of doing it, even though I truly wasn't doing it.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: then when you get old, do you wear out keyboards? So you have to be a touch typist.

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Dwayne Morton: a basketball injury that injured my pinky, and that's the inner key. So that's kind of makes it slow down a little bit. Yeah, so my finger will not go straight like it's it's been jammed so bad. The tissue is like just crossed up, or I'm sorry the ligaments have like crossed, so there's no straighten it. And so I don't want to have surgery on it. So I'm like, Hey, I'm good with it so. But but that's the that's the thing is is like when you simplify it into those type of things that everyone can be like. Oh.

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Dwayne Morton: So that's 1 thing I love to do is like, I love to simplify it honestly. Our life is so complex because society has made it complex. We've made it complex. I mean, I don't think that the caveman were too worried about public speaking or being on a podcast or being nervous to

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Dwayne Morton: go ask some girl out or ask some guy out right? Just they didn't. It wasn't in that nature. And so our limiting beliefs are are built for that, caveman, not for today's society standards.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, for sure. And and back to your practicing in your head thing

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it works. You can learn to do a lot of things that require dexterity with your other body parts just by visualizing them, taking yourself someplace, and and thinking about

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: how you would do something like playing a piece on the piano or doing. Karate moves, or doing certain kinds of exercises. If you practice them in your head as well as practicing them in the physical, they just become that much more ingrained into your muscle, memory.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah, I mean, so there's an exercise you can do. Also, it's a try to like stretch and see how far you can stretch, and then close your eyes and think about how far you can stretch, and then stretch with your eyes closed, and then open your when you get to the far, and you'll you know you'll you'll stretch

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Dwayne Morton: they they kind of come short is like they don't realize how much they can actually train their mind. And it's just like, you know, especially with me with sports, is like, I I tell people all the time.

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Dwayne Morton: if you focus on just the physical part, you're gonna fall short of the mental part. And so when you're able to exercise both together, that's when you're going to get the bigger leaps and the bigger.

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Dwayne Morton: not just the bigger leaps. But you're the bigger jumps of you know, it's your your athletic ability.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, for sure. So do you work with people, one on one or in groups, or, both.

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Dwayne Morton: So I. So I do work mostly right now, one on one and the reason I work with one on one is I'm building a community.

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Dwayne Morton: keep themselves consistent. And so I I've been wanting to do this since January first.st I I'm just at the point where it's like, Hey, I'm getting visible, starting to get where people are starting to follow me and things. And so I I believe, at any time like very soon, if you look at show up. If you go to my website, show up to win. That's where the community is going to be held at. And so

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Dwayne Morton: it's not just them having to listen to my story and be like inspired because of me being misdiagnosed, or me going through this shooting. What it is is they see what everyone else is going through. And they think, Oh.

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Dwayne Morton: And so when you're able to relate to people are like. Oh, well, maybe my stuff isn't that bad? But maybe my stuff is worse than everybody else. But I have all these people to support me, and so I think that's really important, too, is just being a great team.

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Dwayne Morton: You know. I other thing is is like, I try not to use the word. I very much when I talk about the community, because it's really a community of we and our.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: they're where it's at it's it's great to be in community with other people who are moving in the same direction you're moving in.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: whether you're trying to overcome an obstacle or you're trying to accomplish something. It just allows everybody to.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You have feedback from each other, and you make friends in those kinds of communities.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Lifetime friends, a lot of times.

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Dwayne Morton: Absolutely. And and you're able to teach each other resilience, because guess what you have that other person to be able to say.

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Dwayne Morton: I know you're going through some stuff. But like I'm here to support you, it's just it's that relatability part. And so that's really that's where my heart is is to be like, Hey, I wanted to build this community. And honestly, Joe, it was something that I was lacking. Whenever I was going through. I couldn't find people to say.

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Dwayne Morton: I I hear you. I see you like you know, those type of things. And then.

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Dwayne Morton: just do it like it doesn't take. It's not that difficult to get in your car jump out and go get groceries. But it truly was like there was. There was different obstacles that people just didn't realize that. You know that I was going through.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's a that's a very valid thing. And when you are.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: there are people out there who think it's their job to talk to people parking in those handicapped zones.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You don't know what that person is. They may look like. They're fine, but you don't know what they're going through a lot of disabilities you can't determine just by looking at someone. That's the cruelest form of of abuse to me is to to comment on something that you don't know anything about.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah. So I stopped at the grocery store one time, pulled into the handicap parking and got out, and a lady threw a soup can at me like a Campbell soup, can. I was like.

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Dwayne Morton: it just like made me just go home. Cause I was like, okay, I still like Crap.

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Dwayne Morton: This lady made me feel even worse, but like, yes, I do look. I do look very athletic. I think at the time I was probably like 2 0 5. So I was like, yes, I'm sitting here 6, 2, 2 0 5, and I look very able. But I'm not, and so.

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Dwayne Morton: It's when we judge stuff like that's that's the partial part of the problem. So those are learned characteristics, though if they're learned traits. And that's the thing is is like someone just needs to be able to say, that's not acceptable. And I think right now, with our social consciousness right now the way it is. I feel like it's peeling back that layers where people are saying, Hey, this is not acceptable, and I applaud that for the people, but truly

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Dwayne Morton: That's it, that's all I can do.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: as a reasonable course of action to take, I mean, and whose business is it of? There's any way.

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Dwayne Morton: They probably had an experience that got into that belief. And as you know, that belief that middle word is a lie. So probably this is just me. Just

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Dwayne Morton: parking spot. So I mean, and that's the thing is is like, when we start really peeling back. These layers of onions like this is where that core belief happens. And so I like, I said, it really is this point of my life where I just believe in grace. I want Grace. So I give Grace. And when you're able to live in that, like those little things like that, like even right now.

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Dwayne Morton: like it. It's almost kinda comical that this lady did this action, because honestly, she just drove through and not paid attention. Not cared, because guess what

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Had she hit you with the can, it might have been a different story.

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Dwayne Morton: She hit my foot. It bounced to hit my foot, and I mean and I was just looked at her like, I have no idea why, you just threw a Campbell soup can, and honestly, if it was a soup that I like, I probably would have grabbed and just throw it in my car, but I mean I just kind of kicked it.

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Dwayne Morton: Yeah, can I exchange this for a different flavor?

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Dwayne Morton: Right? But yeah, I mean.

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Dwayne Morton: craziness is craziness, like mental illness is out there. Mental illness is there? I mean, I don't know what this lady was facing.

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Dwayne Morton: and and you know, whenever I I tell that story, and people are just like there's no way. And they're like, why didn't you throw it back? I'm like, no, I'm not gonna throw it back, because that puts me in where I went below the belt. Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Throwing it back is not an option. It's like.

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Dwayne Morton: Right. But also for me, you're throwing that back. I would have thrown it way hard. And I I didn't need to do that. That's the, you know. That's the moral of the story. And and so I think also is I always.

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Dwayne Morton: there was no little devil that was like right behind on my shoulders, saying, hey? You should pick this up and throw it, because I would just look at him and brushed him off. But like that's that's out of character for me, but I know there's people who have that character that like an eye for an eye, and that's I mean, and that's that's that's them that's not me.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. Well, more power to you, cause that's the kinder approach.

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Dwayne Morton: Thanks. And so. But but there was this, there's different times that, like

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Dwayne Morton: I was with some friends.

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Dwayne Morton: We were walking, and he was like, Hey, it's only a few blocks away, and I'm like, I can't walk very far. I'm out of shape. I don't feel good.

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Dwayne Morton: because they truly did not care about me as a person, but they also didn't listen or hear me. And so either was that my communication issue, or was it that they just didn't care. I I'm not sure I haven't really spoke to those people in a while.

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Dwayne Morton: You know. One of the things, too, is like when they gave me that diagnosis. That's like a death sentence. That's like a prison sentence. And then, you know, when I find out it's like, Hey, I just kidding like there was some anger part, but honestly, I was so

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Dwayne Morton: I don't have this, and it took some time to like even get into that. And you know I've only been healthy for for a year, like less than a week is, you know, was the Cpap stuff. So just to kind of give you an idea. All this stuff is very, very new. And so I'm learning so much about myself. But I'm also like, I'm learning so much about like the past that I you know the different things that frequency that I was in that was

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Dwayne Morton: it's. It's been a wonderful experience of the year watching my growth and hearing people how I'm inspiring people.

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Dwayne Morton: it's it's I value myself. But also I value others just as much. And I think that I wish more people did that.

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Dwayne Morton: and I feel like it would be a better place if we did value people more in those type of situations.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's gotta be hard having a chronic.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: a chronic illness, or being diagnosed with a chronic illness like that. That, is it

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: because when you're with people. They don't over such a long period of time, because people move in and out of your life.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And then there's the people, the core people that are in there, and they don't see you getting worse.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They just don't see you getting better. And so there's some propensity for people to think that you're just making it all up

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: because they don't see you like actively dying. And it's been all these years, and

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I speak to this because I know my own mother. She she had psoriasis really badly, and Lupus and she had times where she was just like exhausted all the time. But you know, it just got to be so long. She was sick for like 20 years before she did. Finally, she did finally pass, and I really think that the medical community killed her because she had really great insurance. So they kept trying all this junk on her

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: never to actually heal her, but just to keep her like alive. It's it's really horrible to watch somebody go through that. But it you just like the people that are around you. It impacts them, too, because they don't.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They're like, why aren't you getting better?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We know you're going to the doctor. Why aren't you getting better.

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Dwayne Morton: Well, also, you know, family members and friends, they

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Dwayne Morton: for the most part they really care about you, too, and

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Dwayne Morton: also are invested. And so what happens is is when they think that you're not going to be turning around the corner. They start getting less and less invested because guess what?

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Dwayne Morton: It keeps them out of the situation, but it gets them out of the situation, and ultimately the situation is is the.

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Dwayne Morton: And so I think that's part of it, too. I think. I you know I witnessed that was some different

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Dwayne Morton: The last girl I dated she she like she left because of the fact that I was sick, I mean, and because I got sick whenever we were, and it was like, Hey, we're not married, so I don't have to deal with this. And honestly, I don't know if I wouldn't have chose the same route, because I mean I don't know, I mean.

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Dwayne Morton: but I would like to say I would choose different. But maybe I wouldn't. And so it's the same thing is like Grace. If I want grace, I got to give Grace, and so also, if I live by that mantra, guess what it makes the decision process a hell of a lot easier, too. It's like I have this. And like, I'm just gonna like, I'll give Grace to. And so that's really been my experience to to lessen the load of some of these decisions. This is like, Hey.

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Dwayne Morton: ultimately I'm forgiven.

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Dwayne Morton: I'm I've forgiven them for me also, and and not just for them. And so, when I was able to take that approach so much easier, so much simpler.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, so how do people find you if they're interested in joining your community? Or yeah? So coaching.

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Dwayne Morton: So it's look out of the website it's called Show up to win with the number 2. So you can find me there. That's for the course you can go in and you can join the wait list for the program. Also it'll send you the Pdf. For my Duane's daily plan of attack. I'm on Facebook. I'm on Instagram. I'm on Linkedin. I'm on Tiktok. I just started kind of getting over there. But

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Dwayne Morton: most of my handles are show up to win. I love threads, threads is going to be like kind of, I think my my new jam. And then

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Dwayne Morton: one of the new things that I have is I just, you know, I said, I launched the podcast on Monday. So I'm really excited about doing that. So that's going to be on. It's on spotify apple, and it's on Youtube. And then I'm launching a book on the 16, th which is called the Bounce Back blueprint become bulletproof.

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Dwayne Morton: And it's going to take

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Dwayne Morton: all the tools that I did throughout the diagnosis and through the shooting. And it's gonna also give you the reason of why these things worked. And so

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Dwayne Morton: for me, the best thing I could do for people is to help them. And that's I believe, that book. If you follow that word for word, you're going to be in a much better place, and I think that's

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Dwayne Morton: but that mindset have just become bulletproof. And so that bullet didn't hit me, you know that I talk about, but on the cover

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Dwayne Morton: it's depicting as it hit me, because it took a part of my soap like it changed me

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Dwayne Morton: that that Dwayne is dead like that.

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Dwayne Morton: safe and secure to Wayne is dead. And so it rebuilt this, the Wayne that is what I call Mr. Show up to win, and you know, and this is why I'm empowered to teach people all these lessons.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that, and I really appreciate you joining us today. Duane.

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Dwayne Morton: Thank you. I'm so glad.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To learn.

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Dwayne Morton: That you could.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: To learn more about Duane and to get the daily plan of attack. Please visit showuptowin.com, and it's number 2,

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