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All right, folks buckle up because today we're diving headfirst into a topic that's

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on the minds of many soon to be retirees.

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You know, retirement isn't just about money.

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Sure.

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Financial planning is crucial, but there's so much more to it.

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Have you ever thought about the non financial changes that can hit you like

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a freight train if you're not prepared?

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Things like losing your structured routine, changes in your identity

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and shifts in your social circles.

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Today, we're going to talk about five important things

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that disappear when you retire.

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And more importantly, We're going to discuss how to navigate these changes

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with confidence and a strong faith.

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So if you're wondering, am I ready for retirement?

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Stick around because by the end of this episode, you'll have a clear roadmap to

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make your retirement truly fulfilling.

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Hey everyone, welcome to the ask Ralph show.

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I'm your financial evangelist, Ralph, and thank you so much for joining me today.

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We're here to help you escape that cycle of financial shame with

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confidence and give you a clear plan for enjoying a successful retirement,

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whatever that looks like for you.

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They say retirement, the golden years, right?

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Well, it's often seen as a time of financial freedom

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and a time of relaxation.

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But what about the other aspects of life to change?

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Today we're talking about the five important things that disappear when you

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retire and how to manage these changes.

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Whether it's loss of a structured routine, changes in your identity, or even shifts

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in your social circle, we're going to explore how to navigate these transitions

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with grace and a Christian perspective.

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By the end of the show, you'll have concrete steps to ensure a

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fulfilling And purposeful retirement.

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So let's dive in.

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Now, yesterday we discussed how to budget when paychecks are unpredictable.

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We explore practical tips and strategies to help you manage

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your finances, even when your income isn't all that consistent.

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And if you missed it, be sure to check it out.

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So let's get started with today's question.

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And this one comes from Susan and Susan writes this, she says, Ralph, I'm

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about to retire after a long career.

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I've saved diligently and I'm financially prepared, but I'm starting to feel really

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anxious about those non financial changes.

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I've had the same routine for decades, waking up at the same time, going to

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work, having meetings and feeling a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.

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My job has been a big part of my identity.

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But now I'm afraid that without the structure and purpose, I'll

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feel lost and unproductive.

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I don't know how to find meaning and fulfillment in retirement.

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Can you help me prepare for these changes?

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Oh, Susan, let me just tell you, I feel you, I'm a couple of years away from

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retirement, but retirement can be a huge transition and it's completely normal

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to feel anxious about these changes.

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I've seen many clients struggle with the loss of structure and the

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loss of their identity after leaving their jobs, but let me tell you this

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right now, Susan, there is hope.

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And today we're going to discuss five key areas that often disappear

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in retirement and provide you with.

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Actionable steps to navigate these changes.

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I've been through this with many clients and I'm confident that with the right

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approach, you can find purpose and fulfillment in this new phase of life.

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So let's get started.

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And don't forget, if you've got a question you'd like me to answer, just

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like Susan's, you can head over to just.

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AskRalph.

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com because here's the truth.

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I love answering your questions and it's a central part of the show.

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My goal is to help you find financial peace and grow in your faith.

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So as we transition into our main content, let's start with an

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appropriate verse from the Bible.

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I found this one in the book of Ecclesiastes.

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It's chapter three, verse one, and it says this to.

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Everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven.

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You know, this verse reminds us that life is full of different seasons.

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I'm learning this in my 52 year here, each with its own purpose.

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And see retirement is just another one of those seasons.

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And it's important to recognize that the opportunities that.

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Retirement brings.

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Let's use this verse as our starting point and explore how we can find

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purpose and fulfillment in retirement.

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And Susan, I'm grateful for the opportunity to share my experience

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with you and my knowledge with you.

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The Lord has given me the privilege of helping many people

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navigate the complexities of retirement, both financially,

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and I'll talk about a little bit.

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I, I wear my emotional hat sometimes, and I'm thankful for the wisdom

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he's provided and the chance to use it to help others find peace.

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And purpose in their retirement years.

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So let's get started.

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Susan, let me start by sharing a story about one of my clients.

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A few years ago, I worked with, we'll call him John.

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Now, John was a six, had a successful career in finance and he was

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looking forward to retirement.

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He had saved diligently and he was financially prepared.

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You know, we had, he had planned well financially.

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And when we met, he was very proud of his retirement nest egg.

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He started saving early and, and frankly, from a financial

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standpoint, he was in great shape.

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However, as his retirement date approached, he started to feel anxious.

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He was worried about losing the structure and the purpose that his job provided.

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See, John had always been an early riser with a rigid routine that

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started with a cup of coffee and then review of the day's financial news.

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And I know, I don't know about you, Susan, but I can certainly relate to that.

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His days were filled with meetings and deadlines and a sense of accomplishment.

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That was the life he knew, it was comfortable for him, and it was a

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routine he had come to appreciate.

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But now he feared that without this structure in retirement, he would

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feel lost, he would feel unproductive.

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And one day John shared his concern to me, he said this, he

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said, Ralph, retirement scares me.

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I just don't know how I'm going to be able to break away from this routine

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I've come to know for so many years.

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And I heard what he was saying and it was, it was a deep feeling of anxiety for him.

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He was a strong guy, but this feeling was deep and it was strong.

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And I quickly reminded him, I said, listen, retirement is

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not just about leaving work.

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It's about transitioning to a brand new phase of life.

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I've said it on the show many times.

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Retirement is not an end.

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It's just a change in season.

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But at that moment, John needed a friend and not an accountant.

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And over the years, I've come to realize that I wear many hats.

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And that day, I was a life coach.

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We talked about the importance of establishing a new routine.

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One that aligned with his values.

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Align with his passions.

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You see, john had always been active in his church and he decided to

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dedicate more time to volunteering and mentoring young professionals.

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And I gotta be honest, it was it was neat seeing that spark in his eye when

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he when he talked about his mentoring.

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Over time, John found that this new routine brought a

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different kind of fulfillment.

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Honestly, it was a fulfillment that he wasn't really expecting.

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He really came to enjoy the flexibility and the opportunity to serve others.

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And his whole identity shifted from being a successful financial

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professional to being a valued member of the community and the church.

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John had found his new purpose.

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And Susan, let me just tell you.

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You can find that purpose as well.

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Let me tell you about another client.

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We'll call her Mary.

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Mary faced a very similar challenge.

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Mary had been a nurse for over 30 years and she had built her

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identity around caring for others.

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I have many clients that are nurses and they are just caring people.

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She loved to be of service to those in needs and it truly defined her

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and she found her purpose in it.

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So when she retired, she felt a deep sense of loss.

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She missed that structure of her work days, that sense of purpose

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that came with her profession.

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And after she retired and, and we were meeting one day to do her

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annual taxes, she asked me for help.

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And listen, I was honored.

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She asked me and I, again, grabbed my coach hat off the shelf and we got

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started and Mary and I worked together to create a new routine that, and that new

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routine included volunteering at a local hospice, taking long walks in the park.

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And, and she really got a lot of enjoyment out of joining a Bible study group.

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And these activities not only filled her days, but also

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provided a new sense of purpose.

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See Mary found that she could still care for others, just

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in a completely different way.

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She didn't have to worry about that nine to five, or I think in

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her case, she worked shift work.

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It was just a different way.

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And in her faith.

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Her faith became a central part of her new routine and she found joy.

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She truly found joy.

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I remember her saying this to me.

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She said, Ralph, I found joy in serving God and serve in my community.

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And Susan, these are just two stories of many.

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I've seen firsthand how this retirement transition has affected people.

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It's affected them in a positive way.

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And I've, unfortunately I've seen clients that have been affected in a negative way.

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So Susan, let's dive deeper into what I'm going to call the five important

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things that disappear when you retire.

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And let's talk about how to manage these changes with practical strategies.

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Let's start with number one, loss of a structured routine.

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One of the most noticeable changes in retirement is the

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disappearance of the structured routine that defines your workday.

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For many people, for decades, you, your life revolved around set

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wake up times, schedules, and a daily task dictated by your job.

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And that initial freedom from the structure can be liberating.

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But many retirees find that the novelty eventually wears off.

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And here's an interesting I found when I was preparing for the show today.

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According to the study by the University of Washington, retirees who maintain a

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structured routine report higher levels of mental health and overall well being.

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So that was a study, like again, University of Washington, but

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what they found is retirees who maintain a structured routine.

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They reported higher levels of mental health and over all well being.

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So let's talk about some practical strategies to help

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deal with that situation.

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One of the things I'm going to recommend highly is to create a

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daily schedule, just like your work days, how to schedule, create a

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daily routine for your retirement.

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This is not the time to just lay in bed and wonder what's going to happen next.

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I'm going to encourage you to include specific times for waking

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up, you know, still set that alarm.

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Maybe you don't even need to set it.

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I know I'm 52.

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I'll be 53 in September.

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I feel like more and more.

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I don't even need the alarm clock, but I'm going to encourage you, you know,

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include specific times for waking up.

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Include specific times for meals, build in that exercise in that relaxation routine.

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I'm going to encourage you to dedicate time for, for spiritual growth as well.

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Set aside time each day for prayer.

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This is a great time to join a Bible study or really focus on

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a devotional that you enjoy.

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So really take root in the Bible and start to reflect on it.

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This can be a quiet time in the morning, or maybe for you, it's in the evening.

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This is whatever works best for you.

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Another thing I'm going to encourage you to do is volunteer and serve.

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The thing that I've seen with most of my clients, when they get involved

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in volunteering and serving, they really find fulfillment in that.

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So you can incorporate volunteer activities into your routine.

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This could be things like helping at a local food bank, mentoring

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youth, or assisting at your church.

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See, serving others can provide a profound sense of purpose.

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Another thing I'm going to encourage you to do is explore hobbies and interests.

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Use your newfound time to explore hobbies you've always wanted to try.

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It's going to be something like gardening, or painting, or writing, or maybe

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podcasting, or even learning a new skill.

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I'm also going to encourage you to get involved in social engagements,

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schedule regular social activities.

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This is not the time to become a hermit.

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You know, you can do things like meeting with your friends for lunch.

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Maybe you join a book club or maybe you participate in community events.

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And let me share this.

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I remember working with a client, we'll call her Sarah and she was

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Always joking about how she'd never had time to learn Spanish, but

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once she retired, well, guess what?

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She enrolled in a Spanish class and now speaks it fluently.

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She even started a language exchange group at her church.

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Talk about turning a hobby into a meaningful activity.

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Well, let's move on to number two and that's changes in identity.

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Talked about this in your question, Susan, another significant shift

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in retirement involves your sense of identity for many of us.

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Our profession is deeply intertwined with how we perceive ourselves and

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how others recognize us and when this professional role comes to an end.

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A lot of retirees experience a loss of identity, and that leads to feelings

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of decreased usefulness, decreased importance and, and really can

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really shatter your self confidence.

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Here's another interesting statistic.

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Research shows that up to 25 percent of retirees experience a loss of

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identity, and this can lead to increased feelings of depression

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and increased feelings of anxiety.

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So I wanted to share some practical strategies to help you get Pass this.

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The first thing I'm going to tell you to do is to reflect

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on your identity in Christ.

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It's so easy to get caught up in my identity of what I, what my role was.

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But remember, your primary identity is in Christ.

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Spend time in prayer and spend time in reflection.

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Remind yourself of God's love and the purpose he has for your life.

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This is also a time to explore new roles and embrace new roles such as mentor or

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volunteer or maybe grandparent or maybe active member in the church community.

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These roles can provide a new sense of identity and truly give you new purpose.

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Nothing I'm going to encourage you to do is a redefine yourself through activities,

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engage in activities that align with your values and align with your passions

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because now you've got time to do it.

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This could be teaching a Sunday school class, maybe leading a Bible study, or

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even becoming a community event organizer.

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These are great things to do.

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Nothing I'm going to encourage you to do is seek community involvement.

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Get in, get involved in your community through that volunteer work, maybe local

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clubs or, or community organizations.

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Because this can help you redefine your identity and contribute to your community.

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Another thing I'm going to highly encourage you to do is this is a

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great time to pursue personal growth.

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Use this time to pursue personal growth opportunities such as attending

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workshops, maybe taking some classes, or maybe learning new skills.

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Because this can help you discover new aspects of your identity,

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maybe some you didn't even realize.

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I've had many clients who've gone back to school in retirement to learn a new skill.

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Here in Delaware, there's something called, I think it's the Academy of

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Lifelong Learning, where you can actually attend the University of Delaware for

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free once you reach a certain age.

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One of my clients, Linda, was a high powered executive, and when she retired,

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she felt lost without that title and without those responsibilities.

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But she found a new purpose by becoming a mentor to young women in the community.

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She was that person that had forged ahead.

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And now she was working with young women in her community.

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And now she leads a mentorship program at her church and feels more

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fulfilled in ever in this new role.

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Well, let's move on to number three.

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And this one is vital and that you're going to see

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shifts in your social circles.

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Your social suckers are also going to undergo a transformation in retirement.

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The workplace often serves as a major hub for your daily social

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interaction with colleagues.

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You know, they say that water cooler talk and retirement

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naturally leads to a significant reduction in these interactions.

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And this can result in feelings of.

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Loneliness and isolation.

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I got to save right now.

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I'm gonna park here for a second.

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One of the main things I hear from retirees, especially those who

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are unmarried or, or maybe their widowers is that when they retire,

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they had this overwhelming fear of loneliness and, and isolation.

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And here's an interesting statistic that goes right along with this.

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According to a study by Michigan medicine, 33% You heard me right.

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33 percent of older adults report feeling lonely some of the

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time or often after retirement.

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And this loneliness is a huge issue for many, but listen, I've got some practical

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strategies that help you battle that.

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First thing I'm going to encourage you to do is nurture

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those existing relationships.

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Hey, make an effort to stay connected with the people that you used to work

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with your, your former colleagues, your friends, and even some family members.

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Maybe this is a time when you can actually connect with family members

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that you weren't able to connect with before because you were so busy working.

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And I'm going to say something.

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Schedule those phone calls, schedule those meetups or video chats.

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Maybe you put them on your calendar.

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I know one of the things that when my grandfather had worked for what

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he called Uncle Doopey in Delaware, the DuPont company, he always looked

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forward to that annual picnic.

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It was a time to go back and see the people that he had worked

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with and the people that he interacted with on a daily basis.

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And I'll tell you what my grandfather found great.

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Create amount of enjoyment in that.

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Nothing I'm going to encourage you to do is join community groups.

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You can join local community groups or, or clubs or organizations

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that align with your interest.

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Maybe this is a book club or a gardening group, or maybe even a fitness class.

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Here's a nothing I'm encouraged to do.

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This is a Christian show.

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Get involved in church activities, engage in church activities, even if

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it's small groups or, or find service opportunities because these can

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provide a strong sense of belonging and help combat that loneliness.

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I'm going to tell you right now, there are people that go to my church that once

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they retire, man, they have no time for anything because they dive in headfirst

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and get involved in those church things.

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And listen, this is the truth.

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Most churches are looking for what I'll call well seasoned volunteers.

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So volunteer in these faith based organizations, they can align with

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your values and this can help you build meaningful relationships

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and support your community.

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Nothing I'm going to encourage you to do in retirement is to

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cultivate new relationships.

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I see this a lot in the commercials that I see for these 55 and older

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communities where people are saying, you know, we made friends here and

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we did this, but I think it's vital.

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Be open to cultivating new friendships.

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Go out there and attend social events, join classes, maybe

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participate in community activities that allow you to meet new people.

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I remember I had a client, we'll call him Tom, who was known as the office jokester.

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I mean, Tom was always the one that had the joke.

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And when he retired, he missed that daily laughter.

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He didn't have those people to run around the building saying,

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how did you hear this joke?

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And did you hear this joke?

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He was just, he was lost without that laughter and camaraderie.

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So in his case, he actually started a comedy club at his local senior center.

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Now he's the life of the party again and his social circle is thriving.

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Let's look at another thing and that's number four on my list

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and that's loss of purpose.

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The absence of a regular paycheck can also lead to a feeling of

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lost purpose because work often provides a sense of accomplishment

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and a sense of contribution.

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And this feeling can be particularly pronounced for individuals whose

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identity was closely tied to their career or, or maybe they held

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significant responsibilities.

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Susan, just think of how many of us think of ourselves based on our roles.

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You know, I'm the accountant, maybe the person's the lawyer or the plumber.

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That list just goes on and on.

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And here's a really interesting statistic.

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A study by the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health found that

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retirees who engage in purposeful activities report higher satisfaction

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and lower levels of depression.

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So let's talk about some practical strategies.

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One of the things I'm going to highly encourage you to do is

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seek God's continued calling.

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This is a time to reach out to God and say, God, what would you have me to do?

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What is my purpose?

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Actively seek God's continued calling on your life in this

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new season that we talked about.

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Spend time in prayer, spend time in reflection.

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Ask God to reveal his purpose to you.

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Maybe he's gotten you to a point where you've got financial wellbeing.

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You're, you're set for that.

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Now he's, he's given you an opportunity to use your time to build his kingdom.

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Which leads me to the second thing, engage in ministry, explore

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opportunities for ministry within your church or your community.

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Listen, churches and community are looking for people to lead Bible studies, to

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mentor youth or assist with church events.

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You might say, why would they ask me?

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Because you've got a ton of life skills.

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You've got a ton of things that you've been through that you

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can help mentor other people.

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You're going to have a perspective that someone who's young might not have.

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Another thing I'm going to encourage you to do here is volunteer your skills.

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If you've got skills, utilize those skills and wisdom for God's glory.

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Maybe you're a good carpenter and you can, you can volunteer in areas

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where you can make a difference.

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Maybe you're a teacher.

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Maybe you're a counselor or maybe you're good at providing administrative support.

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Hey, I just had the church secretary in yesterday.

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She says, Ralph, this has grown to a full time plus position.

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She would love to have somebody help her and volunteer in the church.

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Nothing you can do here is mentor others, share that knowledge

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and share that experience that you accumulated over your life.

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Mentor young professionals, provide guidance to those in need, or

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offer support to your community.

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Another thing that I'm going to tell you is crucial in this stage is set goals.

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You can't just stop having goals because, well now I'm

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retired, I don't need any goals.

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You need to continue to set short term and long term goals.

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Intermediate term and longterm goals.

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Just make sure they align with your values and your passions because now

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you don't have that must go to work.

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You don't have that must do this.

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This is a time when you can choose to do things.

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This might be things like learning a new skill.

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Maybe you're going to complete a project.

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Maybe you want to build that, that raised garden in the backyard, or

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maybe this is a time to start knocking off things on that bucket list or

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achieving a personal milestone.

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I remember one of my clients, we'll call him Bill.

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He was a successful engineer his whole life.

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I mean, he could look at stuff and he could engineer it from beginning to end.

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But when he retired, he had this loss of purpose.

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I remember him saying to me many times, Rob, he says, I just don't

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know what I'm going to do now.

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So what what Bill did was he found new meaning by volunteering his skills to

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build homes for low income families This is something he loved to do.

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He was like Ralph.

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Guess what?

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I'm not getting paid to do it, but I'd like doing this more than when

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I was working And so now Bill leads a construction many Administrate his

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church and he feels more purposeful than ever when somebody needs help,

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maybe a widower or an older person in the church, he's able to go help them.

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Maybe they had a fire or maybe they had a disaster at their home.

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He is leading something and it's giving him a great deal of purpose.

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And finally, let's look at number five.

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And that's one that a lot of retirees struggle with, and

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that's managing unstructured time.

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This sudden abundance of.

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Unstructured time and retirement can present both opportunities and challenges.

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It's kind of like the coin, you know, there's a heads or tails.

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Now, the freedom is welcome, but if you don't manage it well, it can lead to

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aimlessness and a lack of fulfillment.

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I don't know how many times I've seen recent retiree clients

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say, Ralph, I need some purpose.

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I need some structure.

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You know, you did the same thing when you were financially budgeting.

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Retirees also need to be intentionable about budgeting their time and their

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energy towards meaningful pursuits.

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I've had many clients who've been, who shared just how busy

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they are now in retirement.

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I don't know how many times they've said to me, they said, I

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don't know how I ever got all this stuff done when I was working.

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So listen to this interesting statistic.

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According to the survey by the National Social Life Health and Aging

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Project, retirees who manage their time effectively report higher levels of life

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satisfaction and better mental health.

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Think about that for a second.

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The study found that retirees who manage their time effectively, now

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effectively is going to depend on your circumstances, but those people

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who said that they managed their time effectively reported higher levels of life

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satisfaction And better mental health.

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So you might be saying, Ralph, how do we make that happen?

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Well, Susan, I've got some ideas for you.

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One of the things I'm going to say first is set daily and weekly goals.

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You probably had this when you were working, you may have had a

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goal every morning that here's the things I'm going to accomplish.

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I'm going to suggest you do the same thing in retirement and set those daily and

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weekly goals, because this can provide you structure and it can give you direction.

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This could be stuff like completing a project, maybe learning

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a new skill or maybe you're achieving a personal milestone.

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Maybe you always wanted to run that 5k or you wanted to climb this

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mountain or anything like that.

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Just depends on what you want to do.

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Use that new found time to explore hobbies and interest that could bring you joy.

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This could be, and I mentioned this a little while ago, this could be

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things like gardening or painting, writing, or, or learning a new skill,

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but you've got to start figuring out how to structure that time.

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One of the things that I'm going to definitely recommend that you

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do is engage in physical activity.

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So, I know that a lot of my retirement clients, I had a guy in just past this

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past Saturday and he was a high school, uh, administrator and now he's retired.

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And I said to him, I said, Hey, what are you doing with yourself?

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Now?

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He says, I go to the gym every day and he says, Ralph, I love it.

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I go there.

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I spend about three or four hours a day.

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I get my body working out.

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I get in the pool.

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And he is finding a lot of fulfillment in this.

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He, he's one of these guys that likes to ride bikes.

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And he said, man, I don't miss that wind blowing at me outside this time of year.

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So incorporate physical activity into your routine.

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This could be things like walk in or jogging.

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Maybe you're swimming.

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It depends on where you live.

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You don't be swimming around here right now, or maybe joining a fitness

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class or a fitness club that my client did, because here's the truth.

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Physical activity can provide both mental and physical stimulation,

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and you need to keep doing that.

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Nothing I'm going to tell you to do is pursue intellectual stimulation,

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engage in activities that provide that intellectual stimulation.

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This could be reading, maybe attend some workshops, taking classes, or

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participate in educational programs.

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Up to the day he passed away, my uncle would do the daily New York

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times crossword and a Sudoku.

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I don't even like to do Sudoku now.

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And I certainly wasn't 88 years old, but he said to me many

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times, he said, Ralph, this.

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Helps me stay focused.

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This helps me stay on point, but you got to balance this with rest and

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activity because you are not 25 again.

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So find a healthy balance between that rest and relaxation, and then

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build in that purposeful activity.

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reflect on the biblical concept of Sabbath rest.

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You know, that's one of the things that you can study and use this

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time to rejuvenate in the Lord.

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But here's the thing.

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Ensure that this rest is balanced with continued engagement and service.

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Don't let this become a time where I'm just going to say, you know what?

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I'm retired.

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I don't have to accomplish anything today.

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That is a bad plan.

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In fact, I had a client.

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We'll call her Jane.

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She always dreamed of writing a book.

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So when she retired, she finally had the time to do it.

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So what did Jane do?

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She set aside dedicated writing time each day and she completed

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her first novel in a year.

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Now she's working on her second book and she's loving every minute of it.

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So Susan, these are just five areas where things are going to change

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and there are going to be more.

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I couldn't possibly list all those things.

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I'm not going through retirement myself.

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I'm just telling you, this is what I've seen as I've worked for the past 30 years

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with clients, but it's vital that you plan for these and you start building

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that plan for retirement so you're not just doing it at the last minute.

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You got to build a plan.

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It's not just focused on the money side.

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Yes, that's important, but also the lifestyle you want to live and

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the purposes you want to pursue.

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Now, if you found today's discussion helpful, I want to encourage you

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Our newsletter is packed with valuable insights, it's packed

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with tips and resources to help you navigate your financial

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journey with confidence and faith.

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So let's get to our reflection questions for today.

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Start with number one.

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What aspects of your current routine bring you the most fulfillment and how can you

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incorporate them into your retirement?

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So you might be 20 years away from retirement.

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Maybe you're 10 years away from retirement.

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Start to think about what are those things in your daily routine that

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bring you the most fulfillment and start envisioning what you're going

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to do about those in retirement.

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This is a time to start thinking about those plans.

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Maybe start taking on a hobby now so that you're up and running by

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the time you get to retirement.

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So start thinking about how can you incorporate them

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into your Retirement routine.

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Second question.

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How does your identity in Christ influence your perspective on retirement

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and what new roles or activities might you explore to redefine yourself?

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Maybe you're thinking, you know, Ralph, I never thought about

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reading or leading a Bible study.

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Maybe I never thought about mentoring or volunteering.

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This is a great time to start thinking about what those roles look like for you.

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What are your passions?

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What are the things that you want to do?

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What are those?

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To check off those, those personal fulfillment goals and number three,

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what steps can you take to nurture and cultivate meaningful relationships

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in your retirement, both within and outside your faith community?

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Here's a key takeaway.

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Now is the time to start investing in those relationships.

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I don't care if you're 20 years old, 30 years old, or 40 years old.

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Most of the time, the retirees at I get to know in my practice will tell me

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about people they've known for 30 years.

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Well, guess what?

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If you want to have a successful relationship, you got to start

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cultivating those relationships.

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Now start to take a genuine interest in other people, and that will reward you

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and pay dividends well into the future.

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So let's get to our key takeaways.

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Establish a new routine that aligns with your faith and values, including

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dedicated time for prayer, Bible study.

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and spiritual growth.

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Remember, your primary identity is in Christ and retirement

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offers an opportunity to redefine yourself through non work related

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activities and relationships.

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It's a change, but it's a new season for you.

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Nurture and cultivate meaningful relationships in your retirement, both

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within and outside your faith community.

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This is a time to actively seek God's continued calling on your life.

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What is he calling you to do in retirement?

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Explore opportunities for ministry, for volunteering, for mentoring,

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or just utilizing your skills and wisdom for God's glory.

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And finally, my other key takeaway from today.

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Be intentional about budgeting your time and energy towards meaningful

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pursuits, setting goals, exploring hobbies, and engaging in activities that

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provide mental and physical stimulation.

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Well, tomorrow we'll be discussing a crucial topic that

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hits close to home for many.

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Can't pay the IRS?

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How can you avoid major penalties with these four strategies?

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That's right.

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Tomorrow I'm going to talk about four strategies.

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If you ever found yourself in a tight spot with the IRS, You don't want to miss this.

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We're going to dive into some practical steps you can take to navigate

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this challenging situation with grace and smart financial planning.

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So be sure to check me out again tomorrow for another

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insightful and engaging episode.

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Well, so thank you so much for your time today.

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I thank you for supporting the show and remember this.

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My passion is to help you achieve financial success.

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I want to see you live out your dreams and I want to see you grow in your faith.

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And I know together we can master your finances from a Christian perspective.

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So as I always end this show, stay financially savvy out there, keep your

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spirits high and God bless you abundantly.