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wake up call.

Welcome back to the don't wait for your wake up call podcast.

And today I'm continuing the theme of love for the month of

February 2022.

And

last time, I was talking about the energetics of

Love and Love Languages back in episode 52. And then Episode 53,

we have the lovely Whitney Corbin on talking about romantic

love and relationships. And today, I want you to ask

yourself the all important question Do you love yourself?

Are you worthy of your own love. If you don't first love

yourself, it's very hard for you to truly love someone else. So

let's dive into self worth and how that impacts our ability to

love others. There is a quote by Joyce Meyer that says if you

don't love yourself, it will be impossible for you to love

others as you can't give away what you don't have. And there

is another quote that counters that which says it's not that

people can't love you. If you don't love yourself, it's that

you won't feel it because it will always seem like you don't

deserve it. And another quote by Mandy Hale is if you don't love

yourself, you'll always be chasing after people who don't

love you either. Perhaps you relate to one of these. Our self

worth is the result of many aspects of our life from

traumatic experiences the combination of the five people

we associate with the most, and our beliefs that are deeply

seated in our subconscious mind. And were formed prior to the age

of age based on what we were told or perceived about

ourselves and our world. At that very young age. Our self worth

has the ability to move us forward, or keep us stuck. We

stay stuck when we believe we aren't worth doing whatever it

is we think we might like to do. Or we can move forward when we

realize we are worth taking that one small step towards whatever

it is that we desire. We all have the power to design our

life and live it the way we choose to. Or we can sit back

and a victim mentality and let life happen to us. Where are you

on that spectrum? Are you stuck in the victim mentality? Or have

you broken out of that and know that you have the power to

design your life and live it your way? The first step in

changing your self worth and upgrading it is to understand

where you are at and whether you are where are you truly want to

be. So let's start by looking at how you treat yourself. What

kind of food do you feed your body? Is it healthy nourishing

food are you eating on the run and grabbing things that you

know aren't great, but you're so busy looking after everyone

else, that you aren't making the time to truly look after

yourself and feed yourself properly? Do you slow down and

listen to your body? Your body talks to you and yet we so often

ignore it. But when we slow down and listen to the symptoms, we

are honoring our body and our self worth at the same time.

Because when we listen we are much more likely to then take

action Understanding that your symptoms are your body's way of

trying to ask you to do something differently, is really

important in that equation there, the symptoms aren't just

there for you to ignore and accept as aging, or genetics or

seasonal allergies, which is what tends to happen. Because as

a society, that's how we talk to each other. I've got aches and

pains, it sucks, getting old, etc, etc, you know, symptoms

come up, and we just accept them as being part of the aging

process, instead of recognizing that is our body asking us to do

something differently.

Examples of these may be you're getting headaches, you've got

swollen fingers, or joints from too many inflammatory foods like

sugar, dairy gluten, right? So your body is talking to you

asking you to do something differently. And are you paying

attention? Are you willing to slow down and pay attention in

order to honor your body asking you to do something differently,

and in that process, honor yourself. When we discount

ourselves when we put ourselves down, that's when we are showing

a lower level of self worth. But when we instead, respect

ourselves, and listen, and tune in and make choices that are in

our best interest, that is when we're showing that increased

self worth. So you can see how this comes into play throughout

your day each and every day with every decision that you make.

And you may not be factoring in self worth to those decisions.

But you can see how you can. And if you want to truly value

yourself, you can see how you can factor yourself into the

decision. It's not about doing things for everybody else all

the time and putting yourself last, it is about factoring

yourself in to each decision. When you put yourself last,

that's when you end up in burnout, that's when you end up

resentful, that's when you end up fatigue and low energy. And

that results in a lower level of self worth, when you put

yourself first, you're raising that self worth, but you're also

ensuring that you're serving from a full cup, and that you

have the energy to serve the others in your life to the best

of your ability. Because you've put yourself first, it comes

back to the saying that I've said over and over and over

again on this podcast since it started just over a year ago,

that self care is the most selfless act because it allows

you to show up and give the world the best of you instead of

what's left of you. That self care is driving our self worth.

When we have good self worth, we take the time to care for

ourselves. So are you following through on commitments to

yourself? Or do you let yourself down, even though you wouldn't

let your best friend down, be truthful here because this is

very common. When we create boundaries to show respect to

ourselves, we have to honor them. Those boundaries could be

putting self care time into your calendar and blocking it. And

then doing whatever that is that you plan to do, whether it's

going for a walk a bike ride, whether it's taking an hour out

to read a book, maybe call a friend, maybe have a bath,

whatever it is, is meaningful to you. You put it in the calendar,

you created the boundary. And then did you show respect to

yourself in honoring that and actually doing it, as opposed

to, oh, that doesn't really matter. And so and so asked me

to do this. And that's the only time in my day. So I'm gonna

give up what I plan to do for me and do this for them. When we

say no to others, so that we can say yes to ourselves. That is

when we are building our self worth. And it may mean that you

have to release commitments that say yes to others. Maybe you've

taken on too much. Maybe you have to go back to others and

say that you can't get it all done. Maybe you need to recruit

other people to help in a volunteer scenario where it

seems to be too much more than you expected. Or maybe it's just

being cognizant of, I'll stick to my commitments right now, but

I'm not going to take on anything more. We have to start

saying yes to ourselves and no to others in order to have the

time to be able to build the commitments to ourselves in our

calendar if you're enjoying my content intense and someone that

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join the community, check out the link in the show notes.

Next, you can take a look at who are the people you hang around

the most? Do they lift you up, support and motivate you? Are

they interested in your personal growth? Or do they discourage

you from moving forward in your life? Because of their own fears

of being left behind? How many times have you been told you

can't do that? And it stops you. When you've come up with an

idea. Do you realize that when someone tells you that you can't

do something, it actually has nothing to do with you. But it

is a direct reflection of what they think about themselves. And

it comes out of their mouth as if it's meant for you. You might

have voiced a desire to quit your job and start your own

business. And we're told by a well meaning family member, you

can't do that it's too risky. What if you fail. That is their

opinion of their ability to start a business as perhaps

they've never thought about doing so they don't even have an

idea of what to start. So of course, they can't start a

business. Plus, they don't want to see you fail. So they'd

rather you stay where you are not realizing that you're

unhappy and feel stuck. A regular paycheck is no reason to

accept unhappiness and feeling stuck. Besides, you've been

thinking about this for a while now you have an idea, you aren't

happy in your job, you want to move on. And you can absolutely

do this. You just need to find the right group of people to

lift you up, support you and carry you forward in this

desire. If they hold you back, start finding a new tribe. You

can find a new tribe of like minded people by joining groups

of people with similar interests or hobbies or taking a course

you were interested in. In hiring a business coach join a

mastermind group. There's so many places where you can find

people that will lift you up. And you have to step away from

the people that are holding you back, which as I said is very

often well meaning well intentioned family who were used

to you where you're at. But if you're not happy where you're

at, you get to choose to move forward and design the life that

you want to live your way, right. Another important step in

boosting your self worth is to shift your subconscious

thoughts. This is simple to do, but not necessarily easy. But I

encourage you to do it all the same for it yields powerful

results. I call this the mirror challenge. I invite you to make

some time and stand in front of your mirror and lock yourself in

the eyes and say I love you. Don't just say the words though

you need to feel them.

And at first, it will feel strange and awkward. But stick

with it and keep repeating the words. Hear the emotion in your

voice. Feel the love in your body, change the intonation in

your voice as needed. Change the words to such as I love you so

much. Or I may not have always loved you, but I love you now.

So that is meaningful to you. I find this experience often

results in tears. And that's okay. Those tears are

unnecessary release of feelings that you no longer need feelings

that result in a lack of self worth. Practices daily for 10

minutes until you reprogram your subconscious mind to know that

you truly do love yourself. You can also do a quiz from the

book. How to be your biggest fan by Rene sir Mack. The quiz asks

many questions about everyday ways you live your life with

questions about whether you pay your bills on time, the

condition of your desk most of the time, the amount you

complain each day, whether you return borrowed items on time do

you make your bed every morning? Do you volunteer your time? How

often you read or listen to books. What is your driving

record? How often you set and achieve goals and many, many

more. You rate each of these as being either positive, negative,

or neutral, in terms of your response in how you feel when

you read this statement. So if somebody has a poor driving

record, perhaps when they read that statement, they have a

negative response to that, because they know they have a

driving record, and they don't like it. And they'd like to

improve that. And so right now they have a negative response to

it. But perhaps someone who makes their bed every morning

loves their neat tidy bed, that gives them a positive response.

And then through this, you come up with an overall score of

yourself worth. Now if that score is low, you might feel

that as a blow to your self worth. Or you can look at that

as a starting point from which you can launch your self worth

journey, to take steps to build your self worth by changing one

item on the list into a new habit that boosts self worth.

And then go to the next item. And you might not think that

making your bed daily has anything to do with self worth.

But making your bed creates a tidy bedroom, which allows you

to have pride in the appearance of your room. And the way we do

one thing is the way we do everything in our life. So if we

start to clean up one area of our life and take more care,

because we are building our self respect, will start to do that

in the other areas of our life. And it won't be long before we

can stand in front of that mirror and say, I love you and

truly mean it with a big smile on our face instead of tears. As

you start to change your beliefs about yourself that triggers new

actions and behaviors, behaviors that further fuel your self

worth and love of self. Now, I'm not going to tell you this is

easy, but I am going to tell you this is possible. If you want to

upgrade your self worth you absolutely can. If you want to

fall in love with yourself, you absolutely can. If you need

help, there are many coaches that can support you in this

journey. They can't do the work for you. Just like I can't do

the work for my clients. But a good coach will guide your

journey, hold you accountable to yourself and draw out your own

magic that has been hidden inside for too long to let you

shine. And so next week, I will be interviewing one such coach

as we dive into a conversation focused on self love. So I hope

you come back and join us again. Thank you for listening.

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