Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your still rora life coach. Actually, I'm going

to change my intro today, Power Man, coach and companion on this

beautiful journey called life. I hope you're doing good, I hope

you feel safe. I hope you feel good in your skin. I hope you

feel a sense of purpose, I hope you feel connection with the

people around you. I hope you have had a good year, a good

2023 so far. Today I want to talk about your self worth. self

worth. I want to say that all the dumb like really dumb

decisions that I've made in my life and there has been many I

can trace back to not feeling enough, not feeling worthy. Not

feeling a sense of belonging, not feeling that I'm genuinely

deserving of a good life. And I want to talk about this today

because the people I work with the people I accompany on their

journey towards more empowerment towards a more fulfilled life to

more resilient relationships all have this one thing in common

that in their mind, they feel unworthy. In their mind, they

are still stuck in old belief systems and old patterns that

keep them stuck in one place in one little comfort zone that is

not comfortable anymore. And it's really important to talk

about this because nothing you will start doing and life will

work out the way you want it. Because if you are not 100%

confident in yourself, if you don't have self worth, you're

going to fail no matter what people will be able to throw you

like good circumstances to throw money at you to throw you know

everything towards you. That will help you to be successful.

But if you don't feel a strong sense of self worth, you will

not feel deserving and not accept all the tools, all the

dirty circumstances, surprises, whatever it is, that are being

thrown your way. You can start a beautiful exercise program, you

can start a new hobby, you can start creating a new job for

yourself. You can jump into a new relationship. But if you

have not developed a strong sense of self if you don't have

a backbone, so to say you cannot expect any good results. You

need to have a strong sense of self you need to know who you

are, where you belong to, who you can trust, who you should

not trust, what you want, what you desire, what you don't want,

what your limits are, what your boundaries are. If you don't

know there is no point in starting something new there is

no point in you getting off your couch. You might as well stay

stay on your couch and watch Netflix documentaries and learn

more. While doing that. Then if you were to start Something,

invest so much time and energy and especially effort and

sleepless nights. To then realize that you feel not worthy

of having a healthy relationship of having a job that satisfy

satisfies, satisfies you sorry, of not having the friendships

that you wish you had, and so on. And especially when it comes

to your physical health, I see so many people having beautiful

goals towards the end of the year and January 1, they're

going to start with their New Year's resolution. Well, guess

what, if I was to talk to them, each one of them now, July 31,

coming up, I will would not be surprised that none of them was

successful with their New Year's resolution. Most people give up

after the first obstacle has been thrown at them after, you

know, the first class at the gym. That didn't feel perfect.

Because obstacles and failures that, by the way, are completely

natural and will always exist. But in a person that feels

unworthy obstacles and failure will feel like a confirmation

that they're not deserving. Oh, yeah. But I told you, I'm not

gonna start a business. And now I started a business and a

failed because this and that come up. And it was difficult.

And it confirms to me that I am not an entrepreneur, I can't do

this. So a person who stays in their comfort zone who stays

unsuccessful, so to say is going to see any obstacle, any

difficult situation, any backlash, any setback, as a

prove that they are not worthy. And then they throw the towel

and so my sweetheart, my sweet listener was so much love, I

just want to tell you before you start anything, or maybe even

before you continue living life, make sure that you like

yourself. Make sure that you do everything in your power to

understand your limits your limiting beliefs, and your fears

your resistance to stuff and become radically honest, become

a detective that wants to know who you are what you're made of.

And if you are in a relationship already, if you are married

already, and there is no way out and but right now you feel

stuck, you feel lost, you feel uncomfortable in your situation,

do it anyways, because yeah, you have your marriage already. But

it will improve. Maybe it's not really satisfying for you how it

is right now. The more you know yourself, the more you know what

you want in life, the better. Everything around you is going

to be there is it can't be any other way. So to become more and

more self aware, step by step bit by bit, cutting through your

bullshit, cutting through stuff that doesn't serve you anymore,

such as limiting beliefs, and fears and maybe even friends and

family that keep pulling you down and keep confirming to you

that yeah, you shouldn't have tried to get out of the family

system to break out of the friend circle because you're

useless anyways. You belong to us. Well, no. You're your

health, your happiness, your contentment belongs to you and I

want you to take it in in your hands and to not wait a second

longer. You need to find out what it is that keeps you stuck.

That keeps you in fear and resentment and anger towards

others. No outside circumstance stances can dictate your fate.

You have it in your hands, I can give you so many examples of

people that people that were in excruciating pain in such weird

situations where you would think as a normal thinking person, you

would think no, there is no way out, they're gonna die. There is

no way out. And they made it through. Because they believed

in themselves, they knew they're worse, and they took the steps

that it requires to keep on going even though life throws

garbage at you. So I invite you to be that detective, I invite

you to start working on yourself on yourself worth? Where do you

get nervous? Where do you start? You know, sweating, stuttering,

feeling anxious. towards what do you have immense resistance. And

usually, once you inquire about that resistance, that fear you

get to know yourself on a better on a deeper level. You get to

know what the stuff is that you need to be working through. So

I'll leave you with that. As always, with so much love, and

you knowing that you are always welcome at my ute, to join a

relaxation class to join a couples intimacy class to

increase your communication and intimacy. For one on one

coaching, couples coaching, or team building workshops, if you

are a business owner, small or medium. I'm there. I'm there and

ready to receive you and guide you and watch you spread your

wings. Until next time, be here. take really good care of

yourself. Bye bye