Imposter syndrome is something that if you're an entrepreneur or you've been starting your own business, something that you've definitely felt in the past. And I've had varying experience with this. And honestly, it's crippled me from time to time. And what I don't usually do is post excerpts from the mastermind calls we had. But this one, in my opinion, it just needed to get out there because one of our members, Lauren, uh, he asked if I had ever had imposter syndrome and what I should do about it. And I remember just going off on a tangent for at least a few minutes, uh, and afterwards it seemed to be well received by the community and I was, I was very happy with how it came out, so I wanted to share it, uh, on the podcast because it might help somebody today. Hope you enjoy. Lauren, just quick question, because of the new school group and everything, when you first started, you didn't have followers. Your group was pretty bare bones, like did you deal with imposter syndrome? Looking at your group and being like, this is empty. There's no engagement in here, there's nothing going on. I have nothing in the classroom. Like, did that bother you in the beginning or am I just crazy? Yeah. Yeah. Dude, it bothered me so much. I fucking fixed it. You know, I mean like it, like how bad does it bother you? Like, like I had crazy imposter syndrome with my social media. Like I literally was like, bro, like I was on the call. Do you guys remember January, Jan, mid-January is when I started the group to help people grow on social media and I had 700 fault talk about imposter syndrome. Yes. Okay. I have, so I'm not, I'm not crazy, but, but, but, but are you mad enough about it to fix it? Like, are you mad about it to do something about it? That's, that's the question. Like how, like you have, like, you have to get to a certain point where like pain is more powerful than pleasure. Like if you're running from pain, are you like, are you unsatisfied looking yourself in the mirror? 'cause you know, like you're not who you say you're, and I think a lot of time, like for Mo, like. Mo's like, my God, like I, I've learned everything I know in, in business from basically one, one way or another from hormones. I quote him a lot, but he's like, dude, you don't have imposter syndrome. You are an imposter. Like, you just, you're not who you say you are, and it's gonna feel uncomfortable because it's true. And then you fix it. Like, that's all the social media's like, man, if, if I just grew this account, that's so good. But like, dude, and I don't know, I, I can speak on this from an internal like self-talk perspective on how I felt before and after I fixed the problem, but I guess I'm curious, have you guys noticed a change in energy since the, like before and after, like. I knew before, like I know I have what it takes. I've grown accounts for myself in the past. I've grown accounts for clients in the past, but like you're sitting on a count with 700 followers. I, I, I learned a valuable lesson. I played baseball most of my life, uh, before, uh, before college. And we were, we were one of the better teams in, in high school. And we give up, if I make baseball references, everyone, like, if I say like innings and runs and stuff, well then I got basics. Yeah. So we give up six runs. At the end of the game, we played seven inning. We have six runs in the top of the seventh. We were winning before, now we're down by five and we're like all waltzing back into the dugout. Like, we're like, oh man, fuck. Like we gotta, this is not good. Like we just lost the game. And I remember one of my homies dads who was on the team, like, he was like, one of dads was like really into the game, like, like life just revolved around the baseball game that we had like twice per week. And he threw, like, he brought a glove to the game, he threw the glove at the fence and started rattling the fence. And he is like. Do something about it like you got kicked in the teeth, like what are you gonna do about it? You feel so, like what are you gonna do about it? Imposter syndrome happens. What are you gonna do about it? You have no clients. What are you gonna do about it? And even before you get clients, which it's not gonna happen overnight, you need to go to sleep at night knowing that you're fucking doing something about it. That confidence starts to stack as well. Like even when you're not there, people go, oh, you, you, it's, it's almost like you knew before this happened because I fucking did. Yeah. Like I, I was, I was waking up like, Lauren, bro, you, you showed up at the Starbucks, what 7:00 AM. Uh, yeah, six, six. I fight the urge every time when, when people were not close. I would've said it to you now, but I fight the urge all the time with people that I'm like new to meeting in the morning. Like I would, I wanted to really say Good afternoon to you in the Starbucks. I'd been there since four. Oh, morning man. It's seven. I'm like, fuck, I'm on my sec, my second cappuccino and I've been working on the shit for three hours. Like, like good afternoon man. But I can carry myself even before then with the confidence. 'cause I'm doing shit every single day and it rubs off on the team that you have. I hope it rubs off on the clients. I hope I can say it. Rub off on the clients, but rubs off on your family. It rubs off on the people that you're around and then it becomes like, okay, I gotta play defense with like who's around me. Because if I get any negativity, I'm, I'm off kilter. That's why I fucking will not tolerate it at all. Any negativity. Like no negativity. And I gotta fight myself from what I say as well, but like, it's, it, there's a certain beauty to waking up and actually getting after it every day. Like if that's what you want to do. 'cause most people, that's what they want to do. Like you, you, you, you want to have a big business because it's so easy online to just think about how much of a, oh, it's so eo. You have a Lambo in Dubai. Start an e-comm store. It's a business business so easy and we expects it to be easy and everyone knows that the big business is out there, but there's a certain beauty. Waking up and actually getting after. I get it all the time, bro, you the, this insane energy. Like, I, like Kiana. Kiana introduced me to, uh, Donovan, who's flying to Phoenix right now to go travel around the world with me. I've never met the guy. I went on to FaceTime with him one time. I said, Hey bro, is this gonna sound weird? We have four clients and one of them's in Bali, one of 'em in Japan, one of 'em is in Australia, and one of them's in Dubai. And I don't know how to operate a camera and I need someone to be there with me. And he goes, dude, I don't know why I am agreeing to this, but like. Like I'm down, like and then we were talk on on Zoom before about Zoom a couple times. Like bro, like there's certain type of energy and I get it a lot. Something get all like the energy, bro. The energy is different. It's like actually Wake Up Inc. Congruent and doing what I, like I say I want big business. I say I want actual offer with happy clients that like fulfills on the service and that other people say good things about in a space that's the exact opposite of that. I say it's what I want. I'll wake up and actually work towards it with everything I have. Does your calendar reflect the priorities? You say you want a lot of clients for this. What does your calendar look? Is the calendar filled with shit that's gonna get the clients or is it doing bullshit? Only you'll know, and only you'll know how much gas you left in the tank. At the end of the day, I'm telling you like the, at least for me, at least for me, 'cause I understand I had to go through a awakening period in life and realize not everyone wants to have a big business. Some people want to have a job that they know how much they're getting paid every, every, every court or every uh, every other week. That's valuable to some people, and I understand that now. Before I didn't understand that. Now I understand. To people who actually want to have a big business and are willing to go down this path. There's a certain beauty to hitting the bed at the end of the night. One of my coaches in college, he's like, bro, the pillow doesn't lie. How you feel when you hit the pillow at night does not lie. No one else will know other than you. Like, that's, that's the, that's the beauty of it, because anyone can wake up. Like, I could buy this shit day and I could wake up and I could be like, oh, guys, I crushed it. I'm, I'm working. And I, I had an issue with one of the companies that I worked with before and I was, I was number one sales rep every single month. And I had a problem because like I was in the group chat, I was arguing with like the management, because I left a company like sales group chat. I was like, I'm not gonna be in the group chat anymore. Said, why you leave the group chat? Would you mute the group chat when you leave the group chat? I was like, I know that the motherfucker in the group chat who's saying, yo, I'm locked in, I'm working. I know he smokes three blunts every single day and is not working and I cannot have that around me 'cause I'm actually working and there's a certain beauty like so you can get up. Anytime you want and say, oh man, I'm grinding. I'm dude, I'm working. I'm work my, you hit the pillow at the end of the night. Like, that does not lie. That does not lie. You're in the mirror brushing your teeth. It's 10:00 PM It's like, only you will know. That's the beauty of it, and that's why it's, it's so, it's the certain type of bliss, at least for me, I hit the, I, I I laid down and it just, yep. I did everything I could today. That's. Like we had a day. It was, it was Wednesday, last Wednesday, which was the April 2nd, and we had a big closing day. We closed the, we officially closed the deal that we're going to see in B, which was a big deal. And I had a random like referral that came in. I got put in a group chat and within 15 minutes the guy had sent 5K for, uh, to, to come film at the studio here in Phoenix. I like, I, my, my day was derailed. Like I didn't have, I was not productive at all that day, but like two things went my way that like were pretty big and I remember the way I felt that night. They were plenty of things that could have went different. I could have done a lot better. Like I actually got derailed when I should have got derailed. There have been days where like I've got kicked in the teeth repeatedly. Like you wake up and it's like, oh wow. Everyone's mission that talks to me today is like, let's fucking kick down in the teeth. Like that's how you guys know what I mean. Like there are days where you wake up and every single message is either someone delivering bad news or needing shit. I. Right, like, like there are days that go well and there are days that don't go well. And like today, it was one of the days, like I fucking opened my phone and every message that I'm getting is like someone needing some shit. Oh, pay the invoice. I'm like, I don't fucking owe invoices. Why? You ask for invoice? People are, oh, but I applied for your job. You said you might be interested. Yeah, I filled the position. Quit blowing me up, like this is correct, like everybody's asking for, and, and you can get through it. You handle all of it. And now I look at my phone and there's no notifications. Everything's gotten taken care of. I gave it everything that I have for the day and you feel good about it. And that's what I'm trying to work towards. So, hey, I've loved every second I was about imposter syndrome.