Heather Hester

Welcome back to Just Breathe.

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I am so happy you are here.

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I am happy to be here myself.

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It is for many of us that time of the year, the transitional time of the year when we get the kids back to school.

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And even though I have one who has graduated, Connor graduated in May, as you all know, and Isabel in college, we got her moved into her college house last weekend, which was, oh, my goodness, quite an experience.

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And then Rowan and Grace back into high school this week, and it's still.

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That energetic shift in the house is so just crazy to me.

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And in years past, I've really pushed myself through it and, and like, just, you know, wanted to be all the things and do all the things and, you know, what.

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What we.

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What we do as moms and as parents, especially this time of year.

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And although I am incredibly grateful that I have no curriculum nights to go to, finally, there's still a lot of stuff.

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And again, a lot of it is around the energy shift in the house.

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And I'm telling you, even the dogs feel it.

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They're totally off.

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I think a lot of it is we went from having all of us home, all six of us were here, Connor was visiting, to now they're just hanging out with me, which, you know, they love me, I love them, but they're like, what is.

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What is going on?

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So I think that today's guest is really, really great timing because we are talking about your intuition and listening to your inner voice and honoring what is going on inside and really listening to that, listening to what you're hearing and tuning into what you're feeling and all of the things that you can learn from that and do with that.

Heather Hester

So I am really, really thrilled to bring you, Heather McGuire, who I met through a coaching group that we are both part of and have just really, really enjoyed getting to know her.

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And she speaks the language of things that I am.

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I'm so interested in and want to learn more about.

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And she just has a really, really lovely and, you know, interesting journey and.

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And background to how she got to where she is.

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She is usually talented and making people feel safe to listen and to follow their own intuitive knowing.

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She has some really, really great ways that she either asks questions or brings you through different exercises.

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But for more than 15 years, she has been gently and compassionately guiding people to a deeper understanding of who they are and what they are capable of creating in their lives.

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So I am grateful to be able to bring this conversation to you.

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And without further ado, here is Heather McGuire.

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Welcome to Just Breathe Parenting your LGBTQ team.

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My name is Heather Hester, and I am so grateful you are here.

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Welcome back, everyone, to Just Breathe Parenting your LGBTQ teen.

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I am so happy you are all here today, and I am really, really happy for you to be here for this conversation with Heather McGuire.

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This is a different conversation than we've had in recent months, and I am really excited because I know so many of you are going to connect with this and just really learn so much from what Heather has to teach us and share with us.

Heather Hester

So, Heather, welcome.

Heather Hester

Thank you for being here.

Heather McGuire

Thank you so much.

Heather McGuire

I'm so excited to have this conversation.

Heather Hester

So Heather and I met through a group that we're in together, a business group, learning how to be more organized and intentional and all these lovely things.

Heather Hester

And I think it's always fun to how we cross paths and connect all the dots of how we know people.

Heather Hester

And that's always so fascinating to me because I think that a lot of it is.

Heather Hester

We are.

Heather Hester

We are all meant to cross paths in some way.

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So I'm very delighted.

Heather Hester

And of course, I'm always delighted to meet somebody who is a Heather because they're, you know, there's not a lot of us out there.

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So it's just like, mentality.

Heather McGuire

Rare, rare breed.

Heather Hester

We are.

Heather Hester

We are.

Heather Hester

So I would love to know.

Heather Hester

We'll just kind of start, you know, with really broad and basic.

Heather Hester

But I'd love to know how you got into this work of working with intuition.

Heather Hester

And you are the unconventional intuitive.

Heather Hester

So I'd love to know more about, you know, how you realized that you have this gift and are doing this work with others.

Heather McGuire

So people are always curious about that because, like, how.

Heather McGuire

How would you land here?

Heather McGuire

Right?

Heather McGuire

And the short version of the story is that I realized when my kids were small at school pickup, as I'm trying to make small talk with the other moms, that I'm having these conversations that no one else is having.

Heather McGuire

I'm telling people things like, you you really have a gift.

Heather McGuire

There's something about you.

Heather McGuire

You're really good in this situation.

Heather McGuire

You make people feel this way and way too deep for school pickup.

Heather McGuire

Nobody else is talking about this.

Heather McGuire

I'm giving them all of these ideas for how businesses they could start and all kinds of things.

Heather McGuire

And I just got curious, what is it that I'm seeing?

Heather McGuire

Like what is happening?

Heather McGuire

And somehow that led me to an intuitive development circle, which was a mediumship development circle.

Heather McGuire

I sat down in that circle and I was so happy.

Heather McGuire

It was like I could relax.

Heather McGuire

We just meditated and you talked about whatever was popping into your mind.

Heather McGuire

And somehow the things that were just appearing in your mind, which seemed like nonsense or nothing, were meaningful to somebody else in the group.

Heather McGuire

It was just the most spectacular experience.

Heather McGuire

I loved it so much.

Heather McGuire

So I went back every week for about two and a half years.

Heather Hester

Oh my goodness.

Heather Hester

That is awesome.

Heather Hester

Wow.

Heather Hester

And I'm sure in that you really began to be able to kind of trust what you were hearing more, right?

Heather McGuire

Exactly.

Heather Hester

Yeah.

Heather Hester

So I'm wondering if you could.

Heather Hester

Because there is that trust factor and there is that, like, I know many people are like, I don't know if.

Heather Hester

Is it my intuition?

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Is it fear?

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Is it.

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How do I know that it's my intuition speaking to me?

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And how do I kind of tell the difference between just that noise.

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Right.

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Like the negative self talk, like berating us.

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Right.

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And.

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Or giving negative messages that are fear messages and our intuition.

Heather McGuire

It's such a big question.

Heather McGuire

And there's two things I'll say.

Heather McGuire

One is you want to think about your intuition almost like a bodily function.

Heather McGuire

You're not.

Heather McGuire

It's not that you have intuition.

Heather McGuire

It's that you're intuiting like your heart is beating and your lungs are breathing.

Heather McGuire

Your body is intuiting.

Heather McGuire

It's happening all the time.

Heather McGuire

And starting to learn how to pay attention to that.

Heather McGuire

Makes it easier in those crunch times of big decisions when there's a lot of fear.

Heather McGuire

Otherwise you're going up and you're saying, you know, tell me what I should do.

Heather McGuire

And your intuition is speaking a language that you hardly know how to speak, right?

Heather Hester

Yes.

Heather McGuire

So beginning to sort of build a relationship, build an understanding, taking time to ask your body questions.

Heather McGuire

And it really will speak to you.

Heather McGuire

You can really ask your body, like, you know, what do I want right now?

Heather McGuire

And just pay attention to what happens.

Heather McGuire

You know, if something will occur to you, some feeling will happen.

Heather McGuire

So opening up that dialogue is number one.

Heather McGuire

Number two is even if your intuition is telling you that you should be afraid or that you should take action, it is going to do it in a way that is not fear mongering.

Heather McGuire

It's not going to tell you you suck.

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And that's why you shouldn't do this.

Heather McGuire

That's not the voice of your intuition.

Heather McGuire

Your intuition is lower.

Heather McGuire

It's in your body, it's in your senses.

Heather McGuire

It's not coming from your mind.

Heather McGuire

The mind chatter.

Heather McGuire

That's, that's, you know, the, the pros and cons that this is how it's going to work.

Heather McGuire

It's a.

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More of a.

Heather McGuire

Just a present sense in your body, a constant sense.

Heather McGuire

And you know this.

Heather McGuire

If you think about a decision that you made that didn't really make sense.

Heather McGuire

Like, I know I.

Heather McGuire

It made the most sense to say yes to that job or to go on that trip or do that thing, but something in me just didn't.

Heather McGuire

It just didn't sit right with me.

Heather McGuire

And so I didn't do it.

Heather McGuire

That's your intuition?

Heather Hester

Yeah.

Heather Hester

Oh, my goodness.

Heather Hester

I mean, I have almost an exact example of that where I, when I first started tapping into this and it, you know, kind of coincidentally happened to be at the same time that a lot of the things were happening with Connor.

Heather Hester

So there was, I was getting a lot of information that I wasn't, I wasn't sure what it meant.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

But I was feeling it.

Heather Hester

And I love that you said that you feel it in your body because that's where I was feeling it.

Heather Hester

It was like feeling it in my chest, in my stomach.

Heather Hester

It was just in here.

Heather Hester

And I couldn't articulate what it was.

Heather Hester

But I was supposed to go on a 50th birthday trip with girlfriends and I had this feeling, could not go.

Heather Hester

I was not meant to go and I could not articulate why.

Heather Hester

And then I, you know, they soon found out why with things that were going on with my son.

Heather Hester

But that was the, like, I needed to be here.

Heather Hester

And my intuition, my body was like, I'm going to make you feel all kinds of uncomfortable.

Heather McGuire

That's the perfect example.

Heather McGuire

And it's really easy to get spun out and to worry like, well, what does this mean?

Heather McGuire

All the things.

Heather McGuire

And people think that your intuition should give you this, like full dialogue or set of instructions.

Heather McGuire

It really rarely works like that.

Heather McGuire

It's really just this sense of, I need to stay home, I need to not go.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather McGuire

And with your kids especially, this is really significant because there's so much, you know, mom guilt.

Heather McGuire

What will people think all of those things all the time?

Heather McGuire

From breastfeeding to formula feeding, like, every decision as a parent, right?

Heather McGuire

And then you get into some of this bigger stuff and it's even more fraught.

Heather McGuire

And that sort of push and pull between your inside voice and the fearful voice of all the other things.

Heather McGuire

Is this safe for my kid?

Heather McGuire

Will they be okay?

Heather McGuire

The voice of your intuition is in your body.

Heather McGuire

Trust that.

Heather Hester

So how do you really.

Heather Hester

What can we do to better listen to that voice, to really hone or kind of dial into that voice?

Heather Hester

It's clearly a matter of being more and more aware.

Heather Hester

But are there things that we can do?

Heather Hester

Just so it becomes kind of that, like, almost a conversation more than like, you know, I kind of liken it to like, at that point, kind of my first, like, major experience that I really talk about was like, I was being hit over the head.

Heather Hester

By the time that I was like, okay, I'm listening, you know, but, you know, so we don't get to that point.

Heather Hester

And just because I think there are so many, I'm guessing, messages that we perhaps miss or.

Heather Hester

I'll let you.

Heather Hester

I'll let you answer that because I'm just.

Heather Hester

I'm intrigued.

Heather McGuire

So it runs counter to our culture and counter to how we're taught to be.

Heather McGuire

It is a measure of stillness.

Heather McGuire

And it doesn't mean that you need to become a Zen Buddhist, but it means that you begin to develop an awareness that this thoughts in your head are thoughts in your head.

Heather McGuire

They are not something that need a conversation, need you to judge, decide good or bad.

Heather McGuire

They are energetic impulses that are happening that are creating these words inside of your awareness.

Heather McGuire

Right?

Heather McGuire

So developing this sort of gap between who you are and the thoughts in your head and how you're feeling in your body and what that means about who you are, what kind of a parent you are, what kind of a person you are.

Heather McGuire

Because that's not the meaning.

Heather McGuire

That's not your intuition.

Heather McGuire

That's just your body reacting to everything around you.

Heather McGuire

And the more you go into this, the more you realize that part of what you're reacting to is so much more than you.

Heather McGuire

Yesterday, for example, was yet again another mass shooting.

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And all day I had planned this full day, but I was like, completely out of it, exhausted.

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Couldn't put my thoughts together.

Heather McGuire

Just felt really slowed down.

Heather McGuire

And I said, okay, so today is just a day.

Heather McGuire

I'm just going to move slow.

Heather McGuire

I'm just going to honor that this is how I'm feeling.

Heather McGuire

I'm just going to choose the things that feel the most aligned with this Energy.

Heather McGuire

And I'm just going to do those today, and that's going to be that.

Heather McGuire

And then come to find out there was this mass shooting.

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And this is what happens to me on those days.

Heather McGuire

The energy is so incoherent, scattered, fearful, angry, upset.

Heather McGuire

All the things that my body responds that way.

Heather McGuire

And I guarantee that everyone has some sort of response physiologically to these big occurrences.

Heather McGuire

And there's science that backs it up.

Heather McGuire

And we're not taught that we judge it.

Heather McGuire

What's wrong with me?

Heather McGuire

I'm not sleeping enough.

Heather McGuire

I'm not eating right.

Heather McGuire

I did it to myself again.

Heather McGuire

And then we lose the whole point of sort of what this is saying.

Heather McGuire

This is saying you need to slow down, you need to take care.

Heather Hester

I love that.

Heather Hester

So it is really.

Heather Hester

I mean, what we're looking at is we're really disconnected.

Heather Hester

I mean, and that's just kind of the way that we have been.

Heather Hester

That's our society.

Heather Hester

That is today's world.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

We all are.

Heather Hester

And so it's a matter of really reconnecting and whatever way works for you.

Heather Hester

Right?

Heather Hester

Yeah.

Heather Hester

And I think, you know, for many people, even starting with that little whatever it is that can get yourself still and quiet.

Heather McGuire

Yeah.

Heather Hester

And that doesn't necessarily mean, like physically still.

Heather Hester

It could be, you know, whether it's out working in your garden or walking alone or doing something that is like, still meaning, like away from.

Heather McGuire

Mm.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Exterior.

Heather Hester

Is that kind of.

Heather McGuire

Exactly.

Heather McGuire

Exactly.

Heather McGuire

And bringing in awareness.

Heather McGuire

Today I'm really tired today.

Heather McGuire

I'm really frantic.

Heather McGuire

My brain is really just moving so quickly today and accepting that, acknowledging that.

Heather McGuire

Okay.

Heather McGuire

Because, I mean, that's what I.

Heather McGuire

That's what we learned how to practice in that intuitive development circle.

Heather McGuire

What's showing up that's not going away.

Heather McGuire

Share that thing.

Heather McGuire

My first intuitive development circle, I had no idea what that meant.

Heather McGuire

She just said, okay, we're going to open up the circle.

Heather McGuire

Just share what you're getting.

Heather McGuire

And people were saying all these things.

Heather McGuire

My mind was blown.

Heather McGuire

And I kept having this image in my mind.

Heather McGuire

And it's just your mind's eye.

Heather McGuire

If I say to you, imagine an elephant, more than likely some image of an elephant will pop into your head.

Heather McGuire

Right.

Heather McGuire

It's like that.

Heather McGuire

It's like you're making it up.

Heather McGuire

And I saw this fireman's helmet hanging on the wall and a fireman's coat hanging underneath it.

Heather McGuire

And it kept coming into my mind.

Heather McGuire

So I said, okay, I'm going to pay attention to that.

Heather McGuire

She said, pay attention to what keeps showing up.

Heather McGuire

Okay, let me Pay attention to that.

Heather McGuire

And kind of like I'm redirecting the camera.

Heather McGuire

I'm going back to that, and then I'm waiting to see does anything else happen.

Heather McGuire

And when I said in the circle, okay, I've got this fireman's hat and a fireman's coat and a couple of things that had come to me, and this woman in the circle said, oh, that's my husband.

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That's my husband.

Heather McGuire

He's a fireman.

Heather McGuire

And he's bald.

Heather McGuire

I was seeing the back of a head that was bald.

Heather McGuire

He's bald.

Heather McGuire

Oh, yeah.

Heather McGuire

And how is that possible?

Heather Hester

Right?

Heather McGuire

How is that possible?

Heather McGuire

But that's what's happening all the time.

Heather McGuire

And when you slow down and get still, you recognize.

Heather McGuire

You start to recognize.

Heather McGuire

Recognize what's showing up.

Heather McGuire

What's showing up.

Heather McGuire

What kind of bubbles up to the surface.

Heather Hester

And that can be uncomfortable too.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Which is why I'm sure we have gotten to the place as humans where the second anything starts to feel uncomfortable, we either ignore it or push it away or get busy doing something else or.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Like whatever our subconscious coping mechanism is for that.

Heather Hester

So it's kind of layered.

Heather McGuire

It is.

Heather McGuire

It is.

Heather McGuire

And what happens is that we judge it instead of being curious about it and saying, okay, what could this be?

Heather McGuire

Because I might be feeling uncomfortable because something happened at my neighbor's house or, you know, something's going on politically, who knows?

Heather McGuire

Who knows what it could be?

Heather McGuire

And it may just pass through.

Heather McGuire

It may be my intuition telling me, you know, something just isn't quite settled somewhere.

Heather McGuire

Take a closer look somewhere.

Heather McGuire

But because we judge it, there's something wrong with me because I'm feeling bad.

Heather Hester

Yeah.

Heather McGuire

Then we lose track of it.

Heather Hester

Right?

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Because that judgment just mucks it all up.

Heather McGuire

Not helpful.

Heather Hester

Not helpful at all.

Heather Hester

So one of the things.

Heather Hester

And I know we have a.

Heather Hester

A mutual friend that we both work with, and she has talked about this a number of times, and I.

Heather Hester

You talk about it, too, on your.

Heather Hester

Your website.

Heather Hester

And I'm really, really curious about what it is, which are the heartstone walks.

Heather Hester

And I have a feeling this kind of works into this whole idea that we're talking about here.

Heather Hester

So I was wondering if you could tell us a little more about that.

Heather McGuire

So teaching people about their intuition and watching for signs and opening up their awareness, people will very often say to me, so I saw this license plate, and it said, just do it.

Heather McGuire

So what does that mean?

Heather McGuire

You know?

Heather McGuire

And so they really feel like their intuition is telling them, you need to do X, Y, and z.

Heather McGuire

And this is really more about that conversation.

Heather McGuire

And what I found through my process of opening up and learning how to listen is that I call it the universe.

Heather McGuire

Some people call it God or spirit or life force energy.

Heather McGuire

That this something that is, you know, working with us, communicating with us, giving information to our intuition really works more in nudges.

Heather McGuire

More in nudges.

Heather McGuire

You know, you.

Heather McGuire

You should stay home.

Heather McGuire

You.

Heather McGuire

You feel better when you think about staying home than you do when you're going on that trip.

Heather McGuire

And I started paying attention to asking for signs.

Heather McGuire

And one of the signs that I would ask for was these heart rocks.

Heather McGuire

And I noticed when I would take my dog out for a walk in the woods that the days when I was kind of present, clear, feeling good, they were everywhere.

Heather McGuire

The days when I was in my head, caught up, stressed out, beating myself up, none for miles, couldn't find one to save my life.

Heather McGuire

And so I started to do this experiment of experimenting with where I put my attention, how I would breathe, what I would feel.

Heather McGuire

And I started to be able to sort of produce them on my walks by managing my energy.

Heather McGuire

It became this really fun experiment between me and the universe.

Heather McGuire

And so that's what I teach people on these hard rock walks, that we go out into nature and we really feel the difference between what do I want and what do I desire?

Heather McGuire

What I want is really in my head.

Heather McGuire

What I desire is much more in my body.

Heather McGuire

And when I think about what do I desire?

Heather McGuire

And I ask my body, what do I desire?

Heather McGuire

There's a whole different feeling.

Heather McGuire

And then we ask, okay, we're going to walk with our desire.

Heather McGuire

We're going to notice what we notice, just open up our senses.

Heather McGuire

That whole forest bathing.

Heather McGuire

What do you see without identifying what you see?

Heather McGuire

What do you hear without identifying what you hear?

Heather McGuire

And we're asking the universe to work with us and give us heart rocks.

Heather McGuire

And I am telling you, we walk out of the woods and people are like, there's one, there's one.

Heather McGuire

The whole path is a heart.

Heather McGuire

Oh, my gosh, I love that.

Heather Hester

Oh, my gosh, that is really cool.

Heather Hester

And what a great way to kind of connect that.

Heather Hester

Right?

Heather Hester

I mean, it's like a little positive feedback to be like, wait, this is what this is.

Heather Hester

This is awesome.

Heather McGuire

Yeah.

Heather Hester

Oh, that's really, really cool.

Heather Hester

Okay, thank you.

Heather Hester

I had been curious and I had a feeling, but I was like, oh, I have to ask her this because I just really want to know exactly what it is.

Heather Hester

I'll have to try that.

Heather McGuire

Yeah.

Heather Hester

Although I live in a suburb And.

Heather McGuire

I have a funny coincidence story with my heart rocks because I.

Heather McGuire

You.

Heather McGuire

You've heard of Mel Robbins, right?

Heather McGuire

The blonde woman, the black.

Heather McGuire

Like, she's such a hot ticket.

Heather McGuire

And I, I don't think I've read any of her books or.

Heather McGuire

But sometimes she just sort of appears in my life.

Heather McGuire

Someone will mention her and then she'll be all over my social media feed or I'll.

Heather McGuire

One of those kinds of things.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather McGuire

And the first time I ever listened to her podcast, I was at the gym and she started talking about how she teaches people to look for hearts in nature.

Heather McGuire

And I was, oh my gosh, we have something in common.

Heather McGuire

And I looked down on the floor and no lie.

Heather McGuire

There was a little.

Heather McGuire

It was like ripped paper, hard right on the floor by where I.

Heather McGuire

Yeah.

Heather McGuire

Oh, okay.

Heather McGuire

That's the way it works.

Heather McGuire

That's the way it works when we're all lined up all of a sudden.

Heather McGuire

Yeah, just.

Heather Hester

I mean, that's so cool.

Heather Hester

See, this is available to all of us, which I think is also something that is a misnomer.

Heather Hester

People, I think, think that being able to understand your intuition or even tap into it is something that only some people can do.

Heather Hester

Not everybody's able to do that.

Heather Hester

So.

Heather McGuire

Exactly.

Heather Hester

Just knowing that is available to you and that you do.

Heather Hester

I think there's such a part of, you know, being connected to your whole body and really being so aware is something that we were never taught to do.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Like there's such a disconnect.

Heather Hester

So it does take some effort and some work, but not work in like a.

Heather Hester

I don't like to use the word work because I think that scares people, but it takes, you know, some, like, trying and some experimenting and so.

Heather McGuire

Exactly.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather McGuire

So Exactly.

Heather Hester

Just like you do yoga or whatever, your favorite exercises.

Heather McGuire

Yeah, yeah.

Heather McGuire

I was listening to a sort of business podcast.

Heather McGuire

I don't remember who was on there, but these big deal business guys.

Heather McGuire

And the person who was being interviewed said that what he does when he's really stuck is he just asks himself, how could this be easy?

Heather McGuire

And then, and then he just sort of waits for things to come to him and how could this be easy?

Heather McGuire

These open ended questions are game changers.

Heather McGuire

When you open it up, you are inviting the universe to give you signs, to give you insight.

Heather McGuire

You're saying, okay, I've been working this one and it's.

Heather McGuire

And it's not working.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather McGuire

How can it be easy?

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather McGuire

In my marriage, I mean, I've been married for almost 30 years.

Heather McGuire

So, you know, you go in ups and downs, right?

Heather Hester

Absolutely, yes.

Heather McGuire

And I remember looking at my husband and thinking, you know what I want more than anything is I want to look at this man and think that, you know, this.

Heather McGuire

I am so lucky to be married to this person.

Heather McGuire

I know in my heart that I am.

Heather McGuire

And I know in my head that like he's fabulous, but I don't always feel that I want to feel that.

Heather McGuire

And so I just asked that question, how can I feel that feeling that this is the person, this is my person.

Heather McGuire

And I would start to notice little things.

Heather McGuire

He does this thing that's so lovely.

Heather McGuire

Look at him.

Heather McGuire

What a great guy.

Heather McGuire

Oh.

Heather McGuire

So if anything, if anything, start asking open ended questions, start asking for answers that help solve your problems and then pay attention to your whole body for the answers.

Heather McGuire

Don't just listen in your head, pay attention in your whole body for the answer.

Heather Hester

Right, Right.

Heather Hester

Because the head will try to overcompensate and make a lot of noise.

Heather Hester

And I had a friend say to me the other day, she's a coach and she was like, just because you think it doesn't make it true.

Heather Hester

And I was like, good for us all to remember that.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Like these thoughts, just because they're in there doesn't mean it's accurate.

Heather Hester

It's just a lot of times just noise or, you know, things that we're soaking in from the outside that are.

Heather Hester

It's just processing through and isn't even ours.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

It's just making its way through.

Heather Hester

So it's a good thing to just remember along the way and to, you know, again, I think the.

Heather Hester

One of the bigger pieces is just that ability to slow down for a moment and like come into your body.

Heather McGuire

Exactly.

Heather Hester

Really just.

Heather Hester

And to, you know, to breathe and do that breathing, which talk about all the time, that is so very important.

Heather Hester

Important.

Heather Hester

And it allows us to get out of our heads and into our bodies.

Heather Hester

Right?

Heather McGuire

Yeah.

Heather Hester

Bring the nervous system down and bring the cortisol down.

Heather McGuire

All the stuff.

Heather McGuire

It's so huge.

Heather Hester

So huge.

Heather Hester

So you are starting something new this year or you've been working on it for a little bit, but I know it's something that you're really wanting to kind of kick off and move into more, which is your energy lab.

Heather Hester

So I'm wondering if you can share that a little bit with us.

Heather McGuire

I am so excited about the energy lab.

Heather McGuire

I have been teaching intuitive development and a number of different things for a long, long time.

Heather McGuire

And it kind of all occurred to me last year that what we're doing is energy experiments.

Heather McGuire

We're experimenting with our energy.

Heather McGuire

And that's what a heart rock walk is, experimenting with your energy.

Heather McGuire

And so my Energy Lab is series of different talks and teaching this system of experimenting with energy.

Heather McGuire

I'm starting a Facebook group where we're going to be running experiments and everyone's welcome to join us there.

Heather McGuire

And I'm going to be leading talks.

Heather McGuire

I did one for a local business a few weeks ago.

Heather McGuire

And so the Energy lab is sharing this information and this science and then teaching people to look at the situations in their life.

Heather McGuire

Almost like there I have this hypothesis, I have this hypothesis that, you know, my kid isn't safe.

Heather McGuire

How.

Heather McGuire

What can I do to change that feeling?

Heather McGuire

What can I do to find out if that's true?

Heather McGuire

How can I experiment with this rather than just sitting in worry?

Heather McGuire

How can I experiment with my energy and then notice what happened, notice if it changes?

Heather McGuire

And I know from my own life, I know from my clients that really powerful things can happen when you do this work.

Heather McGuire

Really powerful changes can happen.

Heather Hester

That is awesome.

Heather Hester

Okay, so in order to be part of this, people need to go to your Facebook page.

Heather Hester

Go to where can people learn more about this?

Heather Hester

Because I think this is such awesome work.

Heather McGuire

I'm so excited for it.

Heather McGuire

So, yeah, go to the Facebook group and join there.

Heather McGuire

I'm going, I'm starting here.

Heather McGuire

I'm in Boston, so I'm doing talks here and sort of spreading out from there.

Heather McGuire

This fall, my daughter's going to be headed off to college.

Heather McGuire

I have two kids and my daughter's my second and she's headed off to college.

Heather McGuire

So I am ready to take this show on the road.

Heather McGuire

And really, I just really want to bring this out to people and.

Heather McGuire

But start at the Facebook group.

Heather McGuire

Start there.

Heather McGuire

We'll be leading experiments.

Heather McGuire

We'll be talking about it.

Heather McGuire

And it's really kind of just this practice of awareness and this practice of training yourself to take a different look, to unplug from what your brain is telling you this means and to be present for what's possible.

Heather Hester

Right.

Heather Hester

Which is so, so important.

Heather Hester

Now one, just one other quick question about that is will you do virtual talks?

Heather McGuire

I am guessing that I will.

Heather McGuire

And right now the Energy Lab is going to be in person because the experiments that we're doing are sort of in person experiments.

Heather McGuire

And as it gets going, I'm pretty certain that it's going to evolve into an online experience also.

Heather McGuire

But yeah.

Heather Hester

Okay.

Heather Hester

I just thought I would ask because I'm sure people are wondering.

Heather Hester

Okay, that's awesome.

Heather Hester

Well, I will definitely have all of your Facebook information in the show notes and all of that good stuff.

Heather McGuire

Yeah.

Heather McGuire

And you also have, I think, a link to my.

Heather McGuire

Some practices for developing your intuition.

Heather Hester

Yes.

Heather McGuire

So people get on there, then they can get on my, my email list and there'll be announcements, updates on the energy lab in there also.

Heather Hester

Yes, yes.

Heather Hester

I actually highly recommend that because I did get.

Heather Hester

When you go on to Heather's website, you can get.

Heather Hester

It's right at the beginning, just you get a download and it's awesome.

Heather Hester

It's like a 10 page download and it's really, really good.

Heather Hester

Just simple exercises.

Heather Hester

So if nothing else, I highly recommend that.

Heather Hester

But yes, that's the perfect way to.

Heather Hester

Then you'll just get updates as you move this along, which is very exciting.

Heather Hester

Great.

Heather Hester

So we were talking a little bit before we started about just kind of closing today with a little bit of a meditation that you.

Heather Hester

That had come to you right before we were to start.

Heather Hester

And I thought that would be a lovely way to end our time together today.

Heather Hester

So I'm going to let you take it from here.

Heather Hester

And I've just so grateful that you are with us today.

Heather McGuire

I am so delighted that I know you, that you are a part of my world, that you are doing the work that you're doing.

Heather McGuire

It is so valuable.

Heather McGuire

And I just see this podcast and you as this sort of radio signal of love and it's really powerful and important and I'm grateful to be here and to be a part of it.

Heather Hester

Thank you.

Heather Hester

That's really cool.

Heather McGuire

So right before we started talking, this meditation did come to me and I'm going to invite everybody to take some nice deep breaths.

Heather McGuire

And if you are someplace where you can be still and quiet, be still and quiet.

Heather McGuire

If you are listening to this and you are walking, you can just let your imagination do this.

Heather McGuire

While you are being safe on your walk as you are driving, obviously don't close your eyes and go too deep.

Heather McGuire

But if you are in some place where you can allow yourself to do this, we're going to walk into fear in a way that feels safe.

Heather McGuire

Most important, that you always go only so far that you feel safe.

Heather McGuire

And we're going to find out how to ground ourselves and ask for help there in a very beautiful way.

Heather McGuire

So keep breathing, keep relaxing and allow yourself to imagine that you can see your feet on the ground and where you are is headed into the woods.

Heather McGuire

These are woods where you feel comfortable and safe.

Heather McGuire

These are woods that feel known to you.

Heather McGuire

You know this path.

Heather McGuire

You begin to walk into these woods beginning to feel yourself enveloped by the trees and the plants, beginning to walk away from your busy day, your busy life.

Heather McGuire

And as you walk, you begin to think of something that's on your mind fairly frequently, something that you worry about, that you hold fear around.

Heather McGuire

And as you walk, that fear is present with you.

Heather McGuire

Just notice it.

Heather McGuire

It's along for the walk.

Heather McGuire

Allow it to be.

Heather McGuire

And as you walk through the woods, you notice that it's getting a bit darker as the trees are closing in, as the brush is more and more dense.

Heather McGuire

And you know at the end of this trail, which you are approaching, there is a great big rock.

Heather McGuire

And on the other side of the rock is a cliff with a lake down below.

Heather McGuire

And it's a beautiful place, stunningly beautiful, but it feels somewhat scary to be at the top of that rock.

Heather McGuire

And so you're taking care of yourself.

Heather McGuire

And as you approach that rock, you get as close as you can while feeling safe, find that place as close or as far from the edge as you wish to be.

Heather McGuire

And you may wish to sit down right on the ground or even lay down and be fully in contact with the earth.

Heather McGuire

And notice what happens when you place your attention on the earth.

Heather McGuire

Those feelings of fear and worry may shift.

Heather McGuire

Something may change.

Heather McGuire

And what happens when we hold fear and worry is we start to argue with it and blame ourselves.

Heather McGuire

And we tend to get deeper and deeper into the fear and into the worry and lose sight of other possibilities.

Heather McGuire

And that may well happen here.

Heather McGuire

But you know that on the other side of this rock is this beautiful view, this experience that's exhilarating, to be able to look down on the water, to see the sky and the trees from this viewpoint.

Heather McGuire

And you want to have that, too.

Heather McGuire

So let's ask the question, how is it possible for me to be afraid and for me also to feel exhilaration, success, courage?

Heather McGuire

And I want you to ask for help.

Heather McGuire

What can help me?

Heather McGuire

And something may have occurred to you immediately.

Heather McGuire

Your intuition is fast.

Heather McGuire

And if you're scrambling to try and make sense of something, I want to invite you to ask the trees for help.

Heather McGuire

I want to invite you to feel their groundedness, feel their rootedness, feel their support.

Heather McGuire

And there's one last thing that you're going to do here in this place of beauty, of possibility and of fear.

Heather McGuire

You're going to take out of your bag a pen and a paper, and you're going to write a note to the universe asking for help with this fear.

Heather McGuire

Help me see a bigger picture.

Heather McGuire

Help me find courage and faith.

Heather McGuire

Help me understand where and when I am safe, help me feel guided and trust in myself.

Heather McGuire

And any other words that you wish to ask, write them in your letter now.

Heather McGuire

And when you're done, you're going to fold up that letter into a paper airplane and you are going to send it sailing right up and over that rock, out into that beautiful sky and it's going to be carried away by the winds and taken to the place where your answers are connecting you to that place.

Heather McGuire

Whenever you are ready, you can take a few deep breaths, stand up and you can walk yourself back right out of those woods.

Heather McGuire

Right back into your day.

Heather McGuire

Back into here and now.

Heather Hester

That was wonderful.

Heather Hester

Thank you so so much.

Heather Hester

And thank you so much for being here.

Heather McGuire

You are so welcome.

Heather McGuire

It was my pleasure.

Heather Hester

Thanks so much for joining me today.

Heather Hester

If you enjoyed today's episode, I would be so grateful.

Heather Hester

For a rating or a review, click on the link in the show notes or go to my website chrysalismama.com to stay up to date on my latest resources as well as to learn how you can work with me.

Heather Hester

Please share this podcast with anyone who needs to know that they are not alone and remember to just breathe until next time.