Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And today I want to talk about what's intolerable.

What are the things in your life that are have now become intolerable, Things that you really, really don't want to do anymore, Ways you do not, do not want to be anymore.

Relationships that really do not serve you and are not worth the effort, the energy, the time that hurt you more than help you, more than support you.

What are the things that have become intolerable?

Now you might be saying to yourself, but Rhonda, I'm in fearless living so that I can become more free.

I haven't really been focusing on the things that are intolerable.

I don't want to look for problems.

Well, in fact, what ends up happening is as you become more free, as you start living the life your soul intended more and more and more, the things that you will tolerate on one hand for certain things, they won't bother you anymore.

Like they just won't bother you anymore.

The things that were intolerable before become moot, right?

They don't bug you anymore.

You know, relationships, you don't have to get that person to agree with you.

You don't have to get that person to understand you.

You don't have to change that person.

Things are not as desperate or as gotta do it as they were before because you start understanding, you start realizing how fear is playing that song to you, that they should be different, right?

And so you start taking responsibility.

And therefore a certain percentage of the things that you're intolerant about have been intolerable to you no longer bug you.

So that's one thing that is going to happen probably already happening right now.

So that's good news, right?

That's fantastic news.

And the other thing though is that there are going to be those things that you have put up with that you don't want to give another minute, another piece of energy, a bit of your time.

You just.

It's not.

Nope.

Mm, mm.

Not anymore.

Now you can be neutral with them.

You can be like, I get it, I get why that person's that way.

Or I can get why that happened, or I can get, you know, why I should keep that antique.

But you don't want anymore.

You don't need to keep things, have relationships with do things because you're supposed to or because you better or because of expectations on yourself or other people's expectations of you.

Now you get to decide.

Now I'm a firm believer that most relationships can be saved.

That even though you're different in many ways.

Like, I have many people in my family that are very, very different than me.

And I have zero desire to, quote, unquote, get rid of those relationships.

In fact, I love those people and I love those relationships.

I just don't go dipping, you know, I don't go dipping into that.

Well, because they don't at certain times.

Because.

Because that's not what they're there for, right?

They're not committed to freedom in the way that I am in how I do it through fearless living.

But I can cherish and honor those relationships, even though we're very, very different.

So I'm not asking you to dump all your friends and family or I don't even want you to do that.

If they're different than how you think now or different than how you view the world now.

This is not this conversation.

And there are things that you know that you've been putting up with behavior.

You've been putting up with language from others that you've been putting up with boundary breaking that you've been putting up with.

These are the things that become intolerable.

Because you know what you know, you know that.

You know that you aren't taking care of it.

You know that you aren't speaking up.

You know that you aren't doing the thing that you know you're called to do in order to be true to yourself.

You know, it's.

So I'm asking you what's intolerable?

Because one of two things is gonna happen.

One, they become tolerable.

They become fine.

You find peace with them and they're okay, just like I do with certain relationships in my life.

I'm at peace with them.

I don't go to them for things that I know that our relationship isn't built on.

Right?

But I love them.

And then those other things that become intolerable, it might be your rug, it might be a broken drawer.

It might be the way that your favorite restaurant speaks to you.

It might be how many times your mother calls you up a day.

There are some things that become intolerable.

And you know that you need to change, not them you do.

So think about that today.

Look at your life.

Be one with your life.

Be willing and open and available to actually allow this to come forward today.

Things in your life that are intolerable, either find peace with them.

Start working on finding peace with them.

Maybe you have to do some forgiveness work.

Maybe you have to put some boundaries up.

Maybe you have to take care of your needs better.

And then the things that are intolerable.

That you know, no matter what you do, or maybe in spite of what you do, it's just not worth it to you anymore.

It's just not the effort, the love, the connection.

It's just not serving you anymore.

And you really want to let it go then, my friend, let it go.

Let it go.

Remember, your life is 100% responsibly yours.

It's under your hands, it's under your heart, under your mind, under your body, under your spirit.

Your life.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.