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Hello and welcome back to the Elevated Edit Podcast.

In today's short and sweet episode, I'm going to be sharing three quick tips that I think can benefit all of us, especially us multi, passionate, driven women who have really ambitious goals and dreams and have really big things that we may want to accomplish both personally and professionally.

And I do feel like today's topic is something that holds us back as women because we often care a lot what other people think and we have a hard time setting those boundaries, whether they are boundaries with other people or boundaries with ourselves as far as what we are going to let bother us.

And so today we are going to be talking about handling unsolicited advice like a pro.

We are going to cover three quick tips that are going to help us process this unsolicited advice better.

Because, let's face it, sharing our goals or big dreams can leave us feeling really vulnerable.

And nothing makes it more obvious than when someone offers their unsolicited advice and it shakes our confidence.

That's when we really realize how vulnerable we are, when we are sharing our big goals and our big dreams.

And so today we're going to cover three quick tips to handle this with grace and confidence.

Because we've all been there and I have talked about being aware of when it's important to share your goals and when it's important to maybe, you know, increase your confidence a little bit more first or feel really clear about what you're doing first before you share it with others.

But I think at a certain point it does help to share with others and it does help to get feedback from people that we really value their opinion and their expertise.

But when you put yourself out there for those people, you often put yourself out there for those people who do give you that unsolicited advice that you did not ask for.

And it can derail us.

It derails me if I am not aware and careful.

And so let's get into three quick tips to manage this.

Quick tip number one, pause and assume good intentions.

This is one that has truly helped me so much because it forces me to be proactive instead of reactive and when someone comes to me with unsolicited advice, I can pause and assume good intentions and I can assume that they are not trying to hurt me.

They are truly just sharing advice based on their perspective and their experience.

And I choose to believe, and I truly think this, that most people fall in this category.

They are not trying to hurt your feelings.

They are not trying to put you down.

They are just genuinely giving advice based on their experience, their perspective, their resources, their mindset.

Where they're currently are.

Where they're currently are.

Where they currently are in their life.

And it is not necessarily a true reflection of what they think about you and your capabilities.

But before I had awareness of this, I took that on myself as, oh, they don't think I'm capable of doing it.

And then that thought would lead to, well, I'm not capable of doing it.

And then you go down a rabbit hole and then you never get the thing done.

So when this happens, take a deep breath and respond with something neutral like, and I'm going to give you a couple of different options.

You obviously don't have to do what I do, but this has helped me.

If it is unsolicited advice that I may truly consider, I will say, thanks for sharing.

I'll think about that.

I feel like that doesn't promise anything, but it does show that there is some kind of future action potentially and it thanks them for their unsolicited advice.

Now this second one is what I have been using more often lately as my backbone is developing.

So this is like people pleaser, like anti people pleaser.

Next level.

Like this is the next level.

This is not beginner.

Thanks for sharing.

I appreciate your perspective.

Or thanks for sharing.

I didn't think about it like that.

There is no promise that I'm going to give it any future thought.

There is no promise that I agree with you.

It is just very neutral, very blunt.

Thanks for sharing.

I didn't have that perspective.

Thanks for sharing.

That's a different way to look at it.

Don't say it like I just said it because that's very passive aggressive.

You got to be careful with all this because your tone is really important.

That's something I'm really working on too, but especially if it's a friend or a family member that really does have good intentions.

Thanks for sharing.

I'll think about that one.

Or thanks for sharing.

I didn't think about it that way.

Quick tip number two, Filter the advice.

Not every piece of advice is meant for you.

People speak from their own fears.

Their own experiences and their own beliefs.

So before you react, ask yourself, does this person have the perspective or the expertise that I value?

If not, let it roll off your back.

I feel like I get unsolicited advice all the time.

I don't know if it's because I put myself out there so much or what it is, but I get a lot of unsolicited advice and sometimes I will be getting unsolicited advice from someone and it will just irritate me so bad.

But then I think, Blakely, do they live a life that you would want to live?

No.

Do they have the income that you want to have?

No.

Do they have the friends that you want to have?

No.

Do they have the joy and passion that you want in your life?

No.

Okay, then I don't care what they have to say.

It's just that simple.

I just let it roll off my back.

I just listen to them.

I don't respond.

I'm not going to be reactive and cause a big stink.

I just let it roll off my back.

And usually those people don't even notice that they're doing it because.

Because they may also be projecting something on you.

They could be projecting their own fear.

This could even be if you are really going for it and doing the big things and you are getting unsolicited advice from someone who is unwilling or afraid to go after what they want to go after.

People will often subconsciously try to make you smaller, try to make you feel less than, and it can be really difficult to let it roll off of your shoulders.

But it's really important to protect your own energy and to not be reactive and to not get in an argument with these people and to not make things worse and create something that you then have to deal with.

So just let it roll off your back.

It's a lot easier said than done, but it is really important to protect your peace.

And then quick tip number three, stay grounded in your vision.

You're the only one who truly knows your goals and your dreams.

So don't let unsolicited advice shake your confidence.

You have to constantly revisit your why.

Constantly remind yourself that no one has your unique vision.

This is why it is so important to have clarity and know what you need to be focused on and really have a strong why?

Why are you doing this?

Are you trying to create a certain lifestyle?

Are you trying to create a certain value in your life?

For me, I want time, freedom to spend with the ones I love and to spend time being creative and to travel.

And so when someone comes to me with unsolicited advice, they think that something I'm doing is crazy or it's not going to work or why would you do that instead of this?

I can't believe you would ever do that.

That's stupid.

Or whatever it is.

I remember my why and.

And what my goal is and what I'm doing all this for.

And it helps.

It helps to let the unsolicited advice roll off your shoulder when you know exactly why you're doing.

Yeah, exactly why you're doing what you're doing.

I thought that was going to come off, come out different, but that was exactly what I meant to say.

And all of this is important because, yes, unsolicited advice can sometimes be difficult to deal with.

It's not always easy to deal with, but it doesn't have to completely derail you.

So take a moment to pause, filter what serves you and stay grounded in your vision.

And remember, you don't owe anyone an explanation for chasing your dreams.

That is not a responsibility that is on your shoulders.

You don't owe anybody anything when it comes to explaining going after what it is that's been put on your heart and going after your big vision and your biggest mission.

So this week you're going to have a moment where you can practice one of these tips.

You're probably getting more unsolicited advice than you realize and so I want you to use one of these tips.

Don't try to use all of them at once.

You will overwhelm yourself.

Just take a few moments to practice being proactive versus reactive and just try a quick tip and then let me know how it goes.

Message me on Instagram at the Blakely Ramsey I have been really enjoying getting these messages from y'all and having these conversations online about the quick tips and the elevated action tips that I give y'all in the episodes.

It's really enjoyable to grow with all of you because I'm very vulnerable about being on the same path as y'all and learning right alongside you and it's just been really enjoyable and really fun.

So keep messaging me your growth and let's keep growing together with that.

I will see y'all in the next episode.

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