J Marie Jones: It doesn't work.
Speaker:So something must not be right.
Speaker:So God, I'm willing for you to completely tear this whole thing apart and show me
Speaker:the right way so that I can have true and lasting peace in my life so that
Speaker:things can really get back on track.
Speaker:And I can know within myself that I'm truly following you and not making
Speaker:it my own hodgepodge of a religion.
Speaker:Because that's what I've been doing.
Tim Winders:You ready to transform your daily walk with God?
Tim Winders:Welcome to today's episode of Seek, Go, Create the Leadership
Tim Winders:Journey, where we're joined by J.
Tim Winders:Marie Jones, founder of Affirm the Word Literary.
Tim Winders:J.
Tim Winders:Marie is dedicated to helping believers internalize and affirm God's word in every
Tim Winders:Every aspect of their lives, from health and relationships to business and faith.
Tim Winders:In this episode, Jay Marie shares insights from her journey of faith and the powerful
Tim Winders:role that scripture and affirmations play in personal transformation, discover how
Tim Winders:her experience as a mother and mentor have fueled her passion for producing
Tim Winders:spiritual books and journals that support believers in living out their true faith.
Tim Winders:calling.
Tim Winders:J Marie, welcome to Seat Go Create.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Hey, thank you so much for having me.
Tim Winders:Great to have you here.
Tim Winders:J Marie, we have just met.
Tim Winders:So this is not a fake type question, but let's just say we're out and about
Tim Winders:somewhere and we bump into each other or we're meeting or something like that.
Tim Winders:And I ask you what you do.
Tim Winders:What's your response when somebody asks you what you do?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: I try and keep it simple and I just say I design things.
Tim Winders:Because usually when I come across folks in New York, especially having a
Tim Winders:background in communications, design, media, when I used to tell people
Tim Winders:what I did every day, especially if I said I was an author, either they
Tim Winders:have a book they've been trying to write, They're trying to get produced.
Tim Winders:They want to know about the company.
Tim Winders:So I don't say that if I said that I work for a particular agency, which
Tim Winders:I have for so, so long, then they asked me if they can give me a resume.
Tim Winders:So to keep it simple, I just say I'm a designer.
Tim Winders:And then once we start getting, we stay there for any length of time and we start
Tim Winders:talking about our lives and our walk, I just say, I'm a vessel that's willing
Tim Winders:to do and be and go whatever God wants.
Tim Winders:That's it.
Tim Winders:Be obedient.
Tim Winders:Is it, what is the relationship between someone who's a designer and someone
Tim Winders:who would call themselves an artist?
Tim Winders:What's the relation?
Tim Winders:Are they siblings, cousins, not related or similar?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: I think that this really.
Tim Winders:determines whether or not you're looking at this as a profession or
Tim Winders:just something that you do because it's a part of your creative identity.
Tim Winders:And for me, for a long time, that was my profession.
Tim Winders:I was a designer that specialized in media production, communication, and
Tim Winders:mostly video for the city of New York.
Tim Winders:So this is my profession.
Tim Winders:And when people hear about, especially being an African American and a female.
Tim Winders:In a technology driven profession, it's very rare, and if you get the opportunity
Tim Winders:to do that in city government, that's another level of rarity for people.
Tim Winders:So the fact that I was able to do that, that I went to school for it and actually
Tim Winders:worked within the profession that I went to school for was very interesting
Tim Winders:to people and exciting to them.
Tim Winders:Were you interested in that?
Tim Winders:Or was that something that started like in, you know, as
Tim Winders:you matured and went to college?
Tim Winders:I mean, like as a kid, where you want to do video or things related to that.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: I'm glad you asked that question because when I was younger,
Tim Winders:I actually, I started off in Catholic school and then when I went to junior
Tim Winders:high school, I went to the Parsons Junior High School for Performing Arts.
Tim Winders:But I went to the Parsons Junior High School for Performing Arts and the
Tim Winders:majors there were, art, chorus, dance, all these out front type of majors.
Tim Winders:And I picked art because I didn't want to be out front anywhere.
Tim Winders:And while I was taking art, I found out about the high school of art and design.
Tim Winders:I was like, well, if I can go to school and just really draw a
Tim Winders:day and not really have to do any work, I definitely want to do that.
Tim Winders:And by God's grace, I got into art and design.
Tim Winders:And then of course I had been doing it.
Tim Winders:So you might as well just keep on going.
Tim Winders:And by the time I got to St.
Tim Winders:John's, I was also in ministry and my pastor was starting a television, like
Tim Winders:the public access television program.
Tim Winders:And at that time, because I was really trying to find out who I was,
Tim Winders:everything that came up, I would try and be, you know, the song like, come
Tim Winders:on, come on, come on, come on, come on.
Tim Winders:I mean, I, I guess that was probably me because if it seemed like it
Tim Winders:was going the right direction.
Tim Winders:It was something that I could receive validation for, then I would try
Tim Winders:and do it, anything from building technology to design and because
Tim Winders:he was moving into video, I said, well, why don't I start doing video?
Tim Winders:And I really found through that, that not only did I like to do video production,
Tim Winders:but video really incorporates all elements of design because you have graphic
Tim Winders:design, you have photography, you have all the different elements of it, but it's
Tim Winders:moving, you have sound, you have motion.
Tim Winders:So I found that I really liked it.
Tim Winders:And when I was preparing to drop out of ST john's, one of my professors gave me
Tim Winders:this entire breakdown of the disparities in income for, you know, for high school
Tim Winders:dropouts versus high school graduates.
Tim Winders:And so I said, you know what?
Tim Winders:Yeah, that makes sense.
Tim Winders:And he said, well, listen, it's not a dropping out.
Tim Winders:Why don't you find something you really, really like to do
Tim Winders:and just transfer to that major?
Tim Winders:And I dropped public administration and went into television and media
Tim Winders:communication and got straight A's and the rest is history.
Tim Winders:Hmm.
Tim Winders:I do want to make note that I believe of all the episodes we've had here at
Tim Winders:Seek Go Create, you are the first person that has referenced a Boy George song.
Tim Winders:So I do, well, we don't have a special award for that or anything.
Tim Winders:I don't think we should, but, thanks for that obscure reference from the eighties.
Tim Winders:You're just, you're just trying to, you're just trying to pander to the
Tim Winders:old dude that's interviewing you.
Tim Winders:So, but, you know, you know, what's cool about that conversation, I'm glad
Tim Winders:I asked that question because as we get into later talking about, you know,
Tim Winders:affirming the word and the intentional journal, journaling and all that God
Tim Winders:has you doing now, a lot of the reasons.
Tim Winders:That people want to do those things is to find out what they're created for.
Tim Winders:What is their purpose on this earth?
Tim Winders:God, why did you put me here?
Tim Winders:But I think if we go back even to the playground or the, you know, the
Tim Winders:playrooms or the, you know, churches or schools, wherever we grew up, I think
Tim Winders:that God has given us clues along the way if we, if we pay attention to it.
Tim Winders:And it sounds as if the story you just told, the answer to the question I
Tim Winders:just asked, kind Affirms that, to use the word affirm here, and, and you
Tim Winders:were kind of on this path that kept being moved around and all to, to move
Tim Winders:you towards your purpose, correct?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Correct.
Tim Winders:And I use all of it today and it really affirms to me that God wastes nothing.
Tim Winders:Yeah,
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: You may be taking these steps and you work here,
Tim Winders:you do this and you do that.
Tim Winders:And I would have never imagined that all those things that I've done throughout
Tim Winders:my life, volunteering in different ministries and having people say to me,
Tim Winders:well, what are you getting out of it?
Tim Winders:And you're not even getting paid and got to use.
Tim Winders:All of it to give me so many wonderful opportunities, even
Tim Winders:for the city of New York.
Tim Winders:I mean, I've done the, Times Square ball drop.
Tim Winders:I've done the Thanksgiving Day parade.
Tim Winders:I've done so many different things and now I'm doing all of this and
Tim Winders:I would have never imagined that I would be here doing it and loving it.
Tim Winders:Every day I love it.
Tim Winders:It's something different.
Tim Winders:The way that God gives you gifts, talents, and abilities that really
Tim Winders:tie into your personality, because I could never do an office job.
Tim Winders:I remember going and getting interviewed someplace.
Tim Winders:And it was for me at that time, a whole lot of money.
Tim Winders:And the recruiter there said, There's so many things that you can do.
Tim Winders:I see on your resume, you have so many talents, and I'm just concerned you'd be
Tim Winders:bored here because it's really just Excel.
Tim Winders:I can even see you ascending to be a buyer, but until you became the
Tim Winders:buyer and had more of a challenge, I just see you being bored.
Tim Winders:So she said, you know, today's Friday.
Tim Winders:Think about it over the weekend.
Tim Winders:If you don't want to come back, then we'll just, you know, we'll let it go.
Tim Winders:And that's it.
Tim Winders:And I never went back.
Tim Winders:But the fact that even other people could see, I know your personality
Tim Winders:and even God throughout the years placed me even in civil service.
Tim Winders:Cause it's so rare that you get something that is not humdrum day in and day out.
Tim Winders:All of my positions have been me moving and shaking and doing different things
Tim Winders:because when you really at least intend to give your life to God, even if it's
Tim Winders:not for the right reasons, but your desire is to give your life to God, he
Tim Winders:still works everything out for your good.
Tim Winders:And I'm so grateful for that.
Tim Winders:the unfortunate thing is, I think that we will often get this.
Tim Winders:Paradigm or dogmatic view of what we believe God can do for us.
Tim Winders:Maybe it's one career, one thing, whatever.
Tim Winders:And then as we are, we use the word surrender as we surrender more,
Tim Winders:we recognize that he can do so much more than our, my words here,
Tim Winders:puny little minds can, can do.
Tim Winders:Imagine, you know, it's interesting you brought up that
Tim Winders:God uses all of these things.
Tim Winders:There was a period of time we, we had some businesses that did very well.
Tim Winders:they were all in real estate leading in 08 and then they didn't.
Tim Winders:It's kind of what's led to this beautiful, what I consider
Tim Winders:miraculous life that we lead now.
Tim Winders:We never would have done it were it not for that.
Tim Winders:And I remember having conversations with God in Part of my journaling experience,
Tim Winders:by the way, where I was feeling a little bit, of, failure may not be the
Tim Winders:right word, my identity had been tied up in certain things with business.
Tim Winders:And I was just kind of in my own way, crying out saying, Lord, it
Tim Winders:feels like, this time has been wasted that, why did we do this?
Tim Winders:What happened here?
Tim Winders:Blah, blah, blah, sort of probably not prayer.
Tim Winders:It was probably more whining.
Tim Winders:If I, you know, would admit it.
Tim Winders:I felt as if the Lord told me that nothing that I have done or been through will be
Tim Winders:wasted for the advancement of his kingdom.
Tim Winders:And it really kind of changed the perspective and that's roughly what
Tim Winders:you've just told me with your life.
Tim Winders:Correct?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: That's correct.
Tim Winders:Nothing is wasted.
Tim Winders:He showed me every relationship, every encounter, every affiliation
Tim Winders:within the organization, even if the organization wasn't legit and
Tim Winders:they had stuff, doesn't even matter.
Tim Winders:Everything is for your good.
Tim Winders:If you love God and are called according to His purpose, as per Romans 8.
Tim Winders:28, He's true to His word in that essentially, in a
Tim Winders:nutshell, He wastes nothing.
Tim Winders:He's just that good.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:And I think sometimes we try to shape and frame things.
Tim Winders:You brought up something when it might've been the first question
Tim Winders:I asked, you mentioned that the role you were, you were in.
Tim Winders:was, I don't know exactly how you worded it, but because you were
Tim Winders:an African American woman, it was a unique role for you to be in.
Tim Winders:And for those that are listening and can't see us, I am a older white dude.
Tim Winders:You're, I'm going to call you a youngest, youngish African American.
Tim Winders:I'm not going to ask your age.
Tim Winders:My wife would be so upset if I did that.
Tim Winders:Can you tell me a little bit more about that?
Tim Winders:You know what I mean?
Tim Winders:For us to say, this is why that would be a potential challenge
Tim Winders:for an African American woman.
Tim Winders:just tell me more.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Yeah.
Tim Winders:the media to television and media production profession
Tim Winders:is a male dominated, mostly.
Tim Winders:White male dominated profession.
Tim Winders:And if there are other men, you know, of course there are different, racial
Tim Winders:backgrounds that are represented, but most of the majority of white male,
Tim Winders:and then you may have some other ethnicities, but they're also male.
Tim Winders:And then you start to have a little sprinkle of females present, but
Tim Winders:then they're white male dominated.
Tim Winders:females.
Tim Winders:So to have an african american woman who's not only in this male dominated
Tim Winders:profession, but in a leadership role is very rare because in both of my
Tim Winders:roles with the city of new york in one, I was director of videography
Tim Winders:for one of the largest city agencies, which was the department of sanitation.
Tim Winders:And the second was a director of digital communications for the new york
Tim Winders:city department of human resources.
Tim Winders:So that alone is the largest municipal city agency in New York City behind the
Tim Winders:police department There are many times I went into a meeting and I was the
Tim Winders:only African American in the meeting.
Tim Winders:There are other times that I went into the meeting, I was
Tim Winders:the only female in the meeting.
Tim Winders:So to go into these environments and to have the opportunity to
Tim Winders:many times work around only men, especially at the department of
Tim Winders:sanitation, we're out of almost 9, 000.
Tim Winders:workers, maybe only 500 were women.
Tim Winders:So I'm really grateful to God that he allowed me to not only
Tim Winders:work within this profession, but to love it at the same time.
Tim Winders:You know, there's many times in the gentleman that I work with were absolutely
Tim Winders:just that gentleman to go out there on the routes with sanitation workers many times.
Tim Winders:And at that time, our commissioner was a female as well.
Tim Winders:So to go out there in the route and to actually climb into the top of a
Tim Winders:snow melter or to go into a cut down truck or so many different things
Tim Winders:was an experience and opportunity.
Tim Winders:For me to see that God is able to use you in ways that you
Tim Winders:could have never imagined.
Tim Winders:And that it's only us who placed the limitations on us.
Tim Winders:If we really give ourselves to God and let him lead it and do our best
Tim Winders:to block out the noise, because mind you, With that understanding in mind
Tim Winders:about what the industry looks like, I grew up with people saying, what
Tim Winders:type of money are you going to make?
Tim Winders:What are you going to do doing this art thing?
Tim Winders:And you need to get yourself a good government job so you can take
Tim Winders:care of yourself and get a pension.
Tim Winders:I heard all that stuff growing up, but still decided, listen, I
Tim Winders:really want to enjoy what I'm doing.
Tim Winders:And it's not really about me making all kinds of money and being miserable.
Tim Winders:I'd rather at least try to get out there and see what can happen.
Tim Winders:And this is what The result was, you
Tim Winders:One more question related to that.
Tim Winders:I don't deny that there are some people in those roles, in those
Tim Winders:boardrooms, the meeting rooms and all of that, that they all look the same
Tim Winders:and they want to keep it that way.
Tim Winders:I don't deny that at all.
Tim Winders:However, I just have this thought, this belief, this hope, this prayer, this
Tim Winders:wish that most people that are there and they look around the table and they
Tim Winders:all look the same, it could be that they just don't know any different.
Tim Winders:They could be naive.
Tim Winders:I don't know.
Tim Winders:But what would you want to tell?
Tim Winders:A group of people that look like me that are sitting around the table that
Tim Winders:May not know how to have more people that look different to come in to
Tim Winders:those rooms What would we need to know?
Tim Winders:I've learned I think we're some of us are just kind of ignorant
Tim Winders:to what it looks like to not be at that table, if that makes sense.
Tim Winders:what would you like to tell me about that or people that are going, well, we're
Tim Winders:open to people coming in, but yet we look around and the table still looks the same.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: mean, I believe them when they in many instances, and I can
Tim Winders:only really speak to the public sector.
Tim Winders:I did work in the private sector in production because I was a graphic
Tim Winders:production manager in the private sector.
Tim Winders:And it was all, it was diverse there.
Tim Winders:However, I do believe that there are a lot of organizations and upper management
Tim Winders:that are looking to diversify and have different backgrounds come in.
Tim Winders:But those other, racial backgrounds need to Try you have to put yourself out there
Tim Winders:and really seek out those positions.
Tim Winders:Because when I first came to sanitation, I believe this particular title was
Tim Winders:public administration specialist, a public association specialist, and they hired,
Tim Winders:I think, 18 people just to come in and do graphics, public relations type work.
Tim Winders:And out of all those 18 people, only two were minorities, maybe.
Tim Winders:Six were female.
Tim Winders:Eighteen, only two minorities, and they're looking for diversity.
Tim Winders:They're looking to bring in different people, but you got to really believe,
Tim Winders:and you know, your self talk and your environment are two crucial
Tim Winders:aspects that can really affect how you advance and progress in life.
Tim Winders:And if you speak negatively to yourself, If you focus on all the things that
Tim Winders:won't go right and all the things that aren't happening, and then you allow
Tim Winders:people to come into your headspace, into your ear gate, and say how you're gonna
Tim Winders:make it and challenge every single thing that you're trying to do, there's a
Tim Winders:good chance that you won't go anywhere.
Tim Winders:Because the things that you listen to and the things that you consume
Tim Winders:that speak to who you are and where you're going, and then essentially
Tim Winders:against where you want to go and who you want to be, are what determine.
Tim Winders:Your outcome.
Tim Winders:So if you see that you're not moving, you're not going anywhere.
Tim Winders:You need to really look at what am I saying to myself and what am I listening
Tim Winders:to concerning at least the hopes and dreams and desires that I know God
Tim Winders:has placed in my heart, because if God has places here and I know I belong
Tim Winders:to him, he doesn't just do things.
Tim Winders:for nothing.
Tim Winders:He does everything for a purpose.
Tim Winders:So if he's giving it to me, he hasn't given it to me as like some type of
Tim Winders:spiritual carrot to hold out in front of me and say, listen, you can have
Tim Winders:this, but you're never going to get it.
Tim Winders:If he's putting it there, it's because it's something that he
Tim Winders:wants to manifest in my life.
Tim Winders:And if I really believe that and trust that, then that means I submitted
Tim Winders:to God in anything and anyone.
Tim Winders:And that's what That rises up in opposition to that has to take a backseat.
Tim Winders:And it's not about me saying, listen, get out of my life.
Tim Winders:Stop talking.
Tim Winders:No, you have to make the effort to go in a different direction to move in a
Tim Winders:direction toward what God is saying.
Tim Winders:And that's it.
Tim Winders:Because you can't change anybody's words.
Tim Winders:You can't change their mind.
Tim Winders:And unfortunately, sadly, many times it's the closest people to us.
Tim Winders:Sometimes it's your parents.
Tim Winders:Sometimes it's your siblings.
Tim Winders:Sometimes it's a partner that you've had for a long time, But
Tim Winders:you have to be willing to say, okay, God, I don't know how to take
Tim Winders:a step in a different direction.
Tim Winders:Show me the way to go.
Tim Winders:I bless that person.
Tim Winders:I released that person and you leave the rest to God
Tim Winders:I think one of the things that we also need to recognize, which
Tim Winders:you said this in a great way is We also have to recognize that the world
Tim Winders:system is not about that, you know, diversity, bringing people together.
Tim Winders:It's about division and strife and chaos and all of those things.
Tim Winders:Yeah.
Tim Winders:And so we have to recognize that God's kingdom, that's not the way it operates.
Tim Winders:And, you know, we, and people listening in have got our passport
Tim Winders:stamped with the kingdom of God.
Tim Winders:But yet we still are kind of hanging out in this.
Tim Winders:World system that is all about junk and mess and all this ugly stuff.
Tim Winders:Right.
Tim Winders:And so it's one of the reasons why all this is important that
Tim Winders:we're talking about here, right?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Yes.
Tim Winders:I'm so glad.
Tim Winders:Go ahead.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: I'm glad you said that because whenever I start.
Tim Winders:with any type of interview or podcast and people ask me
Tim Winders:about my life and what we do.
Tim Winders:I always like to reference Luke 9 23, where Jesus said, if anyone would come
Tim Winders:after me, let him first deny himself, take up his cross daily and follow me.
Tim Winders:For anyone who seeks to find his life will lose it.
Tim Winders:Anyone who loses his life for my sake will find it.
Tim Winders:But what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?
Tim Winders:And I reference that I speak it every single day in my life,
Tim Winders:because the believers walk in a nutshell is about surrender.
Tim Winders:When Jesus Christ was led into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit,
Tim Winders:he was led there to die to self.
Tim Winders:to completely surrender.
Tim Winders:And when we give our life to Christ, many people think that
Tim Winders:it's about going to the altar.
Tim Winders:You say, okay, God, I'll give you my life.
Tim Winders:And then that's it.
Tim Winders:And now everything is going to start going your way.
Tim Winders:Now God is going to do everything you want.
Tim Winders:And that may be implied in a whole bunch of sermons all across the country
Tim Winders:for decades and decades, but that is not what God says in his word.
Tim Winders:When you go, you're going to give all of yourself.
Tim Winders:All the plans that you had, everything that you thought you wanted to do,
Tim Winders:you go and you lay that before God.
Tim Winders:It's not to say it may not happen, but if it isn't something that God has for you,
Tim Winders:we should be willing to say, God, here, take it because you know why you created
Tim Winders:me and you know what you created me to do.
Tim Winders:And if this is what you had me to do, great.
Tim Winders:If you had me to do it, but in a different way, great.
Tim Winders:If you have something completely different from me, great.
Tim Winders:But whatever it is that you're doing, I'm surrendered to it and I'm willing
Tim Winders:to come and ask that you lead me and guide me each day so that your will
Tim Winders:can be done Your way and in your time.
Tim Winders:Amen.
Tim Winders:When did you figure that out?
Tim Winders:This
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: in the last just in the last couple of years
Tim Winders:morning, this morning,
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Like in the last two or three years I wish I didn't know
Tim Winders:this when I given my life to Christ at 12 years old, because only God knows
Tim Winders:where I'd be right now if I knew that, but it's just only been in the last
Tim Winders:two to three years, especially since COVID, that I've come to a real thorough
Tim Winders:understanding about, about what this is all about, especially being in surrender,
Tim Winders:because we're, when you mentioned that our life is not about the world's way,
Tim Winders:That really is what you're saying.
Tim Winders:Like the world is saying, listen, you need to get to a place where
Tim Winders:you can pull yourself up by your own bootstraps and you can do what you need.
Tim Winders:And God's way is about total dependence on him.
Tim Winders:It's a totally different thing.
Tim Winders:You know, the world is saying you got to look out for yourself and you're
Tim Winders:going to get a maid and you know, you got to make sure that it's 50, 50.
Tim Winders:And God is saying, listen, you going into something, want to lay yourself down.
Tim Winders:for the other person in the same way that you laid yourself down for him.
Tim Winders:You're now going into partnership to lay yourself down to another person who
Tim Winders:prayerfully has already laid themselves down before God and they're looking to
Tim Winders:lay themselves down before another person.
Tim Winders:This is not about you going to get your own objectives met in
Tim Winders:partnership with somebody else.
Tim Winders:You know, everything that we do when it comes to our walk with God
Tim Winders:is about his design and purpose.
Tim Winders:For it, not the world's understanding and interpretation on how we should be living
Tim Winders:so that we can have this great life.
Tim Winders:yeah, the battle, I think that many of us, and I think
Tim Winders:you fit in this category too.
Tim Winders:You're, you're an achiever.
Tim Winders:You're one that was probably wired to achieve and accomplish
Tim Winders:things, which is a good thing.
Tim Winders:You know, I, I probably am wired the same.
Tim Winders:I think the Lord's working on me in my, I call them my second half of life here to
Tim Winders:just be a little more at rest and peace.
Tim Winders:but you know, that, that world system is all about ownership and control.
Tim Winders:I own all this and I control it, which also leads to covetousness
Tim Winders:and a lot of other things.
Tim Winders:We won't, I won't start preaching here because I'm going to let you do more
Tim Winders:preaching, but God's kingdom is about stewardship, not really owning anything
Tim Winders:and surrender that you brought up.
Tim Winders:and I think part of the battle in first world, I think if you and I were
Tim Winders:having this, we wouldn't be having this conversation because we've got
Tim Winders:all the recorders cameras and all that.
Tim Winders:If we were in some part of the world that they don't have the
Tim Winders:luxury and abundance that we have, we wouldn't be talking about it.
Tim Winders:In the same way, I do think that,
Tim Winders:I'm going to use a word that is, it's kind of a tough word sometimes in especially
Tim Winders:modern church world is prosperity.
Tim Winders:I do think that prosperity messes with us and I'm not anti prosperity, but I
Tim Winders:also think that prosperity and comfort, you said it earlier, a lot of people
Tim Winders:believe that once they give their life to Christ or become a Christian,
Tim Winders:it's like a magic pill for all of a sudden, now everything is sunshine
Tim Winders:rainbows and their life is great.
Tim Winders:And there's nothing scriptural about that,
Tim Winders:nothing
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: at all.
Tim Winders:but so here's something that kind of nags at me.
Tim Winders:I've had this often.
Tim Winders:Did I see that you're a preacher's kid?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Yes, indeed.
Tim Winders:you kind of respond the way most people respond.
Tim Winders:Isn't that the greatest, isn't it the greatest thing
Tim Winders:ever to be a preacher's kid?
Tim Winders:Or is it the worst thing ever to be a preacher's kid or somewhere in between?
Tim Winders:talk to me about that.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: I'd have to say it's somewhere in between because the
Tim Winders:reality is that none of us are perfect.
Tim Winders:And I'm sure there are many folk out there that could say
Tim Winders:their parents weren't perfect.
Tim Winders:And when you are a quote unquote preacher's kid, you get to see
Tim Winders:that imperfection up close.
Tim Winders:But when you get outside the house, people see another version of that.
Tim Winders:And so you really deal with the dissonance Okay.
Tim Winders:The person is holy.
Tim Winders:They are kind.
Tim Winders:They are charismatic.
Tim Winders:They are caring.
Tim Winders:They can pray.
Tim Winders:They can pray, you know, the lights out of a place possibly.
Tim Winders:But when you deal with also the imperfections of that and learning,
Tim Winders:okay, what is it that you accept?
Tim Winders:What is it that you don't accept?
Tim Winders:What is really not okay.
Tim Winders:And what are the boundaries I think it makes it more complicated because
Tim Winders:now you have this God aspect of puts me in a place of do I have to accept?
Tim Winders:Do I have to deal?
Tim Winders:Do I have to conform?
Tim Winders:Is this the way that I should be?
Tim Winders:Is this the way that I should not be?
Tim Winders:Because it's so much confusion with it to where you're trying to
Tim Winders:live and find and at the same time trying to find out who you are.
Tim Winders:In the midst of that, because you have all this, this is the way
Tim Winders:you're supposed to be on top of that.
Tim Winders:And you see the disparities between, okay, what seems, looks like it's
Tim Winders:supposed to be right and what's not.
Tim Winders:So it's a, I say at an, in a nutshell, at the ball of confusion, because
Tim Winders:trying to find yourself in the midst of that, but you don't want to be
Tim Winders:displeasing to God, but you also want to be true to who you are.
Tim Winders:It's, it's very difficult.
Tim Winders:And the folks that haven't grown up, I think it's enough to grow up in the
Tim Winders:church, but to grow up in the church and then have this, this kind of veil
Tim Winders:or covering of righteousness or proposed righteousness or whatever the case may be.
Tim Winders:But then you don't see that you're looking at, okay, what exactly is going on?
Tim Winders:And I think that's why a lot of PKs, preachers, kids.
Tim Winders:Usually walk away from the church when they grow up for some time many do come
Tim Winders:back after a while They've been out there to get it to have their own personal
Tim Winders:encounter with God and see that Listen, if I didn't do everything right and I
Tim Winders:haven't been going to church for the past 10 years But God still loves me and he's
Tim Winders:still here and he's still been blessing me You know many come back because they
Tim Winders:begin to have their own encounters with God and say, okay God is not a boogeyman
Tim Winders:standing behind the door waiting to bash me upside the head with a holy ghost bat.
Tim Winders:He really loves me and he really has a plan and purpose for me and it's not
Tim Winders:about me performing and it's not about me being perfect and it's not about me
Tim Winders:never making a mistake, but he really does have my best interests at heart.
Tim Winders:They come back.
Tim Winders:But many don't because they can't really reconcile what they've grown up with
Tim Winders:as far as seeing behavior that wasn't Christ like, their own personal desires
Tim Winders:and wants and dreams, the failures that have happened in their life.
Tim Winders:You know, I think it's really complex for a lot of preacher's kids and it
Tim Winders:shouldn't be, but it just is sometimes.
Tim Winders:I think as we grow up in our households, we look at our parents
Tim Winders:and if we see people that act one way in one situation and another way, behind
Tim Winders:closed doors in the home, I think it does something to our core, maybe our
Tim Winders:identity, because hypocrisy is that word.
Tim Winders:you're not consistent.
Tim Winders:You're doing something in one place.
Tim Winders:In church world, it's magnified because there's an expectation of
Tim Winders:people acting and being a certain way.
Tim Winders:I don't think that expectation is justified because I think we need to
Tim Winders:be a little more human in church world.
Tim Winders:That's just my opinion.
Tim Winders:I was saved in a business setting, so I didn't really even grow
Tim Winders:up around church and all that.
Tim Winders:So I have different views about this, but from the outside looking in, I'm
Tim Winders:going, you know, we just, need to kind of let that, putting on airs, we
Tim Winders:would have said it, we're putting on whatever, because I think as a child,
Tim Winders:it kind of makes it difficult if you see hypocrisy and we all see it.
Tim Winders:I'm not, I'm not throwing our parents under the bus or anything like that.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Okay.
Tim Winders:And what it does is it makes it difficult for
Tim Winders:us to know how we should act.
Tim Winders:Should we act the same way?
Tim Winders:Do we need to do that?
Tim Winders:Is that how we need to prove things to God and around other people?
Tim Winders:So preacher's kids usually do one of the things, one of two things.
Tim Winders:They walk the line or they rebel.
Tim Winders:I think you brought up that earlier that, you know, some would leave the faith.
Tim Winders:It sounds like if you were saved at 12, that you were more in
Tim Winders:that walk the line category.
Tim Winders:Would that be correct?
Tim Winders:What are some pros and cons of walking the line as a preacher's kid and in
Tim Winders:your faith journey, especially as we start talking about some of the things
Tim Winders:we're gonna talk to in a little while.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Well, I'm glad that you mentioned, it's not like we're throwing
Tim Winders:our parents under the bus because every time I mentioned I speak about
Tim Winders:this, I feel like I have to throw this caveat in there when in all truth,
Tim Winders:I don't feel that we should have to.
Tim Winders:You know, the reality is that there's a lot of times our parents do things
Tim Winders:that may not be the best things.
Tim Winders:And as long as I'm not condemning them and saying that, you know,
Tim Winders:they're X, Y and Z, I I'm just sharing what the experience was.
Tim Winders:This is actually what happened.
Tim Winders:And I try and teach my daughter now, you know, circle back to walk in the
Tim Winders:line that the first issue you have is when you just walk the line, many of
Tim Winders:times you move into lying to yourself.
Tim Winders:And in this life, you can only attract who you are.
Tim Winders:So one of the things that would happen to me a lot in my life was
Tim Winders:that I would encounter people, especially men who presented one thing.
Tim Winders:But on the inside of themselves, that substance was not there.
Tim Winders:And I was trying to understand like, why am I, and even other people,
Tim Winders:different situations, why am I encountering people who present this
Tim Winders:and they say this and they have that.
Tim Winders:But when you really get up close and see, it's not there.
Tim Winders:And the truth of the matter was because that was me.
Tim Winders:I was presenting something to people as being X, Y, and Z, but at the
Tim Winders:core of me, that was not there.
Tim Winders:And I have walked so long in my life, just doing what I had to do
Tim Winders:because you want God to be pleased.
Tim Winders:Do I like being here?
Tim Winders:Do I like serving in this area?
Tim Winders:Do I even want to be serving with these particular people?
Tim Winders:There were so many things that I just completely shut off
Tim Winders:because I have to do this.
Tim Winders:If I want to be blessed.
Tim Winders:So you're walking around a liar as well.
Tim Winders:You may not be trying to deceive people out of their inheritance, or
Tim Winders:their trust fund, but lying is lying.
Tim Winders:And when it comes to energy and like, attract likes and all that kind of stuff,
Tim Winders:there's no distinction between a lie.
Tim Winders:There's no distinction between theft.
Tim Winders:It is what it is.
Tim Winders:So when you start to walk the line and you're not being truthful to who you are,
Tim Winders:especially what God has placed in your heart, and you do feel a dissonance, you
Tim Winders:feel that resistance, but you ignore it because you want to make sure that you're
Tim Winders:going to be blessed and pleasing to God.
Tim Winders:That's the danger of that.
Tim Winders:Because now you imagine going into prayer.
Tim Winders:And you're saying, God, open the eyes of my heart and use
Tim Winders:me however you want to use me.
Tim Winders:I'm a broken vessel.
Tim Winders:And you're not even truthful about that within yourself.
Tim Winders:And you're saying that to almighty God.
Tim Winders:And he's like, really just lay everything at my feet and let me guide you.
Tim Winders:And don't worry about being excluded.
Tim Winders:Don't worry about being ostracized.
Tim Winders:Don't worry about somebody not showing up for you.
Tim Winders:Because when you have me in all truth, in spirit and in truth, you have everything.
Tim Winders:And once you have that as the base, now you grow and attract what's real and
Tim Winders:like, and all that kind of stuff, not just walking in something that's not real
Tim Winders:and true for the sake of the status quo or denomination or anything like that.
Tim Winders:So that's the danger.
Tim Winders:Being in a constant place of deceiving yourself, even for the sake of good,
Tim Winders:which is, which is a deception in itself.
Tim Winders:and there's so many things that I'll say make it difficult, money.
Tim Winders:Is one we may talk about that in a little while.
Tim Winders:I know you had some opportunities with some high paying jobs that
Tim Winders:Were maybe tempting or whatever and comparing ourselves to others I call
Tim Winders:that covetousness, but you know, just comparing thinking that I need to
Tim Winders:live That life instead of my life.
Tim Winders:I think so many things are thrown into the mix that confuse and complicate
Tim Winders:and may lead people to attempt to lead lives or to go down journeys or paths
Tim Winders:that are not the paths that they were created for going back to what we started
Tim Winders:talking about at the very beginning.
Tim Winders:That brings us to a great point to kind of start transitioning into
Tim Winders:somewhere over the last few years.
Tim Winders:And I think COVID had a little bit to do with it.
Tim Winders:You had some work situations somewhere over the past few years,
Tim Winders:J Marie had opportunity situations.
Tim Winders:Two by four to the head.
Tim Winders:I don't know.
Tim Winders:We all have to go through certain things to where the Lord said, okay, now I could
Tim Winders:start moving her closer to the purpose that I have her on this earth for.
Tim Winders:What do you want to tell us about?
Tim Winders:About that.
Tim Winders:I mean, if you want to give your story, if you want to give us some
Tim Winders:high points, cause I do want us to have plenty of time to maybe talk about
Tim Winders:some practical things that people can do with the affirm the word books and
Tim Winders:journals that we want to talk about.
Tim Winders:So, give me a little bit of that transition and how you went
Tim Winders:from what we were just talking about to where you are now.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Well, I had been married for 16 years I was in relationship
Tim Winders:with my ex husband for two and a half years since I was 17 years old.
Tim Winders:And after having been married all that time, I was now divorced at
Tim Winders:the height of the COVID 19 pandemic.
Tim Winders:I had my daughter who, Before the pandemic, we had a total of five people
Tim Winders:that were assisting with her care.
Tim Winders:She lived between my house and his house back and forth, which
Tim Winders:was chaos in and of itself.
Tim Winders:And all of the caretakers that were also assisting us now,
Tim Winders:COVID's here, everything is remote.
Tim Winders:They're no longer involved.
Tim Winders:The first few weeks of trying to work with her at home remotely, we tried
Tim Winders:to work out a schedule where she'd be with me the first part of the week,
Tim Winders:would go with him Thursday and Friday.
Tim Winders:But the two days she would go there, she wouldn't do any work.
Tim Winders:And now Sunday she's back and we now have to make up.
Tim Winders:So I was like, that has to stop.
Tim Winders:So now I then have my daughter every single day.
Tim Winders:And I begin to see in this time, because once it happened, I had already been
Tim Winders:transitioned to a point where I'd stopped.
Tim Winders:Giving God an unequivocal, yes, that moment a little while ago when I mentioned
Tim Winders:how people give their life to Christ and they come with their own agenda.
Tim Winders:And that's, I had done all of that because that's what I saw.
Tim Winders:And I begin to realize after the divorce, which actually happened a few years before
Tim Winders:COVID, but everything was still chaotic because the way, We finalized the divorce.
Tim Winders:It was still set up to where he would have to give money a certain amount of time.
Tim Winders:It was just a mess.
Tim Winders:It was not completely cut because I felt like he was not
Tim Winders:capable of handling things.
Tim Winders:So I had to still handle it the way I did before.
Tim Winders:Again, my own planning, nothing, God not involved at all,
Tim Winders:even though I'm a believer.
Tim Winders:And so I'd gone to God and I said, God, listen, I've been doing this my way.
Tim Winders:For as long as I know, because this is what I've seen and I want to
Tim Winders:now give you an unequivocal yes.
Tim Winders:However you want to do whatever you want to do, whatever you
Tim Winders:want to say to me, wherever you want me to go, I want to do that.
Tim Winders:And I did this by every day, getting up at five o'clock.
Tim Winders:I went into prayer, went into worship, went into meditation.
Tim Winders:I will write out scripture affirmations.
Tim Winders:And I began to practice this daily because I could, I realized that
Tim Winders:my life was not surrendered to God.
Tim Winders:I was in my own quid pro quo.
Tim Winders:type of arrangement with God.
Tim Winders:To where if I go to church and I give money and I do all these
Tim Winders:things, God, you gotta bless me.
Tim Winders:And everything was chaotic.
Tim Winders:Even though I've seen people do this, this is the only example that I've seen of
Tim Winders:the believers walk up close and personal.
Tim Winders:It doesn't work.
Tim Winders:So something must not be right.
Tim Winders:So God, I'm willing for you to completely tear this whole thing apart and show me
Tim Winders:the right way so that I can have true and lasting peace in my life so that
Tim Winders:things can really get back on track.
Tim Winders:And I can know within myself that I'm truly following you and not making
Tim Winders:it my own hodgepodge of a religion.
Tim Winders:Because that's what I've been doing.
Tim Winders:And I had since given him that unequivocal yes, the only thing I
Tim Winders:had not surrendered was my career.
Tim Winders:Because how do you just jump out of making six figures and you have a
Tim Winders:mortgage to pay and a car note and all these type of responsibilities.
Tim Winders:And my understanding up to that point of raising my child was making sure
Tim Winders:that I had the money to get all the things that she needed Because although
Tim Winders:my parents were kind of in and out, they weren't necessarily there So
Tim Winders:if I could just give her all those things, then I'm at least doing a
Tim Winders:little bit more than what I had before.
Tim Winders:once the pandemic happened, I really began to.
Tim Winders:Feel that the Holy Spirit was leading me to now start
Tim Winders:walking away from that career.
Tim Winders:And I was just like, God, I know that I feel you're leading me,
Tim Winders:but how is this going to work?
Tim Winders:And the first door that he opened, because even though I was a director
Tim Winders:of digital communications, When you have an issue like this come up
Tim Winders:where we have everything shut down, you can't go anywhere in person.
Tim Winders:Digital communication doesn't stop because we've already been operating that way.
Tim Winders:Everything is already through networks and emails and everything else.
Tim Winders:So I was just as busy as I was when I was in the office, but I'm also homeschooling.
Tim Winders:a third grader who one of her teachers is out on maternity leave.
Tim Winders:So now I'm also a co teacher in the classroom and trying to rebuild my
Tim Winders:life and get things back on track.
Tim Winders:And I remember talking to my director, executive director at the, at that moment.
Tim Winders:And he was saying like, what's going on?
Tim Winders:What's happening, blah, blah, blah.
Tim Winders:Long story short, when I was saying to him, listen, this is a pandemic.
Tim Winders:I haven't even checked in with my team.
Tim Winders:And he said, ultimately would listen.
Tim Winders:If you're not able to do such and such, then, you know, I guess
Tim Winders:you're going to have to leave.
Tim Winders:And I was like, huh?
Tim Winders:Yeah, you have to find something.
Tim Winders:I was like, what?
Tim Winders:So when I got the phone, I said, God, did you hear that?
Tim Winders:Did you hear what he said to me?
Tim Winders:And the Holy Spirit said to me, clear as day, take a leave.
Tim Winders:And I said, you mean the pain medication?
Tim Winders:I mean, I literally said out loud, do you mean the pain medication?
Tim Winders:He said, take, I'm serious.
Tim Winders:He said, take a leave.
Tim Winders:I'm like, well, how am I going to take a leave?
Tim Winders:He said, I've made provision for everyone in this season.
Tim Winders:Go read the provision.
Tim Winders:I never thought to read the hallmarks of the CARES Act.
Tim Winders:When I finally went and read the outline, I saw.
Tim Winders:that they were offering paid pandemic sick leave to all parents
Tim Winders:who had school aged children, even if they were able to work remotely.
Tim Winders:So even if you could work remotely, you could go on a paid pandemic sick leave and
Tim Winders:your employer would have to pay you and it did not come from your annual leave.
Tim Winders:Most people didn't notice because of course they're not going to advertise this
Tim Winders:on news because of most of the workforce We got a whole bunch of women who are
Tim Winders:even on the networks that could possibly leave so we're not going to advertise that
Tim Winders:So I took a leave for about four months.
Tim Winders:My job paid for three and a half of those months And during that time,
Tim Winders:that little journal that I had been writing in for all those months, every
Tim Winders:single morning, I began to organize and really get the scriptures together.
Tim Winders:And that was the first affirm the word.
Tim Winders:But for me, I would have to say that the key that I got from
Tim Winders:COVID 19, if anybody gets sick.
Tim Winders:I would hope it's this.
Tim Winders:When a tragedy happens, usually in your life, usually the world keeps going.
Tim Winders:When a tragedy happens in the world, you have to keep going.
Tim Winders:But when COVID 19 happened, everything stopped.
Tim Winders:So, Even if you needed to get off the ride, all you had
Tim Winders:to do was step off the ride.
Tim Winders:You didn't have to worry about doing a tuck and roll and getting all scraped
Tim Winders:and bruised and everything else.
Tim Winders:All you had to do was just step off and say, I'm doing something
Tim Winders:different and really trust God.
Tim Winders:And I think to be able to do that and have.
Tim Winders:At least a limited amount of provision to say, okay, God, I
Tim Winders:know the starting point of this.
Tim Winders:Yes, that's there.
Tim Winders:Then when I finally left, I read with the city of New York and state of New
Tim Winders:York, department of labor, that if you have to quit, because I ultimately had
Tim Winders:to quit, wasn't able to go back full time and you have a compelling reason,
Tim Winders:They will grant you unemployment.
Tim Winders:So although it was initially denied, once they reinstated it, I got all the back
Tim Winders:money This is the way God will work things when he begins to lead you out because
Tim Winders:you decided to follow him and trust his lead step by step, moment by moment.
Tim Winders:I can't say overall, you know, I'm going to have my, you know, 100,
Tim Winders:000, a million dollar pension and whatever, but I know that my needs are
Tim Winders:provided for going into this season.
Tim Winders:And I know that God has set this up for me in this season.
Tim Winders:And I know that he has me right now.
Tim Winders:And for me, that's good enough.
Tim Winders:How, this might go back to the little bit of the preacher
Tim Winders:kid upbringing that you had.
Tim Winders:How important is money or was money in your life?
Tim Winders:And maybe the word is provision, but we could call it money too.
Tim Winders:Was, was that?
Tim Winders:Kind of something that you had to work through some money things I have.
Tim Winders:I mean, I, I always thought I was really good at making money, at creating
Tim Winders:it, at building things, and then when 2008 hit, I went, Ooh, maybe I'm not
Tim Winders:that good at it and what do I do now?
Tim Winders:And it was more of a final surrender for me also, but what, I mean, just
Tim Winders:when we talk about money, what comes to mind and what is, what is your
Tim Winders:money tapes or whatever that you've had to kind of, think through.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Well, I think at that time, my career and my salary, six figures,
Tim Winders:my rental income, this, that, and the third, it was mostly about status.
Tim Winders:These were things that helped to validate that I had made it, that I was
Tim Winders:making it, that I was going someplace I really had no real understanding.
Tim Winders:As to the type of money I was making, what it could do, how
Tim Winders:to be a good steward over it.
Tim Winders:Just nothing.
Tim Winders:It was like, okay, you're making six figures.
Tim Winders:People can ask what you do.
Tim Winders:They can imagine you make it.
Tim Winders:So now you've been validated as being a success.
Tim Winders:It wasn't until again, even in the most recent few years, I began, and I have to
Tim Winders:give this person credit because my eyes were opened after listening to him, Dave
Tim Winders:Ramsey, a believer, listening to him about debt and the word of God that says, you
Tim Winders:know, I'm called to be a lender only.
Tim Winders:A lot of people leave that only out and not a borrower.
Tim Winders:I would say it all the time, but it really did not believe that was really
Tim Winders:not walking in it because you just say it.
Tim Winders:Everybody has a car note.
Tim Winders:Everybody has a mortgage.
Tim Winders:It wasn't until I really began to listen to his teaching and say, okay, listen,
Tim Winders:I've had at this point in my life, millions of dollars flow through my hands.
Tim Winders:Why is it that I'm not debt free?
Tim Winders:Because I was not a good steward.
Tim Winders:This life is not about you having oodles and oodles of money
Tim Winders:because there's plenty of money.
Tim Winders:What are you doing with the money God has given you?
Tim Winders:What are you doing with the assets and the resources that he's giving you?
Tim Winders:And I can assure you, many of us are not even optimizing what
Tim Winders:he's already placed in our hands.
Tim Winders:But we believe that if we just got a whole lot more, it would get better and easier.
Tim Winders:I now am of the understanding that it has nothing to do with you
Tim Winders:having vast and vast amount of money because once your needs are met,
Tim Winders:once you're abundantly supplied.
Tim Winders:It's now about service.
Tim Winders:It's now about purpose that you should be looking to use your
Tim Winders:money for, because it's only about so many bedrooms you can live in.
Tim Winders:It's only about so many cars you can drive.
Tim Winders:And when you understand that it's not about accumulating all kinds
Tim Winders:of credit card debt and loans and everything else like that, but being
Tim Winders:a good steward over what you have, You really see how much more money
Tim Winders:that you have to be of service with.
Tim Winders:So for me, it was just about status and validation.
Tim Winders:So I can say, Oh, you make six figures.
Tim Winders:and at the same time, you don't want people to know cause you don't want
Tim Winders:anybody asking you to borrow money.
Tim Winders:So I must have made it.
Tim Winders:So I must have accomplished something.
Tim Winders:But I now understand, especially because of the last few years, Me succeeding
Tim Winders:is about my level of surrender.
Tim Winders:Am I really surrender to God?
Tim Winders:Am I really open to what he has to say?
Tim Winders:Am I willing at any given time to pivot and go in another direction through the
Tim Winders:power and assistance of the Holy Spirit?
Tim Winders:Those are indicators of success for the believer, not just accumulating
Tim Winders:all type of material possessions to say that you're somebody.
Tim Winders:My guess is part of your intentional journey, journaling
Tim Winders:process, part of what spun off from your experience over the last
Tim Winders:few years with now the affirm the word books and journals is part of.
Tim Winders:Internalizing this instead of, I went to Bible school for two years and
Tim Winders:people would run around in Bible school.
Tim Winders:they could spout scriptures at the drop of a pin.
Tim Winders:very similar to being a preacher's kid.
Tim Winders:I would look at them and I'm going, I'm not sure you believe that.
Tim Winders:Or know that.
Tim Winders:So talk to me a little bit more about your process, your
Tim Winders:products, what you have available.
Tim Winders:Let's just, dive in for our last 10 minutes or so here.
Tim Winders:And let's really get into what all you've learned and especially have
Tim Winders:began applying, and allowing other people to apply over the last few years.
Tim Winders:So,
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: first.
Tim Winders:original Affirm the Word book, it is a compilation of all the scripture verses,
Tim Winders:affirmation, and prayers that I compiled throughout that three years leading
Tim Winders:into the pandemic and beyond that.
Tim Winders:And the reason why I organized it was because when I was in the process
Tim Winders:of getting my house in order and contacting GEICO and Different lenders
Tim Winders:and saying, okay, what do I need to do?
Tim Winders:The first question I would ask them because we were still in the middle
Tim Winders:of a pandemic was how are you?
Tim Winders:And when I asked that question to people, I let them answer it.
Tim Winders:sometime I'll be on the phone for about 20 to 30 minutes before we even
Tim Winders:got to the business of my accounts because that representative would
Tim Winders:be telling me about how they have so much anxiety and that the key word
Tim Winders:was constantly my anxiety, my anxiety.
Tim Winders:I had one person who had such an issue with fear that they Couldn't
Tim Winders:go out and drive with their kids.
Tim Winders:She said, I'm afraid to take them out in the car because I don't
Tim Winders:know if we're going to have an accident, somebody's going to hit us.
Tim Winders:I mean, this was the level of her anxiety.
Tim Winders:And I would let people talk, and once they were finished, I would say, you know,
Tim Winders:can I make a suggestion that instead of saying my anxiety, you say I'm overcoming.
Tim Winders:anxiety.
Tim Winders:Because if you say that to yourself, not only are you acknowledging that
Tim Winders:it's there, but you're also speaking to the fact that you're overcoming
Tim Winders:it, that you're putting the steps and the keys and resources, whatever you
Tim Winders:need to do in place to overcome it.
Tim Winders:And then I recommended that they take like one or two scriptures
Tim Winders:or one or two affirmations.
Tim Winders:And when they have those anxious thoughts about, Oh, gosh,
Tim Winders:what happens if I go here?
Tim Winders:And what happens if this doesn't work?
Tim Winders:That they say those affirmations, the scripture verses in those places, even if
Tim Winders:they have to say it all day long, you can just take one and say it all day long,
Tim Winders:It's only going to make you keep on saying it.
Tim Winders:So you really have to get to a point where you've replaced that information
Tim Winders:with something else that you can draw from, because as you begin to get that
Tim Winders:into your spirit and your subconscious, that becomes the only thing that's there.
Tim Winders:And your environment, your atmosphere, even the Holy Spirit will allow you
Tim Winders:to come into contact with things that help you to accomplish that
Tim Winders:thing that you're calling for.
Tim Winders:So if God has called us to walk in faith and not fear, if God said that he's
Tim Winders:our peace, if God said that he is made perfect in our weakness, and that's what
Tim Winders:you're drawing on, you begin to see, because now you can recognize all the
Tim Winders:ways that God is manifesting that within your life, instead of resistance to
Tim Winders:it, because you're constantly speaking that nothing's working out for me.
Tim Winders:I take two steps forward and 10 steps back.
Tim Winders:You know, when you speak that, that's what begins to manifest.
Tim Winders:So you can decide, am I going to have a positive?
Tim Winders:Affirmation that goes in the direction of where it is I believe that God wants
Tim Winders:me to be so I have peace and joy and rest and prosperity and everything else
Tim Winders:or I'm gonna go in another direction.
Tim Winders:That's gonna keep me stuck in this place But also feeling miserable
Tim Winders:looking miserable and in a place essentially where I have no
Tim Winders:so somewhere, you mentioned that you would get up at 5 a.
Tim Winders:m.
Tim Winders:I'm guessing you would do this before work and before probably your
Tim Winders:daughter got up and things like that.
Tim Winders:And, a practical question that I always like to ask is, is early in the
Tim Winders:morning, It is that the time is that I, I do it early, but because we don't
Tim Winders:have kids anymore, I don't, I don't, I get up when my body says get up now.
Tim Winders:but why is it so important to kind of get started with this process early?
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: believe it's crucial And even when my daughter's grown one
Tim Winders:day God willing it has our own families that are out I believe I'll still
Tim Winders:be doing it this way because you're setting in the course of your day.
Tim Winders:When you start, it's just like when you work out first thing in the morning.
Tim Winders:Once you get going, you get out of the house and this pops up and that pops up.
Tim Winders:There's a good chance that the further along you get into that
Tim Winders:day, the least likely you are to actually go and get that workout done.
Tim Winders:And the same thing goes for your prayer, your meditation, your worship time.
Tim Winders:The more you get into that day, the further away you get from
Tim Winders:actually doing it aside from, Oh Lord, please let that work out.
Tim Winders:Oh Lord, please don't let that get worse.
Tim Winders:No, when I'm going in with the intention to worship.
Tim Winders:To be still, to hear what God has to say, to really get my heart aligned to the
Tim Winders:truth that God is working on my behalf, that miracles upon miracles upon miracles
Tim Winders:are happening, manifesting before me, no matter what comes up after that point.
Tim Winders:I've already set the attention.
Tim Winders:I've already set my heart to be aligned toward that truth
Tim Winders:because that is truth for me.
Tim Winders:So if I believe that no matter what type of craziness comes up throughout
Tim Winders:the day, I know God is with me.
Tim Winders:I know I'm aligned.
Tim Winders:I know that if this happened, it has to be for my good.
Tim Winders:I know if this happened, there has to be something else on the other
Tim Winders:side of it that's working out for me.
Tim Winders:So, you know, for us, when we did that affirm the word book to then come out
Tim Winders:with the prayer journal right behind it, because I realized, okay, listen,
Tim Winders:as you're writing things down and you are in prayer, I pray that we all who
Tim Winders:are believers should be in prayer every day because that's our spiritual oxygen.
Tim Winders:As you are in prayer, the Holy Spirit will speak things to you.
Tim Winders:Well, he spoke this.
Tim Winders:Now I'm going to write it.
Tim Winders:Or somebody may pop up on my mind to pray for it.
Tim Winders:Let me write that down so that when I come back in here again,
Tim Winders:I have a reference point.
Tim Winders:I can see what God is doing.
Tim Winders:I have a place that I can understand.
Tim Winders:God is hearing me.
Tim Winders:God was in the midst of this prayer and he's answering it in this kind of way.
Tim Winders:And now I have something else to give him glory for.
Tim Winders:So I started out saying, okay, look, Once you start your business, they
Tim Winders:said, Hey, look at your competitors in this world that we live in.
Tim Winders:As far as believers, I don't call the folks that do what we do a competitor.
Tim Winders:I call them co laborers.
Tim Winders:And when I began to look at co laborers, one of which had a prayer journal, I said,
Tim Winders:well, let me order this prayer journal.
Tim Winders:And I got the book and I had like about, maybe throughout the
Tim Winders:whole book, 20 scripture verses.
Tim Winders:And that was it.
Tim Winders:And I said, no, we can do better than this.
Tim Winders:When somebody is in prayer, you need to see actual word.
Tim Winders:You need to have some gratitude prompts.
Tim Winders:You need to have places to really write that coincide with those sections.
Tim Winders:And I began to design a prayer journal.
Tim Winders:And once it released, it became an Amazon number one new release
Tim Winders:within the first, I think, 60 days.
Tim Winders:And then a year later, Broad Street Publishing acquired it.
Tim Winders:And we just released a new 52 week prayer journal for women, which not
Tim Winders:only includes those scripture verses, those affirmations, but it also
Tim Winders:includes 52 devotionals that tie into practical ways that you can actually
Tim Winders:live out your faith and a space for you to craft your own affirmation.
Tim Winders:Because this is not just about you saying cookie cutter things like I'm
Tim Winders:bold, I'm powerful, I'm courageous.
Tim Winders:if you're a believer and you're really trying to internalize the word of God,
Tim Winders:you need to speak the word of God.
Tim Winders:It's not enough just to try and write it and memorize it, but you really
Tim Winders:should be speaking with power and authority, affirming, that's why
Tim Winders:we're called affirm the word, the word of God over your life every day.
Tim Winders:Because day in and day out, not only, you know, is the enemy
Tim Winders:present, but they're also just life.
Tim Winders:Lifing, you know, real things happening, real loss happening,
Tim Winders:real challenges happening that are before you and you have to really
Tim Winders:be diligent and intentional about saying, listen, yeah, all that's there.
Tim Winders:But this is also here and i'm choosing to affirm and speak that god says this about
Tim Winders:me god said i'm going here This is stuff that's happening in my life God says that
Tim Winders:I am this regardless of what else is going on and i'm choosing to stand on that and
Tim Winders:affirm that No matter what because it's so and I see it coming to pass I see it
Tim Winders:manifesting and you really will begin to see more and more of it to where That
Tim Winders:will be so present and real in your life.
Tim Winders:That's no longer an affirmation.
Tim Winders:Now you're looking at other things that God is bringing to your attention
Tim Winders:in your prayer and worship time.
Tim Winders:Well, it's moving you towards growth, which is, we're
Tim Winders:all in some form of a growth mode.
Tim Winders:And I think the kingdom of God is about growth and life.
Tim Winders:The world system is about death and stagnation, but right before we
Tim Winders:hit record, I brought up journaling and you in a great way, you kind
Tim Winders:of jumped on me and said, well, this is intentional journaling.
Tim Winders:And so the word intentional journaling to me means that even though there
Tim Winders:are a lot of people out there doing what they would call journaling,
Tim Winders:theirs would be scattered or random or some word that's not intentional.
Tim Winders:Speak about that for just a few minutes.
Tim Winders:And then I'm going to have you tell us, cause you've got so many resources
Tim Winders:and bundles, I want to talk about that before we finish up, but just give the
Tim Winders:contrast between what a lot of people are doing when they're calling it journaling
Tim Winders:and what intentional journaling is.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Yes.
Tim Winders:So I call it traditional journaling versus intentional journaling.
Tim Winders:Traditional journaling is you essentially just venting everything that's going
Tim Winders:on in your day, your circumstances with people, with this, with that, a hodgepodge
Tim Winders:of whatever, throwing it on a piece of paper and trying to get it out there and
Tim Winders:saying, this is what happened in my day.
Tim Winders:However, Continuing to focus on these random, scattered, happenings does
Tim Winders:not propel you toward a goal, your vision, your purpose, or anything.
Tim Winders:You're just venting to get it out so that you can live another day.
Tim Winders:When it comes to intentional journaling, again, you're not denying.
Tim Winders:That these things have taken place in that day, but you're choosing to
Tim Winders:focus on, okay, this is what I did in my pursuit of what God has told
Tim Winders:me about my life and my purpose.
Tim Winders:This is how I'm moving in that direction.
Tim Winders:You know what, this happened today, but I thank God that he allowed me to connect
Tim Winders:with this person because now I'm one step closer to moving in that direction.
Tim Winders:You know, I thank God for the nurse that he allowed to come and give
Tim Winders:me this information so that I can now get the resources that I need.
Tim Winders:That's intentional journaling and really documenting the way that you see God
Tim Winders:moving on your behalf concerning the person that he's called you to be, the
Tim Winders:purpose that he's called you to, and the people he's called you to serve.
Tim Winders:It really takes a lot to decide that, listen, I'm going to focus on that.
Tim Winders:That means.
Tim Winders:That when I see it, I write it.
Tim Winders:Yes, this came up.
Tim Winders:It was a distraction.
Tim Winders:It happened, but this also happened.
Tim Winders:And I'll give you an example.
Tim Winders:You can say, listen, you know what?
Tim Winders:I'm so tired.
Tim Winders:I've been depressed.
Tim Winders:Nothing seems to be going right.
Tim Winders:the car's not working right.
Tim Winders:You know, my child is acting up, but at the same time, somebody came along and
Tim Winders:said, listen, you need a ride this week.
Tim Winders:I'm going to be heading your way this whole week.
Tim Winders:You know, I'm willing to work with you.
Tim Winders:And I also got a good guy.
Tim Winders:Here's the telephone number, but don't worry about it this week.
Tim Winders:I'm going to pick you up.
Tim Winders:not only do you have to worry about your car, but you had transportation and now
Tim Winders:you have a new contact to get it fixed.
Tim Winders:The things that are happening in life are going to happen but God is there
Tim Winders:to provide you with a provision.
Tim Winders:He didn't say, when the rain fell on the just as well as the
Tim Winders:unjust, that it would not fall.
Tim Winders:He just said, he'll give you an umbrella.
Tim Winders:So thank God for the umbrella.
Tim Winders:When it falls, you got an umbrella, you have support, you have resources, begin
Tim Winders:to acknowledge and thank God in it.
Tim Winders:And that's the stuff that you write.
Tim Winders:Don't focus on that.
Tim Winders:The car broke down and it just messed up.
Tim Winders:And I really hate this and nothing's working on my behalf.
Tim Winders:Focus on all the things that God is doing in consideration of that or despite
Tim Winders:that, or in light of that, focus on that.
Tim Winders:That's what intentional journaling is all about.
Tim Winders:Yeah, that, I think that's good, and I love
Tim Winders:that mindset and attitude.
Tim Winders:And I guess I do want to say, I mean, listen, God's there
Tim Winders:for the people that cry out.
Tim Winders:I cried out some even during COVID, and finally, I think God, I felt like
Tim Winders:God told me this within my heart.
Tim Winders:Quiet time, journaling time.
Tim Winders:He says, I've told you this multiple times.
Tim Winders:Are you going to keep asking and whining and all that the
Tim Winders:world system is crumbling.
Tim Winders:It always has been.
Tim Winders:And always will.
Tim Winders:Why do you act surprised and shocked by what all's going on
Tim Winders:around you with, with all of this?
Tim Winders:So I think it's so powerful.
Tim Winders:And the thing that I love about.
Tim Winders:Journaling and especially when you add that word intentional is that you can't
Tim Winders:Multitask when you're doing it we are in a world that everyone is so distracted
Tim Winders:They're trying to do like 15 things at once and if you're doing it, well in my
Tim Winders:opinion You can't multitask so we are pressed for time here, but you i've got
Tim Winders:your website pulled up here And I didn't realize you've got All kind of bundles
Tim Winders:and books and man, there's a lot here.
Tim Winders:Tell us about it.
Tim Winders:J Marie, tell us where people can get your stuff and find you or connect with you.
Tim Winders:Some people are probably going to want to connect with you.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Our website is affirmtheword.
Tim Winders:org.
Tim Winders:So very simple, just like our, most of our products.
Tim Winders:And of course we have our original affirm the word book.
Tim Winders:We do have our newest 52 week, prayer journal for women on that site.
Tim Winders:And about the next two weeks, we're coming out with a digital fillable version.
Tim Winders:of that prayer journal as well.
Tim Winders:However, for all those who feel like they have a story to tell, because I
Tim Winders:have women reach out to me all the time and say, you know, listen, I'm writing
Tim Winders:a book about, you know, women who are barren or women who've overcome trauma.
Tim Winders:We now have a new tab on our site that is specifically for authors
Tim Winders:where we've partnered with bookbaby.
Tim Winders:com so that we can help women who have already began to write their story.
Tim Winders:be able to finally publish it.
Tim Winders:So there are various packages there, And we also offer free resources that they can
Tim Winders:download right to their computers so that they can learn about how to self publish.
Tim Winders:They can learn about how to plan out the launch of a new book.
Tim Winders:If they're ready to publish the book, they can also go on that page
Tim Winders:if they want to consult with me.
Tim Winders:Another new resource that we'll be listing is a downloadable ebook, digital
Tim Winders:content, so that women can on a consistent basis, download more devotionals.
Tim Winders:We offer for this particular journal on the product page itself, a free printable
Tim Winders:download on how to use this for a journal.
Tim Winders:the first week is right there so that you can see some tips on how to use it,
Tim Winders:how to make the most of it, how to craft your affirmation so that right away
Tim Winders:before even having to go make a purchase.
Tim Winders:This is not only about us trying to quote unquote convert and make sales, but it's
Tim Winders:about you getting resources that you need so that you can right now start
Tim Winders:crafting your own spiritual practice and growing in your walk with God.
Tim Winders:When it comes to this intentional journaling, this doesn't take all day.
Tim Winders:If you can just devote five minutes to taking some time in the morning
Tim Winders:and just writing out one thing.
Tim Winders:And that's the one thing I love about this devotional that it's 52 weeks so
Tim Winders:that, you know, if you, it's not 365, if you miss a day or two, you haven't
Tim Winders:fallen off the wagon, like a treadmill.
Tim Winders:You have a whole week to sit there and meditate on this word that God has
Tim Winders:placed in your heart or meditate on the affirmation that you're crafting.
Tim Winders:So you can really focus and be intentional on internalizing that into your spirit.
Tim Winders:But secondly, I want to note that sometime life can get to a place where
Tim Winders:you get kicked so hard in your gut.
Tim Winders:you don't want to do anything.
Tim Winders:You don't want to journal.
Tim Winders:You don't want to pray.
Tim Winders:You don't want to talk to anything.
Tim Winders:Sometimes you don't want to get out the bed and with God is not so much
Tim Winders:just about you having a practice and you getting up at a certain amount
Tim Winders:of time and praying for 20 minutes.
Tim Winders:You can lie right in your bed and say, God, here I am.
Tim Winders:I don't got the strength to get up.
Tim Winders:I don't want to write anything.
Tim Winders:I don't want to pray about anything, but I know that you're here.
Tim Winders:I know that you love me.
Tim Winders:I know if I was able to get up and open up my eyes this morning
Tim Winders:and know who I am, that you still have a purpose and a plan for me.
Tim Winders:And I'm asking you to come and be with me right here, right now, and
Tim Winders:to wrap your arms around me and to reassure me that you love me.
Tim Winders:And to let me know that this is going to work out because I don't
Tim Winders:know what to do and I don't want to get up and even face another day.
Tim Winders:God still honors that.
Tim Winders:He still loves you.
Tim Winders:He knew that you would be here and he just desires to have fellowship with you.
Tim Winders:He's still in the midst of even the worst kind of chaos and loss, trying to
Tim Winders:love on you and get something to you.
Tim Winders:So no matter what, calling him, even in those situations, calling him
Tim Winders:right in the bed, calling him right in the chair, calling him right in
Tim Winders:the hospital and let him show up and show himself strong for you.
Tim Winders:That's good.
Tim Winders:Very, very good.
Tim Winders:And we'll, we'll include links down below for depending on where people
Tim Winders:are listening or watching this.
Tim Winders:One of the things, this is going to sound extremely superficial after that
Tim Winders:message you just gave is I actually love the spiral bound of some of them.
Tim Winders:my wife just got a spiral bound Bible and I've looked at him going, man, I
Tim Winders:love how this opens up and it lays so flat and you can write in it so well.
Tim Winders:So sorry to go from, you know, like you were.
Tim Winders:Man, super, super spiritual.
Tim Winders:J Marie, we are seek, go create those three words.
Tim Winders:And I'm going to allow you my last question to choose one of those seek, go
Tim Winders:or create that just means more to you.
Tim Winders:You like it, whatever.
Tim Winders:Seek, go or create.
Tim Winders:And why that's my final question for you.
Tim Winders:J Marie Jones: Go.
Tim Winders:And I like go, because as the word of God says in Mark 16, 15, that we're
Tim Winders:supposed to go out into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature.
Tim Winders:And a lot of people interpret that as meaning, you got to be in somebody's
Tim Winders:pulpit, but that's not what it's saying.
Tim Winders:You can be right at the bus stop.
Tim Winders:You can be right on your job.
Tim Winders:You could be walking down the street and encounter somebody the whole point is to
Tim Winders:just have an open heart of willingness To, as God leads you, you're open
Tim Winders:and available to speak, to serve, to lend, to essentially go and do either
Tim Winders:of any of those things at any given time, depending on what the Lord leads.
Tim Winders:That, that's the word that most resonates with me because that's where my heart is.
Tim Winders:I desire to go wherever God wants me to go, do whatever it is he wants me to do.
Tim Winders:and, you know, being a PK and being in ministry, This whole long
Tim Winders:time, sometimes I get like a little bit, are you sure about that?
Tim Winders:Because it's still like, okay, is God going to send me over to Broadway,
Tim Winders:Junction train station and have me stand on the milk cart and preaching.
Tim Winders:I mean, that's still there.
Tim Winders:When you say anywhere you want me to go and anything you want me to do.
Tim Winders:And sadly, we always think about God sending us do the worst things.
Tim Winders:When I found that when you say, God, send me, I'll go.
Tim Winders:He send you to the places that you would enjoy being in, that
Tim Winders:you will feel at peace being in.
Tim Winders:Even if they may not be the most comfortable in your heart, you're at rest.
Tim Winders:You're at peace.
Tim Winders:You have a divine supernatural joy because you know that you're doing what you're
Tim Winders:supposed to do at the right time in the right place for the right purpose.
Tim Winders:And that's why that word resonates with me the most.
Tim Winders:That is awesome.
Tim Winders:J Marie, thank you.
Tim Winders:So many great nuggets, so many great, I think it's going to be
Tim Winders:great clips and all that are going to come from this conversation.
Tim Winders:I appreciate the time.
Tim Winders:I encourage everyone to go check out affirmtheword.
Tim Winders:org.
Tim Winders:There'll be links down in the notes and just check it out.
Tim Winders:I'm sitting here looking at the site and just, there's just some beautiful things.
Tim Winders:I appreciate everyone listening in at the show.
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